Haifaa Younis – Islamic Values and Morals SeriesForbearance and Deliberateness
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The transcript discusses various historical and practical advice for practicing forbearance, cutting relationships, and being happy. It emphasizes the importance of thinking ahead and weighing options before making a decision. The transcript also touches on the use of a name in the Quran and the importance of practicing patient mental health. The conversation includes brief and unrelated comments about the success of programs and the potential for "has been said to" to happen in the future.
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But the live show and I've seen letters about what do you smell? or vanilla disapprove and how bad is the data? What happened I'm a little inaccurate and said we'll have probably shortly solder you were silly only what led up that Emily Sani of Ollie I mean, so today inshallah we're going to be is a continuation of last week some of you may were with us last week when we talked about anger. And we went in detail about anger and the good anger and the not very good anger most of the anger is not good. So don't take that. But there is some little bit good anger and why and what's the reasons What should we do? So what is the opposite of it?
What is the opposite angle and everybody you're all smiling
subber is part of it, but it is not. It's exactly it's Haim Hill is forbearance. So if you are patient, if you are patient, then most probably your forbearance also and if you are forbidden most probably your paper there are two different two different things exactly. And this is actually what I shared if you read the what we share with you the flyer is actually a hadith of roswaal a solid person. And this is what I'm going to start with because it's a beautiful story actually the story behind what he said. So that's basically was as a hobby. And as a hobby name is in there when you read the whole Hadith. They tell you Alicia jus Abdul case or shadow ignore case. This is his kunia
This is his nickname. It's not his real name. His the cornea is he had a wound on his head. So people used to call him the person with the wound. He was young and then he had a locker most of us did hit his head and then he had like a scar. So people knew him by the scar. And then his his his client, his clown where he came from. His name is el mundo. So why I'm saying this because this man was actually not Muslim. And then he used to live not in mechanical Medina he used to live in the world in the eastern area of the current salary or the current Gulf. And he actually was while someone here in Metro Dasani saltos, Ron became a Muslim and Asante Soto Salaam, sent with him a
letter to this man I said, who was a leader of his people. And he read the letter inviting him to be to Islam and he became a Muslim. Yeah, Subhan Allah right away, because he started that messenger sort by saying or swim, so it was specifically asked about you. And he said he was on wonder. And then he explained to Islam, he became a Muslim. Later on, they all decided to go to Medina to meet over Swati salatu salam now I need you to feel this because that's how all this started. So they all came to Rosario Santos and I'm right imagine you probably going to be traveling at least a month. I mean, there is no plane these days. There is no faster train. So they were they came to us really
sore to us. Before they entered to the masjid. All the people with him are on our way to meet Ron to meet Saraswati software, sir, what will you and I do? except him? He actually took his time. Made sure all their animals, whether it's a horses or whether it's a camels, they're all tied. And then he took his what he brought with him, changed, put on new clothes, and then want to meet our Swati santosa
right? Saraswati salatu wa sallam he had there was a discussion between him meaning you will you think your people will get will become even more Muslims? And he said Yes, we will. Something in that meaning, but that's when he came, he looked at me and says, You have two characters in Africa hustla time, you have two characters, two traits that Allah loves. Imagine this you and me. Imagine this, you and me and he said, a hill mobile and art forbearing and deliberation, deliberateness. And then he looked at him and he said, Is this is something my character I was born with it or this is something came later.
And look at the question is, this is something to me, this is who I am, or this is came later and there's a lot you will learn from these words. And that Australia salatu salam said, No, this is something Allah Gabriel. And immediately he turned and he says Alhamdulillah All Praise to Allah who gave me a character that he loves and his Rasul Allah hisako salaam loves. So that's where all this came from. And anytime you look and you do your search, you just says in Africa hostility, there is two characters this hadith comes up because there's no nobody else. So only this man and amazingly, I mean, when I was preparing, there's a lot of things stopped me. People don't know his name.
Because when you see the Hadith, even when you read, it's in use
In a tournament he actually his name is not mentioned his only is what the nickname so the idea is not to is he?
It could be you and me. The idea is what is the character is the trait right because he didn't even call him you this and that. For example when he said to say he'd no more idea more as a as a hobby, you're more in your head book Yamato, I love you. He called him by his name. But this is a hobby he said to him, you have two characters. So that means these two characters is really important. why I'm saying this, because he he said Allah your head. He didn't say I love
figa hostless you have two characters, Allah loves and if you look and you look in the Quran, and this is something good for you to get yourself familiar with the Quran. Look at what does Allah in where did Allah says in Omaha your head, Allah loves.
But there's a lot of love.
In the Quran, tomassini usually very common, right? Allah loves those who are most and meaning they are generous, they are very good. They do extras, right? In Allah, your hibou the word mean, those who return to Him. This one is not in the Quran. It's in the Quran in another way, but there is no in Allahu haleem
or Swati. isarco ceram pick this two characters only. So what is forbearance?
What does it mean? Reality my daily life?
What is it, you're all looking at me? Like this is very hard to hear? Why did I even
write? And why? So what is forbearance?
And what is the difference between poor forbearance and deliberation? What is the difference? And he said both.
And think what was the incident? He took his time? Got your ID changed. Although he was running. If I was you and me, we will be running. I'm sorry. Excuse me? I'm going right? So what is he teaching me?
Number one is thinking when this is basically when you're taking a decision. He was taking the decision? Should he go immediately and meteorology software sooner? Or? Let me get ready? Well, that's that time, let's come to us these days. What is the decisions I have to make?
What decisions I have to make? Come on, let's take the youngest people, what decisions which college I'm gonna go. That's this, like the disaster of the right, right? which one I'm going to study and take me four years to decide after I try four majors, then I decide Is that true? Most of the people, right? So for everybody according to their age, right? I mean, you take a child five years old to Toys R Us which toy you want a hill, Manuel, and now to see their right. Take example.
So the idea is L hilweh. is a character is thinking is a character, which means I'm going to think deeply.
I am going to talk it out and talk it in.
I am going to think about it. And I'm going to talk to myself about it. And actually I'm going to talk to someone else about it. And most importantly, I'm going to talk to a lot about it. I'll take time, think deeply and consider all the alternatives. I actually looked up the definition of it in the dictionary. Because I really because once you know the definition you will, you will know what why this is so special. That roswaal is autosens specifically said about it. He didn't say a sober, although Allah said in law, your habits are very aligned. The Quran says Allah loves those who are patients. But this one from roswaal is sort of center. So making a decision. It's not about them
being afflicted, that's about this is not about waking up at five o'clock in the morning doing toccata has not sober, that's patient. This is different this is I need to make a decision. And the decision.
I have a time sometimes the healing could be one minute. And sometimes the forbearance is a probably a month or two. It depends on the case. So I'm thinking deeply considering all the alternatives. And then the other one, the the result. I'm gonna act wisely. Did you get the point? So there's two things in him, you will think and then you act. The more I take my time in thinking asking the last pantalla reminds me at the end if I forget, because there's something related to this, and then I am going to act wisely. I'm not going to be hasty. I'm going to be carefully weighing my options weighing
My options at a Helm will enter. This is a virtue this Remember last week we said, anger could be virtue could be vice, this is a virtue. Absolutely a virtue, there is no bad Hill.
But if you take it these days, where are we so forbearance? And where are we not forbearance?
You're all looking at me laughing. But nobody's saying anything. Right? There are places where we should be forbearance we are not, and where we are supposed to be not forbearance, not in the positive way, meaning I need to act or take a decision or say something, my answer will be, you know, what am I going to change the world?
is not my business. That's not forbearance.
Remember this because some people may mix this up. forbearance is when I think wisely, and the decision is going to be the best and I'm going to act on it. Now who is the forbearance?
Allah and Helene. Allah is having its 11 times mentioned in the Quran and Halle so what is it heading for Allah?
Your Allah how Allah is heading.
So what unless pantalla was exalted is going to be thinking
it's not you and me. But this is his name right? I'll hurry. So what is it hurry?
I'll hurry when you look at the definition of it. The one who does not punish you and me immediately when I this obey Him? And how many times I this obey Him?
Right? Where do we start? What did I say? What did I look at? What did I didn't say what I didn't look at and all this. So I'll have him. They say the one who does not rush.
rush to punishment.
Hannah, I'll hurry. That's one I'll have you is the one who wait. Although he's a Kaffir, or she's a Kaffir or they are disobedient or they have just sinning and sinning. Just in case they will repent. That's why a lot of the reasons a lot does not rush to punish us. Because we may and we have a lot of us does. Repent, go back to him. I'll hurry. And Allah Subhana Allah said this in the Quran twice. He didn't use his name, but use this concept. He said it's also worth nothing. And he saw that it said it last I have saltwater. What are you arkad Allahu Naseby marble behind me him. If Allah will take people accountable to the wrongdoing they do on this earth. There will be no one
walking on this earth. Actually not one. Nothing will be walking. Lotta karnavati I'm in dab. Now nothing will be walking.
Nothing. And he said the same thing. And so what if Allah will take people accountable, remarkable what they did.
But because he's heading and why I'm saying this because this is one of the things at the end we're going to come and say what should I do? So I learned the virtues of him but what should I do? Where do I start? One of the first things I need to remind myself and I'm not talking about anyone else, is that a loss on the other how much he is haleem with me, how much for bearing with me still give me an i disobeyed him still forgive me and I just obey Him. Still I this obey him and he get and I asked him and he given true or false all of us, regardless or what is what's the relationship we have with Allah, we think we are very close, but still, we're not doing what we should or we could
be very far. But still he gave us super fun. So I'll hareem Allah has and Holly and he actually amazingly I looked in it's like, Where did he put this name with what? You know, in the Quran, the names comes together. So which names often law he chose to put them together with the forbearing one. The first one is a lawful,
lawful and Halima or for Halle, refer all for giving an Helene forbearing I need you to think of this because I and you will probably today if not tomorrow, we will be tested with this, what I'm going to be what I'm saying and what we are learning that something is going to happen could be very trivial, right? But my forbearance is being tested, and immediately I have to bring back as like a wise offer on Have you forgiven and before bearing. And I'll give you examples of amazing examples is worth like not amazing, it's beyond but again, something will help us to learn. So Allah also he put it with it.
Malema all knowing,
all knowing forbearing meaning he know i i disobey, he know I could have done better, but he's for giving me giving me a second chance does he give a second, third, fourth million, right you name it.
Can we die till we die till the moment I die? There's a still a possibility. So Pam Lehman Halima, then who was there a soul who are who are who which prophet. Allah described him in the Quran twice haleem was not a roswaal use Auto Salon or CD ROM.
twice in a Brahim a halimun, a wellmont, Eb three, and is also a toad haleem or forbearing. Our he always turned to Allah and our longing, loving, and money, whatever happens to us to Allah good or not good turns to Allah. And then who was described as also an OB, but the moment he was born, he was described as forbearing The moment he was born, who was
Hmm
This song, smite on the show now who do Lamin halleen the only one in sort of soft patch panel lots amazing when you look at this and then it's like, yeah, the only one. Basha knows what his wife became pregnant. And Allah already described him as highly as forbearing. Because he will tell me and you why, because when when his father came to him, and says, I am I have seen a dream. I am slaughtering you. What was his answer? For bearing
if Alma to do what you have been told. So here you have
Halim? What do you have now? I have to be forbearing I have to be take my time.
How do I do that?
Very easy, Sandra.
How many of us can say I am? I have it?
I'm working on it.
I have not tasted this. I don't know what this even mean or look
or feel
your alma murmuring.
Working on it?
Let's come to the example. The first example I'll give you is from Roswell is autosar.
Because what will help me and this is this is reality. This is not only in the books, what would really help me to practice this character
is when I see the result of it
when I see the result of it, and I'll share with you one result, which some of you may be familiar with Roswell is Auto Center went apart if
you know the story, so he wanted, right, and he was calling people for to Islam. What did they do
this to say least to say, they hurt him, or to insult or physically or emotionally all this? Why? So he came back, that his famous drought or loss pantalla, that if this what happened to me, and he was bleeding from his blessed foot foot? And he said, this is not because you are not happy with me, it doesn't matter. Right? And then immediately, the Angel of their mountains came to him, what do you want us to do with them? Bring the two mountains on them, aka bottle of champagne. Let them bring the two mountains, let them be gone.
Now this is forbearance.
How many people would have said what he said?
What did he say? No, no. One day, one day, someone will come from them that will say so shadow. Allah got apart if now when you go to work.
Everybody say a shadow.
It took time, of course. But when I think of the result, and I'll share with you some stories also, basically think of the result. And I'll give you practical again practical things to do. But think always think of the result. And as I always think Allah subhanaw taala is for bearing with me I need to be forbearing with people making decisions because that's usually where it is, for example.
These days especially.
I don't know give me an example. You're different ages here. So give me an example. I need to make a decision. What's makes me forbearing and what makes me not forbid
Give me an example. Nothing. Life is very good. No, no decisions. Everything is smooth going hamdulillah we don't need this lecture. Right? Yeah, Robbie.
So applying to college, applying to job right applying to
Rub someone transgressed against me Let's combine it with last week, right? Someone transgressed against me, could be immediately I'm here, I'm here, and someone just comes in and start talking about us negatively. Or it could be someone told me or I read a message all these ways. So here is my anger. And my forbearance is being tested. Right? I'm not an angel. We said this last week, we're not angels, right? And almost all of us actually everybody has anger in them because it is part of nature. Same thing with forbearance because what did he asked him? Is it something Allah gave it to me or something I'm gonna I learned he said something Allah gave you that means we have it both
So here you go, I need to make a decision right now. That decision especially when it is not immediate meaning right this moment is actually
not right this moment there's three things I have to do. And this is from the orange from the sooner number one is what
and very rarely we do this
for analyzing that's that's you three things is between you and Allah subhanaw taala and it is between you and people number one you praise the harder
you ask Allah for guidance anything anything right and let's talk about from marriage really because these are decisions whether getting married or ending the marriage going to this college not going to this college moving staying buying a home buying a car literally I mean I lived with with some teachers will not do anything any I was like to panel law without doing suhara suhara is basically counseling a las pantallas
asking Allah for guidance and I'll share with you do I list harder then when we when Sharla would have taught so number one I'm going to turn to Allah here I am somebody said this person said this about you and they showed you the text message or these days very easy. Why the text message or the phone or whatever, right? And you looked it up and you got very upset.
And this is common. Here you are the forebearers is being tested. What I'm going to do immediately you turn to the last pantalla in this URL istikhara and you say your Allah show me what is the right thing? For example, He said that is it this person she or he they are not part of my life anymore? That's a decision based upon reaction to something horrid or happened is that something pleasing to Allah
that's pleasing to Me for sure. Because I this is the only thing is going to get me and make me feel better. You're gonna turn tolerance as cutting this relationship is good for me. My Dean, my religion, this life, the hereafter make it happen.
Make it happen and make me happy with it and make it easy. This relationship cutting it although I wanted Oh, I think very good. We're not gonna see this person anymore. I'm gonna say this to Allah, then this is not good for me in my life. It's the three things we are in my religion number one PDE. What do you mean I my life, what I call it my hereafter. These are three things. If cutting this relationship or going to this college or moving to this house, anything is not good. Then immediately saying to Allah, Allah, keep it away from me Swanley, move it away from me, move me away from it, because I love it. I want it, move it away, and then find good for me. That will take time
that will take tank all him all for various is about time. Time steak. And I remember a long time ago. So those of you who work probably know this, what they teach you, when you write an email, what do they say, never write an email and you're angry. And don't send it when you're angry. Sleep on it. That's how they teach you. So if your boss send you an email and you're really unhappy, right? And then they always tell you if you feel good by writing an email, write it but don't send it sleep and wake up in the morning. That's taking your time. For me, for us as Muslims we're going to say I'm going to ask Allah subhanaw taala and I'm going to take the Council of people I trust not the
people who will tell me what I want to hear.
People who I trust their Deen specifically people who will tell you not what you want.
People who will come take your advice, you go to them take her advice, and you're thinking she will say for example, leave him or don't go to that college and you don't want to go to that culture.
Say no stay in that college. I was like, Oh, great.
So two things takes time. And he'll take your time in these things. And well under the law who, the more you do that, you will see the result of your actions. Amazing. Amazing. I'll share with you couple of I mean, don't laugh. It's couple out Don't say this is this is them. This is not us. I'll give you an example. So you've not blogged nobis right, the cousin of Roswell is autosar. Right. Sahabi and will beat you name it. Right. And man, Kirsten,
Kirsten publicly think you and me right? What will happen if someone calls to you and me?
depends, it depends on his immediate to there is intermediate to that is later why, why? So then, number one, he listened till he finished. But a Mako da quality he finished. It was on and on and on and on. And then he says, didn't answer, turn to Chroma was another Sahabi and says, look, does the man needs anything that we can do for for him?
Does the man need anything that we can do for him? Can you imagine this?
Oh my god, exactly. And then a man came to Moscow with the ruler. I mean, you have to think of these days, right? Think of a dignitary and a man start starts stops in the front of the dignitary and starts cursing and what will happen? The man will be dead in two seconds. Right? So this is when while a man also talked and talked and talked negatively about you. So people are often says, aren't you going to punish him?
didn't answer number one. And he says I am. So I feel so shy.
That I don't have enough forbearance to accept what he said about
I feel shy, meaning it's a virtue. You know, it's a virtue, you know, when you when when there's things you don't except people to say about you. For example, She lies and you feel so offended, because you don't like this is not to me. This is how it should be. It should be a hidden forbearance. It shouldn't be something that I need to work on myself that it doesn't refer to me as a Muslim as a believer as no Allah subhanaw taala that I don't have it. But unfortunately, we are losing it.
I mean, if I tell you think of somebody who's forbearing does anyone comes to you living around you?
Are you going to start thinking of the Sahaba
of the company has right now look at this. This is amazing. Yeah. Let me just finish this. And I'll take a question.
And also, he actually divided he had like a, like a box of jewelry, let's assume. And he divided them. Right? And he sent it to people.
And one of them least an old man from Damascus. So the man actually did not like it.
Meaning He's like, what is this? That's it. That's what you give me. And he made an oath, that he's gonna go and hit What?
Can you imagine this? Imagine this, you and me. So it came to mind.
Of course these things fly like,
quickly.
Rather than very tough. You're talking about these are rulers, these are rulers ameerul momineen, you read there? And he said, okay, bring them up.
Okay, so the man came, and he said, okay, you made an oath. You want to hit my head. Okay, go ahead and do it. But don't be too hard.
Y'all law. Look at the next one. This is amazing.
I was so heavy company. So a man he had a sheep on sheep. So young boy, broke the leg of the sheep
and came to him with a broken sheep. So I said no witnesses who did that. And the boy boy says, hold on, I did it. So you will be upset.
Your law? Imagine this. This is a modem of authority. I mean, I mean, if you you have to think of Who are these people? And then I have to look at myself as like who I am. I'm sorry. Who are we? Right? in the sight of Allah at least yummy. We're not that level. And then a younger boy comes to him with a broken leg. And he shows to us as I did this to get you upset. Imagine this is in your home, in your kitchen, right? And a young boy came and slap smash the plate.
Right? And then he looks at you as I did it to make you upset. What are you going to do?
I mean, Lee's to say.
I used to say that you're gonna hear a sound right? Or anyway
so what did he say he now says he said oh that's the voice said look at this the voice fucky he says I did it. So you get upset. So you will hit me and then you will be you will do send your Ulla a sin sin so I did it so he was so courageous to acknowledge not only that but why he did it like he didn't say it was an accident you know how the children always say it's an accident no i did it so you get upset so you hit me so you will test them this will be a sin
so what they say about that now look at the forbearing What did he say? He said whoever send you
and told you to do that to get me upset go back and tell him you are free. He was a slave you're free
done
Can you imagine this? No You cannot I know right? But think of it think of it I really when I was reading this um there was a lot of stories and when I was reading this I was like you're a law that there has to be something I mean these are human beings you and me right? And what they did to them it will anybody can do this to you I mean you get upset I mean you are getting to the highway right? Getting to the highway and someone took your your lane. Why there is road rage these days. Right? Because lack of forbearance anger is there then anger comes up comes out and then we act on the anger not act again the anger and another man ID which is also as a hobby and then curse them again
these people have dealt with publicly and he's silent and then he said then you said everything you want anything left anything else
go
go before somebody comes in and then they will say that you cursed or someone
lets me say it again. So this is the this is also as a hobby. So a man came between him so only two of them cost him nothing
nothing and then he said done. No more anything else you want to say and the man said yes says go before somebody comes in and hear you cursing
now this is beautiful. This remember it when you come to the masjid. Especially when in Ramadan.
Right. So say now more of Naga has is entered the masjid. And it was dark. Right? So enter the masala and it was completely dark. So it's walking now who's Omar Abdullah, please, let's let's, let's really remind ourselves. Satan is the ruler, the ruler, they actually his his well known is the fifth hollyford out of his piety out of his taqwa a loss conscious and non justice. So this is coming to them. As you imagine this, you and me, I want you to think it's you and me upstairs. Okay. So he entered the it was dark, so he didn't turn on the light. And a man was sleeping.
So he walked on his hand. The man Of course, it's painful. So the man job jumped and says, Are you crazy? Imagine normal Oh,
no damage known and? And he says, No, I'm not.
So the soldiers. I mean, this is the ruler. So the soldiers
jumped on the man. He said, Hold on, what's wrong with you? He asked the question. And I answered, he said, Are you crazy? I said, No.
Did you get it? Take it simple. Yeah, exactly.
The reason I'm sharing these stories, because the more I read these stories, what's gonna make me I mean, there is a reason these stories in almost all the books, why these stories are there. Because once I see, for example, let's take a contemporary example. Right? So this is your friend, having seen her for six months or a year, and then you see her. And you see I lost a lot of weight and looks beautiful. And he said, Wow, this is really nice. And she said, Yep, for the last year, I've been exercising daily, for an hour. And I'm really watching what I'm going to eat, what is going to happen to you.
It has to move something in you and you're going to say you know what, she can do it. I can do it. Most of the people, most of the people. This is why you see all these stories. Because these in
Reality especially you and me these days is not easy. So here I am, I go upstairs to the masjid Oman is coming in sha Allah. How much left for Milan two months and a few days, one week, two months in one week. So here you go, you go upstairs. Same story. You were upstairs, right for sign up for turabian. It's my place, right? My name is written there, right? Allah said, This is my name. Okay. And then you'll come in. And I'm gonna give you two examples, right? Nobody said Majnoon yet. Nobody says you're crazy. So here you go. You come in every day, you pray that place every day. And this you come in today and a woman came before you and sat there, huh?
Exactly. Move, move.
SubhanAllah you know, imagine this. Imagine this, right? I know, I wouldn't miss actually this also on the home course because the Harlem stories is close to this, right? And then this is exactly happened to him and I was next to her. She went for fall off, came back. Gone. Gone. She came back and then people looked at her waiting, what is it going to say? And then she just walked out and just walked away. And so you know how people don't want to know that it was like this is your place? Are you going to ask for it? And she said is my name there?
in the home, this is the home of a law. You're coming for Allah, Allah you know how much you paid. There is people theories people. So here you go think of it. Every time you come to them. As you think of the story of Satan or American Abdulaziz. He took the question as a question. Are you somebody Okay, so Are you dumb? Of course you're gonna get very upset. What do you think I am?
And he looks and says, No, I'm not
done. Done. That's forbearing now another man came to Oliver Hussain. Now this is even even more who's to say who's his grandfather?
Or so I saw to write a review for say, and Elisa in Aberdeen actually, why the righteous man the beautiful man, the the lineage everything. Cursed.
cursed him in public, right? So of course, all the people around him this is a gnarly, jumped on him. And he said, wait, wait.
And he says, Look at this one.
This is not even her saying he answers different. He said came close to them. And he says what you don't know about me is way more than what you just said.
You get the point. What you what Allah concealed from me. And you is way more than what you just said. Anything I can do? Do you need anything I can do. And Roger immediately the man felt so shy and he throw his like his clock on say Natty and he said nothing. And he apologized.
So when someone actually it's it's this is one part of the test key is when someone say negative things about you, you should immediately turn to allowances hamdulillahi. Allah, they've seen only this.
They haven't seen this and this, which you and I know very well. Each one knows about herself. So here you go, say daddy. And the last one. This is amazing.
Also a pious man, a man came to him and says somebody cursed you.
So this is worse. Right? This is what much worse because somebody cursed you. So here you go. Oh, you didn't know what she said about you? I'll give you see. Let me show you her text message. Right? Let me show you the email. Let me show you whatever. Look what he answered. So this is a very good one for you and me. Especially you want someone to bring the news? And he said shaitan did not find anyone else wants you to send the message
shavon did not find anyone else but you to send the message.
Allahu Akbar. So forbearance is an any imagine what I want to Why did I share these stories? Imagine if these people did not respond this way.
Right? Imagine entering the masjid and say no more glasses and the man says Are you crazy? And he said, Do you know who I am?
And on and on and on what would have happened?
Right? Right or this man? When he comes your best friend said this about you? And if he was not
knowing his Deen practicing his Deen turn to Allah helped me out a bit and he didn't say this. What would have he said what would have happened immediately you would have a couple of things. I would never talk to her.
Why or give me this is the message, okay? I'm sending it from my phone as you are, I'm gonna say, what I'm going to go to her house and I will tell her who I am and how I trust all this versus forbearance. Number one, and this is again, back to the what we started. Number one, you are taking your time. Now these people are at a level attached to Allah that their immediate response is something you want me to work on? Where do I start, at least don't respond.
don't respond, take your time, because that's what it hidden, hidden meaning you're taking your time. You know, when somebody like you have a test, and some people give the people in five minutes and some people takes 40 minutes. And it's only five questions. And you keep saying what are they answering? It's only five questions. That's a hidden
right? They are patient they looking at the question, thinking of it maybe could be this maybe it could be I have a time There's no rush. why some people say why do I want to give it too early? It's my right. Right. So where do I start? And there is a hadith of Swati salatu salam applies to everything actually. But it applies here is a weak Hadith, but the idea is right. He says the meaning of everything is by learning. You can learn everything. Everything he says enamelware Elmo with tala to learn to be knowledgeable is by learning.
And now think of this first and then the next becomes easy. So a baby you all have seen a six months years old, right? Or a nine months old, or a one year old starting to work what happens? How many times he or she fell off all
right, and what do you do? Get up? We all fell. You were one day you will walk right? If I was this baby or this baby can talk what would he have said you don't know how difficult this is, you know what it means to fall and get up and I keep falling. But what happens after when they become too
they're working that's how we all walk in Mr. decarlo learning to attain knowledge is by learning to become a Helene it is here. Well hello, hello. It is in this Hurry and to become forbearing you need to practice it.
So how do I practice Bismillah
now inshallah for sure. inshallah is always there, right? So num, number one, exactly. Number one, remind myself and you have this. Take your time. don't respond, don't respond.
This will now you're on that path.
So we were at the hospital for Swati Salatu Salam wehrli. attaining knowledge is by learning, attaining the character or forbearing is by practicing it, practicing it practicing it so when I get the news that really upset me don't react. Don't Don't literally you know, we all we all get this impulse all of us we get this impulse to respond to answer to say something to do something I just don't do it. In the one time I'll do one time I fail one time I do but I'm trying to remember the baby who's walking at one point you will able to control once you start controlling you're on that right path. Without without without almost Pantanal a movie or Sabra built and there's addition to
it or Sabra with the saga, and being patient or getting the Act, the character or the virtue of being patient is by practicing patience, and five things. Five things actually it was the character of the prophets. And one of them is at him. They were so for varying with their people. I mean, we all read the Quran. We all read Quran, see what they did to them, and they were forbearing. And the last thing is there was a man this is a time before of us what he saw was, he used to walk up every morning. He says to our last panel, Tyler, we are a law. My honor. My character is a sadhaka today, for everyone.
Whatever they want to say about me, let them say Saraswati salatu salam, this is the Hadith. His name was a Muslim. And his is the hadith of roswaal De Soto cinemas. Does any one of you wants to be a hold on them this morning. used to say it in the morning, anybody wants to be up Hold on one today. Meaning people will hurt, right? People will accuse people will of course people will transgress This is how it is right? So do I want to be a hold on them? I was like what charity solid convening on the Day of Judgment. I'm going to see it on my right hand in my like book, practical points. The calmer you are, the more forbearing you are. And one of the things and this is a
practical is on what of Vicar of Allah.
And not Vicar of Allah.
with people and you're not focused, driving me in the Corolla. alone in the house being the Corolla, a lot of is default, specially when it happens. When you when you're forbearing or your your anger is being tested. Just hold to a state federal law, any of the ones you know, as the federal law allows you to hang out and destroy panic and the controlling of volume and stuff are aligned with you that allow your mind to just keep saying it. Keep saying it. It is like magic. Because Allah said it's alive with the karela thought my inner guru by the remembrance of Allah hearts attain serenity. The more you are in Vic, the more what Allah promise is going to happen. Now number three
is practical points. Take your time in doing things.
For example, after solder number one solder
when when you have the option, make it a little bit longer. It's so hard It is not like a law right you just want to go for a lower commodity under the imambara three If this is too long when he's gonna say a lot about what to do with a tomb especially when you're alone because this is how I'm training remember at haimo with the Harlem I'm training myself so these things I have control over because if I control my nerves and I am calmer inside then when it comes it comes out so a lot of liquor a lot of st for longer time insular stay after Sala in the car, the car of solder and if you can a lot of fasting
fasting control us guy you could bring this thing I want to get this just sip of water and I'm so hungry especially the not Ramadan. Ramadan is a different story. But I'm talking about these days, a lot of this and then learn and be around people who will help you. You don't want to be around people who are complainer's because the complainers are the people who will not will everything has to go my way or the highway. That's
What I want, because life is not going to be my way. So do all these things and remember this. If you remember two stories, the stories of Satan are more of not the disease and the stories of
what he said, who send you shaitan didn't fire anybody else. But you just send and practice it and ask a lot and it always you do this. Yeah. Helene Ozaki
or you who are the forbury give me this character make me And the last point I know will be it needs to suck Malawi does panic along with your hand if I showed you Allah stuff we will cover today. So a lot of us 100 other he was hired with this team and
we have two questions. One just before I forget the question hamdulillah Hello, Brian. It's so nice because we started this free courses for the youth 12 to 18. But the overwhelming response from outside sinkers, Yes, hello long are people from Malaysia and where people hamdulillah. So spread the word youth 12 to 18 except huskier cosas que en is a little bit older age. But these are free for for our youth. And they can join us online, they can join us on site. I don't think anything else we can do more than that. Yes.
People have different character traits. Would it be fair to say that some have a larger innate capability for forbearance? Yes, absolutely. Yes. This is why he asked this is because the question is, are we different? Some of us, Allah gave us this. And some of us Allah gave us others but not this. Yes, it's an innate character. But all of us has a base. All of us has a base I need to work on it. It's exactly like anger. Remember last week, it's all of us have, but some of us worked on it and control it, contain it and someone let it loose.
Is with regards to software Sahara. Asking that the elders used to say that took us and then sleep when Prince was
very cool.
They actually came to know about you recite that post. And then Allah just guides you through. Exactly so in the huddle when you pray that your phone is too hot or not necessarily you're going to see a dream or I'm going to open the Quran and see what the IR will be. No, it could be a dream. There's a possibility but not necessarily but usually usually keep praying to Allah Subhana Allah will show you if things are going easy and you're comfortable everything is opening up that means it's happening and if not, that means a lot there's I wanted to happen but you have to have this two things in honesty horror, after this Believe in your pain. And whatever he will choose is good
because that's what you are saying.
This is what you're saying to him choose for me what is good for my religion and life and hereafter not after what do you say well, I hear this a lot from people when I pray this Ihara look what happened.
So Panama but I don't know the results yet. Patient for very. So yes, absolutely. You don't have to see some people do see dreams, but not necessarily.
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