Mufti Menk – Effects of calling your children bad names

			Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh my brothers and sisters, when you address your children,
make sure that you use loving words, they begin to believe the words that you use for them, or when
addressing them. If you were to call them bad words, you know, whatever those bad words are, they
begin to believe those words and they do develop a mental problem at times, psychological,
emotional, so much damage. And it sometimes is traced back to simple words that you used on your own
loved ones that were derogatory, low, cheap words. Please don't do that. Use words of love and
respect, even when correcting them. You can correct them, you can actually reprimand them but using
		

			respectful terms. Now we do have people who have a habit of using the cheapest and the worst of
words, you call your child with names of animals, you call your child, saying that they're stupid,
idiot, fake, whatever else it may be, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from those who are
conscious of this. It definitely causes damage in the long term, they definitely develop a complex
that is very, very dangerous. So I thought I'd just pause for a moment to say if you really fear
Allah. And if you're really concerned about the day you're going to be meeting with Allah. Then
address people with respect even when you disagree with them completely, especially your children
		

			when reprimanding them, when correcting them, when telling them something when guiding them teaching
them. Remember to use the best words and the most respectful words. Because I promise you, Allah is
going to ask you about this and you won't have a reply. When, when your children struggle and
suffer, remember, the evil of that will come back to haunt you. Because you were so careless when
you had these children they belong to Allah. Did you know that children do not belong to us? We're
temporary, we temporarily can call them ours but the actual ownership is ullas. And this is manifest
when we say in not in LA or in la hora. Joan, we belong to Allah and unto him We shall return. So
		

			Allah has given you the temporary custodianship or guardianship of this child and he will take the
child at any time or he will separate you at any time. And you're responsible, Allah will question
you and ask you so you cannot just do or say what you want with your own child. But rather remember
it is the creature of Allah, belonging to Allah made sure that you have used the best and most
respectful words, I thought I'd spend a moment because too many children are complaining of
problems, the mothers are losing their cools, the fathers are actually using derogatory terms.
They're being abused verbally, and even Otherwise, this type of abuse is unacceptable. And remember,
		

			it's your duty, you're going to be asked about it. So let's be more responsible and let's be true
Muslims. May Allah bless us all and make us more conscious of this. May we seek forgiveness from our
own children and make amends before it is too late. And also may we use beautiful, loving, kind,
respectful words, when addressing our children. We will empower them in the right direction. Baraka
Luffy calm a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.