Mirza Yawar Baig – Islamic manners #17

			Salam Unger here Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam, ala Viva mousseline Muhammad
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was set up this evening because, because
		

			we continue with our lessons on Islamic matters from the beautiful book of chef of the Fatah odorata
Malik, and this is the chapter on condolences, how to give condolences.
		

			And the sheriff says if you must give the other undesirable news of a tragic accident or the death
of a close relative or a friend, break the news in a way that decreases its impact make it mild and
gentle as possible, for example, the case of Odette USA, recently I heard that so and so I've been
very sick. Unfortunately, her condition has worsened. And today I learned that she passed away May
Allah's mercy be with her, or something like this? One should start by giving the name of the person
in question Do not break the news of her death by asking, Do you know who died today? This unduly
kind of manner frightens the listeners and prompts them to expect the worst, like the death of
		

			someone who's very close to them. So instead of that mentioned the name of the person before
breaking the news, maybe somebody who's not related to something I'm saying, Do you know who did it?
And immediately your thought will be what you know, why are you asking me that? Maybe somebody close
to me like, why are you asking me who rightfully so instead of that, don't do it, do it. And then as
well, so passed away today may Allah have mercy on them handler. So the idea is not to create more
confusion and more stress than that is already there because of the person who passed away.
		

			Likewise, to convey the news of any tragedy, whichever whatever it is, in Soheila, in a, in a
similar fashion, prepare the listener for the news, which which minimizes its affected mentioned the
name of the affected person in a kind way, not a shocking way.
		

			Today's world we have enough of these kinds of news, may Allah have mercy on all those people,
especially in Oslo, or wherever else they are.
		

			And one of the things that I say, and this is me, not the chef, is that where it is not necessary,
don't mention those things because there's no real virtue in going on and on about does anybody know
this, what they did, and this is what happens when we will have, we know this happening. So going on
and on telling people about it, you only eat one or two, either your heart is so hard, it makes no
difference, which is a bad thing. Or if your heart is alive, then you will really get depressed and
you will get sad. What we need to do and should do is every single day, make the habit further on
yourself, at least to pray two rakaat and make a lot of dua for especially people who are
		

			everywhere, wherever Muslims are, are interested make dua for them make this this is the real thing.
There is not a it's not forwarding messages and getting upset and excited. No, the real if you're
really concerned with that, if you're not praying that it means you're not really concerned is just
competition. So don't do that make the charges for winners and make dua because the only they at the
end of the day we know this the only one who can change the reality is almost 100 Is nobody else,
right having one actually having open other than Allah Sheikh. So of course we don't have that when
we when we say you know, right to the Senator this is that is all means hamdulillah but if somebody
		

			really thinks that that is why we are there is a bigger problem. So, but at the same time
Hamdulillah we have faith in Allah subhanaw taala only Allah can louder or the whole day level. So
make this into a duty on yourself. Right that is is nothing I'm not saying it is for make it further
on yourself and say that inshallah at least I will pray and I will ask Allah Subhana Allah and
inshallah we ask Allah to accept our salah, and to accept order. And to do that. Also, the Czech
says Choose the appropriate time to convey such news it should not take place at a meal or before
going to sleep or during an illness, compassion and tactfulness are the best qualities you need to
		

			add into the situation.
		

			In * alone, he says Do not talk about debt when you have invited some people over for a meal if
there are people who are eating don't talk about this. So they asked you why he said because one of
two things either
		

			is the person heart is alive, then the person won't be able to eat after that because he's thinking
of diagnosing you with DACA This is not how will how can you enjoy the food you can't enjoy the food
he voted. So it makes no sense you call them for a meal then you talk about death and you know the
whole atmosphere is gone. Or
		

			they will eat if their hearts are dead. And he said this is not a good thing for people to realize
that these are people who have
		

			nothing that is like a stone. So he says don't do it. There are times and places for everything. On
the opposite side for example if you are if you are at a cemetery you are
		

			Do you see people chit chatting? Is that including joking?
		

			Is that the right place to tell a joke when you're there to bury somebody and you're laughing
forward?
		

			I mean, we see this all the time it may Allah have mercy on us. I mean, there's no sense of
appropriateness, you know,
		

			even if it is not a joke, even chitchat, even what happened, this happened and how you came to bury
somebody, think about this one day, somebody will bury me one day, this Gerasa will be me.
		

			Right? That is the property, you're going there to do that, to remind yourself Where is the time for
talking politics or God was what we talked so very important for us to have a sense of time and
place, so we do things which are appropriate. Then he says, expressing condolences is a courtesy and
a duty parting among loved ones is the rule of Allah's manager in his creation, as hobbies or movie
reported in the Hadees. Love whoever you will, for you will part this is one of the hardest Bucha it
was one of the seller was told by the Minister of the Saudis. He said love whatever you want,
because you will part and many of the things he said then he says, words have said we are but guests
		

			with our families staying a while and leaving them. Well then parents are but trusts inevitably, one
day the trust will be recalled, the children of this life will be all part they will all part the
children of this life will all part until they meet together again in the year after you ask a loss
manager to bring us together with all our loved ones. In the in the era of tension.
		

			One poet listed eight stages that we will pass through and no one is spared. He says happiness and
sorrow meeting and separation, suffering and ease, illness and well be another point said make
enduros my friend and leave painful sorrow You are not alone. Everyone lost or will lose a loved
one.
		

			And one that is so true. You know I was I gave you a 2019 and as a rule of thumb, the line makes dua
by name of people who are close to me and so who passed away. Those names are increasing. Every
year.
		

			I was telling my wife the other day I said you know there were so many names. Now I've got another
one another one, the increase Hamdulillah.
		

			If a relative or a close friend or one of your relatives or friends dies, hasten to offer your
condolences. Don't wait do go as early as possible. You have the moral obligation towards your
relatives and friends of alleviating the suffering. If you can, you should attend the funeral and
the janazah the burial at the cemetery. Aside from being a highly rewarded gesture of sympathy, it
would be an effective and stern and management lesson to you, reminding you of the inevitability of
debts. Your life taught me many lessons today your debts taught me the most important lesson because
the law
		

			he reported the resources and I'm said the rights of a Muslim towards his brethren are five, one to
return a greeting. If somebody says around Morocco it is your duty to save our Muslim. If you're not
saying where it was around to somebody who says around you, this is Rob This is against the against
their wishes in Hong Kong. The only time you do that is if the person is an enemy so you don't
return the salah because this person you don't wish well for this person challenge not true for us
for anyone who's liberals. So seriously if you have a prayer if you have sometimes you know some
people do some stupid thing you get angry, no problem, settle that. Settle it, but always return
		

			syrups The first thing is to return the right of the Muslim five to return a greeting to visit them
when they are sick to attend their funeral to answer the invitation. So it's a we invite you accept
limitations. You cannot accept bigger make actions wherever you know don't just disappear or not
turn up or something that does not good. And finally, to win the same and this needs is a
Hamdulillah you say your uncle. So five things, Imam number Rajala report it. So as a result of that
visit the sick and follow the procession of the Janaza funeral. You will remember the hereafter. The
purpose of that is for us to condolences alleviate the sense of grieving that before the family of
		

			the disease. This is achieved by encouraging them to remain remain composed and to trust your loss
manager is great reward and loss Rotella
		

			said is awful Bacara.
		

			The first year he said this in sort of the buffer at the end 155 on reserve and give glad tidings to
those who are patiently and you're and who save and afflicted with a disaster. Truly to Allah we
belong and to Him is our return. They are those on whom they send blessings and the mercy of the
Arab and they are the guided ones is Assa masiva
		

			To kind of in a reliable manner I don't like either himself or to me Robbie Miranda or like homegirl
moto. Allah Jalla condolence includes in In conclusion, gondolas includes praying for the help and
pardon of the diseased as they will receive the benefit of such prayers. Condolences a sincere
expression of one's sympathy and sorrow at these stressful moments, even imagine and biography
reported, with a fair ranking the Hadith when Salah was reported to have said a Muslim who consoles
other Muslims suffering from a calamity will be awarded a dress of dignity by Allah subhanho wa
taala. On the Day of Judgment, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to help us to learn these beautiful
		

			manners of our deen and to practice them in our lives and to benefit from them was Allah Allah Allah
will Karim Allah Allah He was named after to go online