Ebrahim Bham – Resolving Maritul Disputes And Divorce Prodecures

			Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Allah.
		

			Allah Allah. Allah.
		

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			respected elders and brothers. I want to start today's talk by an example.
		

			Many times when you and I, we bought an airplane, we find an announcement that is made. That
announcement speaks about safety measures. It tells you that if something happens in the plane, this
is what you are supposed to do. They also tell you in the unlikely event of a crash, in the unlikely
event of a
		

			crash landing in the sea or in water, this is what you are supposed to do. Now in a similar manner,
today's talk, I want to speak about something in a similar vein.
		

			And that is, if something happens to your marriage, how are you supposed to proceed? And it is in
the very similar light and similar vein, the way the announcement is made in the unlikely event of a
problem in your marriage. What do you do? understand what I'm saying? Jessica Sam, Hawaii, Jasmine,
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Firstly, we know that family is the nucleus of a society. What society is going to become what
society is depends upon individual families. Therefore, family is a nucleus of an Islamic Society.
Islam has placed great importance on the preservation of the family. And every effort must be made
to preserve the family. Inside a Muslim there is a hadith he believes puts his throne on the water.
Right? And then he takes reports from all small shaytans and small gymnasts and they all come and
say today we made this person do this wrong. We made him not perform Salah ham no one says Mr.
		

			dusty, you're gonna come on Nick.
		

			Right. He plays lessons doesn't say anything. Or one he plays comes one gene that comes to the
bigger piece the original release and said her husband and wife were living together properly. I
made them fight. I didn't leave them until I made that. Husband after divorce. I broke the family.
He please gets up. He bleeds calls it small children said you come and sit here. Atlas subsys Yara
camkii
		

			royalty may or moon karate apne subsidiary country you have made the best. So Handan wash Raka
Sangha boo yada, or Islam a whiskey Fonzie por por dia. That's a reality. But Allah subhanho wa
Taala also knows that human beings are different in temperaments. Allah also knows that sometimes
human beings are such that despite the best of intentions, they will not be able to get along.
Sometimes with the best of intentions, they have disputes, they have arguments. Now what do you do
with regard to those particular aspects? Sometimes those arguments and dispute leads to the marriage
breaking or sometimes it leads to tension in the marriage. How do you deal with it? Remember one
		

			thing, it's something that I want to make mention of the fact that two people do not get along or
two
		

			People and a couple which might lead to divorce does not necessarily make them bad people. It just
makes it that they could not get along. Sometimes it's not necessary it
		

			just happens that they could not get along. In the Quran Allah subhanho wa Taala has made mention of
Allah. Allah, Allah.
		

			Allah is made mentioned with regard to zaidan niharika, the adopted son of noumea Karim sallahu
alayhi wa sallam, and Xena, the cousin of our beloved Divya Kareem salsa mala he has him we can take
a class on both agenda. Don't agenda. But yet despite the fact that the agenda is the head of
divorce, they could not get along because of certain reasons. So the fact that you are different,
you don't get along can happen doesn't necessarily make you a bad person doesn't necessarily make
you a bad person. However, what we have to understand that people sometimes are different, sometimes
they don't get along. How do we deal with us? And nutana john Kane, Sonny massage meta fouta or
		

			Baraka, ha ha, La Quinta da, g Smith for 18 K, Katerina bought mosquito data. Now what do you do
with regard to it? Now, in this particular regard, the beauty of Islam, the beauty of Islam is
unlike some other religions, in Catholicism, for example, even if you are in the worst of marriages,
you can break it, it's against the rules to break the marriage, you have to remain together whether
you like it, or you don't like it. The beauty of Islam is Islam has not forced people to be in a
marriage in all circumstances. And neither does Islam say, break the marriage for any trivial
reason, the beauty of Islam, the return of Islam, the moderation of Islam, Islam doesn't tell you,
		

			you have to remain forever in it in marriage. Right? That doesn't tell you, it's better to do so.
But it doesn't tell you you have to. And it doesn't tell you that you must break it for trivial
reasons. Today, we make a joke with regard to it. And they said My mother told me that don't make
married, don't make money through the means of marriage make money through the means of divorce. So
they said that a person went one by one goal for anyone to get by one goal and other stuff. So there
are different types of doll This doll is a nervous the teacher This is one and this is a divorced
woman. So though divorced woman had the biggest price 1000 a couple of 1000. He said Why? Why is
		

			this one super expensive? So he took everything of the husband was they say that, you know, he took
everything of the husband was now we don't look at it that we take divorce for every reason. Neither
does Islam say you have to stay together. See, Allah has said that the law is the worst of all
possible things. But it is permissible. And so what I'm saying it doesn't say that it is haram. It
didn't say that it is an act of sin. It said that it is permissible, but as far as possible, don't
get involved in it. It is the worst of all things that are permissible. So in Stan Islam, here kamya
Pico hora, Seurat meketa was born.
		

			Or nahi mamoli pata, pata la de de de da. Allah Allah has told us with regard to a process, if there
is a difference in your marriage, what do you do? What a Latina says?
		

			What Latifah funan Oh Susanna, when you have a difference with regard to your wife, the man is the
the one in whose hand is
		

			the nikka objeto Nicola has made mention of in the second super of the Holy Quran, in whose hand
lies the nica is the men and Allah has been very kindly upon us that he has left that Allah in the
hands of the men, if it would have left it in the hands of the woman, perhaps substituting tea,
everyone would have been perhaps gone a nice kept it in the hands of the men, right. However, in
this particular regard, what Allah subhanaw taala said
		

			if you have a difference with your wife, advise her show some form of discipline, show your
displeasure, discipline do these type of things. It does not say you must abuse your wife. The way
abuse is commonly understood in today's time.
		

			Never lifted his hands on his wife or his children or his slaves never. It is not recorded once in
the life of many aquariums awesome that he lifted his hands. Those want to follow the sooner that is
a tsunami via cream sauce.
		

			Then and that Allah has told us an amazing way with regard to bringing reconciliation between
people. way in the fifth Tony shikaka Bailey Hema ferlazzo hakama min Allahi wa hakama min
		

			if these now Allah Allah tells you first
		

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			Then you bring in the elders of the family, let A be an arbitrator from the husband side and
arbitrator from the human side.
		

			He you read his law, you are fit Allahu bayda Houma let them come together if they intention is to
reconcile, Allah will bring them together. And I must say this. Previously, when there was problems
in marriages, the elders in the family used to play that role. They used to come
		

			down and discuss it. today. Elders don't play that role. They used to be a time when the if there
was any problem in a marriage, the elders of the family used to get together and they used to
resolve issues. And now he's made mention of him.
		

			Normally, the arbitrator, the person in charge of the husband and the wife will be those whom the
husband and wife trust, maybe perhaps the elders, and in this particular regard, an attorney
determines Sula, chronically Handan kibou kukoc. Nikita, Nikita, hi. The elders must be in that
particular situation. I was reading a very amazing quote of hygiene de la Mahajan, macura hygiene de
la Mahajan. makira.
		

			He is a chef of all our chefs. And he said the reason today there is this unity and these disputes
is because of two reasons. Lack of humility and how lack of selflessness. Two things you don't have
humility and you don't have selflessness. So if you are selfish and you are proud, if you are
selfish and you are proud, then wapa Jaga una IANA. If you are the capoeira girl, or a plumber in
Africa,
		

			if you are proud, and you are selfish, then that is the root cause of with regard to disputes. So
this is what Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us. Now if after all attempts have failed, and
remaining together is no more viable, in fact, is counterproductive, sometimes even worse for the
children because they see the father and mother fighting all the time. And in this particular
regard, it is the objectives of Nika are not being fulfilled. Then one can I'm not saying should or
must, one can proceed to
		

			110 but it should not be done impulsively. Anything it should be a thought out process. It should
not be done impulsively. It should be a thought out process. I'm referring to make mention of it
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			so the husband is the one who gives the tele interlock to Muna. Allah tala has also made mention
with regard to it. Sometimes it can happen that the husband knows that the marriage has broken down.
He knows it. But despite him knowing that a marriage is broken down, sometimes you're not living
like men and wife, but out of spite you own give the data that is wrong for him. sercombe maruf OTA
three homea son either stay together properly, or them separate amicable, but at the sutra na, na
monkey, no. Then separate property. separate property. Allah Allah Tommy, local La La,
		

			la, don't leave the woman suspended. Neither is she married. Neither is she divorced. This is not
the right way of Islam. So the who is going to give the husband, the wife if she is not happy. She
has several ways with regard to it. She can engage and get into color. Or she can ask an Islamic
government in the absence of an Islamic government, a tribunal, a group of Muftis that my rights are
not being fulfilled. I would like out of the marriage
		

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			cream sauce we made for our wife on one day came to me a cream sauce and I said, Yeah, so like what?
No, no difficulty with Aflac and conduct of my husband like him. The Nivea cream sauce that made
Hola, right. So I'm not saying that every particular color is permitted to be garbage. But if the
wife is not happy, she also has certain ways to get out of it. But normally the telok will be given
by the husband now when he gives her a look at the beauty of Islam. People don't realize this.
Maria.
		

			We only know one way of giving. If we're not happy gift returns. That is the worst type of a person
who gives three talents is a sinner. he commits a sin. whodunit Guna Thank you teacup, the fact that
whether it is effective or not is difference. That is different I will come to it. How do you give
		

			the best way of giving Pilates? And I said like you know, for example, you people are going in a in
a Skinner airplane. So the first thing is they tell you in the unlikely event this thing happens
that's what we must do. We say the same thing in the unlikely event of a marriage coming to an end.
What do you do? You give $1 in a state where the woman is clean, she is not in a state of mensis. To
give in a state of menses is sinful, although it will be effective Guna Heskey, Allah, tala Donna
Guna mana,
		

			wat Nafisa JD. So what you do you give $1 at a time and a woman is PA, and then you wait for three
menses thereafter, right thereafter, after three menses, the niqab breaks, you don't have to give
another color, one color is sufficient, the best us and
		

			you give one color in a state of cleanliness. And after that after three toilets, the niqab breaks.
Now what is the benefit of this? The benefit of it is it's a thought out process. And then also in
in, in cleanliness, there is a little bit more of loving Muhammad. Right? So you're not giving it to
her in a state of mensis where perhaps you have not been intimate with her, which could lead to
certain types of displeasure, frustration, no, so you're giving it when she's clean, you have the
ability to be intimate with her. And then after you give it at a time. Now look at the beauty of
Islam, after you have given it for three tax free three minutes or sorry, three menses, if you want
		

			to reconcile, very easy to reconcile so Islam has opened the doors for reconciliation to keep the
marriage as far as possible intact, you only have to after
		

			that I am taking that metalock or you can not even do that. You don't even have to do that. By
coming to Georgia, if you just have to go and kiss her your truck is broken.
		

			If any way any form of affection that the law is broken is number one. Now do you realize why this
is the best form of color it is not done by anger. It is something we have done by thinking about
the consequences. So this is the best form of color. The second form of color which is known as
hassane is you give the same thing but to give three colors in three different cycles. One cycle
when she's clean the next cycle when she's again clean the next cycle you give three but over three
different cycles.
		

			And then after that it's a second best form of giving.
		

			And the third form of giving which is known as the lucky bit is when you give Tilak in such a way
that you give three in one
		

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			that the reason why maybe a cream sauce got angry is that it is effective but it's not the way to
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			amazing thing that in Islam, you don't give talaq in anger. You don't give Tulloch impulsively you
give it as a thought out thing. And may I say, if you have to give it, you give it with respect and
honor.
		

			You give it what respect and honor the way you brought someone's woman in your marriage with respect
and honor. If you have to let her go, you let her go with respect and honor. You don't give it
three, like just like that as if we're given three, yes, is your fault that you gave three in one,
it will be effective according to all four masahito it will be effective that have taken place. It
is like a person having three bullets in a holster. And once he gives it, it is done, no matter how
much you regret it is done. But that's not the way Islam doesn't want you to give it impulsively.
Islam doesn't want you to give it in a way that it is done on the spur of the moment. It should be
		

			done in a way that you think about the consequences. And after you think about the consequences,
then you do it with honor and respect. It's permissible. So why must you do it in a way that creates
enmity, hostility, and then the husband and wife read one another, then these court cases that
follow the met the families don't speak to one another
		

			and visited a lot to me. It is said that sometimes it could be that you couldn't get along. And if
you can't get along, think about the consequences. And if you feel that you cannot remain together,
then separate amicably with respect and honor.
		

			This is the way Islam has made mentioned with regard to it. And today we don't do this, we are more
worried about scoring points. The husband, the wife, the husband's family, the wife's family,
although nebbia cream sauce, Emma said Lisa tan well, Apollon, we don't don't we don't make we
don't. And the more best example, I will conclude with this beautiful example.
		

			You know, in this time, you can give all the different I just tried to give you the gist of Islamic
wisdom, how it should be done. So if there is any specific Messiah, you must go to the movies. But
I'll give you an example of the life of the Ultron. He had a problem with his wife, he couldn't get
along. So someone came and asked him and said, Are you having a problem with your wife? Can you tell
me what's the problem with your wife? What is your wife doing? What is her problem? And I believe
the woman said, Do you want me to speak bad about my wife in front of you? Who are you to come and
speak to me about the performance of my wife? Do you want me to speak about the faults of my wife in
		

			front of you? So he felt a shame they after it's happened to him or gave his wife the luck? And then
he came back and said,
		

			Now she's no more your wife. Tell me what was the problem with her? Why you gave it up? Too Late
Bloomer said, Do you want me to speak about the strange woman in front of you?
		

			She was my wife. I'm going to tell you about the fault of my wife. Now I've given a talk. She's a
strange woman. You want me to speak about the faults of a strange woman in front of you. This is the
beauty of Islam. Every aspect of Islam has good wisdom. The unfortunate part is we do not follow it.
And then we blame the Sharia. We do not follow it. We bring difficulty upon ourselves. Otherwise
every aspect of the is a thought out process. Every aspect of deal is full of wisdom. Let us follow
that.