Allie Goder – Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters #1
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There are
there are 4
outcomes
in terms of the of the
various
relationships
of parenting,
parent to child, right.
2 are
almost expected outcomes and
2 are
what we may call,
the unexpected outcomes.
Right? The first two is,
number 1, if you have good parents,
pious parents
with good akhlaq raising their children in a
in a good way,
taught to us by Nabi Muhammad SAWS and
by Islam,
then it is
are neglectful,
not following Allah's command,
not displaying good character, then it is expected
that the child will pick up those habits
and also then become an adult who has
the same habits and characteristics.
But then you have
the opposite of that.
And why I'm saying this is because sometimes
we
we judge, we become judgmental
that when we see someone behaving in a
bad manner,
then we may be guilty of judging the
parents.
Whereas that is not always their fault. And
Allah gives us and this is why Allah
actually gives us these these situations and examples
from amongst
the Ambi'ali Musalat Wasallam.
Where Allah gives us the example of Nabi
Nuh and
his son turns out to be a kafir.
Or you need to accuse Nabi Nuh of
not being a good parent.
And then on the other side you have
Nabi Ibrahim alaihi wasallam
who turns out to be Khalilullah, the friend
of Allah, and his father is an idol
maker. SubhanAllah.
So just to
to lay down that as a foundation, you
know because sometimes we, and possibly,
not possibly,
surely I was guilty of that in the
past as well.
Where I would see
a mother in hijab
and next to her daughter in skinnies,
and I would judge the mother
saying how is this possible?
But we don't know. There's always
a there's always a background.
There's always a context.
We don't know how the mother is struggling.
And at the very least, the mother is
still holding on to her daughter, struggling to
to give her the proper Islam.
You understand? We don't know what the background
is, so we should never judge, Subhanahu wa.
I just need to lay down that as
a foundation.
So coming back to the question
of
the relationship between
Nabi Muhammad and Sibnah Fatima Radlana.
I think what is
what is the the
most
remarkable thing obviously is the character of Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
And Sibna Fatima growing up in such a
household,
witnessing
from
grassroots age right up to adulthood,
witnessing
this perfect
immaculate character SubhanAllah.
How he
how he number 1st and foremost his devotion
to Allah.
So
when a young child witnesses
of the most important figure in her life
or figures mother and father, father especially in
this case,
having such devotion to Allah, what does that
do? It develops a tremendous amount of admiration
and respect
for that individual.
And then
she witnesses his interaction
with all and sundry,
his interaction with her mother,
with
everyone else, with with herself SubhanAllah.
So
what what comes out clearly here is that
character of the of the father
is of utmost importance when it comes to
raising all children
and of course in this case the daughter
SubhanAllah. And that is why we find so
much emphasis
on character.
Like Prophet himself said
So can you imagine what type of
of quality she imbibed just by watching her
father SubhanAllah?
And this in itself
it formed her.
It contributed to her development as a pious
young lady SubhanAllah.
And what stands out for me,
one incident that just stands out for me
was
when Nabi
Muhammad was was nearing his his death
and he calls Sayedna Fatima to his bedside
and he whispers something in her ear
which brought her to tears.
And then moments after that he whispered something
else in her ear
and
her whole demeanor changed and she smiled and
she was cheerful and bright. SubhanAllah.
And witnessing this was
Raduwaanha. And then she asked Fatima after that,
what did your father whisper
in your ear? The first time that caused
you to cry, and the second time that
caused you to to be so cheerful and
laugh again.
And so the first thing she said was,
her father told her
that he will soon believe in this dunya.
But obviously,
paraphrasing
or rephrasing.
And this obviously caused her to cry.
Losing
to be to to be, to depart or
be taken away from someone she loves so
dearly.
And then the next thing he whispered in
the ear was that
you will be the first to join me.
Now just think about this for a moment.
We love our parents,
right? And it's a sad experience to see
your mother or father pass away
but you know you want to join them
but not so soon.
Am I
right? But here look at the joy of
Sayidina Fatima
that she's being told basically
that she's going to die soon.
Nabi Salam telling her that you will be
the first
He's actually telling her that your death
is not far away. SubhanAllah.
What does this do? It makes us so
happy. SubhanAllah.
So this number 1,
it's
it's telling of the piety of Sayedna Fatima.
That
death is not
the more the more we grow in our
taqwa and piety
then death should not become something that is
feared but rather something that you could look
forward to. SubhanAllah. And this we know that
SubhanAllah.
This
I can say I've experienced a few times
where
you sit by the bedside of a dying
person and this dying person because of the
level of piety they are so looking forward
to it. SubhanAllah.
And
then, obviously it speaks and and of the
love of Said Na'isha
for Nabi Muhammad Sallahu Alaihi Wasallam. That how
happy she is that she's going to be
reunited with her father in Aqirah again. SubhanAllah.