Weekly Halaqa – Episode 15 (21st August 2015).
Adab al Mufrad is a hadith book compiled by Imam Muhammad ibn Ismail al Bukhari. It contains 1,322 ahadith.
The book is about the manners of Prophet Muhammad SAWS.
Daood Butt – Al Adab Al Mufrad – EP15
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The Hadeeth number 93 is discussed as a mother giving a date to each child and splitting the last date into half. The importance of mercy in one's life is emphasized, along with the Her story in the Hadith which highlights the importance of the mother in keeping the whole household afloat and sacrificing for their children. The importance of small small actions that can affect our emotions and beliefs is emphasized, along with the need for mindful monitoring of our own culture and learning to be mindful of our children. The responsibility of men and boys to fulfill their responsibilities is emphasized, along with the need for compassionate leadership in society.
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will continue today with chapter 51
chapter 51 good conduct from the parent and his duty towards his child. Okay.
We'll start with Hadeeth number 92. inshallah tada we cover quite a few Hadeeth today because you'll notice that a lot of them are very similar.
Just the chain might be different, the chain of narration might be slightly different, or the wording might just have one or two words that are different in the actual mutton. So the words of the Hadeeth right. So in Hadeeth, number 92.
And Waleed even know maybe now, he said that he heard his father say, who is his father? Let me say that again. And Waleed, even neumayer. Even. He said that he heard his father say, who is his father?
No need to sing this will lead even new mayor. So his father is no mad, right? So he says, I heard he heard his father say, they used to say,
righteousness is a gift from Allah.
But I'm sorry, I'm not starting. I'm starting.
I'm starting one page to one page late. Sorry, my mistake, Chapter 50, not 5149.
Chapter 49. Mothers are merciful. Unless even Malik, we'll get to that Hadeeth in a bit in some, unless you've been Malik said, a woman came to our show, it'll be a lot more on her. And so it'll be a lot more I gave her three dates. So a mother comes to her he sort of your mahana and Arusha the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she gives this woman three days. Now this woman has with her two children. Okay.
So I said, it'll be a long run her says
she gave each of her children a date and kept one date for herself. So she had three dates give to to her children, one date each, and keeps one date for herself. The children ate the two dates, and then looked at their mother. So each child eats the date and then looks at their mother. She took the date and split it and gave each child half a date. So the mother who has only one date for herself, she takes this date splits it in half, gives one half to each one of the two children. The profit from the Long Island he was send them then came. And I said it'll be a lot more and he told him about it. So he said, for the longer I think he was on them. Are you amazed at that? So he's
asking how he settled the Aloha now, are you amazed, does this amaze you that the mother gave one date to each child and then split the last date that she was going to eat but gave it to the child? He says something along I knew he was selling them? Are you amazed at that? Allah has granted her mercy, because of her mercy towards her children. So Allah is merciful towards the mother or the, the the mother in this case, who was merciful towards her children. And remember when we finished the chapter about children, being obedient to parents, and now we're talking about parents, and how the parents responsibility is towards their children. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
he tells
he said, it'll be alone. Are you are you amazed? Are you shocked that this is happening, that the mother is giving away her own date for her to eat, and split it in half and give it to the children and he says, Allah Subhana, Allah is merciful upon her because of her mercy towards her children. So an easy way of us gaining Mercy is to be merciful upon our children, and the loss of Hamlet, and it will be merciful upon us. But we noticed the opposite. When we're working, when we're stressed when we're tired, and we come home at the end of a long day, right and everything that work went terribly wrong, we come home, we're stressed out of our mind, and we can't stand to even hear the noise
inside of our house. We can't stand to sometimes sit down and and play with the children were like, Just leave me alone, I had a terrible day, leave me alone. And you expect from a Muslim haddaway to have something good to come. You expect that you know, Allah is going to soothe your hearts, you go and you appreciate all that you make with who you expect, everything's going to be fine for you. But in reality, the family itself is what brings mercy into your own life. The profit from the longer it has Solomon's telling us that this mother receives mercy from a Muslim hanaway talent because she's merciful towards her children. And you ask yourself, you know, mothers and fathers, they're always
sacrificing for their children. And we know that very well. Right. We know we've seen it. We've all seen it with our own parents. We've seen it you know, for those of us that are married, and have children how the mother she gives to her children from her own food she gives to her children from her own sleep. You know, just last night as an example. My wife in the past few nights was
I was away for two weeks. So my youngest daughter, she got very used to sleeping close to her mother, right. She's not even two years old yet. And now that I've returned, so I'm sleeping in my bed, and she's sleeping in her bed. And every single, you know, hour, or less than an hour, she wakes up. And she's only only only she's coming over to me, she wants to be next to me. And she'll only sleep if she's touching and feeling that her mother is there, that her mother is next to her. And that goes to show us how some handler the children they take from their from their mother, even their sleep. My wife is waking up every single hour trying to you know, comfort her, soothe her,
feed her take care of her, and I'm just sleeping away. Right. And then we look at the husband and the wife or the father and the mother. How they are in that relationship.
That the wife, you notice the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is talking about the mother. And the chapter title was singling out the mercy towards the mother. You'll notice that even when it comes to looking at the entire family, and the parents, the mother and the father, the mother will sacrifice from her own food as well to give to the Father, she will sacrifice from her own sleep to give to the Father to give to her husband, she will sacrifice from her own time to make sure that the husband has his time. He has his sleep, he has his food, he has his clothing, everything is in order. She might not be wearing clothes that was you know, iron for the past week. She might not be
you know, eating food, proper meals, because her children come first. And then the husband, she's making sure that the husband has everything that he needs, because he comes home from work and he's providing for them. And if he wasn't doing that she wouldn't have what she has.
And so the profits in the long run of us and them here shows us the importance of the mother in the family, and how she keeps that whole household afloat, how she sacrifices for her own children. But also singling out the mother in the Hadith shows us that the Father is also being shown mercy from the mother and thus Allah subhana wa Taala shows mercy, more mercy towards the mother
is more merciful upon the mother.
We also see it for those of you that have the book in front of you Mashallah.
It mentions in the commentary in the last line of the commentary, that this hadith is proof for permissibility of mentioning a good deed, one performed that a person performed, if doing so, will not lead to pride. So it's permissible to mention another person's deed, good deed, if that's not going to lead to pride, then you notice in the example of this Hadith, it's not mentioned to the woman, the woman herself, she's not, you know, being brought in front of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And, you know, sort of below her and her saying this in front of her No, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is hearing from Russia, that he took three dates that belonged
to her and gave it to this woman.
So there's a good deed that happened from Russia as well. Imagine the sacrifice. Now look at this Hadith, analyze it deeper, analyze the Hadeeth more, you're thinking, wow, this mother, she had three dates, and she gave to to her children. And she kept one for herself. But then she ended up giving this one date to her children. And that's all she had was three days. Imagine how how subtle the allow her and her felt. All she had were those three days. She gave away what she had.
Seeing those two children wanting more, do you think that if she had a whole kilo of data sitting in her house, she didn't go in to get another few dates to give to them. She didn't have anything more to give. She didn't have anything more to give to these children. And she seemed the mother give her own date, after I saw the love her and her gave from her own her own food and gave them the food of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam to this family. And then she's telling the Prophet for the long run to us
about how merciful that mother was without even realizing how merciful she was herself giving away her food and the food of our profits in the long run to us and to those that were in need. And then we look at ourselves, how much are we giving? How much are we sacrificing? How much are we spending for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala you know, for for many of us that are here and we come weekly Alhamdulillah sometimes it becomes difficult, and that's simply to attend to halaqa. But we do it and we continue to do it. And sometimes the numbers are small. Like we mentioned the numbers are a little bit small this week. There's a convention taking place. Many of the brothers and
sisters are busy, you know trying to prepare and they're going to be there throughout the weekend. So maybe they want a little extra rest. So the numbers are small, but still those that are here sacrificed and
came out why to learn, even if it's one Howdy.
Give up your time for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala had, you might have a lot of food, but you give that food, you might have a lot of time, but you give that time. And those are the lessons that we tried to learn from these Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as well as the statements of this habit of the law. Let's look at the next Heidi chapter 50 kissing children
in Hadeeth, number 90, so it'll be a lot more and she said, a bed when men came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So a bedwin came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and said, Do you kiss your children? Because we do not kiss them? So this man from from the bad ear from the from the village, basically right? Not from the city comes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam and says, Do you kiss your children because we don't do that? It's not from our customs. It's not something that we do. We don't kiss our children. And we say kiss our children just you know, you see your child you give them a kiss on the cheek, give them a kiss on the head. Right showing mercy
is the importance here. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Can I put mercy in the hearts after Allah has removed it?
Can I put mercy in the heart after Allah has removed it? Now you notice here the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doesn't even address the actual question.
He responds to that question. By letting this bedwin men know that what you're doing is wrong. He tells him straight.
Obviously, it's in an indirect form, but he lets them know you understand there's a listener. Imagine if this was you. Imagine you went to the Prophet front along either you offend them. And he tells you a statement. Like, I can't put mercy in your heart after Allah has removed it. Basically, he's telling you Allah has removed mercy from your heart. You're not someone that's merciful. Why because you don't show emotion. You don't show affection to your children. You don't even give them a hug or a kiss. Right? You don't give them a kiss. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is showing us as parents how to deal with our children.
In the commentary mentions two things that I want to point out the first being one of the ways to correct a person who makes a mistake is to point out the mistake and mentioned the evil in it. How the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam points out the mistake of this of this Bedouin men, and says that, you're wrong, how? Because mercy has been taken from you. Therefore you're not showing any mercy to your children.
And the second point is the Hadith also points to the fact that the actions of the limbs impact the soul. The actions that we do, when we show affection to our children, it impacts our Amen. We spoke about this today in our clip about how the lowest level of men what is the lowest level of a man who was here for Juma?
Who knows what the lowest level of a man is? Do you know?
I mentioned the highest level in the lowest level, what is the lowest level of a man Yes.
picking up trash from the street or picking up something that's harmful, not necessarily trash, but something that's in the way. So you're walking down the sidewalk, or you're driving down the streets or you're pulling into a parking lot wherever you are. It's a way a pathway where people move even if it's in the mustard, like you're going out the door, or you know, there's something that's harmful in the way you pick it up and you move it out of the way that is the lowest level of emotion. And this Hadees shows us that doing small actions actually affects our soul. It affects our emotion, it affects our belief with Allah subhanho wa Taala had it because you did that action and
there was a young man Mashallah, who came and asked me a question after Juma. He said, If our Iman is extremely low, what can we do to pick it up? What can we do to build our email? And what I've learned from my teachers and I implement in my own life, and it works, if your email is low, and you want to lift it up, not skyrocket not boosts, not give it you know, some sort of boosts, not give it you know, some sort of dosage, some medicine dosage, but you want to elevate it to come to a normal state. do small actions do small actions. Like what? What are examples of small actions every single day, or randomly today you pray to it aka extra that you would have never prayed yesterday or the
previous days. You decide, you know what, after a show, I'm going to pray to extra doctor or before before a shot, I'm going to pray to a doctor and make dua that's an extra small deed or I'm going to use miswak. I'm going to make sure before my smile that I brush my teeth or use the miswak before the shoulder starts
I'm going to take advantage before the Imam says Allahu Akbar, in between the comma and beat and before the veto to head on, I'm going to make a short door hot.
Or, you know, I'm going to say my chest v. Or I'm going to make Lulu before going to sleep small actions. Or I'm going to look for someone who's walking down the street who's elderly, who can't carry their groceries very well, or might need assistance putting their grocery bags into their car after after you know shopping, I'm going to go and I'm going to help them small actions, the small actions that we do, helps us to raise our emotion. But you have to do them with the intention of seeking nearness to Allah subhanho wa Taala. That's what's important. You have to do those actions with the intention of pleasing Allah, getting closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And not simply to
just go and do a bunch of random actions. Anyone can be a good samaritan, you don't have to be a Muslim to be good, right? You don't have to be a Muslim to do good actions. Anyone can help with groceries, anyone can go and pay for someone else's food. Anyone can bring a homeless man food and clothing on the side of the street. Anyone can do that you don't need to be a Muslim. But if you do it with the intention of seeking nearness to Allah subhanho wa Taala your email increases
and you don't even realize it. And this is what the prophet SAW the longer either he was seldom is teaching us here that actions affect the strength of our soul and our emotion.
In the next Hadees, Abu hurayrah, viola Han said, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kissed Alicia and even Ali who has allegedly been Ali, who knows.
That's right, the grandson of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Al Hassan and Hussein.
So he says the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kissed Allah.
Even Ali
Roby Allahu anhu Ma, while Accra, even habis a Tamimi was sitting with him, and Accra said, Now this is the name of a person, right? And he says,
I have 10 children, and I have never kissed any of them. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looked at him and said, Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy. My life malayalam,
right, what does a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say, Malaya hum, la your ham. Whoever does not show mercy will not have mercy shown to them from who, from Allah subhanho wa Taala. If you don't show mercy to others, not only your children, as children, if you don't show mercy to your parents, if you don't show mercy to each other as brothers and sisters in the deen seeing people on the streets if you don't show mercy to each other, a Muslim handle which Allah will not show mercy to you. Very simple, very simple statement. And this is an authentic narration of the profits from the long run a few of them in the next ad in the next chapter, the one that we began with good
conduct from the parent and his duty towards his child. And while he didn't know maybe he
said, that I heard his father say, they used to say, so this habit with companions will be longer and whom used to say, right, righteousness is a gift from Allah. But I dub, and that's the title of this book. And at the bottom of righteousness is a gift from Allah, but other which is good conduct is from the parents. So to be righteous, someone who's righteous that's from Allah Subhana, WA Tada. You can try and raise your children to be the most pious children if they refuse, they refuse. It's not us who guide them It is Allah subhana wa Tada. You can try your best with your family and your siblings, and you will still fail if a Muslim Hannah, Hannah does not want that person to be
righteous out of their ignorance, out of their ignorance they can they continue to pull themselves away from Allah so Allah pulls himself away. It's not that Allah once hardship or once difficulty upon this person, if that person themselves, that pulls themselves far from Allah, so Allah says, you want to go go, you want to be distant from me leave, go as far as you want, and continue to go.
So the Prophet so the statement goes, righteousness is a gift from Allah.
That is a loss of Hanwha Dinah who makes a person pious makes them righteous, while at the same time, Adam is from the parents. So you might still raise children, and we this is a reality in our society. It's a reality you can try your best to raise your children upon emotion.
But you might notice either in your family or someone else's family, the children will be pulled away.
Five times daily prayers happening in the mustard. The entire family is always going to the mustard, you'll notice that. But there might be one or two or three or all of the children who leave the deen. And that's a reality of our society. That's a reality of our time. We talk about it all the time, many of us experience it. In fact, almost every single one of us, myself included, is a witness to this, that our family members as much as we tried to give them a dub as much as we tried to raise them upon Eamonn and, and having good luck and character as well as to be close to Allah subhanho wa Taala, they can keep the good of luck. They might have the best manners, they might not
pray, they might not fast, they might not go for eat, they might not go for Hajj, they might not, you know, enjoy Ramadan, as every other Muslim is doing. They're far from Islam. They disagree with everything in the deen. But they might have better manners than the Muslims, the believers, those that are actually fasting and praying themselves, they might have better manners. Why? Because righteousness is from Allah subhanho wa Taala had and good character, good behavior, good values, good morals that comes from the parents.
And as hard as parents try, and as much as parents wish for their children to be the best children on the face of the earth, while at the same time connecting with Allah subhanho wa Taala. If it's not for them, it's not for them. You know, the other day when I was in the I was in Indonesia, just last week, I was in Indonesia over the weekend.
And we were talking to the the brothers and the sisters
in a helicopter mustard, and some Hanalei told those, you know, those brothers and sisters, there were hundreds, if not 1000s of them that came to the mustard for the for the Friday night. halaqa, just like we're doing now, last Friday in Jakarta, Indonesia, there are 1000s of that came. And I was telling them how our youth in Canada, we teach them about the most populated or the country that has the largest amount of Muslims in it. What country is that?
Indonesia, right? And, and I told them, I said, You should be happy and proud that we teach our children in Canada, about your country and you and your culture, because you have the most amount of Muslims in one country. Right? It's not Pakistan, it's not India. It's not China. It's not Russia. It's not Saudi Arabia. It's not any other country. It's Indonesia.
But Subhanallah I was there. And we were talking about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And there was, you know, brothers that came to me afterwards, and they said, you know, but how do we feel like our family members, sometimes we see them away from the dean and we wish for them to be closer to the dean. We want them to to practice Islam, we want them to be Muslim, we want them to behave as Muslims. And I paused for a moment and I thought, and I told them, I said,
How do you think the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
himself?
How do you think he felt about his own parents?
Like we worry about our own children who might be punished, or our siblings who might be punished because of what they do, but they might still have a spark of emotion inside of them. There might still be a little you know, that pilot light inside of an oven, or the old furnaces. There's a pilot light that stays on the little flame stays on that little flame might still be on in fight of their hearts.
But Subhana Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam knew very well his parents did not die upon.
How do you think he felt?
What do you think went in his mind every single night when he was going to sleep, thinking of his parents,
thinking of his family,
thinking of people who he lived among,
who he was friends with before Islam, who then he ended up fighting on the battlefield, face to face
when he received the revelation from the prophets from Allah subhana wa tada through Djibouti. So it's not going to be easy. My brothers and sisters, life is never going to be easy. There's always going to be a challenge.
But the challenge is that we are capable of dealing with that challenge. We just need to use the tools that Allah subhanho wa Taala gave us Allah says in the Quran, you can leave
in
cassava while a
burner to Earth even Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us clearly in the Quran, that we have the tools that we need. In order to get through our tasks in life. We just need to use the right tools.
You know, when you do an oil change, you all know I'm a mechanic by trade, right? When you do an oil change, right, you need to loosen that, that nut or that bolt, that's, that's, you know, screwed into the oil pan. You need to loosen it. But what if you take a hammer and you go and you take the hammer, you put it up to there and you try and you know,
twist the hammer around it is anything gonna happen, nothing. A hammer, you can break down an entire building with a hammer.
You can take it to the wall, it might take you a long time. But if everyone sitting here has a hammer, we can literally demolish all the walls.
But as long as you take that hammer, you just twist it against, you know that that nut that that's holding your oil pan, the oil from coming out, you will never take it off. So you need to use the right tools. Allah has equipped us with the right tools. Every single person has the right tools that they need in their life. It's a matter of using those tools in sha Allah hota Okay, in the next Heidi's a Norman even received
rhodiola and Houma said that his father carried him to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He said messenger of Allah, I asked you to witness that I have given a Norman such and such. So he gave a gift to his son and Norman right. He gave him a gift, and he takes him to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can be a witness and say, Yes, I've seen this gift being given to him, right? So he asked for the longer it He will send them the profit for the long run, he will send them asks, he says, Have you given each of your children the same? Have you given all of your children the exact same gift?
And so he replied, No. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then said, then asked someone else to witness it. Ask someone else to be your witness, because he didn't want to witness a man giving only one child a gift, and not all of the children. Then the prophet SAW longer either you or some of them said, Do you not want all of them to be equally dutiful towards you? Don't you want all of your children to like you and to be dutiful towards you? Or do you want on the one to be nice?
Then the men or then
Bashir? Right?
He said yes, indeed. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told him he said, then don't do that. Don't give only one child a gift. How many of you children receive a gift when your brothers and sisters don't get it?
How many of you do ever get a gift from your parents? And your brothers and sisters don't get a gift. Right?
Okay, you might notice that maybe, you know, one child wants a donut today. And the other one wants a donut tomorrow. That's different. Right? But you buy one child an iPad, and the other one you say no iPad for you. Right? Why? They're exactly the same age or the roughly around the same age. But this one? No, you don't you know, you deserve it. You don't deserve it. Why?
either give it to both, or don't give it to any,
give something equal. If you can't afford two iPads give something that you can afford. Give two tablets, Android tablets that might be cheaper, right? Buy something that you can afford, give all of the children something equal, right? Try to do that inshallah to Allah or I know children are of different age, right? So you might not be able to, I know a lot of parents will buy their child a car when they're ready to go to university. So your son or daughter might not be of the age yet. So you're not going to buy a 12 year old child, a car when you're buying one for the 20 year old who now needs to go downtown to university. So you tell that child when you're the same age will do the
same for you. But make sure that you follow through. Make sure that you follow through. That's what's important. In the next chapter, the next Heidi, the dutifulness of a father towards his child.
Even though the allama said
regarding the word abroad, abroad in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala has called them the dutiful, abroad who did a lot called the dutiful,
the dutiful
because they fulfilled their duties to their parents and their children as well. So Allah Subhana Allah has given a term to each and every one of us abroad, the dutiful, those who are dutiful, but you have to do something first. If you want that title, you can get it. It's available for every single one of us. It's being sold, not at Best Buy, right? It's sold if given from Allah subhanho wa Taala. If you want it you can get it
but you have to be as as, as even Ahmed is saying, he says you have to be
dutiful towards your parents, as well as fulfilling the rights of your children. Just as you have a duty, which you owe your parents, for you have a duty which you owe your child. Look at how the important imbalance
is placed in our Deen the importance of balance that we are dutiful towards our parents, but at the same time, we have to be dutiful, towards our children, meaning how do we become dutiful towards our children? That's a question I wrote down for you to answer. How or what are the duties of a parent? And more particularly a father, towards their children? What are those duties? We should all know? In front of us? I have a bunch of fathers, myself. I'm a father. What are the duties that we have towards our children? I want 10.
Okay, are you you're not even a father and he's saying money. So he's asking his father for money. Right? Right. What else?
Teach them the deen, good. He said money we have to provide for our children.
We have to make sure that we give them the best of what is needed for them. Not the best of what they want. The child says I want a car. You give them the car. I want an iPad, you give them an iPad, you want a MacBook Air, you give them the MacBook Air. I want the you know the new Samsung Galaxy s6 edge. You give them that as well. Everything that they want you give to them know what they need you give to them then or why she mentioned
teaching them teaching them the deen. That's important as fathers we must teach our children not only the children but the wife, the dean. It's compulsory for the men of the of the oma to go and to attend the Juma prayer every single week, whether we like it or not, we have to go for Juma. We don't have a choice. Unless you're traveling. Or you're extremely sick. Or your brain is not there meaning you know you might have what we call an Arabic Zola, apple, you know, you might be ill, or you might not be mentally there, or you're not mature yet. Right. Okay, those are the exceptions. But every single one of us as men, we have to go for July. But how many of us on Friday go home and
teach our spouse
how many of us on Friday or on Saturday and Sunday over the weekend, teach the children what we learned from the Juma football.
A very small percentage because many of the sisters come and complain to me about this. They say our husbands our you know our fathers, our you know, children, our sons, they go for Juma. They never come and teach us anything.
And then we noticed that conventions and conferences, sorry.
But it's not compulsory. That was the point that is not compulsory for them. They can come they can come and and we said that many times we've quoted the Hadeeth you know, dozens of times that they can come to the mustard and the mustard is free. And there's many sisters here right now. In fact, I asked my wife sometimes there's more sisters than there are brothers, right? But that's why we noticed that conventions and conferences, you have approximately on average from all the conferences I've attended around the world. Approximately 70% of the attendees are sisters. Why? Because their husbands or the men of the family don't come and give them the knowledge. So they have to go and
seek it themselves. And that's why we noticed even at financial fudger I asked myself sometimes when you go to the mustard and I see sisters driving to the mustard, lots of sisters here in Canada masala driving to the mustard for fudger and I'm wondering why are these sisters the comfort of their home they can simply you know comfortable get out of bed go make Rahul pray. You know for a guy within about 10 minutes you're done fudger and then you go back to sleep at their driving to the mustard for fudger. Why? Because they're not getting anything from the men of the house.
They don't feel that connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala they don't feel that the knowledge is coming from the masjid from the Habib from the you know from the house of Allah subhana wa tada going into their own house. And so they come themselves, they get up at flagella and they go to the mustard. When the brothers don't make it to the mustard the sisters are there. When the brothers don't make it to the conferences, the sisters are there when the brothers don't make it for Juma and I know in some countries that I've traveled to
Subhana Allah, the Muslims, they hold the opinion that you have to you have to attend only one Juma out of every three because of the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and we all know that had if you miss one joma there's a problem you miss to be careful you miss three, you're out, right strike three You're out. And so in many countries are not many, but in a few countries that I've traveled
To some handler, they hold that opinion that if you miss Juma, it's okay. Just don't miss three in a row or just don't Yeah, just don't miss three drummers in a row. Imagine that.
Now, if we're missing Juma so regularly, where where is the average person learning? Where is the average Muslim getting or grasping a portion of the deen to take it to their house?
If we're missing that much so it's important for us as as men and as husbands to fulfill the the the rights of our children. Now we only mentioned two. Let's see if we can get to five first. Okay. What other duties do parents have do fathers have upon their children?
Sorry.
Providing halal food good. Alhamdulillah three.
But how is that being dutiful towards your children?
Okay, teaching your children good. That's exactly it teaching your children to help others. So teaching your children good morals and good
Islamic education so giving them education. We mentioned that though. Okay, so think of another one. What else that's only for
choosing a righteous mother. That's exactly good. We I think we spoke about this, you know, last month, choosing a pious mother,
a wife who's going to raise your children before you even have children before you're even married. You're choosing a wife, a spouse, who's going to be a great mother for your children. That is a rights that your children have upon you as a husband. Sorry as a father before your children are even born before you even know who their mother is going to be. That is a right that our future children have upon us very good that's fine.
Shelter providing shelter six
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Good name seven Alhamdulillah.
Providing
love exactly we just mentioned it showing affection and love. Yes.
At the good showing good luck, good morals, teaching that to our children. Great. That's eight or nine one more inshallah. Yes.
Provide clothing, good. clothing, shelter, food, education. All of that is important in sha Allah jihad. All right, all of that is the responsibility of the Father and this is why I lost my sandwich eyelashes in the Koran alija Luca Muna hyden Nisha
edema from the love of Allah, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala system of what and in many people misquote this, they take the verse of the Quran, where Allah Subhana, Allah says, original comun. And they think that we all men are better and stronger than women, right? Women just put them down, right men are better, who cares about women, and so they miss quoted that way. But a loss of handling data is actually saying that men have more of a responsibility, more duty inside of the household, they have to fulfill a lot more towards the family than the women than the wife does. Because the man has to look after the wife as well. The man has to take care of the wife, the man
has to look after he has to educate her, just like he does for the children as well. And so the responsibility that the man has is so much greater. And that's what Allah subhana wa tada means, not that women are nothing, just put them down no last minute to have that thing that the responsibility of men is so important. And it's higher and above the responsibility that the women have.
In the next chapter, chapter 53, one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy
of busara you rhodiola and said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said someone who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy. Now, of course, we mentioned this in the previous Hadith, the previous narration in the next Hadeeth as well, jetty and even Abdullah wrote the law and said the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a law will not show mercy to someone who does not show mercy to people. So if you do not show mercy to other people alone will not show mercy to you. In the next Hadeeth very similar, just the the the chain of narration is different in the next idea, so it'll be a lot more unhatched says,
some bedwin steam to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one of them said messenger of Allah, do you kiss children? By Allah we do not kiss them, right? So this is what the Bedouin is saying to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the exaction very, very similar Hadith. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Can I put mercy in the hearts after a law? The after Allah the mighty and exalted has removed it. Okay, so very similar.
Now look at this. It's really interesting how you know, our youth pointed it out.
Because one of the rights of a child is that the father as well as the mother, show emotion and affection towards those children. That is their right. That is the right to have a child. And so Pamela, one of our children, one of our youth, pointed that out to us. So it's important when our children can recognize it, it means that it's actually an important aspect of their life, that they want to feel loved. They want to feel and we all know that we were all children. We were all children at one point in time. And I know many of us, you know, had very tough upbringing, especially people who were raised in different countries, you know, very strict. You don't do this,
you don't do that the done that comes out, right. For those that know in order to do that, like the stick, right? It comes out. So Subhanallah, you were forced to do many things. And sometimes you wish your parents would just be a little bit more soft with you, and you would have done it. Right. But that's, that's all part of the learning aspect. When we now learn it when we now know about it, and we learned of the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then we implement it in our lives in Shama, a birth man
Hadees, number 99 of Horace Mann said that I'm a proud Yamaha
decided to assign a men some public duties. The men said to her, I'm a male kebab. I have such and such number of children. So he tells me I have no football, I have, you know, a certain amount of children. And I have never kissed any of them. So I haven't shown that affection to those children. So I'm gonna admit a hubbub. He said, Allah subhanho wa Taala, will only show mercy to the dutiful among his slaves, he will only show mercy to those who are dutiful among their slaves. So it is actually a duty of rights that the children have. It's a duty upon the parents to show this to the children as we just finished discussing. And if you look at the commentary, a person who's dealing
with with the public should have compassion. A person who's dealing with the public should have compassion. And today after our Juma football, there were these three sisters part of the youth program at the mustard. You know, they wanted to interview me. And they were asking me some questions. And they were saying, you know, what are some of the characteristics of a good Imam? What should a good Imam possess, and he said, a good Imam should understand the people by being compassionate towards them, by understanding what the people are going through. Understanding that, for example, when you have 30 minutes to do a Juma football, don't take 55 because the people have
to go back to work. You as the mmm This is your job, you're done your job you did, did you know you deliver the football and hamdulillah you're done. But understand the people understand their pressures. Understand that if they don't make it back to work, they could lose their job. They might, you know, lose some of their salary, they might get into trouble with their with their the boss of their company, understand the people and what they're going through, understand the children and the pressures of society that they face outside, understand the drugs, understand the alcohol understand the free mixing of you know, genders, men and women understand that. And that's important
for for leaders, our leaders to understand what the people are going through.
And that's why some handler you'll notice,
it's a challenge in many, many cities across Canada, and many countries around the world. When our imams don't have, you know, they never got the opportunity. Because, you know, they studied Islam their whole life, but they never worked or they never got to understand and shift with the people and try and figure out their struggles in life.
What are you struggling with? What are you going through? What difficulties are you facing? And that's important for us to, to try and grab hold of inshallah, as leaders will suffice with that for today in sha Allah, just to quickly, you know, give you more information with regards to what happened. I'm an admin of how Bob he actually withheld his offer to be withheld his offer to this to this man when he heard that he was not someone who shows compassion, he did not give him that position.
He refused to give him that position. So that goes to show us how even armor will be alohar and he held on to the values of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to the extent that someone who was not compassionate, you would you are not fit to be a leader. And that goes to show us leaders need courage, but they also need to be understanding they need to have a soft side also. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for us to
Understand the lessons that we get from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as well as is. So how about all the Allahu anhu? We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us from amongst those that are righteous upon the deen and we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to protect each and every one of us, especially our children in this society and whatever society they are raised in, across the globe are some of most of them are about a cat and a Vietnam hamadryad early us off