Ibraheem Menk – The Messenger

Ibraheem Menk

The Messenger (peace be upon him) as a family man

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A woman describes her desire to leave her friend's house and see her friend's wife. She describes a woman who is embarrassed by her mother and refuses to leave. She talks about the importance of being with her friend's mother and not giving gifts. She talks about the treatment of men by the Prophet Muhammad during the time he was in love with his wife and how he wants to be with them in general. She describes the desire for love and loyalty to her friend's mother and wants to open a business.

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			hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu Amin
		
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			Amin MB even more serene Nabina Muhammad
		
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			Ophelia Jemaine.
		
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			Obviously a while after Esther Waterman will hire will be can
		
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			we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for having gathered us here in this beautiful endless gathering.
And we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to cause his mercy and Mr. Kenan to descend upon us, and to raise
us with the MBR aleikum wa Salatu was Salam and those whom he has mentioned with him, I mean,
		
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			indeed, it is a very great honor
		
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			to be gathered here today with people who have a man in the hearts, people who believe in Allah
subhanho wa Taala. And we need to understand the very great bounty of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon
us, for the fact that he has bestowed us to be able to gather like this. There are some places in
the world where people are being persecuted people are being harmed, people are not able to gather
in this manner. So we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for this, and we ask Allah subhana wa tada to
grant us more, I mean,
		
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			now, when it comes to the MBR alayhi wa Salatu was Salam. Allah subhanho wa Taala chose for these
ambia alayhi wa Salatu was salam to be from amongst the human being. He chose for them to have skin,
flesh and blood. He chose for them to have limbs. He did not choose to give us messengers that were
made of new, had Allah subhanahu wa tada sent down the Mullah, he can for us to follow, we will
deliver I have not been able to follow them. But Allah subhanho wa Taala out of his infinite mercy
and wisdom he chose for the MBR alayhi wa salatu salam to be similar to us, will innama and
		
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			say, indeed, I am a human being just like you. What is the difference between us and them? You have
Elijah that I received revelation, but they were similar to us, they had children, they had wives,
they had families, they had relationships that they had to look after. So in the same way we can now
look at them for an example. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says nakatsuka Allah.
		
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			Allah He was sweating as Anna, that in the example of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam there
is a beautiful example for you to follow.
		
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			Lima Juma one young man
		
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			for the one who wants to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala for the one who hopes to meet Allah subhanho
wa Taala. And we'll hope to see the last day and he remembers the last who kind of had to add a very
great deal. So this reminder is not for everyone. This is a reminder, not everyone will follow but
the one who wants to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala he will take heed from Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, he will follow his beautiful example. And what is it that this beautiful Nabhi of
ours taught us how you can how you can become the best of you are those who are best to your
families. What are for you?
		
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			And I am the best of you to my family. I am the best from amongst you all to my family. Nobody is
better than me to the families than I. So he was the best of examples. He was the pinnacle. He was
the peak. We've got to follow that example of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam once stood up in the mastery.
		
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			And he said today lucapa Faria and Leo Manisha on cateel Kowloon, mystic Kowloon, yes. Sakina as
well as your hoonah he says that today many many women came to me and every single one of them were
complaining of the husbands.
		
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			And then he says one la Hema Walla
		
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			Walla Walla
		
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			Walla, Walla, ecobee theory. He says one lucky those people, they are not the best of you. So those
people will not the best of people. Why? Just because their wives were complaining about don't give
your wife a reason to complain about you. Because then you come under this
		
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			heading off one law he met law he can be here, Rico. I shall be Mr. Miranda.
		
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			She's once in her home. When Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam comes into the home on her turn
her night.
		
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			And he put his head onto the pillow. He went to sleep. Or perhaps he rested for some time. And when
I saw the alarm, and he was asleep, or he thought she was asleep, then he got up slowly, very
quietly. And he put on his clothes very quietly. And then he left the house silently. So I shall
hold the alarm on her realized that he's leaving the home at night. So she said, Hey, let me go and
see what is he doing? Where is he going? So she followed him. And she left the home and began to
move at a distance. And she notices that we're sort of lost our love while he was 11. He goes to
		
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			the graveyard. And then he raises his hands and he begins to make drama.
		
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			And she continues to watch, she's thinking that, you know, maybe after this, he will go somewhere
else. So she watches him until he begins to come back. And as he begins to come back, she realizes
that, hey, he doesn't know that I'm out of the house. So she begins to quickened her pace to move
and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam notices the darkness in the,
		
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			in the in the, in the distance that he's moving. So he begins to quickened his pace. She quickens
the pace, he begins to walk, to the extent that he is nearly running, she begins to walk to the
extent that she's really running and then she says, that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
began to run. So I ran until I got to the home and I quickly got under the covers, and I put my head
down, and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam walks in.
		
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			And then he says, Yeah, I
		
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			Murli Araki, hush, hush, Yaba, he says that, why is it that I see you with a voice that a breath
that is fast, you are breathing? Very fast, like as if you were running? So she remains silent? And
she carries on as though she's sleeping? And then he says, Yeah.
		
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			What is it that you were doing? Why is it that you? Your breath is so fast? And then she says to him
lashing? There is nothing. That's all. She didn't. Obviously this is not a lie. This is our mother,
I shall be a lover and have a Jesus there is nothing. simple answer. And then Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam. He says what law he led to be run many.
		
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			Aziz al Hakim, he says that if you tell me if you don't tell me, then what Allahu Allah subhanho wa
Taala, the most powerful, the most wise, he will tell me. So then she says, You know, I thought
perhaps you left the house and you are going to one of your other wives. And she begins to explain
to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So sudo la sala Allah for Allah, He will send them
imagine, I want to pause for a moment
		
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			and ask myself and yourselves that if we were to leave whatever need at night, perhaps you want to
go and join a petrol queue late at night, do you hear this petrol somewhere you want to go and join?
And your wife follows you. And you come back at home and you realize she's followed you? What will
you do to them?
		
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			What will you do to her? You what?
		
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			You want to beat her up? You want to say hey, what do you think I'm going to deceive you know, ways?
Hey, how can you do that? You want to start shouting at her? What does the Buddha Mohammed Abdullah
to the messenger of guidance salallahu alayhi wasallam. You know what he does? He says,
		
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			Can we all listen, please? So he says that he begins to explain he says that look, gibreel alayhi
salatu was Salam he came to me. And he didn't want to enter into the home because you this is at
night and however you are dressed, so he didn't want to enter into the home. So he called me out of
the home and he instructed me to go and go and make dua for the people of tequila. So I went and I
made for the people of the key. And it is said that he gave her a light push in, in just in joking.
He was just joking to say hey, what do you think, you know, hey, what do you think? That is
literally what he did. That is his response, the response of the best of creation.
		
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			The response of the one whom Allah subhanho wa Taala chose to give this reseller that is with us
today, the very reason why we are gathered here today. So he responds in such a beautiful manner.
And we can take a lesson from this. First of all, when he gets up from his bed, he gets up slowly to
the extent that she doesn't wake up. He puts on his clothes slowly, quietly, so it doesn't disturb
her. And then when she asks him, he doesn't begin to shout at her. He doesn't begin to scream at
her, but he explains to him and he even jokes with this was rasuluh Rasulullah Buddha, Mohammed,
Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			So
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his family, he was very beautiful in his way of dealing
with things. And
		
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			he, in another story, I shall hold the alarm or analysis that I once woke up and I forgot to
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I missed a sudo loss Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he was no
longer on the bidding. So I began to touch around, touch around the bidding to see where is he and
then my foot, touched his hand touched his foot. And then I heard him saying he was in such that and
I heard him saying, so be an Allahumma in Philly, he says that she says he was saying sapan RBL
Glory be to unlock the most high and Oh ALLAH forgive him. And when she says that I said within
myself, while la Yasuda la in McCullough efficient ninja and efficient mean Aha. He said, she says
		
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			that I said to myself, that all a pseudo love, you are in one world, you are some way and I am
somewhere.
		
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			This was Buddha Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The question is, do we give our wives The
reason to doubt us in the first place or not? You know, this was a pseudo vasavada usnm there was no
need to doubt him or Isha hold the alarm on her. Even if there was a doubt it was adult that he went
to do something halaal to his own wives yet do we give our wives a reason to doubt us? How do we
behave with other women in front of them? Do we flirt and laugh and joke and hey, it's okay just a
handshake, it doesn't matter and then it becomes just a hug, it doesn't matter? Do we give them a
reason to doubt us? Or do we behave in the proper manner that is dictated by Allah subhanahu wa to
		
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			Allah and His messenger.
		
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			The next characteristic that I would like to discuss is loyalty. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was loyal to his wife
		
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			had the sister of Khadija howdy Allah Anna. She wants comes knocking on the door of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wasallam
		
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			and she says a salaam aleikum.
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam immediately says aloha mahalo aloha mahalo. It is hard. It is
Hala. Because by hearing the voice of the sister he remembered her deja vu le Allah and so I shall
be sitting there and she says, You are remembering her. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
says yes, most definitely. She helped me when nobody would believe me. She believed in me. She
helped me with her wealth. She helped me by herself. She protected me when I came down from the
mountain and I was terrified. Of course I will not forget her. And then he says that even Allah
subhanho wa Taala chose to give me children from her, but he did not choose to give me children from
		
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			anyone else. So she had passed away. She had gone yet Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would
remember her in one of the battles when a necklace of Khadija hobbema Juana was brought for him.
Then he said, he asked the Sahaba look at the justice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as
well. He asked the Sahaba This is from the booty of war that belongs to the muslimeen. Is it okay if
I keep it? Why? Why would Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on something of the dunya because
it belonged to her deja de la. And then he began to touch those beads that his wife, the necklace of
his wife. And he began to look at it and remember her deja habia Lavanya this was a woman who was
		
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			older than him. He married her when he was very young. Yet, when he even after she had passed on, he
remembered her even after she had passed on. He never forgot her. So this was the
		
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			Loyalty that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had, he would actually when he got some gifts
from the muslimeen then he would take these gifts and send them Bharata Isla de casi Khadija, he
would send to the girl, the Friends of Khadija hora de la Juana, he would send these gifts to them.
Why? Because he remembered Khadija been to Hawaii.
		
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			This is the characteristic of a man, loyalty to his wife. He goes out there, he sees all these
shapes and all these colors and all these sizes, and it doesn't affect it. Why? Because I have
loyalty to my wife. I've taken a huge promise on myself, to be loyal to this woman for the sake of
Allah subhanho wa Taala. So I will be loyal to her. Hi eurocom eurocom li alikum
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam not only was he most beautiful with his family and loyal to
his family, but he was also he knew how they felt. He read the emotions very well. And
		
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			we can tell this from the story of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he says to Ayesha, out
of the love and he says that you you know what I can tell whether you are angry with me or you are
happy with me? And she says, Well, how is that? How are you able to tell that you are angry? I am
angry with you. I am happy with you. He says you know when you are angry with me, then you will say
love or big Ibrahim that know my love of Ibrahim alayhi salatu salam should take an oath by Allah
subhanho wa Taala of Ibrahim alayhi salatu was Salam. And when you are happy with me, you say you
know a lot of people have met, but by the help of Mohammed, so even that Rasulullah sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam knew he was SS. He knew that from her words. She's angry with me. She's upset with
me right now. I shouldn't say anything. I should deal with this in the right manner. And when she
was happy, he knew as well. This was more
		
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			how many of us will walk into the home and we see that the woman has had a bad day she's been
cooking her food got burnt, and the first thing we do Hey, have had a long day. How can you serve me
but food? No, it's okay. Even if we go hungry for the day, it doesn't matter. It beans that day. No
problem. It's okay. Whatever you have to eat and carry on and go carry on your life will continue.
But remember don't hurt this human being that Allah subhanho wa Taala this week human being that
Allah subhanahu wa tada has put in your care. So this was the Zulu masala while he was in love with
the emotions of his wives. And when it comes to the servants that he had in the home, then this is a
		
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			beautiful and profound lesson that we can learn about. Even cowbell eslami Albee Allahu anhu. He
says that come to it, he will do he will Hagerty. He says at night I would come to Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his water fubu and I would come to him with his needs, whatever
needs he had at night. I would take care of them. If he told me to get something or juice I would do
it.
		
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			And this was a young man. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once asked him He says, send me
Allah via ask whatever you want to be asked for it. And
		
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			imagine this is a man at his plane. He is in his youth. He can say I want a beautiful woman. I want
a beautiful horse camel the best. I want some wealth. I want to open a business. I want to do some t
Java. What happens? He says, Hello camera photography. Gentlemen. I asked you a messenger of Allah
for your companion shipping gentlemen. This was the seventh of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, the man who brought him his needs whatever he needed his widow.
		
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			This man not only wanted to be his companion in this dunya but he wanted to be his companion in the
era. What kind of treatment did Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam give him such that he wanted
to be with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa send them in gentlemen as well. Which one of our our
servants can say that I want to be with this man in general.
		
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			I want to be with this man in general. Those who are below you. Remember one come Howard Giada
		
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			Ed come. Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed them under our hands. It is not by us. Our own goodness,
that these servants have been placed under our hands wherever
		
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			Has someone employees servants someone looking after look after them. It is your duty to look after
them in the manner that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam looked after his servants. When your
servants and your employees, the people who work for you can tell you that I want to be with you in
general, you've treated them right. You've treated them right. This was well, you've treated them
with the best of treatment. So try always to treat everyone well. You know how a man's character is
judged, by the way he treats those who are beneath him, because those who are above you, you will
always treat him right. Because you know, the stick is above your head. So you're scared that hey,
		
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			I'll get one here. But when the people beneath you, you have power over them, you treat them well,
that makes you a man, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us true men as Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was the perfect example for us to follow. I mean, also Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala
nabina Muhammad. He was a big man.