Daood Butt – Maintaining Relationships in Islam

			Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran oh you who believe that's you, Allah is talking to you, save
yourself and save your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.
		

			The fuel of the fire of jahannam is human beings,
		

			and rocks and stones.
		

			The fire of jahannam feeds off human beings.
		

			When you have a fire, you go to a camp, for example, and you build a campfire, you throw wood into
it so the wood can continue to burn. That's the fuel, you're throwing in the wood. The fire of
jahannam is fuel is human beings that they're thrown into the fire of jhana, making it more and more
hot and more severe. But when we look at the life of the prophets on the Long Island, or send them
to start off with, we see a beautiful example through the Hadith that are narrated by the scholars
of Hadith.
		

			The majority of the most detailed Hadith, the intricate details, especially with regards to husband
and wife and relations and stuff like that family relations, those Hadeeth are usually narrated or
came from their source goes back to one of the family members, either a wife of the Prophet
salallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, or a cousin or an uncle or a relative or a really close friend of
father in law, you know, whoever it may be, but it goes back to someone usually, or a lot of the
times those Hadeeth go back to someone who is very close and related to the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam.
		

			And that in itself is an example of how the profits in the long rally were seldom maintained close
ties with those who were related to him, maintained close ties and relations with those family
members. And not only was it maintaining close ties, but it was educating them about the religion.
		

			It was educating them. But today we see a lot of us are kind of two faced. When we're outside of our
house, people look at us and they're like, Mashallah, you know, really good brother. Wish I was like
him looking at me, he's going off to the masjid would love to be like that brother. Mashallah,
sister. Look at that one. She's walking by analysts, she's covered up, you know, our job matches or
a buyer and it covers up nicely and it looks good. And like our brother was saying yesterday, it's
nice and loose, and she's wearing the converse shoes, you know, and everything's nice.
		

			But when you go home,
		

			attitude,
		

			don't talk to me, like, what's wrong with you?
		

			You know
		

			why he's telling the husband?
		

			Talk to the hen.
		

			And then the husband is like, do this do that. Where's my food? Bring it down. Hurry up. I'm
waiting. I came home from work. It's been five minutes now you didn't get me my food. But at work.
It's like, Oh, we have a meeting over lunch. So we're going to eat lunch at three o'clock today
instead of on time at 1230 because we have a lunch meeting. Okay. No problem, sir. That's fine.
Yeah, no problem. My home's like, Where's my food?
		

			You know, we're two faced. We're two different people. When we're outside people recognize us as
being someone who's amazing and awesome for some of us, and then when we go home, we're a completely
different person. The husband is like, what's wrong with this lady, she's outside with her friends.
She gets dressed up nicely. She puts on makeup, she goes in, you know, has a nice time with her
friends and everything she comes home puts on her pajamas takes off the makeup.
		

			I mean, it's simple examples, but it really changes the state of your house in the situation of the
relationship between husband and wife and mother and father and brothers and sisters and uncles and
aunts and so on and so forth. One of the real differences between the Sahaba and the rest of us was
a class. What is my Nia What is my intention? What is my motivation for doing this action?