Mufti Menk – I want to marry a DIVORCED or WIDOWED person!

			Assalamualaikum my brothers and sisters, marrying a divorced person is not bad at all. In fact,
sometimes it is the best decision, you could have made. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
mostly married those who were divorced or widowed, in fact, almost only married those who were
previously married, besides our share of your loved one, if this was a bad thing, he would have
never done it. In fact, there are many brilliant people who have had to go through divorce, for some
reason or another. It does not mean that because you went through a divorce, you're a bad person. In
fact, sometimes the best of people, those whom you would never regret marrying, are actually
		

			previously married. They're divorced or widowed, we as Muslims are encouraged to look at people and
to value them based on who they are based on their own character conduct and their level of
relationship with Allah, whether they were married or not previously is irrelevant. In fact, the
best of men are those who can take care of selflessly, the children of others. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala, grant us ease that is a big one. This would mean if you have a widow who has a child or two
or three or more, and there is a man who is prepared to take that widow as his wife, and to consider
those children as his own in terms of looking after them, and to fulfilling whatever he can have
		

			their own needs. And whatever they need in order to grow up in a beautiful way, he would definitely
achieve a far greater reward than those who couldn't even be bothered those who are not prepared to
engage in that type of a sacrifice. And at times, Allah blesses you with so much of favor as a
result, and grants you so much in return that you would never have imagined. May Allah subhanahu wa
taala Grant has a deep understanding. There are many out there who have been previously married
looking for spouses, sometimes people don't even consider them at a loss or those families who don't
want their own children to marry those who were previously married simply because they went through
		

			divorce. It could have been you, it could have been your spouse, it could have been your child. It
could have been anyone. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us all goodness and help us to understand
that people are actually good, but shavonne is bad. Yes, it's not bad to know why they went through
a divorce. But whenever you hear the reason from the ex wife or ex husband, you may have a little
bit of salt and pepper added as flavoring regarding the reason of divorce. But it's good to know to
keep it in your mind. Sometimes if it is very bad. You may want to find out if the person has
changed. Some people have had a past but they've changed. But mostly those who go through divorce
		

			did not even have a past. They were probably brilliant people who simply didn't get along because of
their differences, whether they were cultural differences, some other differences of likes and
dislikes etc. does not make them bad people my brothers and sisters learn to consider those who were
divorced when getting married. We Allah grant us goodness, in fact, before I end let me say, learn
to consider the widows before you get married. And those of us who have children or siblings who
want to or who are considering someone who has previously married, support them, encourage them, be
there for them and inshallah we will be heading in the right direction. May Allah grant us goodness
		

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.