Abu Taymiyyah – Heartfelt advice to the YouTuber & Shaykh About his Private life aadh

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The speaker discusses the importance of being conscious of Allah in private and public life, and how he advises students to be humble and considerate. He also talks about how Allah exposed certain individuals to harm and use inappropriate conversations to damage their reputation and relationships with him. The speaker warns that it is not a first-time incident and that it could lead to embarrassment and even loss of publicity.

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			I want to also share a benefit,
		
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			that
		
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			Sheikh, abdulissalam, Shoaire
		
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			gave me
		
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			when I spotted him sitting in the prophet,
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's masid. Now he's very
		
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			well known, right?
		
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			Sheikh hides from students.
		
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			However at the time,
		
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			it wasn't unknown.
		
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			And I attended his class and there was
		
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			only few people there, subhanAllah.
		
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			So I seen the Sheikh who was sitting
		
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			in the Haram, and I went and sat.
		
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			And I asked the Sheikh a question.
		
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			Sheikh,
		
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			if someone wants to become very close to
		
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			Allah azza wa ta'ala, what is it that
		
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			you suggest? What is it that you advise
		
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			me?
		
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			And he told me a number of things.
		
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			One of those things that he told me
		
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			was,
		
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			be someone who's humble. No matter how handsome
		
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			you become,
		
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			how beautiful Allah
		
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			makes you,
		
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			how much knowledge that you're blessed with,
		
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			be always humble.
		
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			And Sheikh Abdul Samu al Shway, anybody who
		
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			meets him,
		
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			will testify to that.
		
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			How humble the Sheikh is.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And then he mentioned something else that I
		
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			never forgot.
		
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			And every student of knowledge,
		
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			especially those who pick up a lot of
		
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			publicity,
		
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			need to pay attention to. He said,
		
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			Being conscious of Allah
		
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			in private, I said Sheikh, give me an
		
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			example what you're referring to.
		
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			Right?
		
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			He said for example, you might be at
		
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			home, and you let your guard down, meaning
		
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			your trousers,
		
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			just happened to me below the ankles. You
		
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			may fold it when you go outside, but
		
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			in the home, it tend to kind of
		
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			like be a little bit more easy with
		
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			your salzah.
		
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			And then he even said, with your wife.
		
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			I said, what do you mean Sheikh?
		
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			Sometimes,
		
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			may be extremely
		
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			difficult
		
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			to control yourself when addressing them, because of
		
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			how much they get on your nerves.
		
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			Nadeel,
		
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			why do you mean I look for?
		
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			Are your brothers and sisters with me?
		
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			Right? With the people in public,
		
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			that might not necessarily ever happen.
		
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			However, because you're with your wife and your
		
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			kids all the time, you may snap, you
		
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			may say something.
		
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			He's saying be conscious of Allah in private.
		
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			I would never normally think about that example,
		
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			right? You would normally think when the sheikh
		
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			says be conscious of Allah in private,
		
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			not to watch something under your blanket, Sahih.
		
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			These kind of things, right?
		
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			And that brings me to a very very
		
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			powerful point
		
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			that ibn al Juzir Rahman Tawaihi mentioned, he
		
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			said,
		
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			I saw those who ascribed themselves to knowledge.
		
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			They began to overlook,
		
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			or should I say,
		
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			they stopped being conscious of Allah
		
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			watching them when they are in private.
		
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			So what did Allah
		
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			do to them? Brothers and sisters, pay attention.
		
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			Right?
		
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			What did Allah
		
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			do to these individuals
		
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			who might stand on the mimba,
		
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			who might give public classes,
		
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			who might lead the taraweeh?
		
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			Those who ascribed to knowledge. What did Allah
		
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			do to them? When they would do things
		
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			behind closed doors in private,
		
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			then show another face to the people in
		
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			public.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala calls the good things
		
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			that are mentioned about them, in public they
		
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			disappear.
		
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			When seeing them is like not seeing them.
		
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			Right?
		
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			It's like they don't exist.
		
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			There was no sweetness in one thing to
		
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			see them. You know, sometimes you really look
		
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			forward, oh, so and so is coming.
		
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			That brother, Amashala, is a righteous friend, I'm
		
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			really looking forward to seeing
		
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			him. And the heart stopped yearning for them.
		
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			So if you are an upcoming Talibayim or
		
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			a
		
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			or someone who's already very well established, or
		
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			an imam, or the head teacher of a
		
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			madrasah or whatever,
		
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			people respect you in public, right?
		
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			All the way up until
		
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			you start violating the limits of Allah as
		
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			well behind closed doors.
		
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			Why is it a certain individuals,
		
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			they were held in such high esteem, then
		
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			all of a sudden they dropped their eyes
		
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			on people?
		
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			Perhaps maybe because of this.
		
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			Right?
		
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			It doesn't necessarily have to be someone who's
		
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			a scholar that this happens to. It could
		
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			be someone that, you you know, the family
		
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			looks up to because he's a talibil.
		
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			And all of a sudden you just drop
		
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			in the eyes.
		
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			And that's maybe perhaps because you
		
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			not taking caution
		
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			in your private life.
		
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			And then it's very sorry to say, at
		
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			times you
		
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			see, the private lives of certain du'a'at,
		
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			and those who ascribe themselves to knowledge surfacing
		
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			on internet.
		
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			Wallahi breaks the heart because this does not
		
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			give a good image
		
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			of shi'uk, right?
		
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			And I believe the majority are not like
		
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			that because they are God fearing individuals.
		
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			However, when a very famous Dua'a, Darya
		
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			His laundry is
		
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			aired
		
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			on the World Wide Web, on Twitter especially.
		
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			Right? It's heartbreaking.
		
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			But at the same time,
		
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			right? As Ibn Hajjar mentioned, sometimes Allah
		
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			exposes an individual in order for him to
		
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			come back. Because you'd rather make Tawbah now
		
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			than meet Allah
		
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			with,
		
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			They
		
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			sin.
		
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			Or it could be a lesson for the
		
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			people themselves.
		
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			It scares you.
		
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			Wallahi, it's really really terrifying.
		
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			And I genuinely don't believe that
		
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			this happens at the first time of committing
		
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			a sin.
		
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			Because from the names of Allah Azawajal is
		
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			what? Sittirite, which means?
		
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			Concealed the sins of his abbot.
		
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			Allah, there are sins between us and Allah
		
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			Azza wa Jal,
		
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			right?
		
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			That no one knows about.
		
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			That no one knows about that Allah can
		
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			see us, that we wouldn't want anyone to
		
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			ever know about.
		
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			However, does Allah exposes all the time, brothers
		
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			and sisters?
		
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			No, He doesn't.
		
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			He conceals it, conceals it, conceals it, and
		
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			it may end up coming out once upon
		
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			it,
		
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			Once upon a time, right?
		
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			Or one day down the line, should I
		
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			say?
		
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			I don't believe it's the first time.
		
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			There's even a narration, Allahu'ala, whether it's authentic
		
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			or not.
		
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			There was one who stole,
		
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			and he said this is the first time.
		
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			Amun Al Khattab said no, then he cut
		
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			his hand off.
		
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			Because it was the first time Allah would
		
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			conceal your sins.
		
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			And I feel like one
		
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			Thinks that okay, I got away with it
		
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			the first time.
		
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			The second time,
		
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			I walk into the Masjid, everyone singing my
		
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			name,
		
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			I still have my publicity,
		
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			and my clout.
		
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			3rd time, 4th time, he's still messing around.
		
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			Right? Having these inappropriate conversations.
		
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			And then
		
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			he's exposed by Allah Azar.
		
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			And may Allah Azar will protect every single
		
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			one of us from that.
		
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			Especially if your ta'ale, I highly suggest,
		
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			and you're in the maharala of studying, that
		
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			you close down your social media because it
		
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			can be fitra.
		
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			Allahi.
		
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			I've had to have
		
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			sittings with certain brothers who became tested.
		
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			We're having inappropriate conversations and the girls are
		
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			threatening if you don't speak to him and
		
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			The ajeeb thing is they always contact me
		
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			because I'm the only one that they know.
		
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			Right? If you don't speak to him, we're
		
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			going to expose him.
		
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			Pick up a little bit of publicity, people
		
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			see you, oh, mashallah, madinah student,
		
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			get followers.
		
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			And then the fitna comes through the women,
		
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			they start throwing themselves
		
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			aye. So,
		
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			these uncomfortable conversations having with certain brothers,
		
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			are like, come off it, halas. This is
		
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			going to ruin your reputation.
		
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			More importantly, your relationship with Allah, your student,
		
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			and listen.
		
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			It's a fitna.
		
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			You may think how can this happen?
		
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			Prophet SAWHANSIBILITY said. I did not leave a
		
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			fitna that is greater upon men than women.
		
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			No one should feel safe from that, at
		
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			all.