Special course by Yayasan Ta’lim & Arees University. Conducted by Dr Isam Rajab. PURIFICATION OF THE SOUL (session 3)
Isam Rajab – Purification Of The Soul EP 3
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The speakers stress the importance of seeking knowledge and being a good person to avoid mistakes. They emphasize the need for people to show their love for their friend and maintain a friendship. Procrastination is also discussed as a problem that can lead to failure, and proactive behavior is emphasized as a way to avoid procrastination and avoid failure. The importance of learning and practicing is emphasized, and people should be aware of their actions and not just think about them.
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smuggler hamdulillah salatu salam ala rasulillah
salam aleikum, wa barakato
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page five, it is about knowledge. Now this is something we should discuss in the methodology of seeking knowledge, which we are doing on Sunday, but here what is mentioned is something different it is related also to the feeling or the character or the behavior and we will see inshallah
if the only benefit of having knowledge were that the ignorant fear you and exalt you and the learned love you and respect you, it would be sufficient cause for seeking knowledge. Now, when we talk about seeking knowledge, we talk about the advantages of seeking knowledge, what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, of many a hadith not only one, not only two, but many Hadith. Whoever seeks a path for knowledge, Allah will make it easy for him a path to paradise. That's one of the Hadith
alikum cinema, and there are many Hadith as well.
So, there is a lot of virtue for seeking knowledge. But here there is something also different. When you are seeking knowledge, who will be your friends, who will be your company, the people that are your friends, the ones that are learned, that are educated, usually those people
are good or bad.
They are the best of people, the people of knowledge. So you are choosing good companionship,
and you are going away from the ignorant. So that by itself is a sufficient cause for seeking knowledge that you will be among the best of people.
So again, as you see, we're not talking now about a hadith about diet of seeking knowledge. We're talking about something practical when you seek knowledge, you will be among the company of people of knowledge as well. That by itself is enough.
That's why what about then all the other benefits in this life and in the Hereafter.
And if the only detriments of being ignorant were that the ignorant would envy the learned and be content with the company of the ignorant it would be sufficient cause to escape from ignorance.
Have you seen an ignorant person
who says or admits that he is ignorant?
It's very rare. It is unfortunate.
To the ignorant, he thinks that he is knowledgeable, he has enough. When you ask him, let's seek more knowledge. Let's do this. He says no, no. They will actually stop people thinking that what they have is enough. Bad by itself should keep you away from being England.
That alone should make you ask allies or jail always to seek refuge with him from being ignorant.
The profits are seldom used to seek refuge with a law from ignorance.
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We seek refuge with Allah subhanaw taala from ignorance, it's not a good thing. But if it happened, in case it happened, you found yourself that you didn't know and what we don't know is much more than what we know. We asked a lot to teach us. We asked a lot so just to give us the knowledge worker Rob busy Dyneema we always learn we will never have enough knowledge that we say we know everything. Never we will always need for more.
So remember that the ignorant people they don't admit or say that we are ignorant.
To them, they don't want anyone else to be better than them. So they will stop anyone from trying to do better.
What about them the other detriments in this life and in the Hereafter, if the only benefit of having and seeking knowledge were that the seeker would be too involved in his learning to be stressed by pressing worries, to be troubled by empty hopes, and to be burdened by painful thoughts, it would be a great enticement to seek knowledge. This is another beautiful, practical thing. When you are seeking knowledge, what are you busying yourself with? Look at people around in this dunya Have you seen the latest version of this phone? Have you seen the new car? What are the features? What are you look at them and you laugh? You don't have time even to think about this? You don't
care why you have something more important?
You look at people, what are they busying themselves with? Oh, look what this person did what that person they are busying themselves with other people. You don't have time for that. The enemy they say the enemy of the seeker of knowledge is time, because you feel that your time is short. You want to read more you want to memorize more, you want to learn more. One case could take you several hours just to solve just to know the answer. But you look at other people.
And you say so Pamela, they are busy with what the other people did, with the new things of this dunya happened, the latest features, the latest things that you don't even have time for this, you have something more important. So therefore, this by itself is enough enticement for you to seek knowledge, you will be comfortable. Don't think that the seeker of knowledge is a robot or does not have emotions or does not have a life to live? They all have lives to live, but they have priorities. This is their priority seeking knowledge pleasing Allah subhanaw taala other people, their priorities is this dunya they are looking for this dunya. So you compare the two worries, you
are worried that what companion did this prophesized? And during that time, what happened exactly? What is the correct opinion regarding that's what you are worried about? That's your main objective, but other people how much money I'm going to make? Is this going to be enough? Is it believe me, other people also have bills to pay, they have life to live, but they try to make their priorities better, which is seeking knowledge. So when you are in that path, you will be very comfortable.
Yes, you are struggling, you are striving but you are happy because you look at other people to ours. discussion.
What country manufactured Mercedes?
What country did this What? No, you're wrong, and so on. Okay, and then what happened?
This is the year that this model came to production to the world. No, no, you're wrong years later. So what this is just an example. Sometimes people take hours spent a lot of time doing these things that will not bring you that bit closer to the last panel time.
So when you are in the bath of seeking knowledge, you are doing something that really matters, at least it matters for you. It makes you a better person with the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala
the weakest of Kings distress themselves by the miseries we listed above. And that is true.
Some people when they get very rich, they become very stupid.
You might see that they spend a lot of money on what on things that don't matter, but for them because they don't have anything to do anything else to do.
So
empty hopes, because they tried everything. Maria de la Han, he was the king of a sham.
So they asked him, What do you wish of this dunya
he said, I tried everything. And that hungry. Lazarus will give me everything. Now, I enjoy most drinking a cup of cold water, especially if you're fasting in a hot weather under the shade of a tree. That's what he wants. He has a palace. He's married. He has rulership, but it comes down that you tried everything. So these people, the kings, the rich people, they tried everything and they want something new. That's why from time to time you hear about credit
In use of people,
that they don't believe in Allah, therefore they don't account for a day when they will be asked about what they did, how they spend their money. They spend their money here and there. But why? Because they have the money, and they don't know what to do. They tried a lot of things. So empty hopes,
that something that was mentioned, painful thoughts.
You have something that you want to protect, especially if you didn't get in a legitimate way. Like the rulers in the Muslim countries in the Middle East. They put a lot of guards they are worried that today maybe there will be a coup today, they will dethrone them they will. That's one thing, money that you stole. So you are always afraid that they might come and catch you. So these are the worries of other people, your worries, what is the correct opinion? How I can please Allah subhanaw taala more. So you compare the two things, you will be very happy with what you have. It's not always measured by how much are you making at the end of the day.
So the weakest of the kings distress themselves by the miseries we listed above. So they try to escape these miseries by playing chess and backgammon by drinking alcohol and listening to songs. So if you are too worried, and you have nothing, remember, a man or woman has rationalized mentioning things at his time, he will mention poker gambling in our time, things that people kill their time and waste their time doing
many other things also. So how because how can you remove yourself from the worries, you are worried you think and think and think again, you don't have a man, the man didn't feel your heart. So you will go to something haram drinking why people drink. You ask many people non Muslims, they tell you that they know the damages, regardless of haram or halal to them. They don't believe it's Haram. But they know the damage they still do. It's why they say I want to forget.
I want to I want this to go away. They know that they are damaging themselves, they want something temporary. But for you, you have a much better alternative. You don't have worries. like them, you know that this is something painful. What you're going through is difficult. That's true, but you know that you will be able to overcome to get over. Why because you have a man
and other matters that bring harm in this life in the Hereafter, and no benefit at all.
If we learn founders, how the hours he spent learning saved him from the humiliation of being dominated by the ignorant and from the distress of having no access to the facts, and how those hours provided him with the joy of discovering that which is hidden from others, he would excel in praising Allah.
That's why Imam Shafi Rahim Allah
to him, he said to me, I prefer and I
spent trying to solve a matter than spending a night with a new bride in a wedding.
To us, it might seem an exaggeration, but it is true. You spend these hours you enjoy that you found the answer for what you are looking, you found the fact you know, and they don't know. This is a joy that not many people know unless you experience it. Allah says olallie estherville Latina Allah, mono levina animal, say Are they equal? The ones who know and the ones who don't know they are not equal. So it saves you from the humiliation, one of the hollyford so a man named Malik in the Maya dynasty. So a man named Rob Malik. He brought his children. He told them my children, make sure you learn.
I never forget the day of humiliation
at that slave
What did he mean by that slave, one of the pious predecessors from the Tabby in
Mujahid he was a black man
But he had the knowledge. So the man the Khalifa going to Mecca. To do that. He needed to know a matter.
He wanted to know the answer. So he had to ask him. So who is in need now? He's the Khalifa. He rules the entire region. But he was in need of that man, that man, black man doesn't look very nice, doesn't have any luxuries of this life. But they needed him.
And he gave him the answer.
After he gave him the answer.
Now, the Khalifa asked him, like, payback. What do you want?
He said, from you or from Allah?
He said, No, I cannot do something that only Allah does. But ask me something I can do. He said, I am in the house of Allah. If I have a lot, I will not ask you.
So this is what he told him.
So that's what you get when you are knowledgeable. When you seek knowledge. This is something that only people who experience that that's why don't be amazed what the law says because it is true. Not only him other other people like Khalid milliliter of the law when he said, an AI that I spent guarding the borders of Muslims called nine is better to me again than a warm night on the bed with my wife, why you are getting the reward of a las panatela you are enjoying that. So ask yourself now maybe not now. Ramadan, but before Ramadan and after Ramadan, lay in the night like 12am 1am you are staying awake for what what are you doing?
Something that is pleasing Allah Subhana Allah that Allah azza wa jal wanted you to do or something that is not
recommended. Something that you're not supposed to do.
And how those hours provided him
with the joy of discovering that which is hidden from others, he would excel in praising Allah. And that is true, who are the most fearful of Allah azza wa jal in sha Allah mean I bet he and Allah, truly the ones who feel a lot, most are the Knowledgeable, you will know more. This is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam said, and I will lie in Mila Mila I am the one that is most fearful of Allah. That's what the prophet sallallahu Sallam said, why he knew more. So the more you know, the more fearful Talas pinata, the more you are praising Allah has origin
and would be more pleased with the knowledge he has and would deepen his desire to increase his knowledge.
Something that you are enjoying something that gives you pleasure in this dunya and reward in the hereafter. Why would you abandon you will actually ask for more and more.
Whoever visits himself with seeking the less significant sciences and forsakes the higher ones, and he's able to learn them is like a farmer who plants that which has no value and leaves out that which is valuable. This is another thing. You might say hamdulillah I am seeking knowledge what type of knowledge shallow we'll talk about that in details on Sunday, the methodology of seeking knowledge, but remember, you are in this dunya for a purpose. You worship Allah subhanaw taala your objective to accumulate as much happiness as you can. That's your job. It's like a race competition. How much has enough Can you make in one day in one hour? So if you can make 500,000 Why would you be
satisfied with only 100,000?
And if you can make that much with less effort, why would you make more effort
and get less hassle? Just like the businessman, businessman, his job is to make money. So he's spending eight hours for 30 days to get paid at the end of the month 20,000 ringgit,
well someone else is spending five hours and getting 40,000 double. So why don't you do that if you are able to. This is the example farmer planting a plant that he sells for five ringgit while he's able to plant the plant that he sells for 10 minutes, which one is better?
Both of them will be planted both of them will require the same job. So why would you go for the least benefit when you are able to get the higher one. Always ask yourself this in everything, even in another
one time the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and
Upon one of his wives, it was reported that it was a nap or joy area of the Allahumma. And he found her from the time he left her doing the same thing. She is remembering Allah subhanaw taala with the stones, they didn't have, like our time, just so she is mentioning a lot remembering Allah subhanaw taala he asked her, are you still doing what you have been doing since I left you? she? She said yes. He said, I said one word one sentence that equalizes all what you said. That's what you need to look for. Because someone else spends two hours and you spend one sentence and you get the same reward which one is better? So always look for the best for the highest.
If you are able to of course, nowadays in Ramadan, people ask what can we do? A lot of things. Simple example. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, say hello miskeen the one who takes care of the widow.
The widow doesn't have job, she doesn't have a supportive and the one that is poor. The one who takes care of them is like the one who fights in the cause of Allah cambogia he defeats Sabina, l or the sign or like the one who fasts the day, and prays the night.
If you fast the day, usually you will be tired at the end of the night. But you fast the day and you pray the night. That's not easy to do. So if you cannot do that, you have an alternative take care of an orphan of a widow of someone who is poor, especially during this time, so always look for these opportunities.
Another and that's enough example another one final example. Prophet sallallahu wasallam said when Salah sofija Man, this is for men, mainly but inshallah it applies for a woman also You don't have to be in Jamaat for you it's better at home. He who prays so
in the congregation, and remember the law after that until the sunrise and then prays to Raka what is the reward?
Have you heard this before? What is the reward?
Amara Hajj and Umrah
so you cannot go for Hajj now. Because of the quarter because of a lot of things you were able to go one time hungry level, now you want to go more, but you don't have enough means enough money do that. This will give you the same reward.
This is what the prophet sallahu wa sallam said, always look for these things that will pay you a lot of rewards. And there is a lot
a lot. People nowadays they like to go and pay to get lottery. They want the jackpot you have in Islam, a lot of opportunities, especially in this month, the month of Ramadan.
The one who is miserly with his knowledge is worse than the one who is miserly with his money. There are some people unfortunately they don't tell you you want to know. And they don't tell you. Now, sometimes people belittle knowledge that's different. What we're talking about people want to know, they are asking you and you're not telling them.
Therefore the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, the one who does not reveal the knowledge when he's asked will be covered with a mask of fire on the Day of Judgment. Why? Because maybe one word you said could save them could guide them. And he stopped doing it. The one with money is miser because when you spend money, what happens?
The money is still with you or it's gone.
It is gone. So there is a justification why people don't like to spend money but with knowledge when you give it Are you going to lose it? No. So you are more miser.
That's why you shouldn't stop the knowledge. You shouldn't hide it, you shouldn't keep it always you should give it
because you're not going to lose it. Actually, it is a reminder. It's very good. This These courses are very useful, not only for you, but for me, it's a reminder, you remember what you learned by giving it also to others. So there is no reason for you to stop the knowledge or to hide it.
Because the one who is miserly with his money,
fears that he might lose his wealth by spending it. But the one who is miserly with his knowledge fears no loss of knowledge. by teaching it he does not depart from his knowledge by giving it to others.
Therefore, you shouldn't be afraid of giving the knowledge you shouldn't hide it.
The basis of knowledge is what brings you closer to your Creator, and what helps you attain his satisfaction, that's the best. Therefore, always ask yourself, before learning something, how this is going to benefit me.
Sometimes people
spend the big deal of time trying to know things that will not have any practical impact.
How big are the angels?
We know they are great creatures, we know that they are creations of Allah subhanaw taala we know that they don't disobey Allah subhanaw taala we know all of that, but how their size specifically will affect you.
You already know that they are creation of Allah subhanaw taala. This is an example. And there are many examples. What kind of stuff what kind of
brought Musa alayhis salam had it would it be asaka
alhaja masala Salam had a stick, what kind of stick wood? What kind of wood? How that is going to help you. Therefore we see that a lot. So Joe didn't mention that in the Quran.
The tree that Adam and Eve ate from what kind of tree?
Was it mentioned? There isn't any authentic hadith? Or is that says the type of tree why it doesn't have any practical value for you. It's not going to increase your value. Therefore, when you learn anything, before learning it, ask yourself how this is going to help me. When you ask the question before asking. I just want to know okay, you want to know But why? How that is going to be helpful to you. Always ask yourself this. The knowledge should be what brings you closer to Allah subhana wa Taala.
In wealth, condition and health, compare yourself to those who are less fortunate than you are. Okay.
wealth, condition and health.
You compare yourself to the ones that are less fortunate. Unfortunately, we do the opposite.
How come he got a better job or a better pay and we were employed at the same time, how he has a better house, he's able to afford this and I'm not know in the matters of dunya always look for the less fortunate.
So you think Allah subhanaw taala more, because there will be always someone less than you.
Don't look at the ones who are better than you.
It is from Allah subhanaw taala and Allah gives the one whom he loves, and the one whom he doesn't love in this dunya only the accurate for the ones whom Hello.
So in matters of dunya health, don't complain you have one disease, there are people with chronic diseases, not only one but chronic disease, a lot of diseases. So he said hamdulillah don't look for long the one day you are sick, you're very sick. Look at the entire year that you are healthy hamdulillah that will make you thank Allah azza wa jal and appreciate the name of Allah. But if you are always looking for those who are better than you in dunya, Allah will take what he gave you already. Allah gave you this, and he didn't think he gave you that and you still don't thank you, He will take it away from
where is the advantage of buku law in Chicago to remember when your Lord declared, if you are grateful, I will increase you, but you're not grateful. So Allah would take that from you? Why would he keep it with you?
So these three things always look for the ones who are less fortunate than you are.
In wealth, condition and health. compare yourself to those who are less fortunate than you are in religion, knowledge and virtue. compare yourself to those who exceed you in these matters. Okay, again, many of us do the opposite.
Why don't you go to the master County Library at home? Look at this one, he doesn't even pray.
No, always look for those who are better than so you would do more?
Why don't you go to the masjid. I have my group we pray here.
Why don't you pray five times in the message handler pray three times at least other person don't pray at all in the masjid.
So, always, always look for people who are better than you in these areas. virtue, knowledge and religion. So three things you look for those who are
less of dunya health condition and wealth,
religion, knowledge and virtue look for those who are better than
none say that's how I am I can change, no you can change, you can always be better, inshallah, you always can be better, there is always area of improvement.
Nothing can be inflicted upon knowledge, and its people worse than the intrusion of those who are outsiders to knowledge. They are ignorant, but they think they know. And they are mischievous, but they think they are reformers.
Let me give you this example. Imagine a doctor who opened the clinic. And he has his certificate, but it was fake.
And people came to seek medication.
And he didn't know what to do, what will happen to those people, they will get cured.
What will happen to them?
What will be the punishment for a person like that?
legally, are you allowed to do this? No. But in religion, unfortunately, who would stop you? I am the so and so well says who might be it's long.
I am wearing this and I'm this is an unfortunate thing that people
speak on behalf of religion without knowledge what happens? I gave you an example of dunya engineer, that structuring a building, building a building you think this building will stand temporarily merely but then what will happen it will be destroyed.
This is very dangerous. It's more dangerous when it comes to the religion.
So why? because people think that they know and they asked them.
Prophet sallahu wa sallam warned us against that, that there will be a time when knowledge will disappear. So the companions asked all messenger of Allah how knowledge will disappear. we memorize the Quran, we knew the Quran we knew the sooner he said knowledge will disappear by disappearance of knowledgeable people. They are the true acid. Knowledge by itself is not only in books,
okay, you might find some knowledge, not everything. No matter how many books you read, can you learn that read by reading book? Just like swimming? Can you swim just by watching swimming, you have to swim you have to get with the same thing with knowledge. So when those people are taking away the true knowledgeable people, people need someone to ask. So they will find anyone and those people will pretend to be knowledgeable, they will give the answer. They will misguided they will miss guide the people and they are themselves misguided.
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they are misguided, the ones that pretend to be knowledgeable. And they misguide people. This is when knowledge is disappearing. And unfortunately, we see the we see this in our time. Maybe not in some Muslim countries, but especially in the West, where Islam is needed. There is a Muslim community, but they don't have any leader.
Anyone who has a beard come, you know, some Arabic some come and lead us in prayer. Just because you memorize some sewers doesn't make you knowledgeable. But people don't know. So they come and ask. And we like to be given credit. So we don't say we don't have the knowledge we give answers.
This is the problem. So it is a grave danger. Those people who pretend to be knowledgeable and they are not. Because they pretend and they claim that they are reforming and the only thing they are doing is destroying
whoever desires the good in the Hereafter, the wisdom in this life, the justice in conduct. The acquiring of all good morals and the deserving of all virtues should follow the example of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
You want the perfection. You have the example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it doesn't get any better.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam is the perfect example. In the and in lunia as well. Nowadays, people teach the etiquette how to deal with your wife how to open the car for her how
the true respect the true love from the Prophet sighs no
school would teach what the prophet SAW Selim did, to his wives, to his companions, to his relatives, to his children, even to his enemies, how to deal with your enemies as well.
It doesn't get any better the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the perfect example.
And should imitate the prophets manners and conduct as much as he can.
Something that you tried your best, that's all what you are asked for.
The prophet SAW Selim said not to come in, or whatever I command you. Do as much as you can.
put up a ladder Mr. Bottom fear Allah as much as you can.
May Allah make it possible for us to follow his example? And because you want the perfection, that's the perfection. You claim that you are a follower of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam but you don't follow his Sunnah you don't do what he did, then what is the true love? Where is the true obedience? Nowadays, you look at the fence of some celebrities of this dunya. And they go crazy when they, they just want to watch them, they just want to touch them, they just want to know that they are doing so they will do the same thing. Even if what they are doing is destruction, haircut, they want to do the same why they love them. So where is your love to the Prophet sallallahu sallam. It's not only
by words, it has to be shown by actions.
Whoever seeks the virtues keeps the company of only the people of virtue and that is true. It cannot happen. You want something clean, you cannot put
the jaza impurity in it. You want it clean, so it has to be clean. You say?
You want virtues you keep company of people of virtue. Whoever seeks the virtues keeps the company of only the people of virtue, on his path to the virtue. He accompanies the noble friend, one who offers good advice is righteous, truthful and generous in his dealings? That's what you will get.
Look at abubaker of the lawn. How much did he benefit from
the companionship of Muhammad? sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
On the other hand, Allah tells us
well, my apple volume Allah day, the coup de la tanita have to Mara su de Sevilla in Surah Furqan. Yeah. Violeta wrote to me, later Neelam at the hateful Anand Halima. I wish I didn't take so as a friend that got the abalone and Vicar. He misguided me.
So always look and check on your friends. The people that you hang out with? Are they helpful? In matters of Deen? First and foremost, and also in matters of dunya? There is no problem.
But mainly in matters of Deen? Are they helpful?
Because that's what you get from the virtuous people.
On the other hand, you might not pay attention to it, but it is happening that you stopped doing things that you used to do. You stopped going to the masjid. Why because of someone new that you became friends with. This applies also to your children. Make sure that you see your family members, who are their friends, who are the ones that they are hanging out with, because some parents come and ask. I never expected my son to do this. I never taught him this. Where did he get it from? First thing to look is his or her friends? Maybe it is from them.
And whoever desires wealth, fame and worldly pleasures keeps the company of wild bugs and vicious foxes.
You cannot get both. Now no one is stopping you from getting something from this brilliant.
But if that's your main objective, only dunia only to be famous.
Along loves the one who is pious, hiding sincere in a lie your head will abduct the tea and coffee. You cannot get both. Now Islam doesn't tell you.
You cannot become well known or people cannot know if you did something good people gave you credit hamdulillah but to make that or to see
Only being famous and known. You have to be friends with those people the nature of those people, like animals, the wild dogs, the fishes, the vicious dogs, the foxes. Why, remember earlier when we gave the examples can comparison between humans and animals.
Animals in the jungle like lions, they have roars, they like to be known the king of the jungle, maybe not the strongest animal, but that's the nature of them. So the same thing here, fame, you want fame, you want to be known. You want only wealth.
Again, Islam doesn't say you cannot have wealth, but wealth for the sake of wealth. That's the nature of those people you cannot get both. So which one do you want?
You look for the best and whatever came with it hamdulillah. The Companions many of them are rich, the prophet SAW Allah was very rich in our standards also.
But the main thing was the character itself.
What do you want? What are you looking for from this friend?
What do you want to achieve? Is it something good?
Whether in this new era in the Hereafter, then go ahead and maintain this friendship? Something that is not going to help you from now it's better to stop.
It's not going to help you on the Day of Judgment. The nearest and the dearest friend to you will be your enemy. That's what the laws of Genesis, Allah Hilah Yama, even and Akela Helene is the one that his love or her love is mixed in the heart. That cannot be taken. That's what Allah says in the Quran. Allah Hillel Yama. Even on that day on the Day of Judgment, Baba homely babbling, I do want to another enemy. They are enemies one to another in love. The only exception is
only the righteous, only the ones that love each other for the sake of Allah. Their relationship was not for something worldly. It was for
dunya for Deen for pleasing Allah subhanaw taala. So remember that, your friends, the dearest, the nearest to you, if your friendship was not based on something virtuous, it will turn to animosity.
On his path to these worldly pleasures, he accompanies the ones that are corrupt in belief and nature.
us ask them while you're doing this, it's my job. Well, who said that this has to be your job?
No, no, I have to be fit, I have to do this. I have to eat that I cannot fast like Who says you have to go through all of this?
You are a Muslim? So first and foremost, you should seek the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala?
Are you going to benefit from this?
Make sure that you are known for your peaceful nature. Be careful not to be described as a man of cunning. For many people might stay away from you, this could harm you or even kill you. Here's a question for you. What do you think is better? people when they talk about you, and they say you are easygoing, you are simple. Some people may be able to deceive you, or when they say no one can
disagree sea view. No one can take something from you.
What do you think? I might say, I want the second one.
I'm always winning.
That's what comes first to mind that you are always winning. But when people think if this man or this woman is always winning, that means I will never be able to get anything from him or her. So eventually people will stay away from.
So make sure you are known of your peaceful nature.
If you are not known for that, you might think I am better. I have strong personality. It's true. But eventually people will try to stay away from you because they will know now they are your friends and they saw what you did to other people that they are not your friends. Tomorrow, maybe it will happen to them. So from now they say let's stay away from him or from her.
So you have to be known as a person of peaceful mind. peaceful nature. That's very important.
page seven. Teach Yourself to expect what you hate. Now that's not easy to do.
Teach Yourself to expect what you hate now, not
That you expect it or you want it to happen, you are always positive. They tell you it's important to be positive is true. But at the same time,
the companions recommended trying to toughen yourself because they don't know how long the blessing will last.
When you are used
without this thing,
when it is gone hamdulillah you're used to living. But imagine electricity, for instance, it never went off. Never, there was an outage, it was never happening. And you never expected it to happen. So you don't have any alternative. And once it happened, everything was spoiled food in the fridge, thrown away, no other, air conditioned working on battery on alternative power, nothing why you never expected that to happen. But the one who expected it, not that he or she wanted it to happen. They were just trying to be cautious. It happened hungry, let's turn the alternative power, let's do this, let's, or let's try to adapt to it. That's the benefit. That's the advantage. Teach Yourself
to expect what you hate. This way, you would be less distressed. If what you hate befalls you. If it happened hamdulillah you didn't want it to happen. But it happened. You are able to them to deal with it better.
And you wouldn't be more joyous if what you love comes to you, which you did not expect.
It didn't happen. Not that you wanted it to happen. candlelight didn't happen, you're more happy. We save the alternative things, they are still brand new, we could still sell them or return them or do whatever. So the nature of people, the successful they always have Plan B. They always plan ahead. But just waiting on things to happen. What if something wrong happened? why many people fall in debt because of payments? Because they never expected
an unexpected payment? they calculated exactly how much is the car payment, and they barely make that payment. So they said well, okay, well what if something wrong happened? You needed 200 300 extra. Now you are defaulting on the car payment. So always try to have planned for contingency, something that is urgent.
The same thing here when you teach yourself that what you don't like and I ask these people most of the time.
here maybe for you, especially those who drive
and commute for long distances. What do you hate most they tell you traffic. Right? How much time they spend in traffic.
One hour, when you make this your joy, your life will change. In Houston, we have that also there is huge traffic in Houston, the fourth largest city in America. But I have in the car, at least 20 cities, at least. So I enjoy the traffic. Why? Because I have something to do. I booked and play and listen and try to work while because I'm in the traffic there is nowhere to go and hamdulillah This is there. And
this is something that you hate, make it the best. Not that you want traffic but if it happened, you have an alternative.
I know some people memorize
sutras during just going back and forth to work
because it takes from you at least two weeks of your time. Every year, two weeks, 14 days. You calculate. Another example one of the sisters, you ask a woman especially now in Ramadan, where do you spend most of your time?
kitchen nothing domestic nothing. Kitchen, too, right? It's only one meal it should be the least of time. One of the sisters memorized around in the kitchen.
Have the Quran made copies colored copies. Every day. A page is there. She's cooking and she's looking she memorized and finished the entire forum.
So be creative. When you teach yourself that the worst is the best for you. Your life will change. Whatever happens you're okay hamdulillah
if it didn't happen, no traffic hamdulillah you're happy. You arrived work. every
blessing is the one who is aware of his own faults. More than what people know about his faults.
Blessing is the one who knows he's aware
of his faults more than what people are aware of. Many times, if we ask ourselves to evaluate ourselves, how much do you give yourself out of 100 110?
Right? But if you say, I know I deserve 70.
And people say you deserve
80 or 90 Hamdulillah, that's good. You say they don't know, the sincere people, they always, always try to do better. But the deceived people, they don't really know what's going on, they think that they deserve 100, then everyone says they are only 70 or 60. Why? When you are aware of your shortcomings, at least you know them, so at least you try to improve them. But if you give yourself 100, why do you even listen to anybody who tries to criticize you, you're perfect, there is no need to change anything. So you are really deceived this way.
So it is really a blessing from Allah subhanaw taala, when you are aware of your shortcomings more than what people know,
whoever keeps the company of people is bound to be painfully stressed to commit a sin, which he will later regret to be eaten by fury, and to be humiliated, which breaks his dignity. So you can imagine what harm will inflict The one who mixes with people and get involved in their affairs? Is that the case always?
How many people do you know? If you look at your phone? How many people on the list how many people you call every day?
Some people it's true, when they are alone, they may not disobey Allah subhanaw taala. But when they are together, they they're one another. I remember when we were children, the same thing alone. I would never expect myself to do that. But we work together. So we did the same thing. People sometimes they encourage each other to do something. If they were alone, they would never do it.
You are with people. Someone said something you were unhappy with it. If you were alone, you would never have heard that. You want to answer back there was no time. next meeting. I will start by saying this. This was not right this. So it's not always like that. But it is true. The company of people sometimes causes humiliation, sometimes in crisis or there's you to commit sins sometimes bring forth painful things. A word that you heard that you didn't like, fewer alone you would never hear. But the other on the other hand,
can you live alone? Is that what Allah wants from us? To be in a seclusion living on an island alone? Not. So what is the solution? That's what I like here there is an answer.
So you can imagine what harm will inflict The one who mixes with people and get involved in their affairs? dignity, comfort, happiness and peace exists in isolating yourself from them?
isolating yourself from people not totally how treat people the way you treat fire? That's the practical example. You like fire? Can we live without fire?
Can we cook without fire? We need it right? But do we love it so much that we play with it? We touch it with our hands? No.
You need fire. be close to fire but not too close. That it will burning. Same thing with people. I care about my friends my brothers my sisters. I asked about them but that's about it later. Too much. No because I have also other priorities. I have a life to live. Okay. Live for people but don't forget yourself.
So that should be the example always look at people as you are looking at fire. benefit from it. Get its warmth, but don't get too close that it will burn.
They asked you for something you can do with this handle. I can help you with this. They asked you for something Haram. I'm sorry. They are your friends. Still. You worry about a lot more. So that is beautiful example treat people the way you treat fire. Get its warmth, but don't mix with it. If you mix with fire, what will happen to burning. You will get burned. You don't want that.
Do not build
Till a task planned for tomorrow by not trying to accomplish it today.
Oh, it's easy tomorrow. Fits easy start doing it now.
Okay, procrastination. That's a disease.
Right?
It is a disease and for Muslims especially. Now we're on the second day of Ramadan. How many of you started new things beginning yesterday? Something that you are delaying. Aside from reading the Quran many of you when Ramadan comes now it's time to read the Quran. Aside from that, what else? Do you all have your wills written?
Who doesn't have it?
Today, when you leave inshallah, go back, have it ready. At least you did something. Or it's easy. I was planning to do it. Never ever say that from now. Do not belittle a task planned for tomorrow by not trying to do it today. Tomorrow, you don't know what will happen. Maybe tomorrow will never come. You have today. So do it today. What you can do today, do it. Something left? Yes, tomorrow, maybe you will do it. But at least you try.
There is a great lesson in this era of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This by itself is a separate session about procrastination. But this is an example it could happen to good people. It doesn't mean that only bad people procrastinate it could happen to good people, but the cause of it should be eliminated.
Can that be Malik are the Alon one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he is a companion. He witnessed all the battles with the prophet SAW Selim with the exception of whether he said better It was not known that we were going to fight therefore nobody was blamed for not going for better. All the other battles are held and handed hiber all these battles he accompanied the prophet SAW Selim, he's a companion from the cabin Malik, he heard the news that the prophet SAW Selim is going for jihad in a book. It was known the time was set. The distance is known it's far, because you have to prepare. You know what to expect. They were traveling for about 1000 kilometers.
It's not easy journey. He said at that time. I was not. I was never in a better time. I had two camels, not only one two camels. So I was ready. But I kept delaying. I kept delaying. And I said tomorrow, I'll get ready. tomorrow. I'll get ready. Until the news came that tomorrow they are leaving. And I said, tomorrow I get ready. Tomorrow came they left and I didn't prepare myself
until I realized that they are already awake. And I wish I caught up with them. But I didn't. So the only thing stopped him was what not because he didn't like to join the Prophet sallallahu sallam. He was always with him. Not because he lacked Eman. He was a companion of the prophet SAW sent him but he delayed. So never ever delay anything. What was the consequence for his delay?
40 days in a trial, people don't talk to him.
Until the I came because he was sincere lepak tabouleh while and maybe one mahadji Lena will answer and sort of the Toba wireless falletta and Allah accepted the repentance of the three. One of them was gathered in Malik because there were other two people.
More out of the robbery and Hillel economia cabin Malik is the one who tells this story. So he's a companion. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person. Just you have this bad habit of procrastinating. So make sure that whatever you can do start doing it from today.
Start doing it from today.
You want to lose weight start from today. Yeah, I know. This is one of the things that people procrastinate a lot. We still have long life.
Tomorrow. Prayer.
What time is the next prayer you should ask how many minutes?
The time has come already know what time I still have one hour who said that you have to wait until the end of the time and then pray. These are the things most Muslims procrastinate.
Okay.
from many little tasks, a great task is born. This is the problem. It was little you delayed it and now it became great task and you cannot do it anymore. And vice versa as well. Great task. Every time you look at it. It's hard. You have 1000 documents to file
Okay, do it one by one, at least you did one. So tomorrow, it's not 1000 anymore, it is 900 and so on and so forth. From little tasks, a great task will come. And the opposite also great task that you cannot do at once, try to do it gradually. And it will be done in sha Allah. memorizing the Quran is an example. Or the Quran is a lot of students 114 series, I cannot memorize it all. Yes at once, maybe you cannot. But if you try to do that for 20 years, 20 years, yes, because we have been trying for the last 20 years and didn't work. If you plan for 20 years, one line on the one line, that's all what you need to do one line, you will do it, you will do it. So do not procrastinate.
You might find yourself unable to do the great task and nothing gets accomplished. That is the problem. So always the preferred word for successful people is what?
today for procrastinators tomorrow.
When are you going to do this tomorrow when tomorrow for successful people now today, I will try.
It's a great solution for husbands whenever a wife asks tomorrow.
Only those who experienced pain, poverty, calamity and fear, truly know the harm they cause.
Pain, poverty, calamity and fear. I could add to that also hunger.
Only people who are going through that they know how it looks like. And this is actually one of the objectives of Ramadan. And Ramadan. When we abstain from food and drink. That's not really the purpose. Allah is not going to benefit from us being hungry or thirsty. It is to benefit us.
When was the last time aside from Ramadan?
You wanted to eat? But you couldn't.
Not because you want to obey Allah, but because you couldn't afford buying food.
You want to eat what you cannot? How does it feel? It's very painful. People are going through this. So if you say never, I was never in that situation, how you come and say, I feel what those people are feeling you've never been there. This is the example of people now, when a president comes and says, We sympathize, he's lying, he never was there. He never experienced that. This is one of the objectives of Ramadan to feel what the poor people are feeling.
That at least and hamdulillah we are doing it willingly for the sake of Allah, we are asking a lot of rewards. But those people do it because they have no other option. There is no food. I tell you, I see people in Syria, six hours, three hours, six hours waiting just to get a loaf of bread.
And maybe or maybe not they will get it. Many times the places were bombed. You see their flesh mixed with the bread. That's only something basic like bread.
So you've never been there hungry. Now we ask a lot to keep security. We never ask a lot for fitness trial to befall on us because we don't know whether we will be patient or not. But you are always secure. You never was afraid.
You cannot feel what those people are feeling. They sleep on the sound of war jets, missiles and bullets. It's not a good feeling. Believe me because I was there
to be in a war zone. So only the people who are there who are experiencing that they know the harm they cause.
The worst of them, believe me, the worst of them is fear. That's why Allah says in the Quran, Allah and Allah wanna come. This isn't sort of be saying only with little while and we shall test you. We say imminent, healthy. That's the first thing how you feel? Well, joy,
hunger, one opposing lack of wealth, not submental amali while emphysema, thammarat wherever she is suffering.
So it's not a good feeling at all. So thank Allah subhanaw taala you have security. You sleep safely. When you go back home. Nobody bothers you.
You don't feel that the Army or some
people with weapons they will take you hamdulillah you don't have that. So thank Allah azza wa jal, it's a great name.
You've never been in that situation you cannot feel exactly what those people are going through. Only the people inside. They know the true harm that is caused by fear, by calamity
by poverty.
No one who has not experienced these matters knows the true effects. Only those who are not inflicted by corrupt opinions, shame and sin truly know their ugliness. But those who are so inflicted
do not see the ugliness of these evils, the same thing.
You look at someone
with a sound mind looks wise, but he is doing something that you say this is insane.
Everybody talked to him or her but they are still doing it. Why? When they are too involved in something, it's hard for them to see it from outside. That's why they always say think outside the box.
Think from outside because when you decide on something, you cannot see anything but that thing you are too narrow vision.
So you have to have someone that's why in Islam, it's always recommended to seek this the shadow, seek another opinion and it's the harder to ask Allah to choose for you.
Only the ones who are inside
don't see the ugliness of it. Everybody else have told you and you didn't listen why because you were too involved in it. So it's the opposite in terms of making a decision
it's very hard to know the correct one if you are the sole decision maker. That's why in Islam we have Shura, we have to ask we have to do is to Shara and this the Hara. Because we tend to think that we know everything that what we know is the truth.
The truth, we are the only holders of it. So it's very hard to know the ugliness of it from inside but from outside everybody knows. That's why you have to take yourself outside to see it.
We will stop here in Sharla at page seven it's about time so if you have any comments any question feel free otherwise, Sharma you can do that now. Hello, I hope you benefited today. We have two more sessions. We need to go faster in Sharma. A lot to cover
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