Maryam Amir – Political Role of the Women Companions

Maryam Amir
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of Islam on women's, including the need for donations and a structure for women to stay in. They emphasize the importance of creating a trusting and supportive culture for the community, as they are actively working to support them. They end with a recitation of a song by Sir valued by the speaker.

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			It was a lot
		
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			when we look at Oh yeah, sorry,
just Miriam friend, oh, I know I
		
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			want to be respectful, though, so
I do want to give the an
		
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			introduction, if that's okay with
you. Oh yeah, you don't need to.
		
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			But sure, okay. I do because I
feel like I need to, because we
		
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			should really celebrate the
scholars that we have among us,
		
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			especially someone as yourself. So
I do just want to take a minute. I
		
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			sent everybody the sheik bio, but
I will read it, just in case you
		
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			didn't get a chance. Mariam Ahmed
received her master's in education
		
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			from UCLA Bruins. She holds a
second bachelor's degree in
		
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			Islamic studies throughout a
university, Mariam has studied in
		
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			Egypt, memorized the Quran
mashallah and researched a variety
		
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			of religious sciences, ranging
from Quranic exit exegesis, oh my
		
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			gosh, I know how to read
		
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			English word
		
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			Islamic jurisprudence, prophetic
narrations and commentary women's
		
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			rights within Islamic law and
more. For the past 15 years, she's
		
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			featured in a video series on
faith produced by goodcast.net
		
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			called the Mariam EMEA show. She
actively hosts women who have
		
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			memorized the Quran from around
the world to recite and share
		
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			their journeys through her into
the revelation series and the
		
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			foremothers campaign. If you
aren't familiar with that, please
		
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			go to her Instagram page, because
it is phenomenal. She is an
		
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			instructor with Swiss, which is
the sohai web Institute and hekma
		
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			institutes, and an author with
virtual mosque and online she has
		
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			been interviewed for her work by
major news outlet, outlets
		
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			including BBC and PR and CBS.
Maryam is focused in the fields of
		
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			spiritual connections, identity
actualizations, social justice and
		
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			Women's Studies have humbled her
the opportunity to lecture
		
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			throughout the United States and
the world, including in Jerusalem,
		
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			Mecca, Medina, Stockholm, London,
Toronto, and so many more. And
		
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			this is like the coolest thing, I
think, of all of that, she holds a
		
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			second degree black belt mashallah
in Taekwondo and speaks multiple
		
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			languages. We are also excited to
have you here, Sheikha, and I
		
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			always
		
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			think it's amazing that we have
you in the community. You're
		
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			changing so much for us. I me and
my sisters talk about this a lot,
		
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			the culture and a lot of the
things in, unfortunately, in our
		
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			societies that are conflicting
with Islam and actually not not
		
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			Islamic principles, and so I love
that you're speaking up and
		
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			bringing all those Hafid and of
the Quran to your space and your
		
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			platforms. Recently, I just want
to share one thing recently,
		
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			shayka Mariam brought to her
platform on social media the first
		
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			individual Down syndrome to
memorize the entire Quran. Her
		
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			name is hafida Rawan, which is
speaks volume to to mashallah, the
		
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			beauty of the Quran, and also to
the capabilities of this
		
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			individual and her intellectual
capabilities. So again,
		
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			highlighting very important people
in our community, JazakAllah
		
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			khairan and I will meet now
		
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			Hana Kala, PK, thank you so much
for having me. It's an honor to be
		
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			here seriously this morning, when
we look at the way that we talk
		
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			about women's issues in our
community, it's often in a
		
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			particular lens, and that lens is
often what what lens would you say
		
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			that you hear about women's
issues? Share with me
		
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			that we have, I feel like a lot of
times, people tell us the things
		
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			that are haram or prohibited, more
of like
		
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			telling us where to go, what to
do, and it's not, even though it's
		
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			supposed to be empowering. Islam
is empowering women, but that's
		
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			not how it's framed.
		
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			Absolutely, yeah, yeah,
		
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			anything else?
		
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			Like, what are women's roles in
Islam? Yeah,
		
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			from the perspective of men,
		
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			so much, so many moments at one
time. I almost feel like a lot of
		
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			it is, like, focused on, like,
child rearing, and which, like
		
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			mashallah, that's also like, so
positive and great. But I feel
		
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			like, like even the women at the
time of the profit, like their
		
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			roles were so much more and so it
feels like very restricted,
		
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			yes, absolutely, absolute session
with focusing on a woman as as one
		
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			particular type of type of space,
in one particular type space. Yes,
		
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			anyone
		
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			else? I also feel like sometimes
the way we're taught Islamic
		
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			history, it's almost as if women
are like sign line sideline
		
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			spectators. In one of our fellows,
we had a sister talk to us about
		
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			one of the companions of the
prophet that was a woman, and she
		
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			played a vital role, but also a
lot of times in like the top of
		
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			Sierra and um.
		
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			Even the way we discuss the
companions of the Prophet, the
		
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			men, it's like they were like main
characters, and it's almost like
		
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			the women are like peripheral,
like background care, you know,
		
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			like in a movie, like background
characters, like extras, right?
		
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			Unfortunately, do you? Do you
remember?
		
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			Do you remember who they
mentioned, which, which companion
		
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			it was,
		
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			unfortunately not the same. And,
Aya, you were there. Do you
		
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			remember who it was?
		
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			Desi, you're on mute. I don't
know. Um,
		
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			unfortunately I don't remember.
I'm so sorry. No, exactly. That's
		
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			why that. No, no, that's, that's
literally, but just like power to
		
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			the point that's literally, like
part of what, what, what proves
		
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			the point. Subhanallah, I mean,
all of the things that you all
		
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			mentioned, whether they were
related to just women, kind of
		
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			being told what we should be doing
with our lives, or that there's
		
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			really like an emphasis on one
specific thing that we should be
		
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			doing with our lives, or the fact
that, yeah, we did exist somewhere
		
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			in some place, but who were they?
We don't really know. It's kind of
		
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			like the messaging that many of us
have heard growing up in the
		
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			Muslim community or in Muslim
spaces, even if you come from a
		
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			family where, excuse me, maybe
your your parents or your family
		
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			members support you and what you
want to do in terms of like, maybe
		
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			you have particular goals you want
to fall and you come from that
		
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			kind of background when you walk
into the community, not every
		
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			space, obviously, but a lot of
spaces kind of focus on this,
		
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			marriage, motherhood, modesty as
the most important parts of A
		
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			Muslim woman's life, and of
course, they're very important. No
		
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			one's disagreeing that they're
important. They're not important.
		
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			But when we actually look at like
the time of the companions, we can
		
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			name women companions like when
you ask, what are names of women
		
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			companions? Typically, the names
that come up very quickly are
		
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			Khadija and Aisha and Fatima
rodiloha and hun but what do we
		
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			know about them. When you are
taught about Khadija radilo Ha,
		
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			this is typically what we're
taught. We're Tada Khadija radilo
		
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			Han Ha, when we give, you know,
let's say, a presentation to a
		
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			group of of individuals who are
not Muslim, who want to learn
		
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			about Islam, we say things like,
she was older than the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wasalam. She was
a businesswoman. She was someone
		
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			who supported the Prophet. Peace
be upon him. Look at how
		
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			empowering Islam is for a woman.
The Prophet's wife proposed to
		
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			him. She was a widow. And we say
all of these things as like, these
		
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			empowering, you know,
		
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			points. But when it comes to
actually practicing any of those
		
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			in the Muslim community, it's
like, yes, Khadija radila Ha was a
		
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			businesswoman, but women should
never go into business. Yes, she
		
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			was a widow who was older than
Prophet saw them, who proposed the
		
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			props Holy Son, but a woman should
never be any of those things like
		
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			the way that we present the few
women who we actually talk about
		
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			is such an injustice to who they
really were. Because when we even
		
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			look at Khadijah, how many of you
have ever thought of her as, have
		
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			you? Have you have any? How many
of you have ever thought of her as
		
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			a political revolutionary, because
that's who she was, because she
		
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			was the first person who accepted
the message of the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. So
she accepted the message of the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu, alayhi
wasalam. And with that message
		
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			came what a complete, a complete
change of the structure of the
		
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			economic system in society and the
structure of social hierarchy in
		
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			society. It wasn't simply I accept
that I believe in God. It was a
		
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			complete shift of society. So when
there is political pushback when
		
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			there are, when there are, when
there are the leaders of society
		
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			who are forcing, physically
persecuting, to change people, to
		
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			change their perspective. This
becomes political. She's the first
		
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			person to accept this message of
complete transformation from the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
sallam. And when we look at Asmaa
		
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			bint, Abu Bakr, odiloha, anha on
Huma, bint, Abu Bakr, Huma, we can
		
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			see that she was a few a political
rebel, because what did she do? We
		
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			talk about how she helped the
Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
		
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			sallam, Abu Bakr radiloha and Huma
rodi Aloha, and who leave and make
		
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			Hijra. And we know that story, and
we say that story with pride that
		
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			she was the one of who had the
two. She cut her her garment into
		
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			two, and so she was able to use
that garment to to support the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu, wasallam. But
we have to realize that she was
		
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			aiding fugitives. Was a political
act for her to not only put
		
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			herself on the line, but to to to
also put her family on the line.
		
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			She was seven months pregnant when
she was helping the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu Abu in the desert. The
Quraysh physically assaulted her
		
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			for her actions, and yet she
continued to be steadfast in the
		
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			form of support the Prophet of the
Prophet, sallAllahu alayhi
		
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			wasalam. But how many of us have
ever heard of her in that light,
		
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			even the fact that she was seven
months pregnant or in the third
		
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			trimester of pregnancy? Has anyone
ever heard of this before? Why?
		
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			Is that not focused when we talk
about these women who gave up
		
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			everything and yet we only focus
on one aspect of their lives? Why?
		
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			So? Why does this happen? There's
a an author, Dr Asmaa ziada. She
		
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			wrote a book that her father,
who's a sheik, started to write,
		
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			and he passed away before he could
complete it, and the the
		
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			introduction that she wrote for
his book is so beautiful. She
		
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			talks about her father in such a
way. I mean, I was bawling when I
		
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			read her introduction. And the
reason I was bawling is because
		
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			the way that he she talks about
this father is someone who
		
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			invested in her, and he's starting
this work. And what is the work
		
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			called? The work that she
completed in his name, door, the
		
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			role al Mara a CSI
		
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			filat. So she is writing a book
about the political role of woman
		
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			in the time of the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, and
		
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			in the righteous belief in the
righteous Khalifa, the Rashidun.
		
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			And in this book, what she talks
about is that when people examined
		
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			the time of the past, a lot of
times they did it in their own
		
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			lens, right? So like, if somebody
wants to write something about the
		
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			time of the Prophet sallallahu,
Islam in the Sira, they might be
		
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			looking at a particular aspect of
the Sira. They're not necessarily
		
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			looking at woman in the Sierra. So
if you're not looking for
		
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			political involvement of women in
the zero, then that's not going to
		
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			be a part of the book that you
write. And that book, which
		
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			becomes a resource for people to
read and for people to spread
		
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			Islam, doesn't include that
perspective. So now you have lots
		
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			of books written without this
perspective being included, and
		
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			those are the books that are used
as resources and references, and
		
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			now this perspective is not even
being included. And so her work
		
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			looks at how woman came and gave
the baya to the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhisam. That was political.
Woman made made hijra two times
		
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			why to seek political asylum. This
is political so she's looking at
		
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			the woman companions in a
completely different perspective.
		
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			Not simply, yes, women who fought
in battle, because there were over
		
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			30 women campaigns who fought in
battles, really, Lahore, anwon,
		
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			but also in looking at them in
these perspective of in these
		
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			comprehensive perspectives that we
would say for men, of course, we
		
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			would say that men were
politically involved, but women
		
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			were literally doing the exact
same action. Why wouldn't we also
		
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			put that as part of their
involvement? So when we simply
		
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			look at the way that we frame
women's roles and
		
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			responsibilities, we can
absolutely emphasize, and, you
		
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			know, highlight the fact that they
were actively involved as mothers
		
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			and actively involved in
maintaining their home. But we we
		
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			harm every woman who doesn't fit
into that narrative when we don't
		
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			share all of the aspects and all
of the faucets of who these women
		
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			were, and even women who do follow
that narrative, because some women
		
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			give up everything to be, to be
housewives and mothers for their
		
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			entire for their for their youth,
through their through their
		
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			middle, middle age, and now they
are faced with maybe a marriage
		
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			that might, might, might have been
supportive, or maybe they're no
		
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			longer married for whatever
reason. And now they have children
		
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			who have grown and what is their
role, they have never explored it,
		
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			because they've never been told
that it's important for them to do
		
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			so. So we do an injustice to every
woman. When we don't give a
		
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			comprehensive picture of who the
companions were radila, who were
		
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			women, we don't injustice to all
the sacrifices that those women
		
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			gave. Because when we look at the
way that Sheik is, he talks about
		
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			how women's roles, unfortunately,
have been so mis understood and
		
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			throughout, throughout Islamic
history because of politics. So
		
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			for example, Sheik Akram nadaway
talks about how there were women
		
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			who were Hadith scholars and felt
scholars and scholars of all
		
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			different paths, who taught men
scholars. And we all know this. We
		
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			all know that there were, there
were women who were scholars in
		
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			Islamic history. But what about
the fact that ima mere, ima Hajj,
		
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			Ibn Taymiyyah, all of these great
names who we constantly quote, can
		
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			all trace back their teachings to
women who taught them. And when we
		
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			look at that and we say, what
happened throughout history? There
		
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			was a time period in which Greek
books of philosophy were
		
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			translated into Arabic. And this
was a time period in which Arab,
		
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			Arab scholar and Muslim scholars
who were reading Arabic,
		
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			translating into from the Greek to
the Arabic, started using part of
		
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			this, you know, discussion of
philosophy, both to refute it and
		
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			also the part some of it was
included. And part of that
		
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			discussion had to do with women,
and what did women what did it
		
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			have to say about women, that
women were not they were
		
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			questioning whether or not we we
know this questioning or not
		
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			whether or not women had souls.
We've heard that before, and the
		
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			time when Europeans were
questioning whether or not women
		
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			had souls. Islam gave women the
right.
		
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			To inherit. Islam gave women the
right to be a businesswoman. We
		
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			use that as a talking point, but
they were also saying that whether
		
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			or not women should actually
receive an education, whether or
		
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			not women should actually be a
part of these spaces in which they
		
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			in which they are actively
involved in society. And so what
		
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			we see from the Greek the time of
the Greek philosophers is when
		
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			those started to be translated and
they started to become part of the
		
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			text of the Muslims. And those
Muslims who identified with being
		
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			philosophers actually took the
rule. They became the rulers. They
		
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			started shifting policies related
to education. So if they're
		
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			closing the doors of education for
a woman, and they're in rule in
		
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			the in the rulership, and this is
a policy that's impacting the way
		
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			women are seen in society. How do
you think that's going to change
		
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			just a few generations so in just
a few generations ago, from women
		
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			who are scholars, who are teaching
men and women to to women who are
		
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			not even able to receive the type
of education that they had
		
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			received a few generations ago.
Because when you set policy that
		
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			starts impacting not just my
personal experience, but all of
		
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			our personal experiences, which is
why so many of us have the same
		
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			experiences, because the policies
in our misadjut are often
		
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			reflective of the culture which
the masjid has chosen to create as
		
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			part of their policy. This is why,
when you look at the many women
		
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			who have been so honored to
interview from mashallah all over
		
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			the world. You see women who's
part of their culture's policy is
		
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			that women are in spaces of Quran.
So when you have someone like
		
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			Sheik war dahasan, and she is the
the woman version of Abdul Basit,
		
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			and she's reciting and she has won
on competitions on television, and
		
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			we ask her a question of, where
did you learn this from? And she
		
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			says, Oh, I learned this with my
whole family, like my dad, my
		
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			everyone in her family has been
taught this. And it's not that she
		
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			is. I mean, she's very special in
mashallah, but she's not as
		
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			unique. There are so many women
who are part of the culture of
		
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			Indonesia who learn Maka mat as
children, and she's
		
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			actually an Azhari graduate. She
went from Singapore, studied in
		
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			Azhar, and she learned and of
Quran. Her Quran is incredible.
		
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			She's won international Quran
competitions. When I asked her,
		
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			when did you learn Quran? And
she's like, here in Singapore, we
		
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			learn it like you learn a sport in
school, like physical education,
		
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			like PE it's part of our
curriculum. From the time young
		
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			girls are three five, they are not
just learning how to memorize
		
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			Quran. They're learning how to
perfect their recitation of the
		
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			Quran because it's the policy,
it's their culture. So it's not
		
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			she's so special. She memories
Quran. It's the whole culture is
		
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			encouraging all women to memorize
the Quran. And you see this panel
		
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			in Malaysia. I went on a on this
TV program in Malaysia that is a
		
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			woman, fartuza. She is a Korea who
has again won Quran competitions,
		
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			and she is reciting with two other
men. They are the host of this
		
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			show, and they're reciting, and
they have people call in, and they
		
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			they do recitations with them, and
the culture was all about her
		
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			perfection of Quran when she
recites the way that the men
		
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			respond, or Allah. It's not stuck
for Allah, it's a law. It's this
		
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			upliftment and this enjoyment and
this love for the Quran, not
		
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			because she's a woman, why she in
this space? Because the way that
		
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			the scholars in that region look
at these issues are very different
		
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			from the way that scholars in
other regions look at these
		
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			issues. And we see the same thing
in Morocco when I interviewed
		
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			hafida Mariam, she's again,
another Mashallah. I mean, all of
		
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			these women on TV winning
international Quran competitions,
		
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			incredible recitation. And I asked
her, like, what is it like for
		
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			women to memorize the Quran like,
Are people kind of, you know,
		
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			uncomfortable with you reciting in
competitions? And the way she
		
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			responded to me was, Where do you
live? I was like, California, and
		
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			she's like, listen, maybe in
California, you don't know what
		
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			it's like for a woman to recite
the Quran. But here,
		
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			all of the woman, she's actually
from Algeria, all of the women
		
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			recite Quran. Women recite in
competitions with men and women
		
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			beat men, and the powerful
response to her, when I
		
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			interviewed her, I suddenly got
like, I can't even count how many
		
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			messages from Morocco and from
Algeria, from women who are like,
		
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			I'm also a party. I've also won in
Quran and competitions. Can you
		
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			interview me too? I was so shocked
at all of a sudden I'm getting so
		
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			many messages from women from this
region, that region, and the
		
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			Indonesia, Singapore, Malaysia,
like Subhanallah, the amount of
		
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			women who are are Quran, not just
Quran memorizers, Quran reciters,
		
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			the perfection of the recitation,
and it's something that's
		
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			encouraged in the culture.
		
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			Sure, and that shift is something
that we we don't know. When we
		
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			don't live it, we don't see it,
and so we assume it's a
		
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			controversial topic. It's a
progressive, liberal, feminist
		
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			opinion, and that's just, you've
just been influenced by
		
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			westernization. The other day,
there was a girl on Tiktok who is
		
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			asking me, like, why is it that
you and she mentioned, like,
		
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			Yasmin will get hit and Dr Rania,
she's like, why are you, like, the
		
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			only woman scholars? And I'm like,
like, all I'll do respect like
		
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			you, you just don't know who they
are. That doesn't mean there are
		
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			none. It means you don't know
them. And her reaction to that was
		
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			like, okay, okay. But like, maybe
United States, but like, there's,
		
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			like, really, no, you know. Are
you influenced? Are Muslim women
		
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			here influenced by western
culture? And that's why they are
		
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			speakers, because there's really
no speakers, like around the
		
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			world. And I was like, again, with
all due respect, you do not know
		
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			they exist. That doesn't mean they
don't exist. And part of the
		
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			problem for us here in our
community is that we don't have
		
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			structures to create the culture
for women to be in these spaces.
		
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			So for example, you might know a
few women from social media. Maybe
		
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			you've met a woman in your Masjid.
Maybe you know medium to beef mom,
		
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			and you go to her and you ask her
for advice. Maybe you have like
		
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			these you know women who are in
your masjid, who you can go to,
		
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			and you're like mashallah, that
chala, she knows something. I'm
		
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			gonna ask her a question. But how
many of you know of a woman in
		
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			your community who has actively
been teaching Islam and giving
		
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			lectures, MMA sa Quran? Maybe you
know one. Maybe you even know two.
		
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			But do you know that person as a
source of authority in your
		
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			community, or Shia RAM Khala that
you go to in the masjid. When you
		
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			have advice, you need to ask for
advice. The authority that is
		
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			given to women is created in our
spaces when we create them, when
		
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			we demand the creation, when we
are creating these roles. So that
		
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			all of little sisters who ask me,
I want to study Islam, but I don't
		
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			know where to go. I don't know
what to do with it after I study
		
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			it, that's what all of us went
through. We went and we studied
		
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			Islam, and we come back and we're
like, what do I do with this? You
		
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			can teach Islamic school to third
graders, which is really, really
		
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			an important role, but you don't
need a degree in Sharia to do
		
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			that. Or you can teach Islam in
the masjid. Free Sabi da one
		
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			Sheikha, I know, who has a PhD in
Islamic law, she could not teach
		
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			Islam in the masjid because
they're not willing to pay her at
		
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			all. But she did not have enough
of an income on her, on her
		
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			husband's income, so she had to
open her own business, and she
		
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			does something completely
unrelated to Islam so that they
		
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			can make ends meet. She has a PhD
in Islamic law. What kind of
		
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			benefit could she have brought to
her community, but the community
		
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			was not willing to support her to
be able to live. So when when we
		
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			look at the importance of having
women scholars, it's not just this
		
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			is a sister who speaks at a
conference that's wonderful,
		
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			that's inspiring, but we need
massaged. Who are creating spaces
		
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			where you have an Imam, and the
Imam is accessible to men and
		
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			women, but you also have a woman
who is a resident scholar, who is
		
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			at the masjid, who is accessible
to men and women, but especially
		
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			to women, because I don't know
about you, but I have definitely
		
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			gone through the experience of not
knowing if my period was done,
		
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			having no clue who to ask, and the
only person that I know who to ask
		
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			is the Imam of my masjid, who I
don't know how to access, except
		
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			through the men's prayer hall. So
I need to find a random man to
		
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			find the Imam to come outside and
talk to me about my period. This
		
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			is so absurd, and the fact that
that has been so many of our
		
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			experiences speaks to the point
that we are not prioritizing
		
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			women's needs in our community,
when
		
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			Panama, when we look at Islamic
history, and how the way that we
		
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			present women's issues in our
community so intentional, and it's
		
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			so skewed. And I don't think that
this comes from a malicious place
		
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			by any means. I think truly, we
have had generations of trauma
		
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			because of colonialism. With
colonialism came the ideas of
		
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			puritanical Christian
		
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			taboos on women. And so we go from
again women coming from a time
		
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			where women were flourishing in
different places. Colonialism
		
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			happens, ravages Muslims, Muslim
space, Muslim majority countries
		
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			and the Imams, the she, you of
these countries are making the
		
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			tower to protect women in that
time period, to protect women from
		
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			*, to protect women from being
harmed. And so a lot of times,
		
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			this concept of protection, the
protection from fitna, which is
		
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			two points. It's a completely
different one, unrelated to the
		
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			one I'm sharing. But this concept
of protection sometimes is
		
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			sincerely to protect women from a
serious harm. Of course, we can
		
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			say that we don't want women to
be.
		
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			Are going out into the street and,
God forbid, facing any sort of
		
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			harm because of colonists who are
coming in and literally raising an
		
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			entire an entire city. But did
those scholars intend for those
		
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			fatawa to last until, until
forever, or was the intention to
		
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			protect women in that time period?
And this goes back to the concept
		
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			a set of Lara Yar, which is
something that's used so often for
		
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			women. It's the concept of
blocking the means to evil before
		
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			you can actually get to that evil.
And it's it's really what the
		
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			concept of woman, we say the Quran
is based in the woman. We say the
		
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			Quran is not based on ijumara of
an ayah in the Quran. It's not
		
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			based on a consensus of of a
Hadith from the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi salam. In fact, the Prophet
sallallahu alays and Muslim ibn
		
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			Muhammad heard a woman recited in
the Quran, and he was emotionally
		
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			impacted by her recitation. And we
have to realize the woman
		
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			companions were in the time of the
revelation. There's more than one
		
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			narration of a woman who recited
and memorized the whole qur, a
		
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			whole Surah, like Surah Kahf, or a
different surah of the Quran,
		
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			because she heard it from the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam, he would recite it in the
masjid. So the Lahore, they would
		
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			send them, she would hear it. She
would memorize it. So you, you
		
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			have to think the woman were
memorizing Quran. How do you
		
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			memorize Quran in your head every
day, like you have to say it out
		
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			loud, you're reciting Quran. So
whether they were reciting in
		
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			their homes, in the way that, of
course, women recited in their
		
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			homes, and it was, and it was the
walls of their of their home
		
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			wasn't super thick that no one
could hear outside. There are too
		
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			many narrations, including the
famous one of Amar hearing a
		
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			daughter and a mother speaking
about the justice on something
		
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			that they were going to sell. And
so he asked his son to propose to
		
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			one of his sons to propose to the
daughter. So we have too many
		
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			narrations of women's voices being
carried out of their homes, even
		
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			Amar Aldi laho Anu approaching and
hearing the wives of the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And
he's like, you speak to the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam like this. And they say to
		
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			him, Well, you're like, stern and
you're harsh. Of course, we're not
		
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			going to speak to you like that.
And Prophet SAW, Islam responds.
		
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			Asthma takes another road from
Amarillo Anhu. And so the point is
		
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			that we could hear women's voices
in the street. Don't you think
		
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			that if it was haram for a woman
to recite the Quran, the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi salam would have
been required to say that it's
		
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			haram for women to recite the
Quran in a public space, because
		
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			he would have overheard it
multiple times. Sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam. But if it was the norm,
if it's part of the norm and the
		
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			abnormal is the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wasalam hearing it and
		
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			becoming emotionally impacted by
it. That is a recording that we
		
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			have. The fact that he was
emotionally impacted by hearing
		
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			her recitation. Not the not the
fact that the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			Sallam heard a woman reciting that
was already normal. And I'm not
		
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			saying, of course, if I saw some
hearing the Quran, of course, is
		
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			always emotionally impacted. But
I'm saying the point is that we
		
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			choose what we're going to focus
on, which is why, when we talk
		
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			about atika radila bin Zayed, who
was the wife of Amar Odilo anhu,
		
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			she was the wife of Amar ODI
lahohan, who who he did not want
		
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			to go to the masjid because he was
very jealous. And we have to also
		
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			realize who was Amma. He was
someone who said that we used to
		
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			think of woman as nothing. We used
to think of women as absolutely
		
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			nothing, until Allah revealed what
he revealed, and he divided what
		
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			he divided. And so he's coming
from a time period where women
		
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			were seen as nothing. They were
inherited like property. They were
		
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			buried alive as baby girls. That's
the culture surrounding woman. So
		
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			what shift Did he go through in
just a generation because of the
		
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			revelation, to see woman as his
partners, as the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu sallam said, to see
women as allies, as the Quran
		
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			says. So now you have to recognize
that that shift as he's in a
		
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			position of power and women are
coming to him, and he says that
		
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			Omar made a mistake, and it was
corrected by a woman, that he is
		
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			making the shift that women are
his equal, spiritually, that he's
		
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			taking advice from them, that on
his political cabinet, ashif had
		
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			been told. So look at the shift of
what he went through and his
		
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			personal preference for his wife,
Attika, not to go out. That's his
		
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			personal preference. Now, the way
we hear this, I don't know if
		
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			you've ever heard of this
narration. Have you heard of the
		
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			narration of Amar being jealous of
his wife going to the masjid? Have
		
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			you heard that before
		
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			I heard it? From you? Anyone who
has, oh, from me. Okay. Alright.
		
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			Have not okay. Often times when
I've heard this, the way that it's
		
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			presented is, see sisters, someone
as great as Amma did not want his
		
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			wife to go to the masjid. So you
should realize the importance of a
		
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			woman not going to the masjid
because someone, as you know,
		
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			someone who, who's, who's a
guaranteed paradise, worldly,
		
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			Allahu anhu, such an amazing
example for us all. Didn't want
		
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			that for his wife. The problem is
that this doesn't look at the full
		
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			picture, because atyaka had put in
her marriage contract that she
		
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			wanted to go to the masjid before
she married him. This is mentioned
		
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			in Ibn hazard book. And then after
that, she asks Amma, why about
		
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			why? Why he's not stopping her,
and Ibn Amar has a narration when
		
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			he asks her so.
		
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			This is basically his stepmom.
She's going to the masjid. And Ibn
		
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			AMR is asking her, why are you
going when you know the armor
		
00:30:05 --> 00:30:08
			doesn't like you to go? And he's
respond. She's responding and
		
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			saying, Why doesn't he ban me from
going? And the response to her,
		
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			Radi Allahu anhu, from Ibn AMR is
that because of the words of the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu, sallallahu
alayhi salam, do not prevent the
		
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			the maid servants of Allah from
going to the from going to the
		
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			house of Allah, that TAM Naru, ima
Allah, Sajid, Allah, and so she
		
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			keeps going. Now, what happens
when she goes? Amra radila huanhu
		
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			is stabbed. He eventually is
martyred. Rodi Allahu, Anhu. And
		
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			again, the way I've heard this
story, atiak was in the masjid
		
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			when he was murdered, doing
something that he did not approve
		
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			of. So you might think that as a
wife, she could feel guilty, she
		
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			could feel regret, she could feel
like I should have listened to the
		
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			person I loved so much I was in
love with my husband. I should
		
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			have done what he wanted me to do.
He died and I was doing something
		
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			that he didn't love. Instead, when
she gets married again to azube
		
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			rodi Aloha anhu, she puts it in
her marriage contract again that
		
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			he cannot stop her from going to
the masjid because the masjid was
		
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			so important to the woman of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
00:31:06 --> 00:31:11
			sallam, who surrounded him. This
is why Sophia radila. Maybe you've
		
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			heard of the narration. And the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
		
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			is walking with one of his wives,
and he sees a couple of
		
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			companions, and they're saying to
them, and then he clarifies that
		
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			This is Sophia rodilla Juan, and
they're like, of course, we would
		
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			never think something of you. And
there and then he talks about, you
		
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			know the how she Aton can run
through your blood, that the
		
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			importance of clarifying these
matters. Have you heard this
		
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			before? But have you heard why
they were walking together? Do you
		
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			know why they were walking
together?
		
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			No, because she was praying at the
mosque. She went to the masjid to
		
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			visit the Prophet sallallahu Alam.
He was making Arti Caf. She went
		
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			to visit him. Visiting is a
voluntary action. It's not an
		
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			obligation to go to the masjid to
visit someone. Azikef is a time of
		
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			seclusion. You don't talk. You
stay in the masjid, you focus on
		
00:32:02 --> 00:32:05
			your worship. The Prophet
sallallahu Sallam didn't tell her
		
00:32:05 --> 00:32:09
			to leave because she came to visit
and hang out. The Prophet
		
00:32:09 --> 00:32:14
			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spent
time with her in the masjid, and
		
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			then didn't walk her back because
it was necessary for her to walk
		
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			back with him, because she walked
there without him. SallAllahu,
		
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			alayhi wa sallam. She walked back.
He walked back with her to spend
		
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			more time with her. Salalah and
atikaf. You don't leave ratikaf
		
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			Unless it's a necessity. Or, for
example, like Ibn Abbas mentions,
		
00:32:33 --> 00:32:36
			or might have been Ibn Maserati
Lohan, who I unfortunately forgot
		
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			off the top of my head. I have to
look at the the narration again,
		
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			but that if somebody comes to ask
you for some sort of help, it's
		
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			more beloved to you, to for the
for Allah to for you to go and
		
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			help that person, than making a
tikkap and that mister to the
		
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			proposed some for a number of
years. So yes, there are times to
		
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			leave your attikaf, but the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa left
		
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			it just to spend more time with
his wife. And why aren't we
		
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			focusing on the fact that that
Sofia rodilla, as a Mother of the
		
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			Believers, went to the masjid just
for fun to see your husband. Why
		
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			isn't that our focus? Instead of
clarifying gender relations as the
		
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			only part of that of that
narration, and when we look again
		
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			at the way that we pitch specific
stories of the woman companions.
		
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			Think about the daughters of the
Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
		
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			salam, like Zainab ardilo Juan Ha,
what narrations come to your mind
		
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			when you hear about Zainab rodi la
Juan Ha,
		
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			none, literally none.
		
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			Okay. Oh, sorry, yeah, the one
about how pleased that she'll be
		
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			the first one to follow
		
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			him. Oh, yes, this was his wife.
Oh, rodilla, a different Zainab.
		
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			Great. Great point. Excellent
point. No, no, this is an
		
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			excellent point that actually
brings up a totally, a totally a
		
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			totally different point that we're
actually going to get to you.
		
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			Segued me into the next point,
Baraka Loki, but Zainab radilowha.
		
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			So there's a narration in which
she is Wait, waits for the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu, alays to start salah.
And they're praying. They start
		
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			salah. They're praying. And she
calls out with her voice over the
		
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			salah that she has given basically
security to her husband, who, at
		
00:34:27 --> 00:34:30
			the time, was not yet Muslim, and
there were wars between Muslims
		
00:34:30 --> 00:34:34
			and the Quraysh, and he she gave
him security. So she calls this
		
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			out across the Masjid. After the
Salah is done, the prophet Allah,
		
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			while they will send them, talks
about how he had no idea she was
		
00:34:42 --> 00:34:46
			going to say this. And then he
goes to her and she and he talks
		
00:34:46 --> 00:34:52
			to her Salalah about, what about
the rulings on how she should
		
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			interact with alas. And he goes to
the Companions and talks about the
		
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			rulings of the property of alas.
He never says, you should have
		
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			should not.
		
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			Have raised your voice in the
masjid, because women, being a
		
00:35:03 --> 00:35:06
			part of the masjid space, being a
part of the masjid where their
		
00:35:06 --> 00:35:09
			voices were heard asking other men
companions, Hey, I didn't hear
		
00:35:09 --> 00:35:12
			what the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
salam said. Can you repeat for me?
		
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			Are all in our books, because they
were present in society as full
		
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			time mothers and as not. They were
just part of society and all the
		
00:35:22 --> 00:35:26
			different roles that they could
be. And when we talk about Zainab
		
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			roll the Allahu anha, the wife of
the Prophet sallallahu sallam, how
		
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			did she have the longest hand? How
did the longest hand amongst them,
		
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			which meant the most generous one?
How is she going to be the one to
		
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			join the Prophet sallallahu?
Sallam, how did she have money?
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu lived in
poverty. How did she have money,
		
00:35:46 --> 00:35:50
			unless she was working to make
money, the wife of Ibn Saud,
		
00:35:50 --> 00:35:52
			another Zainab,
		
00:35:53 --> 00:35:58
			asked about giving zakat to Ibn
azaud And to her family. How did
		
00:35:58 --> 00:36:02
			she have money to give zakat if
she was not working. These women
		
00:36:02 --> 00:36:07
			were actively part of society in
all different ways, and until we
		
00:36:07 --> 00:36:11
			start looking at them in a
comprehensive way that talks about
		
00:36:11 --> 00:36:13
			all the roles in which they
fulfilled, whether they were
		
00:36:13 --> 00:36:16
			political or whether they were
full time moms, or whether they
		
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			were a part of the masjid space,
or whether they prayed at home,
		
00:36:19 --> 00:36:22
			about a woman praying. I already
gave a lecture on this. I don't
		
00:36:22 --> 00:36:24
			want to like share it here,
because I don't want to waste your
		
00:36:25 --> 00:36:27
			time. But there is a difference of
opinion on whether or not it's
		
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			better for a woman to pray a homer
in the masjid, because some of the
		
00:36:30 --> 00:36:35
			scholars talk about the hadith of
umaid and being and being better
		
00:36:35 --> 00:36:40
			to pray in her home, being
contextual for her situation
		
00:36:40 --> 00:36:43
			because of her marriage. Sheik
jaser oda talks about this that
		
00:36:43 --> 00:36:47
			that was never intended to
restrict all of the Hadith that
		
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			talk about the benefits of praying
in the masjid in congregation.
		
00:36:51 --> 00:36:53
			When the Prophet sallallahu is
talking about the extra reward of
		
00:36:53 --> 00:36:56
			praying in congregation, the fact
that you go to the masjid and your
		
00:36:56 --> 00:36:58
			sins are forgiven as you're
walking to the masjid, all of the
		
00:36:58 --> 00:37:01
			benefits of praying in the masjid,
does he ever say only four men,
		
00:37:01 --> 00:37:04
			and in fact, when he mentions the
word men,
		
00:37:07 --> 00:37:12
			Ibn mentions that that description
of men isn't intended to be only
		
00:37:12 --> 00:37:16
			men. It's intended to be used as
men and women, because if women
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:19
			pray in the masjid, they get the
same reward. So the point is that
		
00:37:19 --> 00:37:23
			we have taken narrations, and we
oftentimes use them to talk about
		
00:37:23 --> 00:37:26
			paint a very specific picture of
what women's world should be,
		
00:37:27 --> 00:37:30
			when, in reality, women's were
very vast. And to conclude with
		
00:37:30 --> 00:37:33
			women's roles, because I realized
that we want to leave time for Q A
		
00:37:33 --> 00:37:36
			for sure, or just discussion in
general, because I'm the one who's
		
00:37:36 --> 00:37:40
			here to ask you all and learn from
you, is that, um, haram, she
		
00:37:40 --> 00:37:43
			wanted to be with the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi. He was sent
		
00:37:43 --> 00:37:46
			them. Or, excuse me, she wanted
not, not, of course, she wanted to
		
00:37:46 --> 00:37:49
			be the Prophet. The Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi had a dream, or
		
00:37:49 --> 00:37:53
			had a had a dream of the which is
like a vision of the companions
		
00:37:53 --> 00:37:57
			going to a particular battle in
the future. And so she asked that
		
00:37:57 --> 00:38:00
			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi,
salam, make dua that she could be
		
00:38:00 --> 00:38:02
			with that group of people who go
and they was over the sea,
		
00:38:03 --> 00:38:07
			and Subhan Allah, He made dua that
she be with them, and she was with
		
00:38:07 --> 00:38:10
			them. It was after the passing of
the Prophet sallallahu wasallam,
		
00:38:10 --> 00:38:14
			and Abu Shukla takes from this,
and he says, Do you see how
		
00:38:14 --> 00:38:17
			praiseworthy it is for a woman to
be a part of the battle? Because
		
00:38:17 --> 00:38:19
			the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
sallam could have told her, don't
		
00:38:19 --> 00:38:23
			worry, you get the same reward
when you stay at home. But he
		
00:38:23 --> 00:38:28
			didn't. He made dua for her to
join as she requested, and she
		
00:38:28 --> 00:38:31
			did, and that is how she passed
away. So when we look at the rules
		
00:38:31 --> 00:38:35
			of women who come to the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, and
		
00:38:35 --> 00:38:38
			they talk about how, you know, men
are on the battlefield, and
		
00:38:38 --> 00:38:40
			they're doing all these things,
and we're at home with the kids,
		
00:38:40 --> 00:38:44
			and he's comforting these women,
and he's saying you get the same
		
00:38:44 --> 00:38:47
			reward of the as the men who are
doing all of these things. You get
		
00:38:47 --> 00:38:50
			the same reward by what you're
doing. It's not because they
		
00:38:50 --> 00:38:52
			weren't allowed to be on the
battlefield, because they were on
		
00:38:52 --> 00:38:56
			the battlefield. It's because he's
giving them comfort that even if
		
00:38:56 --> 00:38:59
			you're not doing all these things,
even though it's not your only
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:02
			role, maybe for many of us as
women, it becomes our primary
		
00:39:02 --> 00:39:06
			role. And instead of wishing that
you could be out there and do
		
00:39:06 --> 00:39:09
			other things and wishing you
didn't have the responsibilities
		
00:39:09 --> 00:39:12
			of your kids, embrace the role
that Allah has given you, because
		
00:39:12 --> 00:39:15
			there is so much reward in that,
and honor in that, and status in
		
00:39:15 --> 00:39:21
			that, that does not negate doing
other parts of social work as
		
00:39:21 --> 00:39:25
			well, but it encourages and it
comforts someone who may feel
		
00:39:25 --> 00:39:29
			sometimes stuck, because this is a
very real feeling for a woman who
		
00:39:29 --> 00:39:32
			others sometimes, as much as you
love your kids and as much as you
		
00:39:32 --> 00:39:34
			want to focus on them, when you
give your all to them, you
		
00:39:34 --> 00:39:39
			sometimes feel like you've lost
yourself. NOTICE recognizing that
		
00:39:39 --> 00:39:41
			you're honored, and that is so
important. The Prophet sallallahu
		
00:39:41 --> 00:39:45
			Sallam is comforting these women.
They're the status of their role,
		
00:39:46 --> 00:39:51
			while also giving us so many other
examples that you can be this and
		
00:39:51 --> 00:39:54
			that, that you can be someone who
loves praying in the masjid while
		
00:39:54 --> 00:39:57
			you bring your children with you,
because the Prophet sallallahu
		
00:39:57 --> 00:39:59
			alayhi wa sallam when, when there
were a.
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:04
			Um children who were crying, he
would shorten his prayer so that a
		
00:40:04 --> 00:40:09
			woman would not feel distressed.
And that is because he put more
		
00:40:09 --> 00:40:12
			priority, as Abu Shaka mentions in
women going to the masjid and
		
00:40:12 --> 00:40:16
			feeling like it's accessible, than
increasing the prayer, even though
		
00:40:16 --> 00:40:20
			there's more reward in a long
prayer, access for a woman who had
		
00:40:20 --> 00:40:22
			children was more important to the
Prophet, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
		
00:40:22 --> 00:40:25
			salam, than the reward of an
extremely long prayer. And that's
		
00:40:25 --> 00:40:28
			why women kept coming back to the
masjid with their kids as part of
		
00:40:28 --> 00:40:31
			the society of the Prophet. So
Allah, who are they? He was of
		
00:40:31 --> 00:40:37
			them. And I see that somebody
wrote about a particular Masjid.
		
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			So I want to clarify also
firsthand too, like for my
		
00:40:42 --> 00:40:46
			lecture, but the the role of the
Imam, I think, like, you know,
		
00:40:46 --> 00:40:49
			it's so important for me to
clarify. The Imams of my Masjid
		
00:40:49 --> 00:40:53
			are so amazing Mashallah. They're
very accessible. They care about
		
00:40:53 --> 00:40:57
			women, they smile, they welcome us
when we have questions. But the
		
00:40:57 --> 00:41:01
			message itself doesn't have the
infrastructure that openly makes
		
00:41:01 --> 00:41:05
			it easy for us to ask questions. I
know when I got older, they
		
00:41:05 --> 00:41:08
			created some sort of office hours
for the Imam. So hamdullah for at
		
00:41:08 --> 00:41:11
			least having office hours for the
Imam, but for people who can't
		
00:41:11 --> 00:41:13
			make those office hours, and the
Imam should not be required to
		
00:41:13 --> 00:41:18
			work at all times. But this is why
there can be a structure set where
		
00:41:18 --> 00:41:21
			there are also women scholars as
part of the masjid space where you
		
00:41:21 --> 00:41:24
			can divide up the time, where
women know how to access scholars.
		
00:41:24 --> 00:41:27
			So it's just so important to
realize that sometimes it's not
		
00:41:27 --> 00:41:30
			because the Imam isn't accessible
and doesn't want to support women.
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:33
			It's just the structure. It's
physical, physical architecture.
		
00:41:34 --> 00:41:36
			And how can we create that in a
way where women know they're able
		
00:41:36 --> 00:41:40
			to ask questions and know that
they're welcome? Okay, so
		
00:41:40 --> 00:41:44
			Inshallah, we're going to segue to
discussion questions. It's so good
		
00:41:44 --> 00:41:48
			to see all of your faces,
mashallah and so many. Nuran, it's
		
00:41:48 --> 00:41:52
			good to see you. Maria, and is
this Iman or is this Asmaa
		
00:41:54 --> 00:41:55
			where?
		
00:41:56 --> 00:41:57
			Oh,
		
00:41:59 --> 00:42:05
			the person are you asking about
Yeah, no, I'm Noura. I actually
		
00:42:05 --> 00:42:06
			attended one of your
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:09
			probably like,
		
00:42:11 --> 00:42:16
			something like that. So, so nice
to see you again. Thanks for you.
		
00:42:16 --> 00:42:20
			Thanks for doing I'm so sorry
because I saw your face when you
		
00:42:20 --> 00:42:22
			got up close to the camera, that's
when I saw you. But from from
		
00:42:22 --> 00:42:25
			back, from when you were in the
back, I couldn't really tell. So
		
00:42:25 --> 00:42:27
			I'm so sorry for getting your name
wrong. Noura,
		
00:42:30 --> 00:42:34
			does that go hide on? Um, that was
phenomenal. I feel like we could
		
00:42:34 --> 00:42:38
			talk about this all day. But on a
more practical, yeah, on a more
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:42
			practical perspective, for
instance, like when I walk into
		
00:42:42 --> 00:42:44
			the masjid here, I actually don't
like to go to the masjid,
		
00:42:44 --> 00:42:48
			unfortunately, because I feel like
I'm a second class citizen.
		
00:42:48 --> 00:42:52
			There's, like, not a really clean
space. There's no accessibility,
		
00:42:52 --> 00:42:55
			like you were talking like I just,
I don't even enjoy going, because
		
00:42:55 --> 00:43:04
			that's how I feel when I'm there.
But how can I practically act ask
		
00:43:04 --> 00:43:08
			for that when the mentality is the
mentality we've been talking about
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:12
			with, like this patriarchal
mentality, and even, like
		
00:43:13 --> 00:43:18
			demanding these things, or even
when I try to join groups or
		
00:43:18 --> 00:43:23
			boards or whatever, feeling like,
my opinion, is value valued. And
		
00:43:23 --> 00:43:26
			in a person of authority almost
feels like, unless a man says it,
		
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			it's not really beneficial. I
mean, practically, how do I even
		
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			do that when I'm the only one, for
instance, trying to change
		
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			something here? Or maybe there's
other women that I'm not saying
		
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			I'm the only one, but that that
have been discouraged and don't
		
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			come anymore, something like that.
You know, when you just go into
		
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			them as, yeah, I don't want to
prolong the question. You get it?
		
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			No, no. I think all of us have
felt some sort of version of that.
		
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			And again, like it really depends
on your Masjid space, like this
		
00:43:56 --> 00:43:59
			particular answer would really
depend, like, I'd ask you so many
		
00:43:59 --> 00:44:02
			follow up questions, but let's say
you do, you try, you try to
		
00:44:02 --> 00:44:05
			change. You call for change. It's
not working. This is why people
		
00:44:05 --> 00:44:08
			are creating third spaces. This is
literally why people are creating
		
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			a space outside of the masjid,
because the people on the board
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:13
			sometimes are not ready to listen,
and they're the same people who
		
00:44:13 --> 00:44:16
			are cycling for generations, and
so they're just not willing to
		
00:44:16 --> 00:44:19
			listen for generations, and you're
stuck with that. There's so many
		
00:44:19 --> 00:44:21
			people have left the mission, they
haven't come back, and
		
00:44:21 --> 00:44:24
			Alhamdulillah, that you still even
try. But the reality is that so
		
00:44:24 --> 00:44:28
			many people feel so isolated that
they just don't want to try again.
		
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			And Alhamdulillah, things are
changing. I feel like things are
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:35
			really changing slowly, very
slowly, but at the same time, what
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:40
			we can do is honestly, I'll be
honest, and people may have a
		
00:44:40 --> 00:44:43
			really big issue with this
suggestion I did when someone
		
00:44:43 --> 00:44:46
			first recommended it, I was like,
why would you do that? But now I
		
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			see the benefit of it. To be
honest, if you know people who are
		
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			contributors to the masjid, who
are active donors to the masjid,
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:58
			you target them. You go to them
and you say, I know you donate
		
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			every month, and I know.
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:04
			Donate a significant amount, and
more than half of the population
		
00:45:04 --> 00:45:07
			who is supposed to come to this
Masjid many times, who are
		
00:45:07 --> 00:45:11
			bringing the little half of the
masjid who are supposed to carry
		
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			on this Masjid are not welcome. We
don't feel like our bathrooms are
		
00:45:16 --> 00:45:19
			clean. We don't feel like we can
even pray without you know, we
		
00:45:19 --> 00:45:22
			can't even hear the emails
speaking. We don't even know what
		
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			the email looks like sometimes. So
you go to these people and you
		
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			say, you know, please go to the
masjid like, sign, write a
		
00:45:30 --> 00:45:34
			petition, right? Let them know,
you know, if, within the next
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:37
			year, these issues are not
changed, we will no longer be
		
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			donating to this masjid, and we're
going to find a different message
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:44
			to support our to send our funds
to so that you, you, you, you
		
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			pressure them into making that
change. And when I first heard I
		
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			didn't hear this. I heard an idea.
It was one woman who said, I'm not
		
00:45:51 --> 00:45:54
			donating to a masjid that doesn't
give me space to pray. And I was
		
00:45:54 --> 00:45:57
			like, Yeah, but what about all the
men who want to pray there, which
		
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			I still feel, of course, we don't
want to close down a masjid. We
		
00:46:00 --> 00:46:03
			want all Masjid to be open, but
what if that Masjid is reading
		
00:46:03 --> 00:46:05
			people are leaving Islam? What if
their experiences in that Masjid
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:09
			are so painful that they feel like
they can't even stay Muslim?
		
00:46:09 --> 00:46:12
			People leave Islam not because
they don't believe in Islam, but
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:16
			because they don't feel at all
like they can connect to the
		
00:46:16 --> 00:46:20
			Muslim space. And while they might
love Islam, they see it as a
		
00:46:20 --> 00:46:24
			reflection of religion, and so
they leave. So really, this is
		
00:46:24 --> 00:46:28
			like we need to stop prioritizing
the concept of it's better for
		
00:46:28 --> 00:46:31
			women to pray at home, and
therefore we're not going to
		
00:46:31 --> 00:46:33
			create as much space for women.
We're, in fact, it's going to make
		
00:46:33 --> 00:46:37
			her feel guilty and disgusting by
even coming we're going to make
		
00:46:37 --> 00:46:39
			her feel like it's better for her
to pray at home, because we don't
		
00:46:39 --> 00:46:42
			need to prioritize her
spirituality when that is the
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:47
			message I I mean, what? Where do
we expect the future generations
		
00:46:47 --> 00:46:51
			go? This is something that boggles
my mind, like all of us right now,
		
00:46:51 --> 00:46:54
			okay, I'm assuming that you know,
we're in a generally same time,
		
00:46:54 --> 00:46:58
			you know, age in our life, like
you know we're in our 20s, 30s,
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:03
			40s, like that, that time period.
Okay, so now let's say some of us
		
00:47:03 --> 00:47:08
			in the future, maybe, if, Allah,
you know, has maybe, maybe if, for
		
00:47:08 --> 00:47:11
			some reason, some of us have
children, and then those children
		
00:47:11 --> 00:47:13
			have children. Now we're just
talking about our great
		
00:47:13 --> 00:47:18
			grandchildren. Okay, so what if
the woman whose children, what if
		
00:47:18 --> 00:47:21
			those women who have children
right now don't feel connected to
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:24
			Islam, don't feel connected to the
masjid, and they leave, or they
		
00:47:24 --> 00:47:27
			don't even leave, Inshallah, not
Islam itself, but they just leave
		
00:47:27 --> 00:47:29
			being part of the community. Their
children don't grow up in the
		
00:47:29 --> 00:47:32
			community. Their children don't
grow up with Muslim spaces. Maybe
		
00:47:32 --> 00:47:34
			they have Muslim friends from
outside, maybe they have a third
		
00:47:34 --> 00:47:37
			space, but maybe they don't maybe
they're fed up, and they just
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:40
			don't like don't want to deal with
this community, the toxicity that
		
00:47:40 --> 00:47:43
			they feel. They don't want to pass
this on to their children. What
		
00:47:43 --> 00:47:45
			happens to the great
grandchildren? Maybe those kids
		
00:47:45 --> 00:47:48
			find Islam again, but maybe they
don't. So now we have great
		
00:47:48 --> 00:47:51
			grandchildren who don't feel
connected to Islam because their
		
00:47:51 --> 00:47:54
			mothers didn't feel connected to
Islam. And those mother the
		
00:47:54 --> 00:47:56
			mothers of those children, didn't
feel connected to Islam. That's
		
00:47:56 --> 00:47:59
			our generation. So in just a
couple generations, if we wonder,
		
00:47:59 --> 00:48:03
			where are our children? Where are
the Masjid? What happened to our
		
00:48:03 --> 00:48:07
			ummah? Who is to blame is not the
the mother who didn't feel
		
00:48:07 --> 00:48:10
			connected to Allah? I mean, that's
a part of it. All of it is
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:13
			personal responsibility, of
course, but at the end of the day,
		
00:48:13 --> 00:48:16
			are we going to finally prioritize
the fact that we have generational
		
00:48:16 --> 00:48:19
			impact as women, or are we going
to continue to say it's just
		
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			better for women not to be here,
and that's why we prioritize
		
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			Ben. Aloha. Stan,
		
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			second, I'll say, Oh, that was
like, so on point, like so many of
		
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			these things, I think we've like
been feeling and, you know,
		
00:48:32 --> 00:48:35
			thinking about for a long time,
and it's good to just, like,
		
00:48:35 --> 00:48:38
			discuss it and talk about it. I
wanted to ask you specifically
		
00:48:38 --> 00:48:40
			about I know, when I was in
California,
		
00:48:41 --> 00:48:44
			but one of a friend of mine, she
had, like, started, I don't know
		
00:48:44 --> 00:48:48
			if you've heard about the woman's
mosque there, and I wonder how you
		
00:48:48 --> 00:48:53
			feel about, like, maybe having
more spaces like this, where it's
		
00:48:53 --> 00:48:56
			like a women's center, or
something like that, you know,
		
00:48:56 --> 00:48:59
			where maybe a woman scholar is
accessible, where women do feel
		
00:48:59 --> 00:49:03
			comfortable. So I just wanted you
to speak on that. If you could
		
00:49:03 --> 00:49:06
			just I could, yeah, so the
controversy surrounding that, the
		
00:49:06 --> 00:49:10
			issue was praying Juma,
specifically that a woman was
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:13
			giving the chutzpah and she was
leading Juma. And that's not an
		
00:49:13 --> 00:49:16
			opinion that I follow. I don't
think it's permissible for a woman
		
00:49:16 --> 00:49:19
			to give a chutzpah for Juma and to
pray. Jamal scholars who talk
		
00:49:19 --> 00:49:23
			about this issue say that maybe a
woman could give like a short and
		
00:49:23 --> 00:49:26
			they can pray for Kaz, for the
like, if they can't, you know,
		
00:49:26 --> 00:49:28
			access the masjid, then maybe they
can come together on a Friday,
		
00:49:28 --> 00:49:31
			pray the whole together. A woman
can give a give a give a khatira,
		
00:49:32 --> 00:49:35
			no worries. But that's different
from counting it as Juma. That's
		
00:49:35 --> 00:49:38
			my that's the opinion that I, I
think is that's, that's the
		
00:49:38 --> 00:49:41
			opinion I follow from the
scholars. But at the end of the
		
00:49:41 --> 00:49:45
			day that if that's not the issue,
if it's to create a space for a
		
00:49:45 --> 00:49:50
			woman to just join together and
pray, then that's, you know it one
		
00:49:50 --> 00:49:53
			it's something that we see, you
know it that's created mashallah
		
00:49:53 --> 00:49:57
			and rabata does an amazing job of
this online. But they have like
		
00:49:57 --> 00:49:59
			this, this woman's woman led
woman.
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:04
			Fueled women attended space where
it's really empowering women and
		
00:50:04 --> 00:50:07
			just helping women feel safe. And
so I think it's really, you know,
		
00:50:07 --> 00:50:10
			it's really necessary for us to
have these spaces where we know
		
00:50:10 --> 00:50:13
			that we are safe and and I know
that that's like a word to use.
		
00:50:13 --> 00:50:16
			People are like, What do you mean
safe? No, I literally mean safe.
		
00:50:16 --> 00:50:19
			Because I'm approached by women
who are domestic violence
		
00:50:19 --> 00:50:23
			survivors and they don't feel safe
because they've talked to the Imam
		
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			of the masjid, and that Imam has
told them they should just be
		
00:50:26 --> 00:50:28
			patient and try to seduce their
husband when he's holding a knife
		
00:50:28 --> 00:50:35
			to her neck. That Illa the haul.
And this is so common. I've heard
		
00:50:35 --> 00:50:38
			from so many women who shared the
story with me like different
		
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			versions of that story, and so,
yeah, sometimes women don't feel
		
00:50:41 --> 00:50:44
			physically safe because they go to
the masjid, and the masjid
		
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			protects the abuser. They don't
protect the victim and survivor,
		
00:50:47 --> 00:50:50
			and so they we need spaces where
women feel safe.
		
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			Follow up question. And again, if
someone else has a question I
		
00:50:54 --> 00:50:57
			don't want to ask too. If someone
else has one,
		
00:50:59 --> 00:51:04
			okay, I'll go ahead and ask it,
how do we it's almost like the
		
00:51:04 --> 00:51:08
			same narrative, not specific to
Muslim women, but in general, like
		
00:51:08 --> 00:51:13
			building allies. A lot of this has
to be work done by men and people
		
00:51:13 --> 00:51:16
			in the masjid, and they have to
come to this realization. You
		
00:51:16 --> 00:51:19
			know, we can talk all we want to
them and educate them, but if
		
00:51:19 --> 00:51:23
			they're not convinced by it, then
the change is less likely to
		
00:51:23 --> 00:51:27
			happen. They have to be the ones
to also make the change with us.
		
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			So how do how do you suggest we
get those allies? I mean, how do
		
00:51:31 --> 00:51:35
			we get our Imams and people in the
Majed to talk about these things
		
00:51:35 --> 00:51:37
			and change the way they think? So
on
		
00:51:38 --> 00:51:41
			one person, on one hand, it's
really important to recognize
		
00:51:41 --> 00:51:44
			there are so many Imams who many
Imams who are actively working for
		
00:51:44 --> 00:51:47
			women's access. Like, I can't tell
you how many moms I was so, like,
		
00:51:47 --> 00:51:50
			I worked with a lot of Imams
before I started the foremothers
		
00:51:50 --> 00:51:55
			campaign, just just researching
women recite ruins recitation.
		
00:51:55 --> 00:51:58
			Super famous imams in our
community who like, everyone's
		
00:51:58 --> 00:52:02
			name, you would know I talked to
them about it, and they were like,
		
00:52:02 --> 00:52:05
			there's nothing in Phil that would
prevent it. There's nothing solid.
		
00:52:06 --> 00:52:08
			But it's based on set of it's
based on these concepts of
		
00:52:08 --> 00:52:11
			preventing fitna. There's not like
an ijmara on this from the Quran
		
00:52:11 --> 00:52:14
			or the Sunnah. Like, you're not
going to find delille that's going
		
00:52:14 --> 00:52:16
			to say, like, no way woman
shouldn't do this. But what you're
		
00:52:16 --> 00:52:19
			going to see is that our community
is very emotional, and so we're
		
00:52:19 --> 00:52:22
			going to react emotionally. And
our community might not be ready
		
00:52:22 --> 00:52:26
			for this, but when I started the
campaign, I cannot even tell you
		
00:52:26 --> 00:52:30
			how many Imams messaged me
privately, saying, if you need any
		
00:52:30 --> 00:52:33
			support, if you need anything,
know that I support this. I'm so
		
00:52:33 --> 00:52:36
			excited that you're doing this.
Thank you for doing this for women
		
00:52:37 --> 00:52:40
			inviting me to their masjid so
that I could go to their masjid
		
00:52:40 --> 00:52:45
			and share the message of women
being reciters. And they share my
		
00:52:45 --> 00:52:49
			posts and say, you know, share the
recitations. Say like this, you
		
00:52:49 --> 00:52:52
			know, follow, follow this work.
And again, I know I'm saying I
		
00:52:52 --> 00:52:55
			it's from my account. It is from
my account, but it's not about me.
		
00:52:55 --> 00:52:58
			It's a concept of women who are
out there, who are doing these
		
00:52:58 --> 00:53:01
			amazing things, and these are men
who are scholars, who are
		
00:53:01 --> 00:53:04
			supporting them, because they
realize, look, we're in the United
		
00:53:04 --> 00:53:08
			States. What are we exposed to? We
don't live in a place where women
		
00:53:08 --> 00:53:11
			have, you know, our own sides of
the job and our own universities
		
00:53:11 --> 00:53:15
			and our own, you know, spaces and
our own gyms. And we live in a
		
00:53:15 --> 00:53:19
			society where the Wap Song is
something that is celebrated as
		
00:53:19 --> 00:53:24
			women's empowerment, if that is
what we are taking for our younger
		
00:53:24 --> 00:53:28
			generation as examples, then of
course, these scholars are
		
00:53:28 --> 00:53:32
			recognizing that, like, look, this
is not, it's not a fits not, by
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:35
			the way, the concept of a woman's
voice being fitna when reciting
		
00:53:35 --> 00:53:38
			Quran, the word we use is
temptation. A lot of times, like a
		
00:53:38 --> 00:53:41
			man might be tempted by her voice.
It's not, it's not temptation.
		
00:53:41 --> 00:53:45
			It's he's sexually aroused. If a
man is aroused, listening to the
		
00:53:45 --> 00:53:50
			Quran, he has muddled, which is
what the Quran says. That the
		
00:53:50 --> 00:53:53
			issue is, someone who has muddled,
they have a serious disease in
		
00:53:53 --> 00:53:57
			their heart. So alhamdulillah,
imams now are recognizing like
		
00:53:57 --> 00:54:01
			look, men here have exposure to a
lot of other things. So for us to
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:04
			close the door for women's
recitation, we're closing the door
		
00:54:04 --> 00:54:08
			for women to access other women,
which is more important than the
		
00:54:08 --> 00:54:11
			potential of a man having this
level of disease in his heart. So
		
00:54:12 --> 00:54:15
			I think Alhamdulillah, right now
we have a lot of men who are
		
00:54:15 --> 00:54:19
			actively working to support women,
but there are definitely so many
		
00:54:19 --> 00:54:23
			Imams who could, could, could
benefit from hearing from those
		
00:54:23 --> 00:54:26
			other emails. And I think this
goes back to, like, honestly,
		
00:54:26 --> 00:54:30
			networking and grassworks,
grassroots organ organizing. So
		
00:54:30 --> 00:54:34
			where we have these Imams who
support women, who to gain access
		
00:54:34 --> 00:54:39
			to knowledge, to gain the ability
to, you know, I love there was a
		
00:54:39 --> 00:54:43
			young girl, not a young girl, she
she's a she's in her 20s, and she
		
00:54:43 --> 00:54:45
			told me, when she was a young
girl, she was memorizing the Quran
		
00:54:45 --> 00:54:48
			with her brothers, and when she
became like around 12 years old,
		
00:54:48 --> 00:54:51
			the Imam said he can no longer
teach her because she was on the
		
00:54:51 --> 00:54:55
			cusp of womanhood, and so it would
be hot on for him to teach her.
		
00:54:55 --> 00:54:59
			And she stopped learning. He was
the only imam in her mister. This
		
00:54:59 --> 00:54:59
			was before.
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:04
			They had online institutes and or
maybe she's 30, but anyway, she's
		
00:55:04 --> 00:55:08
			older. That's the point, older
than teens and her brothers, masha
		
00:55:08 --> 00:55:11
			Allah Now, are memorizers of the
Quran. They've memorized the
		
00:55:11 --> 00:55:13
			Quran. They lead taraweeh. They
are actively well with the masjid.
		
00:55:14 --> 00:55:16
			And she said that she never
continued with the Quran because
		
00:55:16 --> 00:55:19
			she was discouraged. And then
after seeing the foremothers
		
00:55:19 --> 00:55:22
			campaign, she said, I'm going to
start again now. I feel like that
		
00:55:22 --> 00:55:25
			inspired. I didn't know woman
could continue to do it as they
		
00:55:25 --> 00:55:30
			were adults. And she excused the
Imam by saying, I understand why
		
00:55:30 --> 00:55:34
			he wasn't okay with me learning
from him. I could have become a
		
00:55:34 --> 00:55:38
			fitna for him. And I was so angry
hearing this because of the
		
00:55:38 --> 00:55:44
			internalized discussion that she,
as a 1213, 1415, year old girl,
		
00:55:44 --> 00:55:48
			could not be top Quran man because
he was worried that she might be a
		
00:55:48 --> 00:55:56
			fitna for him, like a that's
literally illegal for him to feel
		
00:55:56 --> 00:55:59
			like, for anything to happen from,
from that there's like so much in
		
00:55:59 --> 00:56:02
			our community that has come from
like, yes, we have grooming in our
		
00:56:02 --> 00:56:05
			community. We have * in
our community. These are real
		
00:56:05 --> 00:56:09
			issues. So if any ma'am knows this
about himself that he needs to
		
00:56:09 --> 00:56:13
			prevent teaching a little girl, a
young teenager, because he's
		
00:56:13 --> 00:56:17
			worried about what might happen to
him, then it is his responsibility
		
00:56:17 --> 00:56:21
			to go to the masjid and say, We
need to hire another Quran
		
00:56:21 --> 00:56:26
			teacher, or we need to hire
another Imam who's a Quran
		
00:56:26 --> 00:56:29
			teacher. Can be a woman an imam
who's a man who is comfortable
		
00:56:29 --> 00:56:32
			teaching young girls, because it's
not right that all of the
		
00:56:32 --> 00:56:36
			community can't learn because one
man is concerned about what might
		
00:56:36 --> 00:56:39
			happen to his heart. Like yes, we
protect our men with their hearts.
		
00:56:39 --> 00:56:43
			Of course, no doubt we want our
Imams. We hear about issues in our
		
00:56:43 --> 00:56:48
			community when people in religious
leadership have made serious,
		
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			serious breaches of trust, of
trust. So we know that's real.
		
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			Yes, we want to protect our Imams,
but not at the expense of not
		
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			continuing to teach women. So we
need a solution. If this is the
		
00:57:00 --> 00:57:02
			issue, then we need people who are
honest and say, we need more
		
00:57:02 --> 00:57:06
			individuals who are able to teach
women and that just needs to be
		
00:57:06 --> 00:57:10
			part of the masjid policy. How do
we create that culture that you're
		
00:57:10 --> 00:57:13
			asking about? How do we get these
allies? We start writing we write
		
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			documents that have co signatures
from different massages that go up
		
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			to these Masjid spaces and say,
Please create this position, we
		
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			have people who are willing to
donate. We have we have launched
		
00:57:24 --> 00:57:27
			good campaigns that can pay for
the position for a year, while you
		
00:57:27 --> 00:57:30
			guys figure out how you're going
to support this position. We have
		
00:57:30 --> 00:57:34
			a whole community who is here and
ready to change the culture of our
		
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			community so that women know that
we have access to knowledge and we
		
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			are welcome to seek knowledge, and
that we know that we have a space
		
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			to be in.
		
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			I think my name is typing
something.
		
00:57:53 --> 00:57:55
			Oh, I'm laughing at it, because
it's not a very important thing.
		
00:57:56 --> 00:57:59
			Oh, okay, well, you could just
tell it's not, it's funny. No, I
		
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			was just, this is what I was
typing.
		
00:58:03 --> 00:58:03
			I could,
		
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			yeah, money's not an issue for a
community, which is also another
		
00:58:10 --> 00:58:13
			thing is like, it's crazy that our
community doesn't like it's just,
		
00:58:13 --> 00:58:18
			it's, it's crazy how much there is
money and like and worldly
		
00:58:18 --> 00:58:22
			opportunities and and all that's
missing is just like, directing
		
00:58:22 --> 00:58:25
			that towards something that
spiritually grows our community.
		
00:58:25 --> 00:58:28
			Anyways, sorry, yeah, I think it's
important to note that, like,
		
00:58:28 --> 00:58:30
			Miriam and I come from the same
community, and like, that
		
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			community has, like, the highest
like, oh my god, Mashallah. Like,
		
00:58:34 --> 00:58:39
			the the the rents, the to buy a
home is so expensive. Like, you
		
00:58:39 --> 00:58:42
			have to have a two family income,
or you have to have someone who is
		
00:58:42 --> 00:58:45
			really, like, making a lot of
money to be able to just survive
		
00:58:45 --> 00:58:48
			there, so that masjid, masha Allah
has a lot of donations, and that's
		
00:58:48 --> 00:58:51
			really, really important to take
into account. Because, yes, we can
		
00:58:51 --> 00:58:54
			afford this. If we made it a
priority instead of buying another
		
00:58:54 --> 00:58:56
			two buildings, maybe we could
create, you know, create the
		
00:58:56 --> 00:58:59
			structure and infrastructure
necessary for our own building
		
00:58:59 --> 00:59:02
			first and then open up to other
ones. And I'm not going to, I
		
00:59:02 --> 00:59:04
			don't mean, comment, this isn't a
personal thing, like May Allah
		
00:59:04 --> 00:59:07
			reward them so much for what
they're trying. Of course, you
		
00:59:07 --> 00:59:10
			know, more space to do different
things, to rent it out, to build
		
00:59:10 --> 00:59:12
			an income. That's awesome. All of
that is so important. I'm not
		
00:59:12 --> 00:59:15
			trying to diminish how important
that is. But there are other
		
00:59:15 --> 00:59:18
			communities that don't have that
level of financial, you know,
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:21
			stability, and they really just
are basically trying to survive.
		
00:59:21 --> 00:59:23
			And this is a longer discussion,
like we've talked about this, how
		
00:59:23 --> 00:59:25
			do we make massages self
sufficient, so that it's not
		
00:59:25 --> 00:59:28
			always about monthly donations and
about Ramadan donations, it's how
		
00:59:28 --> 00:59:31
			do we make massages self
sufficient? And I think it's part
		
00:59:31 --> 00:59:33
			of the discussion that I've never
heard is, how do we make massages
		
00:59:33 --> 00:59:37
			self sufficient and ensure that in
an exclusion, in its inclusion of
		
00:59:37 --> 00:59:41
			sufficiency, are actively
accessible spaces for women,
		
00:59:41 --> 00:59:44
			because it's not just about having
a lounger woman can sit and
		
00:59:44 --> 00:59:47
			gossip, which is not I said. I
said gossip, not because that. I
		
00:59:47 --> 00:59:51
			meant for that to be my word. I
meant that to be a stereotype.
		
00:59:51 --> 00:59:53
			Because unfortunately, a lot of
times people say women just come
		
00:59:53 --> 00:59:56
			to the message to gossip. And
that's so it makes me so angry. It
		
00:59:56 --> 00:59:59
			makes me so angry when, like,
women removing their hijab is
		
00:59:59 --> 00:59:59
			because they're upset.
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:02
			With the dunya women come to the
message because they just want to
		
01:00:02 --> 01:00:05
			gossip like, please stop care.
Like, making these caricatures of
		
01:00:05 --> 01:00:08
			women as like, women who are
obsessed with materialism and
		
01:00:08 --> 01:00:12
			beauty and gossip like, no. You
know why women struggle with these
		
01:00:12 --> 01:00:15
			issues? Because that's all you
focus on. That becomes all we are
		
01:00:15 --> 01:00:19
			to you. And so, yeah, what do you
expect? Even though that's wrong
		
01:00:19 --> 01:00:23
			in the first place? Um, I'm really
sorry, because I have to go. I
		
01:00:23 --> 01:00:26
			have another appointment right
now, but it was such a gift to be
		
01:00:26 --> 01:00:29
			here. Thank you so much for having
for listening, mainly to me
		
01:00:29 --> 01:00:32
			speaking, ranting.
		
01:00:33 --> 01:00:38
			Oh, thank you so much for coming
you guys, or ladies, mashallah,
		
01:00:39 --> 01:00:42
			like, has a full schedule, so
we've kind of been going back and
		
01:00:42 --> 01:00:47
			forth for like, months, and I'm so
happy a year I literally, may
		
01:00:47 --> 01:00:50
			Allah, bless Ella so much. So
she's like, literally, I looked up
		
01:00:50 --> 01:00:53
			my calendar a couple of weeks ago
and I'm no, it was like a month
		
01:00:53 --> 01:00:57
			ago almost, and I was like, Huh,
why do i Why do we have that
		
01:00:57 --> 01:01:00
			written on july 11? Because I was
supposed to. I gave a lecture
		
01:01:00 --> 01:01:02
			right before this, and I was
looking at my schedule, and I'm
		
01:01:02 --> 01:01:06
			like, What time can I do that
lecture? Because I have something
		
01:01:06 --> 01:01:10
			else on my schedule. And then I
messaged her, and she's like, Oh,
		
01:01:10 --> 01:01:11
			yeah. Like, a year ago we
scheduled,
		
01:01:14 --> 01:01:17
			because she kept asking me when I
could do and I couldn't do any of
		
01:01:17 --> 01:01:22
			those times. And so we just
scheduled out into the future. So
		
01:01:22 --> 01:01:26
			much. Thank you all so much for
coming. Thank you, Mariam, like, I
		
01:01:26 --> 01:01:30
			know you're busy, and I appreciate
it. Keep her in your doors,
		
01:01:30 --> 01:01:34
			everyone. And we'll end with if
you need to go, Mariam, that's
		
01:01:34 --> 01:01:38
			okay, so you're not late. But no,
of course. But let me just say,
		
01:01:38 --> 01:01:41
			subhanho, we haven't mentioned on
that either kind of too late. Go
		
01:01:41 --> 01:01:41
			ahead.
		
01:01:43 --> 01:01:47
			Okay, out of Allah regime,
Bismillah, Rahman, oh, maybe we
		
01:01:47 --> 01:01:50
			should have Sheikha. Actually.
Mariam, would you recite? Oh,
		
01:01:53 --> 01:01:57
			no, no, no, really, no, no,
please. I'd love to hear your
		
01:01:57 --> 01:02:03
			recitation. Okay, out of Allah
regime, Bismillahirrahmanirrahim,
		
01:02:03 --> 01:02:11
			well last in San Anna fee horse.
All will help you with the well so
		
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			this,
		
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			thank you.
		
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			Thank you so much. Welcome. Sanaa,
so
		
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			good to see all of you. Mashallah,
bye.