Abu Taymiyyah – Emotional Khutbah Murdered Infront of Him

Abu Taymiyyah
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The speakers discuss the recent sightings of the death of a Muslim man in Birmingham, Alabama, expressing concern over the consequences of the killings and murders. They stress the importance of identifying root causes of crime and addressing past hesitation. They also touch on the use of drugs and the belief that Islam is far greater than what is seen. The segment concludes with a mention of a lecture on "7 steps to control your anger" by the host. They emphasize the importance of not letting anger sit on one's body and not letting them grab onto people.
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My beloved brothers and sisters,

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it wouldn't be far fetched to say

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that everyone here

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is either someone who has lost a relative

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to a stabbing,

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to a shooting,

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or knows someone

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that has lost a relative

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to a stabbing,

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a shooting,

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or a killing.

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My brothers and my sisters, what we are

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seeing

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in today's day and age

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is

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something that I don't think has been seen

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before in the UK.

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The amount of killings that are taking place,

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the amount of murders, homicides,

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it has

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gone through the roof.

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It has absolutely

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gone through the roof,

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and this is absolutely

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heartbreaking.

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Whether this takes place with someone who

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you are close to

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or someone who you've maybe never met before,

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we as Muslims,

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as the Messenger Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam told us,

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The believers

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are like a building,

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each part strengthens the other,

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it holds the up together.

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In another narration we are told,

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if a part of it is aching,

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the rest of the body

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will also be going through pain.

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Right?

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And I'm going to read out to you

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guys Insha'a.

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A mother messaged and she said,

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I saw your post about the Khutba in

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Birmingham

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on murder.

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Will you be recording this for youtube?

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I can't get to Birmingham.

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My son lost his dear friend

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in front of his eyes

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because someone

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stabbed him to death.

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He's 17 years of age,

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and I don't know how to help him.

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I feel like he's losing his trust in

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Allah

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He believes,

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but is questioning.

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He's questioning Allah since the loss

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of his friend.

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Please, please help me

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with any guidance you can offer me.

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So that he can come back to us.

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As I was standing in the office and

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having a conversation with my uncle,

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he broke down into tears.

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Right? He broke down into tears.

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This is what these killings are doing to

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our elders,

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to our parents,

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who are begging for this to stop.

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Some of us we think that

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we are only going to have issues with

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the law.

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My brothers and my sisters,

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taking the life of another

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has become so cheap,

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right?

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Where are we when it comes to what

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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is telling every single one of us in

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the Quran,

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with regards to murders,

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with regards to killings. When you look at

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many of the major sins,

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and the crimes,

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and the sins that one may engage in,

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you search it in the Quran, my brothers

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and my sisters. You will struggle to find

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the kind of threat

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that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala mentions,

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when he speaks about taking an innocent life.

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He says in the Quran,

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Whoever

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intentionally

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takes a soul,

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This individual's

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reward is none other than the

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And he will abide in their eternity.

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And Allah

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anger. His wrath will come down upon this

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individual, and he will be cursed, and Allah

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has

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prepared

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a very painful punishment for that individual.

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My brothers and my sisters,

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we know the kabah, right? Many of us

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have gone and performed umrah. Some of us

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have performed hajj. Do you know what the

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Messenger

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said about the kaaba?

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And the sanctity

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of a believing

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human being,

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Hajar and Hajar.

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That you destroy the Kaaba,

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you demolish it,

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you now take it apart,

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and you

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take

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every part of that Kaaba,

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one after the other.

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It is less of an issue in the

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eyes of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, than when

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you take the life of a Muslim.

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The messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, in another hadith

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that was narrated by Tabrani,

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he mentioned,

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Whoever

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harms

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a Muslim.

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It is as if he has done of

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the Kaaba. It is as if he has

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destroyed the Kaaba. In another hadith, the Messenger

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he

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tells us,

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That the whole dunya perishes,

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that the whole dunya is destroyed,

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is less in the eyes of Allah

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than taking the life of a Muslim. My

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brothers and my sisters, I want you all

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to really just picture this. Would you, in

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your right mind,

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go to the Kaaba and decide to maybe

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kick it,

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decide maybe to hammer into it? Would you

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even think about

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punching the house of Allah

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This Kaaba, when you see it, my brothers

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and my sisters, it humbles you. A lot

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of us, we recently saw this very well

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known famous rapper

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who went to perform umrah, and he broke

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down upon seeing the Kaaba.

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I have taken drug dealers

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to the Kaaba, the house of Allah

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Some of them were on their knees. Some

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of them, they broke down into tears. The

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most arrogant of people, those who were running

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drug dealing industries,

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they broke down the moment they saw the

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house of

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Allah We are being told that the sanctity

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of a Muslim

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is far greater than anything that we see.

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One time the messenger

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he said the following with

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a raised voice.

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He who has believed

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with his tongue. However,

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the faith hasn't yet entered into his heart.

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Messenger

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says,

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Do not harm a Muslim.

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And also don't degrade them. And then the

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messenger said,

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And then do not follow their shortcomings.

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Whoever tries to nitpick

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the shortcomings of others, Allah

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will come after an individual, and He will

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embarrass him. He will humiliate him. He will

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expose him even if he is inside

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of his house, in the middle of his

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house, away from everyone, Allah

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will humiliate that individual. Abdullah ibn Umar Radiallahu

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Ta'ala Anhuma was listening.

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And then one day, my brothers and my

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sisters,

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he went to the Kaaba, and Abdullah ibn

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Umar he said,

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How honorable are you? And he's speaking to

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the Kaaba.

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How great is your sanctity?

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As for the believer,

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He is more honorable,

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He is more sacred than you, the Kaaba.

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This This is what Abdullah ibn Umar radiAllahu

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ta'ala Anhuma

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is saying. My beloved brothers and sisters,

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Allah he

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reminds us in the Quran,

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Remind them, O Muhammad,

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about the virtues and the blessing of Allah

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upon them.

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You used to be enemies with one another.

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This is the verse that came down

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pertaining to the 2 great tribes,

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Os and Khazraj.

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They used to kill and fight with one

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another, just like we have today, right? Fighting

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over the most pathetic and trivial things.

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Fighting over postcodes,

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because I'm from this area, or I'm from

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that area, or maybe because I live in

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this particular

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block of flats.

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You take the life

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of that Muslim.

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You take the life of that Muslim.

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Is not just

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the law that you are up against.

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You are up against the law of Allah

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You went out to stab him. Even if

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you die, the messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he

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tells us the following.

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When 2,

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they square up against one another, and they

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are both

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carrying their knives,

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or their saws, or whatever it might be,

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to kill the other. Both the killer and

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the one being killed

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are in the hellfire.

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And messian sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he was

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asked,

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I understand

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that the killer

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is going to be in the hellfire. What

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about the one who was just killed?

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He

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said,

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He also had the same intentions.

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He also wanted to kill. However,

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the other managed to get the fatal blow.

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My brothers and my sisters, before someone misunderstands

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what I'm saying, I am not saying that

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if someone

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here has died, maybe due to a killing

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or due to a murder, he's going to

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be in the hellfire. That's something that we

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cannot judge. This is all under the will

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of Allah

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However, we are being told all of these

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narrations,

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all of these ahadith,

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all of these verses,

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just so we understand the severity of this

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matter,

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just so we could embed within ourselves

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the severity

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of this crime,

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of taking someone's soul, which is not a

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light matter that should be taken easily.

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The messenger

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he also told us about taking the life

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of an innocent non muslim.

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Just because we are speaking about Muslims, that

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doesn't mean one can go and take the

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life

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of a non Muslim. We are told about

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the

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and also

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the He who

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enters the territory

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of the Muslims,

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and he's under contract

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to maybe carry something out, a project or

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whatever else it may be.

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Or someone now who has entered into the

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lands of the non Muslims,

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taking that type of individual's life. We are

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told as the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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mentioned in the authentic

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Whoever kills this kind of person who's referred

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to as a

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This person

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will not smell,

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he will not smell the fragrance of a

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jannah, let alone anything else.

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And you can smell

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the jannah, my brothers and my sisters,

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40 years away.

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This is pertaining to a non Muslim, my

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brothers and my sisters. Then how about taking

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the life

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of someone who

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has adorned himself with Al Islam?

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My beloved brothers and sisters,

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in order for us to solve the problem,

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we have to try and identify the solution.

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What is it that may cause us from

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time to time to have the urge

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to take someone's life?

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Right?

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Earlier, we mentioned this very, very serious hadith,

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when 2 Muslims, they square up against one

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another.

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Right?

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Each one of them wants to take the

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life of the other.

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Falqatil walmaktulafinnaah.

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Both the killer and the one who killed,

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they are going to be in the hellfire.

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So he was asked, why the one who

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was killed?

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He was

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eager to kill

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the one that he squared up to.

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He also wanted to commit the crime, and

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we know the famous hadith, right?

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Right?

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One's actions are judged based on his intentions.

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Every single one of us have memorized his

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hadith. He wanted to do the exact same

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thing as well.

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You pick up that knife,

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you pick up that weapon to take that

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person's life,

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just so you understand where you are heading.

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What is it that causes us to at

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times have this urge

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to commit this kind of crime, because we

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will not be able to solve this problem

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if we can't identify

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why this is actually making us want to

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do this particular crime.

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Right?

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The first point that I've written down my

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brothers and my sisters

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are these music videos.

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Right? Who constantly

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glorify,

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venerate, popularize

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stabbings and shootings.

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Acting as if,

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they are that type of person when in

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reality, they don't live that kind of life.

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Who's the victim in all of this? Us

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who are listening to them.

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Trying to be like them.

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Behaving and conducting ourselves in that particular manner.

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Right.

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Imagine now, a music video

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from some kafir guy,

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has now inspired you to become from the

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worst that are people in the eyes of

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Allah

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because of a music video.

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Behaving and acting like them.

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The second thing my brothers and my sisters

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is

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not lowering your gaze.

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Think about it for a moment. Normally when

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we speak about lowering the gaze, the first

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thing that comes to mind is what?

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Looking at the opposite gender, right? Is that

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the only time one should lower his gaze?

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Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam one time said to

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his companions,

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Stay away from sitting on the roads.

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Stop sitting on the roads. Why are you

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guys always there?

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This is also extremely common. Right?

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Just hanging about

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under the block of flats, right? And we

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think that's a cool thing to be doing,

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just sitting around.

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They said to the Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam,

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This is something that we have to do,

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O Messenger of Allah. This is where we

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get together,

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and this is where we have our chat.

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Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, right?

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If it's samas now,

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then do the following.

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Make sure that you give the road its

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right.

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You know what the first thing that was

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mentioned?

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Ghadul Basar.

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Lowering your gaze.

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Allahi Alaikum my brothers and my sisters, how

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many

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murders have we heard about?

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How did it start? He looked at me,

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what you looking at?

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The other person looks at him and then

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a fight takes place.

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And these fights may continue for years on

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end.

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Right?

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That kind of screw face that we think

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is so manly,

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walking around

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having this kind of face.

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You think

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that smiling is a weak thing to be

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doing, right? Or that person's moist, maybe smiles.

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When the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam will

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say,

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right?

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Do not belittle any good deed,

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even if it is meeting your brother with

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a pleasant face.

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Look what the kuffar

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have venerated and popularized, my brothers, to be

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cool and to be manly is to have

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that kind of face.

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Wallahi I know brother, he has a big

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scar across his face.

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Right? A big scar across his face.

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It all started with, what you looking at?

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Right? And then things just went on from

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there.

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Number 3, my brothers and my sisters,

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retaliation.

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Right.

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Again,

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that which has been so glorified in our

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hearts and made to be such a,

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high status thing. Right?

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To retaliate.

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When sometimes the better option may just be

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put your head down and just keep it

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moving.

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Someone that you don't know, right, looked at

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you and you can see this individual is

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trying to instigate a problem.

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And what it could lead to, and what

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could end up happening,

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right?

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I have

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a lecture that I gave on my YouTube

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channel, my brothers and my sisters. It's called

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7 steps

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to control your anger. We won't have the

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opportunity to go through all of this.

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And I gave an example of a companion,

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who ended up killing another. You know why?

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He said, Oh, the anger got the better

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of me. I got angry.

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Right?

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And they are 7 prophetic steps

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in how to deal

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with one's anger.

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One bad move, my brothers and my sisters,

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we could be spending what? How many years

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in prison?

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30 years?

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40 years? And it all started with what?

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I couldn't control my anger. He looked at

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me, and he shouldn't have looked at me,

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and I retaliated.

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Right?

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My brothers and my sisters, I want you

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guys to really take this away. If you

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didn't take anything away from the khutba other

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than this one point,

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how many a

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time do we put our lives on the

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line for our friends?

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Right?

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Just so what? They could think good of

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us. Just so they could say positive things

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about us. Right?

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Or you could have a particular reputation in

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the area.

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You know what I witnessed with my own

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two eyes?

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Individuals burying their friend that has just been

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stabbed

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or just been shot.

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As soon as they bury them,

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they are sitting in Pepe's,

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eating chicken and rice, lemon and herb flavour.

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Wallahi laddi lalahi lalahi raah. They are sitting

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in Pepe's and you know what they're speaking

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about?

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Oh,

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which football game is on next?

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He has a whole chapter

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speaking about

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how

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the following is just bound to happen

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As soon as you die, your relatives

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will just forget about you.

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Right?

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Couple of days go by, they will live

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their lives

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as if we never existed.

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Forgotten.

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He has a whole chapter, and this is

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just bound to happen.

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And when you get thrown into prison, my

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brothers and my sisters,

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for a couple of days, they write on

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Twitter, right,

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on Facebook,

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hit the road soon,

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we miss you.

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And the only person that comes and visits

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you is who?

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The only person that's going to do that

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1 and a half hour trip

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to visit you is none other than your

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mother,

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right.

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The mother that you belittled,

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the mother that you disrespected,

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right, the mother

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that you ridiculed,

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that you took very unseriously,

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right?

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Backwards, she doesn't know what we're dealing with.

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Right?

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Well, her brother one time told me

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that he was leaving his house to carry

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out a shooting

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across the pond,

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and his mother was grabbing onto him, begging

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him don't.

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Up until this very day the brother is

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practicing, right? She has arthritis.

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In the cold, she's being dragged on the

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floor,

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right?

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And he is just what?

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Pulling himself away.

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Our parents are going to be the ones

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who have to endure that pain,

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right?

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That will have sleepless nights

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going through so many difficulties.

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Right?

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Abdulai ibn Umar radiAllahu ta'ala Anhuma, my brothers

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and my sisters,

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He was one time doing tawaf around the

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Kaaba,

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and he saw a man that was carrying

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his mother

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on his shoulder.

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He came to Abdullah ibn Umar and he

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said to him,

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have I fulfilled

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the rights of my mother?

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Have I fulfilled the rights of my mother?

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He's carrying his mother,

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doing tawaf around the Kaaba, brothers and sisters.

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Right?

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He said, no, you haven't.

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But you've done great. You've done amazing.

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Right?

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,

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out of his mercy,

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due to doing something little he's going to

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give you that which is so great.

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SubhanAllah,

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he's saying to him, this is something very

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little but Allah

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swore you immensely for it.

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And then he said to him,

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you haven't even fulfilled.

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Right?

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Some of you youngsters may not necessarily know,

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right?

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When a woman goes into labor,

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she starts having these contractions.

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I personally didn't know what a contraction was

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until I saw my wife in labor.

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It really got me emotional knowing that this

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is what our moms have gone through.

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And then I remember this hadith.

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You haven't even paid back one single contraction,

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the pain that they're in.

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They might have

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3 or 4 contractions

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in the space of what 10 minutes?

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Right?

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Unbearable pain.

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And this man is carrying,

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right? His mother

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on his shoulder.

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And they are the parents who beg us

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time and time again,

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Muhammad,

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don't leave.

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Abu Bakr, stay at home.

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Come home early, and we laugh at them.

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We disrespect them. We look at them as

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if they are absolutely nobodies.

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Right?

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If that's the case with him, then what

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about us, brothers and sisters?

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What about us?

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And what's even worse than us, subhanAllah, is

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that we

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insult them. Minal kaba'ilishatmurraju

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li waliday.

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From the major sins is that one insults

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his parents.

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Right?

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Disrespects them like that.

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So, the Sahaba, they became confused when they

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heard this.

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Is that even possible that one is going

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to insult

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his parents?

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And in the messenger of Allah alaihi wasallam

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told him about something,

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right?

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That was very different to what we are

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going through in today's day and age.

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He said, Naham, when someone insult someone else's

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parents,

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it is as if he is insulting his

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own parents.

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Because amongst them, it was unheard of for

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someone now to disrespect and insult his parents.

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But today, we actually insult them.

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Or we kiss our teeth the moment they

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ask us to do something,

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or we respond back in a way.

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In the Quran, it says,

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Don't don't say off to them.

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That's off. You know, off is something that

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you would say when, you know, taking something

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out of your nails, when it's stuck. It's

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not coming out.

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Today, we kiss our teeth.

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Right? To conclude, my brothers and my sisters,

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Abdullah ibn Abbas

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he was approached.

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Right? He said

00:28:05 --> 00:28:06

I don't know of anyone,

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or should I say I don't know of

00:28:09 --> 00:28:09

any action,

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that brings you more closer to Allah

00:28:13 --> 00:28:14

than being dutiful

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to your mother.

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Right? I don't have anything like that.

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This is why you tend to see my

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brothers and my sisters. Right?

00:28:22 --> 00:28:24

We go through so much misery in our

00:28:24 --> 00:28:26

lives, maybe because of our relationships with our

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mothers and our fathers.

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It could be one du'a that they make,

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which opens so many doors for you that

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you may have thought would never be opened.

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And it could be one du'a that they

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make against you. Even if they don't utter

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it because of how bad they feel and

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how you're treating them.

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Wallahi, your whole life

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ends up going downhill

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so be extra careful with how you deal

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with your parents

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they will come once upon a time

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right, or there will come one day,

00:28:56 --> 00:28:58

when you will miss

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