Haitham al-Haddad – Kindness to Parents after Death – Quran Reflections

			And Subhan Allah, my dear brothers and sisters, part of believed to be kind to your parents is to
continue the sadaqa that they used to give.
		

			And that's why I advise you brothers and sisters, don't stop sadaqa that your parents used to give.
And that's why they said, if your parents bequest, any amount of money to be given as a sadaqa, the
first thing is to give that after paying the debts, after paying their debts, and preparing,
preparing their funeral is immediately to give their sadhaka because, and I had this case Wallahi I
don't know whether I mentioned to you or not very few weeks ago, children with their mother came and
they said that their father passed away just a month or two months ago. And he written in his will,
that he has to give a certain amount of money or a certain percentage of his wealth as asada
		

			and they were trying to find a way not to give that sadaqa
		

			and I told them that come on your father, he spent all of his time working day or night, etc, etc.
And he has built that house and he has collected that money in order for you in order to benefit you
and now you don't want to benefit him in his grave. And now imagine him suffering in his grave and
you don't want to help him in his grave.
		

			And they found the close that
		

			that means that this is not obligated if you find it difficult. So they say that we will pay it but
not immediately.
		

			I said to them immediately, okay, is better. But technically speaking I agree with you that the
phrase and the will does not oblige you to pay the sidecar immediately on on behalf of your father.
However, imagine him in the grave, and he will be desperate for every single Hasina.
		

			Every single has an A so then the minute you give any hashanah for him, he will be very grateful for
that. And we know that the sadaqa intercedes for the person and he stops the fire of from eating the
person in what in the grave, and the other sadaqa extinguishes the anger of Allah Allah Allah Allah.
Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah and once said that the Marisol came, and they were
competing and sadaqa one or overtook them all, a sidecar. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam used to encourage people to give a sadaqa and we all know when Allah Allah Allah
says Yeah, are you Lulu to? Allah? Comala Allah commanded Allah wa my FL daddy Kapha hola como hacer
		

			your own? What? What I'm feeling oh, man Mera Kaam Ming Wu and Yachty I had a cool note. Fair. Hola,
Rob. Biloela. Attorney Illa. Jalen, Caribbean? What? Faster Dhaka? When the time of death comes to
the person, he will say yeah, Allah give me a chance. Just give me a chance to what he mentioned.
What did he mentioned, to give me a chance to what to go and pray to go do hedge to go and do this
and that? No, for us sadaqa Subhan Allah for a sadaqa and that's why the sidecar the sidecar has its
role in stopping the punishment, in particular the punishment of the grave. And that's why the
person should not stop himself from giving the sadaqa we mentioned to you the story of Herbalife
		

			when he used to give sadaqa every day, and one time, they noticed that he had an onion with him. So
his friend told him what is this? He said
		

			I was about to give this as a sadhaka. He said an onion to give it to us I said up to this point,
the smell of your clothes. He said I was searching for Asada in my house and I did not find anything
except that on to give it as a sadhaka. So I took it and I said maybe a poor person would benefit
from it. I will not stop giving sadaqa on a daily basis after I heard
		

			narrating that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying that the person will be under the
shade of his sadaqa the Day of Resurrection.
		

			So, the sadaqa in particular, of course, we can speak a lot about the sadaqa my day
		

			have brothers and sisters. But in particular, if you want to be righteous and kind to your parents,
they try to give sadaqa all the scholars agreed, as you know that the scholars differ on whether the
sadaqa reaches your, the deceased, or your parents who passed away. So the scholars differ whether
the deeds in general will reach the deceased,
		

			the parents who passed away, but they said that the sadhaka of the children is excluded, and it will
definitely reach the parents in their graves.
		

			So that's why, if your parents, yes, my dear brothers and sisters, never never ever think of this
when your parents dedicate an amount of sadaqa to be given after they die. Or they put that in their
will. Yeah, never think of delaying that. And as many scholars said, that,
		

			when they know that the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the man came to the
Prophet sallahu wa salam, and he said, My parents passed away, what is how can I be kind to them,
what is left from the burden to them? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the
sadaqa discolored said among the best bill to give to your parents after they pass away, is to have
solder Giardia for them. So the kajaria are continuous sadaqa. And even some scholars said that this
sadaqa jariya, if you intended for your parents, what will happen, you will benefit from it and your
parents will benefit from it. And among the grave things that a person can do is to stop a saddle
		

			that his parents used to give.
		

			Among the grave things. They mentioned the stories about the children who stopped outside of Canada,
their father used to give and they in the Arab culture.
		

			There was a very famous story that happened I think, in Kuwait, a few people.
		

			There was two neighbors, and one person gave one good big camel,
		

			female camel to his neighbor, and he was milking it and he was benefiting from it. And
		

			this neighbor, this neighbor who gave the sidecar one time he went for grazing and he got lost, he
got lost. And then he went into a well. And he disappeared there. His children thought that he died.
So after he died, they thought, well, they waited for him for some time. And then they thought that
he died. When they thought that he died, they started to take his to make use of his assets that he
has left. And they went to their neighbor, and they said, Our father gave you this camel. Yeah, he
did not give it to you. He just gave it to you as alone. And they took it from him.
		

			They mentioned that this study has been mentioned by many scholars. And it seems that Allah Allah is
an authentic Historie. They mentioned that their father, when he went into that whole big hole, he
used to receive some milk. And he survived on that milk for months.
		

			And all of a sudden, when they took that camel from the neighbor, the milk is stopped coming to him.
		

			And by the grace of Allah, Allah, Allah, someone helped him and he came out. When he came out, he
went to his children. And he said to them, he narrated this story. And he told them, Have you done
something after I went? They said, What like what he said to me, you must have done something wrong.
What did you do? And then they confessed that they have taken the camel that he has given to the
neighbor. They said, Because of this, the milk is stopped from coming to me when I was in that hole.
So imagine if your father, not in a hole, but in the grave, and you will meet him after he wakes up
from the grave and we will meet our fathers, we will meet our ancestors and when they will, what are
		

			they going to tell us about the sadaqa that they have given?
		

			So that's why we should be very, very careful. Not only that we
		

			have to fulfill what they have written in their will. But we should be kind to them by giving sadaqa
on their behalf. And that's why I advise you, my dear brothers and sisters, whenever you give sadaqa
imagine quickly your parents, whether they are alive or dead, and give sadaqa on their behalf.
Include them in your intention. Include them in your intention, Allah Allah, Allah, Allah is Rich,
and Allah Jalla wa Allah will not
		

			Allah, Allah Allah, He will give the ideal for the sadaqa 700 times while your bar if and he might
increase more than that. So by giving you agile, and giving them agile, this by giving them agile,
at least will not diminish your idea. So don't worry about the idea that I need to give it on my
behalf only. Now imagine your parents imagine even your close friends who passed away imagine others
and include them in your intention when you give sadaqa
		

			anyway, we spend time on speaking about this topic, but it is a quite important topic and this is
the one of the main benefits that we take from this story. We are not mentioning the stories of the
Quran in order to say oh Subhanallah how eloquent that is peaches or the story is really fantastic.
Or that's all or we just enjoy the story. No, the real enjoyment is to put the Quran into practice
guitar when and then now they can move out I couldn't hear the bottle it what do you tell the
camera? Oil Bob? The people who think can reflect upon the Quran. And the Quran can give them more
ever, not just listen to
		

			Allah, Allah, Allah to Allah and they listen to all of these things and they do not reflect and
nothing happens to them.
		

			of Allah to the Brunel Quran, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah Allah Allah mentioned in the Quran, no
answer no huddle, illegible, the writer who harsh and Mutasa minha Shatila within Calum 13 available
holiness, the, the mountain will crumble
		

			once the Quran is recited on the mountain, and that's why the whole point of the tafsir is to
reflect upon the ayat of the Quran and try to put those out into into practice in our life from all
angles. And then we reflect on or we reflect the hadith of ha ha Allah Allah Allah. When she
mentioned about the prophets Allah Allah they send them Kana who to follow Quran. His character was
the Quran sallallahu alayhi wa sallam anyway to conclude the story in our own on camera, but Ana was
humbled in the Aqsa Malaya serie monogamous behavior.
		

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