Hussain Kamani – Islamic Manners #13

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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim hamdulillah
		
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			from the lucky walk of Ramadan anybody looking at stuff our sources are seeking to study with me via
		
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			Ischia was happy about
		
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			it's been a long break. And it feels like we haven't had class in forever, even though we only
missed one week.
		
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			It's such a pleasure to be with all of you. And I pray that Allah subhana wa Taala keeps us all
connected in such gatherings.
		
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			We continue with the study of Shikata, Fatah, google.com, Allah, Allah, his book, edible Islam,
Islamic manners, we start with the chapter, the matters of con versation.
		
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			Before we start with the reading,
		
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			I just wanted to take a moment to kind of set the tone again.
		
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			Manners are
		
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			the essence of
		
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			being a good human being and being a good Muslim.
		
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			Oh, you're right. I think we were a few pages earlier than that. Now that you say that reminds me.
		
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			Okay, so we're on page 66. Clean nonetheless, the introduction points that are I was going to
mention still stand.
		
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			That having proper manners is at the essence in the core of being a good human being and also being
a good Muslim.
		
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			This can never be emphasized enough.
		
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			If an individual understands the importance of good character,
		
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			and understands what it means to lower your tone, when you talk to people, even though you may be
right and the other person is wrong, being right does not give you the right
		
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			to violate the honor and respect of another person. This is shaytaan speaking to you. Otherwise,
knowing son should ever feel that they have the right at any moment to raise their voice against
another human being let alone a fellow Muslim.
		
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			You should not feel that you have the right to humiliate someone to not give the other person their
due respect.
		
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			respecting others means understanding that the world that we live in and individuals that you
interact with, there's a nuance there, not all human beings are the same.
		
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			You will meet people who are senior to you and ah, some may be senior to education, others might
just be ahead of you in the path of experience, you're interacting with your father or your mother,
it's very different from how you would interact with your own child. There is a difference between
speaking to a sibling that is senior to you and age, then speaking to one that is younger than you.
		
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			Younger doesn't mean you get to abuse them. But there's a different tone, a different approach.
There may be different, they may be different titles you use to refer to them just out of respect.
understanding the world around you is nuanced and that every time you enter into any interaction,
the first thing you need to assess is what is the proper etiquette? That is the essence of wisdom.
That's what wisdom is
		
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			that you enter into a situation and you ask yourself, what is required of me in this moment, whether
it's visiting a sick person, whether it's walking into a wedding hall, or maybe even just sharing an
Uber with someone on the way to the airport, what are the etiquettes of this moment, and sometimes
you will know what that is. And that's this the curve of learning, right? You ask other people you
observe you educate yourself.
		
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			But acknowledging that these matters are important is where the journey starts. And then you kind of
make your way through life and you figure out better ways to do things to help the photograher como
la da and may propose something right here we're about to enter into the matters of offering
condolence. And he may propose something but through your experience with the people that you
interact with. Taking into consideration your context, you may find a different approach. What needs
to be common is that the person that you're interacting with in that given moment for you
		
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			wills, love respected honor.
		
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			Having proper Islamic matters requires education. It requires observance for you to observe other
people, and find companionship with people who care about these things and are willing to talk about
them.
		
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			And then on top of that, it also needs a degree of humbleness. Because you have to concede that
there are people who are senior to you, and that no matter what the situation is, you don't raise
your voice when you talk to them. You just don't do that. And if you do apologies or do
		
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			if you do raise your voice, then you need to apologize to that person. Allah subhana wa Tada in the
Quran reprimanded companions who dare raise their voice in the presence of
		
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			the Muhammad the Prophet of Allah is a whole different his status and his position is a whole
different ballgame. But you must keep in mind that when you go to your massage, and when you're
interacting with your community leaders wherever they are in the world, when you're sitting with
people who have memorized the Quran when you're interacting with people who have studied the deen
		
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			you will need to understand Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, you're very loving Levina
income one Medina
		
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			the Rajat
		
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			ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says, Yes, I love looking at Allah raises those who believe from among you
will notice that he also raises people of knowledge, how much does he raise them to Rajat many
levels? Allah subhanho wa Taala poses this question, and only a fool would not be able to understand
what the message here is through this question. Will Halia stability and Ayala Moon will Latina?
		
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			Do those who know and not know? Are they ever equal? Can they be the same note?
		
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			The issue is that those who don't know
		
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			they suffer from a common
		
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			issue which we refer to anatomy as John Morocco.
		
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			And which is commonly translated into English as compound ignorance.
		
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			Like everyone, well, I agree and the whole I agree.
		
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			This is the hotkeys that person doesn't know. And what's happening here. They don't know that. They
don't know. Who am I, Anthony? Well, I have it in my head. That's a situation he doesn't know. And
he isn't aware that he doesn't know. So therefore, when you put him in front of the person that when
you put this person in front of another individual isn't they think we're peers.
		
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			On one hand, this person has been teaching Hadith for a decade. On the other side, the other chef
just read two articles on Islam QA and he's saying that we are on the same platform. Now. This isn't
to belittle anyone or put anyone down. But these conversations are hard to have because as I
mentioned, you have to concede that someone is superior here because they have accomplished an
accolade which I have not accomplished yet. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give me an all of us that
they'll feel to accomplish these great accolades in our lives. But until we don't get there, we will
need to have other been around for those who have traded this path. Well, not the geography Rubina.
		
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			Linlin fillerina
		
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			Oh Allah never placed in our heart any malice hatred, animosity, any filter dirt for those who came
before us and believed that we shouldn't be those who look back at previous generations in person
rather, we see the evil and we ask Allah protect us and we see the good and we praise them for the
good that they did. That these were amazing people to come with them for the 100 hamaca summit when
I come accepted, and that is a nation that has passed metadata that is a nation that has passed that
have not cassava for it is what it earned when I come back except for you will be what you learn.
What'd I just I don't I'm not gonna Oh, yeah, I'm alone and you won't be asked regarding their BS
		
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			they will be asked regarding theirs. You need to focus on yours. In this moment right now, what is
demanded of me. I was actually sharing this with the brothers on the drive here.
		
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			Regarding honors forschner
		
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			That he some of you may know Was he the governor or mayor I get confused. He was a governor. The
mayor would have been funny actually.
		
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			Governor still whatever
		
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			so other source * when we were young, I don't know if you guys relate to you guys remember those
days or not? But when we were young, he was very much into weightlifting. And he was on every news
channel and he was on magazines. Those magazines was a big thing.
		
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			We're talking about how this guy was, if so much weight.
		
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			So he writes about his experience as being a bodybuilder, I think that's the correct term.
		
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			Now the interesting thing, when you read on our Schwarzenegger writing about bodybuilding, you would
assume that he's talking, he's going to talk about maybe form like this is the proper form to lift,
maybe you think he's going to talk about pre workout, post workout, maybe you think he's going to
offer some special technique about how to super sad or how to focus on pull one day and push another
day, you know, these are, you know, sort of things that you would think that he talks about.
		
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			But he doesn't. One of the things he focuses most on, he says at the beginning of every workout,
what I would do is I would close my eyes and think of what I want it to be.
		
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			And then I would start every day, I just kept thinking of that person that I want it to be. And when
things were burning, and they were hurting, I kept thinking about that person that I want it to be.
And the statement of his is phenomenal. Because you can take that to marriage. You can take that to
studying Islam, you can they tap to being a family member, a good friend, and you close your eyes
before you enter into any moment and ask yourself, what do I want to be?
		
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			If I don't have a dream of what I want to be, then I can't be anything meaningful. I have to see a
dream first. It all starts with seeing a dream. A person sees a dream that maybe one day I'll serve
them.
		
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			And then they close their eyes at the beginning of every day and they see that dream again that one
day maybe I'll serve the one day I'll serve the dean. One day I'll serve the dean. One day I'll
serve the dean and they just keep seeing that dream again and again. And then they accomplish it.
But if they've never seen a dream, how will they ever move forward? Now even though he speaks in the
context of weightlifting and, you know, fuzzy principle stance, we bring it over to Islamic matters.
We talked about
		
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			that what I liked
		
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			and I think
		
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			everyone would agree here at least, that we want the adverb of a suit Alaska Lohani was
		
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			those characters that were praised in the Quran? Allah azza wa jal said we're in Nicola Allah
Colcannon.
		
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			In Nicaragua
		
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			now tell me where I sort of lost a lot when he was going through a fit.
		
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			Tell me where a sort of loss Allahu Allah was said I'm lost control of his tongue.
		
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			Tell me where Rasul Allah said Allamani was sent him was insensitive. Tell me when when I other
Billa
		
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			it'd be so long while he was sort of Aberdeen full monitor person when I other than that, when I
hold on Upload.
		
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			Tell me where did this happen? for his own benefit. He cheated another human being when a hold on
uploading.
		
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			And he said along while he was sitting was very considered every person. He returns from a battle.
And it's the practice of the many companions, the meridians that they would send their children
while the mothers would be at home preparing the food, preparing food and preparing a meal for the
arrival of their husbands. They would send their children to go and walk their father's home. So the
children will come and meet their parents. And those children whose fathers did not return because
they were martyred. Maybe said Allahu Allah, he was seven would return them to his to their homes
himself. I don't
		
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			know.
		
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			On one hand, well under hohiro Hello Kyla, he called me that he is the he has the highest rank of
all of humanity. But on the other hand, he doesn't want a child walking home alone.
		
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			o'clock
		
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			right? A person studies the heart of a suitable civilized maybe some Allamani was sent goes to
someone's home. The person offers the Prophet of Allah vinegar to eat vinegar is nothing. It's not
something special. Let me sow some seeds, the shame on the person's face.
		
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			And then in order to cheer him up and so no one judges him. He takes bread dips into the vinegar and
says near family DOM and how amazing is vinegar when it comes to eating? We love it. Cheer the man.
		
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			Make a Mac.
		
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			A child bird dies, maybe salsa goes to cheer him.
		
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			A mother is sitting at the grave of her child and she's crying. Maybe said a loved one he was sort
of against our condolences.
		
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			his grandchild is passing away he doesn't have the courage to go through the route Zenodo the Allahu
Allah sent someone and said Go and call my father. My child is passing away. Maybe saw some
convenience condolences.
		
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			That messenger came back with the condolences. She said I need him here.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he came to the room
		
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			woman he was heartbroken to see his grandchild passing away. And he says to her in many Lahemaa
Assad one of them out for collusion and determinism for speedy well that the ECB were in the NA.
Nene Raju gives her condolences. He's there by the side of his daughter while she's experiencing
such a difficult moment as your child's passing up.
		
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			Manners may be said Allahu alayhi wa sallam He scolds ma but the loved one someone dear and beloved
to the Prophet of Allah. He scolds him for what for leading salam to log
		
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			is that something school similar
		
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			not making it this is not something school people over you congratulate them Masha Allah Sufi level
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			long prayer the piece of awesome uses a third NTR ma when kind of Imam in confined Hafiz
		
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			Omar, are you causing fitna among the people. These people have a task to complete these are the
farmers that complete they sort of messenger Allah we have we're busy work we're exhausted become to
prayer. He makes prayer long. It's difficult for us to be said Allamani was said and says whoever is
Imam from among you should keep the salah brief. Now on top of that, if someone wants long prayers
for that you have no option all day and all night. Right the other piece teaching modern German or
the law one but even when it comes to your religious matters, you must always take into into
consideration this is what is the Sahaba they would come to the door of an abusive Allahu Allah was
		
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			someone they would knock they would use the tip of their fingers
		
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			the one that's awake can hear it while the one that's sleeping isn't disturbed.
		
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			Now
		
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			the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam would lie down next to eyeshadow, the Allah was unhappy. He would
have the desire to worship. He wouldn't just get up and meet he would ask Ayesha Do I have your
permission to spend the night in the EVA da la?
		
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			Ah, Adam
		
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			when the visa Allahu Allah was someone walk with people he didn't like being treated as a king so he
would walk at the back and have respect for them. But the people always also knew that when they
were with him he said a lot of them he should be in the front set this interesting dynamic going
		
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			right. Hello? Khalifa gala Juan says that when we sat with on a suit of Lhasa, Allah Juana he will
send them no one would extend their hand eat if we were eating until the profit of a light first.
		
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			This is the proper these are the proper or not. These are the add up the visa Allahu alayhi wa
sallam in his in his model with Abu Bakr Siddiq, the Allah one is leading Salah he is in the middle
of prayer, he noticed that there be some Allahu alayhi wa sallam arrives, does you continue his
prayer?
		
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			He continues but as you continue leading, that's the question. I guess. He steps aside.
		
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			Let me say hello, my name is half the prayer. And he'll have to pray. It was the last prayer so the
Masasa left. It was a door Salah healer half the prayer want to do the alarm on the other house. And
then the results of them gave what was referred to as his final public sermon. On up add up, that
how can a person lead the only person to lead a sort of loss and along while he was set them in
prayer was who I'm going to Amman been out for the novel we covered this divide today and rich got
action and other minerals Rhodiola. One was a one Sahabi lead there is a lot of sun in prayer. And
even he didn't know that he saw someone was at the back. He's leading a demo and if he saw some
		
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			joins from behind,
		
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			and they pray behind it.
		
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			So this is something that can never be forgotten.
		
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			The manners of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and how the Sahaba interacted with him. When
I study, the Syrah of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam, the biography of the Prophet sallallahu
sallam. I'm very much interested in this. Because I feel by understanding them how Baba existed that
love and understanding the dynamics of how they respected one another. It teaches me of how true
love exists because true love is a result of sacrifice and that sacrifice is first and foremost
offered in the form of manners.
		
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			A person has no etiquette for another person and they say I love you. That's
		
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			that's the sort of thing they show on screen as abusive relationships. Or someone claims they love
them but then they have no regard for that person. This is an abusive relationship. This is not the
prophetic way of interacting with other people.
		
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			So this whole Kadima, this whole introduction today
		
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			is to help us realign ourselves and kind of refocus. What is this even all about? What is it
		
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			Class even about
		
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			this is one of those classes, this is one of those subjects.
		
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			So enjoyable to listen to.
		
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			Because when you listen to it, there's a picture that appears before your eyes of how beautiful the
world would be if people actually cared and the people were mindful that they were considered. But
when you walk out the doors, you begin to realize the world hasn't changed one bit.
		
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			And human beings will unfortunately continue to be vile and bitter. And because it's so much more
easier to do just that.
		
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			My children,
		
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			I always referenced them, because that's my first place of
		
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			therapy. I'm always working on them. We did this long road trip during the Thanksgiving break.
		
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			And I noticed that they were quarreling and arguing with one another a lot. And that's normal,
they're less than a year apart. And they're all same age. So the arguing they're all, you know,
fighting over the same things.
		
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			So I said to them, while we're on this trip together for the next nine days, I want to coach you
guys on how to have disagreements.
		
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			So continue your disagreements. But whenever you feel like things need a little bit of a nudge, just
raise your hand and say Attack,
		
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			attack, which means you're in them. So that I'll come in. And I'll tell you guys some
considerations. And then I'll leave the conversation. And you guys can continue arguing with one
another, you can continue. But let me give you guys some considerations.
		
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			And then one of the things I said to them is that being bitter, is what people generally do, because
it's a lot easier.
		
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			It's easier to be bitter, it's more familiar. It's what you've seen, it's what you've heard, it's
what you've experienced, it's easier to be bitter, it doesn't require any brain power. The downside
to being bitter, even with your own daughter, even with your own son, the downside is, if you're
bitter once, you will probably experienced bitterness from that person, you will need to be better
in return. And it's a never ending cycle. That's a result of laziness, but it's very painful in the
long run.
		
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			You guys understand that because no solution comes from it. Or what you can do, and I said to them,
is that we can work a little on the front end, together right now. And we can figure out how to
communicate in moments of difficulty with proper other. And if we accomplish it, it's not going to
be easy. This might take years, but we can try. And if we do accomplish it, the end result will be
muck.
		
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			So you do all the work on the front end.
		
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			And then when you reach your 30s 40s 50s 60s 70s 80s, you enjoy the fruits for the rest of your
life. But we're gonna have to work for two or three years, it's gonna be a lot of hard work. I've
experienced this firsthand. Myself, my older brother who was just three years older than me, it
would be
		
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			because we both grew up in an environment where we were surrounded by scholars and seniors. And we
both grew up in an environment where other was so emphasized
		
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			our interactions with one another are very far from what you would generally see between two
brothers.
		
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			Our interactions are I view him more like a father. He views me more like His Son, even though the
gap is how many years, three years. It's because we chose to interact with each other, with other
		
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			with other. There was a part of our life where that other didn't exist. We were young, and early
teens used to fight fist fights. I was bitter, say mean things was too exhausting, though. You guys
understand that? All that fighting all that shouting, all that bickering, all this posturing, It's
too tiring.
		
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			So we didn't consciously do this. But I think at some point, Allah subhanaw taala intervened and
said, You know what timeout you to
		
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			ourselves. And we started focusing on our Islam and focusing on ourselves. And when that reform came
piece, if someone asked me when's the last time him and I had a disc, a full blown sort of
contention, I would say maybe in 13 years that happened once and it was a business issue. It wasn't
a personal issue in 13 years.
		
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			Now, this is not a brag, I'm not doing that. What I'm trying to point out is a personal example of a
relationship not being where I was hoping that it would be two people worked on it individually
themselves, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada opened up certain paths, and then the relationship became very
easy.
		
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			You can do this with every one of your relationships. You can do this with anything and everything.
		
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			If
		
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			there is any wire, that once a person came to see the lesson a lot of women will be nice to their
loved one and
		
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			a person came to meet or sort of lost a lot.
		
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			And then all sudden was said some good things in front of him
		
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			when the person left maybe saw some set of 100 nose, dodged a bullet. Didn't say those exact words.
But what did he say guys?
		
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			Once again Yeah.
		
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			dodged a bullet there. So I have the one I said. When he came, he said good things. And then when he
left you said Dr. Levy said Allahu alayhi wa sallam said the worst of people are those whose evil is
such that you are terrified of their evil and what harm they can cause you while they're sitting in
front of you.
		
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			So you have to posture that you know that I don't want to hurt this person's feelings because if I
say something, this person will spew evil in a way that's beyond control. And this is an interesting
point because you learn to pick your battles. People assume that you said Allahu Allah was gonna
pick the Battle of everyone. That didn't happen by the way. Is that clear? For those of you who are
valuable warriors sitting in this room right now, that's not what happened. This is not what it was
sent in was very clear and categorical about money. Not the moon kit. Two different things. Moon car
was what guys the wrong anytime someone was wrong, he openly said it. Is that clear guys? That is
		
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			the month of rissalah Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or any of the BT is required to do that
otherwise their RUSADA is incomplete. Their prophet or messages incomplete, they have to have the
you have to speak against the wrong. However, maybe someone never called up. He did not always call
up every person that did something evil at every moment in particular if they weren't doing the evil
in that moment.
		
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			And you learned this through how to be so awesome interacted with the Jews and Madina Munawwara and
how we interacted with the we're not just wondering Madina, Munawwara the golfer of the Yehuda
Madina, Munawwara had openly declared that this was not not acceptable. But does that mean every
time he sat with him he brought it up again and again and again and again. That's not what happened.
If the time was right, the opportunity was right. So Souter Lawson Allahu Allah will sort of address
the issue. As for that individual Moshe raw Hadith say he was someone and these hypocrites would
cause so much fitna in Madina, Munawwara they would stir people against some sort of lesson allottee
		
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			and in some cases unfortunately, they were successful
		
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			therefore you have slid on when Africa
		
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			Why was someone African revealed?
		
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			You guys know why.
		
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			Maybe said Allamani was cinemas once returning from a trip this is a long anyway. I'm not going to
go through all the details. Just to give you an idea. They were returning from a trip a journey
seven.
		
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			They had stopped in a place there was a well they're two people went to get water and the 200
dispute. Things got heated. One wasn't unsavoury. The other was a Mahajan. Anyone was from Medina
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			from Makkah. Things got heated. Someone said something another person said something to unsalted.
People gathered on one side the Mojito and gathered on the other side. This was the only trip only
battle within Sula. So some of them were not gonna actually came as well. Otherwise, usually they
would dip halfway through. These guys actually went all the way through. Now.
		
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			The one African were there they saw these Mahajan, I'm sorry, fighting so he stood next to the
Ansari guy because he was Madani right from Medina. And they said, You people. And they said, what
do they say? Salmon callback? Yep. Cortana that make your dog fat, delete your food.
		
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			What do they say that we fell you guys we took care of you and now you disrespect us like this? And
they said that when we get back to Medina, we will take you disgraceful people up.
		
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			He was referring to the Prophet of Allah. And then how do you know
		
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			when a young Sahabi hurts? He went to the pseudo Law Center right away.
		
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			He told one of his relatives, his uncle that I heard the guy say that that's a holy war. You trying
to cause civil war in Medina.
		
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			So this senior person went to the city of Los Angeles and right away.
		
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			He told him to be sort of licen
		
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			maybe saw something called the child.
		
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			And he shared what he heard about her sort of lesson didn't say he was wrong, but also understood
that he had to be very careful with this information because if he accepted this information that
meant what
		
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			there was going to be a really nasty
		
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			outcome because those people would have to be punished for that this was a betrayal of the treaties
that they had signed and this can't be accepted
		
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			we saw someone called Abdullah bin obey been settled in who was the head of the African setting Did
you say this he denied it no I didn't
		
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			but everyone knew he said
		
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			his son found out his son was Abdullah bin Abdullah bin obey when he was a local his sincere
believer by the way when he found out that his father said this when they were so I can let me let
me go back a little maybe also them then said to everyone, everyone pack your bags we're leaving.
We're not going to stay here a minute more. This is the intelligence under these awesome because he
knew the anger was still simmering and people were still cooking in that moment. So rather than just
letting them sit there and argue more What did he say? Let's create some movement change of scenery.
Let's move from here. Let's keep talking. So everyone Packer stuff we're doing
		
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			Abdullah bin Abdullah Abdullah, the son of this mafia of the lovey dovey missiles, Abdullah bin
Abdullah when he found out what his father did, he stood outside Medina and told his father, I won't
let you enter into Medina until you apologize to the Prophet.
		
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			You will go to him and say you're sorry the wise I want.
		
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			Allah subhana wa Tada reveals soon I'm an African exposing them and saying you're who Luna Raja Ana
el Medina de la euphoria, Jana Azu. Men and other they say, I want to return to Medina, the
Honorable will kick out extend to exile the disgraced ones, this is how you speak, when in law is to
one year or Suri will not mean honor belongs to who?
		
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			Allah.
		
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			Allah him is that a lot is belongs to honor belongs to Allah, what do you know? So he into his, his
messenger? What am I mean?
		
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			And to the believers as for the hypocrites, they don't know any better. Right? The whole surah is
revealed in this context right here, reminding us of this.
		
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			So maybe said Allahu Allah he was sending when he would interact with these different groups, he had
to be very careful. I showed the Allah when I says this man came in front of the beast, a lot of
them, the Prophet was kind with him. When he left him, he saw some said Dausa dodged a bullet. And
he said that this is the worst type of person.
		
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			And today, I think maybe we'll end our class with this question.
		
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			Are you that person?
		
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			That's
		
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			Are you that person,
		
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			that people around you are terrified to say what they really believe of you, they're terrified to be
honest with you, because they understand honesty with you means there will be a raft that follows
that they're not interested in facing.
		
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			Unfortunately, this is the reality of we addressed this in our previous class, many relationships
children have with their parents.
		
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			The parents say Be honest with me, the child is too terrified, to be honest.
		
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			That if I say what I believe, I'm not really I'm not ready to deal with the storm that follows that
honesty. So we'll continue to be dishonest
		
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			friends and classmates, they may have a person may have an overpowering personality, overwhelming
personnel. So they go around being abusive and being our everyone else display.
		
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			And they know the best thing to do at this moment is just nod your head and smile and let this
moment pass so that way, you don't have to deal with the headache.
		
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			So I asked you guys, are you those people? And I asked myself this question, Am I that person?
		
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			Because people are not going to tell us they're terrified of us. They're terrified to tell us the
truth. They're worried that they may be shamed on social media or canceled. Someone may open up a
group against them, where people just spew hate against you.
		
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			But in this moment, in this world that we live in, honesty will need to start with yourself, you'll
have to reflect on yourself. That Am I that person? Have I become that husband? Have I become that
wife? Have I become that parent that I said I would never be today? Have I become that parent? Have
I become that child that I always said that when I grew up, I would love my parents and respect them
and honor them. And today I've become the child and my parents are annoyed with me. They can't speak
with me. Have I become that child?
		
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			I always said that I would be a good human being and I would care for mankind. That's what I was
taught in first grade and second grade and that was a dream that I had today as that mankind that
adult have I become that person that I despise when I was young children are
		
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			so beautiful and innocent. They have these amazing dreams. They have no idea what kind of knifes
they are up against in life.
		
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			And all the traps of the dunya and Shavon and all the icky Nikki, dirt that's going through this
cloud and gunk, their heart.
		
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			And you look back at yourself and you begin to wonder how simple things were when you were young.
		
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			And then you look at yourself today and see how messy things have become.
		
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			Realization will need to come from within.
		
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			Understanding others is wisdom.
		
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			Understanding yourself is enlightenment.
		
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			You want enlightenment you're gonna have to understand yourself.
		
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			It all starts with yourself. This is why the Fatima Teskey essay might not have enough so who is
		
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			the one who recognizes himself is now on the path of recognizing his Lord. You can never know a law
unless you know yourself first. Because you have to fix you have to clean there's a lot of amending
that needs to occur a lot of fixing that needs to occur.
		
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			That happens by purifying yourself and improving yourself in a sort of lost Alanya someone make this
beautiful too
		
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			but this is one second.
		
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			Allahumma Atene FC
		
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			UCLA and then was the Kiha and the hiraman Sokka. Unter Walia
		
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			Allahumma iconnfc Taqwa Allah and give my heart it's consciousness. Give it perspective, give it let
was a ke ha and
		
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			purify it.
		
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			And the high lumens aka You are the Best of those who can purify my heart. Under Walia, you are its
companion or Mola and its master. You are both young. You are the friend of mine is the companion of
minus the creator of minus Pomona. And it's faster to it's all in your hands. Here's another
beautiful Wow, it slipped my mind where I lost my McLaughlin a sloth
		
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			Yes, so that's another lot of email. So it's it's reported that I sort of lost a lot of somebody
read this while we're looking in the mirror Lahoma Vakama
		
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			has sent a healthy for has seen her looking, oh Allah just as you beautify my external, beautify my
internet, but there's another
		
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			excite it's not coming to my mind, maybe I'll look it up and I'll share with your parents another
time. These are the laws that need to be made though. You raise your hands and you pray to Allah,
you ask Him for guidance and for purifying yourself.
		
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			So we close today's class, we didn't do much reading. But
		
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			hopefully it's a reminder, something that helps realign the attention and focus that we need for
this class and the importance of this class. Like I was saying, this is not one of those classes
that you just listen and leave. This is a class that when you walk out those doors, you realize the
world isn't picture perfect. So you have to start working on yourself.
		
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			When you improve yourself, other people will find inspiration to see strengthen you to see beauty in
you. They'll understand how how amazing life could be when human beings are predictable. It's the
ones that are unpredictable that are gosh, they're difficult to deal with. You don't know when it's
like a landmine. You don't know when things are gonna go kaboom. So you have to watch very carefully
where you place your foot. Allah subhanho wa Taala gives Sophia
		
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			Mirza Asadullah. Hi Lipset the famous novel poet.
		
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			He said Omar you he has the character his valid
		
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			Oh,
		
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			you repeatedly made the same mistake throughout your life. All my buddy knew he was sicker today.
Solid double jeopardy hum ins after today.
		
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			You kept cleaning the mirror while in reality it was your face that was dirty.
		
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			The mirror never needed any cleaning. Your face was his tutor. Last night granite stuff. Well said
Allahu Allah.
		
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			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.