Moutasem al-Hameedy – For the Sake of Allah – EP 22

			someone comes to you and he says, your closest friend is saying bad things about you. How would you
behave in this situation? Stay tuned.
		

			All praise is due to Allah, we praise Him. We seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness. We seek
refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evils of our actions. Whomsoever Allah guides,
none can lead astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray and on can guide and I bear witness
that no one has the right to be worshipped, except Allah alone who has no partners. And I bear
witness that Muhammad is His Servant and Messenger. Dear viewers, salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
barakato. I'm your host, Matt Hamidi, we'll come to a new episode of your show. For the sake of
Allah. We have our brothers with us Brother Mohammed Abdullah salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
		

			Salaam.
		

			Today, inshallah, we will try to deal with something that destroys brotherhood, it's a social
illness that is widespread amongst the people. And people are really inclined towards spending the
time we know backbiting one another, this is a common phenomenon that we can see in every society
and everywhere, because people have, naturally they have jealousy, they have the tendency to
criticize others, maybe some people, they make up things about others or against others. So one of
the main things that bring enmity and that bring dissension and disputes mainly is based upon this
kind of thing, which is backed by Alibaba. And, and Amina, which is tail carrying, and this is
		

			another social problem, inshallah, we will try to deal with it
		

			through your own observations, how do what what would you like to say to or tell us a bit of man,
about Alibaba about backbiting? What is its evil effects on society, and on the individuals?
		

			First of all, it creates hate
		

			in, in a micro and macro way, like,
		

			between the individuals, and in the society itself. And there's rumors that will be spread. And
people that don't even know you, maybe they heard the rumor, which is wrong about you. They won't
like you with that do and they will judge you without even knowing you. Just because another brother
said something on you. Or backstabbed you because he maybe he had envy. He envied you. Or maybe
there was an argument between you and him. So to take his revenge, he felt good. And he felt kind of
amused to talk about you and to exaggerate the facts. And it's the kind of amusement that a lot of
people fell into these days. Even sometimes, some people that are practicing sometimes they could
		

			fell in it. So we got to take care to also protect our, our, our brothers from behind the backs when
they're not around. This is this is the privacy and this is the Brotherhood. Yeah, yeah. Okay,
Mohammed, through your own observation. I mean, when people get together, and they spent some time,
what do you think, is they How do they, I mean, use their time, and they're together, especially,
let's say, for example, men or women, what's it? Like, for example, when you're in work, and you
have like, lunch or something like that, and people just hang around and start talking about things
and things like that. Most of the time, most of the composition is talking about like other people
		

			who are not present backbiting but actually, away from that, like, in practicing brothers, within
them. with them. You don't find that much. Maybe it's not at all
		

			said that. It's in the practicing brothers. But it's like, it's not comparable. with mine. It's a
minor problem. It is. Yeah, it is. So it's not something within the practicing people handle. I
wouldn't find this to be quite as prevalent amongst them, but when others will almost every time
they sit together. They
		

			detail about people. Isn't this the case? Yeah, actually like, usually when people get get away or
far away from their Islamic values
		

			and even like values in general, they they fall in desires and mistakes and weaknesses that all
humans have like backstabbing and having the pleasure and getting the amusement going on by talking
about someone where he's not there, yeah. Okay Mohammed, have you come across verses from the Quran
or Hadith from the prophet SAW Selim about backbiting and how evil it is?
		

			So Matthew with me so
		

			that was okay. Okay, on to that song. Okay, these verses actually contain beautiful advice from
Allah Subhana Allah to Allah with regards to brotherhood, how the believers should treat one
another. We'll go over them try to explain them and extract the benefits inshallah, from that we'll
take them one verse after the other and Lost Planet Allah says, Allah Billahi min ash shaytani r
rajim. Even Hamza he want to see you want to stay
		

			in a minute.
		

			In a minute.
		

			What law Allah Allah
		

			so Allah Subhana Allah is saying, in verily the believers, brothers to one another, so firstly, when
at how we can make reconciliation between your brothers, if there's a dispute or disagreement, we
reconcile your brothers, what Allah Allah Allah come to him and fear Allah have Taqwa of Allah so
that you may have the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. A lot of Allah says
		

			Allah Dena Amanullah is
		

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			kuno honey amin home, wala Nisa, nissa
		

			nissa in NASA
		

			so you see Allah subhanaw taala saying, Yeah, you have Latina Amen. Oh, you who believe?
		

			No, people mock one another, I'll make fun of one another. Okay.
		

			Well, then he said, I say you're gonna hate on me. No, maybe they are better than then maybe you are
mocking someone what he's better than you in the sight of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. So mocking
is not from the
		

			character of multiple making, when he said one minister and so on, and no women mocking other women.
Maybe they are better than them. And Allah has mentioned particularly women here, because, you know,
we know when women all get together and there is sometimes envy and there is jealousy. It incites
them to fall into backbiting. We don't say that women are the only ones who do that but everyone
actually falls in that.
		

			Common
		

			was in general, man and woman. That's it. Then the last one what Allah says
		

			Allah tala meizhou fusa kumala Tana
		

			beat Sally smallfoot Oh Koba.
		

			Woman la mia toda la ecomo.
		

			So last thing, I mean, do not call one other names, not call names, but other others names. A person
who should for example, well, we have insults sometimes people have insults they say or
		

			what, for example, what big nose? They refer to someone that's a big nose. Something these are ways
that the Muslim Should I mean, raise himself above that low level. And Allah says bits that are
small for so called bad that the man what an evil thing that you'll come back to forsook which is I
mean lack of manners. After you have attained faith and a man, woman led me to Formula ikoma volume
and those who did not do not repent. Those are the wrong doers. Then Allah subhanaw taala he takes
us back to the reason for backbiting and Phil carrying what is that Allah saying? Yeah Lavina levina
Manuka Honey Boo Kathy Romina, one in one.
		

			Oh, you who believe avoid most of one suspicion in about the Venetian. Some suspicion is sin is
Islam. Because one suspicion is what causes people to fall into backbiting. When you see someone and
we're in a place where it's likely, sometimes we mentioned that if a person
		

			You see him in just outside the night, a nightclub.
		

			Okay, now suspicion starts, starts to work. So people because of that they fall into backbiting, oh,
you know, I saw so and so just outside not not club and they also exaggerate. There'll be the will
add more. I'm sure he went in and he may be drank and yeah. So a lot is fitting us to the reason
behind backbiting because a sin leads to another sin now evil suspicion leads you to backbiting then
Allah, Allah says, Well, just
		

			bla bla bla bla, and do not spy on one another because when you spy, you will see some doubtful
situation which will cause you to have suspicion which will cause you to back lead you to backbiting
This is why I said, Well, I suggest so when I have to battle combat, I do not spy on one another and
do not backbite when another spying will lead you to backbiting because when you spy on a person
curiosity now starts functioning. So you will okay let me see what this person is doing. Let me see.
So you won't you won't listen to the whole discussion that you may come to a point and you won't
have the whole scenario. So you may misunderstand and most probably you misunderstand. So you you're
		

			gonna backstab That's it, but it will be part of the situation part of the truth you won't realize
what it is. This will cause you suspicion This will cause you backbiting and then we'll add more
curiosity which will make us pay more because you want to know more. Palacio chiffon thinks he pulls
the legs of people towards sin and evil then Allah Subhana Allah says, Are you a boy? hadoken
coolala Murphy my fuckery tomo, what up? Oh, la, la La, La La watching just one of you like to eat
the flesh of his brother of his dead brother?
		

			Does he like to do that? And you hate it. Imagine yourself. I mean, there's a dead body of your
brother, and people sitting around him eating his flesh. And you can see the blood and all that.
		

			It's a very evil situation. So when people sit together and they backbite one another, you see what
they are doing. It's as if they have brought the buddy of their brother and he's dead. And they are
eating flesh is flesh.
		

			Like cannibals, like cannibals. See some handled isn't evil situation. Then unless Montana says what
law in the law to fear Allah. Verily, Allah accepts repentance and Allah is merciful. So Allah
reminds us a few fall into these sins, then repent to Allah, Allah accepts repentance and Allah is
merciful, lies merciful. Now, we will inshallah, take these verses and elaborate more how they
relate to our everyday life. So how these sins can cause or can bring about the destruction of
brotherhood and can destroy this relationship that Allah has granted us as a favor which is love for
the sake of Allah Subhana Allah will elaborate more on these verses in sha Allah, and we will have
		

			to stop for a few minutes inshallah. And after that, we'll come back I say to our viewers, stay with
us, we're coming to you back shortly insha Allah
		

			choose whom he wins Subhana Allah for his mercy for his messenger ship for the revelation to be
revealed. This is not for the human beings to make that decision. If a person would turn to our last
panel to Alison Seeley, truthfully, asking for forgiveness, Allah subhanaw taala promised to
forgive. We have as Muslims a duty and that is to recite the book of Allah to ponder over the verses
the words of our last panel to Allah and to act according to the Quran, the mercy of Allah Subhana
Allah encompasses everything, but it who would this mercy will be for, and the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam was sent to all mankind. So the oma are the people of the prophets of the largest. All
		

			Mankind since the time of the prophets, I send them till the Day of Judgment. Why waste our life
without getting to know every verse in the Quran? What Allah subhanaw taala wants from us.
		

			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Welcome back. Now we
		

			So how evil it is to fall into backbiting. And what a lot of what Allah told us about this issue,
which is backbiting, and we saw that it is as if you are eating the flesh of your brother when he is
dead. And some people make light of it. Every time they sit down together in any gathering, they
talk about others, and they backbite others. So it's an evil sin, and abri it brings enmity and
hatred in the Muslim society. Don't you agree with that dorama Exactly. Creates hates when, for
example, if, if, once it happened to me that I trusted the builder, and we will close, then I heard
from more than one that he backstabbed me that actually, like
		

			it made our relationship fall down, in a way really just because of that, it really does because it
hurted me in a way that because I always did. I always thought
		

			we were going out, invited him to my home to my privacy. And then he backstab me. How do you think
we can I mean, get rid of backbiting some people are so much used to it. They just can't abandon
that. What what things might help them get rid of this bad habit? First of all, they did the don't
have to Miss Judge.
		

			Second of all, I believe
		

			they have to, like, accept the color. And the cada, like, be be thankful for what Allah have gave
them. Because when they believe that Allah does that was his own wisdom, and allas O's just, and
they have this belief, they will know that if maybe they're different is better than them in
something or had a prop more property. It's for a reason that Allah shows. So he won't envy him and
therefore because he won't envy him. He won't backstab him because envy usually leads to hate and he
leads to bad backstabbing. Yeah, yeah.
		

			Just remember them with the if the
		

			throttles. It's very good. Yeah. Yeah. Because it's like, quite clear, it touches the point of
backbiting and mocking and things like that. And it's for different people, men and women didn't
concentrate on a certain
		

			type. Yeah. So it's really it's an example that makes I mean, the heart really. I mean, I mean, it
makes the person think, and it causes that effect in the heart. When you listen to this example, in
the verse, If you say to Brother, some brothers, or some people are sitting together, okay, let's
bring your friend, he's dead. now. I'll bring you his buddy, come. And I'll give each one of you a
knife. Each one of you cut a piece of his flesh and start eating his flesh. would they do that? No.
		

			What are you talking about this? They would consider this to be a crime. How can you bring bring the
dead but the body of your dead brother, you bring him cut pieces of it and start eating his flesh?
Can you do that? Well, no one would do that. Will any people are sitting together backbiting, say to
them, okay, let's bring that brother and let's eat him. Because you are already doing this. It
happens really with the practicing brothers. It's like a slip of tongue.
		

			But, but the thing is, he remembers, he returns to Allah subhanaw taala and says stuff a lot of it.
And he mentioned the brother with good deed. So it's like, at the spot, he stops from making the sin
because he knows what's, what's wrong. And what's right away from other non practicing Muslims is
		

			really bad.
		

			What about for example, I have a brother. He's a closed bot of mine. And, for example, I know that
he's seeing another brother. And this other brother. Most people know that he For example, He lies
is someone you cannot trust. He could cheat on you. For example, in the business, if I if I if I
start wanting him is that backstabbing. Like I saw him after the brother leaves, I tell him, please
take care of that. But is what it is said that there is no Reba for a facet, someone who openly I
mean, there's all these kinds of evil, and there is a danger he will he constitutes a hazard or a
danger towards another brother, then you should warn that brother against him. For example, this
		

			person, let's say he's known for his for taking other people's property stealing. Okay, and you see
that he's mixing with another brother.
		

			Well, you have the right answer obligation upon you, because it's part of giving advice being
sincere towards you, brother, john, this brother is known. It's not that he he did it once. And
that's know if he's known for that. And you are sure that he's you sort of certain that he's going
to take some of this brothers property, you are who you say to him? Well, this brother, well, you
can mix with him. But be careful. He's known for this and that you don't say he is? Well, he's a
lawyer or his. He's a thief or whatever you just say, you mentioned to him facts, certain incidents
that happen, so you take to him be on God, being God of that person, is what it is, you know,
		

			there's another thing that he leads to is another which is another illness to carrying sometimes I
sit, for example, with Mohammed, and I mentioned Abdullah man with some acid. Man, you know, he has
the problem with this issue. Now, Hamad ghost Abdul Rahman he says to him, okay, now much as some
said this and that about you, okay, well, this might be true. But this is considered to be what
nemea Sportsnet slammed me material carrying is that you shouldn't do this. Even if a person is
speaking ill about another person. Don't go until the other person but give advice to the one who's
doing the backbiting. And sometimes some people they, for example, the defendant, someone when he
		

			wasn't there, when people were backstabbing him, and then they go and tell to the person, I had your
back. And they were talking about you. And he says the names of the the this is even worse, he made
he made the fire get worse between them. Yeah, this is I mean, this isn't me, man. It's very evil.
The process of them said no one who makes use of force in this Act, or who I mean, repeatedly falls
into this act. He's an A man, he's a tail carrier, you know, one of these type into paradise to be
nice to do that. Like the apostle Salim said, speak good or be silent. So it's like being silent is
better than talking in a bad way. But most of the people, I think they like to talk a lot. I mean,
		

			it's a bad habit. It is
		

			a weakness. Yeah, we know one of the scholars of the generations person came to him and he said, you
know, so and so speaks ill about you. So this scholar said to him, Well, the shun didn't find a
person more evil than you to bring me this evil to destroy the Brotherhood with my brother.
		

			He blamed the tail carrier because he's the one to blame. You should give advice to those who
backbite. But you should sometimes even worse, the tail carrier. He's inventing. He's inventing the
story. Because he's, for example, he's envying the relationship between you and a burger? Like, why
Why? Why don't they like me as much as they like each other? Yeah. So he tells you, he says, This is
very, really bad.
		

			You know, one thing to carrying and backbiting leads to is that you look down upon your brother. Now
if there is a brother that I don't know, I see both of you speaking about him, Well, he's a bad
brother, he did this he did that he falls into sin will naturally I would be on guard of this
brother, I won't really respect him that much. Although I don't know him, this shouldn't be the
case. It shouldn't be the case. So when you back but on people back, but another one, they caused
the others to look down upon him. And this is one of the major sins in Islam to look down upon your
brother, which is an art. And the professor's alum warned us against this, if you come across any
		

			warning from Quran or against this will
		

			from the nurse or
		

			husbandry minister and yagura how Muslim will Yeah, well, this is a strong statement as well. There
has been in menasha, that it's enough evil that a person commits, and that he looks down upon his
Muslim bro. Yeah, so it's not a simple thing. It's not a minor issue. But when, for example, the
rich they look down upon the poor, this is very severe act of evil act. Las panatela doesn't like
that. It's enough evil. That's, that's a lot of evil that a person does when he looks down upon his
Muslim brother. And this is one of the outcomes of backbiting, backbiting, and sometimes even like,
you could have
		

			never did something to a brother. And just because he heard a rumor about you.
		

			And there was a false rumor. He looks down on you and you'll be even surprised. You'd be like, why
is this butter?
		

			Looking at me in that way? What did I do to him? I just met him. Yeah, this is great hate from
nothing. And this very issue destroys many, many relationships of brotherhood among the people.
Because unfortunately when there is no enough a man and
		

			There's no enough fear of Allah subhanaw taala backbiting is common. It causes this kind of attitude
a person you have never seen he hates you. He doesn't like you when he looks down upon you. Why?
Because of backbiting? Well, that was the fault of the one who did the backbiting in first place.
And it's this brother's fault, because he accepted that he believed in that with that, I mean,
coming, venturing to know the truth, or bettering himself to find out what the truth was, is that
true?
		

			Yeah, but but I wanted to ask so like, for instance, if
		

			we should always like see ourselves is that if that is true or not, we take the risk, like, for
example, butter, does take care this guy is this butter is doing this and doing that and doing this?
Should we always see ourselves before judging? Or should we take the warning? Baby? Take care and
then same time, see, see what's going on? Oh, okay, there will Subhanallah what it is there is a way
with dealing with people. If someone tells you this brother did this, and that, first of all, get
facts from him. If he said to you, this brother is a liar. Okay, give me incidence where he lied.
And you asked for witnesses. Okay, so maybe he's maybe that brother's really bad. He has bad
		

			manners. So he's warning you against against him. So first of all, tell him give me facts. I don't
want accusations. I want facts, is the first thing. Second thing you say to him. I mean, I want
witnesses. And then if it shows that it's a lie, you verify with that? Brother, there's no hands
down? Well, some people say this and that about you. So I would like really to know, because I care
for you. You are my brother. So I would like to know about this, we have to really look for the man.
The problem is when you usually go to a brother and tell him some people told you told me about
about you this and that he owes get curious to know who it is. And he insists on knowing Yes, of
		

			course, in that case, we shouldn't make this your last resort that you go to that, Brother, you go
to that. misunderstanding occurs a lot in a lot of situations. So just don't take it for granted.
Like I said, it's true. Just any incident that happens is just you don't just take it for granted.
And you can see how Islam is really concerned about brotherhood. As we are proceeding with the
subject, we see a very good regulations, etiquette of how to deal with brothers how to tackle the
issue of brotherhood, how to maintain it. And it is completely I mean, complete code of behavior
with regards to brotherhood and its importance. So somehow law inshallah will abide by this and
		

			benefit from that. So is that for your contributions, as I say to our viewers desire cool Ah, hold
on for being with us. May Allah reward all of us and May Allah bless us all, was Salam. alaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh