Haifaa Younis – Jannah Gems #05 – The One Who Benefits from Self Victimization is Shaytan

			Bismillah your Walkman you're watching.
		

			self pity is it sort of it's self fulfilling, and it's also
		

			paralyzing. And what that means is that when we lock ourselves into a script of victimization, it
becomes self fulfilling in the sense that everything that happens to us after that, we begin to
interpret it in terms of the world is against me, fate is against me, I am a victim of these vicious
circumstances. And then we are going to see ourselves constantly as being weak as being paralyzed by
this as being completely helpless to act in any way shape or form. And I want you to understand
something my dear sisters, you all ultimately the only one who benefits from this self victimization
that we are doing is actually shade on to shade lawn likes to see the believer in a state of despair
		

			and depression.
		

			Very important for us to understand, because when we become paralyzed by that self pity, by that
grief, by all those negative emotions, what we are doing is depriving ourselves of the ability to
act. Because all of us have been have been given an ability to act within certain parameters, even
if it's just to literally drag ourselves out of the bed and go and make booboo and make like a team.
But if we can't even do that, there's only one winner in that situation and that shape on will that
will lay out to the left. And so I want us to understand that and like I said, this is where your
support is so important, whether it's your shape or shape or a man that has some training in this in
		

			mental health support, right? It's so important and hamdullah we have more and more Muslims in the
mental health professions. Because there comes a point where Yes, where we can drag ourselves up
right but there also comes a point where you have to know it's time to speak to a therapist about
this and I write I will add one thing if you allow me a shift like the beautiful dua that Allah
surely sought or certain tortoise, Allah humanely now you'll be meaner to me What hasn't? So panela
in any time you seek refuge from Allah about something that means that something is going to happen.
And what is this drought? The first part of it is your Allah I seek refuge in You, meaning you are
		

			the one who's going to help me from what I'll have me What hasn't happened is when you are worried
something sitting in your chest, and you're so worried about and hasn't sorrow, and when do I feel
sorrow is when I lose something, let alone I lost I lose a beloved one funeral in a law run to Allah
saladna yopu when he walked when he lost save the use of he doesn't know where is he? What did he
say? I scuba co hosting a law, I complain my loss and my sort of to Allah. So absolutely in this
recipe, if I want to say it is you seek the help number one from Allah by dwell by turning to him,
pour your heart for a week. I can't do this. I cannot handle it. You're the only one who's going to
		

			make me do it. Literally speak in this way. Plus the support of exactly the community. There is a
lot of Muslim psychologists and psychiatrists then in your your family, when you look for people
help but number one I will say
		

			this is a difference you said between us and the other faith what people who doesn't believe because
Alhamdulillah I have a habit of meeting a strong rope I can hold 200 level Blimey.