Hosai Mojaddidi – Intentional Parenting No More Passive Parenting; Treat Your Teen as a Friend

If you think you know, sending your kids to school or dropping

them off to a Sunday school and you have all these other adults

and all these other influencers, helping raise your children is

kind of okay because that's all that you have, you can do. And,

and you don't realize that they need to supplement all of that,

because a lot of it is out of your control, you don't know what

they're exposed to at school, even in Sunday school, you have no idea

what your kids are exposed to, it's so important to strike a

balance and say, for X amount of hours, I don't talk to my kids, I

don't know what's going on. I don't know who they're talking to

what they're learning, I have to fill in the time that I have with

them by connection and talking. So please like when you're with them

at the dinner table, as Dr. Reddy has said or differentiated from

me, when you're with them in those spaces where you're actually with

them physically, please don't waste that time. Oh my God, that's

like a horrible, it's squandering valuable time that you have to

actually get to know what is going on with them. But if you're

thinking, oh, you know, I'm just, I'm being a good parent. I'm

educating them, I'm sending them here, I'm paying for this class,

I'm paying for that, you know, I got my, you know, my stripes as a

parent. That's not enough. In the teen years, you actually it's

recommended that you you'd be friend that you we wouldn't treat

our friends that way, who treats their friends that way where

you're not even talking to them, and you're distracted. When we're

with our friends, we are with our friends. And the advice is to

treat your teens as your friends. So be with them, talk to them, get

to know them, and you will see the demand dynamics in your family

shift. But if you think I'm just doing the basic bare minimum and

doing this and doing that, and outsourcing and outsourcing, and

I'm a good cook, and I do this, and that's enough and there's no

conversation. You're this is this is what's going to happen. You're

gonna have all these issues, and may God protect you from that