Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #07

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The speaker discusses their previous narration of their mother and their desire to narrate a topic related to marriage. They share their own experience of their mother not taking care of her appearance and being a poor man. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding the mother and living as she performs.

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			And before the prep for Ramadan. Okay. Maybe
		
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			like a 10 days or 14 days before
		
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			Ramadan. Usually everything in the center turns into
		
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			a Ramadan prep and then
		
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			we go into Ramadan and then we come
		
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			out on the other side.
		
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			But before that, I was talking about marriage
		
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			and I narrate maybe 6 or 7 hadith.
		
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			I'm not sure, something like that. And I
		
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			have I had, like, at least another 10
		
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			that I want to narrate. I'm gonna do
		
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			that for you and then we'll move on
		
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			to another topic. So this is just a
		
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			continuation of a topic that I already started
		
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			that I want to kind of, conclude in
		
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			terms of the hadith that I want to
		
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			narrate to you. So
		
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			tonight,
		
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			with a reasonable chain of narration by our
		
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			mother Aisha
		
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			Where he said,
		
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			That the wife of Uthman Margron, she would
		
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			take care of herself.
		
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			Means she would put perfume, she would, you
		
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			know, kind of take care of
		
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			her her appearance, things that ladies do for
		
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			her husband. And
		
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			she stopped doing that in her life.
		
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			And she entered my house one day and
		
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			I had noticed that she doesn't she's not
		
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			taking care of her appearance as she used
		
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			to.
		
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			And this is just a word that means
		
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			your husband's around or not around. Is he
		
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			traveling or is he here?
		
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			He's here but he's not really here. Like
		
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			he's here but doesn't make it.
		
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			What's wrong?
		
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			Uthman does not want dunya, he doesn't want
		
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			women either.
		
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			And then she left and the Prophet came
		
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			to my house
		
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			and I told him what she had told
		
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			me.
		
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			He heard this, he gets up, he leaves
		
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			the house.
		
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			He said, do you believe in that which
		
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			I believe in?
		
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			Then do like I do.
		
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			Do as I do. If you believe in
		
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			what I believe in, then you do as
		
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			I do. What is this? I don't want
		
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			dunya. I don't want my wife.
		
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			Where did you get that from?
		
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			I don't teach that.
		
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			I didn't teach you that. I didn't teach
		
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			you to get married
		
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			and neglect your wife. I didn't teach you
		
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			to be poor and have no wealth and
		
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			not be able to take care of yourself
		
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			and the people around you. I didn't teach
		
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			that. I taught you differently. So if you
		
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			believe in what I believe in, then you'll
		
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			do as I do.
		
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			This is advice not just for marriage. It's
		
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			advice for everything.
		
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			If you believe in what he believed in,
		
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			then you'll do as he did and you'll
		
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			go and you'll find out what how did
		
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			he do? You go learn and study. What
		
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			did he do?
		
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			Sometimes there's context that needs to be taken
		
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			in consideration when we're studying that, right? We
		
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			have to understand where and when he was
		
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			so that we can draw the parallels appropriately.
		
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			But how did he do? And then we
		
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			do like him alaihis salatu wa sallam. And
		
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			a part of it was marriage. He would
		
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			get married and he would care for his
		
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			wife. He would make her feel special and
		
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			loved, so that she would care for herself.
		
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			This is a part of how he lived
		
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			alaihis salatu wa sallam, his life. This is
		
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			not Zuhud is not here.
		
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			This is not where Zuhud is practiced. Zuhud
		
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			is practiced elsewhere. Zud is in haram. Zud
		
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			is from
		
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			extravagance, not from
		
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			the halal that Allah put there for you.
		
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			The person that has dedicated their life to
		
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			you.
		
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			And it's something worthy of thinking about because
		
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			he took it he took this seriously. He
		
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			left his house going looking for Uthman. He
		
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			didn't say I'll talk to him later. No.
		
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			He went and looked for him.
		
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			And then he used an argument that is
		
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			impossible for you not to understand. Do you
		
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			believe in what I believe in? Yes. Then
		
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			you do as I do because that's not
		
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			how I do.
		
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			This forced Uthman to revisit
		
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			how he was living altogether.
		
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			Who went to the great Sahaba.
		
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			He lost his
		
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			he lost his eye for the sake of
		
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			Allah.
		
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			This is someone who is more dedicated than
		
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			I can ever be, but he needed to
		
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			be reminded that if you want to truly
		
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			be a proper Muslim, then you have to
		
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			live as he lives sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			which I think is beautiful.