Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Riyd alSlihn Sneezing Yawning Handshakes Hugs Kisses 004092017.mp4

Hamzah Wald Maqbul
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The importance of sneezing and yawning during the holy month is discussed, along with advice on avoiding loud noises and trying to reduce one's voice. The physical makeup of a donkey is also discussed, including his "has no sound" and "has a face that causes noise." The speaker emphasizes the importance of showing character and conduct, kissing people, and proving acceptance of kissing and love. The use of shaking hands in public settings is also discussed, along with the importance of showing faith and love. The speaker also discusses the use of the hadith of the prophet sallali Alaihi wa sallam to prove acceptance of kissing and parting.
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This is the chapter regarding the recommendation,

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to respond,

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by invoking Allah's mercy on the one who

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sneezes and then praises Allah

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and the

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dislikedness

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of,

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doing so for the one who doesn't praise

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Allah most high, and the explanation

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regarding the

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proper etiquette of,

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of of giving these

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blessings and benedictions on the one who sneezes

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and how to sneeze and how to yawn.

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The say it now,

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who narrates from the prophet

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that he said, indeed, Allah,

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loves this the the that a person should

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sneeze, and he dislikes that they should yawn.

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So if a person sneezes,

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and they praise Allah to Allah, it is

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that person's right upon every Muslim that hears

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and praise Allah to Allah that they should

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invoke Allah's mercy upon him by saying,

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may

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Allah have mercy on you.

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And as for the one who yawns, then

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the yawn comes from Shaitan.

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And

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if a person amongst you should yawn, let

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them suppress it as much as they're able

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to,

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for indeed,

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one of you, when you yawns, Shaitan laughs

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at at them because of it. It's a

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narration of Bukhari.

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So the idea is what?

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The idea is that this when a person

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sneezes sneezes, it's a sign of the vigor

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of the body.

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Person sneezes,

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it's

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so such a strong reaction

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that it actually temporarily stops the heart

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for an instant.

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And, the entire body has to brace for

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it. It's a sign of the vigor of

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the body. This comes back to the hadith

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of the prophet

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that the strong believer

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is,

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more beloved to Allah than the weak believer.

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It's better and more beloved to Allah than

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the weak believer, and there's good in both

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of them.

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So the sneeze is a sign of the

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strength of the vigor of of the body.

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And a person says,

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upon sneezing,

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because of that. And then the person who

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hears him says

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out of,

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out of and

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out of kindness to that person because the

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body literally, the entire body cringes and it

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leaves its normal mode of being for just

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a minute. And so it's like a dua

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that Allah restore you to your your normal

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and your regular state. The reason the yawn

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is something that's not

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that's not something that,

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is praiseworthy

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is what is because it's a sign of

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the weakness of a person. It's a sign

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of the

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the the the the flagging and waning,

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strength and power of a person.

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And so when a person yawns,

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then what they should do is a,

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suppress it to the to the best of

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their ability.

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And that means what? By covering your covering

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your mouth, not letting your

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leaving your mouth open.

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When a person yawns, what are they supposed

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to do?

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Suppress it by covering covering their mouth.

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This is something I think

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it's like a psychological effect. When one person

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yawns, everybody else then wants to yawn. It

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becomes contagious. It's a sign that the body

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is weakening. It's a sign that a person

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has eaten too much. It's a sign that

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a person is tired. They're waning. They're flagging.

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Obviously,

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there's no it's not a sin.

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The idea is just that a person should,

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a person should

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like the

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the position of being in strength,

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and a person should,

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also display strength.

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And there are many people that look strong

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and inside they're weak,

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But because of it, they benefit.

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And,

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there are many people that are strong,

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but it's not because they are, you know,

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somehow swanning through life, but it's because of

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their having accustomed themselves to being able to

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put up with difficulty

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and and being able to strive

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and, keep themselves together when in a state

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of weakness.

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1, I guess, insight toward this is that

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I'm told by by nurses,

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and if anyone is a nurse, they can

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corroborate whether this is true or not. That

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oftentimes, the worst patients are young men

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because they're not accustomed to the sight of

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their own blood and they're not accustomed to

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going through difficulty or enduring pain. So small

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things happen to them and they freak out.

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Whereas, you know, women, especially women who've gone

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through childbirth or really old people that have

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gone through difficulty and what not, they will

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go through extremely painful and traumatic things, and

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they'll be able to deal deal with it.

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They'll be able to keep it together. Why?

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Because

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they, you know, there's one thing is that

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the the the strength that you have,

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because the situation you're in, and another thing

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is the the strength that you have,

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in order to endure

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pain psychologically, your endurance,

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and your ability to deal with your weakness.

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And so this is one of those things.

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The fact that you're tired is not bad.

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The fact that you're indulging yourself for being

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tired or showing other people how tired you

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are, that's the the issue here. And that's

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what makes Shaytan happy is the the fact

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that you look weak when you're doing that.

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So when a person yawns, let them suppress

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it let them conceal it from other people,

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lest they make a show of their weakness

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and show everybody how tired they are.

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Nobody needs to be like self reliant and

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I'm going to * now. It's not a

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sin. It's just it's just a

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it's something just to understand.

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It's mentioned about,

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it's a hadith

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from

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that the prophet never yawned by the way.

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This is from the of the prophet, sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam, one need not beat themselves

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up if

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they're if they're not able to do that.

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Who also narrates from the prophet

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that he said when one of you should

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sneeze,

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they should say, Alhamdulillah,

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and their brother should say to them,

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or their companion should say to them,

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may Allah

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have mercy on you.

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And when he when his companion says to

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him, may may Allah have mercy on you,

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then let him respond back.

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May Allah guide you and may he rectify

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your,

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rectify your your your thoughts

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or your condition.

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Muslim.

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Abu

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Musa Al Ashari

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who narrates that I heard the messenger of

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Allah

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say,

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when one of you should sneeze,

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and,

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praise Allah to Allah, then for the rest

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of the people, they should it's a command

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that they should,

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respond to that,

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by saying

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And if that person doesn't say then others

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shouldn't say

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This is something I see people do also

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that someone will not say Alhamdulillah, they'll say

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anyway. It's Makruel to do that.

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It's a it's it's must have had to

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send out to

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it's recommended for a person to say when

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they sneeze. If you hear them say it,

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then it's even more emphasized of a emphasized

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of a sunnah to say your

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If you don't hear them say it, then

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a person should

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refrain from saying anything.

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And then after that person says, you're then

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it's also there's a mild,

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a mild

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recommendation to say what

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Guide you and and and rectify your your

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your such your condition.

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That being said,

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there's another narration.

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I don't know if he's going to bring

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it or not, but there's another narration that

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also,

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that the prophet

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said

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in response to the Tashmit,

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forgive forgive us and forgive you.

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And, both of them are both of them

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are are fine fine for a person to

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do or say.

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So who narrates that 2 men sneezed

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close to the prophet

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and the prophet

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gave a benediction to one of them and

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he didn't give it to the other.

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The one who didn't receive the benediction,

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he said so and so sneezed, and you

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gave him a a a benediction.

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Didn't give it to me. He said, sallallahu

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alayhi wasalam,

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the other one who sneezed, he praised Allah,

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ta'ala,

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and you didn't praise Allah.

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The

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who narrates that the messenger of Allah sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam when he sneezed, He would

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put his, hand or a cloth,

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over his arms or a cloth over, his

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nose in order to,

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decrease or lower the sound. So some people,

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when they sneeze, it's like a like a

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jungle animal,

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you know, is like whatever about to pounce

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on its prey or something like that.

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I guess that's fine. Everybody has a different

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physical makeup and things like that. But the

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sunnah is to try to reduce the amount

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of noise that you make when you

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when you sneeze,

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as much as possible. And Nabi Sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam, he covered his sneeze with his

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arm or with his

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with his, with with with a piece of

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cloth that he has. Like, so if you

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have a chadar or shawl or something like

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that,

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it's a to

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to try to dampen it as much as

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possible

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instead of instead of,

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sneezing so loud. Obviously, sometimes it's involuntary, what

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can you do? But to the,

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to the

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degree you're

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you're you're able to you're supposed

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to keep your, keep the volume down. In

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general, like, making loud noises and stuff like

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that is not

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it's not, it's not something that in general,

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it's not from the adab of the sunnah

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of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.

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Their

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ability to move with

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grace and with,

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gravity and with, calmness,

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to do stuff with calmness. This is one

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of the things

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I got to meet one of my my

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my my teachers that I read Malek Iffik

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from the one that I spent the most

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time with actually out of all of them

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in Madina Munawara.

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And he's this is one of the things

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you know, you see someone after, like, 10

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years

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or whatever, 8, 10 years,

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then,

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you remember things about them. One of the

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things is he completely boycotts, like, he doesn't

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he boycotts, like, ever getting angry about stuff.

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People do the most ridiculous things, and he's

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just like, you know what? I'm not gonna

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I mean, he didn't say it on his

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tongue, but his speaks like that that I'm

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not gonna I I refuse to just get

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angry or upset about this. And he's a

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person who's extremely calm and and very graceful

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in the way that he moves around.

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And, he actually mentioned this. He actually mentioned

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this, the the hadith in which the prophet

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would praise people for

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for their their ability to just be chill

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about everything. So yelling and screaming is like

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the opposite of that that nabawi trait.

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So people should be people should, you know,

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try to do that as much as possible.

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Even in battle, the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam disliked it when people would scream or,

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you know, make noises like that. So day

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to day things,

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they're probably more,

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worthy that a person should try to keep

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their keep their voice down.

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It comes in the Quran that the the

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most

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the most, detestable of voices is the the

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it's the Surat Luqman.

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He gives advice to his son that not

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to raise his voice because the most detestable

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voices the voice of the, the donkey.

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The donkey makes this really loud shriek and

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type of noise.

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That's that's what's referred to in the

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the Quran.

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It's actually the noise that the people in

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the hellfire will make when there's screams.

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Alright? The and the shahik, the donkey makes

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one type of noise when it breathes in

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and one type of noise when it breathes

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out.

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Those are not that's not something that a

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person should

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should generally, any trait of a donkey is

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not

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not something that a person,

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would love to be described by. So

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that being said, donkeys have some good traits.

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What are what's a good trait of a

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donkey? Say something nice about a donkey in.

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I got nothing.

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Say something nice about a donkey.

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Nobody. They work. They work hard. They carry

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They carry they carry

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loads and burdens. They work hard.

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So the idea is that, okay, there's always

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something good to say about everything.

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In general, though, it's, you know, the other

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traits are not

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the package the whole package is not something

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a person should want even there may be

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individual things that a donkey donkey does that's

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good. There's something good to say about every

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right?

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And his disciples once passed by the the

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rotting corpse of a pig,

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and he commented

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how beautiful the white teeth were. And so,

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his his disciples were

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flabbergasted.

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Right? Because pig is not pig is generally

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not a nice thing. Right? So why would

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a nabi say something nice about a the

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rotting corpse of a dead pig,

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which is even more disgusting than a regular

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pig?

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Someone asked him, so why did you why

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did you say that after, like, so long

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keeping it? And he said, why did you

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say that? He said, I know I know

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it seems like pretty detestable.

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I just didn't wanna say something bad lest

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I've

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gained the habit of just speaking ill about

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things all the time.

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That's also that's also problematic. A person, if

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if they see themselves saying too much negative,

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then they should they should check themselves

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from that. It's not a it's not a

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good sign. It doesn't mean that we can

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you know, we're supposed to not

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we're supposed to, like, the mind should, like,

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forego its ability to analyze things. But if

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everything you're saying is negative, then something's something's

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wrong.

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And in general, it's a it's a prophetic

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trait also to not focus on on negativity

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more than is is utterly necessary.

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So can

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say something nice about the rotting corpse of

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a dead pig. There's a, you know, you

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can always find something nice to say.

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Oftentimes, when you say something nice about someone

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or something, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy

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as well. It becomes a way for them

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to behave dig in a dignified way. Whereas

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if all you say, especially people who have

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kids or people who are teachers who have

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students,

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Even if you're,

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your your student or your child is, like,

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in the moment, a complete, like, mess up,

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Try to say something nice about the kid

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from, you know, regularly so that they have

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a way of behaving dignified.

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If you don't give them any option except

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for to behave badly

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or to behave like a a a screw

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up, then, you know, don't be surprised if

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that's that's all they do. You didn't give

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them any other choice at that point.

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They used to sneeze with one another next

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to the prophet

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hoping that he would say to them, you're

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And

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and what he would say to them is

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what? He would just skip the.

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Right? What is it? You sneeze?

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And said,

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then the the

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benediction that said in in responses,

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have mercy on you. And then the benediction

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that said in response to that is what,

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may Allah guide you and,

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rectify your state. So the Jews would would

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would would would of Medina Munawara would sneeze

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in front of the prophet

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hoping that he would make,

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that he would he would he would give

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them the dua of of of that may

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Allah have mercy on you.

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Because they saw the the the barakat and

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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. It's not

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just the Jews of Medina. It's the same

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thing with the and of Quresh.

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They saw the that used to follow the

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prophet

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the blessings that used to follow follow him

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around.

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Who was wrongfully enslaved.

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Was wrongfully enslaved and,

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because of that,

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the prophet

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actually purchased

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him and freed him.

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And he gave him the that

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he said that the Salman is from my

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family.

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Why? Because the freed slave of a person

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is considered to be like is considered to

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be like a family member.

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In fact, in our sacred Sharia, if somebody

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dies

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and the only per they have no relatives,

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only a a a slave that they freed,

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Or if a a freed slave dies and

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they don't have any inheriting relatives, only the

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master who freed them, that relationship actually has,

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a, mirof in it that you actually inherit

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from one another

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as well.

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Or if there's the the the

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what you call the,

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the people who see fixed shares, the fixed

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shares are taken and then there's money left

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over,

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then the

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the person who either freed the freed the

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person or the person who,

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was freed. They'll they'll they'll they'll they'll inherit

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from one another.

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And so who was the,

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the freed slave

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and the the mola of the prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam. And one of the either

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what basically, the the price of freeing him

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was what? Was that the the who owned

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the prophet,

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sorry, the the that owned,

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he said that,

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so many trees date palm trees. You have

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to plant them for me,

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in my orchard.

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And, once they start giving fruit, then then

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he's free.

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And so,

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the prophet

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planted the entire orchard. Only one tree said

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this, Omar who

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saw that he was

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except for what? Except for the one that's

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in the Omar planted.

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He narrates the Hadith himself. He says, except

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for the one that I that I planted.

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And so he the prophet said, show me

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where that tree is. And so he uprooted

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it and planted another tree in its place,

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and that one also gave fruit in the

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same year.

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But these people saw these things from.

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It's just that they, you know, for whatever

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reason of that every human being, you know,

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has this thing inside of them, the nuffs

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that doesn't allow them to accept the truth

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from somebody

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or doesn't, you know, allow them to accept

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that somebody else is better than them or

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as good as them or whatever.

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Because of whatever, they couldn't accept the dean.

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But there are a number of a number

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of a number of,

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stories like this. There was a young Jewish

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boy, he was dying.

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And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam went

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to visit him on his deathbed, and he

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said to him, say, la ilaha illallah, and

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Muhammad rasoolallah

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say that there's no god except for Allah

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and that say in the is his messenger.

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And so he looked up at his it's

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also it's narrowed in the in the in

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the real Salihin. We'll get to it

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with regards to the adaba visiting the visiting

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the dying, the sick and the dying. And

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so he he he looked up at his

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parents, like, as if to get permission from

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them.

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And so they're not they they're not Muslims.

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They're they're they're Jews,

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but he looks after them for permission.

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And,

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they say to

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him

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they say, obey

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what he says. Right? The prophet

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that that's his his his is Abu Qasim

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So they obey Abu Qasim. And so he

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said, laha illallah Muhammadur Rasool Allah before dying.

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Meaning he knew and he wanted to. He

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had love for the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam.

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Because the the kind way the prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam treated him. Imagine that this

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is a a kid, he's not even

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he's not even a Muslim.

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The prophet

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went to visit him,

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while he was sick and he's on his

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deathbed.

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And his parents also gave permission

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because they knew this is a good man.

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He's not gonna tell him something wrong.

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Whatever it was inside of them, you know,

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they didn't say get lost. They said what?

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They said, whatever Abu Kassan says, go ahead

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and say it. And so the prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam left her on that madras

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happy. He said that because of my intercession,

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my duas that this person, this young boy

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will

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be from the people of salvation on the

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day of judgment. But at any rate, the

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the the hadith is what? That they used

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to sneeze in front of one another.

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And you'll see things like that as well.

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You'll see things like that happen

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even here. If you show good character and

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conduct to people, a person may not accept

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Islam.

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We also don't need to be, like, you

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know, super,

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super missionary mode where we're, tagging and bagging

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conversions.

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The whole idea of of of

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giving the message to people is not that

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you're going to guide lost souls.

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That's what Allah Ta'ala does.

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The idea is that you you and I

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are given a, a sacred task to perform

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on behalf of the prophet

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from Allah Ta'ala.

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And if we perform it, we'll be rewarded.

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And if we don't, then those people will

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bear witness against us on the day of

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judgement. What they do with that message once

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they receive it is between them and Allah

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to Allah. And people act in funny ways.

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You know, they'll they'll they'll know Islam and

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they'll love Islam

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far before they'll accept it.

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And that's not something to be surprised about.

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In fact, it's something that a person should

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have confidence in what what, you know, what

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the teachings of the d n r that

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people will accept them and they'll see the

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good and they'll acknowledge the good in them

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whether they accept it or not.

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So they there are these people they used

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to sneeze in front of the prophet in

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order to receive, his prayers and his his

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duas.

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And the prophet

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when they would do that instead of saying

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to them, he would say

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he would say may Allah guide you and

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rectify your your your your your,

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your condition.

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Who narrates

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that the messenger of Allah

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said,

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if one of you should yawn,

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let them

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let them

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put their hand on their

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on their mouth,

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or grab their mouth with their hand.

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Why? Because shaitan enters in from that open

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yawning mouth.

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So a person should cover their mouth when

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they yawn,

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for reasons that were mentioned from before.

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So chapter regarding

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the recommendation of shaking hands when meeting

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and,

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having a happy face when meeting.

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Be happy.

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Don't be don't be all like, oh, I'm

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like the like, whatever Jedi master of the

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universe.

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And, I have so much force going through

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me that, like, you know,

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I'm I'm too cool for, like, whatever.

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That doesn't mean, by the way, that you

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shouldn't be the Jedi master of the universe

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with so much force going through that nobody

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understands,

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but you should do that. And then on

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top of that, cover your halah by being

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happy when you meet people. Showing them happiness

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and carrying your your the burden of your

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brokenhearted, like, whatever

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illumination inside of you as a secret between

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you and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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So, you know,

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just in case a person thought they were

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cool, these things sometimes are if you wanna

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go easy, you can go easy. And if

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you wanna go hard, there's a lot more

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hard than you thought there was, so

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get to work.

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So, yeah, the the meeting people with a

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happy face,

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and and kissing the hand of a righteous

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person,

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and,

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to kiss your children.

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To kiss your children. So when Baba gives

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a Bajaj a puppy, then that's a sunnah.

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Right? That's a sunnah of who?

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Of who? Of who?

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The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam because he

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used to his teachings are what?

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That parents should kiss their children.

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So don't be embarrassed if Baba gives you

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puppy in public. Uh-huh.

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I'm

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sorry.

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Out of out of kindness to them,

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to kiss the children out of kindness to

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them,

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and to

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embrace

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the one who,

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arrives from a trip

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and the,

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dislikeness of bowing or or

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or lowering yourself in front of another person.

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Student of amongst others.

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He said, I said to Anas bin Malik

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did the companions of the messenger of Allah

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Did they, did they used to shake hands

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with one another?

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And he says, yes. He said, he responded

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yes

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was the one of the longest lived of

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the companions of the messenger

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after his passing.

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So he said, yes. They used to shake

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hands with one another.

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When,

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So in the Anas bin Malik

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who narrates that when the people of Yemen,

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came to the messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam, he announced that the people of Yemen

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have come,

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and they are the first ones who came

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with, the shaking of hands.

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Sorry. He narrates that the messenger

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said, 2 Muslims will not meet one another

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and then shake one another's hand.

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And it's it's interesting that that here the

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the the

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that they they shake one another's hands,

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except for,

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they will be forgiven. Both of them will

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be forgiven by Allah to Allah before they

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before that meeting ends.

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But the the the here is

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means,

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means it's

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in Sarf,

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in Arabic morphology. Anyone here read Sarf?

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Right? The of the

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is what? Is that there's there's no file

00:33:27 --> 00:33:30

in Mafur. There's just 2 co files. There's

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

no giver of the object and receiver of

00:33:32 --> 00:33:33

the object.

00:33:34 --> 00:33:36

Rather both parties are equal participants in in

00:33:36 --> 00:33:38

whatever action is being done.

00:33:40 --> 00:33:42

It's not like, you know, like, the

00:33:43 --> 00:33:46

Zayd hit Amar. Zayd is the one hitting

00:33:46 --> 00:33:48

and Amar is the one getting hit. No.

00:33:48 --> 00:33:49

The the

00:33:49 --> 00:33:52

is what is when when both shake hands

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

with one another. And this happens as well.

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

Sometimes somebody comes and shakes hands with another

00:33:56 --> 00:33:59

person very eagerly, and the other ones, like,

00:33:59 --> 00:34:01

you know, like, they give them, you know,

00:34:01 --> 00:34:03

like, it's a princess waiting to get,

00:34:04 --> 00:34:05

her hand kissed,

00:34:05 --> 00:34:07

which is fine if you're actually a princess,

00:34:07 --> 00:34:08

but you're not. So,

00:34:09 --> 00:34:10

that's not a way to shake hands with

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

people.

00:34:12 --> 00:34:15

The the the idea is what is that

00:34:15 --> 00:34:17

that you should meet one another both with

00:34:17 --> 00:34:17

eagerness.

00:34:18 --> 00:34:20

It's hoped that if one person does it

00:34:20 --> 00:34:22

and the other person doesn't show the eagerness,

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

at least the one who shakes hands properly,

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

that one will be forgiven. If the other

00:34:26 --> 00:34:29

person doesn't wanna participate in that process, it's

00:34:29 --> 00:34:30

their own

00:34:30 --> 00:34:30

loss.

00:34:31 --> 00:34:33

But the idea is that that that 2

00:34:33 --> 00:34:35

Muslims will not meet one another, and then

00:34:35 --> 00:34:36

shake one another's hands,

00:34:37 --> 00:34:38

except for,

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

their sins will be forgiven

00:34:40 --> 00:34:43

before they they leave, before they separate from

00:34:43 --> 00:34:46

one another. So hadith of Abu Dawood. And

00:34:46 --> 00:34:48

that's a that's a that's a pretty good

00:34:48 --> 00:34:50

that's a pretty good deal.

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

It's a reason to, you know,

00:34:54 --> 00:34:56

it's a reason to to be excited to

00:34:56 --> 00:34:57

meet your fellow

00:34:58 --> 00:34:59

believer and Muslim,

00:35:00 --> 00:35:01

and and and and

00:35:02 --> 00:35:04

meet one another with a proper level of

00:35:04 --> 00:35:05

protocol.

00:35:47 --> 00:35:49

Who narrates that a man came to the

00:35:49 --> 00:35:50

messenger of Allah and

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

says, if one of us should beat his

00:35:53 --> 00:35:54

brother,

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

or his friend, should he,

00:35:56 --> 00:35:58

like, bow bow for him?

00:35:59 --> 00:36:00

He said no.

00:36:01 --> 00:36:02

Should he

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

stand up, embrace him, and kiss him? He

00:36:05 --> 00:36:06

said no.

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

Should he grab his hand,

00:36:08 --> 00:36:10

and shake his hand? And the prophet

00:36:11 --> 00:36:11

said yes.

00:36:13 --> 00:36:15

And this is interesting because

00:36:16 --> 00:36:17

kissing and,

00:36:18 --> 00:36:19

and, embrace

00:36:20 --> 00:36:23

are mentioned as well here. And the prophet

00:36:23 --> 00:36:24

said no.

00:36:25 --> 00:36:26

Does it mean that they have the same

00:36:26 --> 00:36:28

status as bowing in front of another person?

00:36:28 --> 00:36:29

No.

00:36:30 --> 00:36:31

Majority of the considered

00:36:32 --> 00:36:34

for for a person to,

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

for a man to kiss another man or

00:36:36 --> 00:36:36

to,

00:36:37 --> 00:36:39

obviously, in an appropriate way.

00:36:39 --> 00:36:41

Unfortunately, we live in a time and age

00:36:41 --> 00:36:44

that that clarification needs to be made. But,

00:36:45 --> 00:36:48

whereas in in previous generations, it's hoped that

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

it it it didn't.

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

But,

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

does it mean that kissing another person or,

00:36:56 --> 00:36:58

embracing them is problematic?

00:36:58 --> 00:37:01

No. Except for actually, Malik considered it Makru

00:37:01 --> 00:37:03

to embrace another person.

00:37:04 --> 00:37:07

And it's interesting that Sahnun who narrates the,

00:37:09 --> 00:37:10

brings,

00:37:10 --> 00:37:13

brings narrations in which it's

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

in which it's

00:37:14 --> 00:37:15

indicated that

00:37:16 --> 00:37:18

that people embraced in front of the prophet

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and he didn't he

00:37:20 --> 00:37:22

didn't forbid them from doing so. Meaning that

00:37:22 --> 00:37:25

a proof that it's it's permissible. Because for

00:37:25 --> 00:37:27

people to embrace one another is very common.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

So for Malik to say it's,

00:37:29 --> 00:37:30

it becomes,

00:37:31 --> 00:37:33

you know, for for the practice of that.

00:37:33 --> 00:37:34

Even the students of Malik, they found it

00:37:34 --> 00:37:35

a little bit awkward.

00:37:37 --> 00:37:39

And what Malik's proof was for that,

00:37:40 --> 00:37:42

is the subject of a a a longer

00:37:42 --> 00:37:45

fit class that we're not getting into. But

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

it's perhaps possible that this is also this

00:37:47 --> 00:37:48

hadith itself as a

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

a a a,

00:37:51 --> 00:37:52

a proof for that.

00:37:52 --> 00:37:53

That the prophet

00:37:54 --> 00:37:56

was asked should a man bow when meeting

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

another when he's meeting his brother or his

00:37:58 --> 00:38:00

friend, And he said, no. And so should

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

he should they embrace should he embrace his

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

brother and kiss him? And he said, no.

00:38:04 --> 00:38:05

That the 2 of them are mentioned in

00:38:05 --> 00:38:07

the same siak and then afterward,

00:38:07 --> 00:38:10

should he shake hands? Shaking hands is permissible.

00:38:10 --> 00:38:13

The recommended form of greeting is to say

00:38:13 --> 00:38:13

salaam.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

You don't have to shake hands with everybody.

00:38:16 --> 00:38:18

There's some benefit in it. There's some reward

00:38:18 --> 00:38:21

in it. But the the the standard Masoon

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

way of meeting and and and Masoon way

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

of parting is to what? To say

00:38:27 --> 00:38:28

It's not to say salaam.

00:38:29 --> 00:38:32

It's not to say It's not to say

00:38:32 --> 00:38:33

It's not a w w

00:38:34 --> 00:38:35

l o l.

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

Okay? It's what?

00:38:44 --> 00:38:46

We went and, obviously, we went through that

00:38:46 --> 00:38:46

before.

00:39:17 --> 00:39:20

So a longer hadith which is mentioned,

00:39:25 --> 00:39:28

it's mentioned, elsewhere in its complete length.

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

But but the thing that was mentioned here

00:39:31 --> 00:39:33

is what's relevant to the

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

chapter from

00:39:46 --> 00:39:46

Let's see.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:48

It's mentioned in the

00:39:49 --> 00:39:50

of Ibn Athir.

00:39:51 --> 00:39:52

The is a

00:39:53 --> 00:39:54

an encyclopedia

00:39:54 --> 00:39:55

of

00:39:55 --> 00:39:56

the

00:39:59 --> 00:40:01

So there are 2 there there I should

00:40:01 --> 00:40:02

there are more than 2. There's a bunch

00:40:02 --> 00:40:04

of them, but there's a there's a number

00:40:04 --> 00:40:05

of encyclopedias

00:40:06 --> 00:40:06

that

00:40:06 --> 00:40:07

the names of the Sahaba

00:40:08 --> 00:40:11

and whom have that are they're recorded in.

00:40:11 --> 00:40:12

1 is the

00:40:13 --> 00:40:13

of.

00:40:14 --> 00:40:15

One is

00:40:15 --> 00:40:16

the of Qadi,

00:40:17 --> 00:40:18

Abu Bakr ibn Abdul Bar,

00:40:19 --> 00:40:20

Abu Yusuf.

00:40:28 --> 00:40:28

And,

00:40:29 --> 00:40:30

Iben Abdul Bar is

00:40:31 --> 00:40:33

at one point he's he's the Qadi of

00:40:33 --> 00:40:33

Lisbon.

00:40:33 --> 00:40:36

He's from Cortoba. He's a Spanish Mujadid.

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

I'm pretty sure Hafiz ibn Hajar has one

00:40:39 --> 00:40:41

as well, but the name is slipping me

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

right now.

00:40:42 --> 00:40:44

Maybe we can look it up, and and

00:40:44 --> 00:40:46

and and say it later. But these are

00:40:46 --> 00:40:47

encyclopedic,

00:40:47 --> 00:40:49

like, collections of the the names of the

00:40:49 --> 00:40:50

Sahaba.

00:40:51 --> 00:40:52

The

00:40:54 --> 00:40:56

mentions that he after the prophet

00:40:58 --> 00:40:58

passed away,

00:40:59 --> 00:40:59

the

00:41:00 --> 00:41:01

lived in Kufa.

00:41:07 --> 00:41:07

And,

00:41:09 --> 00:41:10

he participated

00:41:10 --> 00:41:13

in 12 battles with the prophet, sallallahu alaihi

00:41:13 --> 00:41:15

wa sallam,

00:41:15 --> 00:41:18

and a number of even other Sahaba narrated,

00:41:18 --> 00:41:19

hadith from him.

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

So he he narrates this hadith that,

00:41:25 --> 00:41:26

a Jew said to his

00:41:27 --> 00:41:27

companion,

00:41:28 --> 00:41:32

come come. Let's go to this, so called

00:41:32 --> 00:41:32

prophet,

00:41:33 --> 00:41:35

and they went to the messenger of Allah,

00:41:36 --> 00:41:39

and they asked him for, 9 clear signs

00:41:39 --> 00:41:40

of his prophethood.

00:41:40 --> 00:41:43

Then the rest of the hadith is is

00:41:43 --> 00:41:46

is mentioned, But he mentioned at the end

00:41:46 --> 00:41:47

of it, they both kissed

00:41:48 --> 00:41:48

the prophet

00:41:49 --> 00:41:51

hand and they kissed his foot. And they

00:41:51 --> 00:41:52

said that we

00:41:55 --> 00:41:55

we,

00:41:57 --> 00:41:58

bear witness that you are

00:41:59 --> 00:42:01

we bear witness that you are a prophet.

00:42:09 --> 00:42:11

So I I assume that the reason the

00:42:11 --> 00:42:11

of

00:42:12 --> 00:42:14

narrating this part of the hadith indeed,

00:42:15 --> 00:42:17

in this chapter is to prove that it's

00:42:17 --> 00:42:18

permissible to kiss,

00:42:19 --> 00:42:21

the hand of, of another person.

00:42:22 --> 00:42:23

Although I would,

00:42:23 --> 00:42:25

I I, you know, I would think that

00:42:25 --> 00:42:27

the from the there would be somebody who

00:42:27 --> 00:42:29

would come back and say, yeah. But kissing

00:42:29 --> 00:42:31

the feet is mentioned as well, and that's

00:42:31 --> 00:42:31

not

00:42:32 --> 00:42:33

not a normal thing. So it may be

00:42:33 --> 00:42:35

just for the prophet

00:42:36 --> 00:42:39

and, you know, the bait the debate is

00:42:39 --> 00:42:40

longer and it it it belongs in the

00:42:40 --> 00:42:41

books of

00:43:01 --> 00:43:03

but the snippet that's relevant here is that

00:43:03 --> 00:43:05

he said that we came

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

near close to the prophet

00:43:07 --> 00:43:09

and we kissed his his hand.

00:43:11 --> 00:43:12

And this was an honor and a shutoff

00:43:12 --> 00:43:13

that the Sahaba

00:43:15 --> 00:43:16

had, that they they had a chance to

00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

kiss the Mubarak hand of the prophet

00:43:22 --> 00:43:24

And kiss the Mubarik feet of the prophet

00:43:24 --> 00:43:25

Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

00:43:56 --> 00:43:57

The arrived in Madina.

00:43:58 --> 00:43:59

Is who?

00:44:00 --> 00:44:02

He's the one that the prophet

00:44:02 --> 00:44:03

had adopted

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

before the,

00:44:05 --> 00:44:06

beginning of revelation.

00:44:06 --> 00:44:08

The one they used to refer to as

00:44:08 --> 00:44:09

Zayd Muhammad

00:44:10 --> 00:44:12

and, Alaihi Saat waslam.

00:44:12 --> 00:44:13

And then

00:44:13 --> 00:44:14

when the,

00:44:15 --> 00:44:15

when the,

00:44:18 --> 00:44:19

NASH,

00:44:19 --> 00:44:20

the,

00:44:21 --> 00:44:23

aggregation of adoption happened.

00:44:25 --> 00:44:25

The,

00:44:26 --> 00:44:29

they they called him again, but the prophet

00:44:29 --> 00:44:31

loved him as a son and he was

00:44:31 --> 00:44:32

a member of the prophet

00:44:33 --> 00:44:34

household and family.

00:44:35 --> 00:44:37

That he when he came,

00:44:40 --> 00:44:42

when he arrived in Madina, the, and then

00:44:43 --> 00:44:44

was in my

00:44:45 --> 00:44:47

when in my room. So the prophet

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

again, he didn't have any house of his

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

own. Rather, each of the

00:44:51 --> 00:44:53

had a room that was connected to the

00:44:53 --> 00:44:55

masjid and the and the door that enter

00:44:55 --> 00:44:56

opened into the masjid.

00:44:56 --> 00:44:58

So he was in my room that night

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

when he returned.

00:45:00 --> 00:45:02

And so he came to him and he

00:45:02 --> 00:45:03

knocked the door and the messenger of Allah,

00:45:03 --> 00:45:04

salallahu

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

alaihi wasallam,

00:45:09 --> 00:45:10

he he came to the prophet

00:45:10 --> 00:45:11

and

00:45:11 --> 00:45:13

and and the prophet

00:45:13 --> 00:45:16

dragged and pulled him by the, by his

00:45:16 --> 00:45:16

clothing,

00:45:17 --> 00:45:19

and he embraced him and he kissed him.

00:45:27 --> 00:45:28

And,

00:45:29 --> 00:45:31

generally speaking,

00:45:33 --> 00:45:35

one of the one of the speculations people

00:45:35 --> 00:45:37

have made is that had he had he

00:45:37 --> 00:45:39

been alive, he there's a chance a good

00:45:39 --> 00:45:40

chance that he would have been the

00:45:41 --> 00:45:41

the

00:45:42 --> 00:45:44

uh-uh the Khalifa of the prophet

00:45:47 --> 00:45:48

Except for he was Shahid in the battle

00:45:48 --> 00:45:49

of Mota.

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam trusted

00:45:52 --> 00:45:53

him with the command of the army when

00:45:53 --> 00:45:56

he wasn't personally there. There are number of

00:45:56 --> 00:45:58

expeditions in the Syria that that,

00:45:59 --> 00:46:00

that Zayd bin Harissa, if he's part of

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

it, he's the commander of the expedition.

00:46:03 --> 00:46:04

And he was a beloved one of the

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. And this is

00:46:06 --> 00:46:08

the reason also that when the prophet

00:46:09 --> 00:46:09

passed away,

00:46:10 --> 00:46:11

the army that he had sent out,

00:46:12 --> 00:46:14

was under the command of his son, Osama

00:46:14 --> 00:46:16

bin Zayed, despite him being a teenager, which

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

was what? It was giving the command of

00:46:18 --> 00:46:20

his he was giving him the command of

00:46:20 --> 00:46:21

his father, essentially.

00:46:23 --> 00:46:25

And the reason the reason, for mentioning all

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

this right now is that the prophet

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

used to send the ones that he loved.

00:46:31 --> 00:46:31

And and

00:46:34 --> 00:46:35

and

00:46:35 --> 00:46:38

and the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, you

00:46:38 --> 00:46:39

know, he wept for him

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

when he when he passed away. And he's

00:46:42 --> 00:46:44

he's the one who knows better than any

00:46:44 --> 00:46:45

of us what the Maqam of a Shaheed

00:46:45 --> 00:46:46

is,

00:46:46 --> 00:46:48

but it's normal for a person when they

00:46:48 --> 00:46:50

lose somebody or they're separated from somebody that

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

they love that they should weep. There's no

00:46:52 --> 00:46:53

there's no,

00:46:54 --> 00:46:56

there's no, harm or or

00:46:57 --> 00:47:00

sin or even defect in that.

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

If a person weeps because, like, oh, why

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

me and all this other nonsense, that's different.

00:47:04 --> 00:47:05

That's wrong.

00:47:05 --> 00:47:07

But if a person weeps just because of

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

the pain of being separated from somebody that

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

you love, the prophet

00:47:10 --> 00:47:11

wept for him.

00:47:12 --> 00:47:13

And he gave he sacrificed

00:47:14 --> 00:47:16

from from from himself

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

and from the ones that he loved and

00:47:18 --> 00:47:20

from his own family before he expected other

00:47:20 --> 00:47:23

people to to give and sacrifice, which is

00:47:23 --> 00:47:24

important for us to

00:47:24 --> 00:47:26

understand and important for us to know,

00:47:27 --> 00:47:29

lest we when put in a position of

00:47:29 --> 00:47:32

of authority or power, spare ourselves and put

00:47:32 --> 00:47:33

other people through difficulty.

00:47:35 --> 00:47:37

Everybody should give take take you know take

00:47:37 --> 00:47:39

up difficulty for in the path of Allah

00:47:39 --> 00:47:39

and

00:47:40 --> 00:47:41

we lead by example and the prophet

00:47:42 --> 00:47:44

his to lead by

00:47:48 --> 00:47:49

example.

00:47:59 --> 00:48:01

Said Abu Dharr al Difari radiallahu alaihi wa

00:48:01 --> 00:48:04

sallam, who narrates that the messenger of Allah

00:48:04 --> 00:48:06

the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

00:48:06 --> 00:48:06

said to me,

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

do not at all,

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

hold as mean or

00:48:13 --> 00:48:14

or hold as

00:48:14 --> 00:48:17

of little worth or little value, any good

00:48:17 --> 00:48:17

deed.

00:48:18 --> 00:48:19

Even if that good deed is something as

00:48:19 --> 00:48:20

simple as

00:48:20 --> 00:48:24

meeting your, brother with a, smiling face.

00:48:58 --> 00:49:00

This is the last hadith that we'll read

00:49:00 --> 00:49:00

tonight,

00:49:02 --> 00:49:03

from the at least.

00:49:06 --> 00:49:07

Who

00:49:08 --> 00:49:09

narrates that the prophet

00:49:10 --> 00:49:12

he, kissed

00:49:12 --> 00:49:14

Al Hassan bin Ali, his grandson.

00:49:16 --> 00:49:18

Shayna Al Hassan radiAllahu ta'ala and who from

00:49:18 --> 00:49:19

the people, he is the one whose face

00:49:19 --> 00:49:21

resemble the face of the prophet sallallahu alaihi

00:49:21 --> 00:49:23

wa sallam the most. He was very handsome,

00:49:24 --> 00:49:26

young man. There are very interesting stories about

00:49:26 --> 00:49:28

that when he grows up, but we're not

00:49:28 --> 00:49:29

gonna tell him right now.

00:49:30 --> 00:49:32

At any rate, he's a very handsome he's

00:49:32 --> 00:49:34

a very handsome person.

00:49:35 --> 00:49:35

And the prophet

00:49:36 --> 00:49:38

kissed him. He's the grandson of the prophet

00:49:38 --> 00:49:39

Hassan bin Ali

00:49:43 --> 00:49:44

who was like a hard

00:49:45 --> 00:49:46

tough Arab tough guy.

00:49:47 --> 00:49:49

He saw this and he says, I have

00:49:49 --> 00:49:50

10 children

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

and I've I've never kissed one of them.

00:49:54 --> 00:49:56

Can you imagine that? A baba has 10

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

children. He never give puppy to anyone of

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

them ever.

00:49:59 --> 00:50:00

Can you imagine that, Aisha?

00:50:02 --> 00:50:04

Can you imagine that? It's like,

00:50:05 --> 00:50:07

what kind of baba is that? Right? So

00:50:07 --> 00:50:08

that's why the prophet

00:50:08 --> 00:50:10

came to teach people. He didn't know the

00:50:10 --> 00:50:10

prophet

00:50:11 --> 00:50:12

taught him,

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and he taught all of us.

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So he said, I have 10 children, and

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I've never kissed one of them. The prophet

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said,

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the one who doesn't have mercy,

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mercy won't be had on on him either.

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Allah make us amongst the people of mercy

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and Allah to have mercy on all of

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us as well.

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