Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #15
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The speaker discusses the importance of not allowing the lack of international movement or interest in marriage to dampen people's opinions. They also mention a previous hadith that summarizes the concept of marriage and provides insight into the speaker's own experience with marriage. The speaker warns against reading the hadith and suggests that the speaker's past marriage experience may have contributed to the lack of understanding of the standard.
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Their final, you know, thrust of brutality in
their last
war crime that they hoped to, inflict upon
the people of Wazuh. Keep them in your
dua and don't allow
the the lack of
of international movement or international interest in this.
Yani. It dampen your own interest in something
that should continue
until the cause has has been resolved. May
Allah Subhanahu wa'ala make it easier for them
inshaAllah and protect them.
And
it's, has an authentic generation as
well. All of the hadith this week will
be enrated by Aisha. So yesterday was today
and tomorrow as well to kind of conclude
the concept or the the issue the topic
of issues of marriage and
I mean it's impossible to actually cover issues.
If you look, if you go to Baba
Nikah in any book of hadith, it's hundreds
of hadith. So there's no way for me
to cover this in any form of matter.
I'm just going to every couple of months
maybe come back and do 10 a hadith
or something just to encourage people not only
to, to pursue it for those who haven't,
but also for those who have to, and
to maintain it appropriately. And and and and,
it's a big part of being, I mean,
of being of being a human being aside
from just being a Muslim.
Who you are in your home with your
spouse and your children is a big part
of who you are, if not exactly who
you are. So what she said,
prophet what the prophet alayhi sallam said in
this hadith narrated by Aisha. And this this
summarizes basically the whole thing. It's a really
short hadith. I narrated it at least twice
before in different,
for different reasons. Like in different,
series that I've run. But I can't conclude
the series tomorrow without at least bringing your
attention to this hadith for you to think
about. What he what he said like he
said alayhis salam alayhi
wa ana khayrukom li'ahli.
So So the best of you are the
best of you.
Is not his family.
No. No. Is his spouse
and those who come from his your spouse.
Like whoever
she gave birth to whoever she's caring for,
that that's who it is. Ahl is not
your parents. Ahl is not your family. No.
No. No. No. They have names. Walidain and
you have Alham. These are all they all
have names.
Is your is your spouse. And anyone that
you've the children you had from her specifically
or the ones that she's caring for. So
the best of you are the best of
you towards their spouses.
And then to make this even more difficult,
salallahu alayhi wa sallam alayhi wa sallam alayhi
wa sallam alayhi. He had to add the
last piece because up to here we can
we can live with it. But now he's
gonna make it And
I'm the best of you towards my
my my spouse or to my towards my
wives. Why? Because now he is forcing you
to use him alaihisratosama
as the standard. Now you have to understand
that this is something that he did It's
not just a phrase that is used that
can be interpreted in different ways. No. He
is in the race as well, alayhis salatu
wa sallam. He His hat's in the race
and he's a part of this. And he
is saying that my standard is the standard
that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is holding you
to, yomulqiam, and the way I treated my
wife throughout my life. You want to know
how he did that, go read.
Go read and be extremely
upset at the end of it.
Yeah. When you read how he treated his
wives alaihis salatu san you're not going to
be very, yeah.
It's not going to end well for you
just so you know. It won't end well.
You'll read and after after the 3rd or
4th you'll disclose the book.
And his tenderness and his love, alayhis salaam.
There's so many hadith I'll I'll just bring
this one before we go. This is what
Aikis says in the hadith is in, Tabarani
Filahu
He never entered his house. Expect he was
he was smiling and he was laughing. I
don't think I've ever done that. Yeah. You
forget about doing it every time.
May Allah forgive us. But that's how he
entered his house alayhis salaam.
He would take he would take a moment
and make sure when he entered his home,
his wife is waiting to greet him and
he's he enters,
he enters the way he enters. He enters
with a with a smile on his face
and he and he's laughing and he and
he's and he's making sure people look forward
to see him alayhis salaam even though that's
very hard sometimes when you're running a country.
Not that I would know.
It's hard to do it when you're just
going to a regular job on a daily
basis and just dealing with people. Imagine running
a country. Imagine you have to dealing with
dealing with every person's Everyone's Every Muslim's problems
and all of their complaints and their concerns
and doing that. And then coming at the
end of the day and finding enough in
in in you to smile and be happy
with you with your spouse. But he did
because this is the standard he's holding himself
to. I think it's something worthy of contemplation.