Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #11
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The speaker discusses the use of hadiths in various topics, including marriage, religion, and money. They emphasize the importance of understanding one's own values and finding one's own happiness in life. The speaker also emphasizes the value of finding one's own companion and finding one's own happiness in life.
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So that's hadith most of that's different. That,
that can be seen as a weak hadith
in general,
depending on who the tabi'i is. But the
tabi'i
says so he points out a specific person
or he says there's a he says that
it was a person amongst the prophet alaihis
salam alayhi who told me this, but I
just don't remember who, then there's a different
way of of looking at that. Hadith, depending
on the tabiyeh,
it is seen as either authentic or reasonable
versus waif, but, that that's just like a
little nugget from Musa al Hadith.
It's not not a, you know, this hadith
has a reasonable standardization because it's other Hadith
that
has Shoah head for it, meaning there are
other examples for it. Within the issue of
marriage, this is still what I'm talking about
for the next maybe week or 2, then
I'll cover a few more hadith on this
issue, on this topic.
This man said, Qalam,
I heard him one day saying,
taban lizhahabiwulfilba.
Basically, gold and silver.
There's context here that is missing that this
man did not pick up. He just heard
the prophet walking away saying, No, gold and
silver. Gold and silver this and gold and
silver that.
I went and Umar Khattab was with us,
the 2 of us walked. This man from
the among the Prophet alaihis on Sahaba.
Called,
So our own khatab would ask you, he
followed up to Prophet 'alaihi wa sallatu wa
sallam, Jair Rasulullah, you said, you know, you
cursed dahabu filba.
What do you mean? Like, we don't you
you never you don't usually do this. So
why why are you saying that?
And he walked
He said,
Apparently,
he was frustrated with something someone was saying.
Something to do with a bit of a
materialistic approach. He was frustrated with some degree
of materialism that he was witnessing.
So it bothered him. So he said something
something So and so, vaha Abu Fabbah.
And then the guy who was hearing an
Nawal Khattab, they they just heard him say
this on the way out. They didn't actually
witness the context. They ran after him alayhis
sala. There's a lot of things to learn
from this hadith. I'm not gonna waste you
too much of your time. They ran after
him and said, You Rasoolallah, we heard you
say this curse word that doesn't like you're
saying so and so that Abu Fardah, what's
the problem? So he didn't actually explain to
them He
just said these three things.
So it's not lisaanun dhakir,
wakalbunshakir, no, lisaanun dhakir.
So in Arabic when you put fatahrulmusub
on a word, there has to be some
reasoning for it. And most of the time
it's either like a harpusheba bifirk in the
in the in the comes before it or
there's a fiyal and it's some of urbihi
for it to make sense. So in this
case,
well, Allah understands how the scholars have understood
this and this is what you take from
the context of what's being said. The prophet
alaihi sallahu alaihi wasallam is actually saying
like what you should ask for, what you
should be happy with, what you should be
hoping Allah gives you is
a tongue that is embraced and engaged in
the remembrance of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
A heart that is satisfied, that is grateful
to what Allah will get.
And
a wife that will help you get into
akhirah. And that's all you need.
He was upset with the materialistic approach people
were showing. This is back at his time,
alayhis salatu wa sallam, when people know nothing.
People know
nothing.
People had nothing. I can't imagine how you
could be upset with any materialistic approach at
that time. There was What material existed? Like
people barely had shoes, people didn't have bathrooms,
there was no running water, electricity wasn't even
talked about. This is not even he was
upset with people focused on the Abu Fibbah,
walking away saying, What if Allah subhanahu wa'ala
grants you
a tongue that
has the privilege of remembering him?
And a heart that has a privilege of
understanding his blessing so is grateful and you
have a spouse that helps you make it
to aqirah then what do you want?
Wealth and money and material? Yeah.
That's how we thought alaihis salatu wa sallam.
It shows you what he valued really. I
love this hadith because it just shows you
what he really valued. This is the value.
This is what matters in life. Are you
someone who's blessed with the ability to know
God to the degree that allows you to
remember him? So your tongue can do dhikr.
Yes. Do you understand faith in a way
that allows your heart to be in gratitude
for what you have? Yes. Do you have
someone a companion on the on the way
that will take you closer to Allah not
farther away? Yes. Then you are very rich.
Then you are the richest of the rich.
This is the you're the wealthiest person alive.
And
understand why
you're correct, alayhis salawat. Alright? I understand makes
sense now that he said that. It's like
it's like what we
Something to think about. Having a companion,
that will help you make it to to
to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is more valuable
than probably anything you'll ever have
in this world. So so if you have
one, be very happy. And if you don't,
look for one, so you can be very
happy
like the rest of us here.