Ismail Kamdar – Dealing With Anxiety During Difficulty

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The pandemic has impacted the country and people, including loss of loved ones, loss of income, and resources. The importance of acceptance and love one's life is emphasized, and testing one's beliefs and understanding tests is crucial. The need for individuals to overcome their fears and anxiety to achieve their goals is emphasized, along with finding small small actions to alleviate anxiety and avoid overwhelming feelings. embracing mortality and embracing the idea of a "anything you can" to overcome anxiety is emphasized, and finding the perfect food or memorizing a law to protect from depression and anxiety is also emphasized.

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			Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Karim Allah
Allah He was happy. He
		
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			became a president Allah subhanho wa Taala ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon the final
prophet, Muhammad bin Abdullah solo while he was so limited all those who follow his way with
righteousness until the end of time. But Welcome to a nother virtual Juma
		
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			for the third week in a row, as the country remains on level three lockdown, and we try our best to
stay in isolation to protect ourselves and others, we will continue to run these footpaths from home
online
		
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			as a means of giving each other hope and giving each other some advice.
		
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			And inshallah, soon we will be back together in our machines with our communities as we also dealing
with. So today's topic is focused on a few Islamic tips on how to overcome anxiety at times of, of
child and calamity.
		
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			And I myself am not a psychologist, so
		
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			I can't focus too much on the psychology side of it and the counseling related tips for dealing with
this. But
		
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			our religion does give us guidelines on how to deal with such thoughts. And it does give us certain
acts of worships and to us because that can help us through difficult times. And that's really going
to be the focus of this. So to begin, the reason why I've chosen this topic is over the past few
weeks, there has been a increase in not just the number of people we know personally who have the
virus, but in the number of people you know personally who have passed away.
		
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			I myself know people my own age, who I went to school with who have passed away from this virus.
		
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			And this is causing it to really hit home for a lot of people.
		
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			Many people, you know, they complain to me in the city can't sleep at night, scared of debt. They
worried what's going to happen to the wife, the kids, what's going to happen to their family, if
they suddenly get the virus and passed away.
		
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			The reality of debt has hit home. And it's not something we can push aside as we indulgent dunya not
something we can ignore, as we go out and engage in all kinds of sin.
		
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			Rather, the warnings that have been there for many, many decades, that death is a reality. And any
of us can go at any time. Now more than ever, people are seeing this, and people are waking up to
this. And then the question then remains is what do we do about this? So last week, we spoke about
the reality of debt, and how to come to terms with it. And we spoke about some of the things we all
should do like making a world and setting up sources of continuous reward for ourselves. These are
things we should do asking people for forgiveness if you've harmed anyone. Today, I want to focus
more on the psychological side of it, which is how do we deal with these emotions?
		
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			How do we deal with this fear and this panic
		
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			that keeps us up at night.
		
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			Many people are worried about getting sick.
		
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			Many people are worried about dying. Many people are worried about their loved ones dying. Many
people are worried about losing their jobs losing their sources of income.
		
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			We are living through a time of global tests and trials. And the reality is everybody. Everybody
throughout their lives has faced trials. But for the most part, it's either been individual trials
or localized strength. So as individuals, you may have to deal with the death of a loved one or
losing a job or a health problem. As a community, some communities have to deal with droughts, some
with floods and wood wars. But something on a global scale that affects almost every home in the
world.
		
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			This is something that hasn't happened in decades hasn't happened in our lifetime.
		
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			And so
		
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			this has caused a lot of people to just completely
		
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			lose their minds. I mean, you have people saying what's the point in living if this world is going
to be so full of childhood and calamities and difficulties
		
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			and this comes from the idea that this world's
		
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			supposed to be fun. This was supposed to be enjoyable. This was supposed to be entertainment, which
is a false notion we have paid ourselves over the past few decades. Over the past few decades,
mankind has deluded itself into thinking that this world is a world of fun, that this world is a
world of entertainment, that this world is a place to fulfill all of our desires.
		
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			While in reality Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us multiple times in the Quran, that this world is
a test
		
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			and not only that, but he promised to test us with exactly this one double one double B shaming a
Hovey Will you are you an accent Mina um, while he was on foot, he was the Murata but she saw the
loss of a handle that says, I will definitely definitely test you would feel hunger, loss of life,
loss of wealth and loss of efforts, loss of fruit, right? Five things.
		
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			The current pandemic is all five in one on a global scale. Field, there is global field, which is
what we are talking about today, this anxiety This one is fear that I'm going to die or my family is
going to die or something bad is going to happen to us. This is a test our promises he promised us
in this world we will go through phases of fear.
		
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			So when we do face such times,
		
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			we are tuned in to the true believers saying such times that this is what Allah and His Messenger
have promised Allah and His Messenger between the promised
		
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			hunger. Not all of us have to deal with hunger Hamdulillah, many of us myself included, we are saved
from this. Allah has blessed us with good, pure sources of income. But during this past year, many
people have lost their jobs. Many people have lost their businesses. Many people have fallen into
poverty. And so they are dealing with a test of hunger. May Allah alleviate this for everyone who is
any Democrat, everyone, prosperity voters.
		
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			loss of lives. Everyone's faced this in the past, your
		
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			reality is this is something we face throughout our lives, it's just that the number we've had to
deal with in a short period of time has been far more than what we are accustomed to, you know,
maybe we lose a loved one once a year, once every two years, once every three years. But to lose,
some families have lost four or five loved ones within a week. before they're able to complete one
another one passes away.
		
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			This is a huge test, I'll give everybody stripped.
		
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			Loss of wealth I spoke about this, people have lost a business. You know, I took a drive yesterday
to one of my favorite parts of town and at least six of my favorite stores were closed down during
the lockdown, they couldn't manage to survive the lockdown closed down on, people have lost their
wealth.
		
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			What some are often now some are odd technically refers to float, because those days the farmers
used to rely on the annual crop for the income. And if there was a drought, if there was a flood,
that's it. They lost everything for the year.
		
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			So this can be interpreted in our time to mean
		
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			the fruit of our efforts that we are going to make efforts and we're not going to see anything in
return. A lot of people have seen that and a lot of people had invested in opportunities that were
going to bloom in the year 2020 or 2021. And because of what happened, it all fell apart.
		
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			So Allah subhanaw taala has promised to test us.
		
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			And what we see on a global level is simply the promise of Allah. So the believer doesn't lose
faith. when these things happen. He simply sees it as this is what dunya is meant to be. This is not
meant to be gender.
		
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			Gender, is where we have pleasure, eternally.
		
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			Gender is really is no fear, no debt, no sickness, no old age, nothing. Gender is where all our
dreams and our desires come true.
		
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			Dunya is the world of test dunya is the world of difficulty. Here is the world of China.
		
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			And generally, for each and every one of us our child's are different. Our tests are different.
		
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			But at the moment, we all share one correctives
		
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			so what is the solution? The next verse says, what should we saw? Believe it or not? The next verse,
the verse before by the next verse says,
		
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			that give glad tidings to those who are patient on the inner Lila in ideology or when a calamity
occurs. But the bus I wanted to quote it actually two verses before that were less martyrs if you
hold the Xena monster is forbidden
		
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			As salam O you who believe seek assistance through Ferber and Sala These are our two primary weapons
against anxiety at times of difficulty when things go wrong, suffer when things go wrong for
		
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			you really solid and sharp server should be there every step of the way our entire lives, these
should be constants in our lives, we should be praying five times a day no matter how well we are
doing, no matter how easy life is, it doesn't matter that that should be a constant. And solver in
all of its forms should always be there. Whether it's restraining ourselves from evil, or promoting
to do good deeds, or being patient with calamities, we should always have some type of solver in our
lives.
		
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			But at times of difficulty, we have to increase the times of difficulty you have to put extra solar,
we have to have extra service. Why? Because this is where calmness comes from.
		
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			If you look at the example of the HUD kiambu live,
		
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			this is one of the most calming things you can do. When you are facing stress and anxiety when you
can't sleep at night, because you worried what's going to happen to you during this pandemic, to
wake up in the middle of the night.
		
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			To perform hoodoo, to pray to Raghav sada to pour your heart out in such a way. This is one of the
best ways to calm yourself. This is one of the best ways to reduce your anxiety. And if you haven't
tried it, try to
		
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			if you're having difficulty sleeping, because you're worried about everything that's going on in
this world, all of these calamities, and all of these trials wake up every day.
		
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			And you will see it will have a huge impact on the field, it will increase your tawakkol it will
increase increase your trust and last quarter, it will increase your relationship with Allah
subhanho wa Taala it will come your heart
		
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			sober, knowing that life is a test and we are rewarded for having suffered with these tests should
get us through the test. Now someone doesn't mean it's going to be easy. So it doesn't mean we're
going to be happy, sober doesn't mean everything's going to come right. sober simply means that we
don't say anything that's displeasing to Allah. And we accept a lot further and we try to move
forward with our lives. Despite all the pain and trauma that go to
		
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			the server,
		
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			we can still feel sad, you can still cry, you can still,
		
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			you know help a few days to process what happens when Islam when someone passes away, you have three
days to two more weeks to really sit there and process the entirety before you have to force
yourself to get back to work and get back to life. So are we allowed to feel sad, you're allowed to
cry.
		
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			But our tongue should only say that makes it easy.
		
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			So one of the ways in which we can deal with this anxiety is simply with accepting the reality of
life,
		
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			which is a life is a test.
		
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			And this test includes losing those who may love.
		
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			This test includes getting sick. This test includes loving two periods of intense fear.
		
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			In all of these, we have sober and sola allies there for us, it will count in our favor to judgment.
When you accept the reality of life, when you come to terms with the reality of this world being
nothing more than one giant exam. This will help to come down.
		
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			Because the heart now understands what is happening around it. It's not random. It's not evil. It is
simply a gateway to gender, if we have silver.
		
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			So we must face all of our tests in life with sober and with Sala
		
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			remember the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
		
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			in which he stated that amazing is the affair of the believer, as nothing happens to him except that
which is good for him
		
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			when a calamity occurs, and he's patient that is good for him. And when the blessing occurs, and
he's grateful that he's good.
		
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			And that occurs only for the believer.
		
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			And so we believe, based on this heaviness,
		
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			that everything that happens for to us, is for us and it's good for us. If it is a calamity, to
suffer that we show that calamity is good for us. And if it is a blessing, then the patient the
sugar, the gratitude we have for that blessing is good for us.
		
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			May Allah grant us all
		
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			Above
		
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			and Below replace what we lost with that which is better for us. And we cannot dissolve sugar and
allow us to notice the good things in our lives and to remain grateful for all of these.
		
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			Another method
		
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			to help us deal with anxiety,
		
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			the remembrance of Allah.
		
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			And there are certain forms of zeker that calm the heart faster than others if you think about it.
		
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			One of my favorites is the statement La hawla wala quwata illa Allah.
		
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			But there is no will or ability, there is no power, there is no mic, except us.
		
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			The hola Porter illa Billah essentially means that nothing happens, except what Allah wants to
happen.
		
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			So when you are lying at night, feeling scared, worried about what if this happens? What if that
happens, because we still have to deal with our regular psi in South Africa, we still have to deal
with our fears of crime, we still have to deal with our fears of other illnesses, we still have to
worry about, you know, the economy and all the other things that that's wrong. But along with that,
we now have to deal with the fear of COVID and and getting ill and losing our loved ones to this.
		
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			So how do you deal with this, when that when it anxiety enters your heart, simply keep repeating the
whole lot.
		
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			And and reflect on this and think about a stink about the vet. Only what Allah wants can happen.
Only what Allah wills can happen is no power except Allah there is no mic besides Allah, there is no
Well besides Allah, only Qatar Allah is going to happen.
		
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			The more you realize that everything is in the hands of Allah, the more calm your heart becomes, and
the more you trust Allah, and the more you begin to just release that stress and that worry and
leave it to Allah, then you are taking precautions, you are doing what is necessary. Now, you leave
with everything else robots are.
		
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			Another form of zip codes that can help us deal with anxiety is sugar gratitude.
		
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			And it may seem strange, to recommend gratitude during a time of trial, but it works, it works for
me, it will work for you as well.
		
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			So this is what I do, and what I recommend you to do. So when you are feeling worried about all the
tests in your life,
		
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			take some time to sit and think about all the blessings.
		
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			To sit back and think Alhamdulillah every blessing, so you're hungry. This is the important part,
this is the kicker, you're
		
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			stuck in a hungry lab, I am healthy hamdulillah I have a man of hungry for whatever it is. And for
each of us, it's different. For some of us, it's financial stability. For others, it's nice home for
others, it's a good family. For some, it's all of this, whatever it is, I can guarantee you that
during the time of contemplation, you will come up with at least 10 if not 100 things to say
Alhamdulillah for and as you focus on all the blessings in your life. And as you tackle love all the
blessings in your life, you begin to worry less, you begin to obsess less about the what ifs. And
you begin to realize that justice Allah has blessed you with all of this. He is the one who's going
		
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			to take care of you. He's the one who's going to help you through your difficulties. And he's only
going to allow it to happen to death, which is basically
		
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			another form of liquor
		
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			is not just the remembrance of Allah, but the remembrance of debt.
		
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			And this may seem strange.
		
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			How would the remembrance of debt
		
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			help me overcome my anxiety?
		
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			Well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us to frequently remember that. And he told us to
visit the graveyard so that we can remember that. If you look at the two hour we make when we enter
the graveyard, you greet the people of the grave, and we tell them soon we will be joining you.
		
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			What does all this mean?
		
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			All of this means that we have to accept it as a reality. debt is not a bad thing. debt is not an
evil. debt is not a punishment from Allah. debt is not a lot trying to harm you in any way. That is
simply the inevitable end of the current phase of the journey of our soul.
		
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			We have to sit and contemplate and think about the fact that our souls were not created for this
world. We are in this world for but the blink of an eye and then we move on.
		
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			The sooner we recognize that the sooner we realize that, the sooner we realize that death is not
something bad.
		
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			If we die from an illness, it could be martyrdom it could be an intrinsic agenda.
		
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			Why is that a bad thing?
		
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			So learn to embrace mortality, as we spoke about last week, as simply a fact of life and a necessary
part of being on Earth.
		
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			The sooner we learn to embrace that
		
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			the next thing we can do to help us deal with this anxiety is to make the art
		
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			and the pivotal to us. The Quran and Sunnah. They can help us to overcome anxiety.
		
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			One of the most basic ones that all of us should know is hospital law when it Milwaukee has won a
law when the Milwaukee Allah is sufficient for us and he's the best of protectors. What more can you
get, you can ask.
		
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			Anytime you are feeling anxiety and remind yourself that Allah is sufficient for me and he's the
best to protect us.
		
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			Every time you feel anxiety, just keep repeating this until it goes away. Until the reality of the
statement enters your heart. Allah is my protector.
		
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			Only a law can protect
		
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			a stronger form of this phony for adobo, Husky Allahu Allahu alayhi wa kotoba, horrible as he
		
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			Allah is sufficient for me in him at least my tawakkol at my place, my trust, and he's the Lord of
the mighty troll, again, is the same to a hospital or hospital, it's the same door. But
		
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			this one here is more. It's more words, in terms of you mentioned, what's the walkway, the walkway.
		
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			So if you're having difficulty with the Walker, this is the door to make. And you remind yourself
alive The Lord of the arches as in what is altruism is a mighty throne. It is the arch that is
bigger, this entire universe, meaning that this universe is insignificant, it is really, really
small. And it is easy for a lot, particularly within this universe, and only he can protect. It just
says he's the Lord of the Throne. He's about the universe. And he says he's the one who's in control
of the throne. He's the one who's in control of the universe. So this should put some calmness into
our hearts.
		
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			another hour that we can make is also below him in a Humvee what
		
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			I seek a lot of protection from depression and anxiety. This is part of a longer too often in the
center, we seek a lot of protection from depression, anxiety, fear, weakness, miserliness debt, and
being overpowered by people and I highly recommend finding the food or memorizing it and reciting it
daily. But nonetheless, just for this part of when you're feeling agitated when you're feeling
depressed or anxious, or to be live in harmony with Krishna Siegel was protection from depression
and anxiety. So this is a student that you are right.
		
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			Another door that from the sooner that we can make is our old to be calling Mattila de Martini,
Sheree mahalo, I seek Allah's protection.
		
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			I seek protection in the complete word of Allah, from anything evil that he created.
		
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			To everything out there that we perceive as evil is a creation of love. And the only one that can
protect us from It is Allah. So we seek a lot of protection from
		
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			there are many modules like this. Again, I highly recommend that everyone should have a copy of his
no Muslim fortress of the believer is available as an app, it's available, websites available in
book form, have a copy, memorize the two hours in depth for it for stress for anxiety for morning
and evening to us, make them part of our daily habit, because these two hours go a long way for
bringing about the protection of Allah, at the same time for calming our hearts because now we know
the laws protecting us do us function on a variety of levels. On one hand, they bring about
protection of Allah on another hand, because our hearts and you have a psychological impact on us.
		
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			Another way is they work in liquor nearly mind us, we may not be thinking about the fact that Allah
is a robot, you may not be thinking about the fact that Allah is the one in control of everything,
but when you make these laws we are reminded. So it forms it may take some form of vigor as well.
And most importantly, it is a form of the body. In fact, in fact, it is the greatest type of event
		
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			and is the greatest type of event that this is the essence of Ebola coming to
		
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			an end of this short discussion
		
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			by reminding myself and yourself. The one of the purposes of the test of life is to turn us back to
Allah
		
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			Any test in this world that makes us more righteous, that makes us more connected to Allah, that
makes us better Muslims is not a calamity. It is a blessing. Anything that opens the doors towards
China is a blessing. Anything that leads down the path towards Allah and His love and His mercy and
His compassion, and his eternal Paradise is the blessing. And so if this global event brings us all
back to Allah, if this global event
		
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			makes us all from those who are beloved to Allah, it is the best thing that could ever happen to us.
		
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			So let's face this with optimism, it has faced us with trust in Allah. It has faced US armed sober,
sugar, solar vigor and to
		
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			let us face this has believed us trusting completely in our Creator has been a law along with Nick
Milwaukee. Allah is sufficient for us and He is the best of protectors. Remember to take your
precautions to social distance to do whatever you can to avoid the sickness. Beyond that it is
called the ruler. However, Allah wills is best for us to the hanger of the user to use the phone
seafood for salmon, Sabine with Hamden Illa propaganda mean for Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh