Haifaa Younis – Tazkiyah Retreat 2019 – #06
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The conversation covers the concept of " anger" and how it can be a heart disease. It emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and managing behavior in order to avoid harms. It also touches on the concept of "will" and how it can be used to avoid losing one's job or money. It is emphasized that identifying oneself and finding one's information is crucial to resolving one's own problems.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah while he was a woman Hala Molina, Maya and fowl now on foreigner Bhima Alam tena inika semiology will do our Armenia on the weekend and malayo albena yaksha one FC Latisha What do I lose my on banana was a Palooza Nevada it had a tener will have been a Mila don't cut off my inner capital will have furbish Rafi solder us v Omri waterlogged at Emily Sammy of Apolo, I'm going to cover two diseases of the heart. So one of the diseases I want to cover today is anger.
Anger is becoming
another epidemic.
Very recently, I
was leaving the masjid is a car stopping just after Walgreen. Someone's throwing things from the car,
throwing things, and you can tell a younger boy
1718, maybe two in the 20s not older, coming out, throw me something and going back and somebody in the car, follow him pull him he leaves, get things and then throw it on the road.
And of course, finally police came in and all this. So it's typical rage, anger. And I was saying to myself, if this person had the gun, is probably have killed himself or killed the person in front of him, or he had probably killed whoever is there.
It's becoming very common. I'm not talking about the killing. I'm talking about the anger
that is allowed to get angry very easily.
And why is that? And it's a disease of the heart.
disease of the heart is called anger. And of a swatting salt or serum and you have it in your handout
has many things about anger, there's two or three heavy that we need to re learn if we didn't learn if we learned before and learn if we didn't. And then when I end the origin, is there a cure?
So let's start with what he said. And this is what something you probably most of, you know, one of the Sahabi the companion came to Roswell is Santos. This is a hackathon site. And he said also
just give me an advice. Give me an advice. One word, actually it's too lateral don't
don't get mad.
Don't get upset. First time. Second time, same as last.
Don't get upset.
Third time
three times. Not a single word after it.
And you wonder why and there's a long commentary about it too. But they say that's how the that companions specifically, specifically had an issue with anger.
So the first thing is do I have an issue with anger? Not for a good reason.
Lisa Hello, Melinda. It's not because you saw somebody not to playing at Marvel time. I'm not talking about this. That's the good one. I'm talking about other children didn't listen to me. My friend didn't answer my call. They didn't invite me. You know, the usual dunya issues. Then the next question comes in how many of you can control it? How many can apply the iron or Swati? Last Pantanal said in our living room, what caminada you will have seen and Ignace Allahu La Habra, Marcy, those who are forgiven number one they control calvia This is why Allah said he didn't say liable
they do not get angry there is no place in the only says liable. They do not get angry. No, they control it. Actually they hide it as carbon in common millions is when you'd control it. They don't show it
number one, we're laughing and nurse number two so you get upset with them. You don't respond but that's not it. And you're forgiven pardon. Nothing happened.
While your head wound watching you do these two you become a myself Excellent, excellent in manners.
Very difficult. It's very difficult. Why do we get angry? That's the main thing we need to learn. I'm not talking about my son didn't listen to me. Or my husband did this or my coworker did that. I'm not talking about this. What made me and you have the feeling. Think of it this way. Why in the
Same situation, same, one person will be uncovering a lie, they control and the other person cannot. Why? It's ego.
The essence of anger is ego. That's not my words. This is what the scholars of the hearts teaches you and it's ego.
She didn't listen to me. She didn't follow my orders.
And I feel for number one is ego.
It's kibble. Usually it's all his kibble, because the first creation of a lot of got angry was who? She
got angry. I am not doing this. This is not fair. That's exactly to analyze what Allah says in the Quran. You didn't say it's not fair. He said, I'm better than him. But this is how when we speak,
I'm not doing it. This is not fair. I'm better I deserve better. All these words we use on daily swab origin of it, the essence of it is ego. And the other thing is another Hadith Saraswati salt or serum. A man came to him and says, what will save me from the anger of a loss?
What do I do? So I know a lot of them not to be upset with what Mother you were doing. And
he said lot of
shame.
He said laughter What will push me Save me
from the anger of Allah you know, you thought all the other thinking you know, stand up and tattooed in the night all these slap the hubbub Don't be upset, don't get angry.
Don't get angry and every time you hit lotto Bob you have to think of it is not the feeling. It's the reaction to the feeling what he means because the feeling is natural, the feeling a lot wittich in us and actually there is a good anger which rarely we have.
Rarely we are angry for a law.
Rarely, I will didn't say never, but rarely I am upset for Allah. And I always give this example some of you have heard this many times from mothers or child comes in or your son or your daughter comes from and then their card is see
or they did not get accepted to whatever you are hoping and planning and you're planning to talk about it. how angry you will get
and then the child he or she or the son he or the daughter does not wake up for
nothing.
The first one is about one the next The first one I am angry because of me my ego This is my son, I need to I need him or her to be this and that and all my friends their children are this and that second one if you got upset that's another one and
this is why I was trying to tell you this to cons The feeling is natural. We have it we should actually should. Who Allah subhanaw taala use the word not the use the word above in the Quran about him.
In the Quran, Moosa
then my socrata Moosa logo.
when Moosa calm down Why did musavat angry?
Why? Because someone did not do this to him or that time because someone didn't invite them or because of the son of the child didn't do this or did that or because of the husband or because of the wife is out of luck was disobeyed.
And that's when he got very upset with his brother. That not only that tough, what did he say don't drag me from my building from the head.
Because he was telling me why didn't you tell him to stop them from doing this? worshipping the cough that's the anger
that's why I was showed it in the Quran, meaning get angry for a while. But again, how you respond with our most 98% of our anger is not for me. It's about me,
me and what's in my surrounding. So what will save you from the anger of Allah Don't get angry, see how it is? What will bring the anger of Allah upon me when I get angry about people and I respond, another Hadith Saraswati salatu salam, you have it in your booklet this one lady says should you do Sora mistura in the machete dilithium the Calypso and the love of
a strong person is not
The person who went in rustling is not physical strength. It's the strong person is the person who control himself she or he, when they get angry,
control themselves, not easy whatsoever, but becomes very easy once you control your nerves.
Once you have control of your nerves, you can control your anger easily. The more my nerves is a strong and doing what it once, then anger is very difficult to control, very difficult to control.
What will help me control my anger?
One of those many things, but I'm just sharing with you practical things. One of the things that I personally found very helpful, especially when you get upset with people, which most of the time is the case. So remember how many times you have made a loss?
How many times
I don't even count
how many times he forgave me.
And how many times you keep giving me food and drink and health and all the blessings we were talking about. Every time we got upset from someone, remember how many times you have made a loss? 3d will help you.
Really it's going to help.
That's number one. Number two, another practical it's also in the books Really? How many times you have made somebody upset?
How many times
I would ask you I mean if we had more time, another day, I would have said list for me the people that you have made upset that you've seen it.
Right? Sometimes you don't even remember sometimes you don't even know. I mean if I ask the youth how many times you made your mother upset.
Please don't go there. Right? If I said mothers how many times you have made your daughter's upset?
A lot. So remember these two,
this, this will at least a little bit call you This is the thinking. Three,
remind yourself. That's our last panel with Todd is the one who take people accountable.
And he is the one he is the one who can give revenge to
support you give him a victory. If your anger is because of unfairness because most of the time we think it's unfair.
A lot will give you a victory.
And I just read it to you this morning I sort of had in the law you feel me living
in a lot bucola Hawa Anika, who was putting the statement here in Allah wordly, surely Allah support the believers.
To get number one, I have to be number two, I have to be the believer, the real one, he wants me to hug. And he will support the last lady that
I have seen. It's Subhan Allah and that person was she was I said to her after I read her text, I was like your offer.
Somebody was really going through
unfairness at work.
And then almost pantalla gave her the victory. So she sent me the text message said see what I sent her. She put this idea in Allahu deftly, I'm in Edina and our luggage victory will give victory to the real believer in case you wonder, aren't we believer? Where is the victory? I will ask number one where is the believers?
The real believers I'm not talking about the external believers. You know, the external acts of readings of hamdulillah I'm not belittling these, but I'm talking about the real believers. That Allah is their main focus. They do everything for a lot what we have been learning for the last two days. A lot will give you victory just be patient Wait, wait. He will give you victory
on one another and he will end specially when you remind yourself you are able to respond very harsh in words in an action but you are not doing it for a while.
is most of us especially with the children or with the people who are under us.
We have control over them can easily respond fire them. You know, I'm leaving the house. Get out of my house. All these things we say. Right Remember last Pantanal will give you
Victory. Just be patient
and back to the skill connect with him as to Halak mala, rectify your relationship with Allah, and see the wonders that's gonna come your way.
And that's number three. Number four,
cinco of why you will get upset.
Why could you get upset?
For example, betrayal,
betrayal, someone stab you in the back, not to stab in the back by talk, stab you in the back by action and you see it.
This is very painful, especially if you were
nice to this person she or you did not harden them. Right? What will happen?
Right? Imagine under law, protect your spouse, betray the wife or the wife betrayed the husband. These are the painful ones, quite painful ones.
And of course you're gonna get very upset.
But why did you get upset? That's what I wanted you to feel or to think why do I get upset when someone betraying
my right? Zack
think of the words that's going to come with from your mouth, not to them as you are talking to yourself. Remember yesterday when I said like, record the voice note for yourself and then deleted listen to it or read what you are writing. I did this for you. I was the reason that you were wherever you are. If it was what if it was not me, you will not be where you are today. I hear this from wives say this to their husbands.
The marriage is done.
The same thing if the husband say this to the wife, it's not about the wife or the husband it's about the spouses
because the respect is one
you know what it should be a loss pantalla used
it's not
lost pantalla used you and he put Baraka in your efforts and I see it so it's because I that back now you know why the what is the ego part in anger? That's how it is. I did it. I spend on I fed you This is how we say
only the oil timeliness thing. What did save me blind children.
Who's your Lord was the one who created him. He's the one who feed me and give me water to drink. Same night Brian
is not always married to for which meaning when I get sick, he also gives me the cue. It's all anger is about ego
is all about ego.
So to control anger,
see the word I use control anger. Number one work on your ego.
That's what I need humbleness.
Because the more humble I am meaning I don't see myself did something. I see a lot did it.
And Allah now did I always say this to myself. And I was taught also this long time ago who allowed this person
to betray me? Or to hurt me? Who?
Allah allowed it. Why did Allah allow it?
test me, teach me. Show me.
Right? So again, if you don't see, remember the first day if you don't see a question, if you don't see the things, and you see him first question, you're going to say to yourself and myself, What are you telling me? What are you teaching me?
When he exposed someone in front of you?
This is very, we find it very difficult. You know why? Because we don't practice it.
In the small things. So when my car doesn't work in the morning, I don't say Allah. You didn't want to work. What are you teaching?
So when you start in the small things, basics, the one the major one comes in natural response. So always when you get upset when you hear bad news, I'm not talking bad news. Bad news, meaning and use it makes you upset, not makes you sad.
Ask yourself this, turn to Allah. If you're so upset, Gordon said you would start crying and says I am very hurt. What are you teaching me Show me talk to Allah.
Talk to him. Don't talk to people people is like you know I am really cool and
the people who I talked to invent to and I'm looking up to they cannot benefit me or hurt me. I think this all
So principal we forgot why alumina alumina which tomorrow at this is another heavy to save Abdullah now bus very famous heavy when he was a young man and following roswaal a social services Come on boy, I'm going to teach you words and one of them at the end of it he said no if the whole nation get together to harm you
we will not get hurt except with what something Allah has decreed Allah allowed it to happen go back again to the source anger
practically there's things which most of you know number one if you're standing sit down
if you are sitting stand up, change position panel change position
try it try it on somebody or on the phone or you read a text message. Usually these people but he recently one of my friends her husband divorced her a text message
which is valid these days by the way. So she showed me the text
seven children
so you're reading this, you're reading this and of course it's painful. Of course it turns out we are human beings right but the first thing is your loss of money. If you're sitting stand if you're standing sit around to the bathroom undoable I'm not saying don't cry. I'm not saying don't get upset. I'm just saying don't show it and act on it immediately.
can't try to can't try to contain it. That's what I've called movement containment. Number one is change position. Number two is will
you wonder why?
Anger is form shape now. It's one of the ways shape or news shaitan is from fire. Water, extinguish fire.
Simple things. Go and do it.
Push yourself is like I know I know. It's all about I know go and do it. And do it.
Another thing is,
say stuff.
Start Jorvik start your Indic I can tell you what liquor does how it calms you down. Don't pick up the phone on someone start talking to them.
Because it's going to be unless you're talking to somebody who's going to calm you down.
unless I've seen very recently someone so upset and calling another person so upset. Panama that person was very calm the second person on very calm and they said
have you ever said what she said to
me the word was very harsh. It's always of course happens between families and close people.
So that person I was there that person said have you ever said to her what she said to you when there is no answer on the other side. What does that mean?
First thing calm people don't remind them don't say Oh no.
Don't put more fire.
Don't put more would remember what we talked about it yesterday. Be the source of hype.
Be a light a torch of spreading hype. This is an opportunity Allah put you there someone called you or text you choose the words to calm people down even if it's a huge disaster. I remember one of my friends long time ago she Pamela has been married 40 years she doesn't
got pregnant with delivered
to Panama and then we're a group of foreman martial mathematical law one of them looked at her and said listen to options there's no third so called says you can cry and keep crying and keep talking about him and keep taking more lessons and sins and give him all the good deeds you have done.
two options either you take it or leave then allows it
then allows you cannot she said I'm gonna die she said fine. Leave
the law she doesn't need any financial aid you don't need to stay. She said you don't have to stay. That's your right.
or stay. There's no other third stop saying things and doing things that it will even put you even more in pain in dunya and after she kept looking at us as Don't lose your dunya enough.
See the reminders. remind people that if you don't say to her, how can he do this? And you did this and this and this to him that's what her nervous system in her
always be the keys of good in anger. If you
have to talk to somebody make sure the one you are going to talk to is that kind of person otherwise don't talk to people talk to a law around your masala sit on your sad Giada cry and sob and says that's what happens to me I know I don't deserve it you You helped me
You helped me um I cannot do this
panel and one of the nice very nice seeing and this is gonna make you think release talk to say numsa and usually you hear a lot of things through saying numsa and he says Reese chiffon same to save themselves be aware of getting upset.
imagines
because I shaped on play with the angry person. Like children play with the ball. He said to him
to show you upon be aware of getting upset because I play with the strong man who get upset like children plays with a ball. Have you seen children playing with bow? Very there's not a big heavy ball very easy throw it it goes there it goes there. Meaning she found from from one side to the other. Go right go left say this, do that.
remind yourself of this.
The more I get upset the more shaitan will control me and I don't want this. And he said and look at that. This This goes to what we said yesterday
and he said beware of woman.
I have not put a truck
more successful to a man than a truck through a woman.
And beware of being miser.
I ruined the dean the religion of a man by making him being a miser. Show me him that miserliness is good.
So don't be that woman. That's what I was trying to say to you.
Don't be that woman. And miserliness is everybody. And don't be Don't be so holding to dunya It's mine. I like it. I love it. Give it before someone else will throw it out. I say this all the time. Have you ever had a member of your family die like a parent and you had to go through their closet.
dumped that shopping for some because only this your your beloved people just remember all these things that they were holding to it.
Whatever this dress or what knows how much it costs to this shoe is how much it cost.
Don't be mine is $1.02 things give you a giver remember yesterday generosity of soda autotrade
giving extinguish the anger of a law that's giving give someone asked you for something good. Oh but you don't know I bought it how long I worked for give it one day they will throw it out very recently is power mine I share this with you because these are reality. I really go to the state sales or whatever. Left domestic early in the morning on a Saturday just sourced sites at the state steel.
Okay, so I stopped.
I don't know who's the owner of the house you are a heap of things that you and I have daily in our homes. So I can't tell you the the impression tagged on
you know the comp
the cleaning things, the frequent people who are very clean, you open the they opened it because they're selling everything. The cleaning thing under the sink by the ashtray. They've left it there. You can tell this the husband or the works. Any handy person because in the garage is all everything you can think of a handyman.
They're selling it for 50 cents.
Each
is holders sometimes at the end, sooner or later.
Sooner or later. What are you getting upset and now imagine when somebody breaks something in your house.
Right or you lose something. My grand great grandmother gave it to me at one day on levy
and it's sitting there and then they're going to be a state sale these days. Who are your children what they take it they are in different states.
They will come to a standstill because they want the money.
And 40 or 50% goes to the company of the states, states.
And these are all reminders. This is all reminders, you drive in the street and you see all these. That's why Allah said sugar often on the fondue, walk in this earth and see, see and learn.
So anger is one of the main keys of this obedience to Allah. And we I just give myself as a gift to shave off, come and do whatever you want with me.
Work on your ego. And one of the results of anger or the cause of anger is actually jealousy.
That's another disease. Jealousy, like yesterday, remember, I loved the question of the sister.
And I will share it with some of you here because you're not with us yesterday, and I don't have the question. But what I remember is that the sister was saying, I have been tested in everything. And health, in wealth in not having and then I and my friends all and they blog about it. That's what if you remember, I'm using phrase I don't know if she really used that phrase. But they they talk and they brag about their big homes and about their children and about what they have. And I have nothing and it makes me upset.
And this translate to has a greater Why does she have I don't have it?
And I think I am better than the moment you say this word.
This is a major word. Why?
It's because it's Cuban. But even bigger than that.
I'm sorry. Yeah. I said when I say Why does she have this cup? I don't have it. This is not fair.
You are questioning Allah fairness.
Allah is
one of his name's v just no one else is just except the justice on one. So why this person has this and I don't have it. Right? Somebody to Panama, this was a famous athlete, I don't remember his name.
And he very famous and he got sick and he was asked
in the hospital, I read this. Someone asked him, don't you ever question Why did you get sick? What was his answer? I never questioned why I was famous.
I never questioned why I was famous.
We think we deserve what we have. But when we don't have to a question.
So I said there's only two conditions where you are supposed to be a hazard.
And of course we don't do it.
To conditions when someone has it. I don't have it. I will say I want to be like
two things. Anybody knows?
knowledge?
knowledge.
Okay, I'll give you the heavy it's a heavy thumb. So hey, I don't know if I have it in your booklet, the hazard that you left with nothing. There is no jealousy accepted to Satoshi Satoshi I'm reading Roger Atal Who was your gender or for your own movie and you want to hug a man meaning a human being anytime you read in the Islamic terminology or module don't think it's a man meaning masculine? It's a man is a human being. unless Allah separate but usually Roger would mean man and woman. So a human being man or woman, she or he, Allah gave them the Quran meaning they know how to read they understand and could we also have but what do they do with it? That's where you want to be is not to
be a half of or you know the Quran amavi name.
Stand up in the night reading or reciting? That's one. The second one was Roger axolotl matter. A human Allah gave a she or a he wealth, money. What did they do with it? They bragged about it and they had bigger homes and bigger cars and more vacations. No. What did you tell her llamada for who will fit fulfill healthy and lady.
He spent it in the right way during the night during the day, meaning always,
always.
Always. That's the only two times I am
praised and I am supposed to have the feeling of jealousy.
I look at her and I say she memorized
or she reads very well or she understand all of the above. And not only that, but I came to know that in the night she stands up in the night reciting the Quran. I was like y'all know what you gave her give me
what you gave her give me
and or someone Allah gave them wealth money and they spend
spend
without fear of what about and my 401 K and and when I'm we're coming 65 or Medicare is going to be what? None of this. A lot of how you don't have you. So remember this. Why are we jealous?
One reason
one reason it's all poor, all the causes comes to this point. How good dunya we love this dunya
really love this dunya
we want to have everything in this dunya
in very nice estatements inshallah I'm able to share it with you and translate. They said people love dunya and they think they don't have enough because dunia is not enough for everyone.
But it
is enough for everybody.
It is huge. JOHN knows a huge
you want more you get more. That's one and the second thing which is really interesting. Is
the the good qualities that are lost pantalla gift to people.
Even when you share and I'll give you the example you'll understand even when they share it and give it to the other is nothing. They don't get less. Give they give an example of someone studying become knowledgeable and he teaches people and everybody he teaches becomes knowledgeable. Nothing will get less from his knowledge or her knowledge versus money. If you give people think I'm going to get class. So dunya love of this jr This is the whole essence of the problems we are having. We love it. We are keen on it. Want to have more of it. And I wish I can say that at least we love doing it as we love
or I will say I love alkalize I love dunia usually it is
Acura is not in my mind it comes when I someone die I go and pray somebody gets sick get somebody gets cancer. I was like all your law that's it. But I don't see it in front of me and I am going there sooner or later with no age limitation. I mean hamdulillah and especially for the people of St. Louis. So those of you who are outside St. Louis you will learn we have a beautiful group here called
funeral group
isn't
what a funeral volunteers were anyone die in this community? We will get announcement everybody and then they will ask for Why do you get the announcement because there is to at least two rewards Allah brought it to you. One is they ask for volunteers to wash the body she or he and the second thing is they tell you when is the janaza prayer go and pray janessa
This is when I like if I go and I pray Jeunesse or I wash the body I remember I go within few hours back to the rat race I call it 100 dunya you need to remind yourself in mind that dunya is one day like today and another day like yesterday. That's the only
one day it's raining, it's miserable. It's the 30s the other day 60 shining and at one day there will be nothing left from it.
So these the two diseases I want to share with you is again there's way more to talk about and just because of the time and I wanted to stress on important things so at least you can take it with you. You want to take a break or we continue.
Let's continue we have about 30 minutes.
Now I'm coming to something else in Tesco which is one of the cornerstones of Tesco. So now we learned one of the most important thing I am going to work on which you all wrote it here. interest here is what
what is my goal which part of my body
But I need to focus work is the art.
Right? Is my heart My problem is my heart and we talked about the kinds of the heart yesterday, there is an opposite the heart. And I'm going to just use simple word so you can understand, compete with the heart has a negative impact on the heart and is the reason why 50% of the reason or half the reason why I disobeyed your law and it's called knifes.
It's called naps.
Now let's talk about the knifes there's three kinds or three categories, three
parts
or three definitions of nerves.
One is the way Allah subhanaw taala put it in the Quran
the way it was pantalla put it in the Quran
and there is another way where the scholars have tested here put it taking it from the Koran so let's go to the Quran first.
What did Allah said about the nuts in the Cora some of you I think we have discussed this in the class
what are the lessons how many types of nuts in the
one he swear by?
Right and one insert yourself
right and one is
the one that we all want to be so there is yes we are
the one I want my in
a marami su perfect so let's take one by one. Which one you want to start with? Of course the good one. So let's talk a little more in what's in wautoma in
yeah it's very hard to translate it and give it the right meaning you'll find some will translate as enough's in peace neffs at peace, peace.
So put a piece and then the question comes in piece with what will come to this or enough's that lives in tranquility.
Ocean like that like the lake today smooth nothing no up and downs. Not sure not a loss of this is the last I have sorted for your your toy enough so not my inner
Vicki.
Oh, so HPS returned your Lord pleased with and pleasing for
all the atom Mobley. You are pleased with and you are pleased with right so let's see what the scholar said about enough Solomon
said Abdullah grandma said enough so not much. The neffs at peace is an EPS that believes
this huge word. As we say okay, I am a believer so I am not smoke money. Or we
Am I sometimes have some magma in your lobby. I mean this is how I will answer
because I'll tell you what is the half sir not mine and then you tell me sometimes.
Why it's so he says a national movement. He said enough for more for the
the nuts that believes
then a tiger came in and now tells you believes in what a national movement in the national believes at peace with every promise of lightning.
every promise Allah made Are you with me? Give me a promise alignment. Why the Lord Medina and Manu wa middle Sati have those who believe and do a good deed right? Do I believe in this?
Of course I did. Then why don't I do it.
See why he said the truthful. The first one you see it the survey telling us and not mine. You you'll see the promise of a law as if you are seeing it
as if you are seeing it
someone if behind this door somebody comes into me behind this door there is a person if I am an actual motor my
eye is there or she's there. I didn't see it but I know it's there.
Um I
that's one and enough somewhat in the knifes the human being when he or she is afflicted by an affliction This is going to probably tell you most of what we all need to learn any affliction associated mostly either he or
She knows it's from Allah accepted. And his pleased with
wash labor, any affliction think of this afflictions at every age, we have
kind of like if somebody has a teenager and a mother who just had a newborn, right? And the newborn is sick and the mother is panicky, right? The mother who has a 16 year old stuff laughing by, okay, let's give him time, always be fine or actually become a teenager and see what you're gonna see the Reseda then the person who has children who got married and now your grandmother, right? You look at the 16th this is much easier.
Wait till they get married. And then they come to you everyday and they give you all their problems.
So mostly eba is a different and don't belittle somebody because at that age at that stage for them, this is a calamity.
That's why it's a different but in general, anyone in this room, any one of us regardless where I am, a calamity hits me My response immediate
not after I think I listened to something immediate response, probably to
accept and I am pleased, then you're nervous is not
enough. So not right now. It's going to get higher. I left the best to the last, as they say.
And Nuff said what Martin, it is so much in peace. Look at this one, especially in this day and age with every order. Allah order, every order. Allah ordered
every command, he said do or don't do
and never question it.
Or bring his or her opinion, and what he or she thinks above it.
Enough, so not mine. So how many of us are not some of
the highest level. That's why I said Jay, Rob, Becky and scholars teaches you a lot in say J Dilla. J era wiki he used personal, go back to your Lord,
raw modeling, you're pleased and happy what you're going to get. And I was pleased with you.
An absolute man.
And they say is
one of the ways which is related to what I just said, to get to a national model to reach there is to know the reality of this life. So how am I in test Korea, they keep reminding you of this, the reality of life, how it will end 2005 I still remember it like yesterday.
It's 14 years ago.
I remember it like yesterday,
14 years ago. Wow.
So somebody who was born 14 years ago now as a teenager, somebody who was a teenager 14 years ago now is probably a mother or a father.
The more I think of life, it's gonna end up quickly, quickly, I will settle any and probably one of the nice ways of looking at the nerves and the nerves that is settled sakeena checking, it doesn't move up and down.
And all these reactions settled.
Like what they say.
You remember the story of Satan himself. When he threw his stick and it's engulfed all the sticks of the magicians. And what did the magicians do? right away? They believed right.
Sharon looked at them and says you believed in him.
Right? And he starts threatening them. What did they respond? I love that fact of the matter called do what you want to do. In a matter of the higher the higher the dunya this life is short. It's going to end.
Do whatever you want to do.
remind yourself of this. This life is short tackle these very quickly. 14 years ago it's like a blink of an eye.
I mean ice and this is true. Ask your mom. I still remember the delivery of Maria
details how old is Maria Maria?
70
I remember like yesterday
17 years ago,
another 17 years from now, Allah knows where we will be. How many of us will be on the top?
Or how many of us will be younger? So enough soon enough.
The second one
they say most of the believers are this one. Al Hamdulillah and epsilon one
and what's enough so no one
they say blame worthy
approach for self. Self that blame
blame. But the blame is for good reason.
A lot why they say this is a good news is a lot made an oath bite the soul to that oxygen. We all will be one our oxygen been absolutely one. So blameworthy, reproachful self on naps.
And what is this one? This is you and me and all of us. They say this one, think of the first one we talked about is this sleek, sitting, still doesn't change. accept everything comes from a loss. And right now on second one, this one, this one does not stay stuck on one condition or in one state.
It turns very quickly
kathira to unload, it turns upside down. Meaning sometimes it remembers and sometimes it's in a state of hopelessness. Sometimes walking toward the law going to a law sometimes the other direction
sometimes loves and sometimes hate.
Sometimes very happy and pleased with a lot sometimes sound
sometimes terrible pleased. Sometimes it's angry,
sometimes obey and a lot conscious. And sometimes it's not. So that's the first criteria that it is not yet reached a steady state.
So how do I know? Am I Ella warmer? Or my motto? My ultimate mine is a steady state. If Allah gives me million dollar at 100, that if Allah makes me lose million dollar
multiplying, because that's how that's how that's how I see it.
If Allah gives me everything, I want that hamdullah If Allah takes everything I have is 100 and not mine. Please Imagine if we all have enough so much money, no crimes, no kidding. No problems, no social injustice, none of this.
Second one is the communist one
hasn't mostly said it's the knifes of movement
because the believer through one kept blaming keeps blaming himself or herself.
Why did you do that? Why did you say?
Why didn't you do that? Why didn't you get up for why you were so lazy? Why you take her as a friend, and you know she's not good for you. Why didn't you do this? Why didn't you do that? Usually repeatedly. Why did you do it? What was your intention? How did you do it?
So that's the other way of looking at it.
Third one, which is a little bit higher, and this we all have to at least be here. If that person does an act of disobedience, he or she will blame herself. Why did you do?
What about if I did a good deal?
How I'm going to be blameworthy or approach of I just did a good deed.
Exactly. Why didn't you do it better?
Why didn't you do it better?
To improve? Like if I go to a test and I get 80 Some people think 80 or I get the plus. Lots of people think what's wrong with B plus, but I am perfectionist a plus personality. What is this B plus business?
Nope. I need an A plus that's what the law
so always even when I do a good deed, I see. I see I didn't do the best I can. I should do better.
And they certainly remember bill payments viewtiful one he said the NAB Silla one this one is to cry
It is reproachful but it deserves to be blamed. It's not a good one. And which one is this? They say it's the ignorant one. That a lot pantalla will take her me Are you having this nerves? blameworthy? A lot we'll say, why did you not do that?
Meaning because of my ignorance
and being unjust to myself, I don't blame myself the right way. Did you get my point? For example, I blame myself Why didn't I my house was very clean when the guests came in. But I don't blame myself Why didn't I love do I better solder so I blame myself for things that is not important in the sight of a law.
And I don't blame myself on something that is what Allah wants me to. You get it. And this also us this also as that's why they say this is all in the believer in movement.
And the good one, the good blameworthy one is the one who keep reminding the person when he does or she does good deeds you can do better.
You absolutely can improve.
Especially when it comes to you and you say I can never do this. I can never memorize the Quran, for example, which find it is a huge task and your knifes the goodloe one I will say to you Why not?
Not somebody inside your head Why not? The people who memorize Quran is better than you. For example, when you are going to do a major task that's a pleasing to Allah shape on comes to you and people comes to you and says you can do this. And then you're enough's the good lawanna will come and say yes, you can do it. Yes, you can. Why not? You have the energy, you have the money, you have the ability, whatever it is. And the bus the woman the bus slow woman is the one that takes you accountable in this dunya
and blame you for not doing the best for them.
So when you hear it inside you This is why I always say this one woman comes to me and says, I can't believe where I am. Look at me. I used to do this and now I'm not doing this. I was like this is like
this is good news. Because now you are blaming yourself. That means your heart is alive.
Not to the extent that you become the spear you become the spear that's bad. Now Shakedown King is the good one is the one that pushes the human being.
For the sake of Allah Don't forget that. Not for the sake of dunya because for the sake of doing it hamdulillah we do it all the time.
So where are we?
Are you an absolutely a woman. We all have enough we have to have enough.
I doubt if anyone in this room including me is enough. So
if you are please talk to me after the session.
And teach me
your own way. I mean,
that's one of the draw you do for yourself. I really need to make a draw for yourself. I cannot do what you can do. I don't think we are a model.
Why I'm so confident
you will not be here. Exactly. We never bring an enormous amount of a su we're never in this beautiful day bring you immediately will say go out and walk through now look at the beauty koboko remember yesterday was all raining a lot knows tomorrow. Now you're going to go back in a few hours you can listen to the recording
a model of Loma maluma when a warm away maluma command This is his words.
The word Metro maluma meaning it's
blame worthy, that needs to be blamed and blame worthy that is not need to be blamed on contrary needs to be praised is the one that tells you you can do better. Why you prayed only to the cat in the night you can do for what did you first only Monday you can do Monday and Thursday. Why did you only control your anger? Why didn't you respond in a nice way push you to the higher level in what pleases Allah. So where are you? So most of us are in absolutely one. Most of us and the 100.
Most of us are the one and the good way. Most of us, right and this is one of the terms we use in Tesla is don't be the lawyer of yourself. Don't defend yourself at all different others is fine
Don't defend yourself. Don't say it's okay. I didn't mean it. I'm talking about for the law in my relationship with Allah don't because he knows. Cry Forgive me weak weak Haleakala in some way I was created don't say it's okay
so don't defend yourself because if you defend yourself it's something a woman it's actually a hidden way of model the suit
it's a hidden one the last one we've come to love before we go for solid, the self that urge evil
evil a model is super
orange for evil
and this one absolutely absolutely not praiseworthy. On the contrary there is no place no condition that nefs amount of this suit would be good because the name The title is urge evil How can evil be good
fight this snuffs could be any anybody could be a Mormon could be a Muslim can be a Kaffir could be anyone it that's enough that nefs keeps ordering itself I mean that person who has an absurd amount of this laughs keeps ordering him or she to do every evil thing
every evil thing add to it shaitan comes in work and they beautify this evil
that's why it is hard to say no they beautify it
give me an example that you have seen it's not you have an evil act someone is doing
this will be this
anything that comes to your mind
for example like right mind
and you see it sliding the person who's lying probably knows he or she is lying. You think then the neffs inside will say it's okay why you know it's a major sin Allah will punish you but that's okay.
The next is going to be depends on this person there will be two kind of somewhat minor This is not part of it.
So a more of a CEU what is going to tell that person
many ways you know what? justify it exactly. You know what? I had to do it to save more harm.
It's not a big deal. I mean, what did I say? No one gets hurt.
It's not a major thing. Allah is awful Rahim. All these statements you hear that you and I are inside and we hear it constantly from people.
That's an absurd amount of a suit that's beautify. doesn't tell you know enough amount of a suit will say you know, don't pray It's okay. You're going to go to Jana Muslim.
Nobody will do that. Because you're not going to do it to beautified Allah for Rahim, the usual word we hear it all the time. And of course online is of course a lot more forgiving and merciful. What about what should you do right?
What about Allah has to be the punishment? I don't look at that part, which comes most of the time together in the order. So the Nuff said Amara is usually is the one that urged you beautify to make it beautiful and easy to this last panel mutata and this is one of the two hours that you always hear it especially in Seoul in Seattle you won the hot one of the draw for Roswell in software. So I'm used to say now to be learning me surely unforeseen, say at the Marina.
Now the initial rule I'm pushing are We seek refuge in a law from the evil of our knifes the force, I should
say it Anna Lena and the bad deeds because that's the result.
Neff starts acting inside you justify it and then translate into action.
And who said this statement in the Quran so I choose omarion fc
in an epsilon amount or to be su Nirmala hammarby I do not. I do not
praise myself and remove prime from myself from sings nobody
notices amount of soup. The nuts is usually order and beautify an urge for evil
Who said it?
There's two opinion about it. That's why I'm explaining this to you. So you can see how pious people think of themselves and you and me how we think about ourselves. One opinion says is the wife of a disease
or the other stronger opinion same says it, same name also for senate
manager.
So, you know, most of my body will have seen and left that model from
what about you and me? So this is why in test year, two in common words, don't be the lawyer, the attorney of yourself. Don't give yourself excuses. You did it. It was a mistake. Don't say it's okay. It's a mistake. No, it's not an okay song. It's a mistake, but it's not okay. She said, like, this is what you say to your child. What makes you upset with your child?
When he does something very bad, and instead it's out in front of you. It's okay. It's a mistake. One of the most annoying words that mothers hear right? And you look at him says it's a mistake, but it's not okay. That's me and you with minus three month review online. So Panama and sometimes that's why I keep reminding you of how you when you talk to the children, because this is how we talk to ourselves, we are as children. Last thing before I get is the other definition. Or one thing before I come to this is is it a three new force or it's one knifes in three states.
Scholars differ most, most correctly on a one note, it's one left in three states which is good news.
Because that means I can be unmotivated. Sometimes I am a model or evil most of the time I'm in between but I can reveal it changes. Now there is another kind of maps which is very much related to the skier and this is actually nothing but color and this is a mammal Vasari they call on the psychologist of STEM he said human beings are four kinds that will force base based upon what makes them happy
amazing
let's before I say this some of you will know so if you know don't answer let's the others who are first time with us. What makes you happy
food usually number one right? That's one kind of nuts what else make you happy?
For your sleep all these on one nurse?
I'm sorry.
Talk to friends.
For praise that's another nurse excellent.
Better than everybody else.
I want to when I come to the wedding, I am waiting the best what and I want everyone to look at me why that's a nice
third a fourth
the best one gave you a clue
only connected to Allah. So let's come to them very quickly. This is a long topic but I want to cover it because I want you to go home and don't look at your husband and say he has this knifes
you know how we are
or my child or my friend?
This is not the issue. This is not that's not the reason I'm teaching you. This is about you.
Why Please don't do this. They will never send you back again.
So the first nerves, the nerves that is happy with food, drink
laziness, sleep, watching TV. relationships. They call it the cat or likeness.
Cattle like like cat like sheep. You know the animals that doesn't hurt. They are so worried about their comfort.
If you want to make a cat happy what do you do? Feed her as soon as he starts licking. Right? And then she goes on sleep
I even joke always with my cat I was like what do you do for a living?
You eat and sleep and clean and then eat and sleep and
this is us.
This is us so true. Nothing else you give me a good meal. I'm very happy. Let me sleep and don't bother me. I'm very happy. That's me watch this thing on the TV be the couch potato and I'm very happy.
If I tell you I am or you are exalted us but we are like cat Like what?
That's kind of nervous. Second one.
The next that wants to be better than everybody else.
Which one
like a predator
Read the tour
like think of the animals and this you will never forget lion what makes a lion happy? Have you seen a lion in real life? Right those of you have been to Africa I've seen a lion if you've been to Safari I've seen them right I've seen
what does lion do?
What makes the lion happy when a duck like that talking at you, you say okay, this is what he did before. What did he do? They usually prayed went grabbed an animal, you know what they do?
They eat only few bytes span of last few bytes. And the animal which usually deers and then in front of them dead and they are very happy and start licking themselves.
Because the predator knifes
so predatory knifes, what is what do I do as a woman as a human being? And I am like that lion.
power
power control power and the best and the king. Everyone is for me under me.
I like to take over even if I don't need what makes me happy. Have you seen some people like that?
They call it enough to support a year.
submarine is like the predator
predator
several a year from Simba. Simba I'm while Yeah.
Serbian English in Arabic is a line a symbol a year
that's the second third third
which animal does this it's usually not animal its shape on what the shape
and he's very happy.
Make people fight. Make husband and wife, husband and wife. Divorce creates hatred.
animosity between people
jealousy and associate Bonnie. So when do I have a shave on enough's?
So someone comes, look at this, you've probably never thought on this. So you come to me, and you're complaining about your husband.
Right? And I'm jealous from but you don't notice. So you come to me and says Look what you did one and two and three and four. My response to create more hatred.
So then I will hear they got divorced. Yes.
And I am now happy shave.
Shave Bonnie evil che upon they actually transfer let's say Bonnie nips.
shaytani neffs one day create hatred between people. Usually people have minima. People who goes between people and didn't know what she said about you what she said about you, and then you exaggerate. That's the third. The fourth the good one.
And malarkey, angelic
the angelic knifes and what is the criteria of angelic nerves? What makes angelic nerves happy?
Think of an angel. When you think of an angel, like somebody who say You know what? She's like an angel. What is her criteria?
soft, quiet. Brings always wherever she is brings higher. Goodness, calm people bring people together. That's in general. And between her and last Pantanal. The happiness This is what the happiness is when she or that naps is doing something pleasing Allah
whether it is an act of worship, whether it is with human beings, whether it's with the earth nafcillin, malarkey.
All of us have them all.
All of us have them. The question is the percentage
how much I am Mullah Aquino's. What's the percentage? How much I am Shivani evil, how much I am cattle like. That's one in general. And this changes
I could be in the morning or the talk at work on for the tour.
At home, I've got to like
write with friends, I'm sure Barney, Panama, ask yourself this question which snaps you off
and which one and you're going to say the all of them. All of us have malarkey all of us because you are happy when you obey a law
nobody is sad because they obey the law. No way. But it's how often
is it is the predominant so look at yourself and say which one you are.
And that's how where do I start? Because the all these questions I put on this side is where do I start? How do I start? Number one, start identifying who you are, which of you which hamdulillah yesterday we went in it in detail, which heart you have, and which knifes you have. That that is predominant. That identify you
know what I'm saying the most common one, your usual. So if you're always angry,
and you are always jealous than your common knifes is
shavon
shavon jealous.
If you are always happy, let me just go home five o'clock I'm leaving work that we go on. And then when I'm eating all the law
and I this this Monday and Thursday fasting and I can do this. I can do this. Don't talk to me about this. It's very hard from I can I love my coffee.
All of us and I'm not saying it's one time, one time then you have a little bit but when it's always the majority that the predominance me I don't care if somebody is better than me. It doesn't move. Everyone is richer than me. Nothing. I don't care if she is good without a husband or not.
I'm very focused on my food and my comfort zone. Then I am a bahini
So here you go. interest here to start the process. Which one you are.
Mainly quickly I know I pass the timer because I want to finish this poll I wanted to finish before some had to leave because of the flight. If you are a person who is predominantly Rahimi cutter like your treatment is buy less food, more fasting
more
more licorice applies to all of them, I'm going to come to that's what I'm going to end up with. This is the next after lunch, and Salah, this is what we're going to cover the kolok applies to all of them, including malarkey, to give them an Iraqi song I need it. If I might happiness, food and drink and sleep less asleep, you're going to if you sleep eight hours is going to be fine, it's going to be seven, then it's going to be six, meaning I'm going to be staying up longer in the night or better wake up early insula within Orion doing something because I am not going to feed this is the word. I am not going to be feeding my apps. I don't know what's the food unless I know what
deficit is. If I am actually upon enough
What is my main medicine?
Exactly? Less socializing with people.
cut her down unless you have to. And when I say I have to meaning what Allah told me, my family and the heart of a Muslim, the right of that human being, somebody gets sick, I need to visit them or I call them minimum and ask about them. someone died in their family I have to go and give them condolences. They invite me for a wedding or they invite me for Artesia or they invite me for walima as long as there is no disobedience of a lot that's their right
that's the right but every weekend and every day let's go and have a coffee and do this if I am if my company is not angelic enough
if my company angelic loves to spend all day with them, but where are they? Tell me
if my company is not don't not because of them because of you mean don't blame people? Me? If I see her coming and she's carrying a new bag, it's gonna affect me. This is us woman so Pamela right. New shoes. Oh, she told you she moved to a new home affect us.
I don't want this pull away. That's why I gonna go back again and talk about the social media
and post everything on
They are and let everybody look at you and then what will happen to the hearts? If I am a submarine enough's submarine ABS love control the same treatment because who you're going to control lets people cut your interaction. That's why halwa being alone is again one of the cornerstones of Ischia less get out of all these WhatsApp groups
WhatsApp is an amazing thing Allah gave us but also sometimes becomes a newcomer
literally I'm one of my teachers I remember I was there and she's so sweet cannot say no to people is like I don't read and I and there is a thing what's upcoming
so Panama get out of these groups family group is a different story group that will help you to obey a law and do hire Yes, but two groups off wherever, wherever, just leave politely. And unfortunately in some scholars actually said this, they say you are intruding the privacy of someone, if you add them to a group without asking them
the rights of the person is to ask her, is it okay to I put you in this group? No, they didn't. Then when you leave, they should not get upset.
Cuz A lot of us get upset when people leave.
But they say if they did not ask you if that's your right, so less interaction with people as much as you can, angelic enough how do you feed it
and every act of obedience to Allah,
Vic sada, Surya, Amara Hajj, which help people obey your parents good to the family, good to the husband, to the children, his son, we do things with best ability. You are so a lot conscious in every word in every action, in money in material, everything when you are an engineer close. So you look at your day and see from the 24 hours, eight hours we are feeding the Bahamian us, we have to six because we have to sleep so the Bohemian EPS is always the winner. We have to eat
but it's the access that we all need to stop. So look at these these are the two things you're alive now and hunger you learned about the now learn about maps and ask Allah subhanaw taala to show you that's one of the dual out of which actually it's a normal I showed it to you yesterday but you can turn it to a draw your alaba suddenly be able to see show me my shortcomings. Show me I want to love to show me I don't want people to tell me because I'm not going to accept it. Even if it's true.
Even if it's a thrill I won't This is my naps. My show plan universe doesn't like
a lot will show it to me Show me and help me to correct it. You're on biani Desert Highlands panic Alomar behind the shadow and stuff we will cover today. So lawless evening ina Mohammed whether it was time to test him and Kathy for the
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