Haifaa Younis – The Obstacles to My Journey to Allah #04 – Ostentation
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The speakers emphasize the importance of counting blessings and staying in peace during difficult times, as well as the concept of being healthy. They stress the need to practice being sincere and show off one's oneself, as well as minimizing negative behavior and sharing one's own success. The importance of finding one's own success and being careful in discussing intentions is also emphasized. The segment also touches on the importance of self esteem and self-esteem in modern society, and a famous expression from Allah describes himself as a "bringing."
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You don't look so excited. What is going? Tired? Yeah, the long day. It's not too hot is it or it's too hot for California.
Okay, that's how it is. Right? I just have to share with you the temperature I normally live in June, then you will have to wait out during MF Allahu La. So if you start counting the blessings of Allah count your blessings.
I was listening to a podcast yesterday.
It was actually one of the most famous one for opera. You will need to listen to everybody, whether they are Muslims or non Muslims because you learn from everyone. So she was saying about how to learn how to be she said the best thing Subhanallah I was like, I really pray that Allah subhanaw taala guide her because what she was saying is an Islamic concept. She said if you want to live in peace, and you want to live happy, you do one thing. Every single morning when you wake up every night before you go to bed. You say thank you, Al Hamdulillah Hello. And you start counting three things that you have. And she said I'm not talking religion, right? This is us a shocker, the whole
concept and then she said it so of course people will tell her well of course because you have everything in this life. And what was the answer? This is the thing that really strike its hits me she said the reason I have everything in life because I practice this
the reason I am where I am is because that's what I practice. What is it? What did Allah say?
What are you sure Khartoum resident if you are grateful I'll give you more.
So this is why I keep reminding myself and all of you hamdulillah anime always you have a place let's let's take just where we are now. Right Kamdar about we have a place we can talk we live this two years without it. Don't forget this ever. Don't take it for granted the luck and take it again. How many of you are planning to go to college? anybody in this room? What happened today?
Did you hear about it? Nope. They are not allowing any had from US, UK and from Australia. So haha. But people start texting me and I said Allah will reward you. Still you didn't go but Allah will reward you. That's a hadith of rasool Allah salatu salam he was with the companions. And then he was looking at Medina, they were coming back from an expedition.
And he said there's people in Medina, they stayed in Medina, you did not get up or we did not get up on a valley come the front there is some chairs. And then if you call you go down, but they will get the same reward and they said Yara Sama, they didn't even leave their homes. They didn't even leave their homes. He said have a homeowner over there was an excuse there was something out of their control. So any one of you who was planning to go or anybody who's listening to me, we're planning to go into a fridge, and I must pantalla just didn't allow it. You know what, this is the beauty of Allah Spanta. Because He's clean. I want to go to hunt, because I want him to reward me. Well, guess
what? You he will still Subhanallah reward you. So remember this count your blessings, as we say, but when we say this way we take it so granted, it's like okay, count your blessings. But you really have to sit down and just think of it. And this one for us. Like we have a place I can come I have the means to come I met a lady yesterday that Subhan Allah and she literally he was almost in tears. I was like I'd love to attend. I just can't I just don't have transportation. It's very hard for me to get you know, like technical obstacles. Don't have it you got in your car and you came right? Allah gave you the desire to come like give you the ability to sit to listen, and when you are face
to face is very different than when you want to live. You all felt that so don't forget this every time and always say you know what it's lifestream
let me stay home now you missed it. You missed a lot of it. What did you miss when you don't come and you stay home when there is a possibility of you to come?
Exactly Mr. Mark Coleman who beat him in beauty law that that absolutely applies to us. There is no group of people get together in the house of Allah. Where are we house of ALLAH for what right? Is there a sunnah Kitab Allah they
study learn the book of Allah the knowledge of Allah right for things happened. And these four things if I have it in my life, I am the happiest woman in the world. And what do I need? Military who's Sakina? As Italia Hoon Malayaka Angel surrounded Russia to Morocco.
Mercy, the loving mercy of Allah. So Rhonda, what do you want to live, I always ask myself to live in peace. Right? You want to live in peace, you want to wake up in the morning and you have nothing to worry about. And if there is many things to worry about, you just don't worry about it. You know what I always say this to the team in gymnastics, who told me get things doesn't go the right way. I was like to remember one thing. And they said what I said, remember when he was just allowed to sit down in the trench in the expedition of when they were in the trench surrounded, right? And they were in the worst time, the worst, and they're completely surrounded. And he has so much inside in
his head, and he hits a rock, and he said, What you had cause kissa we're going to conquer Persia.
You know what I'm saying? But that's what you why he had this. We don't have it. Yes, he's a Prophet alayhi salaatu of center, but also because he's connected with Allah. And that's what we are going to be talking about today. The point is, is the most important thing I want in my life, I wake up in the morning, and even if the whole world is around me crumbling, I say, 100.
And I think of the positives. And then I do with this way, see what he will give you 16 As soon as that Atari homerun Malayaka the angel surrounded them because she had two more Rama they engulfed by the loving mercy of Allah. Why were the karamba Lafuma named and Allah subhanaw taala will mention your names mind with him. Who are we?
Do we even any you'll probably but do I even am worthy of a one remembering me? How do I how often ID number almost pantile. So always feel it if don't take things for granted. And this is one of our main problem as a human being. And he keeps banging us on the head to remember and we still forget. And COVID is not even a year yet out of it. And here we are. So please remember this and always be grateful Allah will give you more and more. I'm going to talk about something today is one of the hardest things in this world. And this Dean
and I'm going to talk about ostentation with the title you probably all of you have.
Read it. But the most important thing I want to focus on today is the opposite. There is a concept in Arabic. They said if you want to know something well know the opposite of
meaning you want to know what is the value of being healthy, get sick.
One day just get a flu and it's like ah Alhamdulillah I used to get up I have no headache. No problem. So always know the opposite. Let me ask you so you all are awake, what is ostentatious?
You have no idea. I love that that's why I'm doing it. Right? What is ostentation? It's a very sophisticated word.
Show off exactly showing off. And they say to do to be seen to do to be heard. This is any book you're going to see that that's how they tell you what does that mean to do to be seen? What does that mean?
Or to do to be heard? It's very close to what we talked about last week. What is it
to do to be seen to be seen by whom?
To to be seen by whom?
By people for what
to impress them and to get the praise? And what is the opposite?
Yeah, humbleness is the opposite of Kippur what is the opposite I do it for
Hamdulillah I do it for Allah and Allah capital letter only o n l y million numbers under it. So here you are, why you are here.
You ask yourself this question right so people say Masha Allah she comes to the class
is not because you want to meet your friends. That's a different story, but you do things because the only reason is so people see you.
So people see you doing it. And this always question comes in what about if I am in Salah and I'm praying and somebody comes next to me and suddenly I started improving my salah.
What remind me to say that to comment on this at the end, but ostentation is to do to be seen, or to say to be heard. It's one of the most common, least recognized obstacle to almost Panther.
And why?
Think of yourself.
Think of yourself. You have somebody in your life. So do t could be your spouse could be your children could be a friend
It could be your parent, right? And they treat you differently when they are in front of people and when they are alone
How do you feel?
Betrayed. So who am I then? Right? There are two phases Subhanallah when I am with them and they are with people, they treat me so well and nice and try to please me and when they are when I am with them or hurt or or II, I am a different human being. How do you feel?
Hurt
that's ostentation with Allah subhanaw taala.
When I do things, especially in the acts of worship, or the special This is when I do acts of worship, so people will praise me.
And I can start seeing your faces. It was like, oh, no, this is a huge it is huge. It's one of the biggest problems because we don't feel it. Not everybody does it for that reason. But some of us does. And some of us start with a different intention. And then it starts coming.
What is the most famous hadith of this? ummah? There's four Hadith in this in Islam and Imam Muhammad says, if you know nothing but you know these four you learn the deen is only for
it. That's the first one in an AMA luminette Wehrli
actions are based on or rewarded based on intention. You know this famous Hadith, right? Nemo, Mr. Roubini and whatnot and you call him rain Manawa. And everybody will be rewarded, judged according to the intention to his or her intention. And then come the comment, or come the example from uncannily gelato hula, who also the whomsoever migrated to Medina for the sake of Allah, and His Messenger Phaedra. To hula, he also did the reward. The reason the value of what he did is for Allah and His Rasul woman karate, judo, to who, the dunya Yossi Baja, for the dunya for this world, including praise, our era, Tony and kihavah ought to go and marry a woman, federal two in Omaha to
writing their reward is according to what they went for. And they say this hadith, and you see it in almost any book you study, you will see this is number one. And this is the first thing I need to learn everything I'm going to tell you, I'm going to tell you a broad practical thing. So when you came in today, when you enter that door, each one of us should have said to him to herself, not loud, Jambi I came for you.
And I want to see this in my book, when I am in front of you. And my book is opened on a Tuesday, June 7 630. I was in Iraq, my senator and I came to learn for you
and he knows how truthful you are, nobody know why you are here, except him. And you.
You can say whatever you want to say I can say I know how do you are shocked and Albert Schweitzer to Assam said did you open his chest and so why he's here. So if loss, Allah put this in the Quran repeatedly, and he actually in one verse, which probably most of you will not only rule Ilaria but Allah, Allah SallAllahu de they were not ordered, but to worship Allah. And now he puts that Wallasey meclizine sincerity, sincere. You don't put your hijab so people say Masha Allah she is and you didn't you don't take it off. Because people will say both are wrong. You don't pray, because you do not not pray because it has to be only
say it. Say so you're learned it so it becomes natural. It is only for him. How do I know I am doing it only for him.
How do I know? What is the test? I can claim I can say I'm here to teach you for Allah only. And you are here to learn to learn for Allah only we can claim. How do I know he will test me how he was touched me.
This is very important for all of you to learn. And yet to Salah indica and much who was done that's what the the
scholar's teaches us it is the same. If I am doing it for Allah, look at this statement. If I am doing it for Allah, it is exactly the same. Whether I get praise, or I get not, or the opposite if I get blamed, or I got not.
Nothing changes in me, is your heart.
Very hard. Let's be honest, it's very hard. Why this is why the score is and I'm going to read for you say not loudness. Oh, he said, one of the hardest things on this neffs is being sincere. And they said why? He said, Because I get nothing out of it.
As a human being, I get nothing out of it. If you do what makes me feel good when I'm around people, when people happy with me, when people praise me, right when people give me special attention, if lost, I don't want that. Sincerity. I don't want that. It's very difficult. So Wilma O'Meara Ilaria Abdullah hamara Sana who he wants you and me only for him.
Can any one of you give me an example as woman
we practice this in this life.
Nothing to do with Allah, with people around you.
And you feel so hurt. When this is not done to.
Can anyone think of it and this is sincerity? Not in action.
And but this is with a loss Panther. We as woman, how many of you are married in this film?
Not that many haven't. Like how many of you have someone in their life where there could be a spouse, it could be
parents could be
siblings could be friends was so dirty.
Okay, which is all of us. If you if you didn't deep in your life, you will find that person she or he younger, old, right? That they have special place in your heart. And that person keep telling you, you're the only one in my life. Nobody is equal to all this world. And that's one side and you're on the other side. How do you feel?
Great. You tell me what is this person? Right? And then you find out
that this is a talk.
That's when it came to reality and action.
It did not.
How do you feel?
How do you feel saved? Hurt? Disappointed. Right? Betrayed is somebody may say this word. This is how we are
when I in you claim your Allah Hi, love you. Europe, you're the most important thing in my life. You're not I want nothing but to be pleased. You are pleased with me. And then when it comes to action, I want to please people. I want to show off to people more than I want to please.
You need to feel this. Because when this reality hits, I was like, ah, humbler. He's teaching me. But I need to start working. So Wilma O'Meara, he doesn't want anything from me, but to worship Him.
And worship is don't think of Salah or SAM, or the external. Talking about the heart. I'm talking about what he the feelings. Everything I want in this life has to go I said this last week to all of you. It has to go through his lens goes through him Is it pleasing Him cambogia if it is not pleasing, I'm not doing it. So this is the first the first thing is if last that we just because of this couple of things. And whenever you did for the mountain mural Ilaria Buddha Allah Maha Sangha would be one of the signs you are an I am worthless, you act privately the same way you act in public.
Exactly the same.
You act in private when you want alone, exactly the same way you act in public
and especially in the act of worship,
especially when you say I am a polite person because that's what Allah loves. I don't see any words because that's what I love words. And unless you when you're in private, when you do things nobody seeing you, but when they say see what oh boy who about that, that it is the same. ostentation when you are outside is better than the inside.
The outside is better than the inside.
And who knows that? Only him and you that's why this week.
You can judge people. Never, ever, never ever. And I have seen I've said it twice. And I'll say third. Never ever say I know why she is here.
You never know. She's the only one who knows and only unlock we're known. So both are equal. And they say what is to be a sincere? I'm just going to translate some of it that they say, this is hard. But it's okay. Let's put a plus our goal. How about that? Right? We're still see be a what do you think? Where are we?
Come on, we have to have a degree one failure, okay. In the middle.
See, sometimes sometimes.
Maybe you are I can say about me, but maybe BB plus. Right? So they say, when you are with people here and you don't see people, you see only Allah, then you are sincere to him.
Do you know what that means? No, you are looking at me as if I'm speaking French today.
By what is she said, Okay, let's make it easier. So here I am. I'm looking at all of you. If I am sincere, of course, I'm seeing you. Of course you are seeing me. But in me in me, the main thing I'm looking for. And I'm thinking and I'm working hard, is what he's saying about he is looking at me. What does he think of me as he's looking at me right now.
This is something doesn't happen once a week, or once a month or one year attended class is something you need to keep practicing and asking him to remind you, you don't see people. And when I don't see people it doesn't matter if they praise me or they did not. Did you get it now, when I don't see you, I see you I love you. But I am not looking I'm you are a need for me to please Him. Allah brought us in my life to please Him, not the other way around. And what usually happens for us
is is the other way around. The other way around, meaning people become a means of distraction. Let me read to you this hadith. A man came to LA soiree salatu salam. He said Yara so Allah. So what do you say about a man who went out for an expedition right to look for the reward of Allah and also to be praised? And what is wrong with that command? Right? And he said it and he said he has nothing. There is no reward.
And the man couldn't believe what he is here. He said your Salah is he repeated three times. And Rasul Allah is sought to Salam says, He has nothing, no reward. And then he put this statement and he said, and I'm gonna say it in Arabic and translate in Allah azza wa jal, la Jakob Illumina Rahmani in llama Canada Holly, son of Victoria, we watch Hola.
Allah will not accept any deed, unless you do it for him. Only.
And you want to please Him. You want to please Him? So at least let's learn this concept. Let's learn when I come to this room. It doesn't matter who's in this room.
I don't look around says oh, she's here. Oh, I better. I better act better. Oh, she's gonna go out and talk about me. Then you're not seeing Allah.
You're seeing her?
Versus you come in and you see all these peoples like, mashallah, may Allah reward them? And then you go, you didn't? You saw them. But you didn't see them? Did you get my point now is it's clear. So when I get invited, and this is now Humblot law brought us back to getting together. When I come to a house. The first thing when I come to the house usually is what all of us who's there?
Right, where I'm going to sit? What are they wearing? Right? Do I look good? Honestly, this is us rep. And young and old doesn't matter. I need to gradually when I come in and I'll say Hola, please help me. So I don't see them. So I see you. When I sit is the way you like when I eat is the way you like, when I speak is the way you were like did you get what I'm trying to explain now? Instead of focusing on people and coming out and see what conversation you're going to say in the car that tells you where you where your focus was.
So that's something we need and then he says, three things will ruin the heart of Roswell. I saw two or three things we'll do in the art.
Let's see what is it? Or he said the three things your heart will never get ruined. That's even better. That's a pause
Active. He said the three things your heart will stay pure, connected. What is it jasola? Number one, you will do the things for Allah on day. Number two, you give advice to each other, especially the leaders,
which we forgot that concept. It's not my business, why do I want to say it.
And number three, you stay together as JAMA, as a group, don't disperse, don't differ. There is a lot of things we differ. But there is way more things to bring us together. Enough, all of you in this room, say data I remember
all of you, right, I made a difference, you made a difference. You may be older, I may be younger, doesn't matter. You have this, you speak this way I speak that way. You may not like the way I speak, maybe I don't like the way you said this. There is way more things in common. These are three things, our hearts will stay together. Number one, you do it for Allah, so you don't get upset with people.
Because I know he will never let me down who is the only one who will never let me down. So Allah, everybody will let me down. Not because they are bad, because of why expectation, I put expectation to people much higher, but he will never let me down. So number one, learn to do things sincere for loss pantile. Number two, give advice to people in a nice way, and choose the right time and choose the right words. And if you cannot do then don't speak negative about them. Because that's what we are all good about.
And third is stay together.
Stay together.
And also a salatu salam said the following.
Oh, look, let me give you this example.
So there is a man who used to always bring in the first row in the masjid, always for 14 years. There is people like that. They I actually have seen people like that, always. And then one day he came a little bit late, a
little bit late. So he prayed in the second row.
And he said he this is his story. He's saying he says all the time during my sauna. I'm seeing what what people say about me. Now I am in the second row.
And he said, Wow.
All these years, you were praying in the first room. So people say you pray in the first room.
See how Allah taught him? And if last? I think this example is very clear now for all of you.
Now don't despair. Honestly don't feel bad.
Because this is natural.
We are Allah created us why why are we called in sun Do you know?
Why we are called the incense?
No then them but one is.
Number one why we are called in sun. The origin of it is
mean unknowns. We are as a, as a human beings, we are created to have good feelings when we are with others. We're not created to be alone. And that's where Allah created when He created Adam, what did He create for one. So we are created to be together to be with people. But where is the problem when this becomes a need to take me away from ALLAH SubhanA tarde verses it can be a mean to bring me closer to Allah. So if loss is when you do not look at pH people, you look at Allah and one of the righteous people who used to talk to himself, he said, hey, hey, my neffs like you say to yourself, Hasaan a fat a Rolla.
Act with a class and you will be saved.
Act with a class and you will be saved. And don't ask what people think of me. This is how I do it. Don't ask what people think of me. Ask
what Allah is thinking of you.
Then you're not going to start seeing people you're going to start seeing almost pantalla don't say when I come again to a group to imagine oh, what does people think about the way I dress? You should say
Come on, say what a lot. See about me like when you when you stand in front of the mirror, which we all do. Right? And you should Okay, I think I look nice. Maybe not? And then you start going asking people, What do you think? How do I look? Ask Allah you don't hear the answer first time, but He will answer you one likely you will hear it. And I said, Well, Ally, something in you will tell you and that's why you go and change or you go out and it's 100 grand. Yeah. neffs
heartlessly to
see to philosopher, or a swan is Otto CERAM was asked, and this is a question for all of us. He said the autosomal there is a man who is going out for fighting to show off.
And a man is going out to fight because he is courageous.
And a man is going out because he wants to protect his family. Which one for Allah?
Listen to this one. So a man, the three of them are going for fighting, not going for invitation, not going for vacation going for fighting, this is the highest level. And this is the Rasul Allah this man is going because he wants to be called Brave. And this one is going out because he wants to show off, and this one is going because he wants to protect his family was which one is for Allah? What did he say? I want to hear that from you.
What did he say? Are they solid?
I can't hear you.
It's in that terms, but he didn't say you don't know what's in their heart. If this was you and me, what would we have answered?
Well, hamdulillah left us at Allahu Allah Alhamdulillah. Right, he said, Men cartella Lita corner Kennametal LAHIA. And earlier for officer Vidya.
He said, Whosoever went out for fighting to make the words of Allah the highest to give victory to Allah. That's what for the sake of Allah, what did you learn?
Don't judge?
And don't when you answer don't answer judgmental, because he didn't say he's also a lot. Why he could have said, that's not what Allah but he didn't judge because what I see, maybe that's not the truth. What I see in you, maybe that's not the truth. Remember, I told you the only way you know this is for Allah is you, you will know inside you. And one of the tests also, which we said last week is when you get sad, when people don't praise you, and you're doing it and you said it's for Allah. And that's not or when you get happy when people praise you, and this is why the advice Rosaria sought was Sam gave to the man when he saw him praising his brother, what did he tell him?
He said cassava you broke his back
praising him. Because once you praise me, once I praise you, and I'm not saying exactly now hire, mashallah, tomorrow, Allah, may Allah reward you, that's dua. But when I say there is no house like yours, nobody cook as good as you are. There is no smarter kids than yours. What happens? Of course, I'm gonna get happy. Because then what happens in me, advocate is what we talked about. And then next time, if you don't do it, what I'm gonna, what's gonna happen,
I'm gonna get upset. And third time I'm going to do it to make sure I hear it. So let's minimize two things. One needs to be minimized. The other one needs to be completely out, minimize the praise. And if you want to praise someone, pray for them. Pray for them. We all need the Doha we all need someone to pray for us because the if you pray for me and I'm not here, this is this is granted. And I pray for you this is granted and the thing that needs to be out completely is don't talk about people negative unless there is a reason or then you already they already do it publicly.
So let's work together because it uh yeah, you it only happens with people it doesn't happen no. It has to be with people and I sometimes the reason that you are showing off and you are the reason I am showing off we need to cut this and help each other
and then the question comes in to all of you and I'm going to give you the answer by examples or you will now you will learn whatever you learned or you are models are you sincere or you will do things for show off
some Bookman no answer
what is it?
I love inshallah inshallah me
and sha Allah is used for something I'm going to do. So it is not here yet. Well, that's a culinary che in in effect in Danika. Raja Illa as sha Allah, Allah says this sort of calf. Don't say anything you're going to do tomorrow, unless you say insha Allah. So as tomorrow I'm going to be most going over today. That's my question. So if you look at 10 Roswaal
This electoral center, right? Don't tell me you're zero, you're not. And I am not zero. Let's say number one. So how much you give yourself?
Any numbers 1565, maybe a Ramadan, seven, maybe after Ramadan become four, maybe it'll become three prime.
Because I go out and I want to make sure I'm dressed very nice and what people will say about me like, so what is that? Okay, and I'm gonna give you some of the statements about and I put it under this chapter has a normal clothes. Am I sincere? They say the person who is sincere is the person who is so keen on hiding his good deeds or her good deeds, like they hide their bad deeds.
The person who is sincere, they are so clean key to hide their good deeds, like they hide their bad deeds.
Sometimes Allah will expose that's federal law.
Right sometimes, for example, when so, you know, a lot of note I have the Razzies died. Right. He was so generous. He was sponsoring so many families. Nobody knew. How did they know? When he died? People start coming to the streets. It's what is this man who used to come in the night and give us
then they know it was him.
So for me and for you, take home message one. Don't brag about what you do.
Do it secretly
do What's between you and Allah? And if he wants to expose how the fuck moolah, he would, but don't do it, and next morning, you're gonna go on to owe him the lie. I woke up this morning for God. And I was able to don't do that.
Right? Oh, I went and I helped this family and I stayed with
Who do you want to impress?
And I'm not saying you but just think as you're saying thing could you want to impress? And who should I impress? The answer is
Allah subhanaw taala. So that's number one. Number two,
you are sincere when you think you are not sincere.
A philosopher for Pradhan wrote yet in a class, you don't see your sincere me on the last one.
Then you are in the right path. Anytime you praise yourself.
The rest assured you are on that verge.
Don't praise yourself. So don't look for praise and don't praise yourself.
Because you praise yourself why?
Why? To impress. To impress people. It's very difficult. It's so hard, especially when we are always with people. And when this is norm for us, this I don't know if anybody has spoken to you about this. But this is not something we practice every day. We practice everyday is the opposite. It's the opposite. And we we
we we put it in our children when they are three and four.
Have you seen young girls they dress very nicely? And she's in front of the mirror and what do you say to
her the most beautiful girl I've seen, all the girls are not pretty as you are just injected in her this. And we don't do it for that reason. But I need to re visit what I say and what I do. And put it in this I always say this to myself put it in this filter. What is Allah saying about?
What is Allah saying about it? So that's number two. Number three.
To be sincere is one of the hardest things for the righteous people. Not the not righteous, the righteous people. The hardest thing for them is to do it purely for Allah because
praise is going to come
praise is going to come everyone praises you. Once you are you become a little bit popular everybody praise you.
Why because those who doesn't want to praise you they don't have they don't want to upset you so they won't say it but everybody was Subhan Allah Masha Allah Tabata kala What a beautiful all this, but nobody comes and tell you you know what, maybe if you said it this way would have been better.
So it's very hard for the righteous people. And they say number four,
what is the heart that this is actually Swahili I said, What is the hardest thing on the knifes he said to do things only for Allah because you will have nothing from it in this life in this dunya it's one of the hardest thing and for later when I Allah which is one off
The mob is like a saint, if you want to use the word he sent the following, and now you can even learn a little bit, not doing something to please people is ostentation is real.
And doing something to please people is sure.
You're associating with Allah. So in my life, either I do or I don't do there's nothing else, right? Either I'm going to sleep or I'm not going to sleep, I'm going to eat, I'm not gonna eat, I'm gonna go to this place, or I'm not gonna go to this place. If I do something to please people, then this is should you have put these people same as Allah subhanaw taala if I don't do it, because what people will say about me that's ostentation.
And these two things, am I right? Or I'm exaggerating? These two things are the most common reason we do things. Third reason is what?
Because I like it.
So it's me, either what people will say about me and I don't do it, or what people will not say about me, so I do it. And the last thing because I like it, why not? As these days a lot of people will say why you're doing this, why not?
I was like, when are we going to end up with this? Why not? So always when you do anything, one of the take home message, ask yourself, why are you doing it?
Why are you doing it one and how are you doing it? They say this is it. If you ask these two questions in anything you do, and you answer correctly, don't worry about what you are doing. Why you are doing it, the answer should be
to please Him, to please Him
and how we are doing it the way that pleases Him.
Including your daily life, including your social life, including during your in your profession, whatever you are doing, why and how are you doing
anymore? Remind me of Junaid, another legendary of the relationship with Allah. He said sincerity is a secret between you and Allah.
It's a secret between you and Allah. No one knows it, except an angel who is going to write it?
And there is no shaitan that can go with it. Because it's a secret between you and Allah subhanaw taala and there is no desire in you that will change it because it's it is between you and Allah. It's a secret. There's a famous Machito Chef machalilla Fassi does anyone knows? And like a cell phone and a lie say? Do you have a secret or the law?
It's beautiful. You really need to ask yourself this question.
Do you have a special thing with Allah?
Don't answer me because this is between you and him. Something special between you and Allah and you would do it only in secrecy or even if you're in public. The inner thing is only He knows do you have this? You have something special you do it only for Allah whether you like it or you don't like it and even better if you don't like it because now you're really doing it for him. So a class is a secret between you and him. You do it for him whether you're alone or whether you're with people nothing changed it's exactly the same
the first three people who the Hellfire will be ignited by you know what is the fuel of the Hellfire
who can answer me
I can't hear you I'm sorry
I can't hear
so people and what is the other one?
Now there is two things material Allah says in the Quran Yeah, you're a nurse who unphysical naran what oh do ha and NASA Hydra people Allah said yeah your das people save yourself from the Hellfire the fuel of it is a stone and people Yeah, you're young. So who are these people?
Three category.
Anybody knows so scary. This one as I left it at the end. Who are these 301 woman to sell out we'll be human now. No
order in a Quran. The one who memorized or and this is so scary. Why?
Because he or she memorized so they feel
People will say they are happy.
And you know, you see how parents are so they, they they're so proud. They brag about their children. And I always say be careful, because this is for Allah number one, or the Quran, one, the second one.
wealthy men are not your own money.
Why?
This is not my words. This is a long hadith of Afro Swati salatu salam ala monitor me the why the rich person
because he does things so people will see it.
He or she, by the way, when they say your module doesn't mean a man doesn't mean mean a man or a woman. So here I am, I come as a fundraising. Right? And then everybody is looking at me. And I was planning to do something. And I said, this is for your Allah. And then people start looking at me and I increased it.
It's this is very hidden, that RIA Austin is very hidden, you really need to look inside you and reflect you know how we reflect on things. And you come back home and you sit and you say, Did I do it exactly the right way or not? Please forgive me, I'll teach you at the end, a DA Sahaja Rouhani a rich person. There was always a debate between the scholars which one is better?
A rich person
that is grateful, or a poor person that is patient.
Who's better?
So to two sides are rich people, but you're grateful and not to rich people to basically and they are patient who are better in the sight of Allah.
Can anyone tell him just give a guess? It's either or either? Or? I don't know. Hmm.
I can tell you
rich person that is grateful. Yes. Because they see or the person who's poor has no option on what can you do you need to be patient. It's not gonna change. But the rich person has the option of being arrogant, big, ungrateful. I don't have enough. I want to move. So the second person while the Hellfire will be ignited is Roger on honey. That's why I don't wish what other people have. Because you don't know what you're going to do if Allah gave it to you.
I wish I have his money. I wish I have heard well, you don't know what you're going to do with it when it comes to you. So that's number one. The third one is a person who fought thinking saying claiming he or she usually he fought for Allah subhanaw taala but was not
so nothing to do with munafo. That's why I told you it's a scary because this is us. This is us, what will get me to the highest level of Jannah with minimum work is
exactly is when I do it for Allah only minimum work.
Minimum work when I do to look at to to only to only two extra by do it for Allah and Allah only and I struggle, we all struggle. And I struggle and for you only Allah, this can be way higher than I spend all night standing for Allah's pantalla. So in the morning, they said why do you look tired? Oh, I was praying all night.
And sometimes we don't say this any we don't say to to please people, but it comes out. And you have to be very careful. You have to be extremely careful.
I have a lot of material. So I saw I'm just seeing which one I need to share with you.
This is too much. Please do. Oh, there's only five minutes left. Subhanallah Okay, let's get let's open the questions. That's one. And then if I have something else, I'll share it with you. Yes. Oh, can I just do one thing? Right? There's levels of sincerity. This is what I will end. I knew there was one more 104 things.
Are you also amorphous number one, this may be too hard. But I'll tell you one thing and this is I'm sharing I'm opening my heart to you today.
When I first started studying I thought these things are French and impossible. Impossible. I remember very well. I was like I can do this. This what is this? Right? Where am I? How old are they our level but then when you really turn to Allah subhanaw taala and you really say Allah you taught me this for a reason you he brought me here today to talk to you
about this subject you didn't ask me, you didn't even know what I'm going to talk about. Right? For a reason you brought to me this knowledge. That means you want me to learn, then your Allah helped me, don't despair. That's what I was trying to share with everyone he is capable of now looking at all of us, picking us all and saying you all are going to be models, you're all going to be sincere. So don't say I can do it. That's the wish I found it. So there's four levels. Number one, you don't see yourself doing anything.
You don't see yourself doing anything. Like you mashallah you do your best, you know, you do this, you do that for Allah, He will do, but internally, you don't see yourself doing much.
Then you are a mandalas, then you are sincere. Number two, you don't do it. For any reward. You do it for him only.
And this is secondly. So you don't do so Allah Samantha will get me to Jana. Of course you will. But I do to please him. I think we all have to change our relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. I call it I need to have the relationship of love. You know, when you love someone, have you ever loved anybody in your life? Show me your hands? Who did fight.
Think of that moment in the peak of that feelings, how many things you have done to that person, he or she young or old, and you didn't want anything. It just makes you happy? True or False? That's what we need to do with Allah.
This is what we need to move, improve our relationship from I don't want to go to China. I don't want to be punished. I want to go to China to please Him. So number two, you don't you do it just because he likes it. He likes to three, right? And you're never pleased with yourself. Me with the way I did it. Because I always say he deserved
better. He deserved more. And that's a sign you love that person. Like when you cook and you cooked a lot. Because I was like my son is coming from college. But that's a lot. No, I haven't seen him for six months. This is nothing that's a sign of love. Or when you love your mom, and you say I'm going to do this and this is a too much. No, she deserves more. That's a sign of law. So four things. Number one, you don't see yourself doing anything. Number two, you are not doing it for any reason other than to please Him. And number three, you are not pleased with what you are doing. And how do I get there. That's the take home message.
This is very practical. This is easy. What I'm going to end up with number one, what I started with, see how much Allah has blessed you.
Doesn't he deserve this from me?
How much he blessed you Allah Allah Allah Allah Whoa, and I am coming from the Midwest and in we live in the United States. And I say I hope that people of California are grateful
of the beauty that's around you. You don't know it until you live outside what a beauty around you probably got so much used to it.
And then the weather
Subhanallah and there's a beauty in display the sun. So keep reminding yourself of the moon Moshe had the two minute Elia Lake. That's what they say it to be sincere to Allah to do things for him because he who is he? I need to see what he did for me. But we don't see it because it's routine. So that's number one. Number two, you will be memorize this words, you will be more close by his will.
By His will He will make you more close. So what should I do?
Ask him, ask him sincere, beg him I can do what your law is very difficult for me. Nobody else is doing it. No one taught me this. But don't despair, he will make you I remember 1015 years ago when I was going for Amara, one of my friends may Allah give her Ginetta for DOS and I said, you know people say always within please make dua for me. So I always ask people, What do you want me to ask him? So I learned and she says Just tell him tell him to make me a mandalas.
Young woman she had two kids, probably two or three? No, she had one only three years old. So who is young woman says just ask him to make me on the force. What a beauty. What she taught me Subhan Allah and Allah subhanaw taala said the Torah Salia salatu salam. So what about me and you will own a footnote like Alec.
If it was not for the praise of Allah. If it was not for the grace of Allah, you will never reach where you are. What kind of follow lie Anika Halima and the grace of Allah upon you is huge. So live with that. My beauty
Four systems. Think of who you are think where Allah is put you what Allah gave you. And every time you complain, I say this to myself, every time I think of a complaint immediately Isaac think of this. You can see I can breathe, I can walk hamdulillah Hildebrand the more you see this you see the mean of Allah and how he kept you or kept me safe and secure and healthy for no reason. I always say this to myself. What's so special about him? Honestly, what's so special about you? Nothing, right? Nothing that I do more than a lot of other people know hamdulillah it's his grace. So let me end up with this dua and this dua one smarter from now Abdullah he said Allahumma inni Starfy Roca we met
up to they came in home from metodi your Allah peace will give me from what I have already repented from. And then I went back and did it. One twice the fifth okay. And I seek your forgiveness modality hola Carla. And I've seen the mullah movie Rokeby and I seek your forgiveness from what I promised you and I didn't fulfill it. Remember Ramadan how many things were promised?
And this is very righteous people. What about you and me? And then he said, Now why isn't it floss? Why stuff you're rockin me Mazon to me to be held or to be watched for horror. I'll be Minho
and I please forgive me from that thing that I said I'm doing it only for you. And then my knifes came in and wanted part of it.
Not be me. Does that Kamala Harris panicle on mobile handy a show don't let that stuff Eurocode to booty salam ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala he was habitus demon cathedra any question?
Yes. Can I have your names I need to know you ladies.
Allah Allah Masha Allah wa ala Arabic Kumar mashallah already
so pleasing people and making someone happy is basically the same. So if I if you please me, I'm happy. If I please you, I'm happy. But the question if a class is why you are doing it. So for example, give me an example in from your life
any example anything
sometimes you want to do something for a lot and sometimes you forget the intention and you also want to make someone happy. But you're not. Okay, so you want to make someone happy? Let's take this. Is it okay to make people are happy? That's the first question. Yes or no? Look at you. Yes. If I asked you do you want to make more happy? You're gonna say yes.
100 Okay, so of course it is good. But why?
So why do I want to make you happy? And not you?
Why, that's where the loss comes in. Don't forget in this equation has to be what? Allah is the person who I am making him or her happy, pleasing Allah pantalla
if that person is not pleasing Allah subhanaw taala there is no class on this.
Did you get my point? So if I want to please you, right and you are mashallah Tabata Kala, you're a woman pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala. So the first thing is, yes, that's pleasing to Allah because you are a person pleasing to Allah. But Am I pleasing you because I'm waiting for you to praise me that that's not for Allah? Or because I need something from you. That's not for all but let's assume I am trying to please somebody who displeased Allah. How is that can be sincerity.
Right? Someone completely disobey Allah publicly and I do it to please to please them where is the problem?
Me that person he or she is more important than Allah.
Because when I please them Allah is not happy.
Clear hamdulillah question? Yes please. And your name? Mainly Munna What a beautiful name may Allah make human moon yeah don't be and go ahead yeah
when we started that
there was improving yourself.
Improving your Salah?
Yes. Yeah, I'm glad you reminded me yeah.
This is a very common scenario
if the atmosphere is tiny
God is He got Yes. So
my question when you brought this up, what was how is it what was it?
And I want you to
we possible people. Okay, that's a I couldn't do it.
Okay, so this is very good. real scenario. I come to the masjid because I feel I pray better when I'm in the masjid. Is that right? Is that right? Is that Ria? Is that sincerity?
That's the question is this is sincerity or this is ostentation.
I need to hear it.
Always sincerity look at you. You have white or black and nothing in between?
The answer? It depends. If I am coming to the masjid alone, and I know there will be nobody in the masjid. And I know I'm gonna pray better than absolutely your sensitive. Nobody will see me. But if I come to the masjid
and I know she will be there. See, there's two two extremes. And I know she will be there because I know she comes from Russia on that day. And I want her to see me. And absolutely I am not. Most of us are not they're not these two. Very rarely. Majority is what? I want to come to the masjid because I'd love to hear the Quran. I come to the masjid because it makes me feel good. Am I right? And then suddenly, I'm starting to sweat to pray and somebody comes next to me. And what happens? I feel it. So I improve my salah.
Or she sat and I'm praying and you feel she's looking at you. And I improve my salah. Is that true? Yeah.
No, don't say this, because that's one of the tricks of sci fi.
Right? They say even if you improved it, because he's looking at you keep doing it.
Because that's how shaitan comes to me. You have to be very careful. That's why I'm glad you reminded me but I told you remind me at the end. Anytime you're doing a good deed, a good deed your intention originally. And you are again, the only one who knew was for Allah. But then how about the hula. That's how they say hallelujah, hallelujah then came in. Oh, she's here. Oh, she praised me. You fight the ostentation and keep doing it. The only time you don't do a good deed is when you your intention. Again, you're the only one who knows your intention when you start doing it is not for Allah. And absolutely don't do it. Because that's absolute should
that I answered it. hamdulillah there's one question here. Just to be fair to the people online. What if you mentioned that you crave solder as a way to gently remind your sister friend, that it's time to pray and you know, this individual isn't praying regularly? Very good question.
Very good question. This is very common. We are so uncomfortable telling people come on salah, because you don't want to hear it. Right. So the question is very nice. It's from Aisha. She said what if you mentioned that you prayed salah, you prayed? Remember I told you don't talk about your good deeds. What is your intention here and saved?
That's the class your intention of mentioning that you prayed is to teach her remind her is that pleasing to Allah? Then do it
and is there a possibility she is not going to be happy with you? Very good posture then do it?
Yeah, because that is how it is. When you don't know if you are looking for the praise don't do it. But if you're doing it to what to please Allah insha Allah please help me Allah make me say what pleases you Allah make it easy Allah Peacemaker not get upset with me. We all go through this. Have you been in a gathering and this matter of time, and you're the only one getting up?
And what do I do?
Tell people don't tell people. What do you do?
You say it's Muharraq time anyone wants to pray with me and call us and don't judge people. That's it. If they followed you handler Brandon and don't do it to to impress so that people say Oh, mashallah she know your Nia is that's why I keep telling you examine your knee. Your knee is, too
remind people of salata that's pleasing to all of us. Yes. Go ahead. One, somebody? Yes.
When we are talking about
fighting ostentation, yes
I'm sorry to say it again. I believe that moment is important, because that's what we didn't catch and correct ourselves. Yes. So what do you mean by finding? For example, okay. I am giving the talk, right? Or you, you do anything in public, it's usually public, ostentatious public has to be people around you. Right? You thought someone
right? And that person didn't say, does that lie? Then thank you went.
Everybody will get upset. True, you will get sad. If you have said in the beginning, your Allah, I'm coming to teach this person here. And I am doing it for you. And then I get upset. That's when I fight myself. Immediately. I will say Didn't you just said to Allah, you're doing it for him. He will reward you why you get upset? Then you're fighting it?
It's clear.
Any other question? Yes.
But what about different missions?
Just a second, one by one, say it again. You shouldn't be.
You've never looked for praise.
And you eat. So if you're feeling down and you need that reminder.
What did Allah subhanaw taala taught us when we look at ourselves in the mirror.
That's it along my husband horriffic Emma has sent a healthy or a walk, Emma has sent a healthy person, just like you made me beautiful. Externally make me beautiful in turn, you're praising yourself. But that's up to her. To make you feel better. This is what I want. Because especially these days, I was expecting you to ask this question, Megan, is because of the self esteem.
Self esteem is extremely important these days, because of the concept of the focus is on the images.
It's this is how it is it's not because us we are bombarded young and old, about how we look.
And we are never happy with the way we look. And we have to change it. Unfortunately, because they are making millions of billions, billions, billions of dollars of this industry. And if we are in you will resist it, who will pay for it. So here I am, I want to look beautiful, and I want to impress people, and I want to use the praise and that's the problem. Versus if I practice this simple dua
since Why do I want to change myself then? He told me Can my husband
so the self esteem is when I know Allah created me in the best way one to one I know I want to please Him not see people when is my self esteem lower? Is when I compare myself with people.
Did you see the point this is one of the diseases of the heart and as a lot of sequences is my self esteem is lower because I want to please people or people treat me way bad. This is one of the major issues of the low self esteem is when people treat me so bad. And I don't have a way of getting connected to Allah subhanaw taala to lift me up.
And that's where you go through all the problems. So always think of this specially woman, young and old these days it doesn't matter anymore. It's Allah created you and the best way like a taller person in Santa Sanita queen. That's what Allah said, we have created the human being in the best form and shape. Why do I want to change it? Because people like me who were created like me, don't think I'm beautiful. And he said I have I created you in the best way. Did you see what his rehab? Did you see? Where is my focus? If my focus is him commerce, I hamdulillah
and this is why we need to re establish the connection with Allah Spandana you know why these are obstacles in my path to Allah subhanaw taala because people are the biggest problem and me is the biggest problem. It's actually me number one, and then human beings are wrong. And I need to learn that there's something called the
This, I'll work on it. Absolutely. I use the word I fight myself. It's a fighting to Oh to a certain degree and then you will when you will put your nerves under control and she will not be able to guide you, you will guide her like a baby. You know, when the baby throw a tantrum or deed?
A two year old throw tantrum in target. What do you do?
What do you do?
You just leave him in Tantra and whole target or whatever places.
You don't give him what he wants, right? Or she wants otherwise they will keep giving you the tantrum. You don't. You don't keep crying. It's not gonna happen. I'll end up with this. There is a famous very funny because I think in Tik Tok, you write a young father. Have you seen that? One is a young father is African American. Right? And the daughter is behind him. The daughter is about seven or eight years of age. Very cute. African American curly hair, crying, you know, when they cry, and there's no breath left in them. Right? And He's so calm. And he said, if you're gonna cry till you kill yourself, I am not going to give you all this you want to go back? I think it was one of the
stores when I go back. I don't want to hear this. I need this ice dries then we're gonna go back and says okay, so no, I still hear it
for five minutes, did not five minutes but that's how it feels. So when the tantrum the child throw a tantrum you don't give him what he wants. And our knifes me and you it's like a baby.
That's a famous word. The poem that praises Roswaal is Santosa he started by talking about the naps. And he said when enough Socata flew into trochu Chabad Alpha rely went after him who young follow me there enough Smee and you are the eye in me, it's like a baby.
If you let him without discipline, they will continue to breastfeed. But if you discipline them, they will stop breastfeeding.
May Allah make it easy? You're not be me. Again, don't despair. Amarula be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala that he is teaching us this and may Allah subhanaw taala make it easy and he will make it easy because those people who went into that path they were human beings like you and me. They had a lot of obstacles Believe me, then a lot of trials and temptation like you and your OB me. Does that come along here? Panic along well behind the cat shadow under either Highland stuff Hirokawa boudic sobre la Allah signum, hum, whether it was heartbeat St. McCarthy or may Allah reward you all