Mufti Menk – Sacrifice in Marriage

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.
		

			smilla when hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. While he was happy he is my,
		

			my beloved brothers and sisters, we have gathered here to witness the official creation of a nikka a
marriage in Islam a very, very simple procedure, where there is a proposal and an acceptance was
mentioned that is made of a little gift that is to be given from the male to the female, in the
presence of witnesses. And generally, this would be done, either in the house of Allah preferably,
or elsewhere.
		

			I want to spend just a few moments explaining to you something extremely interesting.
		

			Why is marriage so important in Islam? Why are we are encouraged to get married, the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam has encouraged us, Allah subhanho wa Taala has encouraged us. In fact, even if a
person has lost their spouse, through death, or through divorce, they are encouraged to pick up the
pieces as soon as possible, and get married again.
		

			This is an encouragement that is connected to something
		

			you know, it is considered a huge portion of your faith to get married. Have you ever asked yourself
why? What is the big deal? You know, in our language, that's what people would say, simple, because
when you get married, you have opened a huge door of very, very difficult acts of worship, that you
are going to have to undertake, and you will earn a reward through that. So Panama. So you now are a
responsible person, it's an act of worship, so hon Allah, you will need to go out and earn a living,
it's an act of worship, you have new relatives who might think differently from you to be able to
get along with them is an act of worship, to be easygoing is an act of worship, to be able to
		

			correct them with a gentle tapping in a nice way, when they're going wrong is an act of worship, you
may have children, it's an act of worship, to look after them, to nurture them to provide for them.
They might think a little bit differently from you as time passes, to be able to balance between
their thinking with their generation, and perhaps yours or mine with our generation and perhaps our
folks and our parents if they're still alive, which makes them grandparents. All of that is not easy
to juggle. It requires great patience and suffer. It requires a lot in terms of sacrifice. That is
what makes you a good Muslim. Are you ready to sacrifice If the answer is yes, well, Mashallah a
		

			huge door of act of acts of worship has just been opened for you. And here goes, here's your chance
to prove your mettle to shine to rise for the sake of Allah. It is a great sacrifice. Yes. The day
of Nika is a happy day. It's a joyous day. We call it the honeymoon, Subhana Allah, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us perpetual days of goodness, such that they get better as the years pass.
I mean, it's a very great responsibility. It's also a concern, some struggle with a bit of anxiety
because they don't know the waters that they have just gotten into. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help
us to fulfill each other's rights. That's why it's a big act of worship, especially if a person has
		

			been married. They've either been widowed, or they've lost their spouse through some form of, you
know, loss, either.
		

			Divorce as well. It's a very big sacrifice, to nurture and raise the children of others to be able
to respect them. It's a duty the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did it. If you take a look at
his marriages, he only married those who are divorced or widowed. That's what it is. And he took
care of the children of everybody else. So panela amazing. One only he married who was never married
before. That was a Sharia law. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant is a true understanding. Some
people think that you know, when you're getting married, you should never ever consider someone
who's widowed or divorced, because why should you? The reality is if you want to follow the Sunnah
		

			of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, then that's what he did. That's exactly what he did suppiler law
and you can imagine there are children of other people involved. There's a lot that you're going to
have to participate in. There is a lot of there will be challenges you're going to have to be
easygoing you there is a lot of character that you're going to have to develop there. All of this
will prove your mettle. This will what will result in your agenda ultimately, and like I say it is
the true following of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam so we ask Allah
subhanho wa Taala to bless every one of us at
		

			I spoke for five minutes. But I think it was a very important message for all of us to say Let's
work hard. Let's work on our relationships and our marriages. It's going to be a sacrifice, it's
going to be a challenge, be a little bit easygoing. That doesn't mean you don't correct people when
they are wrong. We correct them when they are wrong in a beautiful way. If you have been corrected,
don't feel like you are judged. You're not judged. People are just advising you out of love out of
care. You see a man on the street walking around with a bottle or doing whatever else you don't care
so you don't even bother. But when you care for them, you tell them listen, son, Listen, my child,
		

			you know, listen to my brother or my sister, this is not a good thing. The idea is not to embarrass
someone, but to be able to correct them in a beautiful way. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us
accept correction and may He make us from among those who can correct others in a beautiful way.
That having been said, still my brothers and sisters, I have to say, the sacrifice that we will all
put into our relationships in general, your own brother, your own parents, your children, whoever it
may be, is something that actually shows who you are. You know a person is valued by two things. I
mentioned it in the Jumeirah person is valued by two things. Taco Allah He was not
		

			the consciousness of Allah which is known only by Allah, Allah knows your relationship with him. No
one else can tell. This person is a good ducky. Perhaps they can guess, but they can't tell. The
second thing is
		

			greatness of character and conduct that everybody can see. They can witness how do you make someone
feel when you greet them? When you talk to them? How do you actually address people? All this makes
you as a person, it will increase your value or it will decrease your value. So we ask Allah
subhanho wa Taala to make us conscious of these things. Let's learn to actually be the best of
people work on yourself. Work on your character. Work on how you talk people or to people cut out
bad words. They don't need to be in your vocabulary. Most problems occur when people don't know what
to say or how to say it. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala as guidance inshallah. I will proceed
		

			immediately with the Nika I'm going to do it in the simplest possible form, where I'm going to say a
few words of guidance and advice within what is known as the Atma. It will be in the Arabic
language. Thereafter I will proceed to ask a few questions that will be self explanatory inshallah.