Mufti Menk – Advice upon the Nikah of Abdullah Zaheed via Zoom

			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah he was on he was
happy as my in my shell metabolic Allah. We just heard a beautiful recitation. And Allah Subhana
Allah Allah has indeed favored us to be a part of this beautiful. This beautiful day today. May
Allah Almighty accepted from all of us and grant us goodness, and May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless
the bride and the groom, the couple that are coming together with the goodness that he mentions,
when he says when Latina coluna habarana mean as well, Gina with the Tina kurata union will Jelena
deanwood kena EMA where Allah is describing the duality of the true believers in the Most Merciful,
		

			where he is clearly saying that they are the ones who have made dua for their spouses and their
offspring. So that the two things could happen primarily, number one is that they are the coolness
of each other's eyes. And number two is that they become leaders of those who are pious, those who
are conscious of Allah, which means that they themselves would be learning, practicing conveying to
others in a way that they become leaders. So that is, do we ask Allah to make the bride and the
groom both, and the families and all of us from among those who are more conscious of their duty
unto Allah subhanho wa Taala and make us all leaders of the righteous leaders of the pious, make us
		

			pious to begin with? I mean, I mean, your blood I mean, I want to commence by thanking the groom and
the bride and the families, for having me on this beautiful day, although I'm speaking to you from
Africa, very, very far away. But I feel connected and I feel a part of this, most of those.
Probably, I know most of you and you will probably know me too. All this connection is feasability
law. It is only in the cause of Allah for the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You know, when we
have a couple that come together, generally the prophets Allah Sallam used to advise or seize the
opportunity to advise on an occasion where people gathered. So people gathered for example, like
		

			this Nika and the process Allah would tell them to be conscious of Allah he would read a few verses
of the Quran he would address the youth they are Mashallah Shabaab man is Tata. I mean, komaba at
affiliate as Overwatch, increasing the encouragement of getting married to say if you're able and
capable, don't delay, get married, and at the same time, make it easy for your children to get
married. Because that is within the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, I want to kick off by
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			the issue of taqwa is very important, it is repeated in most of the verses, and especially the
verses of Cotabato hijab, which at times is also recited during a Hookah Bar as of nikka when it
comes to advising the people and so on, so, you look at taqwa. Yeah, you and Medina. armano. Tequila
Oh, you believe develop the taqwa of Allah. taqwa itself is an encyclopedia of meaning. And
primarily it's developing the correct relationship with Allah, having enough fear that would keep
you away from sin, and having enough hope that would make you you know, turn to him at all times,
having enough love of Allah subhanho wa Taala that would make you do the right things obey His
		

			instruction and command. If we have those qualities when we get married, nothing can go wrong.
Nothing can actually go wrong when you have Taqwa. Because taqwa is the cornerstone of everything,
and everything good and taqwa is the main ingredient of ultimate success in the dunya as well as in
the AF Hara. So remember, our lives should be a journey of development of taqwa. That's the life, my
life from the beginning of my understanding age, right to the end, where I die should be the
development of taqwa the betterment of it, the consciousness of how much consciousness I have of
Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is what would bring about goodness and happiness, more so when we are
		

			coming together in such a sacred union, that the rest of our future is determined upon what happens
thereafter. This is why the choice of a spouse is very important in Islam because your future
		

			depends on the type of choices you make, that Allah has allowed you to make. Obviously, people say,
well, it's written by Allah. Remember the writing by Allah subhana wa Taala does not necessarily
mean he imposed it on you, but rather, he gave you a leeway and the choice in certain matters. And
that's what he's going to ask you about. So Allah is going to ask you and I, how do you use the
choices? You had to choose a spouse? Did you choose someone who was respectful on both sides? Are
you going to respect them so that your children can learn the respect and learn the duties they have
unto Allah? Will you be fulfilling your eba together so that your children, your offspring, the
		

			families and everyone around you can learn from you and you can become little more Akina a mama? You
can become a leader of the righteous, if you are not righteous? How will your children be righteous?
If you are not respectful? How will your children be respectful if you don't say the right things
with your mouth in terms of baking, or on goodness, teaching goodness and even saying words of love
and kindness to those around you? How are people going to learn from you? So it's very important to
highlight this matter upon the Nika My dear son, and my beloved daughter. Remember to say, words
that are pleasing to Allah, only words that are pleasing to Allah. This is why part of that tempo is
		

			also Hulu, Colin sadita. Let kulu Colin sadita is part of it up a lot. It's part of the taekwon
that's why Allah says yeah, you had Latina Armando, Allah wa kulu. Colin said he has connected the
two together. Part of taqwa is Colin sadita. Those who don't have colons, sadita need to develop
their taqwa. Those who don't have Taqwa will not be worried about colon sadita. When you have both
of them, you you can be Pina de Mama. So it is very important if you don't have a relationship with
Allah, how will you utter words that are upright, who know Colin sadita literally means saying that
which is straight, so do not say anything besides what is straight, what is good, what is kind what
		

			is filled with uprightness and justice what is filled with love and you end what is filled with the
relationship with Allah in a positive way. That is colon studied. And Allah says, if you do that if
you develop these two things, where your taqwa is developed to the degree that your goal studied is
in order, Allah says usually come Amala come wherever fella come back home, Allah says, We will make
good for you your deeds will purify them because Allah does not accept deeds except those that are
pure and good. Allah does not accept the deeds unless they are pure and good. What are the deeds
that are pure and good, they are the deeds that are done for the sake of Allah, according to the
		

			teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. So, if you look at that it's the taqwa that is developed
connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala. In accordance with what the professor sanlam taught, and
the colons studied and the telkwa together, they will help you that your deeds become acceptable to
Allah usually welcome Mr. Lakhan. He will make them acceptable, he will purify them, he will grant
you the ability to do good deeds together, to do good deeds as a family to do good deeds as an oma
to teach good deeds so that you have a southern Nigeria. People say, Well when I die, you know, what
will help me the biggest things that will help you are those deeds you do have which will reward
		

			continues even after your death. Those are known as other cartoon jharia. One of them is anyone to
teach some knowledge, when you disseminate something, whether you taught it by tongue or any other
way of teaching, including those who learned from you by example, all of that is sadaqa jariya. It
is all part of this beautiful dean of Rasulullah saw Santa so this is why these verses they are
important to be spoken about during a nikka Jacquard develop it the issue of your tongue make sure
as a couple you only utter respectful words, both families you know, Mashallah Baraka I speak at on
a lot of occasions of nikka and I always say, our parents will guide us they will advise us that is
		

			not revelation from the sky. A lot of the times because of them wanting to see goodness for us. They
say things at the end of the day, the decision will be between husband and wife, remembering that
the husband is actually the leader of the home. We are Muslims and we do believe that he is the
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			does not actually say that he becomes a tyrant and he starts, you know, unleashing his unreasonable
entity, but rather it is leadership in the home because he is responsible for the upkeep for the,
for the protection of the home, the security of the home, so many other duties that Allah has given
him to looking after the home, whereas the wife is yes, the wife comes in a unique relationship
where she definitely falls immediately under the husband in one way, but together in many, many ways
in your duty unto Allah, you are absolutely equal, you have to fulfill your duty unto Allah
together. In considering one your Aminu, there is the other who is not the image. So you have to
		

			have one leader, and the other is the deputy or the vice or the one who comes slightly, you know,
after that, I mean, that does not drop your level in any way in the eyes of Allah. But someone
somewhere somehow has to be, you know, the leader, as Muslims and even those of other Semitic
faiths, they consider the husband, the leader of the home, he's the one who consumed who has a lot
of responsibility, when we acknowledge that role, and when the husbands fulfill that role. And when
we acknowledge that he definitely is that I mean, that is when we will find a lot of goodness that
will come in our direction and the directions of our children. Because that is how we will be able
		

			to improve and teach the next generation about the deen of Allah. And that is how together we will
fulfill the plan of Allah. What makes us different we are meaning we are Muslim, and we believe that
Allah instruction and guidance is final. We believe that when Allah says something we have no say in
that regard. Otherwise, what's the point of calling ourselves meaning? When Allah says, We can only
move menial,
		

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			to mean being him. It is not befitting it is not for a believing male or female that when Allah and
His asuna salatu salam have decided something, have instructed something that they then have a
choice in that regard, you're a true believer, you will say that is it something that we have heard
we have obeyed because it's coming from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is how we will progress.
Similarly, when it comes to child birth, the mother plays a bigger role. But when it comes to
bringing the child up, we both play our roles. You know, the man cannot breastfeed the child. But at
the same time, he has to be there in the position of leadership to teach and to show and to be able
		

			to guide the child as well. So we fulfill our unique roles as muslimeen and Muslim. And we ask Allah
to grant us the ability to respect each other. I'm actually wording this in a way that would be
helpful to all those who are attending today. Those who may see this later on. May Allah grant us
the ability to fulfill each other's roles. I think that a lot of the problems and difficulties that
people face, in marriage and in their relationships are connected to Tacoma, and toll as studied,
they, they lose their relationship with Allah or they lose consciousness of that relationship with
Allah. Therefore, they abuse with their tongues, they either say hurtful words, they utter that
		

			which is cutting, they talk out of turn, they say something that is hurtful, and so on. All that is
negating Colin sadita. And that's why things go wrong. If we fulfill our roles, and we develop our
relationship with Allah and we utter that which is upright by the will of Allah, nothing can
actually go wrong. And I want to end off by reminding you that the prophet SAW Selim has asked us to
protect our tongues and our private parts. You know, the issue of genital fairytales and Paradise is
connected to the tongue and the private past. The professor seldom says My yoke man Lima in LA, he
was a benefactor of a Mandela who region whoever guarantees me the correct use of what lies between
		

			the cheeks and what lies between the thighs, I guaran. Damn tee him or her paradise Subhan Allah. So
more so in marriage, there should be an element of trust, we should make time for one another. We
should learn to help each other because we come from slightly different environments, sometimes
unique environments but the connecting factor is that the quad and those teachings of the processor
and the way we've been brought
		

			With our Salah in order with our dress code in order with our respect of the elders in order with
our respect of the system of the Islamic Rome in order, everything of that nature then by the will
of Allah we would be able to fulfill the correct use of both the tongue and the private parts. And
inshallah I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to bring together the groom and the bride in rush Ma Ma
what Sakina and Baraka and this is why the sooner do is Baraka Allah Hola, como para que la como
Jama in a coma we fail. We ask Allah to bless the two of you, and to bless everything that he is
going to give you to bless everything that comes from you, and to bring you together in absolute
		

			goodness, every form of goodness. And I also want to seize the opportunity to congratulate the
families on both sides.
		

			You know, really it's a beautiful day and I'm glad to be a part of it. Similarly, we make dua
		

			that Allah alleviate the suffering of those who are struggling and eradicate the virus that is
ravaging the globe. And at the same time, may Allah have Rama and mercy upon those who have passed
on. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the blessings of this day and all the days to follow me
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