Haifaa Younis – How to Raise Children in Islamic Way

			I want to talk about is an imam Shafi, which we all know. So who is it Imam Shafi? Right? Imam
Shafi, we all know is the fucky. Everybody knows that. So he is the scholar of flick that he was a
student of Imam Malik, but he made his own,
		

			which is a good amount or a good number of the Muslim countries follows Imam Shafi part of Egypt,
you have the the sham Syria, Jordan, some of Iraq, some even in the girl, even in the east, so Imam
Shafi, right, his mother,
		

			described as the following. She was originally an Arab, but she's not from the people of Polish. She
was takia, she was ALLAH hearing Allah conscious, or fucky hunt, she was also knowledgeable, and
fairly smart and intelligent, and she knows the value of knowledge. This is very important. I will
not study, I will not teach well, I don't want I will not push my children to study something. I'm
not talking about religion, unless I know the value of this. So you want your child to become let's
say it person, because you know, the value of it in this time only want your child as many parents
to become a physician or become a lawyer. Because you know the value of it. She knew the value of
		

			knowledge. So that's the first thing mothers and I will say fathers, in general, Muslim parents, you
really need to know the value of knowledge of this Deen what impact it has on the house, on the
children, on your offsprings and their children. And the value of this knowledge in the sight of
Allah and the value of this knowledge as a day of judgment. So the mother of Imam Shafi a in you can
attack it fully Lamia cuddle, she knows the value of it. She pushed her child to learn. She puts the
child to learn and all these children had obstacles. So we talked about the same as he was.
		

			She was a single mother. She was he was her only child. She pushed him to the house of Asante sana
Sana to to learn and manage. It was not only a fact he was not he was not only the founder of the
fic Shafia, or the school of thought of a Sharpie, he was the first one who puts on he started or he
founded the discipline of asanas, the principles of not flick the principles of it. And he was also
an imam Shafi. He was a scholar of commentary of the Quran, and he was a scholar of Hadith. And he
was a poet. And he was a very famous poet, and he was a excellent Archer. And he was a traveler,
well educated traveler, Al Imam Muhammad, which is another scholar, his mother also involved in his
		

			up in the result of what we see, he said about Imam Shafi and Imam Ahmed, he said, Can an imam Shafi
because surely dunya and Imam Shafi was like the Son to this world, and philosophy alumnus, like
health for people essential that's what it is. Why do I need the sun? I can't live no sun. We can't
live we how do we feel when there is no sun? And I love fitness like health to human being if I am
sick or you're sick, how do we feel? If you are not healthy? How do we feel essential? So he said
Imam Shafi to the people was an essential
		

			and he said if it was not for Imam Shafi, we didn't know what's the hadith of Rasul Allah He saw to
a sinner.
		

			Now, he was an orphan, and Imam Shafi. His father died and he was two years of age, two years of
age, and he was an orphan, his mother took care of him. Now she took him to Makkah.
		

			Why,
		

			why tourists? His father Julian was from Makkah so that you will have someone in some family close
by and he has little bit of inheritance that they can live on but it was very little, and the main
reason that because maca was the source of knowledge was maca was the source of knowledge. She spent
she focused on the
		

			teaching him
		

			in which way he finished memorizing the Quran at age seven. Now memorizing the Quran with
understanding, memorizing the Quran we value of the Quran at age seven. Then she took him this is
all the mother single mother minimum amount of money was very tight for them. She took him by her
hand to the Masjid Al haram in Makkah, to the teachers, to the scholars. And
		

			she told him, I want you to learn from this from this color, I want you to learn from the scholar
and I want you to learn how to read well the Quran and I need you to read to know the commentary of
the Quran. He was 13 years of age 13 one three, he was absolute scholar of that age in these
disciplines, in the Quran, in the reading and in the tafsir and he memorized the whole mo of the
book of Imam Malik at age 13. And then he made or he founded his His own and His own discipline and
his mother, his mother,
		

			aged 15 or 16.
		

			She said now time to travel to Medina.
		

			I want you to go to Medina and I want you to learn from Imam Malik because Imam Malik was the
scholar of that time. Now when I say these when I say these stories, what do you need to think
mother's parents,
		

			children, children, I It's like a doll. You move them the way they are. And this is how Rasul Allah
is Otto CERAM said, he said called me Adam Kulu Kulu any other musical football Kulu do you have to
have a filter everything born will be born and then filter on the natural instinct which means that
every child when he is or she is born, they will be born they know there is a Creator
		

			for Ebola, who then his parents, you might you might design how your how are we done here, sir, on
his parents will make him Muslim Christian Jews. Others. What is this hadith teaches me it's the
parents influence in the house, the parents influence in the house. And he was specifically the
mother has a huge impact on the on the child. And there is many, many usual sings in in different
parts of the world about the influence of parents on children, and let the mother and there's a very
famous scene in the Arab world, the meaning of if you
		

			turn the container upside down, the mother the daughter is like the mother in times. Like you look
at the daughter, you say this is her mother or you look at the mother, you say this is her daughter.
The influence of parents on the children is phenomenal, is phenomenal. And even in studies we have
seen it if you move a child let's say the child was born in Japan, so he is by genes is Japanese.
But if you bring him to live here in the United States, you will grow up as an American although the
genes are Japanese meaning the influence on the surroundings and the force surroundings is the
parents. So his mother took him Imam Shafi at age 16 1516 to two
		

			took him to Medina took him to Medina
		

			to learn because she said Medina
		

			is where more knowledge are there. Basically Imam Malik was there and he stayed there for nine
years. And he didn't leave Medina just to come and visit her. Now she didn't even teach. She didn't
teach him early knowledge, Nanny, go and learn. But she also taught him character she said,
		

			it is said that she used to teach him to be generous and donate and she said every time you come to
Makkah to visit me don't enter Maccha before you give up a charity
		

			had Titus on how much he had younger man, how much he had every time. What do I need to do now if I
want to use it these days I will say to my child, every time you go to the masjid number one, I'll
take my child to the masjid
		

			because the masjid is the place when we live in a non Muslim country. The Masjid is the place where
the child will see and will feel and will be connected with his religion. Where will you and I learn
the religion when we are outside? Who will remind me of Allah who will remind me of Allah so Allah
Santos
		

			And the masjid does one and number two if you want to apply this from if you want to like copy, the
mother of Imam Shafi look in the masjid in the community where there is a scholar, where there is
someone who knows, I will have my child spend time with them.
		

			Rather than I have my child spend time on, unfortunately the iPad and all the games and all this I'm
not saying we shouldn't not give them time for play, that has to be also part of the focus. And then
if I want to be like the mother of Imam Shafi when my child enter the masjid, I teach him every time
you enter the masjid give her charity. So he grew up charitable, pleasing to Allah subhanho wa
taala.
		

			That, and also she was one of the stories about her that she was absolutely very smart. And she was
very
		

			honest. And
		

			when when, when when you look, anyone you look at these mothers, it's amazing that even the name as
I said in the beginning, we don't even know the names of these of these woman, but we know the
mother of so I always ask a mechanic we should ask ourselves right how people will remember me, the
mother of okay and the mother of often off what is that child or she or he or that son or that
daughter brought to this life?
		

			What again, what footprint we will leave after us when we leave
		

			other than the we enjoy it and have learned everything is good, but what did we leave? So the mother
of Imam Shafi look at who's Imam Shafi, and she was a single mother with minimum resources, but her
focus was to have her child pleasing to Allah Japantown No, these are a man of Shirky, a man, NSW
Malik. These were not only knowledgeable men, but they were righteous men are righteous men, Allah
feeling a lot connected. If they didn't see this in their home, it will not come to them just by the
knowledge, just by the knowledge Subhanallah