Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 24 Dealing SelfAdmiration and Narcissism

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding one's own success and finding one's way to be closer to Allah. Enablement is crucial for achieving success and finding one's way to be closer to Allah. Security, health, and wellbeing are important for healthy lifestyles, and security, health, and food are necessary for everyone to stay healthy. There is a need for people to show gratitude for blessings and not just the reward of their actions. There is a need for people to show gratitude for blessings and not forget about missed opportunities and deeds. The acceptance of Islam's teachings and forgiveness for one's actions are also important.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa

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Salatu was Salam ala say you didn't mousseline while he was

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Safi. Raka was a limiter sleeve and Kathy are on Eli omy. Dean,

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Mr. Barrett.

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What we want to discuss briefly today is

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a very specific topic, narcissism and being impressed with oneself.

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This is something which is very easily for it to occur, especially

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for talented people.

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If you think you have a certain talent, and you can do something,

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well, or you're good at something,

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whether that be you're good at football, you're good at a sport,

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whether

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you look good, you think you look good, at least.

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However, you're very strong, whether you bodybuild whether

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you're very intellectual, whether you're always getting top grades,

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in your, in your school, in your studies, whether you're a good

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negotiator, whether you're good businessman, a good salesperson.

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I mean, the multitudes are various things that you could be good as,

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right?

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So what happens is,

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you could get impressed by yourself.

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Being impressed.

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A person should actually know about themselves about the person

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should actually know about the reality of themselves, and every

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human being has problems. So how, why should we get impressed with

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ourselves? One is that we acknowledge what we have, and we

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use it in the right way that that's actually sought, that's

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praiseworthy, there's nothing wrong with that, in fact, that's

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recommended

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to understand what Allah has given us

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the abilities that Allah has bestowed us with, and then try to

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use them to help others. Do something with it.

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And help yourself help your family. But then to get impressed

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that it leads to narcissism.

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In Arabic, this is called urgent,

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urgent,

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this conceit, this feeling, even if you don't, it doesn't have to

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always lead to arrogance against others. It's just this very

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personal feeling that I'm so great.

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Then kibarim the curveball is when this translates into

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looking down at others, and it becomes an active aspects.

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Until it's a kind of a passive aspects of just looking great,

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looking at yourself in this with him, and him being impressed with

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yourself. That that is what you call urgent and then when it

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becomes transitive to somebody else, and that becomes Kibera and

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arrogance. So there's those subtle differences between them.

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But generally, one leads to the other.

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What how do how do the roadmap define it? You know, one is we

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have an idea of what we think it means, maybe from personal

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experience, or what we've seen of others maybe, but

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narcissism is for someone to deem his blessing.

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As I mentioned, the ability that you think you have, it's a

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blessing at the end of the day, right?

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to deem his blessing as tremendous and to rely on it. There's nothing

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wrong

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about it. So far, this is still the definition, right? It's not

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fully, fully defined yet. So to deem one's own blessing is

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tremendous and to rely upon it, while forgetting to attribute it

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to the giver, and a giver in capitals. And who is that that's

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Allah subhanaw taala. So we don't even think of how Allah subhanaw

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taala gave us that, that it is He who gave us this,

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namely Allah.

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So it's about forgetting where it comes from. And you know, the

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whole antidote, any person who has this problem of looking at them

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themselves with greatness and goodness, right? Self admiration.

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The antidote, very simple antidote is just remember that Allah gave

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it to you.

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And Allah didn't give it to you,

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to make you feel super above others, and so on and so forth,

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but to use it in the right way. That's the antidote. As soon as

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you bring a line to the picture, it should take you down it should

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humble, create humility.

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Indeed, being preoccupied by a blessing from its giver is

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blameworthy narcissism

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to become occupied with the blessing while forgetting the one

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who blessed you with it. That is narcissism. I mean, you have a

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very nice car you have a very nice handbag, you have very nice

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clothing. A very nice house.

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You forget that

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Allah is behind everything

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and

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we become preoccupied with it. That's what the problem is the

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prophets Allah Lord Islam said Hadith raised by mumble Hari

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Muslim, there was once a man walking in an outfit

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maybe he had a

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what's a nice outfit today?

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You know, maybe he had a really nice Armani suit on canali suit

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on, or something like this

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with a nice, nice tag who I'll watch or something else, you know,

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a Rolex or something like that.

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So anyway, this person is walking in an outfit in those days,

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whatever that outfit was impressed with himself, because clearly, you

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know, when you've got this kind of stuff on or when you have this

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extra on or driving a new car or something, it does something to

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generally

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right you, you you you feel that people are going to be looking at

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you so there is this feeling it creates it.

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So in the Hadith says, impressed with himself with his hair nicely

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combed

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to add to it, and walking with praise.

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When all of a sudden Allah caused him to be swallowed. So he is

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violently plunging into the earth until Resurrection Day.

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I mean, that's obviously an extreme punishment.

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Right? You may think I haven't seen that happen to anybody. I

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know a lot of nurses people.

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But that's a possibility happened to karoun. As mentioned in the

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Quran,

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who the two who are Allah or Illman, nd that's what he said. He

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said, I was given it. I was given all of these treasures that I have

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all of this riches, all of these riches that I have,

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from a knowledge through a knowledge that I possessed

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of all Mohamed El gerade, he said that devoted slaves of blessings,

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devoted slaves of blessings are plentiful in number. Get lots of

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people who are slaves of blessings. They love the good.

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They love the good adornments of this world. But the devoted slaves

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of the giver of blessings are rare indeed.

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That's the fitna. That's the challenge. In a practical sense,

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that's the challenge. You got a nice phone.

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Then you start admiring the phone admiring the company admiring the

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founder, the designer, right? Until you get obsessed with that

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without actually

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while forgetting who is behind all of this. And all of these are

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Allah mirth and just signs to Allah subhanaw taala. Not to say

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that you can appreciate the middleman. That Okay, Masha, Allah

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has done a wonderful job, that's understandable. There's nothing

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wrong with that. It's when you become a slave to that devotion in

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that sense.

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Imam Malawi mentions, he says the opposite of this. Now generally,

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when you look at one thing, it's, you get a better idea. When you

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see its opposite, it becomes more defined and distinguished. The

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opposite of narcissism, or our job is to recall Allah's favor.

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That's also the antidote. That is for one to bear in mind that the

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blessing exists only due to enablement by Allah subhanaw

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taala. And that He alone is the one who honors him, and enhances

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his reward and merit. Everything comes from Allah, and he gave you

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this and if you treat this world in the right way, fulfill its

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right, Allah will actually reward you for it.

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This recollection is actually obligatory. This is a followed, we

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generally just understand Faraj and to be fasting and praying and

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southern Zakat and so on. But these are the obligations of the

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heart that a lot of people don't understand somebody just think

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it's something good that you should have, yes, it's

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praiseworthy. It's good. It's nice to have, but very few people

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actually understand that I am actually supposed to be trying and

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making an effort to inculcate this and to remedy any problem that I

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have.

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That's why it's very, it's a it's a blameworthy trait. It's a sin,

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to have a job and to allow it to persist within one's heart. So

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imagine, hello, it says that this recollection that everything comes

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from Allah subhanho wa taala. This is obligatory when one feels

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enticed to narcissistic thoughts. As soon as you think that you're

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better than somebody else, because you've got this, that and the

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other.

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There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that Alhamdulillah

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Allah has given me something and he doesn't have it that you can

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like putting that in perspective. You can't be mean, we're human

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beings. We can't be blind to these things. I mean,

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If you see them, you see them, right? But it's never to then

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start thinking I'm better than he because at the end of the day,

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this is a worldly thing that you've been given.

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And what really matters in the hereafter is that who's going to

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be who's going to have a higher status in the Hereafter, who's

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going to be closer to Allah, whose deeds and heart is better, whose

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heart is more sound, though he may not have the riches that you have,

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you may not have the intellect that you may have may not be a

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genius like you are.

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But he may be closer to Allah subhanho wa taala, she may be

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closer to Allah subhanaw taala.

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That's why, you know, when I see other people may start thinking,

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you know, I've got more, I've got this, or I've got that measure,

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just think, well, you know, maybe closer to Allah subhanaw taala

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than me.

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And when you think that he just puts you down, because it puts you

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in your place. Now, you may think I mean, this is another aspect

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here is that look, I really worked hard for this, whatever I've got,

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I really worked hard for it, or my parents really worked hard for it.

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But at the end of the day, if you trace, whatever it is, you will

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see that eventually, it's because Allah placed you in this position,

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placed you in the right place at the right time. Otherwise, how

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difficult is it that you and I

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are suddenly somebody in Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan, Palestine,

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whatever.

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And somebody else there is here. Imagine where the kid on the

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streets, who's just lost his father,

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who now has nothing his mother can't. His house has just been

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destroyed, and they got nothing.

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Did we choose to be here?

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The only choice that we we think we have is after we've been in the

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woods, and we've tried something and we've acquired something and

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we can see a kind of a connection between what we tried and what we

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got. But if you keep going back behind that, then where did we

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come from?

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Well our parents come from

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why were they here?

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So at the end of the day, there's no escaping ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada.

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That's what Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran. In surah, two

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Rockman. Center for all a youth soccer learn to be a rugby Kuma to

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Caliban which of the bounties of your Lord will you deny that's the

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whole perspective of this surah right. Yeah, Marshal genuine ins,

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any store atom and then voodoo. When a Katana is somewhere it will

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all different voodoo, Latin for Luna Illa be sold on there's no

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way you can go beyond the limits of this universe, there is no way

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that you can step out of the boundaries of Allah, beyond his

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realm, beyond his kingdom, beyond his ownership into a land that he

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doesn't own in which you are independent, no, you are always

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dependent of Allah. He is the summit.

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Allah is the Samad the one who is self subsisting not in need of

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anybody, but everybody else is in need of Him.

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So when we understand the some idea of Allah subhanaw taala, his

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self subsisting nature, then we understand that we are really

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nothing.

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We're only here because of the grace of Allah subhanaw taala. And

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may He continue that grace, both in this world and in the

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hereafter?

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The actual cause of narcissism. We're going to explore this a bit,

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we're going to unpack this a bit. The actual cause of narcissism is

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pure ignorance. Right from everything we've said, I mean,

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that's what results, pure ignorance or heedlessness, that

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you actually know but you're heedless towards it now, and not

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paying attention.

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Now the general treatment to it is to realize, to become aware and

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thus remove the ignorance and appreciate that everything exists

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only by the creative act and will of Allah subhanaw taala is because

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he decided to do so see, to put this in a theological sense,

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everything, including us and everybody else and everything else

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that exists besides Allah subhanaw taala is what you call a mumkin.

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So in the grand realm of theology here, everything and everyone is

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what we call in theology, a possibly existed being

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it wasn't necessary for any of us to be here. This universe would

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have worked completely fine without us. If somebody else could

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have been here, Allah had the absolute prerogative and choice

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that he could have had somebody else in place of us. So the fact

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that you and I are here was the choice of Allah subhanaw taala

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through His will and His Iraida to allow us to come into being from

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the realm of

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An existence,

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we owe him for that. It's purely His grace that we're even here in

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the first place, then it's his grace that He made us the way he

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did. And then you can just start counting the bounties. That's why

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says in a hadith, that whoever wakes up

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in the morning with security, and Hamdulillah, we have lots of

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security. Yes, there has been there have been a few local

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incidents of acid attacks and so on. But in general, compared to a

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lot of people and a lot of places around, we have a huge amount of

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security, that you can actually just be sitting around walking

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around without having to care too much. Right, even women can walk

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out on the streets at night if they need to. I was in South

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Africa recently, a friend of mine was an imam there, he lives down

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the road from the shop. But every time he needs something in the

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evening, or even in the daytime, he has to go and pick it up in the

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car. He can't he can't allow his wife or daughter to walk the

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street,

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to walk the street just up the road to the shop to buy something

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Subhanallah

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while they adjust, that they adjust, that's the wonderful

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aspect of a human being we can adjust. We mashallah, when you

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look and compare, we have sort of obviously some said, Wherever

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wakes up in the morning with security.

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With health. So generally you've got wellbeing of your body, right,

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you might have a cold one day, that's fine, just understand that

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you might have a little ache here or there. You may have a wound

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here and there, but generally your well being. If you wake up with

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wellbeing and safety, and you have your days sustenance, enough food

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to last you today, then it is as if the entire world has been

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brought to your feet. Because that's what you need for your day,

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day by day that you don't know about tomorrow. But that's all you

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need for your day, you need security for the day, you need

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health for the day to pass through and you need your food to get you

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through. And if you've got that much the whole world, it's as if

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the whole world is brought to your feet. That's the blessing of

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Allah, the wife, Allah loves us. That's the point. But we don't do

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enough to bring him into our life. Though he is every he is. He is

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part of our life in every sense of it. But we keep trying to block

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him out by being distracted

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by being heedless, and yet deep down we believe this because

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that's part of our belief of iman.

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So the actual cause of narcissism is pure ignorance or heedlessness

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or not paying attention. Its general treatment is to realize

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and appreciate that everything exists only by the creative act

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and will of Allah subhanaw taala. And that every blessing of

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intelligence, knowledge, righteous works, whatever you feel,

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narcissist about narcissistic about, whether that be your

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knowledge, your prestige, your wealth, your intelligence, your

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good clothing, your handsomeness your beauty, whatever it may be,

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is from Allah alone

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is from Allah alone. Now you can go into a long debate with

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yourself as to why you got it, nobody else got it, why you got

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you, the other person didn't get it.

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And then he says on top of that, and to be cognizant, and fully

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aware of this, by recording it and bringing it to mind that this is

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from Allah to keep saying that

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that's the maraca, you must do that the vigilance you must have

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that is from Allah, it's from Allah, namely, that he has xojo

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alone is the creator of the servant and all of his actions,

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his outward actions, inward actions, his possessions and

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everything he has and he leads

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and this is not difficult, you know once number one now we know

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this so that removes the ignorance if we were ignorant, while this

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has removed the ignorance, it's told us our place is given us an

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understanding of our relationship between us and our

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A abilities our bounties that look yes, you got bounties, respect

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them, acknowledge them, yes, but know where they came from.

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So it is incumbent upon the servant to show gratitude for all

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of his blessings. This is a fourth chakra is a fourth, just like

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solid is affordable and fasting is sugar is a fourth

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how many of us make sugar

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whereas it's a fourth and obligation.

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It is incumbent upon the sermon to show gratitude for all of his

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blessings like knowledge, actions, etc, that he possesses only due to

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divine enablement and aid. You see, in Sunni Islam. We believe in

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radical monotheism,

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absolute declaration of Allah to be one in everything, not just the

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fact that he's one and there's no two three and four. That's a

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simplistic way of looking at it. What we mean by Allah being one

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is that there is He is the giver.

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and sole source of everything.

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Not just that there's not another. She has that he is. So it's a

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different way of looking at it. So Mr. Will honey Veronica says Artie

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Denis Creedy says, Allah is One. But not in terms of number. We

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don't mean this in terms of number though that is the case as well.

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But we don't mean that. We mean he is one, ie unique in His essence,

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his attributes, His actions.

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There's nobody else that can do what Allah can do.

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So, when it comes to Sunni Islam is radical monotheism. It denies

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even the slightest trace of dual dualism dualism, that you know,

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there could be a second or a shriek, a partner,

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by ontology, by ontologically, ascribing directly to Allah, every

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effect occurrent an action in the cosmos, we have to do this,

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including the voluntary actions of human beings.

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Even though we're responsible for the actions that we choose,

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everything has to be ascribed to Allah subhanaw taala. When you

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start doing that, then this helps us spiritually, because then the

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narcissism is removed, then we no longer think hey, I'm great. I'm

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great because of what Allah has given me. You're not going to say

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that you're not gonna say I'm great because of Allah has given

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me you that's, that's never going to happen. If you know Allah has

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given it to you, how can you say I'm greater than somebody else?

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Then you will understand that I'm doing Shakur than Hamdulillah.

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Allah has given us this because he can easily take it away. There

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were one spiritual master says that true slave would to Allah or

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Buddha is to fulfill the rights of obedience, with do veneration.

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So you're praying Salaat but are we venerating Allah when we pray a

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lot when we're doing thicker, we're actually saying words of

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veneration, but it's our heart venerating him.

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There's a difference between

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a verbal veneration and a heartfelt veneration.

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May Allah give us that heartfelt veneration

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to see one spiritual efforts as falling short of the divine right?

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So we've gathered here for vicar inshallah.

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Now, if we believe because of this, that we've done our part and

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we fulfill the right of Allah subhanho wa Taala because we took

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time off, I mean, wow, you know, we took time off on a Sunday,

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Saturday evening, when people are going out to restaurants and

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people are going out to you know, do all sorts of things on Saturday

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evening, but we are, we have come together inshallah for the sake of

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Allah. Wow. Right. So the first thing we've come together for the

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sake of Allah is a great thing. But suddenly, I've done my part.

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And

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I fulfilled my obligation to Allah, that's when it gets

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problematic.

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We the approach should be that we thank Allah that has given us the

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ability to do this, and then to seek forgiveness for any

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shortcomings, whether we realize them or not, and there are

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definitely shortcomings

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in terms of what Allah truly deserves from us, for being our

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Creator and for everything is given us. Rather, one needs to

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view all of one's achieved achievements and virtues as solely

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being from the Divine Decree of Allah subhanaw taala.

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One of the most potent treatments of urgency and narcissism

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is to focus and try to work out the spiritual calamities that come

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from it.

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Like what is the problem of being narcissistic?

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What are the calamities the numerous there are numerous

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calamities from having origin?

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It, it suffices one to realize that it is the cause of arrogance.

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If you have urged them, eventually it's going to lead to the Cabal

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kibra Arrogance against another, you're going to start belittling

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people.

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Now, as I told you, having an idea of your strengths, and your

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abilities is a good thing, because it's people like this that

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generally go out to do major accomplishments.

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Right? So you have to realize your abilities to do something.

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Just that it should not make you vain. And arrogance. So one thing

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that narcissism if you have that it's going to eventually lead to

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Kibera and arrogance against others, which are you going to

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look down upon people. And then if there comes a time when you are

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wrong, when we are wrong about something because we could be

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wrong, right? I mean, does everybody agree that even though

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we're generally right, we are wrong sometimes.

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Is there anybody here that

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has never been wrong about something?

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Husband and wife relationship

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Oops.

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You know what, with my wife, what'd I just say? I'm sorry,

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straightaway, he's just like, forget it. I'm wrong, okay for us,

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I could be wrong.

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And what's the point of putting on some pretense I made a mistake,

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okay, big deal.

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That's what you have to do.

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So the fact that we know that we can be wrong sometimes

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shows that we're, we've got a defect. It suffices one to realize

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that it is the cause of arrogance. So we don't want the narcissism if

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it's latent within us to

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become expressed as arrogance towards somebody else, because

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that can get us in big trouble. Right?

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Forgetting one sins.

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Because it's a sin of the heart. We think only Zina and all of

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these are sins and stealing and all that. These are sins that we

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carry around every day, we could be doing multiple times, we may be

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avoiding theft, cheating, but we are doing this sin of the heart

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all the time, and it is eating out inside.

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It's just that you can't smell it.

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They say that gambling addiction is very difficult to see in

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somebody.

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Unless you see them gambling,

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you can't smell it. If somebody's got an addiction to wine, you can

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smell it on their breath, you can see it in their actions. But if

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somebody's got a gambling problem, you can't really see it. But it's

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a massive problem.

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Believe me, it's a massive problem. I've dealt with people

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who've had it. Okay, so, number one, forget you. It's the cause of

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arrogance. Number two, it makes you forget one sins. Number two,

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it makes you forget the blessing of Allah, this is another

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calamity. That's meaning we're committing all of these crimes.

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Right? Number four, feeling secure from Allah as devising and

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punishment.

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Just what's happened to karoun. So we feel safe that oh, I'm too

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good, nothing's gonna happen to me, you start feeling invincible.

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And then

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thinking one has a standing with Allah, it gets even worse, that

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you actually start thinking were chosen. Were the chosen people,

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you know, were a chosen individual. I'm special.

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Because look, I mean, I've done all of this very successfully, and

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nothing's happened to me.

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That's why a lot of times, we can't really even tell that we've

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got this problem, somebody else has to point it out.

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But sometimes it's, you know, that's just a very late period

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that because then it's expressed outside. That means it's been

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strong enough insight to have had an outer expression.

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And thinking one has a standing with Allah and is deserving of

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reward due to his righteous work, which in fact, are blessings and

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gifts from among his blessings and gifts.

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It leads one to deem himself pure and prevent one from benefiting

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from others and consulting them.

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And, you know, I can tell you this from experience, sometimes when

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you've made a judgment about somebody that you're better than

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them, they don't know anything, and you don't want to listen to

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them. And then one day, you happen to listen to them and suddenly you

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start seeing Wow, they actually have a lot of substance. I can

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actually benefit from them. But maybe it's too late now, because,

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you know, you've already put up

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a barrier between yourself and them

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is narrated by Anasazi Allahu Anhu in Hadith rates by Mumbai, hockey,

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and it's in the Muslim world, bizarre as well, that there are

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three things that destroy famous generation, there are three things

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that are destroyed that are very destructive, number one,

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stinginess, that is a bit. So one is you feel stingy. It's a natural

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state of teachers, you just have a tough time spending or giving.

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But you so what the honey is trying to say is that if you obey

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it, and act on that stinginess and withhold, that's the problem

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that's destructive, because Allah creates people in different ways.

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So in some people, he does put a stimulus, it's a natural stimulus.

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The challenge for this person, the moja, is to try to open up

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but if it's obeyed, then that becomes destructive.

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Number two,

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stubborn whims, that once it comes to

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stubborn whims, that what and you don't want to listen to anything

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else, it's just you go by your own whims.

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You become stubborn in that everybody's going to have ideas,

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whims, doubts. It's about becoming stubborn upon them. And number

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three is a person being impressed with himself.

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That's the third destructive factor, it could take a person to

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district destruction.

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Now, the last point I make before we stop is,

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you know, if a person

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is impressed with one spiritual works,

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that I do this much thicker I make all my Salaat I do this much

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damage at night or I do this one charity work or whatever the case

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is.

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Whatever kind of spiritual work it is outwardly, being impressed with

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one spiritual work could be very well an indication that those

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works are not accepted by Allah.

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How it's very logical, actually.

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If not, I thought Allah says in an aphorism, no righteous deeds are

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more hopeful to be accepted,

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then deeds you hardly notice and deem insignificant.

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Meaning, if you've done a deed, you help somebody out, or whatever

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it was, and you deemed it insignificant that look, I

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shouldn't be doing this, you didn't signal like how I should do

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much more. That's a proof that you haven't taken the credit for it.

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The credit then will come from Allah. It's like a check, you

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haven't cashed.

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But if I think my deed is great, then I've cashed my check, that

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Allah won't give me anything because I've already taken my

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reward. Makes sense. So the less that we feel, that

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we have done something great.

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That is a sign that that is more accepted by Allah subhanaw taala

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because he's given us a true perspective towards it.

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So that's why what happened I thought, Allah says that no

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righteous deeds are more hopeful to be accepted than deeds you

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hardly notice and you deem insignificant, because due to

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one's

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falling short to there, and maybe one of the Gnostics was asked that

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what is a sign a good deed is accepted.

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He replied this his perspective but it's based on the Quran

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sunnah, he replied, that you forget it and take no notice of it

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becomes very natural for you to do these things for the sake of Allah

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subhanaw taala

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that you forget it and take no notice notice of it whatsoever, as

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indicated in Allah statement,

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which is La heelside will carry will tell you well, I'm going to

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salehoo your Pharaoh

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to him a send the pure words of faith.

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And he raises up righteous works. They've been taken up already. You

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don't have to worry about it. You just do them and you carry on

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Allah staking accounts.

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If not I bad comments that so the sign that the supremely real one

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raises up a deed is that nothing of it remains for you to gloat

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about.

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If something of it remains in your notice,

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it has not ascended to Allah.

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Due to the great abyss between being with you, and instead being

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with him, we want it to be with him and not to be with us. So it

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behooves the servant who performs a spiritual work, that the work be

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forgotten, and completely absent from his mind, based on what we

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mentioned, of accusing one's ego of being inadequate, and seeing

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one shortcoming in the work so that it can be accepted. You do

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the work out of fulfillment of Allah, Allah has Allah's

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commandments to us, but we feel we've been deficient in it, and

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it's inadequate, how can I present it to how can I hope for a reward

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for it?

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That's what he's talking about. This this kind of thought it's

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this kind of a thought that will insha Allah help us remove our

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narcissism. And that will help us to be thankful of Allah subhanaw

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taala to Allah subhana wa Tada and to cure this problem. And as I

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said, this is a problem that gives rise to many other problems. May

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Allah subhanaw taala grant us the trophy to purify our hearts from

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it, and may Allah make us of those who are accepted by him while he

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read that one Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen

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Allahumma Salli ala Sayidina Muhammad waarna and you say you

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know Mohammed go vertical Salam

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Alaikum and Salonika Sudan develop the Urban Agenda anybody Quran

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Subhan Allah He learned he learned and will have Oh Allah we ask you

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for acceptance of Allah We ask that you accept this gathering. We

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ask you to forgive our since we asked you to purify us, O Allah

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forgive us, O Allah, forgive us. Fill our hearts with your light on

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love in our hearts with your news, our love fill our hearts with your

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blessings of Allah all the

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blessings that you have given us or Allah we want to express

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thanks. Oh Allah but we're unable to express sufficient thanks of

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Allah you have given us beyond what we have the ability to thank

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you for, we cannot thank you enough for what Allah your status

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and what right you have for you to be thanked, we are unable to

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fulfill this. But Allah, we ask that you accept us and you make us

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of those who understand the harms of these problems and that you

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protect us from these problems of Allah we ask you for US law of

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ourselves and our hearts of Allah, we ask You for removal of our

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sicknesses, both our spiritual ailments, our physical ailments,

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we ask you to make us of those who are accepted. We asked you to make

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us of those who

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have a position with you, or Allah we ask you to make us of the

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humble and those who want to be your servants above all else, oh

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Allah make us truly of Your Servants of Allah, make us of

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those who make make us and our progeny our children, of those who

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established the prayer in a proper way with full sincerity with full

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devotion, of Allah make all of our worship, those which are

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which have a consciousness within them which have true devotion

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within them of Allah, all the worship, all the efforts that we

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may do, do not make them devoid of the rule and the spirit of Allah

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allow us to do those things which satisfy you which bring about your

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pleasure of Allah make us of those who love you of Allah make us of

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those who you love of Allah make the best of our life, the final

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part of our life, our Allah make the best of our days, the day that

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we stand in front of you, of Allah. Accept all those who are

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here all those who are listening. Do not let any of us turn away

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without being forgiven and blessed by you with a special forgiveness

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and a special blessing of Allah protect us and Goddess of Allah

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grant us security, help our Muslim brothers and sisters around the

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world and help the intern bring back its insomnia around the world

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of Allah grant us assistance and accept our deeds of Allah. Bless

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all of those

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who have told us to make dua for them or expect to us to make dua

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for them. Those who are going for the Hajj These are the months of

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hajj people have left others are leaving for the Hajj. Oh Allah

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make those journeys easy. And take us over and over again to the hot

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domain and allow us to benefit from the great mercies that you

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have the those who are unable to go Allah we ask you for blessings

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where we are our Allah we ask that you accept our doors, we ask that

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you

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send your abundant blessings on our messenger Muhammad sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam, and that you grant us his company in the

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hereafter. Subhana Allah carbonised it here and now your

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cell phone was salam al mursaleen Al Hamdulillah

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