Why Al-Adab Al -Mufrad?
2017-05-23
Assim Al-Hakeem – Manners In Islam – Part 1
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Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa sallam obala carland mabou Sila hamerton, Liliana amin Nabina Mohammed in early he was
beheaded he was in the vicinity
as salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato.
Our workshop for today and tomorrow in sha Allah is with this beautiful book, not all of it because to go through all of it we would probably need like seven to eight months.
Seriously every day
because
to go through a Hadith, a one Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, you need volumes.
The Prophet said la salatu salam
about himself that he was given the concise of speech.
And
this is this is your course right?
And as well I don't know this
part one, okay. So, when you go through Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, you find so much knowledge
squeezed into a single or a couple of words.
And to explain this, you need volumes. So for example, the Prophet says is from Loughborough, what are there are two words, and this is one of
the legal Maxim's in Islam. I'll cover it up here in Islam, and the scholars spoke extensively about it in MLM Albania.
Everybody knows this hadith. It is one third.
As an Imam Shafi says, it is one third of the entire Islam
when the Prophet said his salatu salam yeah about oh my mother for Allah no higher.
forwards had a mama shaffir he said when he went to Mr. Mohammed to sleep over and
footnote don't think I'm wasting time. I am
the material we have, I don't think I'm going to be able to go through it. But as long as I'm not going to finish it might as well waste time.
Imam Shafi went to sleep over at Imam Ahmed.
So the maid put water after Isha in front of his room so that he can make Waldo and pray night prayer.
At fudger time she met the man Mohammed and said this is Imam Shafi you talk about. He is not worthy of your praise. He didn't even pray night prayer. What kind of Allium? What kind of a scholar is he? He smiled. He did not reply. After they prayed fudger Mr. Mohammed was chit chatting with him after he said, the maid says so so about you. She he said, She's right. I didn't pray night prayer. I spent the whole night from Asia till fudger contemplating on the hadith of Anis when the Prophet came to our house, and I had this young brother called
about Romania. He's nicknamed about Romania. He had a small bird nor so the Prophet is jokingly with him because the bird died. And the 40 year old child was upset. So the Prophet said about our alma mater for Illinois. What did the young bird do? he's joking with him. He said Imam Shafi. I spent the whole night contemplating on these words, and I got a number and Janya over at over eight zero benefits out of it.
He collected from this so when we speak about the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, this is not a simple thing to go through. It's a serious topic.
Why choose an edible mfat?
First of all, because of the compiler, who's the compiler and the man Alibaba
And whenever you hear an Imam Al Bukhari, you think of an authentic hadith, even if you don't know Arabic, if someone says Buhari
you know, the leader and the president of nigeria Is Buhari
at the moment, he's a general so when he says something everybody says,
next week I'll be in Nigeria so hope pray for me that I don't go into trouble. They're good people. Mashallah. Now, a mama Buhari is Mohammed urbanismo a liberal Nora Haman Buhari, one of the great scholars of Allison nojima, the real asuna will Gemma, those who follow the footsteps of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, those who have sound the leader who believe in the Quran as it is who believe in the Sunnah of the Prophet and his wisdom and follow it, extensively not choosing pick. These are Gemma, he is
the compiler of Al Jazeera Asahi, known to us as so he helped Buhari his
way of acquiring knowledge was phenomenal.
And he started acquiring knowledge, he started to be a student of knowledge when he was how old 10 years of age, when he was 11. He used to debate with his scholars and Xu correct correcting them, them being angry because he's correcting them. And when they check, they come back to him and say, we sorry, you're right. And they correct the mistakes from this 11 year old child. When he was 16, he started to spread his wings.
And people from all over the world used to meet him and tell him in the 1000 to sit and teach them the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam
and he traveled all over the Muslim countries to gain he had 1080 teacher to you.
From each share, he learned more than 10,000 heads
authentic and weak. And he filtered them all to bring us the sorry, the so he have a body as you know, is compiled according to chapters, in a way, in a Salah zeca boo marriage transactions, according to the Philippine books, one of the chapters is about a debit.
But it is not related to our book, because in that chapter, I will add which is all authentic, unlike our book,
this book
is not 100% authentic, why? because mojari had a condition that in His sight, he would not report anything except with a particular condition that gives it the highest grade of authenticity
98 octane
supreme premium or 90, which is regular, he had premium. And so here in Alabama, it was mixed. And the condition was less and the bar was lower. Why?
Because the people have a body like today, when we meet, you say how much is the dollar per the ring get you say? four point so at that time, everybody knew that it's not. So when I tell you had definite so and so that so and so said that so and so heard that Abu hurayrah report donated that the Prophet said that is awesome. They know that this hadith is authentic or not authentic? Not because they're scholars but knowledge was so spread that as long as you put the chain of narrators, it's sufficient. It's enough.
So the Buhari put this, which has so much information about adapt, but not as authentic as the Sahih al Bukhari itself.
Okay, then why compilot? Because the issue of adapt
the thing that elevates your moral conduct,
your ethics
has shown many hadiths
that may not reach
The premium level of Hadith, but it is authentic. So that's why he brought us this hadith which are this book, which is approximately three to four times bigger than the one in His sight.
So that we could learn off and about. So what does it speak about? adab
is
a general word that deals with your moral conduct, how you behave, how you think, how you act. In Islamic terminology. In Arabic, we say he has little added, meaning that he is impolite, a little adverb in Arabic This is an insult. He's impolite.
And the word added has a general Arabic Meaning that includes literature, poetry,
writing of articles, all of this is included in another. However, the book that we have at hand, which is
not this one, definitely.
This one
Buhari initially did not call it a double Morford.
Usually when I speak on stage, I like to make the camera man's life difficult. So I move from one place to the other. So I guarantee that he gets his money's worth.
Yes, life is difficult, life is difficult, I can afford this I'm gonna share.
So coming back, he called it Jews.
The those who came afterwards added the word and more for it so that they can distinguish it from other things. Now, usually, when people come to a workshop, they have deliverables.
I spent a lot of time thinking, why are people coming to this workshop? And what are they expecting to have? I couldn't find the answer. Seriously.
Seriously, I could not find that why would you come here? What would you expect?
to come out and saying, Mashallah, I know when to do so you do Soho, before Salaam and after Salaam hamdulillah. I know how to perform with your prayer, whether 1357 or nine records with one center or not. There's a god, what are the deliverables that you will have?
to normal people? Not much.
Seriously. It's going to be refreshing. A little bit fun. Maybe, for me, I'm going to enjoy it. coming all the way from Saudi Arabia, not paying anything getting first class treatment. I'll enjoy it, staying away from my wife and kids.
This is a blessing by itself.
But for you, what will you gain? Nothing.
Unfortunately, unless you come with an open heart
and you come to learn the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam, you come to learn how to behave, how to fix my inner self. Some of us has rage problems. Some of us are selfish. Some of us cannot be honest. Some of us have had to deal with deception and cheating and double talk in their work in their homes. If you come here to fix all of this, you will benefit the shot a lot.
But if you come here, just you know I don't have anything better to do, you will benefit the reward. But you will not get the chance to purify your heart. There is nothing there's there won't be any crying and weeping. Of course, if your heart is to open, there will be because whenever we are with the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, we remember the beautiful days, our biggest and strongest and most profound
calamity
on earth is the death of a prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam, to the extent that he said, whenever a calamity strikes you, poverty, you lose, you lose a house, you lose a son, you divorce you have problems. Whenever a calamity strikes you remember your loss in me
And this would make your calamity go away. So if you have a problem, remember that I lost the opportunity to see and meet the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and he's that
this is the biggest calamity that could ever strike a person. So
will we be able to benefit from this? insha Allah will give it a try. If it works Alhamdulillah if it doesn't work, doesn't look
you can do anything about it. So let's begin in sha Allah with the first
with part one Hadeeth who has the book?
Masha Allah, Allah good, so you can follow with me. I don't know if they have notes that they can write down
because it's going to be a little bit a lot of information 90% if not more, is known to you, but to have it collected and reminded with may might be a little bit difficult. So, chapter number one,
we discover that la mammal Buhari in his book
did not write any introduction.
So he started right away with the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam However, this is a piece of information that is quite beneficial for you. In so he had Buhari not our book in so he had Buhari, you will find that emammal Buhari also did not write an introduction.
Why? Because what to introduce when you come to the prophets saying at a salado sir. So what did the Buhari do?
The scholars say that the knowledge of an Imam Al Bukhari is displayed in the titles.
So his knowledge is
what he learns. He puts in that small statement the title, then he puts the Hadith to show you that the Hadees exactly is translated and interpreted to his title. So likewise, the Buhari had done this in the very beginning. He said one verbal Poli heeta Allah was final in Santa BYD the E hoshina. This is the beginning of an ayah that Allah azzawajal has said we have enjoined man to be kind to his parents.
Okay, what do you understand of this? You have to be kind to your parents. Okay. Understood. We move to headache number two? No, no, it's not gonna be that easy.
There is one Hadith in this chapter.
You find it in English? I don't think it is in Arabic. Is it?
No, this is an only in
English. So
I believe in my throat. One of the companions of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, see if I want to spend the whole day speaking about this hadith I can with the grace of Allah xojo talking about Abdullah minimus road by itself is sufficient. What do you know about Abdullah? road? Anyone? Because I can see people are sleeping.
We have a long day ahead of us. So no time to sleep. It is very possible that I will point that you and I say please stand up. You say I paid money to stand up Who cares? You paid money. I come from Saudi Arabia. I don't care about money. I will tell you stand up and ask your question. So that I guarantee you do not sleep during the process if you sleep and sleep.
So what do you know about Have
you raised your hand?
The brother second row third, you raise your hand or you're doing your hair?
Watch. What do you know about Abdullah? Should anyone?
Of course he's a companion. That's a good Yes.
No, is it close? The Prophet said learn the Quran from people.
Ignore me. Abdullah
Salim Mola, Hosea, obey of niqab JW Sabbath. These are the four people whom the Prophet told us to learn the Quran. One of them is Abdullah Muhammad
belovedness Road said, I took 70 plus sutras of the Quran straight from the mouth of the prophet Isaiah Sonam.
So only 40 left, he took 70 plus, so this man is knowledgeable. First of all, he said to the Prophet, I asked him salallahu alayhi wa sallam
which deeds, Allah loves best. So what do we learn from this?
One, we learn that the companions are so keen on asking what benefits them what gets them closer to Allah? Compare Apple to Apple. What do you usually look up for? What do you ask for? I personally ask about the exotic cars. Price. When it's secondhand. I cannot afford to buy them. Brand new. This is my obsession Ah, from zero to 100. My car is excellent. From zero to 100 to half an hour. Very old, very vintage, very slow. So people have obsessions of a brother has an obsession on motorbikes. Is it a Ducati or a Kawasaki? A sister has obsession on the latest foundation? Is it waterproof? Is it breathable? So obsessions. The Companions obsession was not like this. Their obsession was what
benefits me at the sight of Allah what takes me to Jenna.
And therefore those who called me 810 times a week
from Australia, from Canada from America, it costs money. But they asked, they asked straight questions share what's rolling on this? If I do this better or do that better? I feel
astonished because they want to get closer to a lot of the lightning rod was like this. So he comes to the Prophet he doesn't say prophet of Allah, should I buy property in Putrajaya or in somewhere else? No, he wants what gets him closer to Allah. So he says to the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam which deeds Allah loves best. So the Prophet Allah some lists, a number of tasks, one prayer, to being beautiful to the parents and three, jihad in the way of Allah.
And Abdullah said, If I asked the Prophet more, he would have given me more. So what do we benefit from this hadith? First of all,
the keenness of the companions to ask for what benefits them and this is found in most of the Sunnah of the Prophet Allah system, you always find a Sahabi coming and asking the Prophet Alayhi Salam about things that are most beloved to Allah.
Yet, we find the answer varies. Why?
The scholars say, because the Prophet answers alayhi salatu salam, whenever you hear the name of the Prophet, or for Salah, otherwise you will be stingy at the sight of Allah. Anytime you hear the name of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam you offer Selim you gain 10 good deeds, Allah mentions you in the higher congregation and you get closer to Allah. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gives answer according to each one's individual, one says oh prophet Allah, I will say he gave me advice. He said do not become angry. Why? Because the Prophet knows that this guy is has a rage problem. The other one says, Oh prophet of Allah, our sin, He advised me. He said, your tongue is
continuously remembering Allah. The fourth third one asks and said, helped me by performing a lot of substitute meaning a lot of prayers offered a lot of prayers and so on.
So what is the most dear deed to Allah azza wa jal,
one, to pray on time. In another narration, to pray at the beginning of the time.
We can go for a long time discussing this. It's beneficial
to know when to pray at the beginning of the time, and when not to pray at the beginning of the time, because some prayers delaying it is more preferred to Allah azza wa jal but if we
in getting engaged in this, I promise you will not be able to finish, not even one 10th of the course. So let us focus on what is essential.
This is beneficial. How many people in Malaysia pray on time?
I was shocked. Now people usually when they are asked straight forward questions, they get defensive.
meaning you're not opening your heart. When I say how many people in Malaysia pray on time defensive people say how many people in Saudi pray on time.
I'm the one who's preaching that you don't preach me, I'm preaching you. So don't be defensive. Even in Saudi Arabia. They don't pay on time. In Egypt,
in Syria, in Morocco, everywhere. And this is why we are going down hill because the Prophet tool is the most important deed to Allah Xhosa is your prayer and our prayer is downhill. This is why everything in the Muslim world is downhill until we revive the Sunnah.
I was shocked to find that people are too relaxed when it comes to prayer.
I'm a traveler. There is no Masjid. I can pray anywhere. And I shorten the prayer from four to two. But what about the locals? When they pick me from one place to the other, we pass by messages. No one says let's stop and pray.
And maybe they delay the prayers. And I see Muslims there Mashallah. their offices are open, their shops are open, the music is open. Where is Islam? I don't know.
So, if we can benefit from this, that we did put as our objective to pray on time, in congregation in the masjid then we have gained
70% of the course. If we can get this if we fail to pray on time in the masjid. What are you doing? Having fun? Let's continue.
The problem is that the more you have
knowledge of Allah, the keen you are to pray on time. The less knowledge of Allah's Beautiful Names and attributes, the careless you are, this is a well known fact. Now
the importance of salon is a lot. We will not go into that except that you have to know in the beginning it was how many
55 zero and then a lot of uses into five imagine that if we have to pray every half an hour. That would be great for our course because we will have a break every 25 minutes.
But Will anybody be able to do it? No. Allah the Most Generous made it five
and even the five we have 40% discount fudger we don't pay on time. So we're at work.
This is how people are unfortunately, those who do not pray at all are not Muslims.
If you do not pray at all, not a single Salah You are a Kaffir Even if you say la ilaha illa Allah 1000 times a day and perform hajj and fast Ramadan gives a cut. If you do not pray at all. You are a caffeine.
This is the prophets fatwa, not mine any sort of syrup. If you pray on and off, you're a hypocrite.
You are a hypocrite because Allah described in the Quran in chapter nine, suta Toba, those who are lazy to pray but they pray.
They are hypocrites. So it's a serious stuff. Number two.
Now
where is number two? And after that, he said no. Yeah, I was following. Nice, nice.
Time said dutifulness. to parents. What is the main name of beautifulness in Arabic is called bill.
Bear Ron Wiley Dane. Now the word to be beautiful, is a very very large word with lots of meanings. The majority of the people in Malaysia and hamdulillah and in Southeast Asia. Have this instilled in them
the respect the obedience
The kindness, the majority, not all there are always black sheep in the family. So
Allah azza wa jal has ordered
us to be dutiful to our parents, even if they are Kaffir. So regardless of the religion of the parent, you must be beautiful to them. Now, what is the sense of being beautiful? First of all, how important it is, Allah azzawajal has combined in a number of is in the Quran, between toe heat and being beautiful to your parents.
Allah taboo, Illa Yahuwah bill Wiley dainius, Allah, Allah has ruled that you must not worship anyone other than Him, and to be beautiful and kind to your parents.
How strong would you want all this command to be more than this, to associate it with the heat, which is the essence of Islam, which is the sole purpose of our existence,
is to worship Allah after that to be beautiful to your parents.
Now, Muslim families,
pride on having their parents and grandparents living in their homes, they fight for it.
I know families, I know siblings, brothers, fighting over their mother, where to stay. Each one says I'm worthy of her staying with me. To the extent that there was a case in court in Riyadh, where two brothers, over 70 years of age both went to the judge and complained that their mother should be with him. They're fighting to have their parents with them.
And the people when it comes to being beautiful, to your parents are three types.
One is the person who goes out of his way to be kind, loving and obedient. He does more than what they expect of Him.
And He never says anything bad to them. So this guy is the one who's beautiful.
Now, who is the one who is not dutiful? The one who is not dutiful, as the scholars say, is the one who does his obligations to his parents, and he does not harm them.
This is the interpretation of what
people are asleep
of being not dutiful. Did you hear me? Well?
A person who does his obligations. I give my mother and father shelter. I gave them pocket money. I put food on their table. I never insult them. I never speak rude to them. I never but this is it.
obligations and staying away from how long? They say he is not dutiful.
The third type is the one who does not do his obligations. And he's insulted.
He's abusive. He raises his voice. He looks at them straight in the eye. When speaking to them, you know that this is a sin. When your father or mother are speaking to you and you look them straight in the eye. So your father tells you why did you come late yesterday and you look at him. He said, I'm a grown up man. I can come whenever I want.
This is sinful, you will go to * because of this. So now most of us are from category number two, we do our obligations and we don't do any sense. Yet we are sinful for that. What ally tells you to do is to be extra, dutiful, extra respectful, more than what they expect from you. Then you will be fulfilling a large command to you.
A man
came to Abdullah him neuroma
shivering, shaking out
Fear, complaining to him. And he said, Oh Companion of the Prophet. So I did so many sins. And he thinks that these sins are major sins. So even Omar asked him, Are your parents alive? He said, I only have my mother and she's with me. Even Omar said, Are you afraid of fire? Do you love to enter Paradise by a Ma, if you speak to your mother softly and feed her foot, by Allah, you will enter Paradise as long as you refrain from major sins. This is how the companions used to treat their parents. This is how they used to consider obeying the parents coming to hand.
questions at the end of the session? Right? Any questions quickly? Okay, hamdulillah people are asleep. Second.
Date number three. Hadith number three was mentioned in chapter number two, youthfulness to one's mother.
So why is this not considered to be segregation? Why the West is not considering us to be feminist when it comes here.
They say that we segregate between men and women and men are better than women look at this hadith. And you will learn that this is not true.
The authority of Maja even hydrosystem in Arabic, I don't know. Marlene Haider, I mean, I live at peace with him that the Prophet said that he asked the Prophet, your prophet of Allah.
Who should, whom should I be dutiful? Most, he said, Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then the next nearest relative, and then the next nearest. So this hadith talks about the issue of being kind to your mother more than anyone else? Why?
Why does Islam encourage us to be more tolerant more kind to the mother than the father?
First of all,
by experience, who do you fear most? father or the mother?
Father, no one thinks twice.
You fear your father more than your mother. That's why you always take the shortcut. Mother, I need this. I need that. Why ask me I asked her father. No, no, no, no. I cannot ask him you ask him.
So you keep on insisting on your mother more than your father, my wife, when it comes to waking up the girls for fudger prayer. She spent 40 minutes
waking them up. And she comes with yours on her shoulders coming? I'm tired. I cannot do this. Can you help Cynthia? Sure. Hey, wake up.
Immediate immediately they wake up. I don't know why. I don't have a stick in my hand. But this is something that Allah has put in the Father. The mother can Don't do this. Don't do this. Don't do this. They're not listening to me. Said bent, meaning girl and class stops. That's it. I never beat them. I never shouted them. But this is sufficient. This is from a lot. Not because I'm a chef, I know all of you have experienced this. This is why it is
extremely important three folds than the father to be beautiful to your mother. Why? The mother is weak. The mother is vulnerable. The mother can be insulted by the son or the by the daughter. While the father wouldn't be the mother had more has more rights over you than your father. Why is the father who buys me the car is the father that provides for me the shelter, the food, the clothes, the school.
What does my mother do? The mother does everything.
She's the one who carried you in her womb for nine months.
And if you see the agony and the pain of
labor.
us men cannot do this. Can Can you be with your wife and labor time? No, I cannot. I sit and cry next to her. I this is not I cannot do this. Yes, I can go to the gym and I can work out for two hours without her. I cannot have the pain she's having. And after that sleepless nights for at least a year
when the child is suffering, stomach ache, breastfeeding, not sleeping on time. I usually kick my wife out.
live next door. And they say I want to I have work, I have to sleep. She has no problem. So all of this, and you go on from year one or two, until you are a grown up, man. And she cares for you. Whenever you're sick. Whenever you're hungry, whenever your clothes need ironing. Whenever you have a problem. You don't go to your father to say, Father, I met this girl and I love her. He will smack you in the eye. You will go to your mom. This is how old is she? Where does she come from? Cheese affectionate. She has a lot of feelings for you. She loves your success. And she loves you when you fail.
Your father loves you only when you succeed. When you're when you fail, you're not my son.
You're somebody else. But now when you are doing well. He loves you. Your mother loves you, no matter what happens. Even if you're a drug addict, even if you go to prison, even if you are the mom of a harem, she loves you. And you're always her child until you get married.
Then you're someone's else's child. This is why she's jealous from her sister from her daughter in law and problems come this is not our problem anymore. Let's not go into that. So
being dutiful to your mother is extremely important in Islam. In the book algo Hari, Allah double move right? There is a Hadith, beautiful Hadith. It's not with us today, when Omar may Allah be pleased with him was in hajj. And this year, a Yemeni man from Yemen has his crippled mother on his shoulders. So she's like 40 kgs, nothing much. But imagine carrying her all the way and putting her on your shoulder and he's doing tawaf. And while doing tawaf, he says in poetry in Neela, habari, rU halmos le into the Arica boo ha, them pujari. He's boosting, saying that I am my mother, my mother's humble Campbell. If all the rides around are scared, I am never scared and I'm always carrying her
with bravery. And then he looked at even Omar doing tawaf with your mom or your back.
I know people
ashamed from holding their mother's hands in the market, getting her out of the car and get into the car helping her when they're 70 or 80 years old, ashamed. This is not befitting Why doesn't the maid come? Why doesn't my sister comes from so he says to even on my own even armor, do you think I have repaid my mother
doing Hajj carrying her This is something who can tolerate this. They've been our said by Allah who have not even repaid one construction of her labor.
Even one pane
of her labor, just a single one, this is not sufficient. Now, compare apples to apples. When was the last time you kissed your mother's feet.
When was the last time you brought joy into your mother's heart being beautiful.
Compared how you treat your wife and how you treat your mother. I will not go into REITs because this would require probably a different workshop and it will make people angry. However, this is important for you to think the wife has to think how does she treat her mother and her husband although her husband comes as a priority. This doesn't mean that you cannot be kind call her every day six seven times. I know people who live in the same city see their mother only twice a week.
for half an hour from my relatives. They come to see their mother for one hour a week. They live maybe half an hour
apart, what kind of a son is this? If you don't stick to your mother's feet, even if she's a Kaffir, even if she's not a Muslim, this is the time to show her the beauty of Islam by being a real Muslim. See, talk is cheap.
I can talk forever, but you judge me according to my actions. I judge you according to your actions, not on how many heads you know by heart, or what you do or what you do not do.
Now, if we look at how the people of the self used to deal with their mother, you will be shocked. I'll give you a few examples are robina Zubaydah
is the nephew of Asia. Yeah, I'll be pleased with her, you know, Asia, the mother of the believers. He said, if your parents angry, you never ever look at them straight in the eye with anger. How many times have your children looked at you in anger?
It's like a stab in the heart. Sometimes we do it and we do not realize it. Your father, your mother says a remark you don't like. What do you do? You give them this look, that they wish they had not brought you into this world. Because of that.
Your mother says your wife did not call me for a whole week and you look at her like this. You're not a dutiful son. You're a bad son. He says
Mohammed bin serien. May Allah have mercy on his soul, one of the great tambourine. Whenever he was at the court of his mother, he used to lower his voice to the extent that people thought he was sick, just because he was in the presence of his mother. Look at the respect they had. When you are at your mother's side, what do you do?
You laugh, you joke, you raise your voice until your mom says lower it down a little bit. This is not the way of the setup. He used to lower his voice until people thought he was sick. One of the cells if his mother calls in from the end of the hall or the house, and he says yes mom, so that she can hear him. And he thinks, what have I done, I raised my voice, he frees two slaves. He thinks that he had done a sin he frees two slaves for the sake of Allah to compensate for his sin.
A lot of the stuff and this is narrated by
a number of scholars, they used to refuse to eat with their mother from the same dish. Why? The says I'm afraid that my mother would have looked at something she liked. And my hand was quicker.
Now if you sit with your mom with a dish of fruit in front of you, before even she looks at
Martha, Martha Baraka, he cleaned the plate white, and his mother even did not reach out. No, the setup would not do this. They would always give preference to the mother that her eat after she's finished and satisfied, you may try to eat as well.
A man came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam wanting to perform jihad.
So the Prophet asked him Is your mother there? He says, Yes, she's alive. She stay with her. He asked him twice. He asked him three times. And then the Prophet told him stick next to her feet because Paradise is there.
Now compare this hadith to the many youngsters who come and say we want to go to Syria for jihad. We want to go to Iraq for jihad. We want to go to Afghanistan, we want to go to this and that for jihad. Mashallah, good. What did the Prophet say?
stick close to your mother's feet. Sheriff. This is difficult for law to stay next to my mother's feet and obey her This is difficult. I'd rather have a bullet.
This is strange people do not understand Islam as it's supposed to be. There our priorities follow the priorities you enter agenda. Follow your own priorities. I don't guarantee that you will enter anywhere you want. Now, one would say
my mother is evil.
There are evil mothers.
Yes.
Are there are there evil mothers?
Yes, there are. This is a fact of life.
However, this is your test, I get so many phone calls, from sisters crying, from brothers complaining of how evil their mothers are. And they're right. But this is their test from Allah. If your mother was kind, loving, compassionate, and willing to do anything for you, where is the test
of being beautiful, you have to be respectful and beautiful. The test is when it's the opposite. So we have a lot of mothers complaining about their
son's treatment to their wives, especially in what is known as the joint family. This is found in India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, etc. Where whenever you get married, you get your wife, as a new servant in the house. She cooks, and cleans and acts like a maid, not only your parents, but your siblings and to their wives and husbands. And you do not expect anything more from her. This is what I'm, this is totally prohibited. You have to give a separate home to your wife. If you feel as though you're This is her God given right? She's okay what about the rights of my mother and father, be careful. These rights do not mix. Give your father and mother their rights but give your wife her
right as well. So give her her separate home and be beautiful, obedient, providing for your mother and father, even if you have to spend 10 hours with them, no problem. But your wife has to have her rights. One says and I get hundreds of questions like this. My father or my mother orders me to divorce my wife. What should I do?
I say you must not obey her. He says but I have to be dutiful to her. Being beautiful to your mother does not mean you divorce your wife.
This is not fair. This is injustice.
One claims Okay, there's a hadith where Romar ordered his son, to divorce his wife and the Prophet say, said to Omar sola, sola, obey your father.
So what to do? One of the great imams was asked the same question. A man came to me said my father orders me to divorce my wife. And Omar did this with his son and the Prophet ordered him to obey his father. What should I do? The Imam said, when your father is as great as Rama obey Him,
or Omar is fair, Rama is the second Caliph. He would not do anything. So if your wife is obedient, muslimah, practicing kind, but your mother doesn't like her guts at all. She doesn't like her. Then your mother is transgressing and unfair. You cannot obey her in such an issue. But if your wife is, this will be the end. Rude, abusive, not kind, not a good wife. They truly are. What are you preparing her for? You're still young, marry someone else.
See it is demand and supply.
Don't laugh. I know you will hate me for this. Anytime I write on Twitter, people attacked me like this. They don't understand they don't have knowledge. It is demand and supply.
There are so many women out there you can get married to
and if you get married to a woman's best strategy is to be a slave in the house.
Sure, what is woman power? Not here. If you manage to be submissive and treating your husband with humility and weakness, he's like a ring in your finger.
But if he marries another man
in the in the shape of a woman,
he says do this. Why don't you do that?
Okay, can you do this? No, you do that.
And she is another man in his house. This is not a healthy marriage. Yes, he is obliged to
be kind to her to love her to shelter her to provide for her. But at the same time, she's also obliged to be feminine to be a woman to be fragile. If they manage to have this chemistry, you have a long successful
madej insha Allah azza wa jal
now, being beautiful to your mother doesn't at all mean, by the way, when I opened my mobile, I'm not checking my WhatsApp.
Actually, this is a lie, I am checking my WhatsApp.
But I'm not checking WhatsApp for personal
messages, I'm getting snapshots of the book, so that I can know the title of the Hadith, in Arabic, which I did not record in my notes. That's why so don't think that I'm answering messages. So we come to a very important issue.
Being beautiful. Your mother has to be within the parameters of Islam. Why do we say this? Because a lot of us think that being beautiful to your mother is to buy her a bottle of perfume on Mother's Day.
When is Mother's Day?
absent. That's the course the answer. Every day is a mother's day to us Muslims. The non Muslims have one day a year. And they bring her flowers and they throw it and they leave us Muslims. We think of our mother every single day, we visit, we bring food and vegetables and fruits and whatever she likes. We go and massage her foot. We asked her Do you want to go for ombre? We asked her what do you like to have? We do our level best to be kind to our mother. This is how a Muslim should be.
We move on to Heidi.
Number
number one.
Number four, it's in the same
chapter.
Is it not? Where's the moderator? This same chapter, like
I thought I'd only allow one woman a man came. I will read from the Arabic because I hate reading English. So you follow the English I'll do the instant translation in my head. I never read English by the way. It's all in Arabic.
So he said I propose to a woman and she refused or rejected me. And then another man came and proposed to her and she agreed to him. I felt jealous. So I killed her. Do I have any dependents? So even as I said, is your mother alive? He said no. He said to him, then repent to Allah do as much as you can to get closer to Allah. I thought the Tabori went to even our boss and said Why did you ask him about his mother's life? Whether she's alive or dead? He said I know no good deed that would get a person closer to Allah than being beautiful to the mother.
Now this hadith
is very strange.
When you read this Hadith, what is the first thing that comes into mind?
My mind this man does he loves this woman.
Yes, raise your hands.
No, this is strange, how thin
the hair line between hatred and love is
and this is an explanation and example to what goes into a man's heart.
If you loved her so much, you would love the very best for her.
But when you do not love you want to possess only then this hatred can come. A lot of our Muslim marriages are like this. They are built on possession, not love.
So I want you to be my property. You belong to me. You are my possession. I do not want to share you with anyone else. This is not love.
If something happens, you find hatred surfacing.
And this is why he had no problem in killing her.
And what actually resulted or caused the killing is envy.
And this is one of the greatest sins on earth and V i want you to be deprived of what you have either
If I have it or not, no problem. So if I see you driving a fast car, I'm happy for you. And I say, inshallah will one day have a similar car. If I'm envious, I would say, well, you don't deserve this car. May I love the new a big crush, and it is all into ruin.
Oh, yeah. He at least say May Allah bless it to him to No, no, no, he doesn't deserve it. If I see a brother marrying a righteous practicing, and beautiful wife, I said, may Allah divorce them? Why? He's not deserving of it. It's not your business. Allah has given it No, no, still, he should not have this. The first sin. The scholars say ever committed in this universe was due to envy. When Allah ordered Satan ablaze shavon to Prostrate to Adam, he became envious.
wipers said to him, I am better. I was created from fire and he was created from clay. He became envious and resulted in him being
cursed until the Day of Judgment accordingly. Now why would you become envious?
Why would the person become envious? Why would you look at some someone's possessions and want to
want it to live? This is a result of one of the highest and greatest characteristic that a Muslim could have.
If you don't have this characteristic, you become envious. What is that? content?
A real bar. If you're content with what Allah has given you, you will never be envious to anyone.
And you will be the happiest person on earth. So if a sister is content with her husband, even if he's a gorilla
she is the happiest woman on earth. People come to her. His mouth smells like rotten eggs. He showers once every three weeks. His teeth are crooked. He's this short, long, tall, thin, fat, ugly, black, white. And she says Masha Allah, I love him. He's the love of my life. This content makes her the happiest person on earth.
If you don't have this content, you are the most depressed person on earth. You can find someone who is sweeping the floor, a janitor, and the smile is this big. Yes. Why are you happy? hamdulillah I'm healthy. I have a family. I have a salary. I have a job. Yes, but you don't have a car. You don't have a motorcycle. You walk healthy.
And you look at the multimillionaires who have food, cars who have everything. Are they happy? No. You find a billionaire sad. Why are you sad? You have three air jets airplanes of your own. But my friend bought a new 777 extended virgin with a saloon and a bedroom and I did I don't have this. So panela so content is the greatest blessing of Allah azza wa jal. And finally, this shows you how great
thrusting Allah azza wa jal and being dutiful to your mother, what is this
and as we finish the course
dutifulness to your mother, so even a bass had it
fixed. This is common knowledge for all companions. Being beautiful to your mother is one of the grace this deeds that Allah erases your sins. You don't have to go for more. You don't have to. It's good if you go, especially when they don't have to pay much money for that. I think they've uplifted the fees as I was told that hamdulillah so you can go for free now.
This is not from me from the government.
You don't have to do a lot of things. Just be soft, speaking to your mother, be kind bring her a gift do things that she loves and Allah azza wa jal would love you accordingly.
Okay, so we go on to chapter
one, my this is confusing.
Chapter Seven right.
Hadeeth number four
Okay,
is there a spelling mistake?
Is it abubaker or Abubakar?
Or are they the same person?
Hello.
Where's the microphone?
It's the same person. No, it's a different person, this man's name Abu Bakr, ah, coffee.
And if you read the seer of the prophet Isaiah on the eighth theater of hijra, when the Prophet besieged pif in after the Battle of her name, he besieged Ty for maybe 18 days. And it was a fortress, the prophet could not and his army penetrated. So the companions called to the slaves of type, whoever comes to us Muslim history. So one of them was this man. He came down through a rail rail in Arabic is Baccarat, what do you put the rope? When you know the rail? What do you put the rope and to bring water from the well. So he tied himself to one and came down. So that was why he was nicknamed as Abu Bakr ah. So Abu Bakr
said that the Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam
was sitting with us one day. And then he asked us, he said, shall I tell you, which is the worst of the major sense.
And then he repeated it again. And then he repeated it for the third time. And this was a habit of the Prophet Allister some that he used to repeat some of his speeches three times so that people can be first of all, alert.
Secondly, to memorize it. So so many times I say a word and 95% of the people do not listen or pay attention to it. This happens, especially in an eight hour course.
If I repeat it again, you will be awake. If I repeat it for the third time it sticks. But then we would need like six years to finish the course. Therefore, we will just move on in sha Allah. So he repeated this, he's informing them about the most major sins, because he wanted to captivate their attention, so that they would pay attention to it. So the first visit, definitely a prophet of Allah teachers. So he said, first of all, associating others with Allah, in Arabic schicke. So shirk is the, as they call it, in English, the cardinal sin, we don't have Cardinals. But this is the most major sin that Allah does not forgive at all. Whoever dies in the state of shirt is bound to
Hellfire for eternity,
not 1000 years a million for ever. So this is pretty serious. Then the Prophet said As salam, and
disobeying parents, the word is not
the correct translation.
The correct translation for the word in Arabic is ropo. advisor.
And robo
is far greater than disobeying. It's also disrespecting, it's also being not dutiful to your parents. So again, this is one of the major sins and the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam was sitting, leaning on his side, inclined, this is usually when you sit on the floor, you get a couch or a pillow and you sit leaning on it to rest your back. He was sitting like this, then he stood up straight, and he said,
false testimony.
Meaning, I think the translation in the book is different right?
Lies. This is not what is meant here in the Hadith, it is false testimony. Lies is general, I can lie to a friend I can lie to a judge, I can lie to a wife. This is general lying, false testimony. This can only be in front of a judge and the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam kept on repeating it.
So one would ask and argue
Why would he do that before
We get into this, first of all,
the Hadith teaches us tells us that there are major sins and there are
minor sins. What is the difference?
major sins, as the scholars define it any sin that Allah has cursed the one who does it or said that he would be tormented in Hellfire or that he would be exited from Allah's mercy, or that there is a prescribed punishment for it in this world. This is generally speaking the most authentic definition of Kabbalah major sin, what is the major sin? So any sin that you find that Allah cursed or will put into *? Or is kicked out of Allah's mercy or there's a
prescribed punishment, such as killing, stealing, drinking intoxicants laundering, fornicating all of these have prescribed punishment in this life, then you know, that this is a major sin.
Now,
we can spend the rest of the day talking about associating others with Allah. But this is not is not our topic, yet. Maybe, maybe, we should just highlight some of the things that people do not know as schilke
for example, prostrating to Buddha
is
sure, of course, no problem. This is crystal clear. slaughtering to the graves of Alia and pious people ship calling the dead or has an O Hussain, OT Gianni Gilani, but there we have Andy anything calling them please help me by Grant granting me this protect me from this. This is also shirk, even going to soothsayers, you go to someone asking about something of the future. While law the police told me that next week there'll be riots don't go to this route.
And you believe him? Yes. He knows the future. This is shit go for takes you out of religion, out of Islam completely and so many other things that are involved. So
now
the Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam.
As for not being dutiful, respectful, obedient to your parent said a very scary Heidi.
15 minutes for what? We're just warming up.
I think we should cancel this workshop but will not be able to finish anything by this.
Paste. The Prophet said la Salatu. Salam, the Jenna paradise will not be entered by one elmen nan, who is the man the one who does you a favor and then keeps on reminding you didn't I give you 10 ben gets six years ago. Yeah, you gave it to me. Six years depreciation and the oil prices are falling.
It keeps on reminding you I did you a favor, I gave you my car I lent you my house I helped you in your wedding. This will not intergender the Prophet says ah
a person who is not dutiful, not obedient, not respectful to his parents, he will not enter agenda and
a drunkard someone who is addicted to drinking alcohol, intoxicants, he will not enter a gentle
and
one would ask Okay, how would I not be dutiful, respectful, obedient. Allah mentioned in the Quran that even the slightest gesture of disapproval of this content is considered to be your poop.
So Allah says in the Quran, what is the gesture?
What is this?
Nothing. So my father says there are groceries in the trunk of the car, bring them up.
Okay. Allah says this is being disrespectful and not
Beautiful, just the gesture. It is how long it is a major sin to say this to your parents.
And if this is
prohibited, what about if someone shouts as his parents? What about someone who curses his parents who raises his voice and abuse his parents, I've seen this with my own eyes, headed with my own ears, people being abusive to their parents. A man came to me once in the masjid, crying, and he was in his mid 50s, mid 50s. He said, I have the worst mother on Earth. He's Egyptian.
And my father died leaving us a very beautiful reputation. My mother goes from house to house, spoiling his reputation, trying to cause enmity between people. People come to me and complain. Your father was a good man. Why is your mother causing us problems? I keep on advising her trying to be beautiful to her one day, it went out of hand and I slammed I slapped her on the face.
My mother is in her mid 80s.
And he comes to me in the masjid after Aisha crying like a baby, his mid 50s saying what what can I do? How can I repent? What do you answer such a person?
To us, his mother needs to be in front of a firing squad. She's evil, pure evil. But you as a son has no right to do anything of this. It's your test and exam from Allah. You must be obedient, tolerant, respectful, give her kind advice and pray to Allah Xhosa, you may not do anything else, let alone abusing her or slapping her on the face.
A lot of the people would
justify being unbeautiful to their parents, because their parents were unbeautiful to them.
So I say why would I obey my father, if he prefers my brother over me. If he doesn't provide for me shelter, I get sisters calling me saying that our father left the house when we were children, infants. I don't remember anything of him, or him sending us money, or him taking care of us or calling us or seeing us. And after 20 years. He contacted us and wants us to become like father and daughter. He she says I cannot meet him. I don't want to see him. I'd like to spit in his face.
Is this Helen, I don't know anything about him. I said no, this is how long. He's your father. He's your biological father. He is your father by birth in Islam, and you must be dutiful to him. His sins, Allah will hold him accountable for but remember, if you don't do your duty, Allah will hold you accountable for that as well. And at the end of the day, its duties and obligations, rights and obligations as they say.
The Prophet said Allah, his salatu salam, a law's pleasure allows pleasure is in the pleasure of the parents. If you want a lot to be pleased with you, please your parents. So whenever you do something, don't do it because you love them. We all love our parents do it because it would get you closer to Allah, the all mighty. And the third thing is, of course,
the false testimony, and this by itself, I have prepared so many points, but I don't think that it would be feasible to go through them. However, it is extremely important. It's one of the major sins in Islam to testify falsely. I don't know if it happens here.
In the countries where Sharia is implemented, it's sufficient to bring two witnesses to win a court case. So if you don't have religion, if you don't have a man, you can buy two and they can testify. And this is what makes it scary. Because repenting would not suffice. You have to rectify and correct the damage you have done. So me and him have a
disappeared on this water bottle. And you can imagine if this is a 1 million meter property, or an island, or 100 million riyals or ringgit worth of money, and we have a dispute. So in Islam, the way to if you come to a judge, and you have a dispute on this property, how would I judge? Very simple, straightforward, you have to provide the one who claims This is mine. She said, Okay, give me the evidence. What evidence? Do you want a written document, stating that he took it from you?
I don't have any documents, then bring me to witnesses, Muslims to testify that he took it from you. I don't have any witnesses share.
In this case, the chef goes to the other defendant and say, This man claims you took this from him?
Is it true? No chef is not true. This man failed to bring me evidence. Therefore you must testify by a law, that it is not his and you did not take it from him. Can you swear by Allah? You should? Yes. I swear by Allah.
If he swears by a law that says it's yours,
I cry. It's mine. Prove it. If you can prove it, then anyone claim is as good as mine.
And this man's swore by a light his palace It is his. So the evidence is important. Having two witnesses. If you go to a court of law, and you bring these two witnesses, and they testified by a law, that this belongs to him, or to him or to him, the judge,
judges according to evidences and facts, I don't know what's in the heart. So he gives it to you. This is why it makes it one of the major sins in the Islam because you are abusing Allah's Name. You swear lying. Do you think that Allah will leave you go and enjoy the money the bribe the thing that you have gained out of it? No, a lot. If Allah takes the blessing out of anything you have, you are doomed.
Imagine I do this sometimes don't think I'm crazy.
I might be
just to appreciate unless blessing on me. I go into the toilet, to answer the call of nature with the lights off.
And believe me, it's a mess.
But I come out appreciating that Allah has given me sight. When you have an injury in your knee and you cannot pray except on a chair. How do you appreciate it? When you have a stomach ache, that doesn't hold any food in your stomach. You cannot drink water you throw up. You cannot eat anything and you are in pain and agony for a day only.
After you get well how do you feel? Do you remember everything we have and do is due to the blessing of Allah. If Allah takes this blessing away from you, your life is over you are doomed. And this is why whenever you do something, think of the consequences. Yes, I can lie. I can testify falsely, I will gain money, I will gain reputation, I will get a better position and my career. But what all of this would avail me. If Allah has taking the blessing and favor out of it. It will become a menace. It will become an illness and it will become something that Allah azza wa jal does not approve of. So
part of that false testimony is what a lot of us do not in court. A lot of the people come to me say share, what do you think of brother so and so he has proposed to my daughter, he has to propose to my sister. Now whatever I say will impact the life of the sister. They trust me. So I say oh Masha, Allah. This man is one of Allah's greatest Olia. He is a scholar, he is practicing, he is righteous. He is like a medicine you put on a wound and it be covers Mashallah. And I know that he's drunkard, his fornicator he doesn't pray and he has a crush under his shirt.
Why are you doing this? Is it my friend? I cannot say bad things about him. So Pamela, this is false.
testimony, your boss comes to you and asks you about a colleague, what do you think of brother Ahmed, or brother I met comes on time, leaves on time does all of his work beautifully. And you know that this is not true. Because you want him to get a raise, or the opposite he or the will, he is like a small snake, going around the colleagues and biting them. He's by he lies, he's corrupt. He doesn't have this. Why? Because you want the race to come to you not to him. All of this is false testimony. And you can cascade this all over your life. And that is why part of the adage
that you do not tell a lie that you do not testify except of what you had seen so many things we get on our WhatsApp. This is what I call
stupid phones, not smartphones.
These make us more stupid.
What's up is the menace of society. I get little people I usually ignore anything that comes to me, except from my groups, certain groups. And I have so many things coming to me. The Prophet said la sala sir I'm so and so and so spread it and Allah will give you reward, it's a lie.
Hades lies, fabrications. And you have rumors, people circulating things, the government did this and that the opposition did this in that email over the masjid did this and that chefs also did this. So lies Have you witnessed it yourself?
Have you if you did not witness it, Allah will hold you questionable on the Day of Judgment. Allah says in the Quran, and they made the angels of Allah females.
Either worshippers they call the angels to be females. And the angels are gender less. They don't have they don't.
We don't call them males or females. They are without gender. So Allah is blaming and condemning people, either worshippers who made the angels to be famous females, Allah says afterwards, shall he do have
had they witnessed the creation of the angels, in order for them to say whether they're females or males? Allah says afterwards, set to taboo Shahada to whom we use,
their testimony will be registered, and they will be questioned. Whatever you get on WhatsApp, or on your emails or on your Facebook and you forwarded it without testifying without witnessing it, allow it hold your question about imagine just yesterday, how many messages have you forwarded?
I don't know it came from this brother or from this sister. They're responsible. No, you forwarded it. You are responsible for it. So inshallah we have like 15 minutes. Yeah. I'll be generous 15 minutes inshallah and we meet up