Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #07
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The speaker discusses their previous narration of their mother and their desire to narrate a topic related to marriage. They share their own experience of their mother not taking care of her appearance and being a poor man. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding the mother and living as she performs.
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And before the prep for Ramadan. Okay. Maybe
like a 10 days or 14 days before
Ramadan. Usually everything in the center turns into
a Ramadan prep and then
we go into Ramadan and then we come
out on the other side.
But before that, I was talking about marriage
and I narrate maybe 6 or 7 hadith.
I'm not sure, something like that. And I
have I had, like, at least another 10
that I want to narrate. I'm gonna do
that for you and then we'll move on
to another topic. So this is just a
continuation of a topic that I already started
that I want to kind of, conclude in
terms of the hadith that I want to
narrate to you. So
tonight,
with a reasonable chain of narration by our
mother Aisha
Where he said,
That the wife of Uthman Margron, she would
take care of herself.
Means she would put perfume, she would, you
know, kind of take care of
her her appearance, things that ladies do for
her husband. And
she stopped doing that in her life.
And she entered my house one day and
I had noticed that she doesn't she's not
taking care of her appearance as she used
to.
And this is just a word that means
your husband's around or not around. Is he
traveling or is he here?
He's here but he's not really here. Like
he's here but doesn't make it.
What's wrong?
Uthman does not want dunya, he doesn't want
women either.
And then she left and the Prophet came
to my house
and I told him what she had told
me.
He heard this, he gets up, he leaves
the house.
He said, do you believe in that which
I believe in?
Then do like I do.
Do as I do. If you believe in
what I believe in, then you do as
I do. What is this? I don't want
dunya. I don't want my wife.
Where did you get that from?
I don't teach that.
I didn't teach you that. I didn't teach
you to get married
and neglect your wife. I didn't teach you
to be poor and have no wealth and
not be able to take care of yourself
and the people around you. I didn't teach
that. I taught you differently. So if you
believe in what I believe in, then you'll
do as I do.
This is advice not just for marriage. It's
advice for everything.
If you believe in what he believed in,
then you'll do as he did and you'll
go and you'll find out what how did
he do? You go learn and study. What
did he do?
Sometimes there's context that needs to be taken
in consideration when we're studying that, right? We
have to understand where and when he was
so that we can draw the parallels appropriately.
But how did he do? And then we
do like him alaihis salatu wa sallam. And
a part of it was marriage. He would
get married and he would care for his
wife. He would make her feel special and
loved, so that she would care for herself.
This is a part of how he lived
alaihis salatu wa sallam, his life. This is
not Zuhud is not here.
This is not where Zuhud is practiced. Zuhud
is practiced elsewhere. Zud is in haram. Zud
is from
extravagance, not from
the halal that Allah put there for you.
The person that has dedicated their life to
you.
And it's something worthy of thinking about because
he took it he took this seriously. He
left his house going looking for Uthman. He
didn't say I'll talk to him later. No.
He went and looked for him.
And then he used an argument that is
impossible for you not to understand. Do you
believe in what I believe in? Yes. Then
you do as I do because that's not
how I do.
This forced Uthman to revisit
how he was living altogether.
Who went to the great Sahaba.
He lost his
he lost his eye for the sake of
Allah.
This is someone who is more dedicated than
I can ever be, but he needed to
be reminded that if you want to truly
be a proper Muslim, then you have to
live as he lives sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
which I think is beautiful.