Haleh Banani – How to Improve Your Character In Ramadan 03

			Salam aleikum, this fella was salat wa salam ala rasulillah. Today we're going to talk about the
Ramadan character. What is it Ramadan character repair. And we're gonna work on our character during
this month in sha Allah. Yesterday, I was telling you to write down a list of your shortcomings,
what areas you would like to work on, it's good to have that list. And each day, I'm going to talk
to you about a different area that we can work on ourselves. And today the focus is on overcoming
pride. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam has taught us that if we have a mustard seed of arrogance in
our heart, if we have that pride, we cannot even smell diagnose. So many of us, many of us are very
		

			knowledgeable, we're very practicing the very good head jobs, the length of the beard is excellent,
the recitation is wonderful. We're doing a lot of hair for the community. But what we don't realize
is that we have pride in our heart, and it seeps through in different ways. Now, what is the danger
of this of pride? First of all, we said it will prevent us from going to China. So all this that
we're doing all this effort we're making in Ramadan, to extra prayers, extra reading, the things
that we do throughout our life, whether it's charity, whether it's raising money, everything that we
do, if we don't correct these things within our character, then it's a waste, right? So we have to
		

			focus on that. And realize that with pride, what other dangers are there, it really destroys
relationships. So many of the marriages that I work with a lot of the couples that I work with,
their biggest issue is that they are too proud, too proud to admit that they're wrong, too proud to
apologize, too proud to make any kind of effort or initiative. I just had a couple of the other day
that they got into this dispute. They had a beautiful day, a beautiful evening together, they went
out. And one of us did something that angered the other. And it just destroyed the whole evening,
the whole week of effort. And I told her, like, what could you have done? And she goes, Well, that's
		

			just my pride. I really couldn't get myself to take that initiative. And I said, What would have
happened? If you did, you admitted that you were wrong, and you you made a mess, like everything
would have been resolved so many times in our relationships, because of the pride that we feel like
Why should I take that initiative? Why should I apologize? Why should I always make that is what
destroys us. So what I want us to do this Ramadan is to become aware of this in our heart. And try
try our best to crush the pride. If you sense it in your relationship, whether it's with your
spouse, whether it's maybe with your parents, if you feel too proud to apologize, maybe you've heard
		

			that maybe you've disrespected that maybe you've done things that has really crushed them. Take that
ownership take ownership while you have the chance. Now many of us
		

			this may be our last round designed to take advantage of these opportunities to mend the
relationship now. So that's within our relationship, sometimes within sisterhood and brotherhood.
		

			within the community, we see that this pride kills and kills the sisterhood in the Brotherhood. Many
times you find sisters coming into the message, they're coming from beyond, you're coming to purify
your heart, you're coming to make that connection to deposit spiritually. And yet they will turn
their head and not give sellouts because of the pride. And this pride may come from thinking that
you're you're better, you're smarter, maybe you're a better race, you're better, whatever it is
culture, and this is going to destroy us. So sisters, brothers, please, if you sense that you have
this fight, if you feel like you're too good to give salads, if you think you're too good to sit and
		

			converse with someone, work on yourself, make sure that you're correcting yourself, I'll share with
you a personal story. When I went to Hajj like maybe five, six years ago,
		

			one of the things I really tried to focus on was not having an ounce of pride in my heart. And I
reminded myself that it was a book that I read how to make the most of your head and that really
guided me and I hope whoever is going can read it in
		

			his mind reminded me that all of these people that you see see millions of people and many of them
they might be from the village they may, they may actually not be they may be very disheveled.
They're not clean that they don't have the hygiene. And it's very easy to look down on that because
we are we are so clean. We're so fresh and we but we we have spent so much on the on the hotels on
the places that we're saying. And it was this conscious effort that I made that you know what this
		

			First, well maybe the shovel this person who is laying on the ground, it looks sturdy or may not
have may not be very educated. Maybe an Olia of Allah may be so loved and so dear to Allah. So who
am I, to look down upon this person I really tried to guide my heart and I urge you, I urge you to
do that today. Be very cognizant of this when you go to the masjid and you see someone next to you
and you think something just occurs to you for whatever reason, whether it is they're not religious
enough, they're not. They're not smart enough. They're not educated or whatever it is. If you feel
that in your heart corrects yourself, say esta hora, la, la mina Shay, tada, Reggie and make an
		

			effort to be kind make an effort to be extra courteous, because if we don't correct ourselves, if we
allow this cry to grow, then it's going to keep us from China. So I pray that whether it's in our
relationships, or whether it's in dealing with our brothers and sisters in the community, that we
really work on crushing this pie, says I cannot share. Thank you for tuning in.