Edris Khamissa – Personal Empowerment – Series 1 – Episode 4

Edris Khamissa

Discussion on Meaningful Living

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The speakers discuss the importance of personal empowerment and valuing time in achieving personal goals. They stress the need for effective resolutions and commitment to human values, and emphasize the importance of setting goals and creating a permanent life. They also emphasize the importance of finding one's own values and identifying one's own values and actions to achieve happiness and growth. The speakers stress the need to act upon past experiences and discover one's values and interests to achieve success and personal growth.

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			In this last session on personal empowerment, moving from where you are to where you want to be, we
have a discussion between Idris camisa and Chef saddler on the resolutions for meaningful living,
which encapsulates the action steps necessary for personal empowerment.
		
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			camisa is an international consultant in Education and Human Development. His expertise is in staff
development and curriculum design. His creativity made him a dynamic lecturer in didactics, and
methodology at epsa, the International Peace University of South Africa. He also conducts in service
training for business corporations. As a parenting expert and a marriage counselor. he conducts
workshops on these topics. Youth Leadership is another area of his focus. He's a regular guest on
National and Community Radio stations.
		
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			Chefs Abdullah Khan is an internationally renowned lecturer and motivational speaker, who has
presented papers at numerous Islamic and interfaith conferences in various countries namely,
Malaysia, Belgium, Nigeria, Egypt, USA, Iran, Botswana, Canada, Sierra Leone, Sri Lanka, Kuwait,
Mexico and Turkey. He is the director of empower development international and as a motivational
speaker. He addresses issues of personal empowerment, youth development, leadership training, the
art of communication, and is also engaged in fostering both inter and intra faith understanding and
cooperation. as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			Shaikh satola, continuing our discussion, I want to present to you a scenario, a particular context.
And I'm looking forward to your continued response to this particular context that I'm speaking
about. We seem to be living in times of tremendous negativity, great stress, devastating anxiety,
overwhelming fears, evergreen uncertainty, social, economic, political, and environmental conditions
the world are deteriorating, injustice, crimes, violence, evil and injustice abound, everywhere.
Many feel pessimistic and disheartened
		
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			was our are waged in the interests of multinational corporations and conglomerates, in different
parts of the world, at the expense of the poor, and downtrodden. And in the process, 1000s of
innocent men, women and children are dying. millions of refugees are going through most tragic
difficulties.
		
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			peoples of the world undergoing the most radical, far reaching, and challenging transformation in
society.
		
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			The stakes are high,
		
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			the very survival of life on our planet. Of course, there are options. We could trade the part of
either chaos and destruction or the way of creative transformation, leading to the birth of a new
consciousness.
		
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			Yes, Sheikh satola
		
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			What shall we choose to do?
		
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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim in the name of the Creator the cherishes and nourish Sustainer of all the
world's most compassionate, Most Merciful greet you with the greeting of peace, may the peace, the
mercy and the blessings of Allah, people in each and every one assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah.
		
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			Indeed, we should choose the path of transformation.
		
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			Life is not static. Life is movement. And the questions we need to ask ourselves, each and every
one, where are we in life? And where are we heading to? Because if we want to know the future, we
need to know what we are doing at this moment.
		
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			Secondly, we need to realize that we have a choice and the question we need to ask ourselves that
there are two primary choices in life
		
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			to be complacent and accept the conditions the way they are, or to accept the responsibility for
improving the world we find ourselves in.
		
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			You see, it's only when we realize and understand that we have a limited time on earth, and that we
have no way of knowing when the time will be up. That we
		
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			really begin to live each moment of life to its fullest,
		
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			as if it's the only one that we have. And the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him encouraged us.
Whatever activity you do, if you pray, for example, pray as if it is your last prayer. So keeping
that in mind, it is absolutely essential for us to reflect upon where we find ourselves. And to know
where we are heading.
		
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			It is fundamentally important
		
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			to realize
		
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			that each and every one needs to value the time that we have.
		
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			Time is limited. Time is free, but it's priceless. We can use it, but we can't own it.
		
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			We can spend it or we can keep it. And once it's gone, it never returns. The question is, are
		
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			we are we and where are we heading to
		
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			the choice to accept the conditions as they are, or to change them the realization of a limited time
that we need to do something within the space of time shakes out the law, I want to just interrogate
your response. And you made some pertinent points. And now to just go over those points. But I would
like you to expand on this points. You ask that you rather made a statement when you said life is
not static?
		
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			And what do you mean by that? Can you just expand on that?
		
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			Life is movement, the very nature of life, whether it be plant or animal isn't the idea of movement,
and anything stagnant is decaying or dead. And the whole notion is that to we must being alive is to
be active. the very notion of being non active, inactive, imply that being latent, and virtually did
the second point. And I think it's critical for us to understand it. And I concur with you. When you
ask the question, Where are we in life and where we are heading to? It reminds me of a play written
by a Pinto, the theater of the absurd in the birthday party. And one of
		
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			his or other member of the audience asked the question, Who is this person? Where is he coming from?
And where is he going to? she referred to the persona in the play? Look at his response, he asked
the question, Who are you? Where are you coming from? And where are you going to? Now to you shake
saddler? Why are these questions so fundamental to our existence, because it determines the
direction which we are going to take. You see, we need to realize that time is life. What we do with
our time, what we do with the moment is what we do with our lives, man this move into hours, hours
into days, days into weeks, weeks into months, and months into year. And it's seemingly moving
		
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			faster than ever before. It Every moment is precious. And it's a precious component of our living.
And every moment counts. We already know in the second decade of the 21st century, and hence the
Quranic question that invokes our attention poron says or commands us. Yeah, you aminata Allah will
don't do enough stone, Maka domitilla. God, we are commanded in the Quran to carefully consider what
we are sending forth for tomorrow. This introspective question should evoke within us a critical
self evaluation in each individual. What am I doing with my today?
		
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			Okay, now, so taking the cue from you. So when you're asking the question, Where are we in life? You
are seeing it spiritually, morally, in the in that dimension, physically, individually and socially.
Yeah. Now, why is it? Shake Sadler? You ask people, many people, you find that they accept who they
are. They're not prepared to accept change. They're not prepared to take ownership. Why is that so?
Because there is a determined resolve to do something. In other words, they are complacent with
where they are. And if you are in you remain where you are, you'll never become what you could be.
So what you are really saying there is a need to seize the moment and to make a resolution, the
		
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			power of intentionality MRI, that's very correct. In the end, by the way, we need to understand
define when we say resolution, what we are talking about. a resolution is a commitment that an
individual makes to an attitude, a moral task, a personal habit, or a lifestyle change that is
advantageous to the self and to others. And these commitments help us to set goals, goals to be
achieved, and is a means of self assessment of repentance. And of course, this demands personally
		
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			honesty, moral commitment, humanity, as well as dedication. I remember in one of my presentations
shake saddler. I said, one of the biggest problems in our community is that we do not have personal
goals. We do not have goals for the oma, neither do we have family goals? And my question to you is
this, that to formulate effective resolutions? What are some of the issues we should reflect on?
		
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			It's a very pertinent question brother Idris, because for a meaningful resolution, they need to be
this pre revolutionary assessment, pre revolutionary questions, to understand what we need to
address and what needs to be done. Where am I Where could I be, our lives are continually shaped by
the choices that we make, and the convictions and values that underlie them. In this way, all our
lives are like works of art in progress, never despondent, never pessimistic, works in progress, we
are human, and being human, we are fallible, we can take the material of life and either react to it
in a passive way. And in that way, we always remain victims of circumstance. Or we could take the
		
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			material of life and use it creatively becoming the architect of one's life and a participant, a
full participant in shaping one's destiny. And in designing, designing one's true potential. So
shake I just to reflect on what you have said. And some of the things I think that many people are
acutely aware of the fact that many people today have a victim mentality, they have what I call a
blame syndrome, either blaming the family, or blaming society as a whole. And it reminds me of
something that
		
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			a patient went to a doctor, and the patient went, the doctor was quite concerned about his ailment.
And the doctor said to him, your problem is hereditary. It said jokingly, to him, okay, send the
account to my grandfather. So the whole idea about us blaming others around us. Now, for me, it's a
challenge for your shake. I know in terms of the audience's you talk about talk to, and I talked to,
how can we remove that victim mentality, and people say, you know what, I can do something, I can
move towards change, I can be the agent of change.
		
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			We need them to formulate effective resolutions, which we need to act upon. Unless we make
resolutions which we are able to act upon, even the resolutions by themselves are not good enough.
And we need to know what we need to ask ourselves in order to know what we need to do. And therefore
we need to reflect on each one of us what we believe in? What do we really believe in? What excites
us? What motivates us? What are we really in genuinely committed to, to live by and die for? What
would make us really happy?
		
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			What would make us really happy? What are we truly proud of? Or what could we do or aim at that will
bring pride and dignity to us? Okay, why don't ask you share? Is it let us interrogate each of these
questions, and I want you to share with the people inshallah, why those questions are critical in
terms of what you hope to get out of those questions. What I would ask you, for example, look at the
question, the first question, what excites you? Could you expand that, please?
		
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			Certainly, because whatever excites you will attract you in your interest. And very often we start,
even people who are doing spiritual training or trying to enhance themselves spiritually, what they,
for example, do, they may do something that someone else does spend the whole night in prayer, for
example, or reading more scripture, but they may not be reading people, or they may be people who
like to go sleep early as an example. So during that thing, maybe something temporary, and maybe the
degree of religiosity to them for that period of time, but it's not something they can connect with,
you know, maybe eventually is, but initially No. So what really excites you find out what it is that
		
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			excites you, and if it's wholesome and good, pursue that. I also, for example, in education as
myself, I find that even educators and learners, very few educators seem to understand what is it
that excites the child, so they're not prepared to change the methodology? So I think what it also
does, perhaps we need to review how we interact with people, we need to find out what is it that
excite them, because all of us want that excitement? And how can you translate this for example, in
family life? Certainly I think we need to have family goals. Very often we are many individuals
living separate lives in one house. We are living separate lives under one roof. Of course, each
		
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			have their own interest and each have their own speciality and these have their own field. But still
we are a We are an integral part of a of a system. We are part of a of a unit and
		
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			This is the point sometimes you find people, they have problems with no one else except their own
families. So the notion of connecting, and also what connects us? And what are the higher purposes
that we are working towards. So I think this is very important that we find the degree of
connection, also degree of commonality of higher values, things that transcend us, but benefit all
of us. And thank you so much for that. The next question you asked, and I think it's important to
unpack this, so that people understand because really, the aim of the CDs is to really transform the
listener, so that they can take ownership is about pursuing personal excellence, not a victim
		
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			mentality, say, my gosh, I have only one life, and I want to leave a legacy. And Shall I pray that
these will contribute? So that we need to ask the hard questions. So a critical question, and it's a
very important question. What are you committed to? Why is it question so vital? Because it defines
the purpose of your existence? What are we really we are given rehearsed answers, some of them are
religious, some of them may be secular, but what are we really there for people say success or this
or they may mention certain things happiness, but they don't know what it is. So we need to be
realized. What is it we are really living for? What is it we prepared to die for it needs to be for
		
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			example. So those commitments, that we have all those things, we are committed to other values which
will underpin and underlie underlying what we do and why we do what we do. So I think, if I could
make a statement, yet, I get the impression that many people lack commitment and lack human
conviction. And when they have certain beliefs, and they commit themselves to it, inshallah, it will
manifest themselves in change behavior, and they will leave a legacy. The other question, I think,
all of us, perhaps trying to find happiness. Now an important question, what would make you happy?
That's the question, we need to ask each one individually, because people want to be happy. And they
		
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			all assume that that's why you find so popular, so popular with people, they assume that what they
see on the live is the glamour, the money, or the theme that will bring them happiness, despite the
fact that they know that those people who are watching are not even happy themselves. They're very
often victims of depression and stress and anxiety, and very often even of suicide, look at many of
the great people, the people who are prominent personalities in that regard. So we need to ask, What
is happiness and happiness is not the pursuit of something external? It's an internal condition.
What we refer to in Islam is the notion of kinara. What you find contentment with? If you have that
		
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			kind of approach? I think we the question then is for us to define and we're not defining happiness
right now here, but what would really make us happy? What is it? What is the internal aspect that we
would look at? and saw? Okay, the penultimate question there? What are you proud of?
		
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			Yeah, sometimes we not even proud of ourselves. Now, the difference between arrogance and being
proud of something is difference because a child may come home and do something very well and say,
Mom, I got an A,
		
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			in something, as something to be proud of. arrogance, is it to look down upon others to denigrate
others, for the process of your goodness or your assumed goodness. So pride is a good thing in that
regard. Not Not Not arrogance, being proud of something. In other words, what is it you want to
achieve? What is it? Could it be generosity? Could it be compassion? Could it be love? Could it be
charity, all of these kind of things? What are we proud of? And if we are not doing things that make
us proud? What is it that we can do? And when are we going to do it to do those kind of things that
will make us proud of having done those things? Or being those things I particularly like the last
		
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			question, and I'll tell you why in a moment, and I would like your response first, what are you most
grateful for? This is very important, because then we learn the importance of appreciation, because
if you cannot appreciate you cannot value things. In fact, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him in
reference to a very beautiful traditional way. He said, I genuinely am mean in Morocco here in Osaka
to Surat Shakira for Ghana, highroller ye na sobre todo la sobre Kanaka Allah, a true believer is a
unique situation, there is benefit in any given situation. In a negative situation, he patiently
perseveres, and the patient perseverance is good for him, not necessarily the negative situation,
		
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			but how he reacts when he or she reacts or responds to that challenge. And on the other hand, he is
grateful when there are good things happening is joyous and celebratory and he is grateful and not a
celebration, but being grateful is good for him. So this attitudes are important. That's why you
find for example, the notion of sugar is so central to the Quran, and several patient perseverance
is half of faith. These put things in perspective, life is a rollercoaster ride, sometimes the highs
sometimes they are lows, whether high or low is still part of one life. We must ensure that we are
not moved to negativity, irrespective of the condition we find ourselves and gratefulness. Gratitude
		
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			is an attitude
		
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			Gratitude is very important in truly appreciating what we have. I'm reminded of what our Nabi
sallallahu, wasallam said. And he said worst of this effect, when you think of Allah in the time of
prosperity, you think of the 10th adversity. And one of the things that down to route to a reality,
often you find and I asked this question to many people, what if you had only 12 hours to live. And
it's incredible, what they'll tell you, many of them would say, I'll show gratitude to my parents,
gratitude to my husband or my wife, or give charity are be less critical, I would ask them for
forgiveness. And the point is, this, life is very fragile. We are all mortal beings. And you find
		
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			I've yet to come across any man or woman and his son or daughter, when his mom or dad passes away,
or his spouse passes away, when he sits there. And he says, My gosh, what was I fighting about? And
you only think of the wonderful things and therefore I think one of the things that you are
encouraging, and we need to encourage that do not take anything for granted. No matter how little it
is, show gratitude, be thankful to Allah show, have sugar inshallah and persevere and show sobor and
patience, and the time of, of many challenges, very true progress. In other words, we need to see
how does all of these our excitement, our commitment, our joy, our sadness, our honor, our
		
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			gratitude? How does it fit into our larger, larger resolution of life, and we have all these
components, some are negative, some are not so negative. But all of those are part of our lives. How
do we use all of those components, sometimes your problem of negativity, because people that tend to
people tend to take a specific negative aspect of their life. And that aspect dominates their whole
life, they're angry about something. So everything is dominated by the anger, or the bitter or
they're hateful towards a spouse that may have divorced them. So they are hateful towards everyone
or every woman or every man. So really, to look at ourselves and say, whatever situation we find
		
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			ourselves in, or whatever we coming out of, what is my role in a troubled world at a difficult time,
there is a dire need, therefore for somewhat of an introspection and an honest evaluation of both
our potential and our limitations, we have potential, and we have limitations. So Adam vanilla. So
what you are really saying that this requires a willingness on our part, to live a highly conscious
life, exactly what it is, we need to stop living an unconscious life, rather than live from the very
core of your being an intentional living, a meaningful living, the idea of Nia the idea of intention
of purpose, why you do what you do. If we live intentionally, our lives will become purposeful, we
		
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			live purposefully, our life becomes meaningful. And to actualize any of the resolutions we want to
make in life, one has to be ready to ask, am I ready to discover my personal mission? to pursue my
purpose? To realize my vision? Am I ready to break away from the shackles of the past? And to chart
a positive future for myself and for the world? Am I ready to rise above the limitations of where I
am to the potential of where I could be? So in other words, if I understand what you are saying, is
there's a need for a person to be accurately aware of ways and ask the question, is he fulfilling
life's purpose. I'm reminded of a Russian philosopher, who once said something in elementary law,
		
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			whenever you find some pearls of wisdom from the west is often has parallel or its roots in Islam.
When he says something seems so common sensical. He said that when you having a shower, focus on the
shower, when you eating focus on the meat, when you're interacting with someone focused on the
person, when you are driving, focus on the drive. And he said when you are praying, focus on the
prayer. And I remember sharing this with a very dear friend of mine. And he said Idris I tried that.
And I suddenly found even the two minutes I spent with my friend, it was meaningful. There was
purpose there was understanding. Now how would you relate that to the Islamic principles about Be
		
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			conscious, with whatever you do with people, when you're talking to Allah, when you're talking to
people, when you're focusing on an ambition or any particular thing. The important thing is to
engage the moment and engage the moment. The moment is all you really have the past is the past. The
future may come you may be there may not be there. The reality is the moment seize the moment, too
many of us are living in the past. And too many of us are looking so far into the future that we are
missing the moment many of us by the way, are going forward in life but looking in the rearview
mirror, and that's why it's holding us back. The important thing in Islam therefore the you
		
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			mentioned it these days
		
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			This notion of intentions of perfect one is a very ideal one. The idea of intention is that whatever
you do, there's a purpose, you have a choice. When you make a knee, it means you have a choice to do
something or not to do it. And that intention, that purpose is gives you a focus. If I'm going too
fast, I make intention for fasting are the knee of a fasting, why God knows I'm gonna fast I'm not
reading the intention to do to remind God is to remind remind myself, I'm engaging in a particular
activity at this particular moment, there are certain obligations and duties upon me. In other
words, the focus is such that I appreciate that particular act, in that particular moment was always
		
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			dimensioned. And all is reality. And that way, we are really living, it's no use doing something
absent mindedly is going to do something without focus. Otherwise, you're not really there. What are
you really then you are somewhere else? Many people you speak to them if in fact, you speak to them?
How are you in the alpha handler? They don't even answer your question is purely courtesy, but
they've been focusing on what they're doing. And it applies to most of their life, they tried it
while eating dinner, or reading the paper, or they're watching TV with some, some of us are so
unfocused, we can't even come into the house, or putting the radio or the TV, why we can't be with
		
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			ourselves, we are afraid to even think of our own thoughts or allow our thoughts speak to us. So
focus, engage the moment, one of the things that you you mentioned is the power of now, these are
very, very important thing. And one of the things that we also need to speak about, you know, the
idea, are you saying, for example, that you need to look at, in other words, that every individual
should sincerely evaluate their place, and the potential role in the larger society in the scheme of
things I fully agree. Idris, you know, we need to recognize the purpose of our existence, and
realize the value of what we could do and what we could offer. No person is insignificant. And no
		
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			good deed is too small. You know, in the story of a young boy, some time ago, in an urban beach,
some of the fish beats themselves, maybe either due to a wave or something a large wave, and the
wave went back and the fish could not back go back in the water. And the whole school of fish was
virtually deposit deposit on the beach. And this young boy was taking the fish, there were millions
of them. And he was taking one throwing it back, taking one throwing it back, and then an uncle walk
by and he said, Son, what are you doing? He said, Sir, I'm saving the fish, and uncles are you
crazy, my son, there are so many millions of them. And the boy picked up one more fish his uncle, it
		
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			will make a difference to this one. And he threw it back from that philosophy from that because the
philosophy, just because you can do something, doesn't mean you have to do everything. And just
because you can't do everything does not mean you must not do anything. The principle should be do
the best you can with what you have, from where you are, to all the good you can as long as you can,
as much as you can we ever you can to the best of your ability. So every little counts. The desert
may be vast, but it's constituted of tiny, tiny grains of sand. And no grain, no grains, no sand.
No, I mean, no grains, no, no desert, we may be a drop in the ocean, but the ocean would be left
		
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			without the drop. And every drop counts. If every drop was to be removed, there'd be no ocean
either. So shakes Allah
		
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			do you get the impression from your own travels, that many people today are too self effacing. They
think of themselves that diminish themselves, and they feel they have no value, they cannot give
value to other people. Do you think that is also happening? It's very common that you have such a
high level of low self esteem, a high level of low self esteem and depression and people feel
worthless. And part of the problem which we need to address at some other time is relationship that
if your own don't value, you begin to believe that you are not valuable. That's why husbands and
wives, parents and children the importance of value is so so important. And that's why in Islam you
		
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			find the emphasis you know caring for others is one thing, caring for your own is double the reward,
the idea of it begins in the house, but beyond that, many people have this negative impression of
themselves. And by the way, we asked the Queen the best of God's creation, we are allotted Karuna,
Bani Adam I was under the project of Adam, every project of Adam the best of those who are righteous
and good and God fearing and, and believing. But, but but by virtue of being human being whoever
they may be, wherever they may be, there's something something good about them You see, and and we
need to realize that irrespective of who we are, we are here for a purpose. It may not be as
		
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			it may not be, we may not grab the headlines. We may not be in the papers, we may be in the movies.
But whatever we can do is you look at your life. You look at my life. We are now presenting things
internationally to people in all parts of the
		
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			Well over 20 countries we have spoken in. How many of the teachers there are people who I know that
no one else knows. If it wasn't for them a small acted as motivation on their part that we would be
here today, how many people know your dad, for example? And how much inspired you that you are today
where you are. So sometimes it's not, it reads, can somebody become a great motivational speaker,
and people may give accolades to him. But God knows that that some person play their role somewhere
on that life had that person not been there, there'll be no interest Cammisa. So this is very, very
important. Muhammad Ali became a great boxer, the greatest Sports Personality, someone stole his
		
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			bike, he went to someone to complain, who advised him to go and, you know, go to boxing. And when
you get the guy who can beat him up, that motivated him. I don't know the name name of the man. I
never remembered it and but I know Muhammad Ali, but had he not gone to that man. So we have a role
to play. And God knows it may not be acknowledged by others. But you know what you did? And Allah
knows what you did.
		
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			Shake Sadler from what you've been telling me. Alhamdulillah I've been reflecting on many, many
things. And often educators sometimes diminish themselves, and they feel they don't have the power
to effect change, behavioral change. And I'm also someone told me once that an educator is not a
sage on the stage, but a guide on the side. I remember last year when I went for a conference in
Toronto, I heard this wonderful story, a very poignant story, narrated by Habibullah Geoffrey, when
he spoke about his own life as a young student, he was with this chef or his teacher at the
conference, and he was leaving the conference. But one of the students notice him and he was so
		
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			excited to see him and the diver stopped the car and the student opened the door and he hugged the
teacher and close the door. And immediately you want to ask him a question. The driver or the
goodness of his heart lowered the window. He asked him a question and the scheck in his own
courteous way responded.
		
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			And he went immediately the shakes told Habiba, Jeffrey, that my finger is stuck in the door Habiba
Jeffrey got so excited, why didn't you tell me why didn't tell me earlier? He says no, that student
to hurt me or came to see me is very beloved of me. If he knew that it was his act, that jam my
finger. It would have been too heavy a burden for him to bear
		
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			now and Habiba Jeffrey, analyze the story. He says pain is a natural thing when your finger is stuck
your natural reaction say Ouch. But yet, they were so concerned sensitive about other people's
feelings, they were prepared to sublimate that and check I'm sure you can expand on this story also,
you have an example in the life of the Prophet peace be upon him. By some one day someone was in
front of him in if and giving grapes to the Prophet so implicates the prophets moment prophet seems
smiling and smiling, and took another piece of another grape, another prophets mouth, and he smiled
and smiled at him. Then he put the third one in, he put the proper smile at the end smile. But the
		
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			prophet took a bit longer this time to chew the grape. So this companion then to concrete poured his
mouth, and immediate spirit is carried out because he was very bitter or sour. And he said, This is
terrible grapes. Did all of them taste better like this? He said, each and every one of them did.
Why didn't you say is it I saw you smiling when you fed me, and I don't want to hurt you. So I
rather to the bitterness by not disappoint you. So this shows how these people were people of
excellence. There were people you know who who manifested the example of excellence. So it's very
important for us to show sensitivity. And I'm reminded what I want to be solid, lowly, or Selim
		
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			said, that is far worse to break the heart of a believer than the Kaaba. When I came across that I
got so emotional, the Kaaba is so central to what we do the excitement, the emotional response to
it. So my question to you, then are you in essence, saying that we should strive for perfection?
		
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			No, there is a fundamental reality that we have to acknowledge. And that is that no human being is
perfect or would ever be perfect, but every single one is definitely a work in progress. We need to
commit ourselves to excellence in everything we do the idea of axon wait on, but do not seek
perfection, and have the wisdom to know the difference between perfection and excellence. The
question the quest for excellence is not a quest for perfection, for only Allah is perfect. The
quest for excellence is actually a willingness and a determination to maximize the potential which
Allah has granted to each
		
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			None of us in spite of our weaknesses and limitations, therefore, why is it the worst of the ones
who said, a person would do nothing if you waited until he would do it so well that no one could
find fault with it. Remember that excellence can be attained by man, by human being, while
perfection is the domain of the Divine. So there's nothing wrong with making a mistake, we are human
to human khulumani
		
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			all human beings make mistakes. They are they make fault and the best of those who make fault or
those who rectified and who turn away from it, and repent. So we learn from these. There's nothing
wrong with making mistakes, provided that we learn from errors and setbacks. So that our past serve
as a lesson for us to get better and wiser each day. We look at for example, you mentioned the story
I mentioned the story of the Prophet peace be upon him. And you mentioned about Your Habib Ali.
Defeat, may Allah be pleased with him.
		
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			We should never let the obstacles in our path prevent us from reaching our destination. Prophet
Joseph, use of Alister and peace be upon him, was betrayed by his brothers sold into slavery, went
through tremendous trials and tribulations, but eventually reached a position of great honor,
religiously, financially and politically, despite the dishonorable things that were done to him by
those who are supposed to be closest to him and dearest to him. Profit use of Joseph peace be upon
him, like all the emissaries of the Divine, live meaningful lives, and remained models of
excellence. So what we are pursuing for the Idris is the pursuit of excellence, not the aim for
		
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			perfection for excellence can be attained. Perfection is a domain of the Divine.
		
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			And underlying, it's very important to consider what you have said. But when you look at a context,
in today's society, what I find around us is whole essence of mediocrity. There is no excellence,
pursuing excellence as it were, and why you do think it is so why do you think that we are prepared,
in essence to do something anyhow? slip shot is not about looking at the aesthetics is not about
presentation anymore? And that was not the legacy of Islam? No, that's not the legacy. In fact, we
have we have a principal in the Lucha cuttable Asana, Allah Colucci. Surely Allah has prescribed
excellence and goodness in everything you do, because the consequences of what you do whatever you
		
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			do as a consequence, and the Quran says halogens are all axon in the axon, can the consequences of
excellence be anything but goodness, or can the consequences of goodness be anything but good. So
the notion of excellence is the fundamental. In fact, there's another tradition of the prophet in
the law, your head Buddha, Allah.
		
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			Allah loves if you do something, you do it with excellence, so not mediocrity, do the best you can
with what you have from where you are. And know Allah is no burden upon you more than you can bear.
But he expects you to do what you can with the full potential that He has given you. And under the
law. So the what you are saying, in essence, is that for us to grow and evolve, we have to really
heighten our awareness and enhance our perspectives. Certainly, I mean, otherwise, we remain. If you
keep doing what you always did, you'll keep getting what you always got. So meaningful living comes
from honoring each moment, and making every action count, do what you can to the best of your
		
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			ability. It is a tiny shift in perception that assigns meaning and importance to each moment.
Otherwise, every moment is like every other moment. It means stopping to notice the beauty and the
love around us. And within us. It means being fully present in each moment, seizing the moment,
engaging the moment, because only the present moment truly exists. So many of us worry about the
future. And so many of us hold regrets about the past, that we completely ignore the present. When
we give the now our full attention. Even mundane tasks, as you mentioned early on, can take on an
order of significance. It is then that our lives become millions of meaningful moments. And we learn
		
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			to value the prophetic advice to live in this world as if you are a passerby. You know when you go
and visit in any country,
		
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			I lived in California for some time in Southern California. People come they want to go to Disney
studio they want to go they have so many places San Diego they want to go to see the water world.
Why there was this I never went to World War Two world up till now. I live for 11 years. I'll go
tomorrow, but those who come as visitors, they want to do everything because they realize conflict
dunya Anika Haribo Avi Sabine, the prophet said, Be in the world as if you are a passerby or a
traveler. So in other words, you have that moment. We are you know, we do not know how long we have
to live. So, if we live each moment and fully appreciate each moment, and and change our perspective
		
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			from taking every moment is just another moment. rather take it as an opportunity for goodness, the
prophet Mita Diwan Allahu Magellan
		
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			hayata zyada tele navicula federal law at every moment in life, be an opportunity for increased
goodness that every moment of life be an opportunity for increased goodness. And it can only be
increased goodness, if we purposefully live intentional and do the best we can for that moment in
that moment. So I'm Lila, I think that one of the things that you're really mentioning, that we must
not become obsessed with things obsessed with the material, at the expense of the spiritual, and
there is a story they've chosen to share with you. It's a very powerful story, the story of an
emperor, I'm not too sure the Chinese Emperor, the Japanese Emperor, perhaps a Chinese Emperor, and
		
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			he had very loyal servant, and he wanted to give him something back for his loyalty. And he said to
him, that this horse of mine, I want you ride it.
		
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			And until you decide when the horse should stop, but never land you Travis is yours. And they say
this person was riding the horse. When he felt pangs of hunger, hunger, he said, No, I want to
continue, because I want more land when he became 97 continue throughout the night and he went on
and on that way, and the sight in the end is him dying on the horse.
		
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			Now, if you look at that particular story is about us having as you were saying earlier
perspectives, having a kind of balance out attitude also. So that we begin to focus on things that
are really meaningful and not chase after things and worry. concern yourself so much about the
future that you forget to translate the now into a meaningful place Jalaluddin Rumi poetry
beautifully engage the world in Islamic philosophy robina atina Dr. Santa Clara de hacer una vaca
nada, nada Allah grant is the best in this world and the best in the hereafter. But in the process,
there's an end up in the fire save us from that which will take us to the fire jaldi Rumi said this
		
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			wall is very essential, we Life is like a journey, we are on the boat. And the the the rivers the
water is is is is the world, you need the water you need the world otherwise you cannot exist at
this mundane level of existence.
		
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			Of course, the greater reality greater existence beyond this existence, but we are in this world for
this period of time. And this life is a test under the helical multiple higher level outcome, this
is a test for us. But we need to keep the boat are living underwater. If you take too much of the
water, you cannot move without the water. But if you take too much of the water into the boat, the
boat will sink, some of us sink because of the excessive engagement or focus on materialism. So we
need the world we need to ride on the world ride the waves of the worlds the ups and downs in the
world. But don't let it become the world become you know, you know a brahmana the most important
		
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			aspect is only a transitory period for us. And we are part of we must contribute to the larger
picture of this world.
		
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			So Shake what you are really saying is that each individual is important. And each life contributes
to the larger society or the story rather, of course, though our lives are but footnotes on the put
on the pages of history. Each life is a footnote on the page of history. But each has his or her own
life. And each life is a unique story. We sometimes we enter into each other's lives and become a
temporary part or a permanent part of each other's stories. But all our lives are but part of that,
as you said the larger story. And the fundamental question remains, how do we contribute to the
larger story? You know, a companion of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said when going to
		
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			sleep either as Bhaktivedanta Mr. Avila tanto de Saba. When you go to sleep, do not assume that you
will wake up to see the dorm. And when you wake up in the morning, don't assume you will live to see
the sunset. take precaution from from your health against sickness and take from your life or to
benefit you in in death and afterlife. In other words, seize the moment. do the best we can and
realize that we have a responsibility to make a positive contribution at whatever level we find
ourselves in.
		
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			So check, are we in essence, aiming for positive living in a seemingly negative world?
		
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			I think part of reality is to hope for the best but always be prepared for the worst.
		
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			You know, neither is the world bad nor times bad. Mama Shafi put it very beautifully. Now he was a
Montana ye bophana. Well as Elisa Montana, I don't see one. We blame the time, the times and bad
		
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			times are not bad at all except the wrongs that we commit in time. So if we change and we improve,
we do good if we do right. The Times will be good the world
		
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			Good.
		
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			It is also fundamental to realize that there is a Native American saying, realizing about the world.
He said, it's a super conscious philosophy that they have, which is that we do not so much inherit
the world from our forefathers. As much as we are borrowing it from our children. We do not so much
inherit the world from our forefathers, as much as we are borrowing it from our children. So we need
to realize it is a seemingly negative world, the experience of life shows that those who befriend
you may betray you, those who benefit you may belittle you, those who fight you fight for May
forsake you, those who favor may forget you, those whom you assist may abandon you, those who
		
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			innovate may even humiliate you. But indeed, We live in a cynical world like that, where the good
you do maybe minimize, then the errors you do could be magnified. But that is the very world that we
need to make into a better place. I need to take comfort in the words of one of the great
philanthropists of the world, Mother Teresa, who advised and popularized the following saying, she
said give the world the best you have, it may never be enough. Give the world your best anyway.
Because in the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them. Anyway,
you find that Sonali karma logic, the Companion of the Prophet, family said, Make yourself the
		
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			standard between yourself and others. Make yourself the standard of the time. If times are bad,
don't you become bad, if the environment is bad, don't you become bad, you'll be an agent for good,
you'll be an agent of our son of goodness and excellence. And two examples that can give in this
regard. One is a great Sufi by the name of basil boustani. One day he was speaking to a group of
students. And one of the people in the audience became very argumentative with him. And the chef
responded to this person with great dignity and respect. After the class, one of the students asked
share, you treated him like a gentleman and he was so vulgar and rude towards you. And the chef
		
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			responded, I treated him like a gentleman, not because he was one, but because I am one. This is
very important that we become the standard a similar incident or a similar vein is the life story of
Jesus he Salah Salaam peace be upon him, way on an occasion he was insulted by by some passers by.
And he was saying kind words to them and praying for them, and his disciples, headmaster, they are
cursing you and saying hateful things towards you. And you are praying for them and saying kind
words to them. And he said they give what they have to offer. And I give what I have to offer the
question for us here for the Idris what is it that I can offer? If I have not been offering it can I
		
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			do so can you make a resolution to do so. So as fellow fallible human beings with limitations, there
is a potential to do remarkable things, if and only if there is a firm resolve on our parts to do
so. So let each one of us therefore make a resolution a considered revolution to be the best that he
or she can be. And that resolution could be a stepping stone towards an improved self, and
hopefully, towards a better world. And Jazakallah shake, I think it's very, very profound, sharing
with us your wisdom, your understanding of Islam and life. And just check just to summarize what
you've said, I've seen many, many points that I think it's important for us to reflect on it. But
		
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			more importantly, to act upon it. You initially spoke about the fact that life is not static. It's
it's ongoing, there is a movement there. And therefore there needs to be dynamism on our part. And
we need to ask some very fundamental questions and questions. I would like everyone listening to the
CD, who are you? Where are you coming from? Where are you going to? And also, very importantly, you
need to ask certain questions like, what is it that excites you? What are you committed to? What
would make you happy? What are you proud of? What are you most grateful for? The whole idea, as you
said, quite beautifully, about assuring
		
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			gratefulness. The other important thing that you mentioned is to accept responsibility and ownership
of your life. It is your life. And we must seize the day, we mustn't have a victim mentality. And
again part of everything is this life is finite. So we got to value time and we need to make this
world a better place. And of course, you reinforce reiterated the power of now. We have no control
over tomorrow, the past is gone. But this very moment. We need to act upon our ideals. And also we
need as human beings as Muslims or even non Muslims.
		
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			to reflect on who you are, what legacy you are leaving behind, and the other two or three critical
points you made is the power of intentionality, about your own consciousness. And again, we must not
pursue mediocrity, but we must pursue excellence. And finally, I think the critical aspect is this,
that all of us have something to contribute, we can make a difference. It starts with you, right
now, not tomorrow. Because what I want to share with listeners, it is said that if you do not change
within 48 hours after a presentation is unlikely you're going to change. It is the small acts of
kindness that can make a difference. And indeed, I have no doubt. Each one of you can leave a legacy
		
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			behind. Shake Sadler jazak Mullah once again for a wonderful, insightful program on life itself, as
salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.