Daood Butt – Al Adab Al Mufrad – EP09

Daood Butt

Weekly Halaqa – Episode 09 (24th April 2015).

Adab al Mufrad is a hadith book compiled by Imam Muhammad ibn Ismail al Bukhari. It contains 1,322 ahadith.
The book is about the manners of Prophet Muhammad SAWS.

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The importance of kinship and family ties is discussed, emphasizing the need for people to avoid being cut off from relationships and avoid negative behavior towards people. The speakers emphasize the importance of maintaining connections with family members who are loyal to their relatives and emphasize the need for people to avoid being cut off from relationships. They also discuss the negative impact of parenting children with tablets and the importance of remaining healthy relationships. The segment concludes with a recommendation to use the arrow to split up the], [In this segment, the speaker discusses the importance of maintaining healthy relationships and staying true to family members' values. They also mention the difficulty of sharing responsibility for children with tablets and the need for standards. The segment ends with a recommendation to use the arrow to split up the], [In this segment, the speaker discusses the importance of maintaining healthy relationships and staying true to family members' values. They also mention the potential for parenting children with tablets and the importance of staying true to family members'

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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa
		
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			ala via even more Salli abuna wa habibollah Mohammed Denali Salatu. Wa, asleep now that my brothers
and sisters in Islam said Mia Kumara to ye or butter cattle.
		
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			Were sitting here learning another good month read the book of etiquettes and morals and values. And
we say sell them and we should expect to hear the response of the SAM. So set Mr. Lee.
		
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			I know some of you use the excuse all the time. But will you'll have a microphone? We don't. So you
hear us? We hear you. But you don't hear us. But there's like 100 of you and only one of me so.
		
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			Right. All right. I want to pick on a few people in Sharla. Now Had this been last night? I would, I
would say no candy tonight. Last night, you know, I was really really not feeling well. My stomach
was twisting turning and knots and some have a built in what they did was they you know, they had
like a potluck. So some of the people they wanted to show the others you know, we brought food Can
you please bring food next week as well to try and encourage the other so they put the food on the
table. And I'm sitting there thinking, get this food away. Take it away, put it away. So they put it
aside, at the end of the Haleakala came and brought on the table. I said, Okay, then I need to go
		
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			home. So I didn't want to smell food or anything of that sort. But tonight hamdulillah the candies
are here. And we will shall give them out. But I won't consume any. All right. So I want to pick on
a few people. I want to pick on people that were here last week. So who was here last week, raise
your hand and keep your hand up
		
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			from from the children as well as the parents, the adults. Good. So whoever was here last week, keep
your hand up. Keep your hands up. Whoever was here last week announced stand up.
		
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			jello back in school, right? The parents as well.
		
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			Right.
		
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			Now, I know some of you were here last week and you're not standing up. Right? So because you're
standing doesn't mean you're gonna get picked on we're gonna pick on those that were not here last
week. Right?
		
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			Some of you here last week.
		
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			Free last week. Why?
		
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			May Allah subhanaw taala guiding you here last week? Allah subhana wa sallam make it easy for you
next week. You weren't here last week because you didn't know about it. Right? But Mashallah, you
see this brother? He asked me today after john says you have any halachot today? I said yes. After
Madrid, and I see him coming in Mashallah.
		
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			I know all of you that were here, Mashallah, that's good. Those that are standing. That's great.
What did you learn last week of summer.
		
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			Parents
		
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			maintain ties and relationship with your parents friends. So the people that they befriended the
people that they looked after, and were nice and kind and gentle towards not only those people but
their children, as we saw the example of even armor with regards to the example of his father or
mother, or father of the alarm, what did you learn last week?
		
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			So even if your relative is not listen, you still have to respect them. Let me ask you, what you
learned.
		
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			I learned that
		
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			the ties of kinship,
		
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			kinship with all the relatives and family. And you also told us like if any of your family members
need money?
		
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			Okay, so keep the ties of kinship. And if any of your family members need money, then give it to
them. We were talking about Zika. Right. And a lot of people left confused. They were like, Wait a
second, you said Zika shouldn't go to our family members, we should give the cat to other people.
How come? Right. A lot of people were confused when they left especially after the holiday. After
Asia. A lot of people came in and asked me to sit we don't understand why is it as a cat is only
given to those that are not family, simply because your obligation and maintaining those family ties
in relationship is so important that they shouldn't be deserving of Zika that you should be looking
		
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			after them throughout the entire year that they don't deserve that. They're not from amongst those
that are actually eligible to collect Zika unless there's extreme circumstances, right, unless
there's extreme circumstances. So this is for you. You want a chocolate instead?
		
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			Yeah. All right. I want everyone else to sit down with me and ask you a question. Yeah, but you
could sit down as well. I don't want you to be the only one standing in the mustard. I
		
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			want you to
		
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			wasn't going to ask
		
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			I had something in mind to ask and I forgot about it
		
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			right you got out of it this time and that gives you a candy anyways right?
		
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			Okay, share with me what you learned for a chocolate instead?
		
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			Right? Very good, very good reminder Mashallah. So the brother reminds us of the creation of kinship
when I was a pilot, Allah created Orion. And we'll see today where this word that it comes from.
Allah subhanho wa Taala created kinship and when he created it, and finished the creation, it spoke.
It spoke to Allah subhanho wa Taala and told Allah we don't want to cut or kinship itself doesn't
want to cut itself off from having a relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala what was the response
of Allah subhanho wa Taala who can tell us?
		
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			Who can tell us what was the response? Someone that was here last week?
		
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			You can Latina Latina, Houma LA. No. So in this particular Hadith, Allah subhanho wa Taala responded
by saying something in particular, do you know what it is? What did he say when kinship said I don't
want to be cut off from you. So it must have said something to kinship? Yes.
		
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			Exactly. So Allah subhanho wa Taala told kin told Ryan, I will be connected to he who is connected
to you. And I will cut myself off my ties off with the person who cuts themselves off from you.
Meaning a person who cuts themselves off from their relatives a lot cuts himself off from them.
		
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			And a person who maintains their relationship with their relatives alone maintains his relationship
with a very beautiful, very powerful mushroom. I don't know if I could throw that far. But I'll try.
		
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			Almost a Sharma. Okay.
		
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			So we'll continue in sha Allah to Allah with our Hannukah.
		
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			Today we continue with chapter 27.
		
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			Chapter 27 on page number 50, age 50 chapter 27 and it is Hadith number 52 Hadith number 52. So we
begin with a hadith narrated by Abu huraira of the abattoir. Okay, so this is an authentic hadith.
He says, A man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said O Messenger of Allah, I have
relatives with whom I maintain connections, while they cut me off. So this person has relatives, and
he is good and kind to his relatives. But his relatives don't want to have this relationship with
him. They're not nice to him. They tried to cut him off, and push him away. And this is very
important, because we probably know at least one person, whether it happens to us or it's happening
		
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			to someone within our family and relatives, who the people in the family push them away and
disregard them or don't talk to them or you're the outcast, you've done this You've betrayed us
you've, you know, you committed a sin that we can't accept because the community would not accept it
not because Allah is accepting of it, meaning Allah would forgive you. But because of the community
I Eve writes, as we say in Arabic, that the people if they found out this is a disgrace to us, so we
don't want to have anything to do with you. So the man he says, I have relatives with whom I
maintain my connections with them, while they cut me off. I am good to them. While they are bad to
		
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			me.
		
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			They behave towards me, like fools while I am forbearing towards them. So this person puts up with
the harshness that comes to them. Even though he is still good to his relatives, he still puts up
with it. So he says to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he statements, the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam responds and says, If things are as if you have said, meaning if that's really
true, and that's how they're behaving with you, even though you're behaving nicely with them, the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it is as if you were putting the hot ashes
		
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			on them
		
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			What does that mean?
		
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			What does it mean?
		
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			He says it says if you're putting the hot ashes on them, and you will not like a supporter, so the
profits on a lot more I do send them the same, your goodness towards them is good, it's tired. And
you will see what his reward for that is. They're evil, they're bad, they're sort of behavior
towards you being negative. Because it's that way. It's as though you're putting ashes on the
meaning you're not purposely doing this. But they're doing it to themselves. They're treating you
this way, because that's how they want to treat you. And they are making you put these ashes on
them, that even though you are nice to them, the ashes obviously is referring to evil sin jahannam,
		
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			possibly, right, because we covered these IDs. So he says, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
continues and says, It's as though you're putting hot ashes on them, and you will not lack of
support or against them from a law as long as you continue to do that. This goes to show us two
things. He himself receives someone who's a supporter who is his supporter, you know, we all have
someone who we go to when we're in need. When we're in a time of difficulty. When we're in a time
where we feel we're stuck. We don't know what to do. So we'll go to an advisor, we'll go to our
spouse, maybe we'll go to maybe a child who's going to advise us, like some of the prophets showed
		
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			us in their examples, we'll go to someone who can tell us what's best to do in that situation.
		
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			Here, this person, their supporter, their advisor becomes a loss of habitat.
		
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			Allah will be that person supporter.
		
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			Allah will defend them when the family says no this person did this, this person did that Allah
subhana wa tada will stop them and defend this person, you will be supported by a muscle kind of
with data, and they will be supported by what? The hot ashes the hot ashes, right? We continue in
the next heavy, man even now.
		
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			It'll be a long time. He said, The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Allah, the
mighty and exalted, said so Allah subhanho wa Taala said this, I am the merciful, man. So we know
when we read the Quran.
		
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			Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen.
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala is the merciful and he says, I am the Merciful of woman, I have created ties
of kinship, as we spoke last week, and derived a name for it from my name. So this name is derived
from the name of a Muslim Han with an unknown us known as.
		
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			So when we fulfill the ties of kinship, we are actually giving an essence of the, of the supremacy
of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In our life and our dealings and actions and interactions with our
family members. We are dealing with them using that I am using kindness using mercy using a source
that is divine. One that comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And for those that were not here last
week, you're probably wondering, wait a second, we didn't hear about this that are hidden, please
explain it to us. You know, when Allah subhanho wa Taala created everything that we see, and we
don't see from amongst the things that we don't see is if I take this candy, and I throw it at his
		
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			head,
		
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			knocks him in the head. He's like, ouch, he feels pain. Do you see pain? Sometimes you might see
expressions of pain. We might Express pain, like for example, when my stomach was hurting, I would
feel you know, when it goes into a knot. You just notice maybe that my face might change. Because
there's a knot in there. It hurts. The pain is intensifying. Right? But you don't normally see pain.
Someone comes to you and says, Well, you know, I need a chair to sit down and pray on you look at
them and you say, oh, why do you need a chair? You look perfectly fine. It might not even be an
uncle. It might be someone who's younger than us. Right? And you thinking well, how does this person
		
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			need a chair he looks perfectly fine, but inside he feels pain. And that pain was created by Allah
subhanho wa Taala the sadness that we feel when someone passes away for example, when someone from
our family is hurt when
		
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			We lose something that we care so dearly about, we feel sad inside that sadness is a creation of a
loss of habitat. And so is
		
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			the ties of kinship is also a creation of a loss of Hannah what at these aspects of the creation of
a law will speak to a law on the day of judgment and testify either for us or against us. So, I am
will speak How did I maintain my relationship with my family, it will speak to Allah subhanho wa
Taala dodos like this, he did that he did this he did that he went here, here and so on.
		
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			pain will communicate Yeah, along, this person wanted and desired and wish to make sujood wish to be
able to put his or her forehead on the ground to prostrate to you, but couldn't couldn't.
		
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			So much pain was in his or her body.
		
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			They hurt their back in the delivery of this child, maybe. And we know this is a reality. Some of
our mothers, they put up with pain, and we are so harsh towards our mothers, but so panela, they
might have undergone extreme pain during the labor process when they were pushing us out, to the
extent that for the rest of their lives, when we're nice to them, or when we're upset and angry with
them and treat them harshly, they still feel the pain in the back of the day that they brought you
into this world.
		
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			And that's why doctors tried to sue things. And then you notice you have the epidural, which only in
some cases creates an even bigger problem,
		
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			that the mother sometimes becomes paralyzed. The mother sometimes puts up with back pain, and you
know, leg pain for the rest of her life. And we treat them harshly thinking Who are you I've done
enough for you. If we don't know that every single moment of their life from the time that we
entered this world, they're in pain for us, because they brought us out.
		
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			And they pushed us out. And it wasn't easy. And their bones shifted.
		
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			And their muscles moved, and their hips widened. And their bodies changed. And everything around
them completely was different.
		
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			It wasn't like when they were 18 or 19, or when they were 16 or 15. Right. But yet we don't
recognize that. And so here
		
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			we see that Allah subhanho wa Taala created and it will speak and testify. feelings will testify.
Happiness will testify What made you happy?
		
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			What made you happy? Some things might say yeah, a lot. This person was happy going to The Club. He
was happy. When he went out with his friends and drank alcohol. He or he was happy or she was happy
when she came to the masjid. He was happy when he saw his Muslim brother. She was happy when she
recited the Quran in the middle of the night when no one else was awake. No one in her house, no one
on her Street. No one in her neighborhood was awake, but she was happy reciting
		
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			and making your heart to you. And so these elements and components of our own selves will testify to
a loss of Hannah who attack.
		
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			And it's really scary. Because sometimes we only think our limbs will testify.
		
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			But every single part of the creation can testify either for us or against us. So Allah subhanho wa
Taala says, I'm the merciful man, I have created ties of kinship, and derived a name for it from my
name. Whoever maintains ties of kinship, I maintain ties with him, and I show cut off from me,
whoever cuts them off. So again, a loss of habitat in this example, is an authentic chain authentic
narration showing us how a wall will maintain the ties of relationship with those who maintain their
ties of relationship. So if we want to be connected to a lot, we simply have to connect with our
family, with our relatives, be nice to them, be kind to them, etc.
		
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			Again, in this chapter,
		
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			we'll ambus he says I visited Abdullah bin Imam at a world which was a place obviously you see here
in the next slide. This is the landing or the property the area and bife where he where he was, and
he said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam pointed his finger towards us and said the route or
he said about him right but we
		
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			In order to understand elaborate a little more the root and word of writing, so the source of
writing the roots of it is,
		
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			or the kin is derived from the word,
		
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			the Merciful. Therefore, when we deal with our relatives, to maintain family ties to maintain the
Rahim means, we have to be merciful. Because it it, it in itself means mercy. It means to be kind,
it means to be gentle, it means to be nice to one another. And so maintaining Family Ties doesn't
mean cut them off, be harsh to them, disagree with them, except in the example that we took last
week. For those of you that weren't here, those sitting around you will teach you.
		
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			So the root of Rahim is derived from the word that our man, whoever maintains the connection of ties
of kinship alone will maintain ties with him, whoever cuts them off, Allah will cut him off, the kin
will have a free and eloquent tongue on the day of rising again, proof of how the kin itself will
speak, or him will speak it will have as we see here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells
us it will have a free and eloquent tongue, it will be able to testify.
		
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			It will speak.
		
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			And we should all go home tonight to lay down in bed and wonder
		
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			what will say about me on the day of judgment?
		
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			What will this kinship? What will the relationship, not my relatives know what my relatives will say
about me? What will the relationship between me and my relatives say about how I was to the
relative?
		
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			And we should spend five minutes at least laying in bed? For those that are married, discuss it with
your children, discuss it with your spouse? How do we relate with our relatives?
		
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			Do I treat my in laws correctly? And this is a very, very good, you know, topic to discuss in laws?
Do I encourage the relationship of my spouse to be maintained with her family or his family? Or do I
cut it off? Right. So we have to be careful with that, to be very careful. And between brothers and
sisters, a very good point that I was discussing about last night. And this is for the parents.
		
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			You know, we did the tuxedo suit of use of and we spoke about the love that use of Allah has senem
had from his father that his brothers recognized and they were jealous of it. How many of you
remember that? Raise your hand if you remember. We remember the beginning of the surah especially
when the brothers were telling us if it is set up? How can use of Be Loved more than us when we are
a risk. But we're a clan. There's so many of us, right? So let me ask Who here is the baby of the
family?
		
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			Raise your hands Hi.
		
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			Right. And who is not the baby of the family?
		
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			When I say the baby of the family I mean the youngest child. Are you the youngest child in your
family? You are okay. Who is not the youngest? You have older brothers or sisters? Do you feel
sometimes that your parents love your younger brother and sister more?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			I feel free to
		
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			do you are you do you have a younger brother or sister? Do you sometimes feel your parents love them
more?
		
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			No.
		
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			Do you have a younger brother or sister? No, you're the baby of the family. You have older brothers
and sisters.
		
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			So you deserve to
		
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			know we're not going to give two we're going to give one because we're going to be fair. That's the
point. Right? That was my point. Here's the baby of the family. You're the baby of the family of
older brothers and sisters know only child Masha Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless you. Now
loss of habitat I grant you the ability to memorize the entire last handleless Allah give you
another brother or sister if you want to wonder if your parents can have one. If they can't, then
Alhamdulillah you will live the legacy of your parents in Charlottetown, which is none other than
the legacy of the Prophet.
		
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			You're the baby of the family. Here. You get this one though, because babies don't get more than
one.
		
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			There's a baby. Do you sometimes feel like your parents Treat You Better than your brothers and
sisters?
		
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			You do. That's the first baby of the family that's ever admitted it
		
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			He admitted, right? I sound like
		
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			you're the baby. You are you have older brothers and sisters? Do you sometimes feel that they get
more things than you?
		
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			Not really, you get more right?
		
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			Like when your brothers get punished, your sisters get punished. You don't get punished. Right?
Yeah.
		
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			We're proving something to the parents.
		
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			You're the oldest you have younger brothers and sisters.
		
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			Okay, oldest child, oldest child, the parents are always very harsh with the oldest child, right?
You always get in trouble, right?
		
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			No.
		
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			You don't get in trouble.
		
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			Not really are your father is that your father sitting on you?
		
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			He's like, gonna come kick you right?
		
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			Do you sometimes feel that your brothers and sisters are treated differently than you? Or the same?
		
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			Generally, the same Mashallah here, we will give you What's your favorite truth, if you want an
arrow, a kid, cat Smarties or coffee, Chris?
		
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			arrow, I was gonna give you the arrow, but I thought you might not like the arrow.
		
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			What I'm trying to point out here is that even if we as parents feel, and it's normal and natural to
feel that you love one child more than the other, and it might not be the baby of the family. For
some, it's not the baby of the family. For some you love the older child, because that was your
first child. That was where most of the struggle was was you know, devoted. For some it might be a
middle child, because the middle child is not the one that always gets in trouble. Like me, I'm the
middle child. So the older brother is always getting a child, the younger one is always being
spoiled. The older one is always fighting with the younger one, and almost like, Hey, I'm staying
		
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			out of it, right? That's the way it always was for me, middle child, just stay out of it. But the
older one fight with the younger one and don't get involved. Right. And so you'll notice that as
parents, we sometimes feel that one child is more beloved to us than another.
		
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			That's okay.
		
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			Just never ever express that. Never, ever show it to your children. Never tell it to your children
don't even tell it to that child. That's your favorites. Because what happens from there is you as a
parent, if you constantly show that you love one child more than the other, you will contribute as a
parent, to splitting up the relationship between your own children, your children's start to hate
one another, they start to feel
		
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			mom and dad like him more than they like me.
		
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			And then when they get older, you always got everything you wanted. We never got anything. You
always got, you know the best clothes, you always got the best school bag, you always got a new
tablet when it was your birthday or something whatever a famous day, because I know Muslims today,
some of them celebrate birthdays, even though I don't try. We noticed that people are constantly
doing something for the favorite child needs
		
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			more than they do for the other. And the children recognize that, as was the example of use of
adding his senem and Binyamin and their brothers, the brothers they felt it. They felt that their
father, Yakov, Allah, his son and loved us have more. And so because of that, there was hatred
between the brothers. And so as parents, my advice is don't express your love for one child more
than the other. And we see it in the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
		
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			He once was approached by one of the companions of the Aloha home and he had expressed how he gave
one child a gift, he gave him something. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam asked, Did
you give that to your other child as well? And he said, No. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam told him either give the same to all of your children, or don't give anything to them.
		
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			either give the same to all of them, or don't give them anything. Now I know today, we say well,
wait a second. There's one that's in college and one that's in kindergarten, the one that's in
college needs a laptop, the one that's in kindergarten, why would I buy them a laptop? Give that
five year old? The standards of what you gave the 18 year old
		
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			when he's five, right? So if he's five and the other one when he was five, what did he gets? You
worked extremely hard to get things obviously time changes in 18 years. 18 years ago, you wouldn't
see a tablet, right? So you're not going to give that to your child. But today you'll notice the
parents are buying tablets for their five year old children.
		
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			Great. How many of you have tablets? a tablet or a phone? Yeah, you guys have tablets?
		
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			If you have a tablet holder you
		
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			It's yours.
		
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			Versus the families.
		
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			It's everyone's you have your own.
		
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			You.
		
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			You share. Okay, you have, he puts his hand up, you have your own tablet? Are you the only child?
Does anyone here have their own tablet? You have your own tablet?
		
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			How old? Are you? Seven? Do you have Wi Fi internet on it? Does your father put security measures on
it?
		
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			Sort of Yeah. Because you don't know. That's why a hamdulillah your father did? Yes.
		
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			That's good. That's great. You see, times have changed. I'm not saying it's bad to have a tablet at
seven. Don't get me wrong. What I'm saying is provide the same standards. It's going to be a little
bit difficult. But no one said having children was going to be easy. From the moment the wife said
to the husband, I need to speak to you tonight. And then she prepared a nice dinner and had dessert
and you know it started with salad. And then there was a you know the the entrees and the salads and
then the the main course and like, wow, five course meal happening at home today what's going on?
And she says I'm pregnant. Right? From that moment on? What happened in the mind of the Father.
		
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			Right?
		
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			First for some.
		
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			And that's normal, it's natural, you start to feel how am I going to do this? Am I making enough?
can I provide enough? Right? Am I going to be a good father? Is it the right time for me? Am I
ready? And then others will think I'm handed in that I might not be ready. But a law will provide a
law will give give Allah will make it easy. So we connect the ties of kinship as parents helping our
youth, our children to maintain their family ties, because when we pass away, we don't want to see
what happened.
		
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			We don't want to see what happened two hours after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam. What happened? Who can tell us?
		
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			From the parents? Yes.
		
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			Right? arguments and what happened? How many? How many of you here from Pakistan? Raise your hand.
What's the number one Mashallah, like 99.4% of you? So what happens after one of the parents or a
grandparent passes away? What is the number one thing that happens hours after their janazah?
		
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			dispute? inheritance? It's 99.4%. That issue right? After the parent or grandparent passes away? How
are we going to split this inheritance? And usually it's about land? property, right? How are we
going to split this? We have a house this house was given to five children? How do we split the
house or you get a room you get a room you get a room This one says I want a room? I want the cost
of it? Oh, now what do we do? That's a problem. And so if we want our children to maintain
relationships, after we pass away, what we should be striving for is not to instill hatred in them
in our own behaviors, parents. All right. So if there's any youth sitting here today, and they
		
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			notice, you might be the baby of the family. And you notice your parents are constantly doing things
for you that they don't do for your brothers and sisters. Tell your mom and dad say, You know what?
I'm gonna give this to my older brother, or I'm gonna give this to my sister. And when they ask you
why say because I love them.
		
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			They're my older brother. They're my older sister. They take care of me, and they will take care of
me after you pass away. All right. And each and every one of us is in the same boat. When I say
this, I don't say it to the children alone. I say it's all of us, myself included.
		
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			We are all children, to our parents. And we all might have brothers and sisters unless we don't. And
so it's very, very important that we maintain those relationships, whether we are 10 1215 1820 to 24
or 40 450-465-7585. We have to maintain those relationships. And if we're 85 and our relatives have
all passed away, and we are a single child and there's no uncles no Auntie's no one left. How do we
maintain relationship? You should all know this one because we covered it. Yes.
		
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			find any of your parents friends that they were good to that they were
		
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			We're friends with and be nice to them, be nice to their children, be nice to their grandchildren.
Be nice to your parents, friends, neighbors, someone who is connected to your parents, because we
saw it in the story of use of it. He said no better speak what you want to say.
		
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			Even if the person is mean, you should still be nice to them exactly.
		
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			Right, even if the person is mean, you should still be nice to them. So we see here many, many
examples of maintaining ties and the importance of maintaining relationship with our family and
friends and relatives.
		
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			And we know very well that it will speak on the day of judgment and testify either for us or against
us What time is a Saturday
		
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			night? Okay, inshallah, we'll take one more heavy, finish the chapter in Shama.
		
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			Hadees, number 55. All the above.
		
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			She said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the word
		
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			kin is derived from a lot of man, merciful. Whoever maintains the cut ties of kinship alone will
maintain ties with him. Whoever cuts them off about cuts him off. So these narrations show loftiness
you can read that in
		
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			the next chapter that we will cover. We'll start it. You want to start it? I think we should start
it. Yeah, we'll start at Sharla we'll do the next chapter. It's only one to Heidi's chapter 28
maintaining ties of kinship will prolong life. This is very important, especially if we are over 60
years old. Right? No, it's important for each and every one of us because we don't know. During this
week, we prayed a janazah of a sister who was 39 years old.
		
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			The mother of two daughters. She's 39 years old, she passed away. We pray their agendas. So we can
leave this world at any point in time. We don't know when. So we see here under sigmatic or the
Obama he said the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam said whoever wishes to have his provision
expanded. You want to have more of the blessings and bounties that Allah gave you what has a lot
given you that you love and enjoy from this world.
		
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			Like what
		
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			your body Mashallah you
		
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			your computer? sound like you look like that sort of tech savvy guy.
		
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			Okay, what else? What else am I giving you that you love?
		
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			Like what?
		
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			lice Mashallah, what is Allah giving you that you love?
		
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			Your ps4? I think your father is gonna say give you too much candy. Right So do you have older
brothers and sisters? Yes, so we're going to do with this what I told you to do, right? Give it to
them and say I love them and that's why right? Yes, games. Okay, what else? Sorry, what about you?
Your parents who love your parents Mashallah, yes Mashallah.
		
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			Islam hamdulillah you know this brother Mashallah when it's time for him to get married, I want to
be the first one to know
		
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			he's very sincere Mashallah.
		
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			Allah and my family are your family
		
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			all of our families Mashallah here you go? Yes.
		
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			Food masala I love food too. I'm craving some food I haven't eaten in two days. I lost 3.8 pounds
from yesterday afternoon till today. Right 3.881 slice of toast yesterday and I had one slice of
toast today and a half a cup of oatmeal. So I lost a lot of weight. I'm craving some food. Yes. What
do you love?
		
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			You you you Yes. Yeah.
		
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			The core and why do you love the Quran?
		
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			talks about Islamic history. Good. What else? I want some of the parents as well. Yes. home. You
love home.
		
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			Happy that. May Allah subhana wa Tada. Bless you. You know, I need to speak to you after
		
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			if you have another home that I can rent let me know.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Train
		
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			tree tree you love trees. Why do you love trees?
		
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			Okay, lots of leads. They're beautiful. They give us oxygen. They look nice. We can climb them. We
can play on them. They give us fruit right? These are all good things. Mashallah. I want some of the
parents as well. Some of the adults Yes.
		
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			Yeah on the end and then we'll work our way over. Peace you love peace Masha Allah May Allah Subhana
Allah give us more yes health Your son will you have diabetes right? Who's it you someone was
sitting there with us a few weeks ago the parent the child was saying well my father can't have
sugar because a new masala
		
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			because I wasn't going to give you the candy is it
		
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			anyone else
		
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			Aachen Mashallah the brain there's a reason why I'm asking you all of these questions all right yes
		
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			yes it behind you You already said something so we'll go behind you yes
		
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			your parents what about you? Yeah
		
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			your
		
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			your house Mashallah you love your house? Is it a nice house? May Allah give you many more houses?
May Allah subhanaw taala give you your own house when you get older and maybe give you a castle in
Geneva inshallah Tada, that's for you. And this is for you. This is for you.
		
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			Oh one hander. Mashallah. Okay, wait, you'll get some later. Let's finish the Howdy.
		
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			We didn't even go through half of the Hadith yet. Why did we ask this question? We asked the
question because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
		
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			whoever wishes for the provisions to be expanded, you want more of the things that you love in this
life. You love your house, you love your house you love you're at your computer, you love the
quarter and you love the trees you love, you know your video games and so on and so forth. You love
all of these things. Do you want more of them? You want to have more right? If I give you one candy
and you say oh is orange flavor, do you have strawberry as a yes, I have more? You want more? I give
you more right? Mashallah. But at the same time, Allah subhana wa tada or sort of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is showing us an example here, how we can get to more? How do we get
		
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			more very simple. He says, If you wish to have your provisions expanded, and you wish to have a long
life, the term of your life to be prolonged,
		
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			then you should maintain ties of kinship.
		
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			You should be nice to your family. When you're nice to your father, does he buy you the things that
you like? Yeah, when you're nice to your I'm not gonna ask him because he's already saying no, when
you're nice to your mother, this she returned the kindness to you. Is she nice back to you? Yes.
Mashallah. When you're nice to your brothers, right? Are they nice towards you, of course.
		
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			And when you're nice to them, a lot is pleased and he expands your life. He grants you more time. He
gives you more health. He gives you more wealth. He gives you from the provisions from the things
that you wish and you love and you desire that you sometimes work extremely hard for, you go to work
at five o'clock in the morning, you come back from work at nine o'clock at night, you're working two
jobs because you need to pay off the house, because you want a nice place for your children to
sleep.
		
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			But you can get that a lot easier. You might not have to work so hard. You might notice that you are
nice and kind to someone who might be a relative or might be a friend of your parents might be
someone who your parents used to like and go and visit every age, for example. And when they pass
away, they leave for you in their will $100,000 when they pass away, they leave for you in their
will their house. When they pass away, they leave for you or they don't even pass away. They simply
see you one day and they come in they give you this huge abundance of wealth. They say your parents
were so kind to us. We wish to return the favor but they have left. So we'll return the favor to
		
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			you. And out of nowhere, when you least expect it. And we quote this idea all the time. It's one of
my favorite I have to
		
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			win my tequila.
		
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			Raja warriors zuku mean hate to lie
		
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			that Allah will give us when we have Taqwa in him. He will provide for us and the second part
		
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			provisions from places that we can't even comprehend. We don't know where it came from. Where did
this come from? I don't know. Where did this person come from out of nowhere when you least expected
someone to come to the rescue. You're in a time where you're financially stuck.
		
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			Someone calls you up or you open your bank account and you notice in their own tax season $5,000
return came back to me $10,000 2000
		
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			dollars. However, the amount
		
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			you got it, it's yours. You didn't expect it. You were worried you were biting your nails thinking
I'm gonna have to pay for sure I have to pay more taxes, the accountant must have done a bad job,
something's wrong, something doesn't make sense. Maybe my employer was not paying into my
unemployment or not paying into my pension plan.
		
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			I'm going to have to pay and you realize they're paying you. Because throughout the year, you were
conscious of a loss of power.
		
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			You remember to him, you begin praying, you're smiling regularly. You started to wake up for fudger.
Once you were capable of waking up, you started to make your way to the messages. You started to
enjoy being around the people that were in the masjid. You started to make friends who were always
in the masjid. You grew old with them, you went to college with them, and so on and so forth. And so
Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses us from places where we least expect
		
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			the next Hadith is very similar to Lila and said the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, Whoever is pleased to have this provision expanded, and his term of life lengthened, should
maintain ties of kinship. So we'll stop there for today, inshallah. I know some of you read the
commentary and you're thinking, Wait a second, don't stop now. We need to hear about predestination.
We pre decree we need to hear about the clutter of Allah subhanho wa Taala. How does this change?
We'll talk about that next week in sha Allah tada because I want to open the floor for some
questions. Sharla there's
		
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			a lot of sentiment about going into Vietnam.