Abu Taymiyyah – From Wearing Niqab To Zina

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The speaker gives advice on social media, highlighting the importance of not giving a reminder and not being looked at in a certain way. He also discusses the negative impact of social media on women, including the way women look at people and the way it causes heart disease. He emphasizes the need for precautions to avoid dangerous behavior and a small flame to turn into "willing." He also talks about a sister who wears a disconnected body, and how women are used to being "willing" to women and being "willing."

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			Sisters, I was going to give a reminder
		
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			about
		
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			I think maybe I'll give you guys a
		
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			piece of advice.
		
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			Maybe the reminder is the advice, but
		
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			I thought I'd speak to you guys like
		
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			a because
		
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			sometimes, you know, you give a reminder. It's
		
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			just more like people attend,
		
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			take the reminder, and they leave.
		
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			So,
		
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			I thought I'd give you guys a piece
		
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			of advice. Some of you guys may have
		
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			heard
		
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			it before, but I've just seen it
		
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			happen so many times
		
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			because of naivety,
		
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			k, and lack of experience how to deal
		
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			with these kind of situations.
		
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			And,
		
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			and because of that,
		
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			you see a very good sister.
		
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			You know, Allahumabarak,
		
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			she was a wonderful individual,
		
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			and then because of
		
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			some of her surroundings and her being naive
		
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			when being around certain individuals,
		
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			things start going really, really wrong. K?
		
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			K?
		
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			You guys have to understand, not everybody wants
		
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			to hear for you guys, and that's the
		
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			reality of it.
		
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			Sometimes you find people around you,
		
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			Yani, even though from the apparent day,
		
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			they act like they want care for you,
		
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			but the reality is they don't.
		
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			You know, there's a very powerful statement
		
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			that Uthman ibn Affan radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu he
		
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			mentioned. He said,
		
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			the Zania,
		
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			the fornicatress,
		
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			she wishes
		
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			that everybody else was like her as well.
		
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			Everybody else around her was a fornicatress.
		
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			Shaitan got the better of her.
		
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			She's now looked at society in a certain
		
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			way,
		
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			and it's very very painful because she is
		
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			the only one there who's being looked at
		
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			in that particular way,
		
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			and because,
		
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			okay,
		
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			she's being looked at in such a way,
		
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			she doesn't want to be the only person,
		
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			so she wants to drag everybody with her
		
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			as well.
		
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			She wants to drag everybody with her,
		
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			and,
		
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			of course, she's not going to make it
		
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			apparent. And sometimes people think that in order
		
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			to find out that so and so is
		
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			a person of falsehood, that they have to
		
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			make it clear, no, they don't,
		
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			And that's the reality. Like even the Shaitan,
		
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			if you think about it,
		
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			he swore by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			If you just look at this aya, it
		
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			has so many
		
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			it has so many, you know,
		
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			methods of showing, you know, the that
		
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			how how can I maybe put this in
		
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			the English language? Emphasis. Emphasis. There's a lot
		
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			of emphasis on no. I'm the one who
		
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			is a sincere adviser for you,
		
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			and when you study the Arabic language, you
		
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			find that, again, this a bit of takid.
		
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			La, again, there's another one.
		
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			And so on and so forth.
		
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			Just this ayah has so much emphasis that
		
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			he's saying to them, I'm a sincere adviser.
		
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			I want khair for you.
		
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			This is how the shaytaan was speaking to
		
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			them both.
		
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			And, likewise, the one who just comes and
		
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			starts rubbing themselves onto you is not going
		
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			to tell you that I'm here to misguide
		
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			you.
		
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			And my sisters, like, you have to understand
		
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			that there's sometimes one wrong move
		
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			that could be the reason as to,
		
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			you know, one thing leads to another. And
		
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			before you know it,
		
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			you're like in so much darkness.
		
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			Today, we're dealing with a completely different battle
		
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			as well, like a completely different monster. This
		
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			monster of social media, which has opened
		
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			a very different door, and I'm going to
		
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			come to a point that it's going to
		
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			maybe shock a couple of you guys.
		
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			There's many sisters that I've personally known.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			They were jilbabis.
		
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			Some of them were even nikabis.
		
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			And we know the Iba sister, she wears
		
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			these type of clothing a lot of the
		
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			time. She's not going to get the attention
		
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			that sisters
		
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			who are maybe half naked are going to
		
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			get
		
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			because she's covered.
		
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			And this cover that we as sisters wear,
		
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			not me not me, but, you know, we
		
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			as sisters over here,
		
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			It's meant to be there to kinda, like,
		
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			protect us from the opposite agenda.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So,
		
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			like, I've seen too many sisters
		
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			who I personally knew
		
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			because of what they looked at,
		
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			not because there was people around them who
		
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			were blabbing in the ear, but because of
		
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			what
		
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			them looking at something, it put disease in
		
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			their heart and then one
		
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			incident led to another.
		
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			One incident
		
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			led to another.
		
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			This is why Raul Iblis Fani he said
		
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			something very, very powerful
		
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			and I had to ask you to read
		
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			it so many times, SubhanAllah, to put 2
		
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			and 2 together with the situation that we
		
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			are living in today. He said,
		
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			1 doesn't become affected
		
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			only due to
		
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			what people say around him
		
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			and what people do around him. That's not
		
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			the only way a person becomes affected. He
		
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			said,
		
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			but also a person becomes really badly affected
		
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			due to what he looks at.
		
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			Because as the roadman, you know, we hear
		
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			these statements all the time. Right? I heard
		
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			actually on the streets.
		
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			But the eyes can't see,
		
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			the heart can't desire.
		
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			What the eyes can't see, the heart can't
		
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			desire.
		
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			This is why even Ibn Taymaha Muhammed Allahu
		
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			Ta'ala says,
		
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			lowering your gaze is from the greatest of
		
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			fundamentals of preserving your heart.
		
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			Because if you can't see it, then how
		
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			is that desire, that urge going to enter
		
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			into your heart? So a practicing
		
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			sister
		
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			who wears her Jilbaab or maybe even wears
		
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			her Niqab,
		
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			how does she turn from being like a
		
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			person like this,
		
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			and then she goes
		
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			and becomes the person who is sleeping around
		
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			with the opposite gender? How
		
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			does that happen so quickly? Wallahi, my sisters,
		
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			I've seen sisters take off the hijab
		
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			not because of people being around them.
		
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			She may have been a sister
		
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			who is just secluded in her room all
		
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			day every day.
		
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			She comes and straight away she goes inside
		
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			her room. She's sitting inside of a room
		
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			and she's just on her phone. You know
		
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			back in the day
		
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			when we had these very very big computers,
		
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			these Dell computers. Some of you guys may
		
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			remember or I don't know if you guys
		
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			were
		
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			too young to maybe see this, but you
		
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			had these very big computers with big backs.
		
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			Do you guys remember these computers?
		
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			They were computers.
		
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			If somebody wanted to do something haram, it
		
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			would be more difficult than what it is
		
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			today
		
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			because these big computers are where they're in
		
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			the living room.
		
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			If he's doing something he shouldn't be doing
		
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			and somebody comes past, he's gonna try and
		
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			switch it off.
		
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			But today, if you think about it, it's
		
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			become so easy to access filth and evil.
		
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			Filth
		
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			and evil.
		
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			And I don't even need to explain to
		
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			you guys how easy it is to access
		
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			it.
		
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			So point of the matter is my sisters,
		
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			a sister, she begins to look at things.
		
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			She begins to maybe start idolizing
		
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			some of these female YouTubers out there.
		
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			And then what happens?
		
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			The urge enters into her heart.
		
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			She begins to desire these kind of things.
		
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			She sees that other sisters online are getting
		
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			many, many likes.
		
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			But because she is dressed a certain way,
		
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			them likes are not coming in.
		
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			And the reality of the matter is women
		
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			love attention.
		
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			It's very, very.
		
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			A husband, if he's not giving attention to
		
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			his wife, she's gonna try and maybe desire
		
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			that attention from somewhere
		
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			else. It's just how Allah how Allah created
		
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			them.
		
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			She's not getting as much, you know, as
		
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			much attention. She's not getting these likes.
		
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			So as time goes on, in order to
		
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			increase these likes, what happens?
		
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			The material that's on her body starts, what,
		
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			becoming reduced
		
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			1 by 1.
		
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			And, of course, the woman who's half naked,
		
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			the
		
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			attention that she gets is not the same
		
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			as the woman who's just showing a bit
		
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			of skin.
		
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			Of course, it's not. The more skin
		
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			shows or a woman shows, the more attention
		
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			that she's going to get.
		
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			Even Imam Ghahtan
		
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			he mentioned some lines of poetry. He says,
		
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			These men who are looking
		
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			are women. They're like dogs.
		
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			This is a man saying this. And, yes,
		
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			my sisters,
		
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			I'm telling you this as a brother.
		
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			In the rijal and nadireen, it's that those
		
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			men who are looking at women, they're like
		
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			dogs.
		
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			Okay? They're like dogs who when they see
		
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			a piece of flesh, what do they do?
		
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			They start going around there. Right? They start
		
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			chasing after it,
		
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			And then he addresses the man.
		
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			If these pieces of flesh are not guarded
		
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			by the lions,
		
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			it's just going to be
		
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			taken like that without a replacement,
		
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			without anything in return.
		
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			And this is how men think.
		
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			They just wanna come after you. They wanna,
		
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			like, use and abuse it like a piece
		
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			of chewing gum, chew you and then spit
		
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			you out.
		
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			And a lot of the time you find,
		
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			you know, them contacting you on whatever
		
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			because if that individual really wanted you in
		
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			a halal way,
		
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			he's going to what? He's going to come
		
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			straight through the door.
		
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			He's not gonna try and creep through the
		
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			window, ever then.
		
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			That's how it starts. Okay? She's still not
		
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			getting that amount of attention
		
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			and then more skin starts showing,
		
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			more skin starts becoming apparent.
		
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			I know what happens with my sisters,
		
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			the attention increases, right? The DM start coming
		
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			in on Instagram
		
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			and because she's never been given that attention
		
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			before,
		
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			she is just blown away.
		
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			She is just blown away,
		
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			starts getting excited,
		
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			she starts getting these urges.
		
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			She begins to hear things that no one's
		
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			ever said to her.
		
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			And before you know it, my sisters,
		
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			they meet up,
		
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			you see,
		
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			and then the unexpected takes place.
		
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			Can you see my sisters, this whole cycle,
		
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			how it started
		
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			and how it ended?
		
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			And Wallahi, my sisters, it's happened to a
		
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			lot of individuals that I personally know.
		
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			And you think what happens?
		
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			Her mother never used to dress like that.
		
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			Her older sister never used to dress like
		
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			that. Her grandmother doesn't dress like that. Her
		
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			aunties don't dress like that, but all of
		
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			a sudden now she started dressing a certain
		
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			way because of what
		
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			what she started seeing online.
		
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			This shayateen that she was looking at, these
		
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			female YouTubers
		
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			online
		
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			who supposedly do Islamic Hijabi tutorials,
		
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			but in reality, they're
		
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			the hijab.
		
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			She saw them doing it and they urged
		
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			when inside
		
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			the heart.
		
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			So the point of the matter is, my
		
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			sisters,
		
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			be very, very careful.
		
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			Firstly,
		
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			with the sisters who are around you.
		
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			Okay. I'm not telling you to walk around
		
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			paranoid. No. But our religion, Allah
		
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			tells us that we need to have precaution
		
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			to a certain degree. Allah
		
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			says to us, take precaution, be wary. 1
		
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			shouldn't be stupid enough to just, like, walk
		
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			around,
		
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			you know,
		
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			drive himself into destruction.
		
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			1 has to be fatin. He has to
		
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			be smart. He has to be intelligent.
		
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			And that's one and also on social media.
		
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			Really, what you look at,
		
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			you know, it's just the beginning that sparks
		
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			the fire,
		
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			and we know that a small flame can
		
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			turn into what?
		
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			It can burn a building. It just starts
		
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			with a very small flame,
		
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			and SubhanAllah, when that sister reaches that stage
		
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			because she's already kind of like let herself
		
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			go that time,
		
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			what
		
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			happens? She keeps letting herself
		
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			go. And one faheshah leads to another, as
		
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			Iqnatayim mentioned.
		
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			If she doesn't put it to her end,
		
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			she doesn't do something about it that very
		
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			moment,
		
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			one thing is going to lead to another.