Moutasem al-Hameedy – For the Sake of Allah – EP 08

			If you are talking to your friend, he seems to be telling a lie because you know for surety, what
he's saying is not the truth. Would you believe that he's telling a lie? Or would you speak to him
directly and find out because he might be deceived by somebody else? What would you do in that
situation? This is something we will come to know about. After a short while, so stay tuned.
		

			Indeed, All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, we seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness.
We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evils of our actions. Whomsoever Allah
guides, none can misguide. And whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray, non can guide and I bear
witness that no one has the right to be worshipped, except Allah alone, who has no partners, and I
bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and his messengers, dear viewers, salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato. Welcome to a new episode of your show. For the sake of Allah, I am your
host moto Samad Hamidi. Today, we have a very important subject in hand. And before we start with
		

			that, I would like to welcome our guests Brother Mohammed, and brother Abdul Rahman, Assalamualaikum
warahmatullah.
		

			I would like to start with asking brother, Abdul Rahman. If it happens that you pass by a nightclub,
and you see one brother standing just outside the nightclub, speaking to some people who seem to be
from the people or those who attend nightclubs, what would be your natural reaction to that
straightaway?
		

			straightaway, of course, we'll create a little bit of doubt about the butter, but I won't judge fast
because he may be given advice to his ex mates schoolmates, or something like that. So that's it.
I'll try not to miss judge him right away.
		

			And if it turned out that he's attending the nightclub, then doesn't mean I'll cut the relationship
with no advise him out. Tell him What's wrong. Why did you change? Yeah, that's what I'm gonna do,
then that kind of situation, Mohammed, if this thing happens to you, how would you react to will
certainly like, the woman said that you don't have to rush into things and think wrong.
		

			Well, you might have to wait a little while to see what what caused him to go there. As he said,
maybe it's a good reason. Maybe he's doing something good. Maybe he's in need of something? I don't
know. But we have to wait till we see what's going on with him. Yeah. So you can't judge the person
straight away. Make it clear? Yeah. Yeah, well, we can't judge people. I'm not here to judge people
in the first place. And still, I mean, it's only one thing that you saw, he's in front of, or he's
just outside a nightclub, it doesn't mean that he goes there, there are different you can bring 100
reasons for him being there. But not that he attends that nightclub. So it means that we should have
		

			good suspicion of our brothers. So it is a very evil thing to have evil suspicion or bad suspicion
of our other our brothers, other people. So when you saw someone, for example, he's, he's hanging
around with some evil people with some
		

			sinners, it doesn't mean that he's a sinner. Doesn't mean he's a sinner, you have to find out what
it is. So
		

			how do you think that, for example, people generally tend to misjudge people or have sort of one, as
we say that suspicion about them, do you think is the case? It is the case it's like, also, it's
like, a way of making a conversation. People tend to like to talk about others. This, they see him
doing something like that. They see him at this displays. It's like, amusing now. So make suzlon
adding it to backbiting. So it's like,
		

			it turns out to be UCS. someone sees a small thing. Then he builds other things that he says, okay,
he must have went there, it must have done that. He adds more to it.
		

			And sometimes it also depends on the personality. Some people I even know personally, they're extra
sensitive. So when someone looks at them, in a strange way, they'll be like, oh, that double hates
me. He may
		

			Ideas right away. And I don't blame him because his like that, but he has to cure that in him. And
he's not evil. Yeah, but mushy misjudges, you took us to the point, which is relationship, that
brotherhood, we're talking about brotherhood, and how to maintain brotherhood. And we want to avoid
bad suspicion. Once you have one good suspicion of your brothers, sometimes a brother, he deals
harshly with you. So you start thinking in your mind, okay, this brother doesn't love me. This
brother hates me this brother. I don't know he is jealous. As you said,
		

			you feel this is common Mohammed as well.
		

			Such a bad disease. As you said before, it's like, spreading around. Yeah. Have you come across
anything? Maybe with some of your friends? No, actually, I recall the suit
		

			with the signals. I saw to see them and under the hood, when he saw doing things an act. That wasn't
logic to him. So it's like he miss
		

			hadn't had suit on with what's going on? Yeah. So but that turned out to be something. Yeah. Well,
it turned out to be something good. We can't say that he had so often because the things that he
saw, there were obviously evil. Yeah. See, they were really evil and will killing a child is an evil
act. So he didn't really have some of them. But he just reacted naturally to that.
		

			And the same thing when he for example, he when he made a hole in the ship, he will that's an evil
thing. This is why Sam reacted straight away. And he we can't say really, he had his old one. I
think he streets when you give advice in the right thing. He said, what do you do this?
		

			wire, and he he provided an alternative. So but you don't have mud It is sometimes people we tend
because of a weakness in the character.
		

			Our character across this brother, I say to him, Salaam Alaikum. Brother, maybe there's something on
his mind. He's busy or he's somebody has upset him. I say Salaam Alaikum. He looks at me and not in
the appropriate way. This is very concerning. He turns away. I take an attitude. Now. I say
		

			this brother is arrogant. This brother he
		

			basically is not Yeah, you must judge him based upon one single situation. You can't judge people by
that. Have you come across something like that? Yes, I did.
		

			Any I used to live was a friend of mine. Sometimes like he could come in really bad mood from work.
He's retired. So I misjudged him just because he's tired. And he answers in some like, what's going
on?
		

			And just because of his mood is in some mood. So we shouldn't like judge people fast. But it's kind
of hard. Yeah. Any. Every everyone could get into that. Yeah. From time to time. Yeah. Especially
for this lm shift. Like you said, sometimes you could even get neglected, because someone may be
thinking about something. And he's really, really thinking about something he didn't hear you. And I
even think there's a Hadees where it was there was a Sahaba sent to Sahaba Salaam and he didn't
answer. And he went to the prophet or something he told him. So he told him that the Sahaba didn't
answer me. So it didn't and in fact, he was thinking about something.
		

			So can you think of any
		

			texts from the Quran and Sunnah about evil suspicion? Maybe this would add more. This will broaden
the horizon of the subject.
		

			Amano,
		

			Fira milovan in Nevada.
		

			Very good. So yeah, Allah is saying to us a readin ama no he's saying oh you who believe Yeah, so
it's Allah speaking to us He wants us to listen and every time because of Siri they say every time I
listen to you letting me know Harkin Listen carefully. Because it is either something good Allah is
directing you to it or something evil allow us to to keep away from them.
		

			Yeah, believers. So Hannah, Leah. So let's say within a minute wish 10 evil Cathy, Amina Vaughn. So
you believe is avoid suspicion? Avoid most of suspicion. Why? Because it's going to bring you into
into sin in about some of the suspicion is Ethan is a main it's clear. Clearly it is a sin. It's
going to bring you into sin so we shouldn't depend upon suspicion. We should depend upon certainty
and the question that I asked you about a few see a person just outside a nightclub
		

			That's a good thing that you shouldn't judge him in the first place, then you should ask him, go to
him and ask him, sit him brother, I mean, this is not the right place for you to be. And as Mohammed
said, you shouldn't be there. That's not the right place for you to be there. So, and just to in
order to clear that suspicion, I want you to know why you are here. So maybe if you are doing
something good and Hamdulillah, I'm okay, now my heart is clear from this suspicion. Now, if you are
doing something wrong, I have to give you advice. This is how we should be clear and straight to our
friends and our brothers in Islam. So everything becomes clear. There's no doubts, nothing I'm
		

			hiding about you in my head. Okay, I saw you just outside that nightclub. I'll keep that for you
		

			know, a lot of people do. Yeah, so we shouldn't be like that. And if you have a suspicion about your
brother, and you can't get rid of it, go to him and ask him about it. Clear thought, that's clear.
Don't Don't keep it in your heart. Don't keep it in your heart because she upon will exploit it will
take advantage of that and magnify it and make it worse. So we need to inshallah clear, clarify and
clear these doubts that we have in our hearts. Now the prophets. Can you think of any incident maybe
that happened during the history of Islam about how evil suspicion destroys this brotherhood might
even cause the destruction bring destruction to the society as a whole? Does anything come to mind?
		

			Well, maybe the I have said no, say that.
		

			When she was left over by the group, and they were ahead
		

			and, and the prophet SAW Selim,
		

			listen to the Sahaba. Talking about about her, and they cleared it out in
		

			the longhouse.
		

			And then the Y came with, with the air
		

			to clarify, say that I shall do Mohan.
		

			Yeah, that's a beautiful story here. When the Muslims were in battle, they came back on the way back
to Medina. Ayesha went to answer the call of nature. She went and they had some kind of compartment
or a small room that they would put on the back of a camel for women so that no one could see them.
So because I was very light, she, she she was very light. Yeah. So she hadn't put on weight at that
time. So the people who were carrying her how they don't put it on the back of the camera, they
didn't realize that she wasn't there. So now, when she found out that the woman had left, she
remained there, and a companion, the person would leave a companion behind the army. So he came
		

			after that, and he saw Arusha. So he said that Hola, hola, quwata illa Allah, and he just made his
camels kneel down, he mounted the camel and he didn't speak to her. And he brought her to the army
or the Muslims or the camp for the Muslim army. Now the hypocrites took that they had evil
suspicion, oh, they must have done something wrong. They accused them of Xena. They spread that and
kept the Muslim society in distress, and a painful a whole month until the last minute I revealed
the verses that freed Ayesha from that evil accusation which was based upon evil suspicion. So this
is why it's a very important thing, a very important aspect to have no one to have good suspicion of
		

			our brothers and our sisters and the law said in the Quran about this issue or this story with
Ayesha Lola it's a metal metal more than than what we know now what may not be unforeseen issues
should have your reaction to it should have been that when you heard that or anything about your
brothers and sisters. You'd have good suspicion thing could have your brothers and your sisters so
and you should say Heather booktown Moby no Halliburton Helene, this is this is like this is the
fallacy is no way to this should be the responsible minister Do you have to trust good suspicion,
suspicious suspicion of your brothers and your sisters. This is how we should react is how we
		

			shouldn't be in order to maintain this brotherhood that we have. We'll elaborate more inshallah on
that and how evil and how destructive evil suspicion is and that it is one of the characteristics of
the hypocrites Yes, and the disbelief is they always have this. So inshallah we will elaborate more
on this important subject. And but for the time being, we'll have a short break and Charlotte, shall
we say to our viewers. Stay tuned.
		

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Welcome back. So Hamdulillah, we saw clearly how that evil
suspicion or bad suspicion. So one, how it was the basis and foundation for a rumor that spread
about the mother of the believers. And it had the prophets are loving this alum to hurt his family,
and it hurt the Muslims for a whole month that was suffering until Allah subhanaw taala clarified
the matter. So we can now draw that line, and
		

			take the same line and apply it on our daily life today. We can see we see that many brothers, they
have good brothers around them, they have mutual love amongst them. And one day, you find that there
is hatred amongst them, that they broke off. They are no longer friends or brothers. And if you
trace it back, the only thing you will find at the bottom of it will be able suspicion. Have you
come across something like that? With your friends during
		

			maybe some brothers? They seem like in a situation that needs a Rose's voice. You can't blame him
for making his voice wise in that situation, because you know, you never know what happened. Yeah.
		

			Maybe it's like, he lost his stamp of something. He doesn't even he doesn't always lose his temper,
but in some cases,
		

			he lost system. So you can judge him and have a wrong decision about him.
		

			Right away straight away. Yeah. So the thing is, any time reveals, so we cannot judge the whole time
the butter any or judge him just because of one situation. If it gets repeated, then we could know
what kind of butters he does. If it's just happened once we cannot judge him and just cut our touch
with it. Yeah, that's an important thing. Really. You can't judge a person through one situation,
that one thing he does, yeah. Well, as you said, time reveals, I want you to contemplate on diverse
we have lots of diverse we just mentioned that avoid all you who believe you know, Stony Brook, if
you can avoid much of one and suspicion for in about the Venetian. Some of suspicion is sin him.
		

			Yeah, well, so Well, I have to come back and do not spy on one another and do not backbite one
another because these are these are reasons for falling in evil suspicion or bad suspicion when you
spy on someone and you will see things that you can't interpret because you only get part of the
picture, you think you don't get the whole picture. So, this is an indication clear indication from
the order of the words that these things lead to evil suspicion, which is spying on one another and
backbiting one another so we can see from the order of the verse, how things are being put in order
that these things lead to evil or bad suspicion so you avoid them inshallah, you will be kicked away
		

			from evil suspicion. This is a very important integrated, you'd like to add something about this
template. Any like you said, it's like all in in one circle. And if you Miss Judge, it makes you
start backstabbing the person because you'll be like, I think he's like this and then exaggerate and
you get socks from the devil. And if you Miss Judge also, it will make you maybe spy on him. Or be
you be like, let me let me maybe
		

			See what he's saying? Maybe he's talking about me on the phone. Let me see from the other side. What
is he saying? Okay, yeah, that's true. That's true. And it happens. Yeah, one question I wanted to
ask what, Mohammed, if you see two of your brothers just
		

			on that corner for examples, they're speaking to each other, they are looking at you. And they are
laughing.
		

			What would be your? Well, the impression that you get naturally?
		

			Well, of course, anyone could be in the case. And it's like, it raises suspicions of course.
		

			But the handle any kind of little bit confident It's okay. It was still there is like that sometimes
it touches your pride opens away for the shadow into Yeah, shows up and
		

			says in order to destroy
		

			by Dr. coletti, he is an inner shape on
		

			Amazon, I say to my sevens to say that which is good, because she thought strange create enmity
among them. So that's why we should always say the good things. And as the Muslim is supposed to
avoid evil suspicion, no matter what the situation is.
		

			The brother as well is required not to put himself in a place would he would cause the others to
have that suspicion about himself. For example, the person who was standing just outside the
nightclub, the Muslim should avoid this. Well, some people say we give Dawa, we're going give that
one these places. When I say if this is going to bring bad suspicion about you, there are other
areas of Dawa. So why do you restrict yourself to only to that to that thing, and the enemy has some
time, at this time they had bars that people going drinking alcohol, he didn't go to these places?
Because he didn't want to be seen that people might miss judging? Is that an Islamic etiquette? And
		

			the situation that we just mentioned, if there are two people, two brothers sitting there, and
there's another one by himself, or even if he's not by himself, you just look at him and you start
cracking jokes? always joking or laughing? should avoid this? We should because it doesn't make the
brother feel comfortable. Yeah.
		

			Very good. When two people just speak whispering to each other, and they leave the others, it's
funkytown will create enmity amongst us. Yeah, I just wanted to ask. So like, for example, in that
situation, the show to Brother Mohammed, when I'm passing by, for example, in the street, and after
I passed by, towards the left,
		

			maybe about me, even though someone could have a good self esteem and have self trust, it will be
annoying. In that situation? What should he do? Should he face them? Should he tell them in a polite
way? Are you talking about me? Is this something funny? Good question. Because it happens often,
actually, neglect is just a good thing to have, first of all, to have good suspicion of your
profits, they are not laughing at you, and that they respect you. That's the first thing. Second
thing you can go to them and give them advice. Sincerely, when the way that we have explained about
giving advice, how to give advice, show them your concern for them, be good to them mentioned good
		

			things to them, then give them the advice. And this all what you have to do is should we ask them
before? Are you talking about me or not? So
		

			personally, I don't believe you should ask them about this. You should actually say to them,
brothers was what you were doing caused me to feel this and that. So it affects our brotherhood, and
brotherhood as we say one of the conditions well, Islam is something that Islam has came to
establish and strengthen. So it is it is an act of worship like praying like fasting it's an act of
worship, and we significance to Allah. By means of this, you know, the person has the Muslim has to
have good suspicion. There are beautiful examples one day a chef a when he was ill, the illness
after which he died. One of his students came to me and he said in Arabic He said the Imam or wala
		

			hobo or Mr. May Allah make when May Allah strengthen your weakness. Well, he intended good, but Imam
Shafi looks at him and he said because Imam Shafi was a scholar, he understands what words mean. He
said, Well, if Allah strength is my weakness, it will cause me to die. For weakness becomes strong,
that means it will kill me. So he said, Oh, Imam I didn't intend I intended that which is good. So
he said to him, don't worry. Even if you insult me. Listen, chef is saying to his student, even if
you insult me, I know that your intention is good. So this is the kind of good suspicion to have
among the brothers. You see this love, this beautiful love, you can feel the warmth.
		

			You feel the warmth, no matter even if you insult me, I know your intention is good and I love you
for the sake of Allah. See, of course. not knowledgeable
		

			person. He is
		

			He knows how to handle matters. Knowledge brings wisdom. Yeah. So we want to we want to do with our
brothers. Yeah, I want to do even a brother wrongs you. I still love you. I will still love you. And
I'll have good suspicion of you. As you said time, reveals time reveals to of course, it's it takes
time. And if someone is used to misjudge, he'll take time to change is kind of it's something that
is hard to change. But it has to be changed. Yeah.
		

			Can you think of any means that will help us avoid that suspicion?
		

			clearing out metals.
		

			clearing of metals would be helpful. So if you're a person who has this problem, you should always
clear out matters with the others. Yes. That's a good point. Very good point. That's the main one.
Yeah. Yeah. I think also trying to say, give out excuses to the brother. And he trying to make out
any kind of excuse sink, maybe maybe because of this, maybe because of that makeup reasons for his
his action. Very good giving excuses always. And it was said that you should always find for any
brother who makes a mistake, find up to 70 excuses. up to 70 excuse me with the suspicion? Yeah,
sure. Good excuse is how the companies used to be, and how the companies used to be. And some people
		

			they try to exploit evil suspicion, if they see that you have evil suspicion about a brother, and
they hate that brother, they will try to exploit it and destroy the Brotherhood. So it is our duty
and our responsibility, when we stand before Allah subhanaw taala that we should maintain this
brotherhood, this beautiful relationship, enhance it, and improve it by having good suspicion of our
brothers and avoid evil suspicion. And the way to that is to stick to a truth to facts always depend
upon facts, not upon suspicion, always depend upon fats. So inshallah we'll try our best to benefit
from these beautiful example, this beautiful aspect and concept and the Muslim society and ask Allah
		

			subhanaw taala to guide us to the true path to have a better brotherhood as a Muslim society and say
to our viewers, I hope that all of us will benefit from this beautiful concept. And I'll leave you
in the protection of our last panel to Allah and until we meet next time, I say salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato.