Mirza Yawar Baig – Islamic manners #12

			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Ashraf, Edom
behavour, mousseline Muhammad Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi, right out of the USA was one of the
Sleeman cathedral cathedra home.
		

			Sisters, yesterday, I was having a chat with Omar, who takes care of all these, whether reminders
about the importance of this series of that I'm doing just now on Islamic manners, and how
critically important this is, today, especially in today's times, and especially in these countries
in America, Canada, and so on. Where there is such a complete destruction of manners.
		

			That is, it's incredible, it's
		

			it's impossible to imagine
		

			anything that could be worse,
		

			there is simply
		

			total absence of manners, not just among children, but among adults. And this is a very
		

			important and very alarming thing because if adults don't have manners, how will they teach
children.
		

			So, it is something which is
		

			I strongly advise everybody to do listen to this whole series, and to try to do what
		

			should have been Fatah odorata Lolly what he talks about which is the Sunnah of Rasulullah
		

			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		

			We are on the topic of social matters. And the topic and the subtopic here is telling your family of
your whereabouts. If you leave home,
		

			and go to a place other than your usual work, it is advisable to inform your family of your
whereabouts. Knowing where you are, keeps their mind at ease.
		

			Depending on where you are and what you do, and so on, so forth. Today, that's even more easy to do.
Given all the gadgets and apps we have, where you can your family can literally, you know, look at
look at the app and see where you are.
		

			That may not be necessary for everyone to do but definitely let them know where you are when you
arrive at the place send a message saying arrive safely when you are leaving, say leaving now. So
they have an approximate idea of how long you should take to get there. And obviously this is good
also because if you have a breakdown or something and somebody is tracking you, somebody who loves
you, is keeping track of you know, you should have been home by now you're not for me now. So let me
check and see what happened to you and so on. It's good to know that then we do continue the grid
Tabby, other the imminent demise also do see disapproved of one going out without telling his family
		

			of his whereabouts. In this regard, Mr. Mohammed bin humble Lee reported that Katha narrated that he
went with a boo mush out to visit a shabby. His family said he was not home at other asked, Where
did he go? His family said we don't know. I thought that disapproval disapproving. They said Are you
saying he does not tell you where he goes? They said yes, telling your family where you are
decreases their worries if you're late and we'll keep both of you at ease as they will be able to
reach you if they need to.
		

			Then we come to the next section. Respect the poor. If you come across a poor person at a gathering
or a poor person visits your home or at work do not look down upon him or her. Poverty is not a
defect or fault to be ashamed of my lack of kindness and generosity is I see this beautiful advice I
want to repeat this.
		

			He says poverty
		

			is not a defect or a form to be ashamed of why lack of kindness and generosity is
		

			such an important thing. If we you know if you see a what we really consider to be assets, treat
poor acquaintances or guests with honor and respect, talk pleasantly to them using the best of
language. Again, although it is not advice, many who are poor are more honorable than the wealthy
and many who are penniless are preferred to the rich one, but this is so so true.
		

			Today, we got to a stage where money is the only criteria. So you have a billionaire and we look
look up to him as a role model. Even though he is cheating on his wife he got if he you know, his
his, his models are like that of an alley cat.
		

			And please, no offense meant to cats, and so on and so forth. You know, here's a person completely
immoral or amoral and we have no problem.
		

			Key holding that person as a role model. Just think about that. How you
		

			Evil is that
		

			then we come to the section called exchanging gifts. If a friend or relative or an acquaintance
gives you a gift thank them as soon as possible regardless of the value of the gift. It's good
manners to show warmth appreciation for such a kind gesture and if you can reciprocate with an
appropriate gift
		

			the Prophet sallallahu sallam said whoever does you a favor and reward if you cannot reward him pray
for the Hadees calls upon the receivers to reciprocate within their means that reward means a gift
equal on to that received. If there is not possible then a simple gift will do. If that is not at
hand, then a sincere prayer would suffice.
		

			It is recommended that the reward be better than the original gift. It is the essence of Islamic
manners to return a nice gesture with a better one abre a man brought in Abu Hanifa Atilla a gift
worth 10 drums, the Imam presented him with a gift worth 500 drops, the man was surprised and said,
but Imam, my gift was little about a 10th of your gift. Your gift is
		

			more valuable. The mom answered, you remembered me while I forgot you. I remembered you only after
you had given me your gift, so your gift is better. So I look at the look at the wisdom and look at
the humility and look at the good manners of this response. It is a bad manner to receive a gift and
remain silent without a word of thanks. As if it is your due right to be presented with gifts is
equally ill mannered to delay that to a later time or until you are reminded of the gift.
		

			Communicating with non Muslims
		

			have good relations with non Muslims. This is a very important topic. Especially
		

			if we
		

			you know when we think about living in these countries in the West, where there is such a wonderful
opportunity for interfaith relationships, interfaith work, people are open to dealing with and to
learning about Islam. And it would be a really a terrible lost opportunity if we didn't take
advantage of that and present Islam to them in the best possible manner and live in an isolationist
kind of way. So it is very very important to
		

			to to understand this and to do it correctly. A good relation to non Muslims as a Muslim once you
demonstrate to all people the goodness of Islam with gentle manners and current behavior. Bukhari
and Muslim reported the hadith of * or the landlord, who said, None of you perfectly believes
until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself. The version reported by Muslims says
unless he loves for his brother on neighbor as he loves for himself. The scholars commented that the
word brother is used in the most common context and thus means brother in humanity, including both
Muslims and non Muslims. A Muslim should love for his non Muslim brother as he left for himself to
		

			become a Muslim, so as to enjoy the benefits of Islam and the rewards of Allah. A Muslim does an act
of goodness when he prays for his Muslim brothers to remain Muslims and to continue their devotion
and adherence to Islam. In circle mattina, Allah subhanaw taala said which means ALLAH forbids you
not with regard to those who do not fight you for your faith, nor drive you out of your homes to
deal kindly and justly with them. Meaning Allah is not forbidding you to deal kindly and justly with
people who are good to you.
		

			For Allah loves those who are just Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fought you for
your faith and drove you out of your homeland support and support others in driving you out for
turning to them for friendship and alliances. Those of you who do that are doing wrong. And
obviously this is very clear. If you are trying to align yourself with somebody who is clearly your
enemy that is wrong and it is very stupid.
		

			The SEC continues nothing prevents us from being kind, generous and helpful to non Muslims as long
as they do not demonstrate verbal or tangible animosity towards Islam. Hopefully this will remove
barriers between Islam and Muslims. If your neighbors happen to be non Muslims, you must not forget
good Islamic matters in dealing with the neighbors, Muslims and non Muslims alike. We may invite
them to our homes or accept the invitations. As long as this is done without breaking the rules of
Islam meaning as long as
		

			you are able to.
		

			If they invite you to eat, you eat, make sure you eat and so on and maintain the boundaries of our
faith with regard to hijab and with regard to greeting each other
		

			So, my experience of dealing with non Muslims here I've been living in America for four years I've
been deeply involved in interfaith work is completely positive. Always the I don't have a single
negative incident to talk about hamdulillah
		

			as long as you are open as long as you
		

			maintain your dignity as long as you maintain your boundaries, people respect you for practicing
your religion. I dress like a Muslim I walk and talk like a Muslim, I make sure that I don't
compromise anything. Right, I don't wear a suit and a tie just because I think it pleases anybody
else it doesn't is their dress I also wear suits, suits and ties when I want to. But I make sure
that especially when I'm dealing specifically with non Muslim or teaching colleges where I'm going
to to be to interfaith meeting as one that I always dress as a Muslim, meaning that I'm wearing a
turban I'm wearing a turban wearing Michela I'm hearing very distinctly clearly Islamic dress. And
		

			this believe me this is something which is appreciated by people. It's not something which you need
to be afraid of, or you need to, you know, be apologetic about it is something which is not just
accepted is appreciated by people that people have told me that in so many words, so seriously. I
think it's high time we take confidence in our system in our own culture and how and the culture is
the culture of Islam. It's not it's not Arab culture. It's not you know, Hyderabadi culture or
something. It's it is Islamic culture, we are Muslims. And our brotherhood is based on faith, and
therefore its Islamic culture. nothing to apologize for something to be confident about something to
		

			be proud about not arrogant, proud and not arrogant but confident. And inshallah Allah subhanaw
taala helps in this extends also to practicing Islam meaning that if you need to pray you pray and
doesn't don't worry about who's watching hamdulillah people watch and this is good for them. They
see what Muslims are doing. And I have never seen any, any hostile reaction to that always. The
reaction is always been polite, or the actions always been been positive or there's no reaction
which is fine. Either way, it's fine. Was Allah Allah Allah, Allah will Karim Allah Allah He was I
remember our together