Haitham al-Haddad – Breaks the silence

			Yes, this is a very important question. And I have to address this issue, I cannot keep quiet about
this issue, I cannot keep quiet about the volume, the injustice, that oppression that is taking
place within our community, what is that oppression, that oppression takes place within the married
people, the couples who are ending their marriages. One father or one parent is stopping the other
parent from having access to the children from communicating with the children, and they are using
the law against him or her. Or they are stopping the children from having communication with the
father or with the mother. And unfortunately, and I have to say this, although you know that our you
		

			will receive a lot of criticism from many of our sisters, some of our sisters, they will understand
this, but many of our sisters, they will criticize us and they will start you know, campaigning
about this issue.
		

			I can now tell you about maybe six or seven cases, from the top of my head, where the volume the
injustice was taking place, or is taking place by the mothers, our sisters, the wives against their
husbands, I know a few cases where the womb the injustice is taken place by the fathers, but there
they are very rare cases. Most of the cases, the mothers are stopping when they are ending their
marriages. As I said, they stop their ex husbands or even their husbands, they are still their
husbands from communicating with the children, and they are stopping their children from
communicating with
		

			their fathers. And not only that, they are stopping them from communicating with the family of the
the fathers.
		

			We have to speak about this issue and I appeal to all the speakers the issue of the Imams to address
this issue. See, Allah, Allah Allah doesn't tolerate volume between people at all.
		

			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam in Hadith
		

			he said that the records with Allah, Allah Allah are free. Yeah.
		

			These are the records on the Day of Resurrection. One record is the sins Yeah, one record
		

			contains sins that Allah Allah, Allah does not forgive anything from them, which is shirk. Okay. And
then because Allah, Allah, Allah says, and Allah, Allah, Allah flying, you should obey Allah, Allah,
Allah does not forgive Sheikh and this is well known. The second record contains the sins between
the person and Allah, Allah, Allah below shipped Allah, Allah, Allah doesn't care about it because
our analysis in Allah young Pharaoh, well through Medina, dyadic, Allah, Allah, Allah can forgive
all sins, except the shift. Even check out Allah Allah forgives it, when the person repents and
comes back to Islam. And the third record brothers and sisters Be careful. Allah, Allah, Allah does
		

			not leave anything out to fit without accountability, which is the volume that takes place between
human beings? Yeah. If I commit to one against any one, Allah, Allah Allah does not forgive that
that person has to forgive me. Yeah, that person has to forgive me. That's why the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam said
		

			mankind at low end Delphi Malema if you have committed any I will re re rephrase the Hadith because
of time. If I have committed any injustice against anyone, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, try
to reconcile with him before the reconciliation takes place by Hassan act and say you act on the Day
of Resurrection, by good deeds and bad deeds on the Day of Resurrection, how the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam said
		

			that if the
		

			The oppressor will give his good deeds to the oppressed person on the Day of Resurrection. Once the
oppressor runs out of good deeds, what will happen? Allah, Allah, Allah will take the sins of that
oppressed person and put them on the shoulder of the oppressor. So he will run out of good deeds and
he will be carrying more sins and then he will be thrown in the fire of thou may Allah and Allah
Allah protect us from the fire of *. And this hadith is authentic hadith in Sahih Hadith. Also,
in another Hadith imagine, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that Allah, Allah, Allah will
reconcile between the mind he mean on the Day of Resurrection, even Allah deliver Allah will
		

			reconcile between the people of hellfire and the people of Jana, if there is a person of Jana
oppressed a person who is who is among the people of hellfire, that person who deserves Jana before
going to Jana. Yes, the reconciliation or the injustice will be resolved between him and the person
who is among the people of hellfire. So, there is no excuse for anyone to commit a to commit any
injustice against any one in the world. Again, there is no excuse for anyone to commit any kind of
injustice, even if it is very small against any one in the world. Even if he is a disbeliever even
if he is enemy II even whoever whatever he is, Okay, be careful of this. In fact, there is the
		

			Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us that there is a lady that she was admitted to hellfire by what by
oppressing. And an animal, a cat. A cat? Yeah, she blocked that cat. She imprisoned did a cat and
the cat was suffering because it cannot eat. And Allah, Allah, Allah put that lady in the fire of
* because of that. See? And there are so many, if I want to speak about the punishment of
injustice, yeah, and the severity of injustice, then I will take ages to speak about it. Yes. So my
dear respected brothers and sisters, be careful of committing injustice. Yeah, in this dunya be
careful, be careful. I have so many stories of some people who committed injustice against other
		

			people. And they were punished in this dunya. And they were looking for those whom they committed
injustice against them to forgive them. Yeah, people. In some cases, people were on the deathbed.
And they realize that they committed injustice against certain people by taking their money by maybe
violating their honor by insulting them by degrading them. Any kind of injustice. Yeah. Let alone of
course killing them. Yeah. Any kind of injustice against others, and they were looking for them to
forgive them. Subhanallah so it is not any sin. And one of the Sofia nfld. I think he said, I prefer
to meet Allah, Allah, Allah with 70 sins, rather than meeting him with one sin between me and human
		

			beings, that injustice or any injustice or oppression that takes place between me and another
person. Yeah. Now, brothers and sisters, when you stop the other person, when you stop the other
parent, from communicating with your children, you are committing three types of sins, minimum
three, first of all, the sins relate between you and Allah, Allah Allah because you are violating
the law of Allah, Allah Allah. Yeah. It is sin in the lowest form of sins. Yeah. Why I say this
because, unfortunately, some parents including some sisters, they say, Well,
		

			yeah, I need a staff role. I cannot repeat to that. They say that they don't like that. Law. Stop
for Allah Allah.
		

			Where the father has to have
		

			Access and communication with the children, she tries to justify that position. Be careful, this
might take you out of the fold of Islam. Yeah, the second injustice, or the second sin is the
injustice against your husband or ex husband, the father of your children, by stopping him from
what? from accessing and communicating with his children. And the third column is tapping your
children from having communication with their father, because they have arrived as well. Yeah. And
it is not up for you, my dear sister, to stop them from communicating with the Father. And there
might be another form of loom, which is what is stopping your children from communicating with their
		

			grandparents, and another form of wall which is stopping the grandparents from communicating with
your children with their grandchildren. Imagine my dear brother who is doing this against his wife
or against his ex wife, and my dear sisters, it is my job to protect you from hellfire. Yeah, it is
my job to protect our community from the anger of Allah, Allah Allah, it is a responsibility upon me
it is our responsibility upon every single Imam to speak loudly about this issue.
		

			The the when you imagine my dear sisters, that the grandparents when they are angry, because they
are missing their children, and I have cases where the grandparents did not see their grandchildren
for years, years Subhanallah because there is an injunction order or there is a non molestation
order, or any kind of those orders against the communicating with the grandchildren. And
unfortunately, our sisters are using or abusing the system, they are finding some loopholes, or
manipulating the law or manipulating the solicitors to what to have the law in their side, the law
is already taking place or the law is taking a lot of consideration for the feeling of women. Yeah.
		

			And some people see that the law is favoring women or wives or mothers over the fathers. And that's
why there are now some groups and fathers for justice, etc. Yeah, this is another issue. We will not
talk about it now. But unfortunately, some of our sisters are using those loopholes. And sometimes
they lie in order to obtain injunction order against what? Against the parent against the
grandparents of their children against their husbands or ex husbands to stop them from communicating
with the children. Yeah, they are using this now. See, my dear sisters, if you do that, yeah, if you
do that, uh, yeah. I was saying, imagine the elders, if they are at night, making dua against you.
		

			Yeah, making dua against you. I have some cases where and I told them, Please brother don't make dua
he said no, well, Allah He, I will wake up in the middle of the night, because when I see my mother
is crying because she cannot see her grandchildren, will Allah He, I will make your yes against my
wife, and sometimes against the family of my wife, who helped her in this world. So be careful, the
in laws, the family of the wives who are supporting them in this, they are supporting them in this
world. And Allah Dillo Allah said that three people their Dawa will never be rejected, and one of
them is the oppressed person against the oppressor. That's why my dear brothers and sisters, the
		

			person who stops the other parent from communicating with their children, yeah, it will turn against
him sooner nor later. I you know, so many cases of sisters who stopped the very children Yeah, from
communicating with
		

			the other side with the with the family of their fathers. And after some time, the child
		

			didn't run away from their mothers. So the mothers lost their children or SubhanAllah. What
happened? Something happened and the social services or the authorities in other European countries?
		

			Yes, take over and took the children away from the mothers so the mothers lost them. Why? As Allah
did Allah Allah said, or as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam said that
there is no injustice, there is no sin, that Allah Allah, Allah, Allah bring forward the punishment
of it. Yeah, like two things. Yeah, there is no more sin. Yeah, that is likely that Allah Allah
Allah brings the punishment of it. In this dunya.
		

			Aside from what Allah, Allah, Allah kept as a punishment for those who committed those sins in the
era, then what two types of sins loom
		

			and cutting the ties of kinship will
		

			actually, when you stop your children from communicating with their parents or with their fathers or
their grandparents, you are committing both low and what? Cutting the ties of kinship. One, yeah.
Because you are stopping the children from seeing their fathers, you are stopping the fathers from
seeing their children, as I have said, and what you are actually, yeah, helping them in breaking the
ties of kinship. And this is a great sin. This is one of the grave sins. One the Prophet sallallahu
sallam said of Lumo Voluma tune Yama, Yama one brings darkness on the Day of Resurrection. Yeah, as
I said, I can speak about volume for you know, ages. Allah, Allah Allah says, yeah, a baggie in me
		

			haram to Munna and NFC, oh my slaves. I made Rome Hallum upon me and I made it haram between
yourselves, Allah, Allah, Allah says, Yeah, Allah Allah, Allah to Allah, Allah one in the curse of
Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah upon the oppressors. Anyway, I don't want to go back and speak
about the gravity of God. But the gravity of breaking the ties of kinship is so huge. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when Allah Allah, Allah, Allah created the creation, the
maintaining the ties of kinship or the ties of kinship, they spoke to Allah, Allah Allah, and they
said, Ya Allah, Ya Allah. Yeah, we seek refuge in You from the punishment of hellfire. So Allah
		

			Allah, Allah, Allah told the ties of kinship, Orion, yes.
		

			You wouldn't you be satisfied if I treat well, and I maintain ties with those who maintain the ties
with their relay relatives or who maintain the ties of kinship and I will cease I will severe, the
ones those who cut the ties with their relatives or cut the ties of kinship. Yeah. So by breaking
those ties between your children and their fathers, and their grandparents, actually, you are the
one who is causing this up Irvine and Allah de la Anna says hello I say you tune into our late on
and if you do fill out we were to up the who are Hana con. Hola, kalorien. Allah animala for our
summer homework. I was hard on those who cause facade injustice, loyal and breaking the ties of
		

			kinship on this earth. Allah Allah Allah, Allah will curse them. Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah will
make them deaths and Allah, Allah, Allah will make them blind on the Day of Resurrection. So they
will not see the path of Jana. According to one interpretation, this is a kind of punishment. So, my
dear brothers and sisters, please, please be careful of this injustice that is taking place within
our community. So after fracture, but what if somebody argues that the father or the mother even is
unfit to look up to the kids?
		

			Yes,
		

			Yeah, I know. I know. Many of our sisters in particular or sisters are said that some brothers they
do this against their wives or ex wives, but it is mostly done by our sisters. Unfortunately, their
mothers. What do they say? They say that? Well, the Court
		

			issued an order against my husband or my ex husband, or the court ruled in my favor. Yeah. First of
all, sister who went to the court. Yeah. Who may be twisted some facts in order for the court to
rule in her favor. Yeah. Who did that? And we know, I know, that some sisters went to some
solicitors and they say to them, yeah, my husband is abusive. He is he is violent. He is this, um,
that he is controlling. They know the language that will allow under solicitors, of course, they
know that the language better yeah, that they will put it forward. These are winning statements or
winning, you know, I call them winning COD's, yeah, abusive, controlling domestic violence, etc. And
		

			the court because the court doesn't want to receive any criticism that they are allowing this kind
of domestic violence to take place, et cetera, and they are risking the safety of the children and
all of these winning courts, and then the court will immediately issue an injunction order or non
molestation order against the father. And then the father has to fight the case. And minimum, it
will take six months. And then sometimes the sisters don't attend the court case, in order to be
given another appointment after three months. And during all these three months or six months, you
are committing sins every single second
		

			year, let alone if the grandparents are making do against us system
		

			is not a joke, is not a joke. Yeah. And if you don't want to be held accountable, you should defend
your husband in front of the court. You have this agreement with him, you want to have divorce, etc.
This is something but the ties of kinship between your children and his father, the rights of your
children and the right of the Father, the right of the grandparents should be maintained. Don't be
that who is breaking those ties, and don't be that person who is committing that volume. Yeah. Now,
you might say well, my husband is abusive and my
		

			and I
		

			you will justify this by so many ways. Yeah. A man came to the Prophet sallallahu send them just I
remember this A man came to the Prophet Cyrus LM and he said, I only have two slaves, slaves.
Imagine. He said, they lie on me. They cheat on me. Yeah.
		

			They lie on me, they cheat on me, and they betray me. Okay. As a result, I insult them and I beat
them up.
		

			Yeah. So he said, What will happen to me on the Day of Resurrection look, the Prophet sallallahu
sallam said, Look at this, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said on the Day of Resurrection,
		

			what you have done to them and what they have done to you will be I'm rephrasing now, will be put on
the scale. If what
		

			you have done to them and what they have done, do do you is equal then you will go nothing for you.
Nothing against you. But even they were You were slaves. Imagine slaves. Yeah. But if what you have
done to them is bigger than what they have done to you. There has an Earth will be taken from you
and given to them.
		

			The guy he could not believe that. Yeah. And he said what? Yeah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says,
Don't you read what Allah Allah says in the Quran? When Allah Allah was in this thought Leo will
clear fella cooler Munna che. When can and if God had the demon hardening at
		

			Hey, in Bihar what Katha Bina has to be Subhanallah we establish the scales of justice on the Day of
Resurrection. No one will be oppressed anything, even if it is so small. Yeah, very, very tiny
element of injustice. Yeah, we will bring it and we will establish justice. And it is enough for us
to be those who take care or take account of what is taking place. Subhanallah the man left and he
was what? Crying?
		

			Yeah. So my dear sisters don't use any justification. Don't say yeah, that my husband even this is
another is a execuse Yeah, that oh, they say my husband is not fit to look after them. And sometimes
she doesn't go to the court, but she stopped him and she knows that if he tries to access them, then
he will be in trouble. Yeah. And she said yeah, because he is not fit to look after them. My dear
sister, you cannot be as they say the judge the juror and executor.
		

			Yes, you have to go to an independent person who is acting upon Sharia. Yeah. And he knows what he
is talking about. He cannot be manipulated easily. Yeah, in order to work in order to rule between
both of you another execuse, which is many sisters, they use the law of the land. My dear sisters,
the law of the land wants to maintain justice, yeah. According to certain values and according to
certain philosophy, we all know that, unfortunately, yes. The law of the land can be abused in many
cases. Yeah. And many sisters, they know how to abuse or many solicitors they know the loopholes.
And so, the sisters they use those loopholes or they abused the system, whatever, in order to for
		

			the law of the land to be in their favor, let alone that there is a criticism by many judges, I know
a judge Yeah. Okay. non Muslim judge, he agreed that well, there is kind of injustice that takes
place. Yeah.
		

			Many, many solicitors many organizations as I have said, yeah, that they are talking taking place
talking floor hours, they are talking that there is an element or some elements of injustice that
are that can take place. In many cases. Yeah.
		

			Anyway, it is being said, I don't want to come up with a conclusion about this. This is another
discussion. Yeah.
		

			But any system in the world AMI system in the world can be manipulated. Even the Islamic system can
be manipulated. That's why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Be careful. Yeah, that's why see any
system, any system in the world can be manipulated. With our system here in the UK, or the in
Europe. Even the Islamic system can be manipulated. Okay, when the person lies.
		

			That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that if I ruled in favor of anyone, unjustly
and he knows that I ruled on his favor. Yeah, not because it's not for Allah, that the Prophet
sallallahu sallam was unjust. No, no, no, no, because that person manipulated the facts and the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam rules according to the facts, so that some person manipulated the facts
and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam could not find the facts. The Cronshaw Selim wants to be
realistic. Yeah. And he wants to set examples. And the prophets I seldom never did that. Just to be
careful. I don't want someone just to pick up this point and say, Oh, look, the Prophet sallallahu
		

			Sallam ruled unjustly Yeah, be careful. It's not for Allah. I think Be careful. So what I'm saying
but the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said if I ruled in favor of someone, not because the prophets
Allah has enemies ruling in his favor, unjustly? Yeah. Oh, the prophesy. Selim favors that person.
No, because that person manipulated the fact
		

			The Prophet sallallahu sallam said that it is not allowed for that person who knows that this is not
his right to take it. Yeah.
		

			In the other Hadith, the Prophet sallallaahu Selim says, if you take anything unjustly from anyone,
by swearing by your oath, yeah, which is likely to happen in front of the court, you will meet
Allah, Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah is angry at you. Yeah. Okay. Or in the other
narration, Allah Allah Allah Allah will turn away from you out of the anger of Allah, Allah Allah.
Now, the one of the companions said Yes Will Allah even if it is a minor thing the Prophet SAW Selim
said, where it is my tooth miswak the prophesy salem said even if it is a toothpick, yeah, and it's
wack even if it is something that is completely insignificant.
		

			So I hope that it is in sha Allah at this point is clear, desert mafia