Maryam Lemu – Marriage Gems #15

			So I think one of the things that he did to deposit in my emotional bank account, it seems strange,
of course for many to hear him say he was doing about 70% of the cooking. But before we got married
when it was telling me my rights under Sharia, the first thing I always remember that stood out was,
he said, you do not need to cook in the marriage. And I didn't know this, even though I didn't see
my mother cooking, except when she wanted to cook for fun or something, an English dish and so on.
But he said, you do not owe me to cook, you're not going to be a glorified housewife. What your
obligations are, are here and he gave me a book and Funny enough, it was a book written by my mum.
		

			And he said, read it. These are your rights, but these are your obligations to me. And we discovered
that as the marriage started, even though he knew I could cook over 200 French and Italian dishes
and my stepmother may Allah have mercy on her taught me up local dishes, and I learned from other
friends. I could cook extremely well, but he was the one who was doing the cooking around the house,
cooking in the house. He was doing the chores. He was helping clean up the house, he would be
vacuuming. He would take my laundry and go and wash and just the ironing I remember one day he gave
me his clothes and told me to iron out like running late for work. And I just absent mind he said
		

			Marian, can you please add the shirt for me? Because I'm running late. She just stood there and this
hand was not born with an iron in it. Yes. So behind Allah Don't worry. I didn't want him to treat
me like a house.
		

			I'll do my I know it sounds so terrible was it was a joke. Yeah, I wanted to send the message.
		

			It's just a subtle reminder. Yeah, of what I told