Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – When Is It Healthy to Be Alone [Hikam 101]

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa

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salatu salam or Island Murthy Ramadan Lila Alameen while he was

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sabe Baraka was a limiter Sleeman Kathira en el Iommi Deen Amma bad

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to continue with our series on ignore Tyler's book of wisdoms,

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the heckum. We are on page 199. We are looking at first Today we'll

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look at Heckman number 98.

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Now this Heckman number 98. We discussed 97. Last time in the

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last session, very

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in a very detailed way. And this actually

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fits in with that. The last time I didn't read it, because

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we may have gone over time. So I'm just going to remind us of that

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one by reading this and then shake up the laws can go he his

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commentary, and then we'll move on to the new one for today. So it's

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on page 199 Hickman number 98. If not, I thought it Allah says

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an AMA Aliko welcome Bill ejabberd with an even better while him dad,

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which was very similar to what he had said earlier. Now I'm attorney

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Maharaja Muldoon, module Deunan Huma, what about the liquidity

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mocha when him in Houma, near Matilija, when I told him that,

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that when last time which we discussed in detail had said that

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there are two graces, from which no being can be separated, and

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that are inevitable for every creature, Allah subhanaw taala

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gives two things to every single creative being. Those are the

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grace of existence, that he brings us into existence. And number two,

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the grace of sustenance that he continues to provide for us. So

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here he in this one, he's actually now directing it right at the

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human being. And he's saying, forget all of the creation, Allah

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gives that but he bestowed His grace upon you. First through

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giving you being and second through uninterrupted sustenance,

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Allah subhanaw taala has graced you by bringing you into the

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world. So that now you exist here, and you did not exist before. And

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then Allah subhanaw taala allows you to continue to breathe and

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feed and eat and sustain yourself. Last time, we discussed how Allah

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subhanaw taala set the whole thing in motion facilitated everything

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from the early times to this time, how He created us, the human

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being. Now if we zoom in a bit more in detail, and you look at

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just the human skin, the human skin is maybe, I don't know, maybe

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a millimeter or so in thickness, just over a millimeter in

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thickness. Now I don't sitting in front of a doctor here, but there

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are three, our skin is made up of three layers. Right? The top one

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is called the

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when a test, you know. So essentially the top one is the

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epidermis, and the middle one, which is the substantial portion

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is the dermis. Right? That's why you call those who deal with

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skins, you call them the dermatologists, right? So they're

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dealing with the derma. So what's really interesting is that the top

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there's three levels, three layers, the top layer, is

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literally

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point one of them, maybe point one of a millimeter.

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That's the top layer, that's all it is, says if you see a cross

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section is just literally the top layer. The middle layer is the one

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that has the blood cells, the white blood cells, and so on and

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so forth. That's the one in which is the root of the hair, that we

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may have hair follicles, it's actually goes into that middle

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section, which is the thickest section of our skin. I mean, how

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thick is the skin, you know, the flesh is beneath it. Now what's

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really interesting is that the top part of the skin is made up of the

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cells. And new cells they generate at the bottom of that point to one

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millimeter of skin, that that top layer of skin is made up of

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different material to the middle dermis layer, right, which is more

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you can say more steady that has various different things happening

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in there. But the top layer is the one that's constantly being

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regenerated. It takes several weeks for it to become fresh. So

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essentially, our top part of the skin is actually fresh skin.

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Right. So several weeks ago that which started off at the bottom of

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that point one millimeter of layer moves its way up with small small

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cells. They just move up really micro, you know, small, very nano

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cells or whatever you call them, and they move up. The top part is

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what sheds that's what you call skin shedding. It happens to

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everybody, but that's why this skin never goes old. Right? That's

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why we constantly have fresh skin. It's an amazing system. Well

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subhanaw taala. So just the skin amazed me like just the skin, then

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how the heart works, the other complicated organs work. So the

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skin is we think we just see it as when somebody cuts through it, we

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see it as three, we don't see the three layers, just as one layer,

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just one piece, like just a millimeter or so. But it's so

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complicated. And the contents of the middle

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layer of that is amazing, right, but the top layer has been allowed

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to constantly move. That's why for example, if they when they doing

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tattooing, they can't just put on the top layer because that would

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just disappear. So they have to actually get it into the middle

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layer.

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Likewise, Hannah, that pigmentation gets in, I guess

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henna would be on the top layer. That's why it disappears within

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Why does Hannah disappear? Well, number one, you get washed off.

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But if he even if he didn't, it probably just regenerate and it'd

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be, it'd be gone. That's why tattoos lasts longer because they

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get it down into the middle layer, the dermis, which is haram is not

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allowed to do that because that's more permanent.

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amazing, just amazing what Allah subhanaw taala has done for every

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single part of the body to allow that to continue. So anyway, this

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is what Sheikh Abdullah gonna go he says, In explanation of it, he

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says in the previous aphorism mentioned was made of the bounties

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of creation and assistance common to all created objects, Allah

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gives sustenance and creation to every object, the shape,

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Rahimullah now addresses man in particular, in fact, the address

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is directed to the believer whose attention is drawn to his earliest

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state of pure non existence when we did not exist, from which Allah

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Most I conferred on him the grace of being existent. The believer

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should thus understand that he is wholly dependent on Allah Most

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High for his existence. dependence is therefore man's natural and

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inherent attributes, which he should never forget. So somebody

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might think that, okay, Allah has brought me into existence, like

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for example, somebody creates

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Bosch, they make a washing machine. Bosch doesn't have to

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keep coming and

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operating the washing machine, you can do it yourself, it runs on its

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own now, right. So the manufacturer doesn't have to have

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any, nowadays actually manufacturers, they want to start

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controlling things, they want to start being God. So that's why

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there's a smart controlling, where they want to control everything

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upgraded for you directly, you need to be connected, and so on

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and so forth. Before you could buy standalone Microsoft Word, now, it

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needs to be online, even Adobe programs, they want to connect

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you, you know, they want to be controlling, you eventually have

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everything, right. I'm not saying there's anything sinister, I'm

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just saying that that's what it is. But when it comes to the west,

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what we used to think is that some people think that Allah subhanaw

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taala creates people and then they just function on their own. So

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that's why he's making it very clear that that was just one part

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of his grace that He created you. The number two, yes, he's giving

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you the tools to breathe and sustain yourself. But then he

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continued to provide all of that you are still in need of Him. You

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are still in as much need of Allah subhanaw taala as you were, before

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He created you. Yes, visibly, there's a difference. Before we

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created us, we were nothing what what are we going to do anyway,

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now we feel we can do something at least we feel independence, we

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feel control. Right? But at the end of the day, it's still the

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same. Because Allah can switch off life immediately. In an instance,

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it doesn't need an excuse for it. So that's why he's saying,

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dependence is therefore man's natural and inherent attributes

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which you should never forget. We are innately essentially,

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intrinsically, by our very nature, we are dependent on Allah subhanaw

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taala, whether we realize it or not. Secondly, with every breath

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and moment, Allah Most High ensures that man receives his

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continuous favors meaning Allah's continuous favors necessary for

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his physical and spiritual existence, food, garments.

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And a variety of other preparations have already been

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made, and are being continuously created for man's physical

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existence and survival. So Allah subhanaw taala made us he knew

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that we were going to be dressed. So he allowed various things to be

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found in the earth that allows us to produce fabric from that,

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whether that be the cotton that grows,

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whether that be the cotton that grows from the ground, or

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nowadays, whether that be the polyester, and other materials

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that come from the oils that come out of the ground, or whether that

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is the bamboo fiber, or whatever other fiber that people try to

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figure out for man's spiritual existence, though Allah Most High

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constantly sends his aid in an uninterrupted flow without so we

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as Muslims because he's addressing believers and seekers and people

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who

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Want to be close to Allah, just like, Allah created us, just like

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Allah sustains us with the food and everything else in the air. We

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also need him for our spiritual sustenance, sustenance of the

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heart.

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For us to be able to continue to remember him, to stay in touch, to

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stay connected to worship, to show our devotion, we also need his

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help for that. Just because he's obligated us to do those things,

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it doesn't mean we become independent in doing those things,

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we still need his help for that, just like we need his help for our

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food and breath, and air and everything else. So without the

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spiritual aid of Allah, the believer will go astray,

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we are literally being stopped from going astray. We're being

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prevented by Allah continuing to send the power through for us to

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continue to believe.

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For Allah doesn't want us to for some reason, he will just stop. He

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doesn't even have to push us to the other side, we will get just

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naturally we'll just deviate to that side May Allah protect us.

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Thus, it has been observed that when Allah Most I terminate his

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aid from certain people, they fall headlong into deviation. With some

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people you actually clearly see they were so decent, the guy who

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called me today, he married a convert. She was praying hijab

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everything. And he says, After the few years, she just stopped doing

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all of that. What should I do? I don't want to leave her as there

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is not about what you want to do now. Right? It could be that Allah

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has made a decision for you. You should just straight out ask her,

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are you still a believer? Because if she's not a Muslim, and she is

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no longer a Christian or Jew either, in your konica doesn't

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stand, your marriage doesn't stand anymore, whatever. Whatever you

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want, whatever anybody says, just that much has to be there. Right?

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Since it is not possible for one to be independent from the Lord

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for even a second then why do we feign independence? Why do we

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pretend to be independent? Why this self esteem? Why this claim

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of excellence? How can these claims be correct? He asks, you

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should become a slave to Allah keeping in mind one's origin and

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refrain from making boastful claims. So that just puts more in

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perspective what we read last time.

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Now let us move on to

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wisdom number 101, which is on page 200. This is a

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different idea to what we read last time. If northa Allah says

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Mata Oh Harsha come in hulky farlam Anna who URI do I have to

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halacha Burble ncbe? Mata Oh hasha coming hulky farlam Anna who URI

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do? A Yes. The halacha Burble ncbe. Now listen, but I'll just

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give you a prelude what this is, is that this is sometimes an

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experience that some people have, that they suddenly just feel like

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they don't want to talk to people. They no longer like to hang out.

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Now, there's lots of people who that might happen to because

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they're depressed, because there's something going on in their life.

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So they withdraw.

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People could withdraw for many, many reasons, you get this

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question or so and so's withdrawn needs to be very good with us. But

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now, they don't want to come out of the house or whatever. Could be

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psychological problems. Some people have mental problems.

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That's why they don't they stop some people are paranoid about

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certain things. Or some people are just be grieved, you know, they

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just aggrieved. They have some huge sorrow or sadness. It can be

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many, many reasons why people withdraw away from others. And

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some people are just naturally like that. Now, none of that is

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praiseworthy necessarily. It might save you in a way, but it may be

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unhealthy. Because some people when they're alone, that's why a

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lot of people have suffered during the COVID. Because they were

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forced to withdraw. They couldn't go they would they were paranoid,

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they didn't want to take a risk. Some people didn't want to take a

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risk. Some people were very law abiding, and didn't want to go by

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forget the letter of the law. I mean, they didn't even want to go

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to spirit of the law. So I didn't want to make any and there was

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others who are not going by the letter of the law, but going by

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the spirit of the law, and some people just flouting the law. But

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these people didn't. And they were having mental breakdowns. They

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were having some serious issues. So there could be many reasons why

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people withdraw. So this is not talking about all forms of

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withdrawal from people. This is not talking about all forms of

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estrangement, that I don't want to be with people anymore because

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there could be many reasons. Some reasons are healthy.

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But a lot of reasons are not healthy. Humans are creatures. We

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need people. Allah always created us from other human beings. We

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always have parents, you can never see with anybody else with

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friends. You can

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replace them. With anything you own, you can replace it, even with

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a spouse you can replace, right not to diminish the position of a

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spouse but you can, but you cannot replace parents, you cannot

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replace brothers and sisters. It just cannot happen. That's a test

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from Allah. If they're bad brothers, sisters, you think they

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are? Or maybe they are, you know, because sometimes you think they

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are, but they're not. And sometimes they are bad. Sometimes

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the parents are unreasonable. Sometimes they could be

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oppressive, sometimes they could be just wrong. But I recently I

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saw one son telling his father that look, Allah has put us into

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this relationship.

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Right? Regardless of how harsh you are,

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I'm gonna have to bear it, I may, I may get upset, but I have to

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just forget about it at the end of the day and just be back. That's

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the best policy that you can have with your, with people like that.

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There's no other way about it. Allah has tested you with them.

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Allah has tested you with them. So yes, I know what you say to me is

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going to be very bitter and something that I'd be very upset.

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But in order for that relationship maintained, I need to be wise

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enough now to say,

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Okay, right. I'm gonna, I've gotten angry, but it's my father

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at the end of the day. He's my, he's my mother at the end of the

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day. So I need to clear my heart.

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With your kin. That's what Allah wants us to do, to the best of

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your ability, of course, unless they are actively harming you,

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then you can obviously protect yourself. That's a different

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issue. But I'm saying that when it's just tough to deal with them.

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Now with anybody else, you don't have to stay friends with them,

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you can just find another friend, if they're tough. If they're

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complicated people, but with your parents, with your children, you

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just can't do that.

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If you're going to treat your own children and your own parents,

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like other strangers that, hey, I can just stop talking to them.

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That's absolutely ridiculous. I know some people who do this,

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they don't speak to their brand sisters, you know, for whatever

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reason.

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They break ties with them. Now,

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I've mentioned this before, so I don't want to reiterate everything

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and repeat everything. But just maintaining ties doesn't mean that

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you must always be with them and have these huge meetings with them

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and feed food with them and everything, it means that at least

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you're on some kind of talking terms, at least you're there for

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them, it doesn't mean that you have to then always be with them.

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Because some people just to be with them for too long. always

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ends up in a problem. So you can keep some space.

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But just remember that this should be the policy with your parents

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and children.

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That at the end of the day, you just have to let it be and go back

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because that's who Allah subhanaw taala has put us there. So anyway,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala brings us from people.

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He never there's nobody created even okay, it's only other Melissa

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was created from nothing from just soil. But after him. Everybody's

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been created from another human being. And there's a reason for

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that because we are social beings. So people withdraw from others for

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different reasons. Now he's mentioning one healthy reason.

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Right, which is he's saying that when Allah alienates you from his

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creatures, when you feel alienated, you don't feel like

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being with people.

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When do you know that that's the right reason, or the right feeling

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that you don't need to do anything about a new scene, enjoy it,

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rather than protest against it. When is the right time to feel

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alienated, then know that he wants to open up for you the door of

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intimacy with Him? If that's what's happening to you, then you

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should celebrate your estrangement from people. Like you feel like

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doing more prayer. You feel like doing more vicar. You feel like

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spending your nights with Allah. Praying in night vigil, then know

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that your estrangement from people is for the right reason Allah

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wants you to be close to him. But if you're estranged from people is

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just making you miserable. You're not even praying to Allah,

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nothing, then that's for the wrong reason, then it's a psychological

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mental problem or something else that's happened. So now let's

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understand this. So essentially, what the author is telling us is

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that generally in Europe, I'll summarize it quickly for you what

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happens is that when Allah subhanaw taala wants to draw

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somebody very close, then it's almost like he forces you into a

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Attica.

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He forces a person into a retreat with him. That means that you can

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be in your house or even living among people, but you don't feel

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like interacting as much. And this is the sunnah to Allah. This is

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Allah's way in this world. This is how he does it.

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Right? But it's always temporary. Remember that? It's never

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permanent. This is always temporary. It's a temporary

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retreat retreats are always temporary, very

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treat becomes permanent, it's no longer retreat. It's your know

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it's your style, right? But Allah has made us social beings. So

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Allah doesn't want us to exclude ourselves for too long or forever.

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Right? Generally speaking,

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people, excuse me, I've read this in the lives of the pious, many

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times, right? So when you hear about that, many of them have gone

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through this kind of feeling where they just didn't feel like being

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with anybody. And they were just doing vicar and so on, so forth.

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And then after that, they came back out much more powerful than

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they were before because now they were connected in a very strong

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way. This is the kind of Hello that I speak about. So

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this is what he says, he says, this is the way of Allah subhanaw

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taala in among his creation, that when he wants a person to start

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really enjoying the remembrance of Allah, like really enjoying that

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remembrance, of Allah wants to grant him his awareness and his

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microphone, his knowledge, then he makes him feel estranged. It

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doesn't feel right when he's among people, He Allah then in engages

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this person in the service of Allah.

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And he inspires him to do more vicar, it becomes easier to do

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vicar just becomes easy, just want to do that.

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Until, with that abundance from an abundance of remembrance, the

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heart becomes filled with light, then the person gets other gifts

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from Allah, where they witness certain realities, they feel the

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sweetness of iman, right? It's certain experiences that happen

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right?

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Thereafter, that once a person is complete in that regard, Allah

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subhanaw taala, then returns them back to the human beings back to

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social life, they feel like they can engage with others again.

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Now,

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what they will do is, they will only take the best from people,

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they will never be such that they will allow people to take them

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over and engage them in the wrong things, you will be very solid

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after this, where before you're struggling with your phone, these

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are constant complaints, I just don't have enough time because I

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spent so much time on my phone. Well, Allah subhanaw taala does it

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this way for us, we'll get back on the phone. But it'll be used for

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the right reasons. And it will be used very, in a particular way.

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He's gives an example. It's a really, really relevant example.

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But you have to make it work says, you know, when you have a guess

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you could use it as a barbecue. Right, he gives the example of a

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lamp. And we had those lamps with oil and have a little wick

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sticking out. So what happened, you have to first get that to

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burn. When it starts burning, initially, you have to protect it

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from air from wind, otherwise, they'll just get put off. So for

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example, a barbecue, when you try to light a barbecue, you need to

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make sure that there's not too much wind, because if there is

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it'll just keep taking that flame off because before he actually

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catches the whole coal, right, you try and do a whole coal or you

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know, whatever barbecue, right, you have to first protect it. Now,

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after that, once my shell lights lit and all the coal are lit, then

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the wind actually just mashallah gives it more fire, it's not going

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to turn it off. And the more wind to happen, even if you've got

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these embers which are dying out, how do they rekindle them by by

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giving them more air. So the airway, which was actually harmful

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for it first, now becomes beneficial afterwards. So it's the

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same kind of idea, he's saying that initially, you're gonna have

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to protect it from the wind.

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Right. So that's why you take it to an enclosed space and

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everything. But as soon as it the light is kindled, and as soon as

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it becomes stronger, then after that, it gets a bit of wind, it

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gets even stronger. Likewise is the human being as well,

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initially, you need to start protecting it from the wrong

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influences, whether that be in person from human being, or

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whether that be through the messages, and everything else

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through Facebook, and other things like that. So that's why if Allah

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subhanaw taala, once, he will help you to disengage with all of this

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for a while,

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then when your heart is strong enough, you can come back in, and

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then these things will be used for a benefit only. So if you ever

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feel like that he's saying, right now remember, as I said, again,

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this is not everybody because you could retreat for other reasons

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for mental health reasons or, or you're forced to retreat in the in

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the pandemic. But if you're retreating and you're finding that

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you're actually getting closer to Allah then know that Allah

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subhanaw taala has that for you. That's why the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam if you look at it as well, it says that before he became

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A prophet Habiba Ely Hill Hala, first being alone and solitude was

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made beloved to him, he started enjoying his solitude. So that's

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why he would take off for some time. Before he received his first

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revelation, he would take a bit of provisions, a pack lunch or

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whatever you want to call it, some supplies, they would go up and

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retreat in this cave of Hira. That's exactly what happened. You

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need that first to create the heart to create the right place

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for then Allah subhanaw taala, to shine the lights, and to give that

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experience, exactly what happened with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wasallam. Why, first, you need to go into a retreat, to remove from

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the heart, all of these distractions, that's what it

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really is, it's to remove from the heart distractions, and everything

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else that will generally attract it away.

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So then it becomes prepared to take in a new content. And that

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new content is from Allah subhanaw taala. So when it becomes cleansed

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of all of the soil, and the filth and the dirt and the distractions,

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and the other engagements, then it will be filled with the lights,

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then the sun of awareness, the sons of awareness, the lights of

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awareness will come out much of Allah subhanaw taala does with all

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of his Olia and his asphere from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam down to set all the stories that I've read, generally, you're

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going to have somebody doing that, in fact, what they do in many,

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Sufi ways, in the good Sufi ways that they'll actually

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put you into a hallway. So if they'll force this almost upon you

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get you to go into a hallway, you go into an ethical,

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you know, so there's a 10 day ethic of, but then there's a 40

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day ethic of there could be a two months ethic or generally 40 days

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is good enough for any kind of mature human beings need 40 days

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of something, to kick a habit, for example, for today's to become

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habituated to something else, do something for 40 days, you can

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probably do it for the rest of your life. Right? As long as you

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don't go without it for 1015 days or something. So that's where it

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is 40 days kind of maturity period. So in Panama and

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Hakimullah I used to do that he used to have people come in he had

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this special place out there in the woods, right, a building that

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would be given I think food twice a day or something. And they would

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just have to sit there and do there was like a conquer. Right?

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Like a retreat is exactly like a retreat today. You pay very, you

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know, you pay a huge amount of sums to go and do this. Those

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days. The Sheikh did it for you for free, right. So essentially,

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that was it. It was to force you into that Hello, and then to

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detox. That's essentially what's happening here. So this is Allah

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sunnah with the Olia and asphere that they he gets them to flee the

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people if they flee themselves, and they feel this Alhamdulillah

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but that's what he says some shakes. They try to compel the

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state upon you, if you're if you're ready, if they think you're

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ready for it.

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So until Yes, then after Allah subhanaw taala lets them go out to

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people and they ashame mashallah and then they help others and

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people benefit from them as well.

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That's why there's a poet who says the here become Kulu or the intern

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zielona be her confy because in or the Taru what ash the hill? I envy

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commander on Hasina got an account fee Are you in see as her rule one

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Oh, come Yeah, that is the bureau at he got an a comfy vada I mean,

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Lady Akamaru

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the whole land will then become enlivened by you and any land that

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you alight upon wherever you go to stay, whichever area you're in,

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that will become lit by you, it is as if you are the rain that brings

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a lot of sustenance. For for those you're the one who will bring the

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rain and shower down for those hearts that need it.

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And lots of eyes will then be pleased to see you and they will

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it is as if you become like like a flower now among people. So, you

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will be a breath of breath of fresh air, whereas people would

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avoid you for so consider you to be boisterous or something else

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and mean. Now you will come back as a source of as a source of glad

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tidings for them as a source of pleasantness.

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And your light will be the one that anybody who wants to traverse

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the path will be able to use your light to traverse the path. It is

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as though you now become the moons you now become the moon in the

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dark nights. May Allah subhanaw taala make us of them may Allah

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make us of them may Allah make us of them. So that's that's it

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that's what he's trying to say by this so Sheikh Abdullah gonna go

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he says on this one. It says oh traveller. If your heart cannot

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find solace with anyone, except in the invalid

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You should have Allah you just don't like people anymore. Right?

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It's temporary. As long as you're finding

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solace in the invocation of Allah, and you become terrified of

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creatures, then understand this state to indicate Allah's in Allah

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is willing intimacy for you, and that he will keep you aloof from

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all things besides him. On the other hand, if your heart just

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derives comfort from creatures, and you become bored and terrified

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of solitude and invocation, then understand that this condition is

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a great loss and misfortune for you this is what a lot of us are

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struggling with. Where we just enjoy with people rather than

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spending 10 minutes remembering Allah subhanaw taala Allah make it

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easy for us. We're okay with that one and Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil

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Alameen allow men to Salah Moming salah and the rock the other

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agenda anybody Quran Allahumma salli wa salam ala Sayidina

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Muhammad wa ala early so you didn't know him and he was he was

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lame. Yeah. Or hamara he mean? Yeah, they'll generally when a

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cron yeah a chromium chromium yeah Hieronymous only in where Hiral

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Martine. Where Mark DINELLI Judy will Karim a criminal. A criminal?

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A criminal Johanna Iran Rihanna, barometer in Togo, Nina, Bihar

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Minsi work Allahumma fildena Wareham now if you know what Adina

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was O'Connor Allahumma Finley on mateesah Yelena Mohammed in

00:31:24 --> 00:31:28

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah homophily and Muslim enormously

00:31:28 --> 00:31:31

mirth and what we need or want me to La Jolla iminium Wilmarth yeah

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Allah have mercy upon us yeah Allah forgive us yeah Allah purify

00:31:34 --> 00:31:39

us. Yeah, Allah protect us. Yeah, Allah enable us to do the right

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thing. We thank you for our existence. We thank you for the

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gift of sustenance of Allah you have given us so much more than so

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many others of Allah do not allow us to use what you have given us

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to disobey you of Allah. protect us from distractions of Allah,

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call us to you in the right way of Allah allow us to remember you and

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to find comfort in your remembrance and to enjoy your

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remembrance of Allah grant us the Tofig to remember you, grant us

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the ability to thank you grant us the ability to be to be correct

00:32:16 --> 00:32:20

human beings to be the way you want us to be the way

00:32:21 --> 00:32:27

you want the way your friends are the way your earlier, our law,

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except us from among them as well. Oh Allah, we don't have much to

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show. We don't have much to offer. But oh Allah with your assistance,

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it can only happen with your assistance of Allah we are only

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sitting here and discussing these things because you have allowed us

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to be here. We could have been doing so many other things but

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Allah we are here because you've allowed us to be here or Allah Now

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that you've allowed us to be here. Our Allah allow us to be now

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accepted. Allah, let it not stop here. But Allah facilitate the

00:33:00 --> 00:33:04

other steps for us to be close to you. Oh Allah make this easy for

00:33:04 --> 00:33:10

us. We struggle, we fail, we fall of Allah but do not let us be

00:33:10 --> 00:33:15

defeated. Do not let us stay down. Always allow us to stand back up

00:33:15 --> 00:33:21

and allow us to be steadfast. Allow us to be strong. Allow us to

00:33:22 --> 00:33:27

gain your love in our hearts, to love you and for you to love us,

00:33:27 --> 00:33:32

of Allah protect us and protect our parents and our

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all our relatives, and especially our children and our progeny until

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the Day of Judgment, who you've made us responsible for. Allow us

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to fulfill that responsibility. Allow us to be forces of good in

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this world allow us to leave a legacy of Allah remove this

00:33:49 --> 00:33:54

pandemic. or Allah remove this pandemic. Oh Allah protect us. Oh

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Allah protect us. Those who have passed on, grant them a high

00:33:58 --> 00:34:02

status. Those who are suffering today remove their suffering. Oh

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Allah, those who are subjugated, remove their subjugation of Allah

00:34:06 --> 00:34:12

assist us and protect us and bless us and Allah, we are abundantly

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thankful to you and grant us the Tofik to always be grateful to you

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and to constantly be grateful to you for everything. So why not be

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carbonized that Yama Yosef whenever Salam al mursaleen Al

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Rahmatullah or hammer Huahine

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JazakAllah for listening, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you.

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