Habib Bobat – The Fiqh Of Intimacy Part 5 -personal Hygeine

			This is part five of the series titled The fix of intimacy. All these programs are podcasted on the
website, log on to WWE dot radio Islam dot zero j and under my name, you'll find these podcasts, you
can download and listen to them at your own leisure. Let's do a quick recap of the previous program.
Previously, we spoke about sexual relations, how often and we mentioned that the Sharia has not
placed any restrictions in terms of how often a couple should engage or not engage in sexual
relations. We also spoke about liked and disliked times and we mention any time of the day or any
time of the night is suitable, as long as there is no external factor that prohibits cohabitation
		

			between the partners. And we mentioned during the state of hive or during the state of affairs,
which is your menses and your your postnatal bleeding, it is hard for the husband to engage in the
actual act of intimacy. We also discussed intimacy during breastfeeding and also during pregnancy
etc, etc. You can listen to the previous programs by downloading the podcast. Today we move on to
another topic, and we are looking at preparations. And it is important to start off with personal
hygiene. I mean, it's totally off put into intimately get close to your partner, and then to be
switched off due to some unhygenic practices of your partner, like a foul smell that emanates from
		

			the mouth, or unkempt hair, bad breath or whatever it may be. Those things really switch a person
off. So it's important that today we start off with personal hygiene. And I'd like to start off with
the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. He has an incident narrated by a Sahabi he says couldna
Mar Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he has certain furthermore Cardinal Medina to the heavner
unitholder for call. Um Hello, Ned Hola, Leyland. airasia and Kate and Joshua Schaffer to what is
the head movie Beto Javid when Abdullah narrates that we were returning from an expedition. We were
coming back to Medina. And we were excited to go back home to meet our families after a long time.
		

			So when we reached Medina, we wanted to go home and you're ready to go home. But the prophet of
Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No, no, no, holy all says men, take it easy. Allow the news
to travel in the city, and allow your families to know that we have arrived. Why? Listen to this,
and this is the point in discussion, the profitable license allow them to get the news first. So
that gave them deshita Shiseido. What is the huddle movie
		

			so that your women folk can prepare themselves for you, they can neaten up they can remove all
unwanted hair, and they can perfume themselves, etc, etc. Basically the profit of a license, allow
them the time to prepare themselves allow them the time to groom themselves for you. For you do not
want to find your partner in an unpleasant state. You don't want to find your partner in an
attractive position. So for that reason, the prophet of Allah is saying that allow your women folk
allow your family to understand that you are in the city you have arrived and you're willing to come
home in the next few hours, etc, etc. So this hadith sets the tone. This Hadith is telling us that
		

			it is important, it is essential that we prepare ourselves for our partners. After all, we are human
beings, we are attractive by beauty. And naturally we are put off by unhygenic practices. It's just
human nature. So these are switch offs. And one thing we have to understand that the lack of
personal hygiene can become a big sexual inhibiting in marriage. And it can even cause tension. So
it's important that we are meticulous when it comes to personal hygiene. Now a lot of people bring
up this argument that my wife doesn't make a big issue out of it, or my husband doesn't make a big
issue out of it.
		

			One thing you must understand that if your partner is silent about your unhygenic practices, it's
not an indication to say that they are happy with your habits. It's just that they are shy to bring
it up. They don't want to make you feel awkward. Or it could be that they have brought it up several
times in the past. And they did not succeed they did not win. So they have just made peace with
themselves. But they would also love to see you change. The Prophet of Allah Salallahu alaihe salam
has emphasized time and again, to hold OSHA truly man and you
		

			Above terminal Eman, the cleanliness of personal hygiene is part of Islam. It's part of Eman, it's
part of our faith. This remember, and hygiene practices are switch offs, they are a total switch
off, it just shuts things down. So let's take an example.
		

			You get a partner that's smoking, and you're not comfortable with that. So you smoke and you come
into the bedroom, and then you have to get intimate, your partner is not going to follow through. If
they are doing it, maybe they are just doing it as a duty, you need to understand that if you are
smoking, you must do it well in advance at least an hour in advance or at least half an hour. You
smoke finish outside of the room, you do whatever you have to do, and then come to the room. You
don't want to get into bed and smell like smoke than your bed sheet is like smoke. And everything
around you in the room is full of smoke that is totally off putting for many people and and most
		

			partners don't even consider their partners. These go about doing it. And they say no, it's okay.
The My wife is used to a lot my husband is used to it. So it's fine. Remember,
		

			doesn't mean if they're quiet, they happy about it, they would love to see things change in the
bedroom. And you must understand that when a husband and a wife makes the effort to come to bed
clean,
		

			they are more comfortable. They are more comfortable with each other's bodies. And they are able to
enjoy each other's bodies because there is no uneasiness between the two of them. Because she's
clean and you are clean, and things can move on more smoothly. Now let's look at some of the basics.
Number one freshen up. If you are working during the day under the sun and you are sweating, or you
perspiring it's important that when you get home, you take a quick shower, you freshen up unit and
up, make miswak the Prophet of Allah Salallahu alaihe salam, the first thing he would do when he
would enter the home would be miswak. This was the practice, he would make miswak and then come
		

			close to his partner. This teaches you to be considerate of the opposite person, it's really
important. So freshened up, neaten up, brush, user miswak floss if you have to remove all unwanted
hair, apply perfume. All this is part of the sooner all this has been taught to us by the prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So keep these few things in mind. And remember, remember, when a
husband and a wife comes clean to the bedroom, they are more comfortable with each other's bodies,
and they're able to derive pleasure. And remember, as human beings, we are attracted to beauty and
we are switched off by unpleasant behavior or unpleasant practices in terms of hygiene. Maybe
		

			Almighty Allah give us the tofik and the understanding. If you missed the program, you can catch it
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