Muhammad Alshareef – Forgive & Forget

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			I'll forgive but I'll never forget
		

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			Good Mood Morning Vietnam. Today inshallah Tada. We are talking about forgiveness, not necessarily
talking about forgiveness of you forgiving other people but I'm talking about the forgiveness of
Allah subhanaw taala that's what we're talking about. But a lot of you it caught in your mind is
forgiven not forgive
		

			So remind me at the end, inshallah Donna, maybe I'll, I'll mention it. So
		

			I was once in Australia, in Australia, and I was in this town called the Keynes. And if you
pronounce it the way it's spelled, it's pronounced Karen's, but they are over there. They say,
Keynes. So I'm in Keynes, Australia, and I'm going scuba diving, you know, one of those assisted
scuba diving where they just put the thing in your mouth, and you're just like in it in a fish tank.
And they weren't giving us this briefing before we went underwater. And they said, as we went into
this briefing, they said a lot of people their number one fear in the deep water out in the open is
sharks. Most people are afraid of sharks. And so the instructor has explained to us that the shark
		

			is not the most dangerous predator out there in the water. Do you guys know what the most dangerous
predator is in the water? This is Australia. What's the most dangerous predator? I'll give you 10
seconds to to write that down. And we got referred just from Melbourne. We're talking about
Australia. Okay, so I'll give you 10 seconds to tell me in the comments. What do you think and it is
not sharks. What is the most dangerous thing that somebody will face when going in the water? Dina
says Stingray I'll give you guys 10 seconds. Somebody else said Stingray. Jellyfish. Patricia says
jellyfish. Who else type your answers before the thing as Matt says jellyfish.
		

			Alright, so the most dangerous is ambitious as of now. So the most dangerous is the box jellyfish?
The answer is the box jellyfish. So when you think of jellyfish, you're thinking what jellies and
fish and this little cute this little cute jellyfish thing. It doesn't sound very scary. Actually.
It was a very long time since I, since I looked up if you see a box jellyfish. Oh my god, it's like
from your nightmares.
		

			box jellyfish. So actually, I'll tell you, I'll tell you the box of jellyfish. If you guys saw
Finding Nemo, the box jellyfish is the scene where
		

			the dad and Dory are going through an area that has all these jellyfish, and their tentacles are
coming down. And they I think Dory accidentally touches one of the jellyfish and they get stung and
she almost dies. So that's the that's the box jellyfish. And it is very scary and it's very
dangerous. So here's what's dangerous about the box jellyfish.
		

			And, and also when it comes to snakes, so when you get bitten, if you get bitten or stung by this,
the jellyfish, as the instructor was
		

			Louisiana says it's a pretty pink ones. Yes.
		

			The what's dangerous about it is that
		

			you will die within something like 30 minutes, something like that some, I'm making that number up,
but you will die you get stung by a box jellyfish, you will die.
		

			The amount of time that it takes to take somebody from where they're swimming to the hospital where
they can get treated and get the poison out of their body is too long, and you will die before that.
That's how intense this box jellyfish is. So
		

			the point that I wanted to make is
		

			whether it's a snake bite or any type of bite, it's not the bite that will kill you. It is the
poison that remains with you after the bite. And if that poison isn't removed, then that's where the
harm comes in. So there's a hadith of the prophets of Allah who sent him that when somebody commits
a sin when somebody commits a sin, a black dot forms on their heart, when a person does Toba and
asks forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala that black.is cleansed. And if a person doesn't do Toba
to Allah subhanaw taala the black dots stays there, the rust stays there. And if a person continues
to sin and not repenting to Allah continues to sin, now repenting to Allah that rust piles up piles
		

			of piles up until it's it seals the heart. And then Allah subhanaw taala says can bend around Allah
could OBEY HIM McHenry xe bone that know that you know the arguments that they make with the
prophets that Allah is set up. Allah subhanaw taala says it's not these arguments. The real issue is
that it's the rust on their heart because of what they used to do. So today in sha Allah Tada one
		

			wanted to share with you how to fight fear, how to fight fear and become at peace. When you look at
Allah subhanaw taala as forgiveness when you look at Allah subhanaw taala is forgiveness and that
those doors of forgiveness are always open for whoever chooses to turn back to Allah subhanaw taala
day, day in, day out, so the first one Allah subhanaw taala says
		

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			in this verse, Allah subhanaw Medina says while in Nevada Mo and for some and if only when they did
vote to themselves, that they came to you Joka for stuff for Allah stop for a llama Rasul that Allah
Subhana Allah to Allah forgave them
		

			that they sought that forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala and they asked for good from the
messenger, Allah subhana Donna says Lohja De La Hoya to Weber Rahima that if they saw that
forgiveness, they would find that Allah subhanaw taala is the acceptor of repentance and dispenser
of grapes. Like what are the law had to Weber Rahima if only they come back to Allah, they would
find Allah subhanaw Medina to Weber Rahima
		

			and the verse that often gets recited Allah subhanaw taala says, What is the arriba dn ladina and
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			Allah subhanaw taala says about about those slaves. Oh my slaves, who has who have transgressed all
bounds law Takato but Rahmatullah don't lose hope in the in the Mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. And
that's Allah subhanaw taala calling us telling us don't ever lose hope How does that make you feel?
When you read that in the Quran and Allah subhanaw taala is telling you don't lose hope in the Mercy
of Allah and if you all if they only came to Allah, that they would find Allah subhanaw taala to
wobble Rahima
		

			and another verse, Allah subhana wa Tada says, well Mia Min Soo and we have Lim Neff, some awesome
master will fit in. The master will fit in La Jolla, JD love of war, Anwar Hema, ALLAH SubhanA data
says Romania Ahmed saw an O yo for them NAFSA that whoever does evil or sins against themselves, so
my Estelle fit Allah and then asks Allah subhanaw taala for forgiveness Yejide la have a full on
Rahima they would surely find Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, Allah for on Rahima the one who always
forgives the one who always is the Giver of Mercy and this is Allah subhanho wa Taala when somebody
comes back, Allah so they would find ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada or fooled on Rahima there's a hadith in
		

			which the prophets of Allah they send him said
		

			that and I love this this whenever you know a sin is committed and I'm feeling down because of that,
and I'm not perfect. This hadith The Prophet said Allah they sent him said, if you are a people who
didn't sin, if you were a people who didn't sin, then Allah subhanaw taala would get rid of you.
Allah subhanaw taala would get rid of you and bring another people who would sin and then ask Allah
for forgiveness and then Allah would forgive that. So ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. So the point is, and I
and I see this a lot, you know, people come to the masjid come to help us come to Sonic reminders,
and they feel like they don't belong because they've sinned. But it's actually doesn't make sense
		

			because we all commit sins could look at the Mahabharata as the prophets of Allah listeners and
every one commit sins. Well how you don't have been in until I've been in the best of those
committed sins are those who repent to Allah subhanaw taala the most so it's not that that oh, you
can only comment you're only welcome if you're sinless. Oh, dear brother, dear sister, only sinless
people are allowed to that's not the case. Allah subhanaw taala created us that we commit these sins
and then we asked Allah subhanaw taala for forgiveness Yeji de la have a full on Rahima they will
find Allah subhanaw taala of fuhren Rahima has a floor and Rahim
		

			so that's my reminder for today and I'm actually going to bring up the issue because in the
beginning as we were waiting to, to kick off somebody mentioned that I forgive but I don't forget
		

			yet and I said that I would address it but let me finish off this reminder and then I'll address the
part about forgiving and not forgetting from a human's perspective.
		

			So, the action that we want to that we want to take is asking Allah subhanaw taala for forgiveness,
I said this in the beginning when we first started these reminders, I one of the ones that I said
and I love it, I want to say it again, is that we should ask Allah for forgiveness 100 times in a
day, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said tubo it Allah He was still futile, to repent to Allah and
ask for forgiveness. For verily, I repent to Allah, the prophets of Allah Islam, I repent to Allah
subhanaw Dona in a day more than 100 times. And so that should also be our attitude. If you ever
sitting down and feeling sitting in your house and feeling a little down, just just do your stuff,
		

			ah, stuff for a lot of stuff that Allah stuff Allah, maybe you don't have time to do 100 do 10 do
five do one, but make it that constant asking Allah subhanaw data for forgiveness of stuff that
Allah stuff Allah for Allah. If you've been doing that any kind of slack, then this is a reminder to
pick it back up again. If you're doing it. I'm dilla conservation. So that's it for our reminder,
let me address that topic of
		

			I'll forgive but I don't forget.
		

			So and I was saying that um, so this is a different topic here. This is like q&a Right now we've
started into q&a.
		

			I'll forgive but I won't forget that somebody forwarded me this WhatsApp message that says, you
know, oh, Ramadan is coming around the corner. So I will. I will start my Ramadan by forgiving
everyone. So I responded back that I felt that that was kind of arrogance to this person saying that
they're going to start Ramadan for giving everybody the reason I felt that it was a little arrogant
is because this person, why don't you start Ramadan by asking people for forgiveness? Why is it that
everybody wronged you, and you're the angel. So we all commit sins, and we all harm other people.
And we also are harmed, it's part of being human. And if we approached life, as everybody's out
		

			against me, everybody's like, everybody's devil, and I'm the one angel walking amongst all these
devils than I don't believe that's the right paradigm and the right attitude to have we all have our
ups, we all have our downs. We all have our dark sides, and we all have our bright side. So having
said that, we want to start Ramadan, asking people to forgive us because we're not perfect, and
inshallah Tada forgiving other people as well. So let me give you a great story about this.
		

			There was a great story about this.
		

			What's crashed my brain is there's a there's a reflection of mine on the story. So I'm trying to
figure out whether to tell you the reflection or let me start with the reflection. So I was this a
long time ago, many years ago. Hey, Bassam welcome. It's about time you tuned in for my lies.
		

			I know it's that investment. Okay, so
		

			many years ago, I was once in a city and won't mention the city. And I gave a hookah. And, and, and
I said something in the HIPAA. And somebody started spreading rumors about me. So I'm putting me
down dissing me. And, and I was very angry, I won't go into the details of what the DIS was. Now's
not the place to do that. But I was so angry. So I kind of like I did that, you know, I want to
punch this person in the face. I'm gonna
		

			slap them. I'm like, I was so angry. And this is like my young days, right? Just, you know, somebody
says something is you just get so angry. So my wife saw me responding like that. And she basically
was like saying, Your, I don't know if there's kids watching. So I would tell you that.
		

			She was like you, you keep quiet. You keep quiet. Don't talk like that. That's not respectful
watcher, watch your mouth, this and that. So my wife kind of like fix me up. So at night, I was
like, you know, what's the point of me getting angry at this person? What's the point of me getting
angry at this person? And I thought of this following story. So this is the story. And I want you to
guys hear the story. Because this is what you can do. In when you want to forgive somebody who
doesn't care if you forgive them. How do you forgive somebody? If they don't get like you go to
somebody and say, I forgive you. And then and then they say in response, I don't care if you forgive
		

			me. So how do you forgive somebody that doesn't care if you forgive them? This is the lesson pay
attention to this
		

			So the prophets have a lot of them said there was a man that used to in the times before the
prophesy some of the other other prophets that prophesy, some is explaining that he used to go
around and lend money to people, he would go out and lend money to people. And then when the time
for the bill collection would come,
		

			when the time for the bill collection would come, he would send his bill collectors, and he would
say to them, Go and see if this person needs more time.
		

			And if they need more time than forgive them, you know, whenever we think of bill collectors, we
think of people with bats and you know, hitting people on the knees, right? This man is saying to
his bill collectors, go and find these people. And if they need more time, then forgive them.
Perhaps Allah will forgive us. Okay, so listen to what he said,
		

			Go and collect my this money. And if this person needs more time, then give them more time forgive
them, Perhaps Allah will forgive us. And so the Prophet said, Allah, they sent him said, so Allah
forgave him that so long as that's his attitude to other human beings. That's how Allah subhanaw
taala would treat him. So back to my story. I was sitting there saying, like, Hey, this guy insulted
me and I was getting angry, and he doesn't care if I forgive him or not. This is what I said to
myself. I said, Oh Allah, I forgive this brother for what he said.
		

			So that you will forgive me and treat me in the same way. I will forgive this brother for what he
said so that you Oh, Allah can treat me in the same way so that I can make it my characteristic to
forgive others so that Allah you would be forgiving to me. And so the connection then, and I said
that that's how you forgive somebody who doesn't care if you forgive them or not, that you make it
your characteristic, you forgive them so that Allah subhanaw taala would forgive you and also in the
future, maybe you'll come across somebody who you did wrong to but because you always forgave
people, maybe Allah subhanaw taala bless you that this person whom you're wrong will also treat you
		

			in the same way Allah Tada
		

			and that's it. Forgive us so forgiving enough for getting out forgive but not forget, I said that
that's a really dumb attitude to have. Because what you're saying to a person is if somebody hurts
you, and they and they poisoned you the poison is in your body, and you say to the person I will
forgive you, you go on with your life and I will make sure that the poison stays in my body for my
whole life. I will never forget I will keep this poison and even if you die, I will still keep the
poison inside so if anything, you know the person you know you hear this The person who benefits
most from for for from forgiving people is yourself. You're the one who benefits and if you don't
		

			forgive the person, you're the one you're only harming yourself that person doesn't know if you
forgave them or not. And I say sometimes they've been passed away and you're still holding the
poison in your bloodstream so that's why I say that that attitude of all forgiven I'm not forget is
the dumbest thing ever. Instead, I will replace it for you with something better do this I forgive
this person so that Allah subhanaw taala can treat me in the same way the merciful if I treat people
with mercy I hope that Allah subhanaw Dona will treat me with Mercy I'll forgive people
		

			so that Allah subhana Dada hopefully will treat me in the same way Allah awesome that's it. We're
done.
		

			Finished we'll Mahana
		

			this question sorrows asking are we allowed to forgive but still maintain boundaries out of fear of
being harmed again? Yeah, for sure you can maintain that kind of stuff is just like protects I
forgive them. But you know what, let's not be friends anymore. Let's just be you know, Sisters in
Islam. You know, if if she sneezes you say or hammock Allah, if she or call 911 If she passes away,
you attend her funeral. If she has a will leave and she invites you you attended, but you don't have
to be best friends. So if you're just you don't want to hurt the person they say SNAM you say like
mister I'm back. Those are the rights of a Muslim to another Muslim. You fulfill the rights after
		

			that you don't have to be best friends. So yeah.
		

			No works.
		

			Anybody else one last question.
		

			But it's hard to forget
		

			what else could this mean?
		

			Alright guys
		

			we're done. I don't want to hold you guys too long. We'll see you. We'll see you tomorrow in sha
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