Adnan Rajeh – Sunday Tafseer- 66 Part 4 Surat Al-Tahrim- 9-12
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The speakers stress the importance of protecting oneself and loved ones from the "car corporations" and "weird behavior" by planning for future mistakes, protecting one's family, and creating a framework for justice. They also mention the importance of protecting one's rights and being powerful through his dysfunctional family and his wife's. The transcript concludes with a promise to continue the series and create a cluster of surahs.
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Insha'Allah we'll try and conclude the surah
this week, khalas, it's four parts, it's actually
too much for a two-page surah I'm
starting to get sloppy while I'm taking too
much time to finish this stuff but really,
really due to Allah'u'alam, ya'ni,
the the need for contemplation on certain parts
of it, ya'ni Now we're taking time
because honestly some of these verses require an
hour of just making sure that insha'Allah
you're contemplating and appreciating the beauty and the
depth of what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is sharing with us and Ya'ni, what
scholars have said historically is that an ayah
of Qur'an requires a lifetime of contemplation,
like a lifetime of reflection, really not an
hour or two but we're trying to do
this in a method or in a way,
in a fashion that insha'Allah does not
bore you same time allows you to kind
of wrap your head around some of the
basic and important concepts that are being explained
so to quickly just put this together, Surah
Al-Tahrim is the last surah in this
cluster from Al-Mujadidah to Al-Tahrim which
is also the 28th juz' of the Qur
'an but they are a group of surahs
and they're all madani and they talk about
organizational aspects of the Muslim community, thank you
They're very organizational, very technical They talk about
the relationships that Muslims are going to have
with one another within their community, with their
leaders, with non-muslims as citizens ya'ni,
the social contract with leadership with buy-in,
ya'ni, it talks about the relationship of
marriage, it talks about the relationship within the
family, which is what Surah Al-Tahrim kind
of concludes this cluster with This final surah
talks about organizing the relationships within a family,
within a household I guess maybe it's a
better word for it, within a household, which
is why we got a glimpse into the
life of the Prophet ﷺ, a very personal
one by the way, like we got to
hear an aspect of his personal life I
always wondered how comfortable he was ﷺ with
these things being spread that way, I've always
thought about that His personal life was on
display for people, if you think about it,
we know everything about him ﷺ We really
do, like certain things we don't talk about,
but if you want to go back to
the books We know absolutely everything about his
life, every detail, no one likes that, no
one wants that to be on public display
But this is the sacrifice he had to
put up with ﷺ, that the Qur'an
would come and expose something that is really
no one's business to know about Like if
you think about it, no one needs to
know what's actually happening between him and his
wife And what they're saying to each other,
but because the lessons of what is occurring
are important That's why we're getting a glimpse
into his life, seeing what being taught, what
is valuable and what isn't And how we're
supposed to prioritize the elements of our relationships
with our spouses and within our households And
of course the main ayah in the surah
that talks about قُوْ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ O those
who believe, protect yourselves and your families from
the hellfire Making that the absolute priority, or
the most important priority for us as Muslims
in our life Which is to protect ourselves
and our families, our loved ones, from ever
being punished If that is always your goal,
and you always use that to guide your
decision making process, then you'll be fine Every
decision within your family, in terms of your
relationship with your wife and your children You're
using this as your guiding principle, you're always
going to be safe, you'll always make the
right choice If the goal is to protect
yourself and your children and your wife from
ever being punished يوم القيامة, ever being in
the hellfire, it's almost impossible to make the
wrong decision But because that's not always there,
and we're human and we do lose track
of things sometimes So you won't always think
that way, but if you do, if this
becomes a priority where 85, 90, 95%
of the time That's what you're thinking about,
then your life will be pretty good Because
you're always making choices that are going to
take you and your loved ones closer to
Allah You're prioritizing success over personal vengeance or
personal righteousness Instead of trying to be right,
or trying to be powerful, or trying to
establish your dominance or status You're just trying
to make sure that everyone here makes it
across the finish line How do you do
that?
Allah didn't leave the how unanswered, He gave
us ayah number 8 Which we recited in
full last week, so I'm not going to
repeat the recitation of it But I'm going
to go through the meaning inshallah, because I
think it's extremely important Where Allah calls upon
the believers, and the reason I know that
it's a continuation or an explanation of how
Is because He uses the same nida, He'll
say يَا لَذِينَ آمَنُوا again to contemplate the
first يَا أَيُّهَا لَذِينَ آمُوا That He used
to explain to us what the priority was
Well how do I do this?
تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحًا That's how you're
going to do it You're going to be
in a state of ongoing تَوْبَة What is
the word for تَوْبَة?
Yeah, repentance.
It's the end of the weekend, I'm مَطْبُوح,
there's nothing I'm fully cooked So He uses
a word to describe the تَوْبَة, which is
the only time it's used in the Qur
'an And it's a very famous usage, and
you almost always use it when you make
du'a that Allah accepts your تَوْبَة He
uses the word نَصُوح The word نَصُوح is
not I know the word نَصُوح is usually
translated as advice It's really not advice, it's
more influence than it is advice Really what
it is, is influence So تَوْبَة النَّصُوح Please
not an advising repentance It's an influential one
It's a repentance that is so genuine and
so real That it actually influences all these
other mistakes that are surrounding it And that's
why scholars would say one good repentance will
basically rid you of 85% of your
sin Most of your sins, you don't have
to actually have a genuine repentance from every
sin Just one genuine repentance from one sin
will take out almost everything else Because as
I explained last week, I think we spent
the majority of the time talking about this
Is that repentance requires two basic things It
requires full regret and it requires a plan
Regret means you have to actually believe and
acknowledge genuinely in your heart, in your mind,
in your نفس, in your spirit That what
you did was absolutely wrong Unjustifiable That is
a hard thing to achieve Because most of
us when we do something wrong, we do
rationalize it We have to have it, we
rationalize it We offer ourselves an excuse of
why it was okay or why I had
to do it Or why I did it
and I'm not that bad Because we're scared
of saying nope, there was no reason Because
we think that when we do that, that
means we're just bad people And then our
self-value goes down Which should never be
the point You shouldn't feel that you're a
bad If you're honest with yourself and you
say I shouldn't have done this period There's
no reason for me to have done this
It doesn't mean you're a bad person You
just made a bad choice If making a
bad choice makes you immediately a bad person
Then you have a distorted understanding of self
-value and self-image And that has to
be dealt with Because good people make bad
choices And bad people make good choices And
bad people make bad choices And good people
make good choices We don't know if you're
good or bad You don't know if you're
good or bad That is Allah's judgment on
the Day of Judgment If you're good or
you're bad No one can make that judgment
We're not here on earth to make judgments
about ourselves Or about others in terms of
being good or being bad That's something that
Allah makes a judgment of the Day of
Judgment Your self-value has nothing to do
with either of those things Whether you're good
or whether you're bad Your value is the
same You're just a human being Being good
does not make you more of a human
being Being bad does not make you less
of a human being Like you're a human
being Which is where we came up with
the idea of human rights Human rights are
not attached to anything You don't have to
have a PhD to get them You don't
have to...
Theoretically speaking I understand that the world does
not necessarily function that way But theoretically speaking
What we have agreed upon as a human
race Is that you don't need to prove
anything You are a human being and you
have these rights There's nothing that you need
to do Educated, uneducated, wealthy, poor It doesn't
make a difference You have these rights Whether
you're sinful, you've committed a crime You still
have these human rights And this is taken
from the concept that we have this divine
value That Allah gave us He made you
a human being Nothing I do will make
you more of a human being or less
than a human being Nothing can affect that
So you have to...
When you understand that Then being able to
admit that the mistake that you made was
unjustifiable Won't affect your self-value And allows
you to start taking the first steps Towards
actually having proper and genuine remorse And genuine
regret Regret requires that Regret requires for me
to believe in the heart of my heart
That what I did was wrong And that
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told me not
to do it Because He had every reason
and right to do so And when I
crossed that line I was at fault in
every aspect of it I was just wrong
There's nothing else that can be said You
understand what I'm saying here Because you'll run
into people like this And you've probably been
in a position similar to it Where someone
made a mistake or you made a mistake
And you're being held accountable So there's different
types of people in these moments Either people
who admit and acknowledge that Yep, I made
a mistake and I shouldn't have done that
And they leave it at that They accept
the consequences They accept the punishment They show
their remorse and their regret And there are
others who will find a million ways to
explain why they did this And how it
wasn't really them And how it wasn't really
their fault And there wasn't...
Other people also Other things, other elements And
you come up and we're very good at
that Human beings are experts We're absolutely experts
at doing this It's figuring out ways of
why it wasn't fully my part To diminish
the amount of accountability Responsibility for the actual
problem Well, I was under a lot of
stress in that week My friend had passed
away And my cat was sick Whatever You
start adding all this stuff Some of it
true, some of it not You start adding
all this to explain why it is What
are you doing?
You're just rationalizing to yourself why you made
this mistake That's not regret That's not regret
In order for your tawbah to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala Your repentance from the sin
in your life To work with Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala You have to just come
clean Yeah, I just did it I did
it, I had no good reason and I'm
sorry And I should never do it again
And that remorse has to exist on the
inside Which requires a certain degree of contemplation
and reflection Like you have to really sit
with yourself And get rid of all of
the excuses Because you are giving yourself these
excuses And that's normal We do that as
human beings It's just a part of being
alive But you have to get rid of
them In order for you not to regret
The second piece is the planning You have
to have a plan of how you're not
going to perform this tawbah How do you
come up with a plan?
Well, you have to analyze the actual sin
You have to analyze What caused this problem?
What caused this mistake?
Well, there's a couple of psychological reasons There's
a few financial reasons There's maybe a few
social reasons There's a time of the day
that this happened There's a place where this
happened All of these environmental aspects You are
now looking at You're figuring out what's actually
making this sin more likely to actually occur
What is encouraging it?
What is triggering it for you?
And then the plan has to have within
it You have to make some changes For
you to perform a tawbah with no change
at all What does that mean?
So what did you do?
I just said to Allah I wouldn't do
it again Why would He believe you?
How do I know if you're genuine about
something?
Forget about repenting to Allah If you're working
as an employee in my company And you
made a mistake So how do I know
that this mistake is not going to happen
again?
If you just tell me it won't happen
again Why should I believe you?
Especially if you've done it more than once
Why should I believe you?
You have to give me some guarantees You
have to give me something You have to
show me That's why these days there's always
remediation There's always some way that you go
through a process So that you can actually
prove that this is not going to happen
again Otherwise, I have every reason to believe
This is totally going to happen again So
you're telling me you're sorry and stuff But
why would I believe it?
I'm not sure I would even believe This
remorse that I'm seeing Is it genuine?
How genuine is it?
If you're not changing anything About your daily
routines You're not implementing any new behaviors You're
not removing any other behaviors Why would I
believe that you're honest About the fact that
you feel bad about doing this And that
you're not going to do it again?
So when you speak to Allah As the
exalted example If you're going to tell Allah
I'm not going to do this again I'm
not going to make this mistake again Well,
you have to implement something There has to
be some form of change That has to
happen in your life So when you perform
a tawbah nasuh What you end up doing
are two things You end up going back
And figuring out what you truly believe about
things Because you want to be able to
have proper regret So you have to go
And you start looking at your beliefs You
find out Oh, there's a lot of messed
up beliefs here I am rationalizing things way
too often And way too much So you
start getting rid of that And that will
help you with your general beliefs All in
all It's helpful And then when you start
looking at the reasons For why you performed
this What encouraged it What enabled it You
start removing When I spend time with fulan
I make this mistake I'm going to lessen
that I always do this In the middle
of the night Or middle of the day
On a weekend I always do this When
I just came back from work For example
If a person loses their temper Or they
yell When does this happen?
It happens when I come back from work
And I'm starving And I'm hungry And I'm
presented with all the problems of the day
I scream at everybody So maybe we do
this differently You start making some changes And
then you make those changes The changes that
you make End up helping you get rid
of bad habits in general Usually mistakes happen
When you're picking up bad habits So when
you remove a couple of them To help
you get rid of the sin You're also
removing bad habits That are causing other sins
So slowly you just find All these other
things Just not happening anymore So all these
bad behaviors Just start to slowly go away
Because it was a tawbah nasuh It was
an influential tawbah That literally removed All of
these other problems that you had Because you
did it properly You took the time To
fully establish Your understanding of this sin And
regret it And it also made a plan
So I just wanted to explain that So
Allah gives this command Why?
So that your Lord may perform the following
He can remove for you your sins He
can just completely delete them Erase them for
you Takfeer for many scholars I guess some
is a better usage A better term Some
scholars it's better than maghfirah Because maghfirah means
forgiveness It's still there It's on your book
It's going to be recited But you're not
accountable for it Takfeer is removal It's just
going to be completely removed And replaced Replaced
with something else That's what the word kafr
is It refers to land That's why most
villages in Syria and Egypt Start with kafr
or something Because kafr means land Where land
is being turned on top of other land
Because that's what farmers do To keep the
filah So takfeer is when something is taken
out And something else is put in So
he may remove your sins And replace them
with good deeds Because that's what tawbah does
Tawbah removes something bad in your life And
puts something good instead So now instead of
you getting sin You're going to get hasanat
So that's what takfeer is So perform this
tawbah So that your Lord may remove for
you Or replace for you your sins And
he may have you enter gardens Gardens that
have rivers running under them And I explained
this many times before This is symbolic to
the fact that The gardens that you have
in Jannah Are self-sustainable That the water
runs under you You don't have to ask
for water From some other source To irrigate
your land You dig in your land It's
your water You are not dependent on someone
else And that is kamal al na'im
That is when you have full joy And
full pleasure in Jannah Where even psychologically You
don't feel like you have to depend on
someone else Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has
given you land Where you are self-sustainable
Your water comes from within your land You
don't have to go buy it from someone
else Or depend on a river That someone
may cut or put a dam at the
beginning And you don't get it anymore You're
self-sustainable That's why he uses this term
subhanahu wa ta'ala That you're going to
be given something That even psychologically Yes it's
beautiful It's anhar It's jannat You have all
these gardens They're beautiful And psychologically you don't
have to worry about them Because the water
runs under you It's right there The water
is right there You don't need to depend
on anyone else It's within your own land
And that's just why he uses this term
so often in the Qur'an يَوْمَ لَا
يُخْزِ اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ He will
have them He will do two things for
those who perform tawbah nasuh He will replace
their sin with good deeds And he will
have them enter these gardens that are self
-sustaining On the day This will happen on
the day يَوْمَ لَا يُخْزِ اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ
آمَنُوا مَعَهُ On the day where Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala will not disgrace his Prophet
Nor those who believed with him And this
is the beauty of using this term Is
because just a few minutes ago We were
hearing about the Prophet ﷺ and his family
We were hearing a command where we have
to protect our families So Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala is saying on that day He
will not disgrace the Prophet and those who
live with him Because the Prophet ﷺ, his
family is this ummah That's how this has
always been seen The Prophet ﷺ family is
his ummah And his fear on the Day
of Judgment Is that his family doesn't all
make it to Jannatul Naeem This is what
he always talked about Is that his followers
or those who accept Don't make it and
he's going to make sure that they did
So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in the
Qur'an will put these guarantees On that
day Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will not
disappoint Will not disgrace the Prophet There is
no khizi He will not stand there upset
because his followers went somewhere else Or that
his family was ripped away from him And
this is a bishara, this is a good
news from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala To
the Muslim ummah That if you do truly
behave As if you're a part of his
family ﷺ And you adopt his mentality ﷺ
Then on that day Allah will not disgrace
him and those who believe with him Nooruhum
yasa'a bayna aydihim wa bi aimanihim Their
light, the light of their faces Will precede
them Yasa'a bayna aydihim Sa'i is
when something is running in a direction So
yasa'a bayna aydihim means that the light
of their faces is way ahead of them
So it's keeping the path lit for them
as they walk So they see where they're
going They see where their destination is Because
of the light of their own faces For
the noor that they have Yasa'a bayna
aydihim wa bi aimanihim On both sides So
they're walking basically You don't care if there's
light behind you Or not because you're not
looking behind you So you care if there's
light around you or light in front of
you So on that day their noor The
noor of the Prophet ﷺ and those who
believe with them Will fill what's in front
of them and what's on their sides Yaqoonoon
They're calling Rabbana atmim lana noorana Waghfir lana
Oh our Lord Complete for us our light
May our light be full Because the light
that you have yawm al qiyamah Is symbolic
to the degree of closeness you have to
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala The closer you
are to Allah The more light you have
And it's something that is sentimental That is
basically It's a figurative concept Abstract concept That
is going to be materialized yawm al qiyamah
Something that has to do with your heart
status There's no way It's going to be
turned into a materialistic physical presence yawm al
deen So the amount of closeness you have
to Allah The amount The truthness of your
tawbah The trueness of your sphere of the
hellfire And the work you put towards protecting
yourself and your family Will materialize in the
light that you are carrying with you on
that day So when you're walking there You
would recognize that So they sing Sheikh Mustafa
Turkmayr used to say That ahlul jannah They
enter jannah with nasheed In one of the
lessons So he said how They enter saying
Rabbana atmim lana noorana Waghfir lana So he
would say That they'll enter yawm al qiyamah
Making nasheed And he would quote That they're
walking in jannah And they're making this dua
Oh our Lord Fulfill for us our enlightenment
And forgive our sins Waghfir lana Innaka ala
kulli shay'in qadirinti Indeed you are omnipotent
and capable of all See this beautiful You
know why we have this beautiful description?
Because in ayah number 6 We had a
really heavy one That's why And this balance
in the Quran you'll find everywhere In ayah
number 6 The command was just a couple
of words Qoo anfusakum wa ahlikum naara Four
words That was the command The verse is
three lines Two of those lines were just
explaining What jahannam looked like Waqooduhan nasu wal
hijaratun It's fuelled by human flesh and rock
Alayha malaikatun ghilabun shidadun Upon it are angels
That are strict and rude and difficult And
are non-responsive La yaasoon allaha ma amaruhum
They will never disobey Allah Whatever he tells
them to do They will do it no
matter how unimaginable it may be Wa yaf
'aluna ma yu'marun And they only perform with
that which they are commanded by the Almighty
to do All this description of Naar was
there To provoke a little bit of genuineness
in your protection Like you want to protect
yourself from the hellfire?
Well here's a good description of what you
should protect yourself from And in this ayah
Tughbu ilallah Repent to Allah An influential repentance
That will grant you A completely different outlook
on life altogether Will change Will make things
better for you You will replace bad habits
with good habits Which will lead to replacing
sin with ajr Yawm al qiyamah And you
will enter a jannah And then he describes
this jannah He gives you this beautiful snapshot
And you see a day where Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala is not disappointing or disgracing
the Prophet Alayhi salatu was salam And all
those who were a part of his ummah
are standing with him And they are in
a position where there is no disgrace There's
no khizi It's only increase of status As
they stand there with their light of their
faces and their bodies Filling the whole place
with light In front of them and on
their sides As they are walking towards jannah
And they are calling upon their Lord Oh
our Lord Rabbana Complete for us our light
So that we are fully connected to you
And forgive our sins You are capable of
all It's a beautiful chant It's a beautiful
moment It's a moment of victory It's a
moment of grace And gratitude And bounty So
that you can look forward to it This
is what's going to be on the other
side Protect yourself from this Start by protecting
yourself and your family from this fire But
then look forward to something more Tauba ilallah
Tauba I know that we are very technical
when I explain tauba Here are the four
elements of it Tauba means turn things around
Turn it around Be better Don't be okay
Don't be content with the status quo of
your life You can do better For sure
Why accept where you are When you can
be way better than where you are right
now Why?
Tauba Tauba, change Make some changes Make some
changes And things will get so much better
for you when you do So Allah says
start by tauba It's very beautiful this continuation
It's a recipe for family Start by protection
Make sure you are not doing anything That's
going to lead you down A route to
the hellfire Make sure that you are protecting
yourself and your family Alright?
Okay, I'm doing that Now, turn things around
Don't be okay with that Make it way
better than that Tauba, tauba, nasuh Perform an
influential repentance A repentance that will completely change
things for you When you are in a
position on the Day of Judgment You are
standing with Muhammad At a moment where he
is not disgraced You are standing there and
you are filled with light As he is
And you are all chanting together As you
walk towards Jannah That your Lord can complete
your light for you And forgive your sins
And He is capable of all So this
is what this verse is saying This verse
is taking you from Okay, start here Start
with what needs to happen Assess what are
you and your family doing That may lead
to punishment Protect yourself and protect them And
stop all that Now, turn it all around
Perform a tauba that is going to change
things for you forever That will make you
a better person That will make sure that
you arrive at the gates of heaven With
Muhammad as you make this chant And this
is what we should be thinking of This
is really what the household is there for
This is why you build a family You
are just building your unit That you are
going to go to Jannah with That's really
the point here You are building the unit
It's your family It's your spouse If you
are fortunate and Allah grants you children Then
your children as well If you don't do
any of this You don't build a household
Who are you going to go with?
I don't have any place in my car
I don't know if I am able to
No one has time Everyone is busy Gurah
has to take his wife and his children
and his parents They are not going to
look for you They don't have time to
look for you May Allah grant us to
enter Jannah But you have to have that
So when you build a family When you
build your unit That's what you are building
You are building the people who you are
going to enter Because Jannah no one enters
alone It's always in groups Very few people
come to Jannah alone Very few Like I
am talking maybe 2 or 3 people And
they are prophets They are prophets who no
one in their whole Qawm listens to them
And their argument is going to be absolutely
brutal It's going to be a very difficult
argument they have to make They have to
explain to Allah how no one listens to
them Not one person Not one soul So
you are here to tell me that not
one person that you spoke to listened to
you?
Not one?
You couldn't convince one person?
So this prophet has to explain a lot
The prophet tells us this It goes down
from the Rahat is maybe a couple of
people Up to 6 or 7 people With
2 people And the prophet will come with
one person And the prophet will come walking
alone This happens But those people have to
have It's a lot If you ever read
Surah Nuh You see Nuh We will come
to within the series of these lessons Nuh
has to make a pretty good argument He
goes through all these Read Surah Nuh today
when you go home It's this ongoing argument
he is making of why and what he
did Because he comes Yawm al Qiyamah after
years and years and years of Dawah With
a handful of people The highest number was
73 A Muslim every 13 years That's the
highest number they have in the books of
Sira 73 people over a millennium It's nothing
So he has to explain why people didn't
listen Why his own son didn't listen He
didn't do anything wrong But you understand where
I am going with this The concept here
is that you have to have that argument
So your family has to make sure You
have to make sure they get there So
you start by first of all protecting yourself
From being in a position of punishment And
then Turn things around And you get yourself
closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala And
that's the meaning of Ayah number 8 We
will recite InshaAllah Ayah number 9 And we
will continue InshaAllah the explanation So we will
start with Ayah number 9 of Surah Al
-Tahrim So
the final calling within this Surah is this
one I will explain and then we will
go through the final three verses That are
very special As most of you know So
Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala makes the final
command Is to the Prophet peace be upon
him himself The first one was And then
after that And we explained why And then
he came back to call upon the believers
To give them the next step that they
need to do To protect their families And
the final one Is to the Prophet peace
be upon him himself And this Ayah He
says Jahid meaning strive against Or strive towards
But here because he is talking about The
disbelievers and the hypocrites Those who don't believe
in you Those who are working against you
You have to strive against them Be strict
with them Why be strict with them?
After a bunch of verses that were telling
you That you have to protect yourself And
protect your family And have that compassion towards
them To make sure that you protect them
Verses where it showed us how the Prophet
peace be upon him Was very merciful Compassionate
towards his wives Where he wasn't focused on
just being right He just wanted to make
sure that things worked out You have this
Ayah That is telling the Prophet peace be
upon him To strive against them Fight them
if needed And be strict with them Why?
It's because that is a form of protection
A form of protection of your own Of
yourself And your Ummah And your families Is
sometimes a push back Against the negative influence
That is being brought into your home Or
brought into your society Sometimes for you to
be merciful And compassionate towards those whom you
love You have to push back viciously Against
those who are trying to ruin what you
have Being strict is sometimes A way for
you to be compassionate This is a very
This is a very fine line But it's
very important to take Into consideration when you
study the Quran Because the Quran is extremely
The Quran is very accurate When it uses
these words You find these Ayahs in the
Quran Very sporadically in a few points Whenever
the verses are filled With telling Are filled
with Ayahs that are asking you To be
very considerate And very compassionate And to always
try to comprehend And understand where people are
coming from There's an Ayah within that verse
In that Surah that you'll find Where Allah
will tell the Prophet peace be upon him
You have to be strict Because sometimes You're
going to have to be strict to protect
The valuable things that you have To protect
the beauty Of what Allah has given you
Sometimes you have to be strict And you
have to be firm Or else you lose
it all If you don't want to lose
And I find this to be a perfect
space Because families What is more valuable than
families There's nothing more valuable than family Nothing
more valuable than your family And your children
This is for anyone Once you get married
and have kids This is what life is
about If you didn't have purpose for life
You have purpose once you have a family
It becomes clear to you what the purpose
is It's just how life is And we're
programmed that way You don't need reason to
do these things It just comes naturally To
build a family and to reproduce That's part
of just being a human being You don't
really need religion to tell you to do
it Because it's so valuable The Prophet is
told here Specifically as a leader Because whenever
the Prophet is called upon As I explained
this to you at the beginning of this
surah The beginning of this surah is When
the Prophet is being called upon Specifically in
a madani surah He's being called upon as
the leader In his status as a judge
or as a leader Or as someone who's
responsible for something So that those who are
responsible Later on Or are put in a
position of responsibility later Listen to these things
a little bit more closely Because it's by
proxy also to you So O Prophet You
need to strive against the kuffar and the
munafiqeen Those who are working against you Those
who are fighting you Those who are working
against you externally Kuffar are those who are
working against you externally Munafiqeen are those who
are working against you internally Those who are
trying to strive against them You have to
be strict Why?
Because if you don't then they will ruin
what you have They will take away They
will take away the foundation Of this ummah,
take away your families Which is exactly what
we have today I know that you all
know That The State of the union For
the Muslim nation Is not that great If
you're someone who keeps up with On social
media Or keeps up with what's going on
in the Muslim world Outside of, I'm not
even talking about The ongoing tragedy Of Palestine
And Gaza, I'm not even talking about that
That's obvious, but even outside of that The
amount of, the lack of Adherence to Allah's
teaching The amount of shabab that just don't
They have no interest in anything To do
with Allah's Word and the sunnah of the
Prophet And the ummah of Muhammad and building
for that And if you lived in the
Middle East for any Period of time, you
know that if you've been lucky To grow
up here And your parents put you in
masajid all Throughout your life and you're still
stuck here And you have this really nice
understanding of how the Muslim ummah works I
envy you, I really do I would love
to be that Naive and that Because it's
such a nice Way to see the world
when that's not the Reality of it, it's
not even close We have serious Problems within
our Ummah and the reason that we have
them is because Those who were in power
Those who were responsible, those who should Have
read this verse and followed it They didn't
strive and they weren't Strict and they took
away our families From us and they took
away The most valuable thing this ummah had
It's not the oil Which I hope runs
out at some point so they stop taking
Interest in our * Region of the world
all together It's not the oil, it's not
the resources, it's not What it is is
the sanctity of the Family, it was the
fact that a son Would grow up like
his father did Mu'azzam li kitabillah Mu
'azzam li rasoolillah Who grew up like his
father was someone who Magnified Allah, someone who
loved Muhammad alayhi salam, someone who was Adhered
by the Quran and respected that And daughters
who grew up like their mothers This is
what we had Islam is something that was
passed down It only increased Like Islam practiced
for Hundreds of years, only increased Meaning it
was passed down Generation by the least practicing
Muslim Would pray the five prayers and this
person Who had no interest in learning anything
They had the basics of it and it
just Increased and spread to people who weren't
Muslim And they accepted Islam and then they
became a part of this Whole story and
then the four or five Generations only remember
being Muslim Now we're Core practicing Muslims In
influential Islamic Countries have absolutely Nothing to do
with this No interest at all Not even
close I grew up in the Middle East
all my life I know what I'm talking
about I know what I'm saying It was
just as scarce as it is here I
grew up and lived in Damascus To find
most practicing people Was just as scarce as
it is here Like it's not that different
You found Islam being practiced in Masajid I
knew the Masajid, I knew the scholars I
knew where they were, so I went to
them And that's where I hung out and
that's where I spent time with Everywhere else
was just like Everywhere else here Maybe a
little bit of a difference In terms of
how bad it is In certain aspects Maybe
here is worse In other aspects it was
worse there It all depends on what you're
looking at And what metric you're using to
measure This is the reality of it So
when the Prophet Here is told Honestly if
you're reciting the Surah If you've been listening
to the Tafsir at the beginning If you
don't understand You can almost look at this
ayah and say Why is this here?
Why is this verse here?
How does it fit?
With everything before and everything after it It
almost seems like for a moment It's out
of keep No, it's exactly where it should
be Because it's reminding the leader That you
have to strive hard And be strict He
was told وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَضًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَنْ
فَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكِ He was told if you
were ever to be strict and difficult Then
all the people around you who loved you
will leave you So فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ
لَنْ تَلَهُمْ It's through the mercy of Allah
that He gave you that compassion And that
tenderness that they love you and stick with
you If you become غليظ He'll become غليظ
and leave you And then He's told here
Here you have to be strict Be strict
with those who are trying to ruin the
sanctity of the most valuable thing you have
Which is the family Try to infiltrate your
families And ruin the understandings of the husbands
Of their roles in their households Or the
understandings that the wives have Of their roles
in their households Or the children within the
roles of their households And then once that
happens خلاص Sit back and enjoy the fireworks
Once you got there it doesn't matter anymore
Once you infiltrated there and you poisoned that
You can just sit back, buy some popcorn
And watch things crumble, it's just a matter
of time Because you hit it where You
figured out where the problem is That's why
in the midst of these verses That are
very deep spiritually In talking about قو أنفسكم
Protect yourselves and perform tawbah And turn this
all around You need to strive hard Against
those who are trying to ruin this وَمَأْوَاهُمْ
جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمَغْصِيرِ And those who try to
ruin this for you مَأْوَاهُمْ Their final destination
is Jahannam, is the hellfire وَبِئْسَ الْمَغْصِيرِ And
there is no worse destination than that And
they are deserving of it Very heavy right
This ayah suddenly became very strict And it
needed to be Because that's all we've got
And we've always known that Think about it,
what did the Prophet ﷺ leave?
What did he leave?
He didn't build big buildings There weren't skyscrapers
Left in Medina, even his masjid was very
simple When he passed away Very simple, almost,
no walls No walls How fancy is a
place if there are no walls It wasn't
about the architecture What he left was a
functioning Community that had functioning units He taught
them how Through these verses, how to treat
each other Within a household How to approach
marriage and divorce And how to take care
of your He organized these things for them
So everyone figured out their rights And their
responsibilities So they did them, there's nothing perfect
But they did it to the point where
this community flourished Where Islam spread like wildfire
Where people accepted Islam Because it came to
them with a solution It helped them fix
their lives It gave them purpose It gave
them a goal, a destination Something to work
towards A framework Rules and laws that will
protect everyone's rights Give people Responsibilities that suit
Achieving the outcome This is what Islam offered
It's a beautiful thing So protecting it was
important Protecting this was important And it has
not been protected Which is why we struggle
today Alright, let's recite these last three verses
I know you've read them many times before
I enjoy, actually I love explaining them so
Insha'Allah you'll find them helpful We'll read
all three insha'Allah and then I'll explain
all three Insha'Allah before we run out
of time All
four examples Very very interesting Verses here are
very revealing You almost don't find You almost
You don't find anything similar to this And
when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala uses this
phrase That I'm going to strike examples for
you Of disbelievers and believers And he gave
within the context of the surah That talks
about family For example, strictly women Within that
is a very clear message That he's trying
to explain to us That at the end
In order for family to function It's going
to be the sisters It's absolutely going to
be them This is going to work And
it's going to fail Depending on what we
have Do we have the method of the
deena kafaru Or method of the deena amaru
It's going to be the example And it's
going to be the sisters That dictate this
piece It doesn't mean that men don't have
obligations We've already established that in the first
part of the surah And the rest of
it But when he chose to give examples
Subhanahu wa ta'ala you think Meaning he
could have given us subhanahu wa ta'ala
Examples where a man and a woman He
didn't, it's four women It's four women There's
not one man as an example here In
these verses And the reason being is to
emphasize Is to amplify the importance and the
significance Of having the right person In the
house to take on this job Because there
is no family And there is no household
If there is not a mother and a
wife There isn't It's not possible It doesn't
work I want to survey the sisters How
much time do your husband spend with your
children?
I really want people to know Because I
want to know if I'm different than everyone
else How much time does your husband actually
spend time with his children?
I want you to imagine If it was
up to your husband To take care of
your children How many of them would actually
If Adam was responsible for his children None
of us would be here It would have
ended right then with him If Hawa said
I need to start my own business Take
care of the kids There would be nothing
It would be Adam and Hawa and the
story would have ended there Obviously that's not
the point But you understand what I'm trying
to explain here In Islam there is no
reason For women to be deprived from Contributing
in life To whatever extent they want to
contribute in life Islam is not a reason
for a woman To be deprived from the
ability to contribute to life That is not
what it is What Islam does though And
this is important It explains to men and
women their priorities What the priority is for
a man And what the priority is for
a woman When it comes to families And
if that priority is not clear Then we
have a problem This doesn't mean that families
will Function differently depending on everyone's situation Meaning
you'll have a husband Who's a programmer and
works From his desktop at home And a
wife who's a General surgeon Who has to
be in the hospital And the dynamic of
this family will be different Meaning she'll be
more out of the house than in the
house And that's fine and things will still
work The question is what is the priority
That they carry in their minds In their
hearts What is the man's priority?
Is the man's priority to provide and protect
his family And is the woman's priority to
make sure She nurtures and takes care of
her family If that priority is not there
Then even if the woman Is a stay
-at-home wife The family won't function If
she has no job And has no interest
in having a job And she's a stay
-at-home mother and wife If that's not
her priority this won't work And the same
thing for the man If he's the richest
person on the planet Meaning he has all
the money in the world If he does
not know his priorities Then the family won't
work So it's not about situating things Or
positioning them in a certain way It's about
the priority Now the priority will be obvious
Which is why for example Salat al-Jama
'ah men have to come Women are encouraged
to come Why?
Not because we don't want No, because her
priority is her household Her priority is her
children and her family If she's told that
you have to come pray Salat al-Jama
'ah Then how does she take care of
her priority It makes no sense, it's not
fair anymore She can't be asked to take
care of something And then told she has
to do something That's going to contradict her
priority Makes no sense That piece I feel
is fading away It's fading away and I
don't know how to catch it And I
don't even know how to talk about it
anymore And I honestly don't want to talk
about it anymore I'm not going to talk
about this This is not for me to
talk about We have educated Muslim women You
need to talk about this This is your
domain, it's not ours I shouldn't be doing
this anymore I shouldn't be talking about what
women should be doing It's not my job
I'll talk to the men, I'll tell them
what to do And it's much more comfortable
by the way For me, because I have
no problem yelling at you If you don't
like it, Allah Ma'ak It doesn't matter,
I don't care But I can do that
to sisters No, it doesn't work that way
The Prophet was very specific He was different
when he spoke to the sisters And whenever
he spoke to the sisters and it was
harsh There was no men around Whenever he
talked to them about punishment And having All
the hadith that you have Of the Prophet
Alaihissalam telling women That you must be better
with your husbands He told them in confidence
He did not tell them on the minbar
Because the minbar He's speaking to the men
He's going to go on the minbar and
tell the men That women should obey them
He's not talking to them This command is
not for the men, it's for the women
He would give this to them He had
weekly meetings with the women He had weekly
settings with only sisters And he gave them
his advice And he spoke to them as
a father, as a prophet As someone who
wanted the best for them So they listened
to what he had to say And they
understood what he was trying to explain And
they committed themselves to what they understood To
be the priority And he spoke to the
men differently So this has to be brought
back Sisters in our community have to understand
That this is slowly being faded out Take
care of that piece So I can sit
with the shabab and straighten them out So
they can be actual men So they can
be proper fathers And proper husbands So they
can take care of their jobs So we
can hold them accountable I can't fix problems
I'm not a marriage counselor So please don't
bring me your marital problems ever I don't
care if I have enough of my own
But I can't I can't actually influence If
a friend Or someone I know Is falling
into a problem in his home I can
easily bring the shabab and slap him around
But I have to know that the sister
at home Is doing her Is prioritizing appropriately
Prioritizes her life in the appropriate way Is
fulfilling the basics So I can straighten out
the guy But when someone is not performing
Both have to do it I'm not saying
one has to start And the other one
follows No, they both have to do it
But the reason Allah gives the four examples,
sisters Is because If you do your job
and I don't If my wife does her
job and I don't The family may succeed,
may prevail But if I do and she
doesn't, it's impossible It's absolutely impossible It's off
the table It's not going to happen And
fathers know that I'm fully, I admit that
When we say that Islam Divides the responsibility
50-50 Men have to provide and protect
Women have to take care of the household
It's not 50-50, she's doing way more
work In my opinion, it's way beyond It's
way more My 3 year old, I think
about that She carried him 9 months in
her belly And he's 3 years old If
it goes for more than an hour without
her In his presence, he loses He starts
And he You have to Change him I
can't imagine that degree of need I couldn't
live like that With someone needing me like
that For 4 or 5 years of their
lives It's impossible But somehow it works Somehow
a mother can make it work I don't
know, I don't understand how But it does
This is why these examples being given here
Even if the man is What are the
examples?
Forget about this introduction that I'm giving you
Who are the examples of the lazeena kafaru?
Imra'ata Nooh The wife of Nooh The
mighty prophet of God Nooh One of the
5 major prophets And Lot, one of the
regular prophets We have 2 examples One of
the major, one of the regular prophets Their
families filled Because their wives Were not on
the same page with them Nooh You think
of this Nooh is the role model of
Ibrahim Who is The role model of Muhammad
Who is our role model Nooh is like
one of the Nooh outranks his own father
His great Adam In status This is who
Nooh is And Nooh couldn't save his family
Because his wife wasn't on the same page
Same thing Lot His 2 daughters went with
him, the rest didn't Because his wife wasn't
on the same page Lot failed Wasn't able
to save his people Because his wife wasn't
on the same page with him His family
was dysfunctional, he couldn't get the job done
He couldn't protect himself Because his wife wasn't
on the same page So it doesn't matter
This ayah is not bad-mouthing women It's
telling the man that you're absolutely useless If
you don't make the right choice It doesn't
matter, you could be Nooh and Lot It
doesn't make a difference You're not Nooh, nor
are you Lot Nor are you even remotely
close to them And even if you were,
and your wives were not on the same
page You couldn't make it work Sleep with
that tonight Go today and sleep Think of
that If you were Nooh and you're not
And you have no closeness to them There's
no resemblance between me and one of them
If I were them, I still couldn't make
it work If my wife wasn't on the
same page They were married to 2 of
our pious He uses the terms, pious men
This is not to bad-mouth them Even
though they are at fault, obviously, for doing
that But to say, look, pious men, good
men But they betrayed them And that did
not help them in any way Being wives
of prophets And they entered Jahannam with those
who entered And Nooh and Lot Their families
were dysfunctional And Nooh's son did not accept
Islam And Lot had children I always think
about Nooh He watched his son drown He
couldn't save his son Because there was a
problem, his household Not everyone was on the
same page there So it didn't work out
for him Even though he was a good
man He was of great status, he couldn't
do it You want the opposite example?
The wife of Pharaoh Wallahi The verses are
absolutely mind-blowing Nooh Not the right wife
His family didn't work His dawah didn't work
Did Nooh's dawah work?
Did he bring in the Appropriate amount of
people?
No.
Did Lot save his people?
No.
Two prophets Didn't have the right wife Failed.
The opposite Pharaoh The worst He is the
epitome Of evil in the Qur'an His
wife His wife Made sure he had a
functional family His functional family was His wife
and Musa Pharaoh didn't have children He couldn't
have children And Asiyah wanted a child This
lady in the Qur'an So they found
Musa floating in the river So she said
We'll make him our son That way we
have a family A good wife married to
the epitome Of evil was able to produce
Kaleem Wallahi Musa Go think of that Go
think of that The household of Pharaoh is
a successful Household He's in Jahannam But the
household was successful Because she Oh Allah Build
for me within Jannah A house And save
me from Pharaoh And all that he does
And save me from all of these Oppressions
around me She died Way before Musa achieved
anything Before Musa confronted Pharaoh She passed away
But her household produced one of the mighty
Prophets of Allah The mighty Prophet of Allah
Couldn't hold his household When his wife wasn't
on the same page But a wife that
was a pious lady Was married to Pharaoh
Literally Pharaoh Not a symbolic one The actual
Pharaoh she was married to When she produced
Musa You understand the symbolism here The examples
here are very Very clear I'm going to
make this even Worse for you The second
example Is Mariam If Elsia had Pharaoh as
a husband Mariam didn't even have one Mariam
didn't even need a husband Mariam to produce
Isa Didn't need a husband I'm going to
Produce Ruh Allah Isa Ibn Mariam I'm going
to produce Ruh Allah Isa Ibn Mariam Who
is going to be one of the most
influential characters Of all time I don't even
need a husband You see what this is
in the Quran This is This is how
the Quran Views what women's roles are Do
what you want Do what you want But
if you don't maintain the sanctity Of our
families Then I don't know what is more
valuable Nuh and Lot could not Save their
families because of their wives Pharaoh had a
Successful family He went to Jahannam but he
had a successful family Mariam didn't even need
a Husband to produce a successful family And
she was the example of A mother and
a son One of the most important people
that ever lived Mariam Ibn Taimran She protected
her Sanctity She protected her piety She protected
her chastity So Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta
-A'la granted her chastity His soul She
believed in Allah's words And she believed in
Allah's books and scripture She was one of
the great Worshippers of the Lord And she
produced One of the most important families of
all time The family of Isa Ibn Mariam
And his mother And that's what these four
examples are And if this is not Revealing
to you as a man When you're making
these Choices and thinking about So now go
back to ayah number six He said protect
your family How do you protect your family?
Now you know how you protect your family
You have to make sure you have the
right recipe Because it's not really you You
could be Nuh and Lot and it still
wouldn't work Or you could be Pharaoh or
non-existent and it would work You have
to make the right choice And sisters listen
to this You have to understand how you
are viewed The value of your influence See
the word influence came in this surah Nasuh
is only once in the Quran It's that
influential word Because the influence that you have
Is unparalleled And it's undeniable And if you
don't understand Your priority to be that and
your mission to be that Then we are
truly In trouble as a nation I hope
that was of benefit to you We conclude
with that The second cluster of surahs Within
this series I hope that you found benefit
We continue next week We open a new
cluster We start with Surah Al-Mulk And
we talk about a new chapter in the
Quran SubhanAllah wa bihamdik shalom Wa barak allah
Assalamu alaykum