Mufti Menk – Contentment from Revelation Series 2019 – EP08 – Divorce

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			salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was
Salam. O Allah Rasool Allah, Allah, Allah, he was happy to join. My brothers and sisters divorce is
taking place more than ever before. More than half of those who are getting married are actually
divorcing at some point some within the first few years of marriage, is it because people don't know
why we are getting married? Is it because people are not prepared to sacrifice? Is it because we are
focused on something we're not supposed to be focused upon? Is it because we haven't developed our
character and conduct? These are questions that scream for answers. May Allah subhanho wa Taala,
		

			grant us goodness, Allah says that yes, divorce may happen. As a last resort, divorce will happen,
it is happening. But when it does happen, be even more respectful after the divorce than you were
within the marriage. Because there are rights that you need to fulfill after divorce that are so
crucial to your contentment. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us happiness. Someone had a bad
marriage. Unfortunately, they tried everything. And then they divorced. When you divorce, you
divorced in order to gain contentment. If you don't play your cards right thereafter, you will lose
contentment in a bigger way than what was in the marriage in that marriage that didn't work. So what
		

			are these rules and regulations? Number one, be very respectful. Number two, Don't utter bad words
about your ex. Number three, if there are children involved, make sure the custody and access is
sorted out in a fair way. The person is biologically the father or the mother. They have rights.
Remember to fulfill those rights with respect. If you don't, you will lose your contentment. You
will lose your sleep you will lose your health. You will lose the pleasure of the Almighty and there
is no way that you are going to succeed. Don't let innocent children suffer and don't bad mouth your
ex Look what Allah subhanho wa Taala says, We're aiming for Rocco nilah, who couldn't say it he was
		

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			If you finally and ultimately separate the two of you, if you have separated ultimately Allah says
he will provide for both of you from his virtue, from his mercy from his kindness from his goodness,
he will provide for both of you, for indeed, His provision is very broad, he is very wise Subhan
Allah.
		

			So Allah says, will cater for both, but you need to be respectful, you need to be kind, you need to
be very, very mindful of the fact that this person was your spouse at one stage, you will not
achieve anything by uttering bad ugly words thereafter, and trying to prove who was wrong will not
help you at all remember this? These are some golden words. And I think many people lose their
contentment after a divorce. Yet the whole reason of the divorce was in order to be content. The
reason is, they go wrong in playing the cards after the divorce. And they don't understand it's
Allah and Allah is plan that will grant you contentment, nothing else. May Allah subhanho wa Taala.
		

			Grant us goodness, yes. If you need to say something or bear witness for someone, respectfully
privately to say, this is what happened. That's why I actually ended up divorcing, sometimes you
might want to be married again. And your future spouse might ask you what went wrong, it is their
right to ask you if they want to know they might want to hear your side of the story. And they might
want to find out the other side as well. It needs to be presented respectfully. I would prefer if
someone were to say, the two of us were reasonable people, we didn't get along. We were both good,
but we had different likes or dislikes or habits etc. The nature was different. And you say
		

			something respectful. But if a person were to insult and if a person were to become very low in
their character and conduct, they would lose contentment. So Allah subhanho wa Taala thereafter, in
Surah, Nisa also reminds us of something interesting regarding prayer. We pray, I'd like to hope we
pray five times a day because we're Muslim. If you're a Muslim, you should be praying five times a
day. But my brothers and sisters, when we pray, don't be lazy. Don't get up in a lazy fashion.
Sometimes I've corrected myself and I still keep correcting myself. When I think to myself, we say
to each other. Hang on. I've got 15 minutes. Let me quickly pray and I'll be back. The word quickly
		

			is out of sync. It should not be there. Why should you say let me quickly pray. I'll be back in in a
minute. Don't say that. When it comes to Allah. Take your time. Pray. It might be the last prayer
		

			That you ever going to get a chance to pray Subhana Allah so let's try and word our things
correctly. Don't say okay let me quickly dash into the mosquito I'll be back. Why it's the house of
Allah Take your time. Don't use those words. Even if you are in a rush. Don't use those words you
can go and quickly come back but don't say I'm going to quickly go because you may lose contentment
contentment is found in Salah contentment is found in the house of Allah. contentment is found in
the obedience of Allah. If you were to rush through that, you would be compromising that
contentment. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says in verse number 142, of Surah Nisa was either comme
		

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			Allah is describing the hypocrites and he says when they stand up for prayer, they stand very, very
lazy, they're lazy. They're standing by the way, and it's like a big burden on them. That's
hypocrisy. Stay far from hypocrisy. Don't let Salah be a burden. Many of us when our children watch
us fulfill Salah, they don't want to read Salah. The reason is, they see us lazy when it comes to
Salah. It's like a chore. It's so burdensome, but if they saw us smiling, happily getting up
beautiful, getting up for salah and, you know, being with such good character with a good expression
on your face, your children will want to fulfill the Salah because they know mom is always happy
		

			when she's with Allah. Dad is always smiling when he's going to the masjid etc. They will want that
contentment as well. So let's learn to correct the expressions on our faces and we will achieve
contentment. here Allah is saying the hypocrites are those whom they don't remember Allah much. What
do they do? They don't remember Allah subhanho wa Taala much. They they want to show off to the
people and they want to they want to show off rather than showing off to Allah to the wrong people.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us contentment it's a very beautiful point. We move on to the next
Surah Surah Toma EDA
		

			and Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about the importance of halal, halal and haram to make sure that
you consume that which is halal. If you would like contentment stay away from that which is
prohibited. How do you expect happiness, contentment and goodness when what you're putting in your
mouth is unclean, impure and filled with the displeasure of Allah. So this is why Allah subhanho wa
Taala tells us in many verses in pseudotumor EDA
		

			beginning with verse number four Allah says
		

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			They're asking you what is permissible for them to consume tell them that all that which is pure and
good is permissible. Amazing. This verse has a double meaning. On one hand Allah is saying that
which is pure and good is permissible. And he is also saying whatever is permissible is definitely
pure and good, amazing. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us from those who are really keen on
knowing what is halal what is haram, because the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says there will
come a time close to the end, when people will not be bothered whether they're eating from halal or
haram and eating from halal or haram is not only about whether the animal was slaughtered in a
		

			proper way, but it's also connected to whether you earned your money in a pure way. And whether
there was deception in it or not. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us contentment through the
consumption of the food that we we eat rather have less that is halal than to have more that is
haram and forbidden. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us something else which will also bring
about much contentment. Sometimes we get angry with people we're upset with people, we dislike
people and we become unjust with those people because of our dislike for them. Allah warns us in
this regard verse number eight of pseudotumor either listen to how beautifully he words it
		

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Commissioner, no caminada Allah Allah ta Dino De Novo upon omoni. Tata Docomo, O you who believe
stand firm for justice, stand firm for justice for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And don't
let your dislike for people lead you to injustice against them for that reason. May Allah subhanho
wa Taala protect us. Allah says be just for it is better regarding or
		

			It is better for your relationship with Allah. When you are just it is better regarding the taqwa
that Allah subhanho wa Taala has instructed you to achieve. And Allah says, Be conscious of Allah at
all times. Remember, Allah is watching you. When you dislike someone, it doesn't mean you need to
peddle bad about them. It doesn't mean you should be unjust and lie about them simply because you
dislike him. Whether you like them or not, you must be just, we go back to a story of Sheree Harvey,
he was a judge at the time of Alabama be part of your law one. And there was a certain discrepancy
between allier of the Allahu anhu and a Jewish man. And sure I knew that earlier of the Allahu anhu
		

			was actually speaking the truth, but due to evidence he he ruled in favor of the Jewish man. As a
result, the Jewish man actually entered the fold of Islam when he saw the justice, that even against
the halifa there was actually a ruling made, which means because these people had actually ruled in
favor of someone perhaps they may have disliked. I've actually now embraced this whole faith,
because it proves that No way. They're just people imagine our justice against our own friends we
are failing. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding, and May He grant us
goodness. When Allah subhanho wa Taala in verse number 27 makes mention of the story of Adam, the
		

			children of Adam, what happened with them, they lost contentment because they became jealous.
Jealousy makes you lose contentment. Remember, one of the sons of Adam alayhis salam became jealous
of the other as a result, he lost contentment. Allah says, what, loyally him in a minute how is
		

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			recite the verses of the children of Adam recite the story in these verses of the children of Adam
hobbylink kaabil Abel and Cain were Subhanallah one of them had actually said that he would kill the
other because the sacrifice that he had made was accepted and the one from Cain was not accepted.
This caused a great disturbance in mankind it caused murder and lack of contentment, which resulted
in great crime. Remember, be happy with what Allah has bestowed upon you. Be happy for others don't
become jealous. When you're happy for others and what Allah has given them. Allah will grant you
contentment, it is a very difficult quality to achieve. May Allah grant that to us akula Kali hada
		

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