Ismail Kamdar – Code of Conduct #9 Courage

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The importance of honesty and courage in the face of criticism, fear, and violence is emphasized in Islam. The challenges faced by young people in the past and the importance of speaking the truth to avoid negative consequences are discussed. The speakers emphasize the need for personal comfort and guidance, as well as finding one's courage through planning for worst-case scenarios and not giving up. The importance of building one's courage through actions and planning for worst-case scenarios is also emphasized.

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			Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah. So in
today's video, we're going to discuss the importance of courage in Dawa. And this goes hand in hand
with our previous lesson on the importance of honesty in Dawa. Because the truth is better. Very
often when calling people to Islam or calling Muslims to practice Islam better, you are going to
have to tell people, things that they don't want to hear. You're going to have to convey a message
that is distasteful to the people that in their mind and their worldview, and they experience what
you saying, is not what they want to hear. But you have to say it anyway. This requires honesty.
		
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			But it also requires courage.
		
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			And I worry that when it comes to the Dawa, today, we have again, two extremes. One extreme, the
people involved in the Dawa, who have no courage, who are cowardly. And who will twist the the
teachings of Islam to suit the audience because they are afraid of losing the audience, are they
afraid of what people are going to say? Are they afraid of having their feelings hurt, or whatever
the case may be? That's one side that lack courage. And the other side
		
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			is those who think that being courageous and truthful means not having wisdom, right. So they will
say things in a blunt, rude, harsh, crude manner, where technically what they are saying is correct.
But the methodology of delivery, may chase people away, or cause more harm than good. So I want to
address both of these problems today. The first the problem of do art who lack courage, the second
the problem of do art, who think they have courage, but they lack wisdom. So let's begin with some
of the evidence is quoted on this
		
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			wall so by hand our dollar tells us in the Quran, Oh, you who believe whoever amongst you turns away
from his religion, we will replace him with the people who Allah loves, and they love Allah. And
then he describes the the point of this verse over Yup, with ALLAH SubhanA. Allah describes four
qualities of the people who Allah loves. Number one, they are merciful to the believers. Number two,
they are stern with the disbelievers. Right They are firm on the teachings of a religion. Number
three, they do jihad visa vie the law. And number four, and the one that's relevant to our topic
today. Number four, what are your core Hoonah low medalla him they do not fear what the critics are
		
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			going to say about them.
		
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			So from this verse, we can deduce that if you are living a life that is pleasing to Allah subhana wa
Taala that is dedicated to the cause of Allah that is dedicated towards calling towards the truth.
You will have critics who will say all kinds of things about you. You cannot allow that to derail
you from speaking the truth.
		
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			That part of the Dawa is you have to deal with critics. And we'll come back to this later and we
discuss those who are cowardly because they can't handle criticism. It's very important that we
understand the importance of courage and the importance of not fearing the criticism of our critics.
		
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			In other words, Allah subhanaw taala says, Those who deliver the messages of Allah and fear Him and
do not fear anyone besides Him. Allah describes the messengers, the prophets as those who deliver
the message of Allah, fearing him and not fearing anyone besides Him. Because to deliver the message
of Islam requires courage. People will dislike you for it, people will turn against your voice,
people will not like what you're going to say.
		
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			And the third evidence I present is the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in which
he says, Let not fear of the people stop you from speaking the truth if you know it. If you know
something to be true, you should say it regardless of what the people will do or say in return. You
should not allow your fear of people criticizing you blaming you, boycotting you, whatever it is,
you shouldn't allow that fear to stop you from speaking the truth.
		
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			So these verses and these are Hadees all indicate that
		
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			that when you are involved in Dawa V Sabina Allah, then you are inevitably going to encounter
criticism. And you have to face it with courage. You have to be brave. When conveying the message,
courage is necessary in Dawa.
		
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			When calling people towards the truth, you will find yourself at odds with people, because the truth
is bitter and difficult to swallow. And it's very difficult to get people to accept that they are
wrong. And they need to change their ways and you need to do things in a way that's more pleasing to
Allah. So when you choose the path of Dawa, be conscious of the fact that you are choosing a path in
which your life will be faced with great criticism, and in some cases, even violence. Right, they
have been throughout our history, many dua to have to face violence at the hands of the enemies.
		
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			You have to be prepared to sacrifice visa vie Leila,
		
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			we go back to the Syrah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When he receives the first
revelation, and honey jar Rajala one hot takes him to see her cousin, the Christian monk Wanaka Eva
Nofal Wanaka tells him that you have received a message similar to what Moses has received and you
are a prophet of Allah. And then he tells him i wish i will be alive when your people kick you out
so that I can support you
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who at that point in time was the most beloved of people to
the markets. He asked who my people actually turned me out, do they actually kick me out? Do they
actually turn against me? And Oracle even over replied, I don't know anyone who came in a message
like this, except that the people turned against them.
		
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			Take the story, and use this as your
		
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			foundation for your Dawa. That if you are going to do Dawa, if you are going to call non Muslims
towards Islam or Muslims towards practicing and understanding Islam better
		
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			than you are in eligibly going to have some people turn against you and try and stop you. They may
do so to slander, they may do so to name calling. They may do so to character assassinations, they
may do so to boycotts. Some cases may even do so to imprisonment of islands.
		
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			But you have to be prepared for that. And see why I say if you don't have courage, either find your
courage or don't do Dawa. Because this is not the part four. This is not the easy part is not the
part to the people who want the easy part agenda. This is the hard part. This is the one that has
the most rewards. And so when it comes to most trials, and every profit phase trials in the part of
Dawa, as I said all of the Sahaba and all of the great preachers throughout our history. We know
that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam faced every possible type of opposition to his Dawa
		
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			people slandered him. They called him a magician. They called him possessed, they call them apart.
They mocked him. They ridiculed Him. They boycotted him and his companions for three years. They
exiled him, they physically attacked him. They waged war against him.
		
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			Yet he remained firm. He remained courageous, and he eventually emerged victorious.
		
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			We know what the Sahaba Abdullah even Massoud when he was the first one to recite Quran in public.
He was beaten for this. We know when Samia and her husband Yasser accepted Islam despite being a
weak family without any tribal prediction in Makkah, they were murdered by Abu Jaha. But they
remained firm on the throat until the very end. During this period, where the great Sahaba were
literally being tortured for accepting the message of truth. One of the Sahaba who was tortured the
worst was kebab, even our radula one who kebab he goes to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam
during this period in which he is being tortured, perhaps more than anyone else, and he only answers
		
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			Shula, Odin Shula ask Allah to help us ask Allah to make make dua to Allah to help us.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told him before you in the past, a believer would be
seized, a ditch will be done for him and you will be thrown in it. Then they would saw him in half,
and his flesh will be torn from his bones. Yet he would never abandon Islam. And then he predicted
he said this religion will prevail to such an extent that someone would travel from Yemen to him.
		
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			hadramout without fearing any one besides Allah, but you are being impatient.
		
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			This Hadees
		
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			makes it very clear that the part of the Salah is full of tracks. And the trials we face today are
minuscule compared to those before us.
		
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			That they were people in the past who were literally tortured to death just for believing in La
ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasool Allah, and we know what the Sahaba went through for believing and
propagating La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasool Allah, You know what Bilal Rajaratnam went through for
this. We know what moves up even a male went through for this. We know what hums already and went
through for this.
		
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			The part of Dawa is a part of courage and sacrifice. And it wasn't just the first generation, every
generation of people who took who took on this responsibility of calling people to that which is
better. had to face trials and persecution in that part. In Muhammad Buhari was slandered
		
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			people try to character assassinate him. We know that great scholars that Imam Abu Hanifa even
Taymiyah they died in prison for standing firm on what they believe it. We know great scholars like
Imam Malik were tortured in prison for being firm on what they believe to be the truth, the correct
understanding of Islam. You know what Imam Muhammad Ivana humble went through at the hands of
immortal zeolites for remaining firm on the Aqeedah valsiner World GEMA
		
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			when you know the stories, and you know this history, then it should be clear to you that the part
of Dawa is not an easy part. It is the part for the courageous only for those who have it within
their souls to keep focused on preaching that which is pleasing to Allah, regardless of the
consequences.
		
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			And I remind you of the Hadith, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked, which
jihad is best, and he said Kalamata will have industrial done in January. He said, The best jihad is
to speak the truth in the face of a tyrant ruler.
		
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			Why? We know jihad is an act of courage. Why is speaking the truth to a tyrant the ultimate act of
courage for the sake of Allah. Because in the battlefield, if you have a sword and your enemy has a
sword, you are equal combatants. So it is jihad, but there's an equal chance of winning or losing.
But when you are facing a tyrant ruler, and you still tell the ruler, the truth,
		
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			even though all of the weapons and the physical advantage is on his side, and you are literally
risking your life to just speak the truth, then this is the ultimate jihad. Because this is the
ultimate act of courage, that you are willing to say the truth, even if it cost you your life.
		
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			This is the ultimate act of courage and martyrdom. Now, most of us will not be in a position where
we have to speak the truth to a tyrant ruler.
		
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			But you will have to speak the truth to people who dislike us. When doing Dawa, people may boycott
us, may may exile us, they may slander us, they may do whatever they can to silence us.
		
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			And we have to remain firm on the truth.
		
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			In my own life, I have faced most of these things. I've been slandered. I've been boycotted,
		
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			I is forced to move to another land because the people completely rejected me at one point, right or
today and always knew slammed is floating around to try and character assassinate me.
		
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			But I don't allow any of it to affect me. And I only say this to let you know that this is something
we go through today. This isn't stories of the past.
		
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			My teachers went through the same
		
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			one of my teachers is currently in prison for speaking the truth to a tyrant ruler. Another one of
my teachers is banned from over 20 countries who speak in Detroit.
		
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			You know, I've seen people who I have studied with having to sacrifice everything for the sake of
Allah. And my child is a miniscule compared to this. But
		
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			I noticed with this younger generation, there's a lot of people getting involved in Dawa
		
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			who are not going in with the right expectations.
		
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			Right. There are many young people today getting involved in Dawa, who think that if I do Dawa work
everyone's going
		
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			To me, if I do Dawa work, I'm going to be famous. If I do our work there, no, people are going to
appreciate what I do.
		
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			And so they go into the Dawa with a very naive understanding of what the response will be.
		
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			And when they face their first criticism, when they face harshness when they face slander or
enemies, they are very quick to just give up.
		
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			Right? I've seen this happen so many times. I've seen people start Dawa organizations. And as soon
as the first criticism comes in, they just give up on Islamic work altogether, saying that, why are
people not appreciating my efforts?
		
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			I remember once I was at our organization, and someone criticized, something that the organization
did.
		
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			And team members in the meeting actually broke down crying, saying, why are people being mean to us?
I'm sorry, if you did our work, people are going to be mean to you. There seems to be a disconnect
here, right? Like, because when I was young, this was something my teachers emphasized, and drove
home to us. All of my teachers, regardless of the school of thought they from, they all emphasize
that the truth is better. It takes courage to speak the truth. And if you aren't going to be a voice
of truth, you're going to have to face trial from the people.
		
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			That people are going to not like what you're saying, you may be the imam in the masjid. And the
board of directors don't like what you say. So they try to silence you or fire you. It may be that
you're a school teacher, and people don't like what you see. So they fire you from the school, or
threaten your livelihood. If you don't change your opinions. These are realities. These are things
that you will face in the Dawa? Well, for some reason, we now have a generation of the art who
didn't, didn't get the memo. No one told him about this, no one told them that this is going to
happen. Instead, they go on YouTube. And you see a chef giving a lecture and it has 2 million views.
		
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			And he I want to be like that. So they think they're going to give a lecture and he's going to get 2
million views and everyone's going to love them. That's not how it works. For every share, whose
videos get 2 million views, again until there's 100,000 People saying bad things about him and
slandering him and lying about the main character assassinating him, and sometimes just disagreeing
respectfully. But the fact is, it's not all roses, it's not all glory. This is a very difficult part
with very difficult work. It's not for the faint hearted.
		
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			Sadly, what happens today is because some people in the data, lack courage, and lack the ability to
handle criticism. This drags down other people as well. So it may be that someone produces something
in the Dawa, which needs to be criticized. But everyone's afraid to criticize this person, because
they know his feelings get hurt easily. So nobody says anything.
		
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			What this does, is it creates an environment in which more and more people do Dawa in the wrong way,
because people are afraid to criticize each other.
		
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			Now, if you are a daddy, who feels the need to criticize another die, there is a methodology to
this, they should first be a private conversation, you should be one on one discussion.
		
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			There should be a way to try and fix this behind closed doors first.
		
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			And if that's not possible, then you try criticizing the idea without dragging the other person
down. So you may see some people are promoting this idea and it is wrong and you criticize the idea.
		
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			It's very rare
		
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			that there will be a justified case for calling people out by name.
		
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			Very rare, and unfortunately, too many people who do that today. But nonetheless, if you are
involved in Dawa, understand, you are challenging people's beliefs, you are challenging people's
worldviews. You are challenging people's understanding of right and wrong. Of course, this is going
to upset them. Of course, this is going to make them want to do something to silence you. You have
to be brave. You have to be fun. If you don't, you might give up. You might change the message. You
might hide the truth. You might become somebody's *, meaning that they now you now work for them
in a way that because you have no courage you can never stand up to them. So for example,
		
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			some people because of a lack of courage
		
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			They just gave up. I already mentioned example, and others may distort the message. So it may be
that they need to tell the audience something. But they know their audience will be upset by what
they say. So they either distort the message or they hide the truth. An example of that today would
be, you know, for example, when the issue of polygamy comes up, and they know, they need to say
certain things, to change the attitude of people towards polygamy, and to give people a more
positive attitude towards it, but out of fear of what people will say, or people abandoning them, or
losing fans, they may distort the message and say, Oh, this is not a good thing. And, you know, we
		
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			don't have to do this today. And only bad people do it today, they may do something like that. Or
they may hide the truth and just never touch the topic at all.
		
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			Or worst of all, we have people today who lack courage, and they become used by other people. Either
they become the scholars of the Sudan, or just controlled by the board of directors. So it may be
that, you know, that a certain opinion is wrong.
		
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			But certain people pay your salary, and they demand that you promote that opinion. So because you
lack courage, you just say what they want you to say. And in doing so you are no longer doing Dawa.
You are now somebody else's tool for propaganda. spineless people sell out the Muslims every day,
because they lack the courage to speak the truth and handle the consequences of the truth.
		
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			We also know that in our times, there are people who may distort the message of Islam in because
they don't want to upset certain people.
		
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			And to those scholars, or do art, who feel the need to distort the message of Islam or to hide the
facts about the message of Islam because they don't want to hurt people's feelings, because they
want Islam to fit into somebody else's paradigm. I remind you of the Hadith, where the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, whoever is asked for knowledge and conceals it, Allah will clothe
him with fire with a bridle of fire on the Day of Judgment.
		
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			It man will be concealment of knowledge is a major sieve,
		
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			especially for a person of knowledge, that if people have put you into a position of authority, when
you teach people the religion,
		
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			you have to teach the truth. Regardless of what people think of you, you have to teach the truth.
Now, this doesn't mean again, that you be unwise about it. You have to speak the truth with courage.
But also with wisdom, all of the qualities we mentioned in this course have to work together.
		
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			We have now a group that went to the opposite extreme.
		
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			So from my understanding of what's been going on in the online Dawa scene over the past few decades,
because one group of the art became too soft in the approach, and didn't speak about certain topics
or distorted other topics. And because people were scared to criticize them because they worried
about hurting their feelings. This created a sort of a monster that created the opposite extreme
that now we have a group of do art who have this macho personality, who think that being a die is
about just telling it straight. And
		
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			they may speak the truth, but they do it without Adam, without Rosmah. Without hitbox. It's just
unfiltered truth in a way that
		
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			doesn't bring people closer to Islam.
		
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			Again, we have to use all these qualities together. You can't pick and choose. That's what's
happening to the people that picking and choosing one group of do art want to do the Dow with Rama
and hikma but without suit and courage. Another group wants to do Dow which should encourage but
without Rama and hikma? No, you have to do it with all of this. You have to be honest, you have to
be brave, but you also have to be wise and you have to be understanding and you have to be
compassionate towards people. It's not one or the other. You have to have all these qualities.
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam had all of his qualities. He was the bravest of people he was the
		
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			Most Merciful of people. He was the wisest of people. He was the most honest of people. It's not one
or the other.
		
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			So we we also have this other extreme of thinking that you are now and and folded voice of truth and
that you don't need to be wise or compassionate in how you deal with people. This is not the Sunnah.
This is not the way of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, or to do art throughout history who
were affected.
		
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			That yes, certain things need to be said.
		
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			But this hit mine how you say it
		
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			You understand time, choice of words explaining the wisdom behind what Islam teaches taking people
on a journey of knowledge. It's not just telling people you're wrong.
		
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			And I've seen so many examples of this right? I've seen the two extremes. Just to give you one
controversial example,
		
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			that I had to deal with myself. So recently with young ladies who attend Islamic Holika adds
		
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			a controversial point to them is whether that a woman have to obey her husband. Right now, the
classical Islamic teachings according to the formula, HIV and the Quran, and the hadith is that a
husband has authority over his wife, that yes, he must be a loving, affectionate leader. But she
also has to listen to Him and obey Him. But now we are hearing two opposite extremes in how people
approach this topic. One extreme because people are scared of losing their female audience. They may
say things like, oh, he doesn't really have authority over her. It's just a, you know, he can voice
his opinion, but he has to make a group discussion and they must decide together. Or they may say
		
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			things like, oh, sometimes you follow Him, sometimes you follow her. They should take turns leading
right? Well, this is not what the Quran says. It's not what the Hadith says this is not the
classical position. The classical position is that the position of a husband is a leadership role.
		
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			And he needs to embrace the leadership role and his wife and children need to be on board as well.
Right? If you if you read carefully, the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah says in surah nisa in the verse
about gender roles, or Regina Kawa, Munna Allah Nisa that men have a position of authority of a
woman. And then the second half, which almost nobody quotes these days because again, fear or what
people will say, what how will Allah describe women in this verse? In this verse, he described woman
as well
		
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			was for the heart to call me that, that righteous woman or obedient to the husband's. This is the
part of the verse that people don't quote anymore, because of a lack of courage, that righteous
women are obedient to their husbands. So we find that the, the men who are afraid of what people are
going to think may distort us first. They may say that our redriver were Munna Allah Nisa, they give
it a variety of interpretations. The most bizarre I've seen recently was someone saying that men are
at the service of woman, which is completely distorting what the verse means if you read any of the
classical books of Tafseer. And then when it says righteous woman or obedience, they say it's
		
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			obedient to Allah, but obviously righteous woman obedient to Allah. But this verse is talking about
gender roles within the marriage. So you open the books of Tafseer. What does obedience over your
mean? Abdullah ibn Abbas, the prophets companion, his cousin, who was the one who understood the
Quran, this, he said, obedience in this verse means obedient to the husband.
		
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			And so the correct understanding of this verse is that men have a position of authority in the
family, and women are expected to be obedient to their husbands. Now, this doesn't match with the
modern, feminist liberal paradigm of marriage. So we have one group of Muslims that have distorted
this message, they don't talk about it, they try to change the meaning of the Quran. In doing so
they are doing a disservice to the Dawa, you cannot change the religion. You have to be honest about
what Islam teaches. While the other extreme, we have people who mentioned the truth, but in a
unfiltered, harsh, vulgar way, that just leaves people confused. So I remember once I was attending
		
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			an event, and this question came up, and
		
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			the one of the young ladies who genuinely was confused, what does Islam say on this topic? She asked
me if my husband tells me to do something, do I have to obey Him? that specific question, if he
wants me to be a stay at home wife? Do I have to obey Him? And the person answering said, Yes. And
if you don't listen to him, he can divorce you or take a second wife. And you just left it as that.
And this is confusing, right? Because technically, he didn't say anything wrong. Technically,
everything is said is right. But there's no Rama, or wisdom or understanding where the other person
is coming from, or trying to take him on a journey of knowledge to understand your position. There's
		
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			none of this. It's just, you know, this tough guy style of Yeah, that's what it is, deal with it.
That's not how you do that work. That's not how you reach out to someone and help them find a way
back to Allah. You have to be courageous, you have to be honest. But you also have to have Rama and
wisdom in how you convey the message. So how I approach the topic is I say yes, this is what Islam
teaches. And this is why this is how I explained the Islamic structure of marriage and the
importance of of authority roles and the importance of authority in Islam that we accept
		
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			obey the Imam and you're supposed to follow our leaders and the whole system is to avoid anarchy and
that Allah has given men and women different roles. And when we embrace the roles that Allah has
given us, we thrive, because we are doing what comes naturally to us. And the variety or the wisdom
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			about this. And for example, you could even explain it from a psychological perspective, that women
are naturally attracted to men who they see as authority figures. So if a man has this presence of
being an authority in his home, he's more likely that his wife will be attracted to him, because
that's the kind of manliness that a woman is attracted to. There's a lot of ways to explain this
with wisdom, there's a lot of ways to understand the other person's perspective and take them on a
journey of knowledge towards the Islamic position. Sadly, today, we seek to extremes, the unfiltered
harsh truth in a way that may push that person further away from Islam because you didn't solve the
		
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			actual pain point in your mind. You didn't solve the actual doubt in their mind. They doubt in the
mind is not about what Islam teaches. It's about why by not going into the whys, you are just
leaving them confused, like if they are coming from a certain paradigm, and you're just telling them
the complete opposite without any explanation as to why you're just leaving them with more doubts
about the religion than anything else. So it's very important to discuss the whys behind these kinds
of rulings because they are very clear wisdoms behind Islamic teachings on this topic. And it's
important for us to understand this and to preach with wisdom. So
		
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			I've seen both of these things happen in front of me. I've seen one preacher completely distort and
change the meaning of the Quran, to make the woman happy. And I've seen another preacher just blurt
out the truth without any explanation in a way that left a woman confused.
		
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			And the correct Islamic approach is to be clear about the truth, but to be merciful and wise in how
you convey it, that your job is not just to say the truth, but to take a person on a journey of
knowledge so that they can understand the truth and embrace it and follow it. And this requires
learning hikma which doesn't come easily.
		
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			And we see this
		
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			with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would take people on a journey of knowledge. Right?
He wouldn't just
		
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			he wouldn't just use this unfolded way of just speaking the truth and leaving people to try and
figure out for themselves why? We had the example when the young man came to him and said that he
wants to commit Zina. Now we get to see her on the JC movie. But no, he took him on a journey of
knowledge. He said, Imagine somebody that one of your female relatives, how would you feel disgusted
by it. Same with if you do somebody's female relative dig, it's going to have the same effect on
their family. So he takes him on a journey of knowledge to understand why it's haram. right within
the cultural paradigm within which they lived. And this is wisdom in our courage must be balanced
		
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			with wisdom. The final point I want to make before we close up for today's session is how to find
courage. So just say you involved in our work, you've been doing this and you realize that a lot of
heat is coming your way. People are criticizing you people are calling you names. People are
slandering you. You are scared. How do you find your courage? You just give up? No, you can find
your courage. And I would recommend a few things for finding your courage. Number one, do things
that scare you. The more you do things that scare you, the more courageous you will become. Right?
This is a psychological method for gaining courage, the more often that you do things that are
		
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			outside your comfort zone, things that scare you things that terrify you, things that make you
		
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			really feel terrified on the inside, scared on the inside. The more you push yourself to do things
like this, the more courageous you become
		
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			by this concept of feel the fear and then do it anyway. This is something to work on. It's also
important to understand that courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is not the absence of fear.
It's working through your fear for the sake of Allah. It is working through your fear for the sake
of Allah.
		
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			Another thing you can do to help you build your courage is to plan for worst case scenarios. This is
something I do all the time I plan for worst case scenarios. So for example, if I am preparing for a
lecture on a controversial topic, in my mind
		
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			I go through every possible response from the audience, and how I will deal with it. So whatever
ends up happening, I'm already prepared to deal with it. So in my mind, I'm already prepared that
when I say this certain segment might get upset, here, the segment might push back, someone might
get angry and lash out. So I might call me names or think I'm a deviant, or whatever the case is,
how am I going to respond? If you prepare your responses beforehand, you will be more courageous in
the moment. Because you got this you planned you prepared, you're not going in the unarmed you're
going Indian knowing what you're about to face. And with a game plan if things don't go your way. So
		
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			planning beforehand, especially for worst case scenarios is important to help you to feel courage in
the moment. Another thing and perhaps the most important thing to build your courage is to build
your relationship with Allah subhanho wa taala. Because true Islamic courage comes from. It comes
from Tawakkol in Allah, it comes from trusting the plan of Allah, it comes from knowing that nothing
can harm you and this Allah wills it, nothing can benefit you and if Allah wills it, so your life
must be all about Allah subhanho wa Taala and only what Allah wills will happen, only what Allah
wills will happen, and when you have this firm to heed, and this takes us to our next topic, which I
		
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			will cover in the next video, which is the importance of building within yourself through piety, a
connection with Allah, true spirituality which is lacking in the Dawa scene today, it's really
lacking in the Dawa scene today, this genuine sense of piety and connection with Allah. Right? We
are all lacking it. Most of us, you know, maybe some of you all do Pisces for most of us lack of
real piety, but it's something we need to work on. It's something we need to build. And one of the
best are Hadees that summarizes how to heed and believe in Allah and the Wakulla. And all of these
concepts help you to become courageous is the advice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to
		
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			Abdullah ibn Abbas Radi Allahu Anhu his cousin, and I will end up with this hadith it is one of my
favorite Hadith says, and it gives me courage whenever I read on it and reflect it. And the Hadith
states the ones Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was riding his camel talking to his young
cousin Abdullah even Abbas. And he told him, young man, I want to teach you a few words. Remember
Allah and He will protect you. Remember Allah and you will find him would you? If you ask us Allah,
if you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the entire nation gathered together to benefit
you can't benefit you unless Allah has willed it. And if the entire nation gathers to harm you, they
		
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			cannot harm you. Unless Allah has willed it depends are lifted, and the pages are dry, another
version of the Hadees He said, Remember Allah and you will find him would you remember Allah in
times of ease, and wealth, and you will be there for you in times of difficulty, and know that
whatever passed you by was never meant for you, and will never hit you was never meant to miss you.
		
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			And know that victory comes with patience. Relief comes after difficulty. And hardship is always
followed by ease. Very powerful words of optimism and hope and courage
		
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			that each of us should reflect on, whenever we feel our courage is waning. So to conclude, when you
are out there preaching the word of Islam, whether you are calling non Muslims towards Islam, or
you're calling Muslims to understand their practice Islam better understand that people will oppose
you. People will not like what you're going to say. Some people will be antagonistic towards you.
They may try things to put you down and make you give up. And in some worst case scenarios, they may
even be violence involved against you. The DA II remains firm upon preaching the truth with courage,
regardless of the worldly consequences, knowing that speaking the truth in the face of a tyrant is
		
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			the greatest Jihad and the de reward is with Allah. And whenever people criticize them, they
remember that those who love Allah, La Johar funa Loma de la in, they don't care about the criticism
of the critics. They don't fear the criticism of the critics. It doesn't affect them. So grow a
thick skin and understand that as long as you are involved in Islamic work, you will always always
have critics. It doesn't matter how old you are. Doesn't matter how senior you are in the in the
Dawa. It doesn't matter how many millions of followers you have. It doesn't matter what your
credentials are. If you are calling to Allah, there is someone out there who is criticizing you, and
		
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			you just have to learn to live with it. And to continue doing your Dawa would cut
		
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			Each and this is essential to keep the Dawa going and to protect you from giving up so find your
courage and keep moving forward disaster the Hadron will ask you to Diana and hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
Alameen