Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Screaming Child
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They've done a lot of tests in this, they show an adult and a
child, for whatever reason the child is screaming, one thing you
can do is just ignore them completely. And what they
discovered is that this is very, very, very harmful, their
insecurity will increase, and when they grow up, they will be always
looking for attachment. There will always be looking for attention.
Sometimes you do have to ignore. But if you just have a policy of
ignoring, that doesn't work. The other response that we do,
generally, you start screaming back that aggravates the child
even further and they start screaming back, you're not going
to get anywhere with that. The third response, you absorb what
they're saying, you process it and you find another way to defuse it.
According to research. It shows that if you're in an argument with
somebody, somebody's frustrated with you and you show frustration
back, nobody's gonna win. The only way you can win this is to subvert
it. Go around the site to deal with it. That's what you call
wisdom. This is what character requires