Mohammad Elshinawy – The Divorce
AI: Summary ©
The hosts of Maghrib webinar discuss the challenges of teaching instructors and the success of their "assurance" class, as well as the political climate of Facebook and YouTube sessions and the need for strong relationships with Prophet carriers. They emphasize the importance of learning to be a bouncer and note the political climate of Facebook and YouTube sessions. The transcript also touches on the history and cultural norms of Islam, including the use of "has" and the "any human being" label, and touches on the importance of educating people on the rules and avoiding discomfort.
AI: Summary ©
like who is joining us for day number 21 of Ramadan 360 with a Maghrib Institute and it will take a second for you guys to warm up here on Facebook and YouTube. Let us know where you're coming in from in the chat so hamdulillah we've had people who have taken this journey from us from the very beginning now to the 21st day of the program, and the countdown is basically beginning for the end of Ramadan. I hope that you guys had a fruitful 21st Nights last night and likes up to all your data. I mean, I know the UK folks mashallah you guys are now in your 22nd Night teasing into the late night period there as well may Allah accept from you and count this heavy on your skill of
deeds as well Masha Allah and then of course, Singaporeans, I think you're just preparing for Fajr to kick in and making the most of your time as did the night ends, Australians, Malaysians Filipinos, everybody, masha Allah does excellent here for making us part of your daily Ramadan routine. Of course, this is now the 21st day we have an interesting topic I'm excited for revolutionary to present Mashallah. He's, again, he every instructor has their style. And I just, I It's so hard for me to explain to you how special and how different they are in the way that they present. Sheikh Mohammed I think is also pop up, you know, famous for his lists, and his kind of
really well curated kind of ideas and lessons that he takes from each of his topics. But there's something about him, yes, it's so nice to have this spectrum. Because every single student connects differently. And you might not even know which part of the theme or which elements of you know, there's teaching style that that will really awaken something in your heart. And that's been our goal with our 360s is just touch people in different ways that they may not be used to sometimes we get stuck in our little bubbles. And we just listen to the same YouTube videos from the same maybe three, four instructors. This helps to push us a little bit outside of that comfort zone. And, you
know, expose us to so many different instructors and that's been the beauty of Maghrib. So yes, he's very calm and clear in his presentation style. MashAllah variety is amazing when it comes to, you know, learning to begin for sure. And from the very beginning, I've always been like that we always had a good number of instructors you've met you have the right yes, yeah, a few weeks ago, he's inshallah gonna be back soon, I think this weekend or in a couple of days. So he's got that very calm, soothing style. So it's shooting from instantly and then you have the really engaged at his both. And then you have the really like loud engaging, exciting ones, then you have the ones that
crack a lot of jokes and you have the sarcastic ones and whatnot, I don't have to say who is who you guys can pick who that is if your mind so that helps you fall in love with the being in your own ways that hamdulillah for that we are Alhamdulillah always adding to our instructor pool always making bring on new young instructors so that you guys get a chance to they get a chance to be built up as well because you can't rely on the same few you know, members of the community to have have the weight of the OMA on their back. So please do go to support on Maghrib as well in this process because it's very, I know it's tough to get instructors on it, it's tough on them as well to be
leaving their families to be traveling consistently. We tried to and we were the first of hamdulillah to give instructors a good positive you know teaching experience a lot of times especially 20 years ago when our mother began it was pretty much you know you were just you were dragged around a little bit putting like a two star motel if you're visiting or traveling to go attendant into teach classes in a different city you were given like a really at your is like do it for the sake of Allah do it for the sake of Allah either not paid or paid very little but just you know kept going kept going because you wanted to you wanted to contribute to the data. And now I'll
handle it. Yeah, that I think some instructors are still traumatized from them they don't think about those days. But I found that a lot when our mother came along our goal was let's let's treat the instructors with honor they're giving up they're sacrificing so much for of their own time of their own youth of their own time of their family of their you know time at work their own income to make sure that they are able to you know to spread knowledge and many of these instructors wash off some of the big courses that you're familiar with a manga they took years to create and they create the course they came back with presented them we gave them feedback they went back they created more
they did research what do you read dozens of books were his classes should come out same thing mashallah so many instructors with so much has had so much effort into, you know, educating and developing their content, and we benefit from them so much. So that to me, I had just mentioned a while ago where I remember in one of their videos, he's like, you know, part of the thing I love about amalgam classes is that it's almost like you go in you take a topic and it says if you read like 100 books on that topic because instructor has taken all the most valuable information that is really applicable that and they really condensed it they've done all the hard work for you. So
Subhanallah it's such a blessing to have them you know guide us through this instead and for their guests instructors who are newer to immigrate program and the platform has shown so much respect and so much excitement about teaching you guys and being part of this community you know, keep them in here the eyes and these last 10 nights and please do as you're going through yes Mashallah. They're very concise, they're very powerful in their, in their, in their teaching style and they do all the work of thinking and connecting with us with with the knowledge that they can present it to us in the best way possible. And with such an exam Mashallah. So do support amalgam.org forward slash
donate to make to help us to continue to support instructors and to support volunteers as well on the ground. That's for those of you who don't know, by the way, this part of the the presenting and the hosting and being part of this community that
It's like, it'd be 5% of my role. And that's like the fun stuff I get to do. Because I get to, you know, talk to people and connect with you guys and all that most of what I do is actually with working with avila's Working with among group chapters around the world, there's 40 Mashallah plus of them now. And that's where we actually, you know, coordinate those onsite classes, those seminars that have been so popular Assembla that were the foundation of a mugger and Camila is, honestly, they're mashallah such strong, strong, hard working, folks. But they have struggled to come back post COVID, a lot of people were lost in the process, people moved out volunteer teams broke down
three years of not having anything going on, we'll do that to something. And then Hamdulillah, we've been really focusing on reinvesting in those folks. We're investing in those cities so that we can have when someone says, I'll bring among them to Atlanta, we can say yes, okay, let's bring them over to Atlanta, bring it back to Florida, bring it to these corners of the world that, you know, really, really could benefit from this knowledge, we're able to start doing that. But that takes a lot of investment, it takes a lot of initial kind of, you know, it just a lot of cost to be able to facilitate that. And I'm on the other side of like, how do we do this? How are we going to manage
this. But if somebody that whenever you guys support, and you donate to these programs into these experiences, where we kind of have a breath of relief, and we're like, okay, one word could be that we can do this, we can do the next thing, and we want to do this inshallah for the next 20 years, and plus, and bless and bless, and inshallah educate a million students. So drop that link, I always forget to have the link with me. But that's another.org/donate, you guys have that on social media as well. So in sha Allah, you guys can click that in your description boxes, and I've dropped that here in the chat here as well. The other thing I wanted to mention, which I don't know if you guys
probably have received an email about this morning, so they kind of preempted my announcement, it's not surprised anymore. But alhamdulillah our group has finally made live is something that I look forward to every Ramadan. And it's just been very limited kind of experience that we've had. And that is the mother of all access pass. We opened it a couple times a year now actually in Ramadan, and at the end of the year. And basically the goal of this pass is to give you guys access to every single thing that we do in the major categories that among our features. And so that's the virtual seminars that we do, they're like live zoom seminars similar to this kind of gathering but a little
bit more intensive and a lot more kind of focused on one topic doing a deep dive with another student community and Hamdulillah I know Robin saying that because she already is an all access pass member.
But yes, and hamdulillah your your testimonial always always take her on. So there's virtual seminars, there's a Maghrib online seminars that are those professionally filmed seminars where we you know, do it in studio or we travel to certain locations, and we you know, film snippets and stuff like that there those who registered for divine link recently, you got a chance to experience that at transit Illa. And then we have those on site seminars, I've been talking about the ones that are, you know, traveling to cities globally, in big areas, such as London, Manchester, Birmingham, Toronto, Calgary, Seattle, like I can't even list all the cities, Michelle, there's so many of them
now, and then in Australia, and Scandinavia, and Singapore, and Malaysia, and all the corners of the world that we can reach. And that's also part of the All Access Pass is on Hamdulillah. And then finally, we have faith essentials, which is our kind of concise learning platform all conduct through our powerful app, I'll access baskets, you the opportunity to register for anything that we come out in those categories within the next year. That's like dozens and dozens of classes. So if you want to invest in areas I'm learning kind of journey, I highly recommend in Sharla, that you check it out. The link for that is on mcgraw.org forward slash all access DLL, ACC ESS, it looks
like this when you click on it. And then there's a little bit more information on the page as well. And a little breakdown video, some some some what I just mentioned to you guys here, but it's a really cool experience. And just before we start the session, I want to say that I am the Lilla we did something crazy this year, which honestly I was a little hesitant about, which is that we actually introduced an all access family Pass, which means you and five or sorry, four family members of five people in total, can get access to everything I just described all of the classes literally that we're doing all for the price of 795 I think it is. So basically for $200 more than
just an all access pass. Every single person in a group of five in your family can get access to everything that we're doing. So it's a bit of a madness and hamdulillah even I was like okay, sure. Because there's a lot of work to set up for five people and to do it. It's like, it's honestly not, it's not even making any any kind of income for America, it's more so just to be able to reinvest back into the programs and to have dedicated students of knowledge who can pursue the degree and have access to all this content and all this, all these courses and all that without having to break the bank. I know we've had students who've been registering for every single class back to back to
back and we're like, you know what, let's just make it a little bit easier for them to handle. So do check that out a mugger.org forward slash a lot because it's not going to be open for much longer. I think we open a little bit late to be honest as Ramadan. But if you do want to kind of invest in yourself and invest in your Islamic knowledge journey, I do recommend that you guys join us there and if you have questions you can let me know. With that being said Alhamdulillah we're interested or we're excited for this topic. We're excited for the instructor and hamdulillah Muhammad Ali is with us now for our 21st day of Ramadan. 360 The topic is the divorce and we're ready to jump right
in insha Allah the verses that are being covered are Salah Al Aqsa,
vs number 36 to 40 So I'll drop that or someone will beat me to dropping that in sha Allah in the chat and then we can jump right into the session as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah Sheikh Mohammed. It's such a pleasure and an honor to have you back with us. And how are you doing today so far this normal man
to load the character we're happy to be amongst you all mashallah Allah help us all finished strong. Amina will add I mean, okay, so she, we were eating into your time, so I don't want to take any more inshallah. I'm sure there's gonna be a lot of questions at the end of this one. So
let's jump into the session. Okay, cool. This one sounds like everybody
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah, he was having a drain. So I'm not sure why he's excited about the topic. The topic is divorce.
I'm gonna get myself killed with the Zoomer.
But this is this is Puranic divorce. This is a Puranic account of a
very splendid
segment of the CRO of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that was captured there and so that I have
and so you guys can I guess I'll try to prompt you to try to mitigate zoom fatigue. I'll prompt you with a bunch of questions as they come to mind and do type them out in sha Allah. Just to keep this rolling.
What do you know about Xena about the Allah on Xena I've been to Jash about the Alana the most famous Xena in the Sierra you guys can type it out in the chat
most giving the Prophets wife
cousin of the Prophet SAW said
most generous phenomenon
she was married to his adopted son as a little bit low on Fantastic. Okay, so many of you have
sort of the,
the components we need to pull all together to realize what
made this such a powerful story that Allah immortalized in the Quran. And many others may be
experiencing it for the first time. So I'll share a little bit about it. And so
Xena, Binti Jash is the cousin of the prophets Allah Allah Allah is right, that means she's from Ben who Hashem means she's from the most noble tribe in Quraysh in terms of socio economic status, social status, especially when she also was economically well off. And she was wealthy on top of that, right, so it compounds
you know, her status per se, you know, and there is such thing as sort of, like, different status factors in Islam, it's just they are not the ultimate determinant of a person's value, right.
And so,
the Prophet SAW, Selim was, you know, born into the highest status family, because it's a value to people and Allah want the people to listen to the message. And so he helped them along with them being of high with the Prophets being born in the nobility of their peoples. Same way, he gave him the most beautiful faces, even though Allah looks at our hearts and not our faces, right? Why? Because it just helps people.
Stocks, stacks, the odds in the favor of, you know, guidance, people will more likely be receptive. They'll, you know, garner more attention in any case, so he was from a noble family and so she was from a noble family. And then the Prophet SAW Selim goes up to her and says there.
Mary's eight, Zaid inheritor is the adopted son of the Prophet SAW Salem. And he is the he was gifted he was from the slave class. So the complete opposite end of the totem pole, right, that is wise. So Xena just naturally she's just like me, Mary's eight, never not going to happen impossible. And so Allah Zilla, Jen reveals that this is not sort of a suggestion from your cousin. This is something Allah approves of and Allah and joins on you. And so it became a religious directive, a divine,
you know, arrangement. And that's where you have that first verse we're covering today, one can only move meaning while I'm Minetti, Anita Pato Allahu wa rasuluh, who am Rene Cornella homophobia to mean American, it is unbefitting of a believing man or believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter for them to have any say in the matter. Like, if you're the servant of God service doesn't have a say with their masters. It's just the way it works. And so of course, zeyneb understood that she just is now being informed. This is not simply, you know, some cousin of mine vouching in the personal capacity that is from Allah. So it is unbefitting for them to have any say
in that
matter where many ostler, however, Sudha, who fathered by law, Medina, and whomever disobey Allah and His Messenger have strayed very far.
And Xena, of course did not stray Xena got married to say the asset wound up in a divorce SubhanAllah. But maybe that's the first lesson you always want to capture whether you know you have a successful marriage or not, do you have a successful career or not? Not all of that gets eclipsed by the fact that the you have Allah's approval, or not Subhanallah that that's the truest metric of success and failure. In any case, Allah had this thing that she marries aid for a trial and a means of elevation as a result of that trial. And so she married it. And when she married Zaid
things were rough, I think a little bit more than patchy, they were rough, she was incapable of seeing him as an equal,
because he's from the slave class or formerly from the slave class. And so this is natural, by the way, like compatibility. In marriage, I'm not going to get into it. But it's extremely important. Like, and that is why sort of someone who's not as emotionally invested as the guardian being involved in the marital process is so is necessary because you got to calculate these things, the writing sometimes on the wall, like if you have someone raised in the West, with a certain lifestyle, that sort of love at first sight falls head over heels, in love with, you know, someone that,
you know, doesn't have the education they have doesn't wear what they wear doesn't eat, what they eat, then they get married, and then sort of the emotions fizzle out and sort of the the idealism, the utopian fantasy hits the reality of life and its responsibilities, and then he's telling her
or vice versa. What do you mean toilet paper, we never use toilet paper, like it stopped being a weirdo, right? That's just too hard of a shift sometimes. And so likewise, she just couldn't get past it and it was just too difficult for them. And it shows you that sometimes the most righteous people even are not just like compatible for each other. It's not the account against their religious commitment in any case. So Zaid keeps coming to the Prophet SAW Salem and saying it's not gonna work out this is not going to work out. And then you move on now to the next if you're following along Allah azza wa jal says with the odd lady and I'm Allahu Allah you And I'm Daddy, I'm
sick Alec as I will check our Tequila. And you Oh, Mohamed kept saying to the one that Allah favored, and you did a great favor to because Muhammad SAW Southern Fried him right? You keep telling him I'm sick. Alec as Elijah, keep your spouse don't divorce. Keep your spouse what's actually learned fear Allah, like don't destroy your home over one conflict. Allah azza wa jal then says in the ayat are 250 enough cecum Allah whom will be D, and you hide within yourself what Allah is going to make apparent.
Eventually, the Prophet SAW Salem realized there's no way this is going to work. And perhaps Allah revealed to him also that this is eventually going to wind up in a divorce. He knew it early, but he didn't know when. Right and so he was hiding that within himself and telling him just keep trying, keep trying. Meaning even if it's a divorce, you still want to try your level best, to be equitable to have said to yourself, you try. So he keeps telling them keep trying, but then eventually he knows so Allah Azza wa sallam that it's not going to continue. It's going to wind up in a divorce. And then Allah azza wa jal says, what action sir or Allah who are helpful and Daksha and you owe
Mohammed fear the people, meaning the reaction of the people, and Allah has more of a right that he be feared. And this
is in reference to the fact that Allah reveals to him sort of like the end of the if make the beginning of the ads clear, this is not sort of like brainstorming, you fear the people and their reaction. And Allah has more right to be feared. This is because Allah has revealed at this point to the Prophet SAW Salem that not only is Zaid going to divorce Zane up, but that you will marry Xena. And that's a big problem in the eyes of societies. Allahu alayhi wa sallam. Why? Because they this is adopted son. And in pre Islamic Arabia adoption is like childbirth like birthing. This son is really your son. And that's actually one of the wisdoms why Allah marries the Prophet SAW Selim Zina
to abolish abortion in the pre Islamic sense, of course, Islam is all about, you know, me and the caretaker of the orphan or like this, the Hadith says, right, but it's about absorbing them into your family in a way that's unfair to them by erasing their right to their history and their lineage, and their ancestry and so on and so forth. So the most powerful way to do that is not just with a verse, This was such an entrenched part of society that any kid I
Taken adopt is automatically mine, I get to erase his family tree, instead of just a verse, Allah wanted to, in practice, abolish this crack this unfair
norm. And so what he did was he's having the Prophet SAW Selim now marry his adopted sons ex wife, meaning what? Meaning you're not really
the father of this boy. And so she's not really your son's ex. This is your adopted son, not your son and says one of the most evident ways to establish that the Son and the adopted son are not equal, you can marry the ex wife of your adopted son,
as opposed to marrying the ex wife of your son. But he feared the reaction sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Why? Because it's a nuanced legal shift. And so the Prophet SAW Salem, by his haters are going to is going to be perceived, he sees it coming as like, Oh, they're gonna say I'm making up my own laws and making up exceptions. I said, You can't marry your son's x. And now I'm marrying my adopted sons X. And I'm saying they're not the same, just so I can get to marry my daughter in law or my former daughter in law. And so he feared the reaction he had the fear that people are going to sort of like,
you know, chastise him like this SallAllahu Sallam he feared people would lose faith, the fear that the you know, this could be a rallying call for people to sort of start a war and people are gonna have to die now because you know, the hypocrites are gonna rally around this hey, look, he has double standards and and then you start like a civil war. He was very afraid of all of this. So Allah says, What definition so Allah who have fun to share and you fear the people, Allah has more of a right to be feared than Allah says Allah macabre. They don't mean how Alfonso generika
When z when z
had completely separated from her completely finished his relationship with her meaning divorce, we married
you to her on camera, we married you to her like a lie Hakuna Nina Harada to believers would have no
hesitation or have no
reservation regarding marrying the wives that have been divorced by their adopted sons. Right that what I just explained is mentioned at the back end of the
book, okay Anambra Lima for Allah and whatever Allah wishes comes to pass. And then the last verse I'll talk about because I think time is going to, it's going to rush us off here. The next very next verse, Allah says Allah Dena, you believe ordinary Salah Atilla he will have shown that what I've shown her then he'll Allah
I'm sorry, the verse before.
Man cannot intervene, how much?
There is no reservation, there is no
objection that the prophet ever has about Allah's commands. It's not that he feels the rule is wrong, is that he fears the result of that rule on the society that he's leading some allies. And that's the point of that verse, right? And then the last verses, for those who declare, convey and declare the messages of God
and fear Him and don't fear anyone, ultimately, they keep going despite fears, right? They just alternate fear is Allah azza wa jal, and Allah is fully aware of all things. So a few things to take here.
The first of them is that, you know, this is one of the proofs of the truth of Islam right around
Insightly Buhari I shall not the Allahu anha said,
If the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were to conceal anything from the Quran, he would have concealed this verse, the verse where Allah says, what the action is, Allah who have gone Tasha, and you hide within yourself, but I was gonna make public and you fear the people need the reaction of the people. And Allah has more of a right to be feared. Like think about that. Think about you, supposedly, right? making up your own religion, making up your own scripture and then sharing it with people. You're going to be teaching people to memorize these words and recite them in congregation leading the people in prayer. You know, it's almost like the other verse with Abba
hotel. He SallAllahu wasallam He frowned and he turned away. The blind man came to him and he it was bad timing and the prophets discretion I suppose to them and he wanted the leaders to like become Muslim, they were finally being receptive. And so if they become Muslim, everybody becomes Muslim. It's not like I'm trying to call out Jace here. I'm trying to save humanity. And the blind man was already Muslim. And so he kind of frown like, not right now, you know? And the blind man didn't even see the Prophet frown. Yet Allah says he SallAllahu said and frown and turned away on the blind man came to him, and then you hammered
Hola, adios, LM teach the world to recite. He frowned and he turned away when the blind man came to him.
And there are Subhanallah many such verses Right?
Like, if Allahu Anka Lima at the intellia home, when Allah speaking about the Prophet SAW Selim being too agreeable with the hypocrites, that was the deserting the armies and whatnot, he said to him, Allah has forgiven you.
Allah has forgiven you. Why did you permit for them to leave? To leave the army? Can we go? Yeah, sure, you can go.
And so, yes, out of the great status of the province outside of Allah began with, out of gentleness, right, Allah has forgiven you. But still, why'd you let them go? You should have let them stay with the army so that their true colors come out. And the believers know that they're not really with them. They're just front runners. In any case, so this is one of those verses a whole genre of verses, where if Mohammed was the author of the Quran, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
he would not have told his followers such things. I'm nothing new. I'm just the human being, you know, why do you do this? Why do you do that? And it is very interesting. There was even another similar verse like this with Zainab Rhodiola on herself, that
he, she was the wealthiest and she was the only one when he married her that was able to, like serve him honey, and he loved honey, so a lot and send that to the otherwise we're a little bit like jealous that they couldn't match that generosity. And so they made like a deal. And it works. That whenever the call center comes home, we're going to be like, from Zeniths house, we're gonna be like, what's that smell? Smell something was that smell? It was that odor.
And so yeah, Hafsa. And I feel like they're low on that sort of, you know,
tandem to do that. And then he said, Wait, every time you guys say that Zayn UPS house, that must be the aftermath of the honey, I promise I won't do it. He gave up what he loved to force upon and love to be agreeable to espouse something men and women should be learning from. And then Allah said to him, why, why do you prohibit yourself from something Allah has permitted? Again, he's being corrected publicly and teaching people to recite in their prayers and memorize the corrections that Allah is making for the
sub optimal choices of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam at times. So it's a proof of the truth of Islam. That's number one.
In so many ways, but let us just move on.
The other and final lesson I wanted to just,
you know, remind myself and everyone about is that
it's after the pinch that, that, you know, the test of our true colors really counts, right? Like everyone claims that they'll accept God's decrease until they come to pass, right? And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a very beautiful dua he used to say, well as a Lucario, bah, bah, bah.
I ask you to be content after your decree comes to pass. Because, you know, they say in, in many languages, I think the expression of everybody's a swimmer on the shore. You know how to swim. Yeah, not a swim. Yeah, no, of course, I know how to swim. Well, you throw people in the water. That's when you find out who was just fronting.
And so it's only after really, you know, you have an intention to be patient with Allah's decree, you have an assumption that your faith can withstand the commands the prohibitions, the destiny, but after it comes to pass, that's really when you want to evaluate yourself.
You know, and immediately after it comes to pass, by the way, immediately, you know, the story of the
Muslim, Muslim. And so the Allah Han said that Prophet SAW Salem, you know, he passed by a woman, and she was weeping at the grave and China to weep, but the weeping in this hadith must have meant wailing, because weeping would be fine. And there's so many a hadith that clearly say it's halal to weep, even merciful to weep, he himself wept, so Allah is Allah, but weeping, he was probably wailing at the graveyard. And so he said to her itself, de la was very, you know, fear Allah and exhibit patients.
So she said, she was so much into her sobbing, wailing that she didn't even know who was talking to her and so she she kind of lashed out and she said, Eli, Kenny for inoculum to sob the mostly Betty, you know, get away from me. You have not gone through my tragedy. You don't know what I'm going through, as we say nowadays, right? So he realized it's Paola, from his humility and his compassion that this is someone who's not ready to hear advice right now. So let me do her a favor before things get worse. She says more regrettable things. He let her be in. He walked away. People caught up with her like Lady you have any idea who just who just said that?
too, that was the province last summer. So the narrator says,
so she chased down the Prophet SAW Salem can be held out. As if death had befallen her. She was petrified how in the world that I say get away from me to the Bronx, I love that I tell him scram, how could I? So she's running as if like, death is chasing her. And she says that also Elia. So I didn't recognize I didn't recognize I'm so sorry. And but then now, this is wisdom. Right, what for another time, but now that she's coming for the advice, that's when he said he realized it's a good time to advise her, what did he advise her? He said to her in NEMA Sadhguru. And the somatic rule that when patients truly counts is when calamity first strikes. Yeah, of course, everyone, even
animals after sort of an affliction, they self soothe. We all self soothe the disbeliever self suits. But the believer is when the calamity is born, a lot of times it is born, it's born at its height. Everything usually is like usually born small and gets bigger except calamities. They're born big and get smaller. As you know that there's a lot Sally wants it. So bring it back to Xena. Yeah, the initial shock, Xena.
She didn't want to mess it.
But then she realized it's from Allah. So she submitted like a believer will submit and then the outcome was not as expected for anybody. Right? She didn't regret doing something for Allah, giving up giving in for Allah Subhana Allah that you never regret something you do for Allah.
But there will be times when you're doing something for Allah will be tested. Right? Like you can give up a haram relationship.
Or even a relationship you wanted to have with someone in the HELOC and they didn't give you the time of day. And then after you repented and decided to go the path of Allah shaitan goes to that person now. And beautifies you in their eyes. And now for the first time ever, they're the ones opening the door to the relationship. They're saying, All right, let's try it out. You know, let's get together. That's that moment. It's that test. You don't regret you don't walk back what you do for Allah. I did it for Allah. Allah will not ruin me. I did it for Allah. No regrets. I'm going to follow through on this. And so Zane zeyneb did it for Allah, she married Zaid
and then she got divorce. She didn't say, ah, you know, now I'm a divorcee. And now or maybe I've lost I believe it was our first marriage. I'm no longer a virgin or now you know, I'm sort of gonna have a harder time struggling and she was content. And so when she was content, Allah gave her what he never gave any other woman ever which is what
Yep, a wedding in the Quran. Not marriage. The Prophet SAW Salem because other people got married to the Prophet SAW said no. But she was married to the Prophet SAW Salem, in the Quran. philam KOBAS. They don't mean how parents are watching AKA, when they finished his relationship with her. We married you to her. And so Zainab used to actually, as the Hadith mentioned, brag to the other wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and say you are all married off
to the private salsa learn by your fathers and your families. As for me, I was married off by ALLAH from above seven skies. Like if that isn't a flex, I don't know what is right. And of course she's saying this
ingratitude and unhealthy pride. This is not set in a way that sort of is derisive or,
or condescending. It is, there is room for that, especially among tears.
And so through her contentment with what she did for Allah subhanho wa taala. She was tested, she was content and Allah gave her a super award. And as some of you mentioned earlier,
in the program, Allah gave her something else as well, which was that she was the first to be reunited with him in the hereafter. Probably Allah Allah, Allah, may Allah be pleased with her and all of the Mothers of the Believers. And I'll share with you that hadith for those that are unfamiliar with it. It's in Bukhari and Muslim.
I showed the other one, she said,
we asked the Prophet SAW Salem Witch, one of your wives, because he already said Felton would be out of his household. The first to meet up
with him for the reunion, but she they asked him Which one of your wives will catch up with you first. And so he said, I'll 20 Hakuna ADA, the one with the longest arm. She says so when the Prophet SAW Selim died, we used to measure our arms against each other
to see who had the longest arm. That's how eager they all were. And it was Celada. So that meant is Emma was the tallest of them. She had the biggest frame, she had the longest arm. And so
they realized they said, we realized that you know it so that would die first. They said, but when Zane up died first back to Xena. We realized he meant longest arm meaning the one who reaches the farthest their charity goes the farthest they are the most extensive in their philanthropy that I should explains and Xena was a crafts woman, she had like a certain skill that she would a be able to make money off of. She was a crafts woman. We used to be able to work with her hands. She had skilled hands, and so her earnings she used to donate. So she was the first wife to pass away.
There's actually a good question here. The question says, What about Khadija Levana?
The hadith says,
And Allah knows best. The hadith says which one of us so perhaps it is only applicable to the current wives of the Prophet SAW Selim at the time of the question, which one of us will catch up with you first? Of course, Heidi Jody Lavon, has died before the province De Soto said Hampstead. And so
perhaps that would be the correct answer. If we're talking about categorically all of his wives pre and post that inquiry, and Allah azza wa jal knows best may we be of people that are valiant and have the courage to sacrifice without hesitation, to submit to His commands and to see his tests for what they are and be elevated by them in Ramadan and beyond Allah whom me make no regrets people.
Allah calls it a transaction for reasons not a sacrifice, it's a trade off and what a great trade off, right you get from it in this world for the next this world takes from us so much as we say, you know, and it gives back so little. Whereas our laws though, it takes from us so little and gives back so much Subhanallah to add to that a little later on. So Allah said a lot of kind of Vienna Muhammad died earlier Siberian Allahu Taala and
Kamala Harris share Hamid I do you have to defend myself before the reason why I was excited about this topic is check we have satellites which ship what he was uni every Tuesday at 330. And like 10% of these questions of a hundreds are about divorce. We have General q&a is for any topic that we do with our Maghrib and unfortunately, like a good significant portion of these questions are always about divorce as like you know, and Shalosh income and will will take care of this topic for us at least for today for this phenomenon. It's Shall we believe me? I worked as a translator for Chef colleagues and others that damn joke and I know I know the ratio, I was just taking a cheap
opportunity at making a lousy joke I know. It was a good joke No, no, it was a good joke. I'll give you that I'm glad you made it from that.
But let me just give an opportunity and show liners you have made is going to be with us if he's not already mashallah he is with us. But if anyone has quick questions that you can ask in this appropriate setting inshallah please feel free to do so. To Sheikh Mohammed Nelly and then inshallah we'll jump into Quran reflect and then you'll have a chance to share your reflections as well in sha Allah
says IRA is asking did say the Madonna who may remarry?
Drawing a Blank. Okay, but like
if you had to bet and bedding was halal and stuff.
Marriage was so swift and so simple. In the prophetic era that, yes, they were married immediately all of them.
Men and women, right soon as those had entered, and so they were getting married. They it was a means of devotion. And the social taboos that we maybe are slowed down by nowadays weren't there. And sort of the practicality that we lacked nowadays. Were too idealistic wasn't there. And so yeah, if you had to, I mean, like, ze there'll be a Lavon. Of course, this came down to the reserves that has that was a fear, and he died shortly thereafter. In Moto, he was of the bearers of the standards the bearer of the banners. And he was martyred and without all the Allah Han and but those are like a full two years. They would not stay single that look.
Rather than the little having too much fun in this chat cheaper Moher then
as well, probably
the actually pushing for might as well shift is you're saying they got remarried very quickly. Isn't that I know nowadays, it's like you have to recover from the trauma or you have to deal with the, I guess, the fall back or it's not recommended to jump straight into another relationship. I guess there's different times that are they just they were able to separate themselves emotionally, what was the situation?
I mean, it is not that they were sort of
less emotionally in tune or less in touch with their emotions than us. But I think
over you overusing the word trauma, or assuming, projecting that, you know, the same incidents produce the same results across time and space.
Is not justifiable. I mean, it is the ease of the modern era. And, you know,
a lot I want to say a lot here, but it the ease of The Times has made the time so difficult, right. You know, quality of life is better, and pain management and luxury of living and all this other stuff has made a prick of a thorn, you know, like people used to get amputated without sedatives in the past. Right, there were plagues and all this other stuff, which is mostly gone. And we didn't have the what in the world is happening here? How is there even a god and atheism wasn't sort of like a no, there was no atheistic society that you can, you know, identify. And so, marriage and divorce, you know, the mortality rates were lower, you know, like, you got kids, okay, what am I do
with my kids, I need a wife right away, like, just, and so things were much more difficult. And so people were much stronger, let alone the greatest of believers, because the greater your faith, the more bandwidth you have for the blows of life, right? They're more surface layer, no matter how painful they may be. They'll never break you or thwart you, or deprioritize. What is worthy is the prioritizing. So
I know it's like a little bit of everything in that answer a little bit of a cocktail, but, you know, trauma, mental health challenges, they are a product of our age, they are ramped up in our in our age for a reason. Part of that reason is faithlessness part of that reason is the ease of life
and are utopian Disney fantasies as well.
Fair enough, didn't have this thing back in the day. Now that was a very good, I guess, analysis of the psychological development of the companions and where they were at at that time.
Some is the one that one last point someone said so it says the saying that Allah subhanaw taala doesn't like divorce is not true, right. If it's for justified reasons.
Yes, of course, are deemed permitted divorce.
I shamelessly would in the interest of time, just recommend to you I actually gave a whole talk about divorcing out of divorce the right way. Sounds like I'm promoting divorce but my argument in the hold Well, Michael, it was a short people that like 15 minutes, it feel free to check it out. It's called the thing we call it the fusing the divorce bomb. And basically the idea is if you understand how a divorce framework is laid out in Islam, it's perfectly made to minimize the horses because they are obviously not ideal and many times they could be acts of transgression. And that is why in the eyes of the nisa, Allah says female Panakam if you find compliance from your spouse that
was previously sort of like
rising up against you and not cooperating with the framework Allah gave, if they comply, Fela taboo and they Inessa Vela then do not
do not transgress against them in a lock and ally and Kabira Allah is the most high the most great meaning he's bigger than you don't just you know, strong armed thinking there's no consequence and so there is consequences of divorce in this world and in the next especially when it's not justified.
That's the simple answer. Exactly whatever the answer and what we've linked that lecture he'll drop it on telecom for anybody who catches this in the recording. She has excellent Christian Mohammed an honor to have you back as always at Humboldt mela please park on the rest of your a bada and accept from you all your efforts is Ramadan just seconder for gracing the Ramadan 360 community again, we look forward to seeing you in sha Allah online and hopefully in person soon.
Okay, so now on one acre what happened with Allah who want me to get to Ronnie?
Awesome. sighs All right. I hope you guys not enjoyed that topic, because now I'm cautious about my wording. But I hope you guys benefited in sha Allah from actually from additionality. That was really honestly, it's eye opening. And again, this is what I mentioned the beginning that the real enjoyment of different instructors and the way that they teach them which points that they bring out you can hear the same story multiple multiple times years in a row sometimes and take different things from it. A because you're in a different state of life and be because there's something that they connect
with something that they pull out and she says she says she has either said it is a very much needed topic and it's important for our community to be well versed in it and to be confident and comfortable in it and to not have that kind of mentality that sometimes permeate society. So with that being said, I know she is with us. I'm excited to see which take that he has this as the other cool thing is having the Quran reflects sessions afterwards. And having the instructors who are teaching on reflect then pull us in different directions and really make us dive into the Arabic into learn so very excited for today's for and reflect welcome back. So now I'm wondering what
happened last month? How are you doing? I'm gonna sit down when I'm going to lie. Okay, too. How are you? Having that? Um, well, this purple gets more and more purple every day. I'm telling you. I dish dish the purple. I said I want blue today. Is it blue? Okay, that makes sense. I was like, my monitor settings are the same. I feel like it just didn't
change. I changed the blue changes. You know what? I'll do a favor for somebody. Let's let's get this going. You know, the first person drop a color they want. I'll change that color. How's that?
Drop a color in the chat. Purple. Purple. It is Oh, I see why that first. I see red first. I see.
Okay, it was red. First. You're going to read? No, you go by what you see. Go read us. All right.
Here's a fun story. When I was in SNL, you know isn't it has that Menard? Yeah. And you can change the colors. So one of the subordinates? Yeah, you can change the colors right on my phone on the phone app, you can change the colors. So basically, on the whole nights, people were not showing up. So we had lots of food. So we're like, what do we do? There's so much food. So we said if you show up you get to change the color of them in our we had 800 people that show up showed up because every person that got a food got to change the color of them in our
Yeah, so it was like flickering, it was announced that people were probably so concerned we're like, what's going on? orange, pink, blue, all these colors. And it wasn't support time. It was like three o'clock at night. Right? Like nobody cared. Right? So so on the highway you can think passing Yeah. What's going on the party? Anyhow, inshallah. So I'm not going to touch on divorce. Okay, so I'm not gonna touch on divorce. Right. So no, I think we know the entire story. It's been mentioned multiple times. I want to touch today inshallah on deeper reflections, I don't think I've done that with you guys. So So and again, in pardon me for the session today because in order for me to be able to do
this session, I mean, ask questions, but I think sometimes I'll see how you guys are going. If you're able to pick those questions up, then we'll do the reflections. But if not, then obviously I'll just feel things and I'll tell you what it is. It's not not a big thing. Inshallah. So
just to tag along let me open my
Safari sort of access app. I have like 12 tabs and things open. So is this Are you guys seeing Safari so the time is up?
Now? Okay, good. Good. All right. Sweet. All right. So Allah subhanaw taala in these verses, so Surah Al Aqsa, obviously, it's all about this this battle of Lhasa, right and, and there's a beautiful imagery here. So you have like 10,000 people that have gathered,
all the Cabal promoted, you know, being being being enticed by the Jews, to make sure that it's to make sure that Muslims are completely gone. So we need to make sure that entire camp of Muslims, everyone, nobody should be able to walk away alive on that day. Now, what ends up happening over here is as little sort of loss that Allahu Salam and Allah is showing us the political climate outside Allah, like subhanaw taala, changes the topic for a second and then tells us the, the internal political climate of Rasul Allah. And that's what's happening with the story. So Allah is talking about that ze then the marriage of zayde with with Zainab and then Xena getting divorced and
getting married like Allahu anha, to prophets of Salaam and that, so that was an internal thing that was brewing. So so it's really like the imagery, if you want to look at it, Allah is showing us the entire thing, you know,
what Allah says, you know, that, that day that the hearts that came less than colluvial hanergy, that their hearts, they came all the way as if they were right in the Adam's apples, and they were about to come out out of the fear. And that scene is being played with like a layer of what was it a School of Law going through at that time to so that's, that's, that's important for us to understand that sometimes, you may have a leader that is out there, and they're they're out there gung ho fighting, but they may also be going through personal challenges. And what we see over here is these personal challenges of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam did not bleed into decision making and impacting
the decisions that you had to make an output and the political climate. And that is the powerful imagery over here that that's what a lot of showing that here's our sort of dealt with that interest.
situation and then look at what was the political internal climate of Rasul Allah, his family social, all of that thing was taking place and he didn't allow the to to mix and that's the lesson for us that sometimes we have work commitments and I as an Imam, I'm going through right now a political climate within my masjid, so something is happening, and we're trying to defuse it so that it doesn't it doesn't accept you know, go into courts and all of these things and and things are happening and with that, can I still go home at seven o'clock or seven? You know, when do I finish my head off or whatever? 710 715 and receive my kids and be there present for Iftar mentally and not
allow that to impact so that's a powerful lesson over here right? For all of us. Allah subhanaw taala he starts off he says, Well, I'm I can't anymore meaning while I'm up minute in Dhaka Allahu wa rasuluh Imran a Cornella who will cry to him and bring him that it is not befitting for a believer believing man or a believing woman over here the word Allah subhanaw taala says the meaning what am I mean acting? Now? When does a person become maltman? This is the question you guys can answer in the chat. What does a person become maltman I'm going to shrink this page a little bit sorry. So I can have
one does a person become moment in the chat let's go okay.
A person becomes when we when he acts like one mashallah mashallah, mashallah, mashallah, what a smart answer when he acts like one this is like, you know, this, this word that she used like, act like one, just saying that ilaha IL Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah is now somehow become this this new fad. Oh yeah, I'm a Muslim. I say La Ilaha illa Allah, everything is good. I'm entering Jenna. And I met this person, you know, Subhan Allah, they were like, you know, sadly, in a delusional state, and we were talking to them and he was like, he was like, Yeah, I believe in Allah. I say La ilaha illa. Allah Muhammad was sort of like every day, brother. I said, okay, and you know, so Hamdulillah I
hope that you you're praying and everything is good. It's like, yeah, everything's I don't, I pray all the time. I'm like, 24/7 in prayer.
I hope you're praying your five prayers. He's like, No, I don't need to because I'm in 24/7 prayer. It's even more than five. Right? And then he said something to me and he said,
Allah Muhammad Rasul, Allah is the key to Jannah
that's what he said, again, it's his whole of the self. I can't deny that. Then Allah Subhan Allah how Allah put in my heart something and I said to him, I said, I said, Yeah, but you know, you still need to make sure that you know, you know the key liquidity miftah in a snap on every key has to be hard for it to be open. And that carving of your key is your man. You can get the key of the agenda but if you don't carve it with your Amal, the door of Jannah is not going to open and how much do you carve is determined by a pseudo loss that I sent him and his way of living. So you need your key you got the key to Jannah but you need to put teeth on those key otherwise you're not entering
genuine right and I think that is something that we all need to to reflect upon that when Allah is saying remote meaning what I'm looking at in this is people who have decided they got the key but they're allowing the Sharia and the commands of Allah to carve those T shirts and to make sure that that T is is right fit to enter Jana. Okay, well, well Makanda Lima meanwhile, Amina tin is aka Allahu wa rasuluh who and run that when Allah and His Messenger is the decree a matter are you calling Allah homeopathy aluminum to him, that they have a choice in between them. Now, this is a really powerful message over here that that when a person fully submits to Allah subhana wa Tada
fully submits to the commands of Allah
Multimap in that he is fully convinced that Allah has made this command and it comes with hikma wisdom, there is exact amount that I need and everything is planned, then then what ends up happening is that person, he basically strengthens his Updata in Allah subhanaw taala. Because when you say La ilaha illallah and then you say you don't want what ever Allah tells me, I'm going to submit to that, irrespective of what the external data of my life tells me, it doesn't matter I will have fully attained in Allah subhanaw taala It is the highest form of liberation one can have. Because when you have submitted to the will of Allah subhanaw taala and you've submitted the
commands of Allah subhanaw taala even if the external world seems conflicting to you, your other submission becomes the source of power for you to live through this life. I'll give you an example of a person that I know very relative
have hours that person happened to you know that, you know, they're, you know, married and so the person has to convert but their father is not, you know, a Muslim, and their mother passes away.
This is a professor at a university high level, you know, really top university top 10 universities in America.
Every weekend, this person goes in the basement, and for the last seven years or eight years, every weekend, he goes to the basement and he cries and he cries, looking at the things that his mother left behind and he cries and he has no way to figure out what he's going to do with his life.
But when we have at Iman and we have this young teen, and our EDA says that, you know, my mom has passed away my father has passed away so and so has passed away, when those things happen. We submit to this this Aqeedah of ours this Iman of ours and that is why the word mean the movement or Allah minute in comes from the root word of MN
right comes from the root word of MN, which is what which means security which means peace, which means tranquility. So a person he be he feels at peace, knowing as a believer, he knows that I am a movement I have submitted I have peace I have Emin peace and security from what you have peace and security and sanctity from this, this this feeling that you know that in the past Allah was in control. In present Allah is in control and in future Allah is going to be in control and you find yourself at peace knowing that Allah was in control throughout every single stage of your life, and hence you become a movement. It up at Allahu wa rasuluh I'm Renee Hakuna Lahoma Korea Ramana marine
when the degree of Allah subhanaw taala comes
then we have no choice but to submit to the decree of Allah subhanaw taala
the second part over here is that but Allah who are Zulu Amana Arasu Imran we both need
Allah is the maksud Allah is the destination. Allah subhanho wa Taala who will not say he is the destination
and Rasul Allah who will have the they will not say he is the one who guides us to the destination. And both are needed. You can't just believe in the destination. You can't believe in the one who guides and forget the destination or you can just believe in the destination and forget about the one who's gonna guide you to this destination. And that is why every time you're going to see in the Quran, Allah Allah rasool Allah rasool Allah rasool Allah, Allah emphasizing this because nowadays there's this new phenomena, that believing in Rasul Allah is an optional thing. And it's not it isn't it's, it's a part of our iman, that when Allah decrees something and the Messenger of Allah
decree something then those things are synonymous. There's like if Rasul Allah says, do this, we have to do it because it's really a command to getting to Allah subhanaw taala they go hand in hand, as somebody said over here in the chat, okay, Wilma, well, my Silla rasool Allah azza wa jal, Bala, Bala, Medina, and if we choose to disobey Allah or His Messenger, then it is obvious that we're going to be clearly gone astray. May Allah guide us and protect us from that. Now here's where the reflections become much more deeper. Why is the orderly lady Anam Allahu alayhi wa and anti Lee I'm sick it because the Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam he was telling us aid.
He was telling to say that it is aid that hold on to your wife.
Okay, and what Dakila was we'll talk Fifi in a second he said don't don't do Tara don't fear Allah hold her hold her keep her in your in your in yours watch what don't see if enough sick I'm hola como de la Daksha nurse and you hi the things in your heart. And Allah is going to expose that with Tasha, Nas and Allah and you are not afraid of Allah and oh prophet of Allah and you're feeling what people are going to say. So imagine this even Prophet sallallahu sallam, he was influenced by this element, what are people going to say?
Right, what are people going to say? I was meeting one of the scholars, and we were talking about it and he was being bombarded and attacked on on Instagram and on Twitter and everything. We were talking to him and it was you know, sometimes these things might get to you, right? And he's like, yeah, sometimes they get, they become so real because even though I am not like that, but if enough people say that, you know, it becomes really hurtful.
Even Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam, he had this visceral fear that what are people going to say? So sometimes to minimize these feelings that some people might have about what are people going to say and to dismiss them and be dismissive of this attitude? Oh, you know, you always keep about what you keep thinking about people. People are gonna say
Just live your life forget about what people are gonna say no, no, no. What people are going to say is a very important element of our lives, we have to see my action and how that action is going to be perceived by people. The action in NERT innately could be absolutely perfectly right. But if you do it at the wrong time, if you do it not at the right time, then that action ends up becoming wrong in the eyes of people and then visa vie the action also becomes wrong, because you did something right at the wrong time.
So over here, rasool Allah Azza wa sallam he is afraid of that reduction. So Allah Allah quantify, all Allah is saying to prophesy Salam is like what Allah subhanaw taala Allah is more befitting of you, you having Harsha than worrying about what people are going to say. Allah Malka does a dumb mean, over here, this is a really interesting part. So in the first IR, until this part, the schinas Wallah who hubco and Dasha, this idea this idea is a form of some of their manifesto, and they say that this is a form of liberation, it's probably the most liberating iron. Okay? So what Allah is telling you Rasulullah Salallahu Salam in this entire idea, that, that, yes, you take into account
what people are saying, but do not let that drive your life. And that's where I want to talk to the people who sometimes take the the input of the people out of proportion, but also the launch should was concerned. And we should be concerned about what people are going to say, when you have done your due diligence, and you focus on what is right. And you know that this is the right thing you have done your matura you have done is Tahara then sometimes doing the right thing, irrespective of people what people are going to say you have to do that because you're doing it out of the fear of Allah subhanaw taala. And that's the second message that that you know, and it's a subtle difference
here, but also the last throughout his life, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was very cognizant of what people are gonna say.
And in this case, what happened with him was he allowed that feeling to interfere with the right decision.
And that's why Allah subhanaw taala revealed these verses. So this, these verses are called ayat of the heart road, the verses of liberation, because when we liberate ourselves from the shackles of what people are going to say, and being being humbled in front of others,
that we free ourselves because we connect ourselves to the utmost liberator, which is Allah subhanaw taala. And that's the entire message in this ayah take into account what people are going to say, don't be dismissive of those feelings. But don't let those feelings drive your entirety of life. So that you're, you know, every single action of yours worried about what people are going to say,
have a Shia of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada and have the fear of Allah, and let that be your driving force. Taking into account the external factors is that clear for everyone? There's a very subtle difference here between fully submitting to that and, and not even completely neglecting it, like don't neglect it, but don't allow it to drive your life. You have to take that into account, do your calculation and then have if you're doing the right thing, go for it. The second thing, what was the original name of Muhammad salah of Zaid or the Allah one
they didn't know. They even had it. It was originally but what was the name that he was known for? They even
they even Mohamed he was known as a they've been Mohammed. Then Allah subhanaw taala revealed the verses that are only about him that call them with the names of their fathers, right, who are closer to in the law that this is more fitting in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala so with that verse being revealed, now Zadara the Allah who haven't
lost that connection with Rasul Allah in His name,
Zaid ibn Muhammad, okay, when he lost his connection with Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, notice how Allah subhanaw taala respected Rasul Allah and respected the feeling of Zaid Radi Allahu, and to the extent that when he lost his connection in a public eye with the NABI SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, Allah made sure that his name was mentioned in the Quran for the rest of eternity.
And that's why he is the only Sahabi that is mentioned in the Quran.
Okay, and these are these are these are subtle points that sometimes people overlook. But likewise is the lesson for you and I the sometimes alarm at
take away something from you in the public eye.
Allah may take away something from you in the public eye, only to preserve your name for eternity in somewhere else.
Okay.
Next part
over here, the next part, Salam Palazzo, you don't mean her
last part, I can repeat it Anna, from Manila. So I can I can repeat that. So sometimes Allah subhanaw taala he may take an honor of a believer
from the public eye. And this honor was something you really longed for in the case of Zaytoven Muhammad of the day when he filberts is publicly was known as Zaid ibn Mohamed. And it was a point of shut off, it was a point of honor for him that I am the son of, I am the son of the Prophet Muhammad and the son of Muhammad. Then in the public eye when Allah revealed that, you know, this boudoir, this thing you cannot do adoption and the giving the name to an adopted son is not allowed. That name of ibn Muhammad was taken away and he became zazen Hadith. But now he lost the connection to prophets, Allah Salam in the public eye and it was like a sort of like us, you had this status
and now you became of a lower status, but sometimes the law will take that status away from us, only to preserve you for eternity somewhere else for for eternity. And in this case, Allah took aways even Mohammed and then Allah mentioned Z that are the Allahu and explicitly in the Quran being the only Sahabi to be mentioned in the entire Quran. Okay
the third part over here
zellwood Janaka ha this is this is interesting when they are the hola Hawaiian he was done with when he was done with with Xena or the Allah one whatever I you know all the formalities were complete the word Janaka ha So over here
this was something really interesting because Rasulullah Salem sent Xavier the Allah one to Xenium and said tell her that I I want to get married. Now.
Xavier the Allah who enters the house and turns this way and he says Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam years group that you know promises Salam is remembering you ie which was a polite way to say we want to get you know, he wants to get married to you. And as a this there, Allah reveals the verses and says, Oh, we're not gonna have that we've already married you.
And Rasulullah enters the house. Think about that.
Guys, like Yeah, you know, and this little Allah wants to get married to us and then Rasul Allah just walks in. And they're like, what's going on? And that entire scene this awkward because like you have an ex husband, wife, and they're like, Allah has revealed the verses, Allah has married me to you know, Nikka needed.
Noni caffeinated. And over here comes this point, which is what from one of the Hassan is, which is from one of the exclusive rules of Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And this is a tangent, but this is related to prophets of Salaam and a lot of confusion happens around this area. So there are some exclusive rules that applies to rasool Allah Azza wa sallam and his wives. That does not apply to many of us, okay.
Okay.
And those rules are in the form of the following things. Number one, the rule is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he can literally go up to a woman, if he's interested in her and tell her that I want to get married to you. And if she says yes, then that permission of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam suffices as Anika
Okay, after he's in, it's all from this ayah these verses, you know, and sort of dies out you can see that, you know, if you choose one number two, when Rasul Allah gets married to
well known they needed permission needed that also it's a profit center Salem. So his permission is the indica. He is the legislator.
Do you get it like he is the legislator of Allah in this earth? So he comes and he's Nika is the permission. I want to get married to you if she says yes, done. Number two, any woman that Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam concentrates the marriage
that women cannot be divorced from profits or loss, Helen.
Why is that?
Anyone why? Why is she not allowed to be divorced? So the sooner the law has to keep her
because she cannot remarry, she becomes Omaha meaning Hey, she becomes the Mother of the Believers. And it's a it's a status and once you achieve that status there is no stepping down from that status.
Okay, there consider our mothers number three
it is not allowed for anyone,
anyone to participate in the procession of the janazah of Omaha meaning
except their mushrooms except there maharam ie that you know the Omaha and whoever was for example, I should have the Allah one Abdullah even Zubair Okay, so they were not and basically what happens was that, oh my God, Allah, one at the time of formula, the Allahu, and because they had not created that sophisticated ways of doing the cause, sorry, geneticists, they would have put the janazah and the cloth and, you know, the body of the woman would be, you know, the, you know, it would the figure sometimes would be visible. And the issue would happen is that, you know, how do we protect the Omaha meaning from the eyes of the public. So, from that perspective on Tinder model, the Allah
one that was the rule during the time of Emirati Allah who won.
I believe it was one of I don't know which wife of Prophets, Allah Salam, or one of the Sahaba, that was in Habesha, she said that I saw that people have had Russia doing something, which is that they would take like a stick, so they would take like a stick. And when the janazah would be there, you know, the janazah would be placed the cloth, they would put two sticks in between, somewhere in you know, where they could, that would allow the cloth to kind of like fall overhang over and that would allow basically, basically the covering that was needed when the janazah was preceded. So when Zane evidently Allahu he passed away,
I think, no Xena or one of the others have yet and one of the other wives of Prophet SAW Selim, Omaha to let me know when she passed away or not, or the Allahu anshi He liked that advice. And he said, Go for it. Let's use this technique. And then he permitted and he said because now that fear of that exposure of their bodies is taken care of, and they allowed the procession to rest of the Omaha didn't want me to be
you know, sort of it's not necessarily a heritage somebody said how did it's not necessarily how this but again, so this is related to the Omaha and what meaning the next part of Omaha and what we need and the house of Rasul Allah some exceptions are that you're not allowed to go sit in the house of Rasulullah waiting for food to be served you can only enter the house of profits or asylum after the food is served
later on as you need it now, you're not allowed to be in there we're looking at the pot Allah says lay it I know the Rena you know that you're looking at the cooking pot and waiting for that food to be cooked that explicitly Allah mentioned that. So those are exception rules of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam next part if Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam did Nika with someone and she or the marriage was not consummated, then that Nikka that that then that
divorce was permissible before the consummation of the marriage, as was the case with another woman by the name of ESMA. But also the loss of Salah marry this woman asthma, and some of the Omaha meaning they tell her it said no, so the Lhasa Salam, the most favorite statement of his is I will I will demonstrate on the regime. So as soon as the Rasul Allah entered the room, she says, I owe the bIllahi min, I seek refuge from you from Allah
Surah So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, la ista as Devi ma as you're seeking refuge from the one who's refuge can never be turned away, is heavy for anti Thai let go, you are verily divorced. And I think there were two or three other wives that are sold to other people that also lost a certain woman that she married, he married but the marriage was not consummated, okay.
The burials would occur at night, not necessarily, they would, they would, they would.
Not necessarily, but preference would be that, you know, it would it would they would do.
The preference would be that they would want that kneecap to sorry that janazah to be done, allowing only the Muharram for the longest period of time, people would proceed and as soon as you would reach the janazah, like the upper, you know, the place the graveyard, only the Mahara men would then lead the janazah all the way to the place where the janazah takes place. Now for other places where the janazah takes place, and there's this fear of a woman being exposed like in Canada and America, we put you know, bodies in cascades, so that fear is less, but in other parts of the world, only men can go in.
So they and this is
Is this is this is something so in certain parts of the world, you know, the, you know those people that are neither men or women and Mirtha dites like they are neither men or women, then they are employed for this position right so then they don't have any Shashwat they don't have any desires to that and generally those are the people in certain parts of the world are employed and that's the job that they're given some of the times to to perform about that. Then Allah subhana wa Tada Allah says,
Allah they don't mean how to render which now Caligula Jaquan Allen what meaning a halogen see as long as you are there yet him. So this is why Allah says that you know, Allah married him because Allah wanted to end this that if you say this is my son, either yeah him all it is, is I've made a claim that this is my son. And then you have a wife. Now after the divorce happens that wife has not there's no connection here. She doesn't become non Muslim to me, like she does. She doesn't become a Muslim to me, I can still marry her. And that is the tradition that Allah subhanaw taala wanted to end.
What kind of Amarula Hema for Allah, mankind I didn't even halogen then Allah subhanaw taala brings this ayah he says Martin Island every human heart surgeon, that oh prophet of Allah prophets, Allah Salam, he does not have any knowledge or discomfort females out Allah don't ever think that Rasul Allah Salah Salem would not have married so over here Allah is giving you and me a surety that Rasul Allah does not have a horizon. When it comes to the commands of Allah Allah commands Rasul Allah will fill fill the command, he doesn't have any discomfort in his heart, FIMA follow the law with that which Allah has decreed.
And over here, something we need to to understand that any believers and this is visa vie through promises, and we're being taught that whenever the decree of Allah subhanaw taala comes when we feel deadly, when we feel some form of disconnection, when we feel some form of discomfort in our chest, then understand that there is something we need to really work on our Rachida.
And over here, Allah is using the provinces some as an example. But teaching us that if your NaVi does not have any hemorrhage in even the sensitive matters to fulfill the FARA the commands of Allah, what Allah has imposed on him, that you shall not feel any discomfort. And this is a message for all of us, because we're living in western times. And in these strange times, sometimes it is discomfort. My wife the other day, she was traveling in, you know, we were we were in a store, and in Atlanta, I mean, this was the first time that woman had ever seen anybody with with with an OB on. And she was not very polite to my wife, right? And my wife felt that discomfort, right? And, and
and in those spaces, when you feel that discomfort, understand that the liberty that you have is you live in a land in America, in Canada, in these western lands where you can speak up. You don't have to be silent, you don't have to persevere politely, right? You just say, is there something that is bothering you let me speak up. And again, my wife was a bit struggle, right that like, she could feel the two different ways that we were treated, even when I want to buy bread, right? In places. Sometimes when you go to rural areas, people have not seen somebody who looks like this. And they're like, who are you? Like, you know, You're strange. Why are you even hair, right? This is supposed to
be all white people here. But what ends up happening is we need to put out, we need to feel that, you know, these are the decrees and commands of Allah. And when we are solid, and when we're pegged to them, we will not feel any discomfort. But here's the trick. To get rid of that discomfort we have to confront those who discomfort us
in a polite manner. So if somebody's like, oh, I don't like your hijab, I don't like your beard. I don't like your wit to say, You know what, let's have a conversation about it. Let's talk about it. What is what is you know, educate them politely beautiful, right? We need to educate and we got to make those people discomfort because look, they're taking the liberty of this law in this land that they can speak up. Similarly, you take that liberty and say, Wait a minute, you are you have taken the liberty to create discomfort to me, I'm not going to allow you to do that. I am going to pause it and say You're awfully making me this comfortable right now. And the beauty of this new ages you
don't need to justify anything and throw these buzzwords like I'm feeling very discomfort right now. And nobody gives a why well I don't need to justify that. I'm feeling discomfort and use that and speak up and don't don't don't shy away from that. And that's what I like to say Nakane Island maybe even hydrogen, although profitsystem was thinking to be the remember this this thought was all in the heart of promises theorem. He never expressed it. This was an internal thought of Allah that until Allah made a practical example for us that you may be thinking about that but
Don't forget that the sudo Allah does not feel any discomfort and Zack which has been obligated, so nuts Allah, even Latina hello in Kabul and this is how Allah has been managing and Allah has been, this is the way of Allah subhana wa Tada with every single nation before you speak up, you rise you stand up for you right and be polite about it.
What kind of Allah Who am what kind of a mandala hippodrome Nakamura, here's the beauty, the other the decree of Allah, it is going to happen mk cadoola, it has already been destined it's already happened. Then don't allow others to discomfort you. If they are discomfort, if they are discomfort table with the way you look. Go and
confront them. And let them feel that you are discomforted and allow some discomfort for them to saying you know, I'm not gonna allow you to only discomfort me, I'm going to discomfort you as well with asking some set of questions that you know, this is awfully awkward. Like I was talking I was in the airport. And some some girl just kept looking at me. And I just went up to her and said, you know, this is quite awkward that you've been looking at me for the last two minutes. And I'm quite, you know, I feel discomforted with that. Is there something I can do. And we started having a conversation and then she ended up happening to be the one that was sitting literally right next to
me in the plane.
Imagine her discomfort, right?
So we we took a flight and had four conversations about Islam about no love and what she thinks about love and all of that, like, I don't know, whatever. And I was like, you know, I'm gonna let her know that, you know what you believed about me. And in the end, you know, she said, you know, you're quite an intellectual guy, like, I don't look like one.
But what I was able to break that image for her right that you know, somebody who looks DC can still be intellectual, right? You can have a conversation. And this is, by the way, my recent trip right now.
So it's very interesting. I lost my data. In the end, he says, I live in a human level wanna reside in that wire shown a home what I have shown in Allah, this is the crux of the entire discussion I had, you and I have been sent with this message Allah chose you, many of you are also some new Muslims, welcome over here. But many of us were born Muslims. If you're a born Muslim, your ultimate purpose of being born into Islam was that you go and spread this message you well they're gonna recite it now. Those who go and spread the message of Allah, this message of Allah show no. And in that spreading, they don't cross the boundaries, they fear Allah they have a shield of Allah
subhanaw taala what I have shown hidden in law Allah and they're not afraid to do things for the sake of Allah, they don't care about what people are gonna say if it is related to to Allah subhanho wa Taala
and understand you know, one of the authors he said something beautiful, he said either como la hopeful abdomen what be lamb Jakub che ncwa When a person's fear for Allah subhanaw taala is absolute and it is it is complete, then there is nothing left in this world for that person to be afraid of other than Allah subhanaw taala Well, Metta ma na casa hopeful and whenever that person's fear depletes ie your fear for Allah instead of 100%, you're at 50%. So Hannah, who is the who has often been called him our i da, and every single person, you're going to start getting afraid of Oh, what if this is going to do what this person is going to do? How am I going to do this? What is this
going to happen with my job my boss did this. You're constantly you're like scanning for fear. But when you have anchored yourself with your, your ultimate fear only belongs to Allah. And you've submitted to that nothing else in this world can shake you. And that's what shift momager now he was talking about that, you know, these people that were so anchored, there were so anchored, that like an event like a traumatic event. Again, this is a word buzzword but if the traumatic event of divorce, right will take place. They were so like their their fear for Allah was so high that a small event in this dunya could not lead them to trauma. Like imagine that they would literally be
praying and they would say, Hey, man, listen, let me get into the salah. This will recharge my fear for Allah and the fascia and you can amputate my leg.
And in one of the scenarios, one of the person who says no Monica and originally I thought that when we talk when we chopped his leg, or was certain that either of them in when we reach to the bone and we had to cut the bone, we looked at that somebody's face and we saw that he was not even here.
May Allah grant us that ability to connect with Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran, and that only comes when you have Russia. Okay, well Kafa BiLlahi Has Eva and understand when we submit to Allah and all of our fears, we submit them to
Allah that Allah is the ultimate reckoner, ha ha Ciba. It'll take care of all of your things. You don't need to worry about anything.
In other stuff Sierra was reading and I copied this page, I'll read this part, this element. He said, Lo Anna Dari. If a person makes a claim by Akira, who will be among people who be Adela the person who calls and calls out to people. If that color each and every one of you, you and I have to be colors to Islam. If this color reaches this conviction of Luma yaki, you know who that has yet been become sperm BNL Umrah Kulu Julio will be at the law that all the matters belong to Allah subhanaw taala while your guru Allah Yun foxy wa there is nobody who can benefit or harm other than Allah subhanaw taala that generally Cooley just didn't fit a video in Islam, that person he is going
to be seen in every single avenue and every single place in the world where you could spread Islam, they would be spreading Islam. But the reason why you and I do not spread Islam is because we are not anchored our fear to wit to our fear in Allah subhanaw taala is not anchored our young teen our this alguma Yachty know who that Allah is
a controller of everything, everything in his hand, the head is in hand, the blood is in his hand, all of these things are the opinions that belief is, is not very strong. Hence, when we see an opportunity to do that, we're we're like, Ah, I don't know what people are gonna say. I really don't know. Right? And we kind of like walk away. We shouldn't say, you know, eight Muslims. You know, I just think you know, Muslims, I mean, at least they can like I think anybody that makes an effort I am a very cognizant of that. We don't know let's not call anyone Ramadan, a Muslim, let's not call anyone eat Muslims, because I think those labels sometimes do more damage than harm. We grew up
listening to that don't be around Milani, but I completely despise that I think that that person made an effort to come to the masjid and I always tell people sometimes,
you know, we'll have like, we have some non Muslims coming to our Iftar. And we're making like, arrangements for this, pardon my language for this non Muslim to come to our Iftar. And we're breaking all the rules possible, to make him feel comfortable. But when it comes to our own brothers and sisters who have lost their way, and then in Ramadan and the spark of Ramadan, they tried to come back, we started labeling them. So sorry for that pushback, but I'm very cognizant of that. We should not call anyone aid Muslims, Ramadan, Muslims, at the end of the day, our brothers and Islam, you know, Allah has tested you
with this test that he gave you the hidayah. So you can guide those people. So So imagine if they started calling us lazy days,
right? Oh, look at these, you know, lazy practicing Muslims, they're not spreading the Islam.
I'm sorry to call that person out. But again, I don't take this type of. I'm very, very, you know, that's a different side of me. But again,
you know, knowing no, no heart intended here. You know, just I think a correction that I saw in the chat. Okay, I'll stop over here. If anybody has any questions. I can take one question. It's Oh my god, it's already 630 I need to go. I thought it was
okay. I'm so sorry. I would definitely have to go. People have messaged me just on Instagram saying Oh, when are we going to do a q&a session and stuff like that? When we have a small I think I think after tomorrow or the after there's only one IRA so that day we can do a lot in sha Allah together again, I hope you enjoy the different style of the border. This is where you get to listen to me more and I can be in my zone, but I can do both inshallah you know may Allah bless you all vertical if you come in Shall I need to go so I'm only gonna have to live with
whoever together does Aquila FareShare I've made looking forward inshallah to your session tomorrow. I hope that you guys enjoyed that and I feel like Sorry, very public today. I hope that we inshallah get a chance to I've lost my train of thought that's okay. Just a couple couple reminders before we close off one is I mentioned that hallelujah Mother of All Access Pass is now gone live you guys may have received an email about it this morning. It's a pass that gives you access to everything and the virtual online on site and faith essentials families for an entire year. Inshallah I got a lot of messages. I think I responded to everyone about it. Apologies if I missed anything missed any at
all. Please just message me on telegram because I was just typing away the entire session. Like, I don't know if there's anything that I did not catch. So just message me there and I'll respond to you there. Once again, it's a matter of.org forward slash all access, of course amalgam.org For slash donate, especially if you guys wanted to automate your donations and we were mentioning that yesterday and found that out it's been finalized or it's it was it went live yesterday as well. So if you just go to that group.org forward slash donate page and Shala there's a little blurb right underneath the the checkout part where the