Ibrahim Nuhu – Riyad Us Saliheen – Hadith 731
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The speakers discuss the importance of not mentioning the name of Allah at the beginning of a meal and not sharing the name at the end. They stress the importance of learning to cook at home and being a healthy person. The speakers also advise against negative comments and avoid criticizing negative comments, emphasizing the importance of learning to accept and love one's own worth.
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So we are still dealing with,
the chapter of Adab of
This hadith is
narrated by collected by Abu Dawood
and Nasai,
and there's a weak narration.
But the content which says that a person
should,
I mean, that person is saying, bismillah, what
he waqing he does does through and the
command of the prophet as
we have heard in the previous
narration.
So this companion said the prophet
was sitting in a place.
Alaihi wa sallam.
He did not mention the name of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Lokma means
1 bite. Right? He has only 1 bite
left.
When he raised up this this
portion of the food is going to put
it in his mouth,
then he
said
this is what we do when we forgot
to save his in the beginning when we
say
or fear
will
he it's like you're doing a state rock
Bismillah
in the beginning and
in the end, so you are saying that
the beginning and the end are both based
on the name of Allah Subhanahu
wa Jalal.
So he said,
shaitan has been eating with him. Shaitan has
been eating with him. He eats Shaitan will
eat with him because he did not mention
the name of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Okay. Shaitan was eating with him because he
doesn't mention he did not mention the name
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
However,
across the end of his foot when only
one bite left.
He remembers that he did not say bismillah.
So he fixed it he said
is.
The prophet of Allah, who are you? The
prophet of Allah, who are you? Said
when he said this sheban vomited whatever he
ate before.
Very interesting.
So he lost whatever he ate before he
vomited that
so the hadith is weak so we say
what
happens to the shaytan if
somebody says bismillah
at the last part of his of his
food.
Can somebody punish shaytan?
Wait first until
the last minute and then he says,
and he lost.
We shouldn't.
We shouldn't and even if this hadith is
authentic a person should not why would he
let you down to eat with you in
the first place?
Yeah, he also
is smart in terms of able this right
if he realizes that people are saying this
will
at the end he will leave before then
get it anyway so we should follow the
sunnah of the prophet allahu alaihi wasallam in
all circumstances
Why would you let she upon start eating
with you? So it's a fact that if
you don't say bismillah
your partner in your food will be shayton
your partner in the food will be shaytan
if you say Bismillah
shaytan is going to stay away from your
food and also tell his people
that you don't have food in this place.
So
it's very important that a person shouldn't.
So it's very very important issue. We have
been talking about that.
It's very important that a person should mention
the name of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala at
the first part of his food.
So as we are saying, for the sake
of those who are watching us online,
that this person is was eating his food
and
he did not say bismillah
until the time there is nothing left except
one bite and then he said bismillah.
And when he
The prophet laughed.
The prophet laughed
and then he said,
shaytan has been eating with him until the
moment he said
when he said shaytan vomited whatever he ate
And we mentioned that this
hadith and this narration is a weak narration,
but the content
is all there in other hadith of the
prophet
apart from the story of the man who
was
eating.
Well,
and he forgot to say his willa. And
then he said it at the last minute.
What he did was correct. Because the
if you forget to save is
in the first part of your food whenever
you remember you should save is
The prophet was
eating food
together with 6 people.
Get it? The
prophet was eating food and there are 6
of them eating the food.
So
fajaarabiya,
a bedouin kid. Somebody from the village kid.
So he started eating. He joined the prophets
of Allah who made the food.
You know? The balance of the food, he
ate it in 2 bites.
He ate the whole thing.
So the prophet said
if he mentioned the name of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, this food has Baraka in it.
It will be enough for all of you.
But he did not mention so the Baraka
was gone. Then he managed to just eat
the whole thing.
That's the reason why the prophet, salallahu alaihi
wa sallam, has said in another place.
Somebody came to the prophet
and said to him, he used to eat,
you know,
food and it's not easy for him to
get
to become
full. But then after Islam,
it's not
easy for him to eat what he used
to eat before.
So the prophet said,
the moment, yeah,
is eating in 1 with 1 one intestine
meaning
Allah's put in the food
so his
stomach is not
you know that you know huge to accommodate
big amount of food little amount of food
can food can suffice
you. Yeah. So how do you understand this?
Okay. Now sometimes you buy food outside,
you know, you eat a lot and you
demand more. You eat a lot. But at
home, you eat little.
And trust me, it's not because the food
at home is not good. No. It is
sometimes more excellent than this.
Yeah. Sometimes when you go and buy food
outside,
you know, especially in some of the big
restaurants, you know, you go and buy food.
Subhanallah, what is made in your house?
It tastier than what you are eating outside.
But because of the name and the title
and all of these things
the brand you're willing to pay a lot
yeah they're willing to pay a lot
So that's the Barakah Allah's motto is putting
in the food that you have at home.
Especially when the wealth, the money is for
is halal.
You get it? So Allah put barakah in
the food of a Muslim when you get
the sauce from the Haram
means. So the prophet
said, if he is to mention the name
of Allah, the first part of it, the
food will be enough for for everyone.
Now this hadith also is is a weak
narration, but the meaning is correct that if
you mention the name of Allah, Allah puts
in the food you are, you are
eating. In the food you are, you are
eating.
You get it that as I was saying
and for those of you who married, you
know, build up this culture, you know? Culture
of eating the home food.
Okay. I'm sorry to the sisters who are
lazy. But this is the best way to
make it.
Allah. A sister should cook for the family.
And this is all together. It it brings
the family together.
Refresh that kind of life which we lost
to
Junk food outside. Everyone goes and buy his
own food, you know. And the healthiest food
is the food you cook at home.
That's why, usually, you don't hear,
you know, food poisoning taking place because of
the food being cooked by the by the
house especially when it is fresh.
Usually,
you hear about this when you go out
and eat from outside. I'm not saying it's
wrong to eat is halal to eat. We
all eat outside, but
which one is better as a family member
to train
your family to cook and to bring it.
She's getting reward and there are so many
benefits in it.
Apart from serving the family, you know, she
gets a reward. Also, it's it's a means
of exercise.
Otherwise,
what does she do?
Especially those who are not
going out for work. You know, what does
she do if she didn't cook and do?
I mean the rest of the necessities in
in the house.
And also, when she brings that food, you
know, people sit together and eat. It brings
the family closer and closer.
So this is a very, you know, special
advice that I'm giving to all of you
who have family. The one who doesn't have
a line.
I'm afraid if I say it's from your
family, then he will die out of anger.
Yeah. So go and choose whatever you want
to choose. But I'm talking to the special
ones.
If you have comment, we talk after the
class.
Anyway, so
this had this week, but the meeting as
I said is
is good and sound, Insha'Allah.
Yes, hadith is weak.
Rasulah
used to mention these profound
words.
When he finish it, then he will praise
Allah
because he is the one who deserve
alhamd.
Yeah. We say all praise is due to
Allah
because he is the only one who deserves
the hamt.
Whatever nirama you are getting in this dunya,
the source of this nima
is
who?
Rubbulalami. I will Allah. People are just, you
know, means Allah is using them to send
the nima to you. But the source of
the name is
Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Not us.
If Allah doesn't want it to come to
you,
even if the nirma is there, that person
would not be able to get it and
bring it to you.
Who gave him ability to see it? Who
gave him ability to earn what is capable
of buying and earning that that nimah that
he's bringing to you? Allahu balalani.
And who gave him ability to bring it
to you?
And who is giving you ability to utilize
it and to make
use of it to benefit from it?
And these are the name of Allah which
are countless.
Allah says were in doubt to nirmat Allah
at of surah. If you are to sit
down and count the name of Allah's gonna
return upon you, you can't finish
You are love. If you wanna try go
and try and see how many things Allah
has given you even those that you can
see how many Allah
is granting
you. So
alhamdulillah
praise
is due to Allah
and an abundance
the one that is pure and clean is
Rasulullah
is referring to the of Allah's
that we will never be
you know,
I mean, satisfied and say that, okay, this
is enough. We don't want anymore. No.
No name of Allah is not like that.
You're trying to say that Allah's will always
you are giving us that which will always
make us in need of you.
Well, I'm more done and not something also
that we have the capacity to stay away
from it.
Something that we need continuously to be granted
for
To us.
These are words that are emphasizing on the
same meaning. Something that we cannot live without
it and something that we cannot stay away
from it and something that
nobody can provide it for us except you.
That's why some said,
he is referring to Allah being
the one that nobody can stay away from
being in need of his support
and this is the meaning of
the name of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, as
Samat.
Right? Alwahllahahadallahu
as Samad. As Samad
means
As Summit, the one that all of the
creations are going back to him
in every single moment of their life, whenever
they need.
Nobody can stay away from
being in need of Allah
support.
So he stands for everyone and he doesn't
need somebody to support him.
Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala says
That's why
one of his names is
al kayyub al
kayyub.
Al kayyub is the one who support and
stands for everyone who takes care of everyone.
And he doesn't need anyone to take care
of him. That's Rabbona
alone.
Nobody in this life
that can have this quality
of being self,
you know, sufficient
in a way he doesn't need anyone. No
one is like that. The only one who
is like this is kuramul alimi.
So that's why the prophet salallahu alayhi wa
salamah
whenever they remove the
the the food, you know, Ma'ida here means
those sufra and everything that and the food
that is there when they remove it, that's
when he's done.
The prophet
said Allah loves
to see a person when he eats. He
begins with Bismillah.
When he finishes his food,
you conclude
that mead with alhamdulillah.
You get it? This is the least you
can do to appreciate what a lost
If you say that praise be to Allah
the one who
give me ability to get this food and
be able to eat it and Allah
bestows this risk of food to me.
Without
having any power
or
ability, you know, might have power from my
side, you know, it's all because of the
power of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala and his
permission and His mercy, I get this.
So
he says if you say this then Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala will forgive
whatever sin you have committed in in the
past. So this hadith also is is weak
narration.
If you just finish your food and say,
alhamdulillah,
it's small enough.
Especially when you know what you're saying.
Especially when you know what you are saying
because all of these and card and Muslim
is supposed to say them
with his own heart
Together with the tongue. The heart should know
what you are saying and reflect upon that
when you say bismillah, you remember that the
the my last Muhammadu wa ta'ala is told
you and now you are saying his name
when you are beginning, you know, to take
from this.
When you finish,
you say, Alhamdulillah.
Remember that Allah
is the only source of this nirmah, and
He is the only one who deserves your
your praise.
This is a chapter that will talk about
a person
shouldn't,
you know,
disrespect
food.
Say something negative about food.
This is the Ta'ib Utham.
You know, humiliating to food, you say something
negative about that food.
Was tibab al madhi.
And also, it is encouraged that a person
should praise the food.
Either like it, you sleep it.
You want it, eat it. But don't make
negative comment.
This is in general. Right? Especially when it
comes to the food being by
by your wife.
Imagine she finished
suffering
doing that food. And sometimes, some of these
food, they have been preparing for it for
days.
Yeah. Physical preparation for days because it needs
that. Some of the things to be kept
in order to be prepared.
Few days later
I'm sorry, a few days ahead
of the of the the actual thing.
But then what did she get from you?
What kind of food is this?
It's the worst thing that I have ever
eaten in my life.
Subhanallah.
What can you do to compensate this? Nothing.
Yeah. She might cry in front of you
and she deserves to cry.
Yeah. And this is against the sunnah of
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa
sallam. Aisha Abu Huraira radiallahu anhu said
never criticize
food.
If he likes it,
he eat it. If he doesn't want it,
he's dead.
Okay. That's
it. That's why
when a person says
no, I don't have interest in in in
food.
What should I do?
Don't push him.
Because if you push him, sometimes you make
comment
telling you the reason why he's not eating.
And then you will get
annoyed.
And now, you you will get annoyed.
And when it comes to
food, you eat
what you desire.
Yeah. You shouldn't force somebody to eat what
you want, you know.
Yeah. He's your guest
or you want to respect
him, but you respect him with what he
wants you know
If he doesn't eat
or he cannot eat, you cannot force him.
Otherwise, at the end of the day, you
might ask him to tell you why can't
he eat and then he tells you why
he couldn't eat it and then you get
annoyed.
So we don't we don't do that, you
know, and you present the food to somebody
and he refused to eat. Don't pressure so
much.
Yeah. Yeah. Don't pressure him so much. And
he he should try and follow the sunnah
of the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, not
to criticize the food. Although he doesn't like
it, but don't say anything bad.
Just say, it's okay. It's fine. Alhamdulillah.
It's good. You know? Good.
I need to hear.
But you but it's good. So you don't
say something bad, you know. He will be
saying, oh, maybe you don't like the food
and maybe maybe just I'll tell him, no,
it's okay.
I'm fine.
Insha'Allah, next time, I'll try to see how
the power says, Omar
Omar of Tel
That's even of the
COVID. He says whatever you don't like,
but
then criticize,
Don't say negative words.
Just leave it. Well, I I have been
risk on anything that is risk because this
food is risk. You don't want it, but
it's risk.
I was hosted by a very very close
friend of mine.
We will have very very very close
friend of mine.
My classmate also.
So
he went and
after so long, we did not meet, you
know. The day we met he come and
pick me up you know.
Inshallah he went and got this barrier.
Crabs and all of these things.
I never tested in my life. You know
when I see them, I don't know you
know, but people like them. I buy for
the family these things, but
never taste it. So subhanallah, I just have
to apologize to
him. And alhamdulillah because he's a student of
knowledge he understand.
I told him I can't eat
and I really apologize. So we sit down
and have some chips.
That was
the the thing that I was able to
eat. So the prophetess Allah, the the poet
says,
don't criticize the food. You don't want it?
Stay away from it and apologize to the
person who suffer
suffer too to provide it
for you. And,
he deserves it. Please. Whether you like to
eat it or you like to eat it,
he deserves.
He will praise.
As I said, especially with the wife. Whatever
your wife cook,
you like it,
eat it. You don't like it, don't criticize
that food.
Stay away from it.
Yeah. You just have to have to understand
who does she live with.
Right? What does what what is it you
don't like in food
and what you like? So whenever she cooks
something that she decided to include you inside,
she should make it in the way you
will appreciate
it. Right? To avoid
you staying away because with the wife, even
to stay away from that food will be
a punishment.
And now it's more than enough as a
big punishment
when she presents something to you and then
you tell her you don't want
Or you stay away from it, you don't
wanna eat. You have so many thoughts in
her brain.
A lot.
Why? Why is he not eating? Is it
because it is not nice or he ate
outside?
Does that mean somebody else cooked what better
than me? All of these things you're punishing
her in her brain.
So she also shouldn't contribute in the negative
comment that might come from the husband. But
the husband should control his tongue. Rasulullah
never criticize food.
If he wants it, he eat it. If
he doesn't like it,
stay away from it. They brought him.
The
desert lizard right and
that fat one
they brought it to the prophet and
he doesn't eat it.
So
it's it's because it is Haram, he said.
No.
They
are the.
He
He said I couldn't find it in the
land where I grew up.
So I found myself, you know, not being
in a state of ease to eat it.
So in other words, you are surah is
haram.
Yeah. So
enjoy their food.
And the problem said, I saw they don't
say anything. He just watched them eating their
food. Yeah. They like it. You don't like
it, but somebody else like it. So please
take this sunnah, because sometimes we criticize what
people are eating. There are certain
food, you know,
which they are not good, you know to
us.
But the one who is eating them is
good to
him. There shouldn't be a comment
in his presence
and we shouldn't criticize because this is created
by Allah's body. You can go even you
cannot go even in in in his absence
and say bad things against him because who
wrote it? Rabula.
Yeah.
I mean you rarely see somebody who eat
everything
except the people who are narrated by you
say that there is a tribe
they eat everything.
He says nothing is
in their mouth except one type of insect.
Yeah, I think it's
You know? The one that is you know
the one that is, going to the to
the poop, a karmakula, of an animal. If
it's an animal, they make a ball there.
They push it. Right? Yeah. I think that's
the only thing they couldn't eat in their
life.
But the rest of the human beings were
not like that. There is something that you
don't like.
You get it? So in a way, you
don't want somebody to come and make negative
comment
in those food that you like and didn't
like it. You should also shouldn't do it
with with others.
Aisha Jabin
said,
Rasulullah
get into inside his house
and he asked about food whether they have
it or they don't have anything.
He
asked about Al Ida.
Whether they have any or they don't have.
So the prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam asked them
so they said we don't have except Al
Khal. I
guess the more than
wants us to stop so we will stop
here inshallah. I continue in the next class
And last one to grant you good and
be with you wherever you are in our
college of meeting, kafir,
Allah is is fine. When the school, there
is an examination, the school motivated, the student,
and this exam is mandatory. They have to
do it. Right? They have to be as
well. But they have to do the exams.
Right. This is part of the
requirement in the university or the school. Right?
Yeah. It's it's not gonna be an issue
because they have to do. They're not going
by choice.
Yeah. Is it something
Wajibuk called them? So when the school reward
them for it, it's okay. It is a
choice?
Yeah. If it is choice, choose to come
or not to come, then it will be
coming because they will be coming for the
for the reward.
Next question. Is it wrong for people
not to wish to get married to use
the
No. It's wrong. We don't
it's asking, is it wrong for a person
to wish not to marry
To be following
Islam is an exception
you get it. Yeah Allah's
wajanalahu
as virgin or the re.
Allah sent prophet and he gave them wives
and progeny.
Offspring.
So that means it's wrong to stay away
from marriage and the with
So it's wrong for a person to wish
not to marry. Wrong wrong.
Usman bin Abdul
took permission from the prophet
to observe Tabatul meaning to stay away from
marriage.
Just live that ascetic life. Rasulullah told
him no.
That's why the the companion
said,
If he permitted him to do, we will
castrate ourselves.
Yeah. Because they still have desire, but then
they don't marry.
So they have to do anything possible to
remove the desire from them. But alhamdulillah, the
prophet did not allow it. He married
up to the moment Allah told him stop.
Get it?
To tell us that mrs. The sunnah.
Abdullah ibn Abbas says the best in this
Ummah is the one who has more wives.
Abdullah ibn Abbas. Abdullah ibn Abbas Oud was
reported to have said
well he told on
he said, and I have ability to marry,
he says. I will marry before the finished,
you know only 10 days, you know,
left.
He said, I will marry.
How is it possible for somebody to ask
Allah
to remove the desire for marriage from
him? Why?
Marry, marry, marriage is the sunnah of the
prophet.
Especially in the time we are living in,
the time of fitr.
From every direction, you are living with fitr.
So this is the time you will ask
Allah
to increase your desire for marriage
to make you interested in it and
Not to marry is a deficiency.
If you don't know it, you should know
it now. Not marrying is a deficiency.
You will love is a deficiency.
And a person should try and
close this deficiency and fix it, you know.
But listen to anyone who tells you to
call us so and so and so, Sheikh
Islam did not marry.
Leave Sheikh Islam.
Rasulullah, did he marry or not? Yes. Did
he ask you to follow Sheikh ul Islam?
No.
He asked you to imitate him. Somebody says
he would not marry the prophet, salallahu alaihi
wa sama said, whoever stays away from my
sunnah is not one of us.
So marriage is good and marry at the
early age also. Don't wait until you reach
30, 40 and then you marry. Yeah. By
the time your son or your daughter daughter
reach the
age of maturity, you already old person, you
know. They're still younger
younger people. They need your support, and you
need the
It's wrong it's wrong to delay marriage for
any reason as long as you can afford
it physically and financially,
as soon as Allah advise you to go
for it.
Guide him
to choose the
best.
Next question is, the person is extremely sleepy,
but knows that if he sleeps first, the
time of the prayer will end. Should he
force himself to pray? Yes. He has to
force himself. This is somebody who is extremely
sleepy, but he knows that if he sleeps,
the prayer time will finish. He has to
force himself to to to pray for us.
And then he sleeps.