Maryam Amir – Being People Who Remember

Maryam Amir
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The speaker discusses their experience with women in their work, including struggles with finding work and finding women to work with. They share a narration about the importance of living the operation and viewing the numbers to make it happen. The speaker emphasizes the need to live the operation and make it happen.

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			To Go. Alhamdulillah, had the
honor of going to Medina. And for
		
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			Medina, a very special place to go
is the road. I wanted to visit the
		
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			rodam, the Prophet sallallahu,
alayhi wa sallam. And I was only
		
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			in Medina for 15 hours. For any of
you who've gone to Medina, you
		
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			know, getting into the Roda for
women in particular is
		
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			exceptionally difficult, even if
you're there for a week. I was
		
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			only there for 15 hours. So I went
from one gate to the next, asking,
		
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			please, please, can Can I get into
the role? I'm not trying to cut
		
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			from anyone. There's 1000s of
people. But would you tell me what
		
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			is the time that I can come to get
into the Rolla.
		
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			I sat and I made dua, and I begged
ALLAH to open the doors of the
		
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			Rolla for me. And there was no way
I could get in because the woman's
		
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			slot was closing, and they told me
come tomorrow. At this time in a
		
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			child I will get in.
		
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			I came tomorrow before that time,
and do you know what I saw
		
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			before the time? They told me I
saw them admit
		
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			the last woman, and they closed
the gate in my face.
		
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			I left larola,
		
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			unable to look at the sky of
Medina.
		
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			I couldn't look at the Earth of
Medina. I could not look at the
		
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			masjid of Medina.
		
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			I felt like I did something so
great that Allah made me is
		
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			displeased with me. How can I be
in Medina
		
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			and not be able to go into the
ruler
		
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			and as I'm walking away from the
robot, walking back to the hotel,
		
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			all of a sudden, the ayah that
came to my mind was about the
		
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			three companions of the Prophet.
So long are they he was they are
		
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			mentioned in tort soba, and they
are described
		
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			to have felt
		
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			help them all
		
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			unto any love.
		
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			They felt like the whole entire
earth is just constricting them.
		
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			Themselves. Are being constricted.
		
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			There's nowhere to go from Allah
except to Allah.
		
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			This is in terms of Toba I
memorized sort of Toba years
		
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			before,
		
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			and I'm going to tell you very
openly
		
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			that when I was memorizing it, the
very first day I met with my
		
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			teacher, she was so excited at the
time I was studying in Egypt, and
		
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			She said to him,
		
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			I was nervous. Starts at topa, is
very heavy,
		
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			and that emotion never changed for
me. But starts at Toba, I
		
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			memorized her tobah, and it was
the hardest Surah for me to
		
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			memorize. I would review sorts of
Toba, and it was so hard for me to
		
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			remember the verses. And while, of
course, we all believe and love
		
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			all parts of the Quran, I didn't
have an emotional connection with
		
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			sorts of Toba. I had no deep
connection with sorts of Toba. And
		
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			I would make dua
		
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			for my heart to feel love the
emotional connection to swords. It
		
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			Toba
		
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			when this happened, and the first
and only verse that came to my
		
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			mind was in swords and Toba.
		
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			All of a sudden, the emotional
connection that I could not have
		
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			felt for years opened.
		
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			Now, when I am in pain, I go to
swords and Toba. The entire
		
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			playwright back was just listening
for almost 15 hours on playing
		
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			sorts of Toba,
		
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			Sora. Toba for me has become a
surah of refuge.
		
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			And that door would not have
opened for me in that way, had it
		
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			not been such a devastating
closure for me in this way.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, I was blessed with
going to Medina this past
		
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			December. Again, I was there for a
very short time. Now they didn't
		
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			have this that last time, but this
time, they have a new system. You
		
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			have to apply through an
		
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			app, and you can only go one time
in a whole year, and you only can
		
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			apply for the spot that's
available when it opens up. No
		
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			spots were available at all.
		
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			I went from one person to the nest
asking, How can I get in? They
		
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			told me go to the app client.
Hours and hours of asking. I spent
		
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			hours asking, trying to get in,
hours. And I remember that there
		
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			was a sister who had told me,
literally, the month before, she
		
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			had gone to Medina and she had
made in the roadblock room.
		
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			Need to get into the Robo. So I'm
looking at bash.
		
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			She may draw me in the Robo. To
get into the room, I have to get
		
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			into the room. There's no way
about me. She may draw me in the
		
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			Robo. Then I get to the line, I
wait, get to the end. I explain my
		
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			situation. I'm here for a short
time. There's no spots on the app.
		
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			Can I get in? And the lady says,
Sorry.
		
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			I say, Ya, Allah,
		
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			I turn away from the
		
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			and I wake up the next morning.
And Sheik Akram najali is speaking
		
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			hafiahua scholar of Hadi. He's
done so much harm on women of
		
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			Quran scholars, and he was
speaking in the hotel next to me
		
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			after salatul Fajr, and I wanted
to attend, so I go to the hotel
		
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			next to me, and it did huge hotel.
I don't know where he's speaking.
		
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			I just know it's in the hotel. So
I see a group of people speaking
		
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			in English, and I approach them,
and I say, Excuse me, are you here
		
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			with alguna which for shift from
speech? And they say, No, we're
		
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			with another group. I say, okay,
Giuseppe Lafayette, I walk away,
		
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			and a sister from the group sees
me, and she's like, Oh, are you
		
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			Miriam? I have Claudia. So she's
talking to me about clariah for a
		
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			little bit. So I'm so grateful.
Which, by the way, if you weren't
		
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			here yesterday, of Claudia, is the
Quran reciters app for women.
		
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			Please download it. It's free. Q,
A, R, I A, H, Claudia. So this is
		
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			just telling him to let she use
his body. I'm so grateful. So
		
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			because we're standing here for a
second, there's a whole bunch of
		
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			women and a group guy. There's a
brother who's a guy. So he comes
		
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			up to me and the sister, because
we're a little bit away from the
		
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			group. So he comes up to us and he
says, he looks at me, he says,
		
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			Sister, are you coming with us to
the roll up? I
		
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			said, No, no, Hi, I'm not part of
this group. He said, you'll not
		
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			come with us to the robot.
		
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			I said, I'm not, I'm not part of
your group. I have a permit. He's
		
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			like, you'll love us when I come
		
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			to the
		
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			I cannot explain to you the
thought process for me, the first
		
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			time I blamed myself so much. What
am I doing in my life? That's
		
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			displeasing to Allah.
		
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			But you know what? I didn't think
		
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			policy, because the majority of
men get into the world, and that's
		
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			because the world is open. 24/7
for men, women have very short
		
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			times and 1000s upon 1000s upon
1000s of us are trying to get in.
		
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			I saw 1000s of women in line. I
saw hundreds turn away because
		
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			they are not rich enough to have a
smartphone.
		
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			They don't have data that's
available at all times because you
		
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			can't show a screenshot. It has to
be a Live app. They don't speak
		
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			English or arrogant, which are the
only two languages that they could
		
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			choose. There are lots of ways in
which access is not available to
		
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			get into the Loblaw for sisters.
And yes, I definitely have things
		
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			to work on. But also sometimes, as
women, we blame ourselves before
		
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			we look at what externally can I
do to Yes, improve myself
		
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			Inshallah, but also change the
reality for other sisters not to
		
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			have to go through what I'm going
through and blame themselves and
		
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			then see it as a projection onto
who Allah is being people who
		
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			remember Allah. Are people who
remember Allah, yes, when we are
		
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			tested on a personal level, but
also when we are tested because we
		
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			are a woman. And as we end, I want
to share with you a narration of
		
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			Judea Ibn multi
		
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			because when we're talking about
being people who remember Allah,
		
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			being people who remember the
Quran, being people who when we
		
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			look around the world, we see
through the lens of Quran,
		
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			sometimes we are very hard on
ourselves, because we should be
		
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			hard on ourselves in the sense of
we want to improve, okay, but not
		
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			to the point that we hate
ourselves because we wish we used
		
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			to be better like we wish we used
to be the person before we had
		
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			children. We wish we used to be
the person when we could spend
		
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			hours in the night worshiping. We
wish we could be the person when
		
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			we were 15 or 20 or 30. We think
back to when we had time and
		
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			health and energy. And I wish I
could be or we look at other
		
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			people and we think, I wish I
could be like that. I want to get
		
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			to that place, but I'm not there.
When will I ever get there? How
		
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			will I ever get there? And this
companion is a companion of the
		
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			Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam.
He had already converted to Islam.
		
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			He was praying Muslim with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			salam. And when he is praying
Muslim with the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa salam, the prophet
Messiah. Were they created from
		
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			nothing?
		
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			Were they created from nothing? I.
		
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			Then the next verse talks about
how Allah created the heavens and
		
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			the earth like so much greater
than and yet they're still living
		
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			a belief. He said it was the first
time I truly felt faith hit my
		
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			heart and it felt like I was going
to fly, like my heart was going to
		
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			fly.
		
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			Abu Bakr only Allah. When he was
the Khalifa, a group came from
		
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			Yemen, and they came and heard the
Quran, and they began to weep. And
		
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			do you know what he said? He said,
Hajj,
		
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			we used to be like this. And what
does that tell you? Companions of
		
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			the Prophet SAW Abu, he would
		
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			recite Surah Mariam, where it says
that they would make such death,
		
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			and they would weep. They would
weep. And they would make such a
		
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			he makes such death. And he would
say, Where are the tears? This is
		
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			the Sisha. Where are the tears?
Sophia, ODI, Allahu, Akbar. Also,
		
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			people were reciting the same
ayahs. They made Sasha without the
		
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			tears. And she said, Where are the
tears? These are companions of the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. And there were times that
		
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			they wept so uncontrollably
because they were so scared of
		
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			going to *, even though they
were promised paradise, some of
		
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			them.
		
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			And they were companions who were
weak because of the beauty of the
		
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			Quran, and they were companions
who would weep because they missed
		
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			the revelation, and they were
companions who felt like they were
		
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			not good enough at times with the
Quran because they were not
		
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			weeping. If that was the
Companions, then what about me?
		
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			And me? There are angels that roam
the earth looking for you,
		
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			reciting the Quran at any level of
recitation or understanding or
		
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			trying to come closer to the
Quran. And if there are times that
		
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			you don't feel the emotional
connection with a squirrel, like I
		
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			struggle with swirl, or there are
times that maybe, as a woman, you
		
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			struggle, I want you to know that
there were women and men of
		
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			centuries past who have gone
through that journey, who have
		
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			already left to me Allah subhanahu
wa and there may be, Right now, a
		
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			tree that they planted that they
are getting the reward for every
		
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			time a bird eats from that tree,
or every time a little squirrel
		
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			seeks shade under it, that they
forgot they even planted. And yet
		
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			the reward continues to go there
is something you might have done
		
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			or do. Maybe you've taught your
child how to say a pendulum, and
		
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			when they teach inshallah their
child and their child and their
		
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			child and your great grandchildren
inshaAllah, all that reward goes
		
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			back to you inshaAllah. Allah is
so much more generous and kind
		
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			than we are to ourselves. So
remember to be of the people. How
		
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			to be of the people who remember
Allah salah. It's by living the
		
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			Quran and viewing the way that
making insha Allah changed the
		
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			world through the words of the
revelations.