Ali Albarghouthi – This is Love #22 The Sweetness of Iman is in Love
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The importance of finding sweetness in love is both internal and external, and the practical side of love is to maximize one's benefit and minimize one's harm. It is crucial to consult with others, find a path to achieve the desired outcome, and build a strong will to love someone first and develop a stronger will to love them. The concept of love is a constantly evolving and evolving physical quality that is present in every aspect of the brain, and it is a physical and ongoing quality that is inquiry by the mind.
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today's Hadith
by the will of Allah azza wa jal which is Hadith 24 In the series,
it talks about
loving for Allah sake and at the same time, how that helps us find the sweetness of iman.
Right.
So, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
Men are hubba Yeji the Tamil Imani fill your hip Belmore Allah your Hibou Illa Allah Allah He as
with he Rewi attainments, Surah Hua did a thorough ama Imani philleo Heyburn mod Allah yo boo Illa Allah here as origin.
So the messenger la Salatu was Salam said the one who would love
or in another generation the one who who would be happy to
happy or love so the one who would love to find have the sweetness of Eman let them love Salman only for the sake of Allah azza wa jal second life so we love them love someone only for the sake of Allah azza wa jal. So, if you want to find the sweetness of Eman, this is its path. And his path is love
and loving for the sake of Allah Allah azza wa jal and we will understand why insha Allah shortly. Now this is not the first time that we encounter that phrase, the sweetness of iman, so if you go to previous a hadith
the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam told us talked about the sweetness of iman. But for this part,
we're told,
you have to find it through loving, for Allah sake.
Now,
we are always in love. We are always loving something in someone.
If you remember what we said before, the reason why we move is because of love. Right? So you love something. So you go after it. And you hate something, so you run away from it. That's the motivation for all the other emotions and for all movement in life. There is an external and an internal movement, but all of it is based on love. So how you plan your day, how you plan your meals, how you apply your get togethers, how you plan your travels, or even your vacations or where you stay. All these things depend on love.
All of us seem to be consumed by the love of certain things. So we all love beauty. But we love it differently. Our appreciation of it. Our standards are different. We love money, but what do you do with money and how you use it and why you love it is different. So we love similar things differently. And we love different things. But nonetheless, we love
and
when we love, if you think about it, everything that we love, we love because it brings us benefit. And it protects us from harm.
There is benefit in anything that you love.
So loving other things is an extension of loving yourself.
If you think about it, why do you love it? It brings me benefit. Why do you love that? Because you love yourself?
Why do you hate it? Because it's harms me? Why is that? Why do you hate what harms you because I love myself. See you look after yourself.
And when that's the case, you understand that as human beings we cannot escape that reality because we are dependent human beings. We can call that love selfish because that type of love is necessary for our survival. As dependent human beings, I need to focus on what benefits me and need to run away from what turns me the only one who loves can really love without any return for that love is Allah zodion
Right? Because Allah azza wa jal is self sufficient. So he doesn't need anything from you. And what he needs from you is not really a need. What he wants you to do is for your own benefit, so he doesn't take anything from you. But I cannot survive on love. That does not benefit me. I have to love something that benefits
Me. And again, we're saying that this is not selfish. This is, in fact, a reality. And that's the motivation for going to Jana, and wanting it, for hating hellfire and trying to escape it.
So it's whatever we love is an extension of our loving ourselves. So we want to, and desire to maximize our benefit,
not in a very calculating businesslike way, no, even on a deep emotional way, whatever you love, you think that it's going to benefit you.
So that's why you love it. So we want to maximize benefit, and we want to reduce and minimize harm. That's what we do. And we'd love. The question here to ask ourselves is, and I know this is kind of theoretical, a little bit, but it really has a practical side. And the practical side is
if that will love is supposed to do is what I'm loving now doing this is it maximizing my benefit, and minimizing my harm, whatever love that you are in love with at this moment, you will have a particular meal and food, a particular activity, a particular person, a particular book, a particular idea, is that love maximizing my benefit really helping me? Or is it hurting me? And if it hurts me, is it a good type of love? And if it's not benefiting me? Is it good type of love. So it has to really fulfill these conditions. Now.
What complicates that, all of it is that sometimes we love what is not good for us.
And we hate what is good for us, right?
And that's what I want to really come to is that love on its own cannot be a compass. Love on its own cannot be what dictates what's right and what's wrong. Because that is something that is popular in some circles, if you feel like it, if you love it, if you love so and so. Then Love Itself justifies the end, as long as you're in love with this thing or that person. But what we want to say Islamically that love on its own needs guidance.
It doesn't justify it's not on its own righteous. So Allah azza wa jal tells us in the Quran, what Elsa and take her who che Mahoba you will learn from what I said unto Hibou che our who assured walakum wa Allahu Allah, Allah to Allah Tala Moon
is perhaps you dislike something that is good for you, and that you like something that is bad for you and Allah knows but you do not know.
Because if you really know, that's the first thing if you really know that that thing is bad for you. Would you love it?
No. If you really know if you really have that understanding that fan thing that thing is bad for you. Would you love it on a intellectual? Okay. Level you say no, absolutely not. Or if this thing is really good for you, would you hate it? You know, on a deep intellectual level, based on conviction, no, I wouldn't do that. Right? But Allah azza wa jal tells us what that we lack knowledge. Allah knows and you do not know. That's why Allah asserted will legislate things that you will resist. I don't like this
and tell you not to do things that you like, I really want to do that. If you let your emotions guide you, your feelings guide you you listen, obey Allah has his origin and you will behave ignorantly because Allah said, I know and you don't.
So who are you going to listen to the one who knows and the one or the one who doesn't? Are you listening to your emotions or Allah's judgment or loss advice, Allah's recommendation based on his deep and you know, encompassing knowledge of what that thing will bring you. So if you trust Allah subhana wa Tala,
you will subjugate your emotions to him.
Whatever you feel will be secondary, and whatever Allah azza wa jal commands will be primary. So you do this out of belief that Allah knows but I do not know and my benefit and my harm are not really
detected by my own wisdom, by my own insights, sometimes they can, but not all the time. Allah azza wa jal also said in the Quran, just to kind of
confirm what that is it for us and tecra who Shaya wire janela who fee higher and Kathira perhaps you may hate something, and Allah puts plenty of good in it. So if you're not a person who's going to push himself and resist his feelings, to do what Allah azza wa jal wants from you, and if you just submit to what you love or what you hate, then you're going to miss out on a lot of good or you run into a lot of harm based on listening to yourself, so we're not supposed to simply listen
seem to ourselves because the self pushes pushes us or pulls us back towards what is comfortable what it is based on his short sightedness, good or bad, right?
So
instead, we cannot trust our emotions, harm and benefit are sometimes hidden. Right?
That's why also at times, right, if you praise too hard, or is it based the consequence is based on what you feel.
It shouldn't be. Right? Because again, that answers the question a feeling after istikhara could be something a feeling based on attachment. I like this so much, right? So I want to do it. So that attachment does not indicate I signed from Allah as legit so it's not feelings.
Now sometimes, as we said, the harms and benefits are hidden. And that's why you cannot really trust your emotions what you like and you dislike. Also at the same time,
the Harlan benefits are visible, meaning others can see them, but you're blind to them. And you're blind to them simply because of your emotions. You know, when somebody loves someone so much, they can't see their faults,
right?
Or you want something so much you can see the dangers that are in it. Somebody on the outside has to point that to you. So why can they see it and you can't.
So there is this blindness attached to love especially overwhelming love.
That's why you need the insight and the counsel of people around you to tell you is this path right or wrong? This person right or wrong? Your own judgment male or female, your own judgment is insufficient. Until you consult and that's why consultation is important.
So
what are the Allahu Anhu said and this is so here to him Rahima are the Allahu Anhu hobo Kelly che II your me while you swim?
He says loving something blinds and deafens
so this Sahabi Radi Allahu Anhu is saying what Hebrew cliche when you love something you are me causes you to be blind. While you sin causes you to be deaf. So you won't hear anyone's advice. No, no, no, no, you're wrong. I'm right. You can't see their faults. Right. Well, I know riddle and Cooley, I even kalila to Nola, Kenai, Dean Misawa. As the poet have said, I know River and a cooler cooler I've been Kelly Latin. This is If you're happy and pleased with some thing, your your eye becomes unable to see its mistakes as if it's sick. You know, when you're sick, and you can't see as if the eye becomes sick, you can't see the mistakes there. Well, I keep an eye in a salty, but if
you're angry you something your eye will detect only its mistakes. You don't see anything good with them.
And even the good you'll misinterpret as something bad. So what is happening here? What filter are you using? Those are the filter of emotions, love and hate. So yeah, you can know
it's visible, right? But at the same time, you're too emotionally attached. You can't let go. Somebody has to come and tell you this is wrong. This is right, point out these things to you.
And of course, I mean, we can't downplay the
The Power of Habit, when you're so comfortable with something, you can't let go of it, even though you know it's bad for you. So take that take the example of any addiction that a person has any type of addiction, whether it's really serious, or not so serious, but something that you are used to that you know in yourself is not good for you. But you can't let go of it. Part of it is emotional though you know that. It's not good. But you've continued to do it. Because it's hard to let go of that. Right. So emotions are involved in this.
So if love is biased, that's one and it's limited by our surroundings, it cannot be the compass. It cannot on its own tell us what is right and what is wrong. And it's also important to realize that there are different types of love. There is no beloved and there is a lowly type of love a low total love, noble great and a low harmful love. There is love that is noble, beneficial and there is love that is destructive as well. So you can love what you hate, what harms you and if you love what harms you that's destructive. So not all love is good, right? Not all love is good and that is something that we kind of want to plant firmly in our minds in our hearts because you will hear in
popular culture from some non Muslims who will say as long as you love that is okay.
As long as love is that underlying emotion that is okay and we have to say no love sometimes
is good for you and love sometimes is bad for you. Right?
Don't people commit crimes because of love?
Right crimes of passion, right? So it can be that love is always beneficial or that love is always sublime.
So, the Hadith talked about loving for Allah sake. Right?
And that love for Allah sake is unique as loving Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is unique.
Loving for his sake is also unique. Alright, so loving someone a created being, is unlike loving Allah as xojo Very different.
We talked about this before, right?
And when you want to love for Allah sake, because he's unique Subhana Allah to Allah, it'd be unlike loving for anybody else's sake. So some of the benefits of loving for Allah's sake.
So it protects you from loving the wrong thing or the right thing the wrong way. Because Allah azza wa jal is one who is inspiring that love and its limits.
So if you're loving for the sake of yourself, for the sake of somebody else, you could love whatever.
There's no guidance. I think it's good. So I will love it. I think it's bad. So I'll hate it, how much you're going to love and how much you're going to hate that also, there is no guidance surrounding that.
So no safeguards,
no light to tell you what to do and what not to do. But wouldn't you love Allah for the sake of Allah azza wa jal what is what is the compass what is the direction? What is the direction coming from?
Allah?
Because now you'll say, what and whom should I love?
Allah loves this, this this, then you know, I'm supposed to love this. I'm supposed to stay away or hate these. Okay? How should I love these, this way and this way, in that way. So there's guidance, so you're not let you're not left to your own self to your own decisions, do your own speculation. There is ways for you to love what Allah has Zota love
and for that kind of an extraction from it. If Allah azza wa jal is telling you what to love and how to love it, you can love something that Allah azza wa jal loves in the wrong way. And say that that's fine. So doing what Allah hates in the name of loving him is a contradiction.
And namely, that is what that's the premise of Buddha.
Right? So anyone who commits a Buddha, but the Buddha by the way, it's something that is innovated in Islam. It's a practice that is not legislated. Not is not sanctioned. So anyone who commits a murder, even if I and you're committing that, what is the intent?
to please Allah azza wa jal, right, it can be the opposite. Because that person is undergoing a will or doing a religious thing.
Okay, it's an religious activity. So of course, it's the pleasure of Allah xojo. What makes it wrong? It's not the intent.
But the path the way in how you're doing it. So you love Allah azza wa jal, the wrong way, the love the Prophet alayhi salatu salam the wrong way, he loves us harbor the wrong way, then of course, you've crossed the limit. And that's not a proper type of love. So if you want to love anyone, for the sake of Allah Zota listen to how he wants you to love them. So you cannot exaggerate. For instance, the phrase of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam or the praise of some of the Sahaba or the praise of a shave, a living or dead simply because you say, I'm honoring by doing that. That's not really not proper love. Right?
The second also, it allows you to rise above right and it will before I before I forget this, there's an idea and we always repeat this idea. Can it's just to confirm that love and Sunnah are love and obedience are connected, where Allah azza wa jal said, Call In Kuntum to her bone, Allah flutterby only the common law, say if you love Allah, then follow me and Allah will love you. So, if you want to get that love, follow him, and he's salatu salam, there's no other way right?
You follow? Right? That's what it says. There is no other way. How are you going to get Allah's love? How are you going to get Allah to love you? He says, Follow me. So if you follow me in what I'm telling you to do, and I'm telling you not to do, you will get Allah's love. If you want to get Allah's love through another way you would have missed the destination may have missed the way
is it can't happen that way. So that's why if you want Allah to love you then follow Muhammad Ali salatu salam hotels, you pray this way, and fast this way, and feel this way and don't feel this way and live
as he looked at least.
So
this
second benefit of love for the sake of Allah azza wa jal is that you rise above above above love for your own sake and that love is immature, short and instead are not stable.
So, if you love simply for your own sake,
you yourself as a being is not permanent. Right? And you keep changing your minds all the time.
I mean, have you experienced a time where at one point in your life you hated a specific who is cuisine and now you like it
a specific drink and now you hate it or vice versa?
A specific you had a specific taste, but now it changed. Alright, have you experienced that? If not, you will.
So you are yourself, you lack stability. So if you are simply going to love for your own sake,
and you hate for your own sake, that one is immature, because it keeps changing.
Oh, he said something bad to me now I hate him. Oh, he apologized. Now I love him again.
Right?
He didn't call me that said between me and him. Because the bond is not strong. You don't have anything to hold on to that person except your own feeling. So you can begin or you can end a relationship.
So it's not stable. And it's very childish, and it's very immature.
But if you love for Allah sake, you Rise Rise Above all of this. Because now Allah azza wa jal is the one who is permanent.
Because if now if you love
for the sake of Allah azza wa jal
whether this person called you or not, as long as they are pleasing to Allah subhana wa Italie that you continue to love them.
Whether you know this person or not, whether you expect something from them or not, whether you've asked him for a favor and the helped or not.
You'll continue to love them for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, right?
What do you say why? Because loving for the sake of Allah is because of Allah when you look at him and you say, by the way, there's personal love, and there's religious love
and explain that, you know, elsewhere in the book, religious love and there was personal love. He's nice to you, you like him? Why? Personal
back to you, you lose that love why, again, it's personal. The love of Allah azza wa jal is not motivated by these things.
But motivated by his piety and her piety. So if he is pleasing to Allah, if he's pious, if He's righteous, you'll continue to love him to sing.
And if he becomes more righteous, you love him even more, he loses that piety of love and less. So that is more permanent because it's tied to Allah azza wa jal is not tied to you and your own feelings
and your own circumstances or change of taste.
The third is that it continues despite personal feelings, right? So suppose that I've been, you know, good to you, or you've been good to someone for a very long time. And then you do one thing, and they forget all the good that you've done, and they turn to be an enemy. Right?
That is basically because it is based on personal fluctuation of emotions. I'm feeling okay. I'm feeling generous, gracious, not. I've choose to forgive, I choose not to forgive. It's all up to me. I'm the reference. I'm the middle. I am the center.
Whereas when we're saying that when you want to love for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, you don't become the center.
Who's the center Allah azza wa jal, so that love is protected from your own fluctuations. So whether you know you've been good to me your whole life,
or I've never received a single thing from you.
If Allah azza wa jal loves you, I will love you. For how do I know if Allah loves you based on appearances.
You're close to him you do this, you do that. Even if there was a quarrel between me and you, if we fight, I still observe the rights that Allah wants me to observe. I will still give you the salon. I will still protect you. I will still conceal your secrets I will not turn against you I will still be generous forgiving towards you because Allah pushes me to be this way. So I will not turn I will not sour because of you.
So Allah azza wa jal shields you from my harm, because I've loved you for His sake and Allah will shield me from your harm, because you've loved me for his sake.
And will not misinterpret everything you say because I don't like you as much now
I will not look for your mistakes, right? All of these things happen because Allah azza wa jal
is the one who's at the center, not us. And finally,
and it doesn't mean finally, that this is the end of its benefits, but that's the end of what I could come up with.
Love for the sake of Allah azza wa jal unites because we need something bigger than ourselves, to bring us together. So imagine if all of us just loved ourselves and only ourselves, could we come together?
It wouldn't be possible. That's why if you don't have religion, a society a nation would have to invent something in the place of God, for people to love so that they would come together. What is that?
That's the nation. Right? That's the country.
Because how else could you bring everybody together to do the same thing? Because they need to love the same thing. Because so for some people, it's that charismatic leader, political military leader that everybody loves. So if he says something, everybody will follow. So he can unite. If I don't have that person, what is going to unite people because they have to love the same thing. What is that?
The country say all of you belong here from this. And to that end, the history is glory, the present is glory, the future is promising. So you weave a narrative, right? Fairy tales, a mythology.
Mythology doesn't need to be fake, but a mythology about the nation that can bring everybody together that everybody could be excited about that's love.
So everybody realizes we have to have more than ourselves. So what is real for us to love more than ourselves? It's Allah azza wa jal. That's what's going to unite. That's what brings Muslims together. So they could talk to each other, they could help each other because I know that I need to love you and you need to love me and we have things in common. And these things are based on loving Allah as Odin and loving his prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.
So the benefit of that love is that it brings trust, I can trust you, I can rely on you. I'm not alone.
And that's why you need to love people for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and they need to love you for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and loving them for that sake is an extension of loving Allah as Odin. As far as the issue of trust goes.
The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said in a hadith, it said Royale mode mean ages old men are better, you know, just Amina Naboo.
It says the belly of the dream of the believer is a 40th, maybe one over 40 a 40th portion of prophethood. That is, if you were to divide prophethood into 40 parts, having a good dream, that is from Allah azza wa jal that could foretell. The future tell you about things that have not happened yet, is one over 40 of prophethood. Right? Not that prophets would could be acquired, but that is the approximation of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So it's not something to be taken lightly. If it's a message and a communication from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala, and he continues on a Salatu was Salam. And he said, Well, he either originally thought you're Muslim, you had this Bihar, and it
says, and it is as if it is tied to a bird's leg, as long as he does not share it, meaning it could TV continues to float is not fulfilled, for either pay that the head that Toby Hasakah thought he says, but if he shares it, he tells people about it. It's false. And what does that mean, when it's false? It's fulfilled, it's happened. Well, I too, had this Biha Illa de Bono Habiba. It says, Don't then share it with someone unless they are wise, or someone that you love,
someone who loves you.
Right? So a wise person, because the WISE will know how to interpret that thing. Right. So that's what you should see someone who knows how to interpret. You don't share it with the ignorant, who can, you know, guess, haphazardly or may mean this or mean that if you don't know then you don't talk? Oh, Habiba or a loved one, someone who loves you, because the one who loves you, is not going to envy you because of it
is not going to be distressed because of it. If it's predicting something good for you. It's not going to ruin it for you is not going to propose a bad interpretation to harm you. So you trust them. And because you trust them, then you share that with them. So that's the element of trust that we are talking about that when you love people for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, you can trust them and they could trust you back
So love and the taste of iman
why is it that when you love for the sake of Allah azza wa jal you begin or you can find the taste of iman because loving for the sake of Allah azza wa jal essentially means that you're receiving no benefit from it. You're not loving for benefit you're loving for Allah as Odin and that will go against your own impulse to love only what you like, or what benefits you and to hate what harms you here you are loving Allah as origin and loving someone or something that may bring you no benefit. But you're doing it for Allah azza wa jal. So your ability to migrate Hijra from yourself to Allah azza wa jal rise above yourself so that you would love for His sake and not only for yourself to
conquer the self and its ego. Your ability to do this allows you to find the sweetness of Eman because when you love for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, your Eman increases, because you're loving Allah subhanho wa Taala for it. So this is this migration from the limited self to Allah azza wa jal from loving for ourselves to living or living for ourselves to living for Allah azza wa jal from us as the center to Allah azza wa jal as the center. And by the way, in modern life, who is the center
it's always the self. It's always the self, it's what you feel and what you want. It's what you desire, you're the center. So it's a process of migration, where you decide there with all of these commercials and advertisement and upbringing and how the subject was created. Because all of us are being recreated by whatever we see, to focus on you, you you, your delight, your gratification, your delight and your gratification. So you're always are being pushed inside. Think about yourself, not about other people. So this is a hijra, a migration, that is difficult to be, but you have to do it where Allah becomes the center is now what I feel what Allah wants. It's not my laziness, but Allah
is pushing me so I'm going to do it. So you push yourself so that you are no longer the one in control. Allah azza wa jal is the one who's in control. So you surrender to Allah instead of surrendering your own desire.
And if you are bustled the Allahu Anhu said that this is how you achieve
that we lie of Allah subhanho wa Taala How do you become a word of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. So if not Abbas said, hey Buffy Allah He was abducted Villa he will if he Allah he will add if Allah He for in number two now Lulu to La Hebei, dally wala Yeji to Abdul Rahman Eema and you were in case who wrote Salah to who was a Yamaha de Hakuna chaotic. So he said, What are the Allahu Anhu
he said love for the sake of Allah and hate for the sake of Allah and befriend for the sake of Allah and before for the sake of Allah because indeed you will become a value of Allah only if you do this and a person will not find or have the sweetness of Eman even if he prays a lot and he fasts a lot until he is such
because the Eman then is incomplete. You could pray a lot
and you could fast Allah.
But where is your love for Allah azza wa jal
Ken there is movement
and there is baraka in that movement when you pray and Baraka in fasting when you do, but then they still are deficient until you love Allah azza wa jal.
Right. Could you imagine somebody who prays and he fasts, and they see people disobeying Allah but have no reaction.
So what does that mean that the love of Allah itself is what is we compromised, and that a murderer may have become what habitual
a bother but not deep, not effective?
Who says no,
you have to be emotionally attached to him subhanho wa Taala through your Salah and through your a burden, even if you don't end up praying as much or fasting as much but you need to be emotionally attached to him. subhanaw taala you need to love him and only when you
feel so attached to him. So So become so loving of Allah subhanho wa Taala that when you're going to choose a friend you will choose based on Allah.
And when you're going to choose an emotion or a reaction you will choose based on Allah azza wa jal that Allah means that much to you. And that proximity to Allah is what makes you or what do you have
Not just mere action or repetition. So what is the meaning of Willie, by the way is someone who is close?
Someone who's close. And someone, a human being who's close to you, is someone who looks after you. And someone who's happy when you're happy and angry when you're angry, that is what proximity is about. So when someone does not have that, those emotions, you understand the proximity is an illusion. So we say if you want to be what do you have Allah azza wa jal don't just simply check how much you are doing physically check. How much do you love Allah azza wa jal and how am i How close are you to what he loves? And far away from what he hates? That's how you understand it.
And
another quote from Amada or the Allahu anha.
Where she said
when she was asked, mouth aku Maliki Fein of Sikhi
it says, what action of yours do you trust the most mouth who Imani give you enough sticky meaning among all the deeds that you have done? Which is the one that you trust the most? Or we rely on it the most? Or if you were to meet Allah as though Did you say this thing is the thing that might help among everything that you have done? She said, Elizabeth villa, she said, loving for the sake of Allah.
And again, if you were to ask yourself, why is that the thing that she identified as the thing that she trusts the most.
Because again, there is the self receives no benefit from it.
No benefit from it.
Now, when you pray, there is a Salah
there is a chance that what you're not paying attention to what you're doing. You're just doing it
or you're trying to win at someone's admiration. You're doing it because they're beside you. So you're praying because
of their expectation. So there's that element there. So you receive a benefit from it right? When you fast, you receive some benefit from it, everybody's fasting. It's nice to break your fast to get there is some benefit in it. So when you think about all of these deeds, they could be mixed with self interest and self benefit. Loving, truly loving for the sake of Allah azza wa jal frees you from your own selfishness because now you're receiving nothing from it. It is completely for Allah.
Because when you see someone
and you say and you'll see that mashallah, you know, you they're doing great as far as he could see, they're doing great, they're helping, they're doing this, this, this, this.
And again, no benefit is going to come and visit you from them. And you love them for Allah.
That means that you have loved Allah azza wa jal, and that's why you love them.
And the more that you push that, and the more that it grows, the more that is an act of a badass. So it's actually an act of a better for you to sit not simply only pray and fast. But to ask yourself, Do I love Allah azza wa jal? Do I love this person for the sake of Allah. Let me contemplate let me ponder how I can increase my love for them for the sake of Allah azza wa jal because they love Allah because of this, this this and they are attached to Allah because of this, this this that's why I love him for the sake of Allah.
So now yeah, you can have friends, and you can have loved ones on a personal level, but then you will have friends and loved ones because of Allah subhanaw taala. And when that's the case, then that's an indication that you have freed yourself of yourself and attach yourself to Allah has the origin. And the final code for today in sha Allah
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Rahim Allah said men have borrowed on Saudi hand for in them at habila.
He says the one who loves a pious or a righteous man, indeed only loves Allah.
And what he means by that Rahimullah is that obviously he doesn't mean that that person is Allah. Right?
Right, because some people could understand it that way. Oh, Allah, God is, is an all of us.
We don't believe that God is in all of us or that we are divine. There's a complete separation between the divine and created and we are created and there is nothing divine in us or about us. Right. So that's should be clear. That's what not, that's not what he means. But he says if you love a pious man, for his piety, who are you actually loving? Allah azza wa jal, that's the one who's behind. So you could have a pious man or a scholar or a chef, a speaker a day or whatever and you could like them because they speak well.
Is that for Allah azza wa jal?
Is it
good speakers? Is that for Allah? It's not for all
you like them because they're handsome.
It's a fact right? Because you're attracted to beautiful faces. Everybody male or female, right? What is that experiment that they brought an infant in the bottom pictures of supermodels versus you know, regular people and he would kind of stare at the supermodels versus the regular people. So bad luck for everybody who's regular, right? So even babies realize that oh, she's beautiful. Now there's more than anyway, it's subjective anyway.
But what was I talking about?
Okay, I forgot what I was talking about. So if you like this person, right, if you watch him because he's handsome, is that for Allah?
Don't you like you watching him? Because he's controversial? Is that for Allah?
It just entertaining. It's not for Allah as it did. Not until you actually let go of all of this. So you realize the filters that I'm talking about? Because you're seeing and you think, Oh, I'm just watching Islamic
programming or Islamic lectures, and it counts as a brother. But I don't know if you've asked or I've asked yourself, is this for Allah as like, am I learning something? Or am I being entertained?
That's very different.
So if you like entertainment, that's fine, as long as halal. But don't deceive yourself thinking that this was for Allah azza wa jal? No, it's not. For Allah azza wa jal is this is this person speaking the truth.
Speaking with knowledge,
what he's saying, If I follow it, will it take me to Allah zuiden? will it save me from hellfire? That, then is someone who would be loved for the sake of Allah as of did not simply because they are the best of speakers? And he Musa alayhis salam was he in a sense, did he not stutter? He had a stutter to him. Right. And Harun was a better speaker than Musa alayhis salam yet in the Quran, who's speaking all the time?
Musa
right, even though he wanted him as support, but he was speaking all the time. You say Allah is quoting Musa Musa Musa Musa because what Musa is saying because Musa is better than haram was Musa was saying was the significant thing. How long was the support?
Right?
So, if you love a person, Lila, not because a country not because of origin, not because of accent not because of these things, but this person is pleasing to Allah then you have loved Allah xojo.
And so if you have say to a person you here in the masjid, which is going to come in sha Allah, so I don't want to burn it. But you can see a person I love you for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, what do you mean?
What do you mean, but we're going to come to that. So I'm not going to burn that yet. So we'll stop here in sha Allah.
And let me know if you have any questions or comments or anything that was not clear. But the hadith is telling us right, that you will start to find the sweetness of Eman if you change the way that you look at people and you start to ask yourself, I like this person. There's a lot that we have in common. This person is funny, this person gives me food, this person invites me this person is beautiful, all of that is beautiful. And we're going to get to that again. I think getting ahead of myself because these things are important to build up what we call love. But then is that why I like them? Simply Okay, is there a better reason? Am I not connected to every Muslim?
As long as they have Iman, based on love, even when you disagree with them, but as long as they you still believe that they are Muslim? Do you not owe them an element of love and that you need to love them? For Allah sake. Even if what they have is an iota of Eman is owe them an iota of love. Still. So I contemplate
a call for reflection insha Allah that you really want to have that sweetness in your heart, start to take a second look at people and say, I will love this person more for Allah sake and I will love this person more for Allah sake. Because that insha Allah will remind us that love should always be motivated by Allah azza wa jal
so I'm going to see in sha Allah if we have any online questions, but meanwhile, let me know in sha Allah if you have anything Yeah, go ahead.
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What if someone is not
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okay, so I mean, so suppose for instance, you're the one who's bias I'm just trying to understand the question. You're just someone who's pious or supposedly somebody comes and tells you I love you for Allah sake. Then you return back and you say and I love you for Allah sake. Okay, so if they're not pleasing to Allah azza wa jal What do you say? So we are going to come to that insha Allah and the reply is May Allah love you.
Okay, so you don't have to profess love if you don't have that love. Right?
So the adequate response to it may I'll have back Allah Allah the attorney fee may Allah love you may Allah love you, the one that you've loved me loved me for. That's the response. And we're going to get to that in sha Allah in a future heading. So I want to kind of leave that to that inshallah. Your your first question is how to practice it
well, how do we
how do we judge
how you how you judge a person for the sequel? So the most important thing is a question is how do you love someone for the sake of Allah as origin so the first important thing is that you need to love Allah first. gonna work on that because he can't kind of invent love for Allah sake, when if it's not based on anything. It'd be just a claim, a wish. So you have to love have enough love of Allah zoodle That you feel
happy when you think that Allah is pleased, and sad and angry when you know or you think Allah is angry. So develop that. So a stronger, more intense attachment to Allah azza wa jal paves the way for loving for what Allah loving what Allah loves and whom Allah loves. So once you love Allah and you have that as your foundation, now you understand that I must extend it, it's not enough, as we started to talk previously, it might has to extend, it's natural for us to expand, then you look at what Allah loves, and you say, I'm a naturally should love this. And it will come easier because you already have that love in the back. So we will allow you to love what Allah loves and whom Allah
loves. But if you don't have this, which Allah is love, it's very hard to go and love what Allah loves at the same time, because you can kind of clash with your own self. And your own self is not going to let you simply love like that without a mortar without a foundation. So the love of Allah has to compete with your own love for your own self. And remove it from the center. Again, you're not going to stop loving yourself, but you're not going to consider yourself to be the center of everything. Allah Azza that takes the place right? So that's how it happens.
Well, you
and me check
you go ahead yeah.
For Allah sake.
So how do you differentiate between intuition and then loving or not loving someone for Allah sake? Right? You interrogate the reasons, like you could have I mean, so are you talking about
having a reaction to someone unexplained reaction to someone maybe because they are pleasing to Allah displeasing to Allah?
Okay, so Okay, so, intuition, intuition in the sense of and I just don't feel right about this or that person, right? I just have a feeling. So intuition is human and human emotions could be fluid. So you investigate that intuition. Your intuition could be accurate and sound. I'm uncomfortable with them. It turns out that they are uncomfortable. They do cause discomfort, or you interrogate yourself and you find that it's just basically my bias, or whispers from the Shangela. So you interrogate you ask, because you have no evidence. So you explore it until you have evidence and in some cases, you don't really need to explore you just because you're not attached to the person. She
just stay away. And it doesn't harm you doesn't benefit you. It's just a casual encounter. So that's fine.
As long as any he's not a relative, he's not a friend, right? And you just
and several connections based on an intuition or a feeling love and you know love and hate for the sake of Allah azza wa jal are deeper because they're based on reasons. And he wants a logical, right because it's really different. It's not logical, but they're based on reasons identifiable public. A lot of times public or sometimes they are hidden. Because some Taqwa is hidden, you don't understand, but you feel that this person just from his face, this is pleasing to Allah azza wa jal, right, so you feel comfortable with them, or uncomfortable with other people, right? But at the same time, physically, they are obedient to Allah or at least not disobedient. So you do base it on
something, there's some grounds to it, versus the intuition that is just simply, I just don't like how I feel around.
That's different.
I don't know if I've answered it, but I tried my best
okay.
Okay, why do women have to wear hijab? Because Allah said, so.
Because Allah loves it, let's tie it to what we're talking about God, Allah loves it. And if you love Allah, you will do it. Allah loves in it, even if you don't understand it. Right? Isn't that what we're saying? That's the whole thing that we've talked about today is that you may hate something and it's good for you. Right? So you may not like it. But we said, if you love Allah azza wa jal, you'll trust him. And if you trust Him, you will do it. Even if you don't, we're not fully convinced. But once you do it, you will find the benefits that are in it. So if you want to take it
and that's the best way based on what Allah has revealed, I don't want to explain to you, or protect women or the man's gaze, or why would I have to do this right? Too tired? What I'll do is basically tell you, Allah said so. And that really is to your own benefit. And if you love Allah is limited, he will do what Allah loves, and then you will not question so push yourself, push yourself and do what Allah azza wa jal wants from you and you'll discover the fruits of it all. And he will start loving what he loves apana with data even if that was not the case.
So I heard if you want to know the state, Allah is with you see the state your mother is with you. That if she had that happiness, I believe, is this true?
Not not 100% Right, because your mother could be angry with you for bad reasons. Your brother Your mother is a human being after all, right? So the same goes that if you want to see how much you matter to Allah, see how much Allah matters to you? That's really nicer. Right? Because like, you want to see how much you matter to Allah because this is a vape like with Allah azza wa jal Who am I am I so deep? Because he would want to believe that? Am I like among the Shahada? Maybe at that level? Maybe that would be great essay, okay, see how Allah as it is in your life? How much space does he occupy? How much time do you spend with Allah azza wa jal? How much do you worry about him?
So how much does he matter to you? See, if you say 5% Well, this is your 5% with
10% You're dead 10% with Allah if he matters a lot, then you matter to Allah azza wa jal Allah, so that's better. Now, of course, this doesn't mean just going back to the question that you shouldn't honor your mother and respect her and you know, tolerate even
sometimes not all mothers do that. But sometimes were abused when she abuses you or her agitation which is agitated. You tolerate all of that, but it doesn't mean that if she's happy with you, you know, in general with Allah fitted lalwani, they, if Allah has, will be happy with you if your parents are happy with you, but it doesn't mean that everything that they will say and everything that they will do is pleasing to Allah azza wa jal is simply do your best to please them. Right? And if a time's right, they're just angry because they are human being despite your best effort than that's the case. It doesn't mean that Allah now hates you because your mother is not happy with you.
Right? Does that make sense? Is that complete kinda? Okay, so Okay.
Sometimes we have deluded motives to love a person we thought it is for the sake of Allah due to the person righteousness, but it might be due to something else without noticing it. What questions do we need to ask ourselves to remove the potentiality that we love others other than Allah azza wa jal?
I mean, there's nothing more than again interrogating the motives and interrogating why you're doing this and asking Allah as it did for clarity. If you think you don't have clarity, so if
If you find yourself your love for someone increasing because their taco has increased and decreasing because their taco has decreased, that is your signal that you're loving them for Allah as of did not for personal reasons. But if you're going to love the person the same no matter what they do, then that's not for Allah. You just like them because you'd like them. And often these things intermix, it's hard really to detangle all of that, because you like the person but he also yummy for Allah azza wa jal, but also starting to like the person himself, right? So detangled both by say asking yourself, no, listen, I supposed to, I began this for Allah azza wa jal let it
continue to be for Allah azza wa jal, so that I will respect and esteem this person for Allah
which makes it by the way easier to
protect yourself from harm, if they make a mistake.
Right. So, a people will ask again I said you know, why are you listening to so and so? Is it because of Allah azza wa jal? Or is it because of somebody else, you could be attached like a fan to someone, a speaker, especially if someone who's famous. So, and if they lose their Iman or they do something bad, it compromises your iman, she has like let go of you let go of all of iman, because he betrayed you right?
Whereas if you know that this person is a fallible human being youth that you should fluctuate in your love based on Allah azza wa jal, then he's not the center but Allah is.
So there's like idol worship, right? That's what I'm getting at. There's idol worship, and that can happen in Islamic context as well. Like, I'm a good Muslim, because he's telling me to, he's telling me to do this and not to do that. So you're attached to him? Not to Allah azza wa jal. So when that quote unquote idol collapses, you collapse, whereas he's supposed to be doing what pointing you elsewhere to Allah azza wa jal. So what if this person loses their Iman? Or they are, you know, been suffering or they've involved in you know, unsavory acts? Let's suppose let's suppose then what are the human beings and going to lose your iman because of it, you're supposed to be attached to
someone higher, not to him. So this is how you interrogate you ask yourself and you keep asking yourself until you find out why you're loving this person. Right? Well, Laura, Anna.
And I guess there's there must be something else.
What do we do with close relatives who clearly rejects and goes against Allah and invites others to how to love or hate for ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada in this case? So of course, first of all, what does it mean that he
rejects and goes against Allah as legit and invites others to do so. So I'll just take it at face value, that that's what they're doing. So if they're doing that, even though they are relatives,
your dilemma here is that their relatives at the same time, they're angering Allah as a widow, what do you do with it? So you owe them rights that belong to relatives, they could be parents, they could be children. So you still owe them rights that belong to relatives. You don't necessarily disconnect at the moment.
There's still the parents, there's still the children, there's still the cousins and the uncles that whoever, unless you tell me there is harm that they're causing, then that's another thing that we could talk about. But here I don't get that here or low Anna.
But at the same time, right, and you may actually on a personal level like them because they are relatives. Right? You can't let go of that. Maybe.
But at the same time, you have to say to yourself that the choices that we have made anger Allah azza wa jal and Allah when you he looks at you doing these things, saying these things, inviting people to whatever wrong or falsehood you're following. Allah hates it, and then I hate that in you.
You have to say that you said I hate that in you. I hate that part of you.
So there's an element toward love So love is divisible and we'll talk about that maybe Allah LM later divisible meaning what you could love a portion and hate a portion
which is by the way, right and we're going to repeat this again so I'm don't feel that I introducing it too soon. That's the case by with everybody almost right. Do you love everything about everybody?
No, it's not possible. I maybe would like an exception you know, one or two. But everything about everybody No, I like this, but not like that. I like this, but I hate that stuff. That's it the same way. So for those relatives, right. I like you
or love you here
right because of that connection, kinship that we have. But this these actions these beliefs are hate
and you could have that relationship with them. So but still try and keep trying because your connection with them since you know the truth and you have a connection, there is more of a chance that you'll be able to guide them and save them with the will of Allah azza wa jal
So, last chance in sha Allah
Allah crimson
just takes time
so you're talking to you asking about practical steps that will help you increase your love for Allah azza wa jal right and you
offer the talk how to love for Allah sake, the practical steps, right.
Okay.
No, so I mean, that connects to what he was talking about. Right? So yes, the what you said also, is it is it something is it something that builds up with time, and it does just like with the love of Allah azza wa jal because we're supposed to
keep growing the love of Allah has origin right as we live with every single day with every single act, he push, and even if we retreat at times, to keep pushing forward so that we can gain ultimately we gain grounds we don't lose them. So, if you love Allah azza wa jal more as we said, you have to ask yourself, I also need to love what Allah loves. So you attach yourself to that. So if you find yourself loving Allah more, it's natural for you now to love the Quran more.
Or if you want to love Allah more, you will love the Quran or you attach yourself to Torah, the Quran so that you would love Allah more. You find yourself that finding more comfort in the Salah, than he asked yourself and not finding that then you invest more of your time in the Salah. In order for you to connect with Allah Zoda that increases love for Allah and increase Love of Allah who will increase your love for the Salah. So all these foundations that increased love for Allah azza wa jal, all these acts so more thicker to love Allah and more love Allah the more that you love to mention his name. So kind of drown yourself slowly right as you kind of go into like a swimming pool
from the shallow to the deep end. Some of the shallow you increase what you get yourself acclimated to the water, and then get more and more and more of it. And then the more that you get, the better swimmer you will be you'll be she'll get more of that until you'll be able to swim there. So, more acts and more contemplations and when you have this, then you push yourself in the direction of loving for Allah sake. So now you love the axe now you need to love the people. So who is inviting to for Allah sake who is champion is championing the Sunnah, defending the book of Allah azza wa jal who is in the Salah, they could be anywhere else but now in their in the Salah, who's helping clean
the masjid vacuuming the masjid May Allah reward them so remind yourself of the righteousness of these people. Again, we're judging by appearance but the righteousness of these people and love them for it.
And that's how you grow that love. Okay, so it requires more awareness of what you see and inviting yourself to like it and appreciating the good that you see in people. Online.
Okay, so we're good on the sister site, online, brother site. Good. The Zachman Lawhead I'll see you in sha Allah be in the latter Isla next week Subhanak long Hemric a shadow Allah Illa hadeland test Africa to liquid hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Salam Alikum rahmatullahi wa