Ikram Sanaullah – Creating a righteous nation through our children

			Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
		

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Kabbalah the respected teachers, scholars, beloved elders and my brothers in Islam.
		

			We should really think Allah subhanho wa Taala for granting us a religion, which gives a lot of
importance to the system of family structure. There are many individuals out there many traditions
and many cultures out there who don't really give importance to this aspect. And who don't really
want this relation.
		

			In the Holy Quran, more than the theory aspect, Allah subhanho wa Taala presents the case study of
this relation, the relation of a parent to the child or the relation of the child to the parent. For
example, let us look at the story of Ibrahim Ali Salam. Ibrahim Ali Salam, an amazing son, who can
have a better son than Ibrahim Ali Salah
		

			whose father other is an idol worshiper, and he doesn't only worship idols, but he sells idols.
		

			So, Ibrahim Ali Salam is the leader who is a son is the leader of the concept of Oneness of Allah
subhanho wa taala. And on the other side, he has a father who worships idols, say primally salaams
father is completely on the wrong side and the son is on the right side. Let us look at another case
study the story of yaku Ali salaam Yaqoob Ali salaam, a beautiful father, amazing father, kind,
gentle father, a prophet,
		

			but he has children one child is in the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala that is Yusuf Ali Salam.
But then again, he has some children who were rebellious till a certain period of time later on the
dependent, they were in the disobedience of Allah subhanho wa taala. So the point I'm trying to get
at is that sometimes you're going to have parents like Aza and sometimes you're going to have
parents like yaku Bodhi salaam, sometimes you're going to have children, like Ibrahim Ali salah, and
sometimes you're going to have children like those of jacobellis Salam, who were in the disobedience
of Allah subhanho wa taala. Another beautiful case study towards the end of Surah Kahf Allah
		

			subhanho wa Taala talks about either Ali Salah Haider Ali Salam meets a child and then he kills the
child. Apparently it looks like oppression. But when asked hither, Ali Salam says that this child
when he was going to grow up, he was going to be rebellious, and he was going to trouble the
parents. And when Allah Tala talks about the parents in the Quran, Allah says about whiny Solly
hain, the parents who are going to be pious and righteous. That is why I kill the child. So in this
in this scenario, the child was going to be disobedient. And the parents were going to be in the
obedience of Allah subhanho wa taala. Now the point I'm trying to make is that in this life in this
		

			life, as far as our children are concerned, we do not have control over them.
		

			In this life, as far as our children are concerned, we do not have control over them, we have
responsibilities over them. And there's a big difference between control and responsibility. Control
is when you tell your child, you have to marry this person. That's it. No ifs and buts,
responsibilities when you tell your child that I've done my inspection, this person you want to
marry is not good for you. There's going to be a disaster in this marriage. That is responsibility.
Control is when you tell your child you have to become the hobbies or you have to become a doctor.
That's it. responsibilities when you wake up with the child every morning, when the child has to go
		

			to madrasah and you have to talk the child to madrasa then you have to pick the child then again
after maghrib you have to draw the child and to understand the challenges of the child or you want
your child to become a doctor. Now you have to just tell the child you have to become a doctor.
That's it. No, that's control responsibility. You have to become a doctor
		

			Take care of your fees, I will take care of your bringing, I will take care of your expenses that is
responsibility. respected elders and friends when a child is born, Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us
certain level of control on this child a certain level. For example, when when a child is born, who
feeds the child, you are the mother, Who clothes the child. You are the mother, who talks to the
child and chooses the words through which the child should be spoken to. You are the mother who
chooses the school of the child, you are the mother who chooses the madrasah the child you are the
mother.
		

			So Allah Tala gives us that control, then comes a time, where slowly slowly Allah subhanaw taala
starts taking away that control from you as parents, now the child starts talking, now the child
starts eating, now the child starts walking and start sitting with whomever who he or she wants to
sit with. Now the child will even come and tell you that I don't want to go to this school. I want
to go to this school because my friends are going to this school. Now the question which we have to
ask ourselves is that when Allah subhanho wa Taala gave us that control? Did we fulfill our
responsibility? Did we give the right of bringing to the child? Did we give the right teachings to
		

			the child? If we gave the right upbringing and the right teachings Alhamdulillah the results and the
outcomes are in the hands of Allah subhanho wa taala.
		

			If if the child has to be become disobedient in the future, then let us look at the look at the
example of yaku palay Salam. When your coop Ali Salam was told by his other rebellious children that
Yusuf has died.
		

			He was killed by a fox.
		

			When in reality it was the children themselves who threw Yusuf Ali Salam in the well, what was the
response of Iacobelli Salah for sovereign Jamil, for sovereign Jamil beautiful patience, there is
nothing else I can do. And look at this matter.
		

			Yusuf Ali Salam didn't get the upbringing of Iacobelli Salam, he had to stay in the palace of the
king, the most corrupted place of that time, later on here to stay in the prison was but then he
becomes a prophet. And on the other hand, all the other children who are rebellious, stayed under
the upbringing of Iacobelli salah, so the outcome is not in our hands, it is in the hands of Allah
subhanaw taala.
		

			We are supposed to fulfill our responsibility as parents,
		

			you know, once a man, an old man came forth 200, Amara, the Allahu taala, and who, and he started
complaining about his child, that my child is disobeying me and all sorts of things. So the Kumara,
the Allahu taala, who called the child, and he started admonishing him, that why don't you obey your
father?
		

			So the child said that all middle meaning, or the trauma or the low talent who tell me, do I, as a
child have rights over my parents? So other trauma or the Allahu taala? Who said that? Yes, you do
have rights over your parents, right? Number one is that your parents, if it's a father, then they
are supposed to choose the right mother for you. And if it's a mother, then they are supposed to
choose the right father for you. Respected elders and friends. No religion has gone into this much
of depth, where before the arrival of the child, before the existence of the child, the right of the
child begins.
		

			And the reason is obvious. When you have to choose the right spouse, and a decent spouse than the
upbringing that is going to be given to the child is going to be right and decent. Imagine you end
up marrying someone who doesn't even know how to speak properly, or who uses vulgarity in his or her
language. Or imagine you end up marrying someone who doesn't understand responsibilities. Or you end
up marrying a woman who doesn't even know how to cook or a woman ends up marrying or has a person a
man who doesn't even understand responsibilities, there will be disaster in that marriage, and what
kind of upbringing is going to be given to the child.
		

			So that is the first slide before looking for the next most handsome men for our daughters are
before looking for the next most beautiful girl for our our children. Let us understand that the
most important thing is the inner beauty. It is the inner conduct and character. So that is the
first slide. Then other tomorrow, the alo Talon who said that the second right that you have over
your parents as a child is that they are supposed to give you a good name. You know they are names
that have good names.
		

			meanings, their names that have bad meanings, they are names that have no meanings. They are names.
That might mean something in our native language, but it might mean completely something else in
another language. So we should choose the names of our children very carefully. We don't want our
children growing up practicing us that look, you gave me this name. Now my friends at school at
Madras are teasing me because of that name. You know, we are talking about names that might might
mean or pronounce something in our language, language, and it might pronounce something in another
language. There is a there is a funny incident that comes to my mind. Upon one occasion, there was
		

			this one brother resting in the park. And he was from Punjab his surname was seeing his surname was
seeing, and he was taking more than one space and he didn't know how to speak English. So white men
was passing by. So he asked him, Are you relaxing? So now this man thought that he's asking me my
name? He's asking me my name. His name was Dilip Singh. So he said, No, I'm Dilip Singh. So he went
by another white man came and he asked me same question. Are you relaxing? He said, No, I'm deleting
another man came by Are you relaxing? No, man, I'm Dilip Singh. So he stood up, and he went, he got
frustrated. So he went on the other side of the park. And he saw another man lying down, and this
		

			man understood English. So he goes to him and he tells him, are you relaxing? So he says, yes, they
are looking for you on the other side.
		

			So sometimes a name might mean something in our language. And it might mean something else in
another language, and respected elders and friend, friends. These names do have an effect on the
life of the child. We know of someone who told us that he his mother's name was Sabirah. His
mother's name was Sabirah. And this person had three brothers. The meaning of solder is to practice
patience, right? So he said that my first brother passed away. My second brother passed away. So we
change the name of our mother to Shakira, which means to be thankful. Sobre means to practice
patience, when do you practice patience when these calamities in your life, so they change the name,
		

			so we should choose the names very carefully. Then other tomorrow, the amount Allen who said that
the third write, that you have over your parents as a child, is that your parents are supposed to
give you the knowledge of Quran they are supposed to teach you Quran when Maratea mo Talon was
talking about Quran, he's just not talking about reading Quran, he's talking about the divine wisdom
and the knowledge hidden behind the Quran. And this third point right here is a slap on our face, it
is a direct slap on our face, especially for those parents who give preference to any other
knowledge than the knowledge of the Quran. It is not being said that we shouldn't teach any other
		

			knowledge to our children. Yes, we should teach them. But as parents, we need to equate, we need to
balance the equation of academic level academic knowledge and Islamic knowledge, we have to do that.
If we don't do that, then we are not fulfilling the right of the child. It is our choice, whether we
want our children to be called doctor or we want them to be called a good Muslim doctor in any
knowledge, they are only going to stick to the professional aspect of that particular field. But
when it comes to the knowledge of the Quran, it covers all the areas it teaches a person how to be a
good human. So it is our choice whether we wanted the children to be called doctor or a good Muslim
		

			doctor, an engineer, or a good Muslim engineer is scientists or a good Muslim scientists. So that is
the third point. And then this child looks looks at other Amara, the Allahu taala. And who, and he
says that all mero meaning my father hasn't fulfilled a single right? My father hasn't fulfilled a
single right from the rights that you have mentioned. So that rumor or the Allahu taala, who now
leaves the child, and he starts admonishing the Father, that this is how you have stayed with your
child. How can you not expect him to be the way he is?
		

			And if other tomorrow the amygdala was going to talk about the fourth point right now, looking at
the time and age, he was going to tell us that oh, my beloved parents or my beloved parents, all my
beloved parents, be kind to your children. Believe in your children, have confidence in your
children. Sometimes you just have to be a father. Sometimes you just have to be a mother. Sometimes
you just have to be that uncle in the society to whom the youth and the children can confined into
let us stop being this big Mufti all the time. Let us go being this big guy all the time, who can be
a great movie then Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
		

			Selam who can be a greater die than Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam yet, when he used
to deal with children, he used to become like a child,
		

			famous incident at the Anasazi Talon who mentions that upon one occasion, Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to our house, and other ultra low talent who had a younger brother
whose name was Amir Amir, whose name was Romeo, and he had a pet bird and the bird died. So the
connoisseur the Talon mentions the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam came to our house and just
to make up the tomato, the low talent who feel better, because he was saddened by the death of the
pet bird just to make the child feel better Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu some started joking with
him, and he said a sentence to him which he said Yaba, only Maka, Allah knew there, Yama omae
		

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			what happened to know
		

			what happened? You know, look at Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. You know, when Imam
Shafi Rahmatullah yachting went to sleep at the house of Imam Muhammad bin humble Rahmatullah YALI.
He spent the whole night pondering on this sentence of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
and he extracted 2000 lessons from the sentence of Prophet moments and Maoism how many lessons 2000
lessons few lessons Lesson number one, you should give a nickname to your child. Look at Prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he called omega about omega. So you should give a nickname to
your child. You should call your children by Habibi, my beloved, my John, we give good nicknames to
		

			our wives. They even saved it already saved in our phones, my angel, my other half. The other day I
saw in someone's phone, she that matters. She that matters. We give nicknames. Otherwise, what is
give nicknames to our children. That's the first lesson. Then another lesson. Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			gave a name to the bird, new head. So it means you can have a pet and you can name the pet.
		

			Another lesson you can have a pet which is a bird. Another lesson Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was kind towards the children.
		

			So look at how Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stayed with the children. You know there
is another famous Hadith Subhan Allah upon one occasion,
		

			the namaz the Salat started, and one young Sahabi came running towards the salah. Nowadays, even the
adults do that when young Shah became running towards the Salah, so after the Salah, the Sahaba
complained that this young sa B runs towards the Salah, and it makes a lot of noise. What was the
reaction of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam you know, I remember when when we were
young, and we used to stand behind in the Salah, and whilst performing Salah if we were looking up
or down there, someone would just come from behind and give a shot on our neck.
		

			Well, it was out of love pure love mela su some of them have even passed away. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala grant them gender regardless, so what the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu some say, Prophet
Muhammad SAW some call the child and he said to him, that I love your enthusiasm. I love your zeal,
look, he gave a positive comment first. And then he told him that next time you shouldn't repeat.
		

			So that was the way of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when it came to dealing with
children. And I would like to end with one important point. This was all about the rights of the
children. It was all about the rights of the children. I gave the same ban in one of the masjid and
one parent came and said, What about parents? What about parents well, let as youth as children, we
need to understand that we may have not prayed for them to be our parents. But they have prayed
their whole life for us to be their children. That should be enough force to understand the rights
of our parents. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the ability to practice on whatever has been said.
		

			I mean walk through the letter of the law